Vayechi: What You Need for The Way

I forgot to say but it's okay. Welcome to thank you for joining us. What was the then goes on and tells us too doesn't say any son. So what does that mean? We don't find asked the question asked the question says famously you want to bench somebody bench bench. When you bench someone's children, when you say good things and you give good wishes to someone's children, you're effectively what does the father want? What does the mother want? So you are effectively benching the father as well. So by benching a benching says what does that mean? Why is benching the children benching the father? Why is that a braha to the father? The father's very happy, but how is that a braha to the father? It wasn't him who got the braha. It was the children who got the braha. Rashi says something so interesting. It's it's most difficult to understand later in the par says every single one of the gave his he blessed them. What do the words mean? Like the individual he blessed all of them. So says yeah of the you think that they all didn't get all the each other's All the got all the brahas of their brothers as well. That means every shad got an individual braha and then every sh also got all the braas given to their brothers. Okay. So then no one got braas if everyone got all the same brahas at the end. So then there was no braas given individually to any of them because everybody got everything. So how does that work? What does that mean that every one of the got all the other brahas? So I like this. He said that of course Rashi doesn't mean that every single one got the same intensity and the same potency as the brahas of their brothers. The braha that Yakob gave them wasn't just a braha. Okay, here's a gift. You're going to be rich. You're going to be strong. You're going to be fast. You're going to be smart. There was something else. It was saying you have a destiny. You have a mission. You have a tapa. You have a a calling awaiting you in life. And this is what you're going to need for your mission. That's what the bra was. Yehud that. You're going to need strength to go wage your wars. You're going to need speed. you're going to need that agility. Every single one of you is being given precisely what you need to do what you have to do in life. Now, all of them were given a degree of that. That means everybody in their life sometimes needs strength or sometimes needs agility or sometimes needs wisdom or sometimes need sweetness of everybody. All those things are necessary, but that's not your essence. That's not your core mission. The braha given to each one of the brothers was to define their mission and their destiny and and the reason that they're here, their essence. And then they had in smaller doses all the other abilities that were necessary when they would be needed. But that wasn't their their uh the engine that you know their their operating system that that's so said that's what's going on over here. You know what it means at the braha to the parents is the braha of the children. Different children have different missions. Different children have different identities. Different children have different natures. Different children have different characteristics. The parents is that they have to keep expanding with their children. When I have a child who needs this or is this type or is interested in that, I keep getting bigger and bigger and bigger. My mission as a parent expands and gets wider and bigger and broader according to the missions given to my children and the needs of my children and the tid of my children. So inventing Jacob was expanding as well. That's the the depth that's the more is given to children the more missions they have the more an attuned devoted parent has to grow along with their children. So the bra to the children makes the parents that much bigger.