"How My Father Shaped My Life" Rabbi Shalom Rosner Reflects On His Father

AB teaches us the Torah teaches us there time for and there's time for hpid and though hpid took place also 30 days ago my father's levah aim gives us a little distance to evaluate to put into perspective to call some Eternal lessons to take with us is one of the most basic mitzvos there are more chairs people uh no to stand just take some back is one of the most basic mitzvos what of the it is the transitionary debour we spoken about this on Theos right so is down at number five it's the transitionary dbor which has both elements this Mitzvah applies both of the parent and different themes different I stand here today on my father schim at a transitionary point between these polls faintly holding on maybe not so faintly trying to hold on to the but preparing myself for what's ahead I just take comfort in the fact my parents couldn't be separate from each other so I had 11 months between my cottages between finishing for my mother and starting with my father but but they're together my father taught me a medish that he mentioned that my uncle's levia we'll get back to him a little bit later sayso greater is the day of death than the day of birth and that's why in Judaism we celebrate yard sites we don't celebrate birthdays Washington's birthday Lincoln's birthday we celebrate yard sits why because the mic gives a mush when you have a a boat that's going out on a journey and it has a lot of uh Wares and a lot of uh you know a lot of destinations that it was was going to go to so when the boat goes out there's some people there few people there just wishing it well but when the boat comes back after a successful Journey after all the destinations that it went to so then there's a big crowd there a big crowd that that says excellent successful Mission a job well done toova greater is the date of death and I just saw I mentioned in this today's par here I just gave it this morning says the beginning of this week's par so Z writes what's the of from where you came from to where you're going to and then from where you're going to to where you coming back so zean says each of us are writing a book and every page in the book is a day of our life and we all set out on a journey sends us out when we're born and we go out on that journey to fulfill to sanctify God's name for 120 years but ultimately we come back to where we came from we come back to be with AES once again after the time that we have in this world we celebrate tonight a mission accomplished 60 plus booksim hundreds of Articles putting Jewish Medical ethics on the map being a walking kides hasem for the entire world thousands of lectures and Sh numerous cycles of DFI as long as I can remember mikra every Friday night using a bencher whenever he benched and kashita would never say it by heart and would say it and would always use a bencher remember the one he had right by his desk I grew up Rosner oh Dr Rosner I said yeah the Dr osner it was always a couple of steps I grew up in my father's Shadow and I wear I wore that and I wear that badge with pride but all this takes added significance everything that my father accomplished takes added significance based on the to when we think back about out to his yomo to where he came from my remarks tonight will give an overview of my father's life peppered with some stories and to towards the end of the talk we'll learn four or five concrete messages that we could take from his life my father was born in 1935 in Berlin my grandparents were from Poland so we're not yuy we wait six hours though my father was very yuy in his demeanor but um but we are not yui my father at age three 1938 he was put on the Kinder transport and with his brother and his sister my father was three my aunt I forgot exactly how old my uncle was 10 he was seven years older than my father uh and they ended up in an orphanage in northern England for most of the war and that's where they spent uh the war my grandparents uh survived unlike almost the entire family the entire family was wiped out in eltz they were each one of seven and 10 like 17 siblings that's just like one generation up but the only ones that survived were my my grandparents who never heard recently that my grandmother spoke to about it with somebody but my grandparents that I remember them they never spoke about it they never spoke about the war they never spoke about how they survived we know little tidbits about uh being hidden in families and jumping out of the the top of the barn but we don't know but they ended up in Belgium after the war but part of the miracle of my father surviv Revival has to do with one brother my grandparents and one brother of my grandfather survived they ended up in Belgium after the war in Brussels and nobody knew who was alive nobody knew my grandparents made it to Brussels they they came in contact with my aunt who went to Holland uh but my father and my uncle were in were in an orphanage um there were two fir English soldiers that ate over at my grandparents house for chabas and they recognized the name Rosner they said Rosner this there's a man an older man in in not so old but a a man in London that doin with us in sh his name is Rosner and he goes to visit two of his two of his nephews somewhere up north at an orphanage every couple of weeks and they did the research and they realized that these were their children that they survived so this was 1945 the uh they sent they sent word the Red Cross so my uncle was 17 he came back right away my father Kadar bakesh he wanted to finish the school year so at 10 years old I don't know where that came from but uh so he stayed for the next couple of months until until June 1945 and then he remembers he was 10 years old he was a put on a but he took a train to a train to Southern England and he went on a boat and uh he remembers the boat he was on the boat and they come towards uh aan ex exactly exact Port City in uh in Belgium and he remembers being on the boat holding the hands of the of the captain is holding his hand he remember were seeing hundreds of people on the shore like a whole group of people and uh he says he remembers he says Mar sees as as is pulling in he sees this man with a hat and and a coat go underneath the rope and run up the uh the plank and start talking to the uh to the woman and the captain the papers Joy the papers and uh my grandfather is brought over to be introduced to my father my father was three the last time he saw his father and now he's 10 and um they give each other a hug my father starts talking to him and they realize they cannot communicate with each other because my father only knows English he's been in the orphanage his whole life and my grandfather knows Yiddish and German and polish no English so after seven years of not seeing each other they're connected but they can't communicate so two-hour train ride to to Brussels and my grandmother knew English my father eventually learns not eventually pretty soon learned Lish my father knew seven languages he said after you learn four or five the others are they come I'm like I I don't understand that Hebrew English yish German Flemish you know all of the other the ones but so my my uncle my great uncle at that time um had a had a say in getting them um getting them back about 20 years ago again a couple of other uh trying to go in chronological order there's a story that we didn't find out until about 20 years ago and we didn't know the story for 50 years 20 years ago 22 I don't know exactly how many uh my father receives an email my father never used a computer his 60 plus for and thousands of Articles it was all those yellow pages long hand he wrote everything until his last day the computer he knows how to turn on he'll turn on the do or he'll call me sh I can't get the do what's going on is it up yet but but um but he but he looked at email my father receives an email from a woman in Scotland who recognized my father's name on the Internet he saw some of his books are you the Freddy Rosner that was in an orphanage and Scotland during World War II in in England during World War II my father responds yes how do you know me she responds back I took care of you my father's like what are you talking about there was a whole orphanage she's like I'd rather tell you in person so at that time my father was still lecturing publicly so he arranged to be in uh in Scotland and uh Dr Steinberg said he he was at this meeting my father's is Dr steyer Shim Glick and helper the medical ethics uhra so cyber went on many of the trips with my with my fathers they were in Scotland and they meet this woman this this Jewish social worker and he says my father says how do you remember me and she he says you had a brother right he says yeah I have a brother seven years older so she says you know the orphanage was only for older children they went to your brother how old was he he was 10 see they went to school during the day and they came home and they they slept in the orphanage you were three the orphanage wasn't for three-year-olds so what happened every Sunday morning we used to dress you up in your finest and take you to the church in the neighborhood and then families from the countryside would come and choose to who to adopt which little kids to adopt and to bring home and to bring up how many Jewish Souls we lost from those families but your brother he held your hands and he said you're not taking him without me you take him you're taking me with you nobody wanted a 10-year-old so they had a problem they didn't know what to do so you was stuck three years old in this orphanage so they called me I was a social worker in the area and they said we have a problem we so I came I moved into the orphanage you slept in my room I bathed you I changed you I played with you for four three four years until you were old enough to go to school and then and then you went to school my uncle was still alive at the time and uh he was a jeweler he lived at canar he worked on 47th Street posha Jew posha in quotes simple Jew I know to Uncle Eli I said he didn't remember anything remember was it just an older brother that was that was not letting his was it my grandmother when she put him on the train you don't let him out of your sight that's one thing I'm tell we don't know but we found out the story 50 years 50 years later we were my uncle was still alive so a couple years later after he was nter we we had one of our sons named El yahu one other story that we found out about 10 years ago or so there's there was a mutual con friend of my of uh of my father and he had a colleague who was also knew someone whose son lives in bees he was talking to him um the guy in bees his father was uh was a CO that a mutual colleague so he's talking to do you remember anything about the war he's like well I was in an orphanage in ilkley that's the small the small town in northern England do you remember anything from from the orphanage he said not much he says I'll tell you one he says I was I was always scared I was always scared of being alone I didn't like being alone so you know what at night that was the worst I don't want to be the last one up I remember there was a really little kid who was a math genius who you know I would just ask him math problems at night so I knew while he was trying to work out the math problem I would fall asleep says says I knew that's why it help it comforted me so I have no idea where he is today his name was fredd Rosner maybe he's a math professor somewhere getting the Nobel Prize he's like actually his son lives a few blocks away and he's the new lion so we had them meet each other they didn't remember know uh each other but um my father didn't remember so my father they ended up 1945 he comes to Belgium and uh he's there for the next uh four years my father had is he starts learning Olive base my father he was in high school already in secular studies but he didn't know Olive Bas till he was 11 my father didn't know Olive Bas until he was 11 and he learned Olive Bay and he learned paru that was his b mitvah par was the last thing we were laning with him on the on the on day his P maybe we'll get back to that uh but uh we put in they put in 194 they were there for a couple of years uh my grandparents the nuclear family that amazingly was that that survived uh they put into for visas to uh to Israel and to America American ones came first so they went to America uh my father says July 1st 1949 they came in on the boat and 100 degrees boiling hot they had relatives in Washington Heights July 1st July 2nd 1949 my father was 14 my my grandfather takes him into the Yu base Mish and he wants him to go to MTA and uh they walk in they didn't know anything they don't know anybody all of a sudden a rabbi walks runs over Vu where you from what's going on I wanted to go so the rabbi takes my father and goes over to some guy July 2nd and says you're learning with him this summer so that summer every morning from 9:00 to 1 my father learned I don't remember who the K guy was but he learned the first mishna in bakama that was the project that my father was uh was learned so by the end of the summer this Rabbi who ended up being rdav lipitz um who um my father developed that was his Rabbi that was a lifetime uh friendship so he arranged for him my father to have a a b with remel Zach son-in-law who was the bo at the time my father said he was online and uh all the guys are going this what which what do you want what do you know y or this and my father's like I don't know anything he says my grandfather this says not for me look at these guys it's like it's okay it's okay it's okay comes my father's turn so rendel's X says that new what do you know he says first mission in bakama he like Z so he he says the first mission and obviously sees my father's a little different para so he says you want to learn do you want to be here father says yes he's like okay you're in father said I know the Rashi no that was it he didn't make it me the Rashi he says no okay but that's the uh so my father got went to MTA that was 1949 uh somehow he did high school again my father didn't know much he had to learn what a missioner was that summer as he learned so he did high school in two years seems like because 1951 because then he went to Yu to Yu he was in the Yu class of of 1955 and then he obviously very much so wanted to be a doctor I don't know where that came from but must be innate and he always had this love of of medicine uh it was at that time it was very hard for Jews to get into medical school and that was the year that why you opened Einstein my father was in the first class of Einstein class of 59 um he says that when he told her lipit that he was going into medicinea didn't talk to him for about a month he said he wanted him to go into he wanted him to be a rabbi um after a month he like calmed down and um he uh said okay you want to be a doctor you got to be the best doctor okay okay but that was my father's uh my father's Rabbi my father's um you know he um he considered Ravid uh his Rabbi he went to him on uh on Perm every year uh so right before he started Medical School my f my father uh he he doesn't have SM he's not a Raab he was not a rabbi he always said I could speak freely I'm not a rabbi I'm just raising issues my father always said even though he gave many shurm um but uh so he took off the summer three months to learn Yura before medical school before uh for uh in between the college and and Einstein so he has many stories he tells over from that time Pera came over to them every morning he Le with meleski I think he's uh his Kusa uh so he said he every day came over to him talk to him learning I don't know exactly how it started but he said once a week maybe through AB David he went down to the low side and he Ros I heard them every week on whatever Sim that they were uh that they were learning so he went um once a week uh there uh just one story that um some might be familiar with uh so my father when he was in at that time period so one of the other classmates and call guys at the time was robbi label DS um I had R DS for English in in MTA and he goes back many years with my father um his son was at the Levi in uh in in Israel so one time RAB dulitz comes over and uh he's asking my father a question about H trus he knew that these were the Premed guys my father was a Prem but then something that my father's like explaining it to him and explaining it to him two three times so my father said I don't know I I did the best I can I don't have a cow here I don't know I just did the best I can the next morning if you know by Duets the next morning into the Bas medress a brown paper bag dripping red Fred here show me it was the neck of a cow right he brings it to the W base M show me like he needed to know the MS unbelievable my father said over that story I know by D's son confirms but that was uh one of the stories of uh of uh in in you my parents got married uh my father graduated uh Einstein 1959 uh an amazing marriage 63 years they were married lipitz was M them my mother grew up on the low E side American American my grandfather was the r of the bis Ducker the low side Rabbi es skolski and my great-grandfather before him two rabbis owski new raboli um and R Moshe so but they helped set up my father with another uh I think uh one of my father's friends also um so rosha was my parents mad kadan uh they say the story is that rosha and raron Cutler never went to the same wedding this is the way it goes that because who who wouldn't be madushan so raron said told my parents you know what rosha will be madushan and I'll be sand at your first son's bris so 11 months later my brother was born and uh raron Cutler was the was the sandic um so my parents um got married they lived in bar Park and then Maryland for two years during the uh during the Vietnam war uh and ultimately farak that's where they were for 50 years uh my father was always the the anchor of the sh he spoke to the to the rebi the rebby son recently but he was the Gaba he was the balore always acting always uh you know getting it V we have some farak altimer here um in AO the rebit does everything this is also unheard of my father had the boy's minion what's the boy's minion just for laning every week just for laning he would go downstairs and have a boys minion where the boys would Lane and the boys would be gab and the boys would get alias and the boys would how many PE how many farak boys I learned to L there my brother who's a professional balore uh learned to land there but that's um he did that because he knew this is this is part of his tkid to create to create a um we D into Theo because that's a Hamish minion and um but but he said I'm not gonna you know not have this to be able to train my children and and the children of the community and that was part of his um part of his aod in the early 60s is when his quote unquote hobby he was a hematologist by profession he was a head of medicine in Queen Hospital Queen's general for uh 30 plus years um but on his side Jewish Medical ethics a hobby that influenced so many just two of we've gotten many tens of messages from from all over I just wrote I just picked two of them yesterday um when my father graduated medical school he is now about 75 your father was an individual who opened to him and all the sh Mitzvah medical graduates a Vista that many of them had not been exposed to a giant of a clinician who was a master of halaka who could write with force and expertise in both fields and was a Jew of great another one from a young age I developed a strong affinity for the medical journals and writing compiled by your father often writing together with my family's Rob of mosha DAV tendler your father's was a trailblazing force in the field of medicine and ala and a veritable expert in articulating the Jewish law guidelines to be followed by Jewish doctors and medical professionals in a myriad of different situations may his memory be a blessing so he he he was mashia or he created two of the influences that we think number one the story is that somebody gave him for a medical school graduation present ra jakobo a safer on Jewish Medical ethics my father confid considered RAB jobit the grandfather of Jewish Medical ethics others have said that my father was the father of Jewish medic ethics RAB jaob witz he he coined the term that's number one and also he obviously he loved medicine and he loved and he loved Torah and the mixing and the meshing of those two was where he he made such a uh made such a mark he writes he wrote some of his Memoirs a couple of years ago he says in 1964 was the first Surgeon General warning against smoking 1964 so he says that week he wrote an article about you know as rabbis some rabbis in the room like if we could find an article about about something that's our sheer you know you take the article you take the maros it's basically a good way to cheat but it's okay you look up the maros he didn't have any articles he wrote the articles he had to do the research and you you find an rjj Journal about a topic you want to give Shir on you're good you're fine pre computers pre computers but but but he wrot he said he wrote an article he gave it to the first talaki Journal I don't know which one it was they rejected it they said we can't print this all the rabbis smoke so he says see he said I don't care he says printed this is the Hala my father spent the next 20 years begging R mosha to Oster smoking the final chuva 1983 was written to my father if you look in there G mosha but you see over every 10 you read the four or five chues he's getting closer and closer and closer and closer and and he say that he would ask so he can't bring any r as what a would be today but um but he um he had unbelievable accomplishments in this area half his books are on Jewish Medical ethics half his books about the rambam his love uh the last few decades uh the Encyclopedia of Jewish Medical ethics was one of his Magnum opuses the translation but it's not a translation of R Steinberg's encyclopedia to translate you have to reorganize and you know adjust everything and the last 20 years or so were his translations of rashis chis and just the last number of years the 10th volume came out within a year of zil's 10 volumes of shi larim he loved to to teach he loved to share whether it's medicine we got a WhatsApp during Shiva of somebody said you don't know me but I just have to tell you the story you know in all the years that I was taught I was I was a resident and a doctor and an attending in uh Queen's Hospital Center you know the M the Min minion in Dr rosner's office was uh was something to go to every day it was my favorite part of the day remember that the office Green couches and uh the um so he went there for M but he says the best thing was that after M your father gave like a 5 minute talk about something and that was like you had plenty of non-jews that came and like imams or whatever they wanted to hear what Dr Rosner said about about that because my father projected you know the the view not just the Jews I remember one time one Friday morning in elementary school I remember I got to stay home from school why my father was gonna B be on TV I remember the Phil danu Show remember the Phil danu show right Sam I remember there was a movie out um Richard dfus whose Life Is It Anyway about somebody who's uh I never saw the movie I don't know anything I just remember seeing this movie star on TV with my father sitting there I'm like right that but remember I got but what what's the Jewish view what's the ethical view right that's he loved to teach whether in SHO he was the backup for pelovitz on on chabas afternoon uh in the white sh this is this is what his his life was about his life was about sharing and um and teaching ing 1988 my father was invited to Germany to Berlin on the 50th anniversary of Christ my father never he flew all over the world we have he kept copious journals of every single talk he ever gave we have 20 volumes in the journal is the invitation letter the flyer that that the thank you letter it's it's unbelievable and and and Theus that he gives every talk he'll speak in front of Congress he'll speak on AB and then he'll give a post night activity talk in the camp moash canteen for four counselors it gets the same kashus right it's all it's all sharing but in 1988 he got an invitation growing up in our house anything German or Germany anything it was trfe would be an understatement I remember walking to the white sh from our house in farak away I remember somebody had a Mercedes on the left side we mamish couldn't look we weren't like like to look there you was Rah this where he was from 1980 and he's he always spoke all over the world but he received an invitation from Germany he always said no but this one they really wanted him to come really want him to come it's something with the rambam also and he was from Germany so um he didn't know what to do so he asked Ravid Ravid was his lifelong Rabbi RAV was alive at the time what should I do my father even made a Ned that he would never go back so RAV says to to spread Torah you could be M but uh you have to to ask your father my grandfather was still alive at the time um so he asked my grandfather and that he didn't know what he was going to say he says if you could go to kevos what's kevos on Christal my great-grandfather had a stroke after what he witnessed he is my my father's father's father-in-law my father's mother's father and um and he had a stroke that and he dieded a few days later he's the only relative that has a c so my grandfather said if you could go to Kev ofos that Kev is in East Berlin right at the time right when the wall was up so he didn't know so he sent uh messages would he be able to go they got they got permission they'll be able to go father's like okay so he was M there and he went RAB by Steinberg Dr Steinberg who was at the Shiva house he was also he says he went with my father my father did not leave the hotel room except twice so I'm not walking on soil says twice once to go to the K and once to give his talk so he says the K like the Steinberg said he says we were at the we were there for about two two hours they were like they took off our glasses they were like looking for Contraband in the metal they said it was crazy until they let him through they finally let him through we have pictures uh M like you would have imagined a Blizzard snow you can't find anything but they found the Cav they found the C of my great-grandfather thought was there and then he gave one talk there and this talk was titled we have a copy of the talk why I returned to Berlin 50 years after after I promised never to go back that was the title of the talk I just remember one thing we were looking at it during Shiva one thing he says he says JFK was here 20 years 30 years ago and he said I'm Berliner he had no right to say that I was born here I could say that and can explain to you why I returned 50 years later some of the some of the stories my parents were about nine years ago uh children pre alad them uh as long as my father was working part-time it was important for him to stay but Hurricane Sandy and not working so my brother-in-law and I you know went and brought them on their uh on their Aliah trip five messages quick short messages that I again we could spend spend more time but um five messages number one is time my father didn't waste a second didn't waste a second and he uh every moment was was accounted for I never saw him chilling as it would said just hanging out he didn't do that right there was a there was a cartoon on his on his desk with a guy lying on a couch in a psychiatrist but doctor relaxing makes me tense right but he he never I have something he never wasted a minute everything was part of his aoda but he he swam and he jogged my friend just tell me I remember him jogging down Reed's Lane everything was part of the schedule I went I thought it was a keum because two nights ago I took my boys that I have in America right now to the to the to the Mets to the Met game my father took me to two met games every year before the season which which days were going to go so I felt I took a picture of my siblings it's a key and for Daddy you know it's uh they won it was good but uh but but it was that was also part of the schedule part of the schedule was learning and teaching there was no wasting for we mentioned him before Zan has an unbelievable V Parr where he says that you know everything in life those who listen to this sh probably have heard much of what I say everything in life has a certain time that it exists people exist for a certain amount of time a tree exists for a certain amount of time know everything exists this stender is this stender going to be here in a thousand years I'll probably disintegrate I don't know something with the the the atmosphere I don't know everything has a certain amount of time it could be very long it could be short everything in life has a certain amount of time except for one thing and that's time itself time has no time the second that the moment is here it's gone time has no time and yet ironically Cesar of Zan the only thing that we could take with us for eternity is our time if we fill our moments with Torah and mitzvos and and giving those days come with us forever ever he came with all his days my father took all his days with him my father stands in shamayim with all of his days every moment now we do in AEL growing up as I imag we had my father moved to faraka so 1965 the day my sister was born so there were four shs I think three and a half right there was the white shol and there was the sh the wsbg uh the Rees the Rubin they said the Young Israel was just was just starting at the time my father liked daving that's where he daved in the in the in the in Washington Heights he like it see we di at the rebies at night we D at the white show because of he wouldn't miss the wouldn't D after he di in there so when sh shabas morning 9 o'clock 9 o'clock BR 9:15 hu they okay one day a week I father 7 a.m. every sh this morning I those are my some of my earliest memories waking up to hear him learning with this my earliest memories this Kusa had a very deep voice Dr Aaron tski was a law professor on HRA so uh you learned I remember like waking up to some of those sounds 7 am shabas what you at so you gonna gonna sleep till 9: using time using time was I thought it was a Kum that my father would have would appreciate I remember the last um the last day I was in Camp Monday I was in Camp I got the call that I should fly back to to Israel on on Monday morning Monday morning I wake up I knew it was like I was going to go back later but Monday morning my my siblings called and said he should go back should come back um so Monday morning so I got on the I got on the flight the 1:15 from from nework I'm like at there I'm like okay so I had about an hour in Camp I had prepared the doth for that day the night before I really wanted to give it I'm like give it it was too crazy I had to like get the passports and get ready so I didn't give uh I didn't give the doin Camp okay so I flew back we landed my brother-in-law landed on Tuesday morning and uh my father was s me stable but we got there early in the morning six o'clock in the morning so the whole day I was we were with him in the in the hospital so like the afternoon time and things were didn't know how long but I'm like I have this do I'm not going to be able to give it for a week that's I'm like I know my father would want me to so first I was sitting in the hospital just he wasn't wasn't um you know um you know we didn't know how I'm sure inside he heard everything but he wasn't communicative at that time um so I was learning my brother and I were learning the do with him I said you know I said I told my brother I said do you have a you have a uh you know anybody in the hospital I need a room I'm like I can't get the do in the ICU so he's like I know somebody in the genetics lab so he called somebody in the genetics lab uh on he's like genetics what for what your brother oh I list in some vum so anyway they got me a room on the fifth floor so I tell I went to my father I said Daddy I said I said I know you want me to to give the duff I said you don't waste a second I'm trying I'm just I'm just going to go give the duff you know I'm just I have my phone going to give the do so I went down to the fifth uh went down to the fifth floor in the genetics lab the guy gave me a room and a table I got my computers out I got the Kamar out gave the do uploaded it y say went back my father was still still uh the same uh at that stage and um and two hours later we was uh we we were all Z to be with him but I I learned that from my father because you know he would want he would want to use every moment Mish every moment so number one is time number two is a my father was in EM everything about his life was centered around AEM he loved the story that he said over so many times of this many of you have heard it says his on the morning ofus he says make sure you have kavana by when he say make sure you have kavana half of them screamed out they screamed out the other and they asked IM afterwards who is right and he says you're both wrong that's the special cavana that's my father my father's life is a Voda davening daving like like it wasn't like a like getting out of bed and freezing or remember remember growing up it's like we get up in the morning he always went to the first minion sometime like Daddy can we drive no we're gonna walk it's like what no we're walking let's go I'm like come on it's so early and dark outside like doing benching like bras wouldn't put anything to his mouth without a br Whata do you make on this everything was and Hearn the ramban you have to walk after you eat it doesn't matter Friday night gotta take a walk right got to take a walk you know after you eat because this was this is what the rambam says and this is what the is right I want to be your EV really he was uh an ultimate with all of his uh with all his background number three out of five number three rautner has a letter some well-known letter where Tom said to him that he feels like a fake right like he's one person here and he's one person there at work at home what the Tom called a double life and runer anwers no it's not a double life it's a broad life a broad life meaning you're the same person in all the different areas my father was had a very broad life but he was the same person everywhere the same person the same person who could speak internationally in front of thousands of Jews and non-jews and and and be give the rabbi sh and shul and uh and be the father who takes me to a Met game and learns with me on Friday night and and being a doctor right many at the Shiva Shiva said forget medical ethics he was amazing but medical you know we called him with our medical shilas the uh the The Unbelievable medical genius that he was and how he thought of of different elements he was the head of the New York State uh Ethics Committee which not do with Judaism but but he was uh same unassuming attitude humble not not taking always saying that um no I'm uh I'm just speaking freely you know I'm not a rabbi I said that often but uh making kesem in all areas of his life so using every moment being an EV AEM being the same person in every um venue that he found himself for adaptation he adapted to every situation that K threw his way being in an orphanage not knowing his parents somebody asked me at the Shiva did your father ever express anything about being put on the Kinder transport no not this is his mat and this is what he does what's my next step what's my next step forward you know orphanage he had a major heart attack in the early 1990s he had a stroke in the 2001 he couldn't do his own research anymore okay what can I do what are my ab ilities the r Steinberg was after he had his stroke or after the heart attack the the r zilberstein the 10 vimes he just transl I can't I can't do my own research now so I'll translate I still have that skill and that ability came out within the year he adapted he adapted after my mother was NFTA two years ago or yard sit's next week right new reality my father was always the one that was Ill we got a helper from my father and Aid before my mother got sick so it's just but my father said okay what what do I I have a new sidekick you know what what what could I do now what could I accomplish now that's what he did not just about assets but about whatever situation he is in life right hm gives us a and he makes the most of it makes the most of it moso also didn't have such a childhood he grew up in the house of par running around but you make the most of everything who gives you and number five final point Aruba he had an inner drive that never stopped he never I said the laa he never had Manuka from a very young age he was driven what's my next project what's my next book rabona writes on pavos on that mishna life is like a shopping spree it's like you could whatever gold you pick up in the next 24 hours is yours you want to take a nap that's your choice we have 120 years shopping spree obviously we have to be normal my parents always wanted me to be normal they said rashak came out the sh she's like you know your mother met me before shanet and she said you know he wants to he wants to wants to come shanet and he wants to learn he's like but just we want him to be normal you know we want him to remain Shalom and R I hope that we like help succeeded and so you don't want me do too much this way too much that way but um but there was a drive there was a drive he had know the past few months the last few months of my father's life after he finished the final Riv Silverstein so we looking more projects more projects to uh what can we do he's translating in Asia to get him excited about something so I said I said Daddy I said how you translating one of my farm it's like wow great so I remember one a few months ago so I went to sit down I got him set up in his apartment in Yim so set up with the safeair and his notebook and his cup of pens and his dictionary this was his life his hobby on the side but his life so he sits down opens up table a contents he writes table of contents on top and he looks know de a rum High holidays you know his English was English and then and then he he tried he was trying he's like I'm like okay we'll continue more next time so he he did a little bit and we tried I was there once or twice over the last couple of months trying because translating was it was hard it takes the the vision and the and the concentration and he could still still listen and listen to the daim and listen to the parir and listen to the navi like this whatever it doesn't matter if it's last week's par show or whatever it is he uh my parents were my biggest fans biggest fans you know my mother used to call up you know the Tor tibits that uh that come uh so my mother would call up on on Thursday shaam guess who's on the cover I said uh R Juda Michelle he's like no page 26 is a great page they were they were my biggest fans but again everything came came from them but anyway so so I set this up for my father and we tried we tried but it it was hard towards the end and um so after the P that day so I I went back to my father's apartment to pick something up before I went home I walked into the uh to the apartment and I see on the dining room table I see my safer open to the first page and I see the notebook and the pen and I see the cup of pens see the dictionary I said to I said my father tried to the last minute my father tried you know this is a testament right until he had no he tried and he was driven and it was life of Abdus and it was life of and everything that he accomplished was not knowing Olive Bays until he was 11 years old so let's even take a little bit a to use our time B to focus our life em to recognize we're the same person in the business world in the b medish in the show wherever we are we're making a kashem number four to adapt to any circumstance throws our way we don't choose we don't choose our our cards right we don't choose our cards we do what we can with the hash from our side and finally to always try to be driven to something again it doesn't mean that we're not normal and we don't have relaxation as my father had that also but he had a drive to be maybe the of being the one that survived the family that the whatever it was it went from his birthday so on this night the night of his we try we try to take a little bit try to take a little bit of benua and we should be able to be z to follow his follow in his footsteps he did so much the OU had never officially but ajs and all those organizations you know he was uh always very uh supportive of and involved in and we should be to follow in his footsteps and follow in his ways and uh keep up um keep up learning from him for for many years