An Evening of Connection with Rabbi Shalom Rosner

hi um ESS I would like to welcome all of you to our home um as we all know we're in the period of Bim the period of communal mourning between uh Shas and Tish that kazal mandates that we view as like walls closing in on us with no place to hide or no place to run um picking up on this theme developed by mes Shapiro we're in this period of Crisis p as a result of theel and the breaking of the luos we lost the Torah in in a sense the Torah we then received on yum Kipper via Theos were entirely different and on the other side we have Tish when because of theim the re received after 40 years in the midbar was also that was then detached from was entirely different and therefore subject to horban so in this period where we are mourning the diminishment as it were of both the Torah and of er Lau uh uh it's now um and it's of course our goal to earn back these original luos and the original concept of eral it is beyond meaningful that we're here tonight enhancing our commitment to tal Torah uh and to erel by marking the completion of M ofi which is kind of exactly Torah is and by hearing the Torah from a ad God from Isel R rasner who will be speaking about his wonderful father z um and I want to conclude by personally thanking the U RAB schwed and the entire all Toro all daf machine because a year ago we were Z to host this event and I was so inspired by of course rasner and by all of you that I joined the liud of yui right then and there and I'm Z to be part of this CM as well not just a a bystander so it's now my great privilege to call upon Rabbi Hower the Executive Vice President of the OU thank you thank you very much uh precious Rabbi rasner um I don't know how I every time we come to events like this and places like this and we hear like little things like that like somebody said because of this now I'm making a like on of you're already we most of the way there because of this little thing it's just it's an incredible incredible beautiful thing and I can only imagine how how you feel in a room full of talim some I heard overheard earlier for decades learning from you should give you the to continue to do so uh I want to be to to Ben ketki who not only you opening your home again A year later but just the the many opportunities I have had which are probably a tiny fraction of your neighbors and friends around to see your your prioritization of worrying about the community and how Torah takes root in the community in every which way and Torah values take root in the community is very inspiring uh it could explain uh rather than checking your mulus why canar your children are all like out there being marbet Tyra but don't worry they it's a good thing it's a great great great thing and uh and Hashem should give you the ability to continue to be hosting and strengthening Torah in in in every possible way um B Rabbi schwed who's who wonderful leadership and Innovative leadership isra Glasser who's who's uh who's uh I just came from a meeting where Rabbi Glasser was describing the range of of initiatives which he's leading through the through the OU and it's I'm still trying to catch my breath I don't know when you're going to catch yours um but K noara beautiful beautiful things and everyone everyone who is here as as Ben said you know this is a Time which is it's a it's a time of it's also a time in a sense it's a time of time of we we say we say at we say in the before the holy the holy city and its environs have have been shamed and been plundered all of its Treasures are buried away what we have left what we have left is just the Tyra we are mourning what we're missing and in a certain sense we're celebrating what we have left this is the season in a certain sense you'd say is the season of the celebration of T is the season of the celebration of Torah but this is also are there as many suum [Laughter] in any other period like here like we're doing it like lishma like you can have fligs anyways um but um but it's really it's it's one of those beautiful twists of the hash of the way of the way things are that we're able to celebrate tyan I'm sorry I just I was looking for you I want to give a special appreciation and welcome to Josh Goldberg and family it's good to see you gun strong hm and uh Josh has been a uh a big supporter of these celebrations of Tyra and is a celebrate of Torah in many personal ways you should be able to continue to do so but it's an interesting thing when we speak about the B mdash we speak about bdash bdash is from the ground up where we're building something we start we start on the ground we build a foundation like D had made the foundations of the B mikdash and from there it goes up when we speak about t we have an expression and the expression is harbas Torah what is harbas Torah what's the meaning of the term harbas Torah to be marbits you know to to be rates everyone ows us to crouch to lowerer oneself a little bit closer to the ground when when we when we speak about it in h shabas right is it's to take to literally to make the dust settle a person has a home with a dirt flooor and if they or like we would probably relate to it as you know the the mound or the infield you know where you have dust that makes up the floor so you it it tends to to kick up and to go up and when you when you do Rita what the gor calls Rita mishna calls Rita is to spray it a little bit and to make it that it goes down is to bring it down MD was on a mountain the harabas that we went from there and we built up and seni that other Mountain was a mountain where we didn't build anything up it was a mountain where the came down upon the mountain it came from above and it settled it settled maybe but it settled down came closer to the world and haras Torah that act that charge is for us to do that to bring the sh down to bring the and to bring it down to earth to bring it down to earth the the way we bring it down to earth how do we bring it down to earth what's tal Torah to bring it down to earth so we know we all know that there are two components to Talma Torah there's a component of Talma Torah which is very practical Al many are familiar with the famous discussions about that that in itself merits that in itself merits a mitvah t even if there isn't a standalone Mitzvah T but anybody who has the of the obligation to perform a Mitzvah has to know how to perform the Mitzvah there's the Torah which is in that sense brought down to earth to be able to apply it practically to the things which we do and then there's learning where it's not simply learning for the sake of doing it's not learning uh it's not learning even perhaps sections of Torah which at that moment might be particularly applicable for you but it's the engagement of lior it's the engagement to spend time and to invest in trying to integrate within ourselves to whatever possible to whatever extent possible hashem's mind God's values God's word that he shares with us tonight is you know any such Gathering is is a is a celebration like such a room filled with people all students of Torah students of of a specific teacher of Torah and uh just a sign of something which is which is filling the atmosphere filling the atmosphere of the Jewish Community the value of t k k which in a certain sense means you know the r says t k k means because Tor leads leads to actions it leads to the specific actions but t it's also because it's it's the holistic picture it's not just the specifics of a particular action it's the holistic picture of people just being engaged in trying to again so to speak incorporate into themselves hashem's mind and hashem's values and specifically tonight this night is the the of the for uh for Dr Fred rasner Rabbi Dr Fred rasner who you said 60 books so like any of us from a while ago right knew that there was such a thing that that was coming on the scene called learning medical ethics halic medical ethics and there was a name there were a couple of names that were associated with that UAM most prolific was Dr Fred rasner and it was a tremendous effort of harbas Tyra of bringing Tyra down to earth Tyra of practicality Torah in dilemas about how a person with values is supposed to live their lives questions of values which arose that the world had to Grapple with the world was forced to Grapple with and the the opportunity which was taken with such strength by a physician to say we can be we can tell them how the Torah tells tells us to navigate these decisions to make moral decisions to look at these dilemas not in a ritual you know it's it's really that's the of which the T says and that's one incredible maritz Torah and that one incredible marbit Torah was tremendously to a son who's who teaches plenty of but the reason why we're around this table I think is not because of we're around this table because of the other kind of of the fact that to to he has been one of those who has made it that the Jewish Community just wants to learn more Tyra they just want to know more more of the Torah even even yeah even my Shen even my Shen youel me right just anything anything we want to be to we want to just be immersed in in the in the Tyra learning and it's a it's a it's a magnificent thing it's a magnificent thing and it's such a such a magnificent H from the amarit Torah alos to amitz Torah just Torah Torah Torah together and uh I just want to I want to be m one with one thing to Rabbi rasner personally and one thing to us all to RAB rasner personally um the we all wish you um there's there's a there's a m in the P pites it's on my phone in the pictures if you want I'll I'll I'll give it to you but you'll find it yourself cuz I I I I somebody somebody gifted it to me when I was in AIS for my father's and it was a gift that I like to share the Pat said that you know Kadesh they say 12 months I he said I don't understand why it stops after 12 months so he said he himself would keep saying it say he says but I'll tell you something else he says he says I every day I get up in the morning I say you that everything that I do today that's it's all for my father for my parents I'm I'm here because of them I learned because of them and that's something like for a whole life and you know a veil sometimes crystallizes how we are the children of our parents and how be everything that we will continue to do is really just them they're they're they they're marching on you should continue to to do that to help him have Aliyah and and to do that and for us I would just say that we're living in a very difficult time and one of the most difficult parts of this time Beyond missiles and Beyond protests and Beyond everything else is that the Jewish people are cast by so many as an immoral people we're genocidal we're we're unethical we're we're we we we don't care and we hurt and that's a ter terrible it's a falsehood and it's a terrible terrible and you know Kem doesn't necessarily mean silencing the pr winning the pr battle getting a good firm to be able to counter it k hasem is when rooms filled with people that will then go everyone will go their own merry way but they'll be going their way with their own t and saying you know you know something I spend my time as much of my time as I can trying to know what the right thing is trying to know the truth is there any nation in the world that spends as much time trying to figure out how to do the right thing right this isn't this is right thing this is you know like like I want to know I want to know to do better to be better this is the truth and as we mourn theban and as we mourn the continued repercussions of being being without the that's this is what we're rebuilding and hasem it should shine forth and we should be thank you RAB how so thank be for coming and being here be travels a lot and it's going back to Baltimore soon and it's uh tremendous cover for us that you came and uh Dressed everybody I obviously want to thank it's obvious but we have to thank the kaminis for opening their home again and when estd ketki told me that the fact that we had the see him here kamki started learning Yi so I was I think I was sharing with her by Howard and her by Glasser know we get messages and the the availability and the ability for people to be able to learn there are people sharing with us that because they have the old mishna app they started learning mishna and there are people saying we added a mishna y and for people who are telling us that they're starting to learn Yi it's only to us and a thanks to everybody that's here for taking part and being able enabling us to provide the ability to learn y Shi I just want to thank R Glasser for coming as well we work together to be able to continue building out these programs I obviously have to thank Asha tesser who works behind the scenes and El flam who's here with a video and Reena hirs who spent the last two weeks working together no this wasn't her full-time job but part of her job for the last two weeks was planning and making sure that everything worked out and thank you very very much it's greatly appreciated before we make the CM I just want to say that the CM is in memory of RAB rosner's father Dr Fred Rosner mayor Ben yushua which he's going to be speaking about after the CM after we break for sud it's also memory of Mrs saren who last year we made the CM during her sh and her yard site was just which was last week May her have an alahas schlomo and Josh Goldberg and family have also dedicated this evening in memory of Elliot Goldberg y Isaac Ben harav elazer we thank the Goldbergs for coming and Josh as mentioned has sponsored and dedicated many and takes a big part in being in enabling the old AF and the old par the old Mish the old Torah to continue I always like to mention Josh has mentioned to me that his brother was in the hospital over 250 times and whenever we're making a c on yomi we talk to people who are especially those learning Yi who have added yi yi to their day yomi is perseverance it's consistency that was something that OT stood for being able to persevere and overcome and whatever stood in his way and he he to have wonderful parents and a brother who are constantly memorialize memorializing his Nish so thank you just want to share one quick thought that says in last week's para two weeks ago para's I'll read read the words of ker and explained that learned from the word offer offer is compared to that there's offer in is who are learning and they're on speak about this in other places and it's similar to the weapons and mentioned something which is certainly necessary in our times but the expression the next expression has really got me for our crowd how many are there that are sitting and learning T and he says how do we explain how do we explain what what does this mean that btim are learning ter what's the con to so one of the per on the side says that since people that learn aren't necessarily as great as that are around to teach them therefore they humble themselves they lower themselves it says to be able to learn from that's the comparison to the offer to the dirt who recognized that we need to learn from and they if they need to download an olda app they have to get an Arts will whatever it takes to be able to continue learning that's what they do and therefore it says and one last line shares with us is says so this was something that was from the times of what's the connection it says he was someone who lived the life of lowering himself and humility what's the connection in order for a person to be able to have AUM the ter should stay by him he has to have humility and when we talk about somebody like Rosner people here know RAB Rosner as much as he's someone who's being marra to thousands and thousands of people in all areas of T is a person with tremendous amount of humility available for all and that's what we say we end off person DAV that his soul my soul should be like offer what's the next sentence we say when a person is able to live a life of that is what brings him to everybody for coming thank you very much I'm really not going to speak now just to make the and say my words for for later but just uh again it was said already but uh are two AAS that we have uh the physical that were in the Kinesis that have opened their home again um little did we know a couple of decades ago when um I had many wonderful amazing counselors in my Camp uh in my Camp years many of them have gone out to be great uh great leaders but um we didn't know I would be back here but barash uh many of my counselors shaped who I am but uh I thank the Kinesis for that role but again your continuing support and uh amazing uh just walking in here and hearing that you're being M together with me and with all of us is really a tremendous feeling should give you tremendous braa to keep your house a Bas vad for all wonderful wonderful meetings um that's one a and the other a of course is the OU um I feel tremendously privileged that over the past few decades um you know I could prepare the year I could give the Shear but there's only a limited limited amount of of listeners um you know even in vagan you know you could have an amazing sheer but how many people did give Shear to how many people did give Shear to how many were in valan 200 200 how how big was valan in it's Heyday and uh the platform that the OU has allowed me and has allowed all of the wonderful M um you know the president Rabbi Hower Rabbi Rabbi schwed uh Rabbi wild who originally brought me in a couple of decades ago um but it's really been a tremendous um humbling experience to to recognize what the what the OU has done and how it has brought Torah to thousands um of listeners and it's really um you know it's a real to be part of the part of the team um we're celebrating tonight and I just wanted to pick up one line from M sheni that you know you learn Shi before we started whenever you didn't like you knew there was a kazal somewhere but you didn't really know where it was ohii in uh Minas there is no yias right right but uh but now hopefully in five and a half years we'll be able to say it's not a Yushi right uh oh it's a Zohar okay but but but yeah we'll get we'll get there we'll get there but um but um but there's one line in the Yushi that uh I think reflects everything that uh we're celebrating tonight and really should give us an amazing um Outlook there is a line ofi it's it's I'm G to take it say which again the the new pagination is really again and to the art scroll gar and kki it's unbelievable but um the amazing um presentation that they've given us for theii says there if you don't know what the is what do you do you don't know what go out see what people are doing what people are doing that'll determine that's could be sometimes in life you got to look and see what people are doing sometimes you have to go against the against the what the world is doing but I think in this case we could look at remember when um I think you call me whenever it was year and a half two years ago whenever we started want to start giving a sh in Yi I'm likei I'm like who's going to want to learn youri like no no no you can start I'm like I was doing the lumus on the D he's like no you RI he's like is anybody going to be listening he's like try bras and it's really amazing I could give this year but to listen to it to have that that Kus is really something special and look what people are doing it's a Simmon again in our challenging time that we uh we look around and it's a challenging I have two uh I have a son and son-in-law now up north One's near uh Matula and one's uhon son and a son that went back to mein this week after four months out um so so it's a challenging time and um there's a lot to think about a lot on our minds but the gar says there of there of G 150 years 150 years the population of the Jewish people between 1850 and today that's a that's that's a Simon of G if we just have our eyes open so many of G things are growing but Jews learning you RI Jews learning you RI when was the last time in history if ever this many Jews were learning Yami forget learning learning period you know those who are not learning isami it's okay B is also amazing I say B is amazing Rami was never meant to supplant it was just meant to be an addition that's why this year is half an hour not not longer because it's meant to to be an addition B is obviously the uh the anchor but uh you're not you learn something from K and that's what something that we have to take also from the fact that we're part of this uh part of this team part of this train we should be be part of clel in many um many factors but again it's all you know my preparing it is fine but the it's it's the listening it's the listening and the learning together and Theus and walking around with the green and not just uh not just the brown already oh okay so it's a really uh could would have both but uh anyway okay so let's uh the last the last line in you in me sheney um discusses uh we'll just read the last line the word demine the last M spoke about there were five that made which this was but the last one had to do with so the the last line of the gar says what does the word de mean what does the word mean classic right what is deay so the geara that we have is De dumy T de low and the rasio says is from the word Dion it appears to be fixed it appears not to be fixed you're not sure exactly what what to do with this that's what the de but the mara has the Gea the one that we're familiar with t this what is it is it fixed is it not fixed it was truma taken off but you don't know if the other halfs were taken off so that's the de and then just I just wanted to end off with also the uh the second to last D mentioned this in the D yesterday the maraa uh who discusses um how we without getting into the Contex of the gamarra he just says to recognize and not to get to shaken up about things that happen to us that are totally because it seems like there's m a little bit there's nothing m says to be but we recognize everything is both beat and personally communally and nationally we know there's a plan you know there's a divine plan who is willing the world to its ultimate Destiny we just got to hang on for the ride and be able to bring as he brings us the ultimate pap for for for [Music] everybody please it's food time and then my father was always very mock bid was time to eat time to eat and then AB teaches us the Torah teaches us this time for be and there's time for hpid and though hpid took place also 30 days ago my father's Leva Asim gives us a little distance to evaluate to put into perspective to call some Eternal lessons to take with us is one of the most basic mitzvos there are more chairs people uh nobody has to stand just take some chairs back is one of the most basic mitzvos one of the of Yos it is the transitionary debor we spoken about this on the L right so is down at number five it's the transitionary debor which has both elements this Mitzvah applies both of the parent and different themes different Halos so I stand here today on my father schim at a transitionary point between these poles faintly holding on maybe not so faintly trying to hold on to the but preparing myself for what's ahead I just take comfort in the fact that my parents couldn't be separate from each other so I had 11 months between my Cottages between finishing for my mother and starting with my father but they together my father taught me a medish that he mentioned that my uncle's levia will get back to him a little bit later says greater is the day of death than the of birth and that's why in Judaism we celebrate yard sites we don't celebrate birthdays Washington's birthday Lincoln's birthday we celebrate yard sites why because the mic gives a mushell when you have a a boat that's going out on a journey and it has a lot of uh Wares and a lot of uh you know a lot of destinations that it was was going to go to so when the boat goes out there's some people there few people there just wishing it well but when the boat comes back after a successful Journey after all the destinations that it went to so then there's a big crowd there a big crowd that that says excellent successful Mission a job well done greater is the date of death and I just saw I mentioned in this today's par I just gave it this morning PK says the beginning of this week's paraa Zan writes in what's the of from where you came from to where you're going to and then from where you're going to to where you coming back so as zean says each of us are writing a book and every page in the book is a day of our life and we all set out on a journey sends us out when we're born and we go out on that journey to fulfill to sanctify God's name for 120 years but ultim we come back to where we came from we come back to be with once again after the time that we have in this world we celebrate tonight a mission accomplished 60 plus booksim hundreds of Articles putting Jewish Medical ethics on the map being a walking kashem for the entire world thousands of lectures and sh numerous cycles of DFI as long as I can remember and mikra every Friday night using a bencher whenever he benched and kashita would never say it by heart and would say it and would always use a bener remember the one he had right by his desk I grew up Rosner oh Dr Rosner I said yeah the Dr Rosner it was always a couple of steps I grew up in my father's Shadow and I we I wore that that I wear that badge with pride but all this takes added significance everything that my father accomplished takes added significance based on the too when we think back about to his yalo to where he came from my remarks tonight will give an overview of my father's life peppered with some stories and toward towards the end of the talk we'll learn four or five concrete messages that we could take from his life my father was born in 1935 in Berlin my grandparents were from Poland so we're not yui we wait six hours though my father was very yuy in his demeanor but um but we are not yuy my father at age three 1938 he was put on the Kinder transport and with his brother and his sister my father was three my aunt I forgot exactly how old my uncle was 10 he was seven years older than my father uh and they ended up in an orphanage in northern England for most of the war and that's where they spent uh the war my grandparents uh survived unlike almost the entire family the entire family was wiped out in awit they were each one of us seven and 10 like 17 siblings that's just like one generation up but the only ones that survived were my my grandparents who never heard recently that my grandmother spoke to about it with somebody but my grandparents that I remember them they never spoke about it they never spoke about the war they never spoke about how they Sur survived we know little tidbits about uh being hidden in families and jumping out of the the top of the barn but we don't know but they ended up in Belgium after the war but part of the miracle of my father's survival has to do with one brother my grandparents and one brother of my grandfather survived they ended up in Belgium after the war in Brussels and nobody knew who was alive nobody knew my grandparents made it to Brussels they they came in contact with my aunt who went to Hollands uh but my father and my uncle were in were in an orphanage um there were two from English soldiers that ate over at my grandparents house for shabas and they recognized the name Rosner they said Rosner there's there's a man an older man in in not so old but a man in London that doin with us in sh his name is Rosner and he goes to visit two of his two of his nephews somewhere up north at an orphanage every couple of weeks and they did the research and they realized that these were their children that they survived so this was 1945 the uh they sent they sent word the Red Cross so my uncle was 17 he came back right away my father Kadar bakesh he wanted to finish the school year so at 10 years old I don't know where that came from but uh so he stayed for the next couple of months until until June 1945 and then he remembers he was 10 years old he was a put on a he took a train to a train to Southern England and he went on a boat and he remembers the boat he was on the boat and they come towards uh aen ex exactly exact Port City in uh in Belgium and he remembers being on the boat holding the hands of the of the captain is holding his hand he remember seeing hundreds of people on the shore like a whole group of people and uh he says he remembers he says remember sees as as it's pulling in he sees this man with a hat and and a coat go underneath the rope and run up the uh the plank and start talking to the uh to the woman and the captain the papers in the papers and uh my grandfather is brought over to be introduced to my father my father was three the last time he saw his father and now he's 10 and um they give each other a hug my father starts talking to him and they realize they cannot communicate with each other because my father only knows English he been in the orphanage his whole life and my grandfather knows Yiddish and German and polish no English so after seven years of not seeing each other they're connected but they can't communicate so 2-hour train ride to to Brussels and my grandmother knew English my father eventually learned not eventually pretty soon learned leish my father knew seven languages he said after you learn four five the others are they come I'm like I don't understand that Hebrew English yish German Flemish you know all of the other the ones but so my my uncle my great uncle at that time um had uh had a say in getting them um getting them back about 20 years ago again a couple of other uh trying to go in chronological order there's a story that we didn't find out until about 20 years ago and we didn't know the story for 50 years 20 years ago 22 I don't know exactly how many uh my father receives an email my father never used a computer his 60 plus for him and thousands of Articles it was all those yellow pages long hand he wrote everything until his last day the computer he knows how to turn on it'll turn on the doth or he'll call me sha I can't get the do what's going on is it up yet elizabe but but um but he but he looked at email my father received an email from a woman in Scotland who recognized my father's name on the Internet he saw some of his books are you the Freddy Rosner that was in an orphanage in Scotland during World War II in in England during World War II my father responds yes how do you know me she responds back I took care of you father's like what are you talking about there was a whole orphanage she's like I'd rather tell you in person so at that time my father was still lecturing publicly so he arranged to be in uh in Scotland and uh Dr Steinberg be a showa call said he he was at this meeting my father's Dr steyer Shim Glick and Hal the medical ethics uhra Dr sber went on many of the trips with my with my fathers they were in Scotland and they meet this woman this this Jewish social worker and he says my father says how do you remember me and she he says you had a brother right he says yeah I have a brother seven years older so she says you know the orphanage was only for older children they went to your brother how old was he he was 10 see they went to school during the day and they came home and they they slapped in the orphanage you were three the orphanage wasn't for three-year-olds so what happened every Sunday morning we used to dress you up in your finest and take you to the church in the neighborhood and then families from the countryside would come and choose to who to adopt which little kids to adopt and to bring home and to uh bring up how many Jewish Souls we lost from those families but your brother he held your hand and he said you're not taking him without me you take him you're taking me with you nobody wanted a 10-year-old so they had a problem they didn't know what to do so you was stuck three years old in this orphanage so they called me I was a social worker in the area and they said we have a problem we so I came I moved into the orphanage you slept in my room I bathed you I changed you I played with you for four three four years until you were old enough to go to school and then and then you went to school my uncle was still alive at the time and uh he was a jeweler he lived at canari he worked on 47th Street posha Jew posha in quotes simple Jew went up to Uncle Eli I said he didn't remember anything remember was it just an older brother that was that was not letting it was it my grandmother when she put him on the train you don't let him out of your sight that's one thing I'm tell we don't know but we found out the story 50 years 50 years later we were know my uncle was still alive so a couple years later after he was nifter we we had one of our sons named El yahu one other story that we found out about 10 years ago or so there's there was a mutual con friend of my of uh of my father and he had a colleague who was also knew someone whose son lives in bees he was talking to him um the guy in bees his father was uh was a that a mutual colleague so he's talking do you remember anything about the war he's like well I was in an orphanage in ilkley that's the small the small town in northern England do you remember anything from from the orphanage he said not much he says I'll tell you one thing he says I was I was always scared I was always scared of being alone I didn't like being alone so you know what at night that was the worst I don't want to be the last one up I remember there was a really little kid who was a math genius who you know I would just ask him math problems at night so I knew while he was trying to work out the math problem I would fall asleep says says I knew that's why it help it comforted me so I have no idea where he is today his name was Freddy Rosner maybe he's a math professor somewhere getting the Nobel Prize he's like actually his son lives a few blocks away and he's the new so we had them meet each other they didn't remember no uh each other but um my father didn't remember so my father they ended up 1945 he comes to Belgium and uh he's there for the next uh four years my father had is he starts learning Olive base my father he was in high school already in secular studies but he didn't know Olive Bas till he was 11 my father didn't know Olive Bas until he was 11 and he learned Olive and he learned paru that was his bar mitzvah par was the last thing we were laning with him on the on the Davis P maybe we'll get back to that uh but uh we put in they put in 194 they were there for a couple of years uh my grandparents the nuclear family that amazingly was that that survived uh they put to for visas to to Israel and to America American ones came first so they went to America uh my father says July 1st 1949 they came in on the boat and 100 degrees boiling hot they had relatives in Washington Heights July 1st July 2nd 1949 my father was 14 my my grandfather takes him into the Yu base Mish and he wants him to go to MTA and uh they walk in they didn't know anything they don't know anybody all of a sudden a rabbi walks runs over of a where you from what's going on I wanted to go so the rabbi takes my father and goes over to some guy July second and says you're learning with him this summer so that summer every morning from 9: to one my father learned I don't remember who the col guy was but he learned the first mishna in bakama that was the project that my father was uh was learned so by the end of the summer this Rabbi who ended up being ravitz um who um my father developed that was his rabbi that was a lifetime uh friendship so he arranged for him my father to have a with remend Z son-in-law who was the bo at the time my father said he was online and uh all the guys are going this what which what do you want to what do you know or this and then my father's like I don't know anything he says my grandfather this is not for me look at these guys it's like it's okay it's okay it's okay come to my father's turn so rendel's X says that new what do you know he says first mission in babama he like Z F so he he says the first mission and obviously sees my father's a little different para so he says you want to learn do you want to be here father says yes he like okay you're in father said I know the Rashi no that was it he didn't make him me the Rashi he says no okay but that's the uh so my father got went to MTA that was 1949 uh somehow he did high school again my father didn't know much he had to learn what a missioner was that summer uh he learned so he did high school in two years seems like cuz 1951 because then he went to Yu to Yu he was in the Yu class of of 1955 and then he obviously very much so wanted to be a doctor I don't know where that came from but must be innate and he always had this love of of medicine uh it was at that time it was very hard for Jews to get into medical school and that was the year that why you opened Einstein my father was in the first class of Einstein class of 59 um he says that when he told r dpes that he was going into medicine D didn't talk to him for about a month he said he wanted him to go into he wanted him to be a rabbi um after a month he like calmed down and um he uh said okay you want to be a doctor you got to be the best doctor okay but that was my father's uh my father's RBI my father's um know he um he considered Ravid uh his Rabbi he went to him on uh on purm every year uh so right before he started Medical School my father my father uh he he doesn't have SM he's not a ra he was not a rabbi he always said I could speak freely I'm not a rabbi I'm just raising issues my father always said even though he gave many uh shiur but uh so he took off the summer three months to learn Yara before medical school before uh before uh in between the college and and Einstein so he has many stories he tells over from that time he Saida came over to them every morning he learn with meleski I think he uh his Kusa uh so he said he every day R came over to him talk to him and learning I don't know exactly how it started but he said once a week maybe David he went down to the low E side and he Ros iir them every week on whatever Sim that they were uh that they were learning so he went um once a week uh there uh just one story that um some might be familiar with uh so my father when he was in at that time period so one of the other classmates and call guys at the time was Rabbi label duits um I had RAB DLS for English in in MTA and he goes back many years with my father um his son was at the Levi in uh in in Israel so one time RAB dulitz comes over and uh he's asking my father a question about H trus he knew that these were the Premed guys my father was a Premed he ask but then something an my father's like explaining it to him and explaining it to him two three times so my father said I don't know I I did the best I can I don't have a cow here I don't know I just did the best I can the next morning if you know by Duets the next morning into the base medish a brown paper bag dripping red Fred here show me it was the neck of a cow right he brings it to the Bas M show me like he needed to know the MS unbelievable my father said over that story and D's son confirms but that was uh one of the stories of uh of U in in Wu my parents got married uh my father graduated Einstein 1959 uh an amazing marriage 63 years they were married lipitz was M them uh my mother grew up on the low re side American American my grandfather was the r of the bis Stucker the low side es skolski and my great-grandfather before him two rabbis ESI rolski um and R mosha so but they helped set up my father with another uh I think uh one of my father's friends also um so raos was my parents K they say the story is that rosha and raron Cutler never went to the same wedding this is the way it goes that because who who wouldn't be M kushan so raron said told my parents you know what rosha will be madushan and I'll be S got your first son's bris so 11 months later my brother was born and uh raron Cutler was the was the sandic um so my parents um got married they lived in bar Park and then Maryland for two years during the uh during the Vietnam War uh and ultimately farak that's where they were for 50 years uh my father was always the the anchor of the Shu we spoke to the to the rebi the Reby son recently but he was the Gaba he was the balore always acting always uh you know getting invol we have some farak altimer here um in aall the rebit does everything this is also unheard of my father had the boy's minion what's the boy's minion just for laning every week just for Ling he would go downstairs and have a boys menion where the boys would Lane and the boys would be gby and the boys would get alias and the boys would how many PE how many farak boys I learned to Lan there my brother who's a professional balore learned to Lan there but that's um he did that because he knew this is this is part of his tkid to create to create a um we dive into the because that's aish and U but but he said I'm not going to you know not have this to be able to train my children and and the children of the community and that was part of his um part of his avod in the early 60s is when his quote unquote hobby he was a hematologist by profession he was a head of medicine in Queens Hospital Queen general for uh 30 plus years um but on his side Jewish Medical ethics a hobby that influenced so many just two of we've gotten many tens of messages from from all over it just wrote that I just picked two of them yesterday um when my father graduated medical school he is now about 75 your father was an individual who opened to him and all the shr Mitzvah medical graduates a Vista that many of them had not been exposed to a giant of a clinician who was a master of Hala who could write with force and expertise in both fields and was a Jew of great Rus another one from a young age I developed a strong affinity for the medical journals and writing compiled by your father often writing together with my family's Rob of mosha DAV tendler your father's was a trailblazing force in the field of medicine and ala and a veritable expert in articulating the Jewish law guidelines to be followed by Jewish doctors and medical professionals in a myriad of different situations may his memory be a blessing so he he he was mashia or he created two of the influences that we think number one the story is that somebody gave for a medical school graduation present rabie jakobitz a safer on Jewish Medical ethics my father conf considered RAB jakobitz the grandfather of Jewish Medical ethics others have said that my father was the father of Jewish Medical ethics Rabbi jaob witz he he coined the term that's number one and also he obviously he loved medicine and he loved Hal and he loved Torah and the mixing and the meshing of those two was where he he made such a uh made such a mark he writes he wrote some of his Memoirs a couple years ago he says the 1964 was the first Surgeon General warning against smoking 1964 so he says that week he wrote an article about you know as rabbis there some rabbis in the room like if we could find an article about something that's our sheer you know you take the article you take the maromo it's basically a good way to cheat but it's okay you look up the mar makos he didn't have any articles he wrote the articles he had to do the research and you you find an rjj Journal about a topic you want to give sheir on you're good you're pre computers pre computers but but but he wrote it he said he wrote an article he gave it to the first talak Journal I don't know which one it was they rejected it they said we can't print this all the around by some smoke so he says so he said I don't care he says printed this is the my father spent the next 20 years begging Riv mosha to ostra smoking the final chuva 1983 was written to my father if you look at the igis mosha but you see over every 10 you read the four or five is he's getting closer and closer and closer and closer and then he say that he would ask so he can't bring any r as what a would be today but um but he um he had unbelievable accomplishments in this area half his books are on Jewish Medical ethics half his books about the rambam his love uh the last few decades uh the Encyclopedia of Jewish Medical ethics was one of his Magnum opuses the translation but it's not a translation of Rob Steinberg's encyclopedia to translate you have to reorganize and you know adjust everything and the last 20 years or so were his translations of rash chuvas and just the last number of years the 10th volume came out within a year over zin's 10 volumes of shim he loved to teach he loved to share whether it's medicine we got a WhatsApp during Shiva of somebody you don't know me but I just have to tell you the story you know in all the years that I was taught I was I was a resident and a doctor and an attending in uh Queens Hospital Center you know the M the Min minion in Dr rosner's office was uh was something to go to every day it was my favorite part of the day remember that the office Green couches and uh the um so he went there for M but he says the best thing was that after M your father gave like a five minute talk about something and that was like you had plenty of non-jews that came and like imams or whatever they wanted to hear what Dr Rosner said about about that because my father projected you know the the view not just the Jews I remember one time one from Friday morning in elementary school I remember I got to stay home from school why my father was going to B be on TV I remember the Phil danu Show remember the Phil danu show right Sam I remember there was a movie out um Richard dfus whose Life Is It Anyway about somebody who's uh I never saw the movie I don't know anything I just remember seeing this movie star on TV with my father sitting there I'm like right that but I remember I got but what what's the Jewish view what's the ethical view right that's he loved to teach whether in sh he was the backup for Rabbi pelovitz on on chabas afternoon uh in the white Sho this is this is what his his life was about his life was about sharing and um and teaching 1988 my father was invited to Germany to Berlin on the 50th anniversary of Cal my father never he flew all over the world we have he kept copious journals of every single talk he ever gave we have 20 volumes in the journal is the invitation letter the flyer that that the thank you letter it's it's unbelievable and and and theous that he gives every talk he'll speak in front of Congress he'll speak on ABC and then he'll give a post night activity talk in the camp MOA canteen for four counselors it gets the same kashus right it's all it's all sharing but in 1988 he got an invitation growing up in our house anything German or Germany anything it was TR would be under statement I remember walking to the white sh from our house in farak I remember somebody had a Mercedes on the left side we mamish couldn't look we weren't like like to look there it was rahmanan this where he was from 1980 and he's he always spoke all over the world but he received an invitation from Germany he always said no but this one they really wanted him to come really want him to come is something with a rambam also and he was from Germany so um he didn't know what to do so he asked Ravid Ravid was his lifelong Rabat rev was alive at the time what should I do my father even made a Ned there that he would never go back so rev says to to spread Torah you could be Mater but uh you have to ask your father my grandfather was still alive at the time um so he asked my grandfather and that he didn't know what he was going to say he says if you could go to Kev OS what's Kev OS on Cristal KN my great-grandfather had a stroke after what he witnessed his my my father's father's father-in-law my father's mother's father and um and he had a stroke that and he died a few days later he's the only relative that has a Kev so my grandfather said if you could go to Kev ofos that Kev is in East Berlin right at the time right when the wall was up so he didn't know so he sent uh messages would he be able to go they got they got permission they'll be able to go my father's like okay so he was M there and he went Rabbi Steinberg Dr Steinberg who was at the shiv house he was also he says he went with my father my father did not leave the hotel room except twice so I'm not walking on soil says twice once to go to the Kev and wants to give his talk so he says the K Dr Steinberg said he says we were at the wall we were there for about two two hours they were like they took off our glasses they were like looking for Contraband in the metal they said it was crazy until they let him through they finally let him through we have pictures uh M like you would have imagined a Blizzard snow you can't find anything but they found the Cav they found the Cav of my great-grandfather thought was there and then he gave one talk there and his talk was titled we have a copy of the talk why I return to Berlin 50 years after after I promised never to go back that was the title of the talk I just remember one thing we were looking at it during Shiva one thing he says says JFK was here 20 years a 30 years ago and he said Berliner he had no right to say that I was born here I could say that I can explain to you why I returned 50 years later some of the some of the stories my parents were Z to make alah about nine years ago uh their children pre alad them uh as long as my father was working part-time it was important for him to stay but Hurricane Sandy and stopped working so my brother-in-law and I you know went and brought them on their uh on their Alat trip five messages quick short messages that I again we can spend spend more time but um five messages number one is time my father didn't waste a second can't waste a second and he uh every moment was was accounted for I never saw him Shilling as it would said just hanging out he didn't do that right there was a there was a cartoon on his on his desk with a guy lying on a couch and a psychiatrist but doctor relaxing makes me tense right but he he never I have some he never wasted a minute everything was part of his aoda but he he swam and he joged my friend just told me I remember him jogging down Reed's Lane everything was part of the schedule I went I thought it was a Kum because two nights ago I took my boys that I have in America right now to the to the to the Mets to the Met game my father took me to two met games every year before the season which which days were going to go so I felt I took a picture of my siblings I it's a Keim for Daddy you know it's uh they won it was good but uh but but it was that was also part of the schedule part of the schedule was learning and teaching there was no wasting ran we mentioned him before has an unbelievable V Parr where he says that know everything in life those who listened this year probably have heard much of what I say everything in life has a certain time that it exists people exist for a certain amount of time a tree exists for a certain amount of time know everything exists this stender is this stender going to be here in a thousand years I'll probably disintegrate I don't know something with the the the atmosphere I don't know everything has a certain amount of time it could be very long it could be short everything in life has a certain amount of time except for one thing and that's time itself time has no time the second that the moment is here it's gone time has no time and yet ironically Cesar of zean the only thing that we could take with us for eternity is our time if we fill our moments with Torah and mitzvos and and giving those days come with us forever he came with all his days my father took all his days with him my father stands in shamayim with all of his days every moment now we DAV in AEL growing up as I mentioned we had my father moved to farak so 1965 the day my sister was born so there were four shs I think three and a half right there was the white shol and there was the sh wsbg uh the rebes the Sol Rubin they said the Young Israel was just uh was just starting at the time my father liked heish daving that's where he daved in the in the in the in Washington Heights he lik it see we D at the Reves at night we D at the white show because of man he wouldn't miss the man wouldn't D after he D there so when Shak shabas morning 9:00 9:00 bras 9:15 hu they okay one day a week my father had ausa 7 a.m. every shabas morning I those are my some of my earliest memories waking up to hear him learning with this Kusa my earliest memories Kusa had a very deep voice Dr Aaron tski was a law professor on HRA so uh he learned I remember like waking up to some of those sounds 7 am shabas what you D ATO so you gonna going to sleep till 9: using time using time was I thought it was a Kum that my father would have would appreciate I remember the last um uh last I was in Camp Monday I was in Camp I got the call that I should fly back to to Israel on on Monday morning Monday morning I wake up I knew it was like I was going to go back later but Monday morning my my siblings called and said he should go back she come back um so Monday morning so I got on the I got on the flight the 1:15 from from nework I'm like get there I'm like okay so I had about an hour in Camp I had prepared the doth for that day the night before I really wanted to give it I'm like give it it was too crazy I had to like get the passports and get ready so I didn't give uh I didn't give the do and C okay so I flew back we landed my brother-in-law landed on Tuesday morning and uh my father was semi-stable but we got there early in the morning six o'clock in the morning so the whole day I was we were with him in the in the hospital so like the afternoon time and things were we didn't know how long but I'm like I have this do I'm not gonna be able to give it for a week that's I'm like I know my father would want me to so first I was sitting in the hospital just he wasn't wasn't um you know um no we didn't know I'm sure inside he heard everything but he wasn't communicative at that time um so I was learning my brother and I were learning the do with him I said you know I said I told my brother I said do you have a you have a uh you know anybody in the hospital I need a room like I can't get the do in the ICU so he's like I I know somebody in the genetics lab so he called somebody in the in genetics lab uh on he's like genetics what for what your brother oh I live in some V year room so anyway they got me a room on the fifth floor so I saw like I went to my father I said Daddy I said I said I know you want me to give the duff I said you don't waste a second I'm trying I'm just I'm just gonna go give the duff you know I'm just I have my phone G to give the duff so I went down to the fifth uh went down to the fifth floor in the genetics lab the guy gave me a room and a table I got my computers out I got the gar out gave the do uploaded it you say went back my father was still still uh the same uh at that stage and um and two hours later we was uh we we were all to be with him but I I learned that from my father because you know he would want he would want to use every moment Mish every moment so number one is time number two is Aus my father was inem everything about his life was centered around AEM he loved the story that he said over so many times of this many of you have heard it this says his on the morning of aus he says make sure you have kavana by when he say make sure you have kavana there a the half of them screamed out they screamed out other and they asked IM afterwards who is right and he says you're both wrong that's the special kav that's my father my father his life is a daving ding like like it wasn't like a like getting out of bed and freezing or remember I remember growing up like we get up in the morning he always went to the first minion sometime like Daddy can we drive no we're going to walk it's like what no we're walking let's go I'm like come on it's so early in dark outside like daving benching like bras wouldn't put anything to his mouth without a braa what BR do you make on this everything was and he learn the ramom they have to walk after you eat it doesn't matter Friday night gotta take a walk right got to take a walk you know we after you eat because this was this is what the ram says and this is what the is right I want be your EV really he was uh an ultimate with all of his with all his background number three out of five number three rautner has a letter some a well-known letter where tet in that he feels like a fake right like he's one person here and he's one person there at work at home what the Tom called a double life and runer anwers no it's not a double life it's a broad life a broad life meaning you're the same person in all the different areas my father was a had a very broad life but he was the same person everywhere the same person the same person who could speak internationally in front of thousands of Jews and non-jews and and and be give the rabbi sheer and Shu and uh and be the father who takes me to a Met game and learns with me on Friday night and and being a doctor right many at the Shiva Shiva said forget medical ethics he was amazing but medical you know we called him with our Medical shus the uh the The Unbelievable medical genius that he was and how he thought of of different elements he was the head of the New York State uh Ethics Committee which not to do with Judaism but but he was uh same unassuming attitude humble not not taking always saying that um no I'm uh I'm just speaking freely you know I'm not a rabbi said that often but uh making Kesh hasem in all areas of his life so using every moment being an EV AEM being the same person in every um venue that he found himself for adaptation he adapted to every situation that KES threw his way being in an orphanage not knowing his parents somebody asked me at the Shiva did your father ever express anything about being put on the Kinder transport like no not this is his matv and this is what he does what's my next step what's my next step forward you know orphanage he had a major heart attack in the early 1990s he had a stroke in the 2001 he couldn't do his own research anymore okay what can I do what are my abilities there if Steinberg was after he had his stroke or after the heart attack the the the r zilberstein the 10 vimes you just transl I can't I can't do my own research now so I'll translate I still have that skill and that ability came out within the year he adapted he adapted after my mother was nifta two years ago go or yard sites next week right new reality my father was always the one that was Ill we got a helper from my father and Aid before my mother got sick so it's just but my father said okay what what do I I have a new sidekick you know what what what could I do now what could I accomplish now and that's what he did not just about assets but about whatever situation he is in life right Hashem gives us a and he makes the most of it makes the most of it mosu also didn't have such a childhood he grew up in the house of par running around but you make the most of everything gives you and number five final point he had an inner drive that never stopped he never I said at the Laya he never had Manuka from a very young age he was driven what's my next project what's my next book rinona writes on peros on that mishna life is like a shopping spree it's like you could whatever gold you pick up in the next 24 hours is yours you want to take a nap that's your choice we have 120 years shopping spree obviously we have to be normal my parents always wanted me to be normal they said my rash Raks came out the sh she's like you know your mother met me before shet and she said you know he wants he wants to wants to uh come shanth and he wants to learn he's like but just we want him to be normal you know we want him to remain shom and R said I hope that we like help succeeded and so you didn't want me to do too much this way too much that way but um but there was a drive there was a drive he had you know the past few months the last few months of my father's life after he finished Al final Ri zilberstein so we looking more projects more projects to uh what can we do he's translating in Asia to get him excited about something so I said I said Daddy I said how you transla one of my sparm he like wow great so I remember one a few months ago so I went to sit down I got him set up in his apartment in Yim so I set up with the safair and his notebook and his cup of pens and his dictionary this was his life his hobby on the side but his life so he sits down opens up table of contents he writes table of contents on top then he looks know High holidays you know his English was English and then and then he he tried he was trying he's like I'm like okay we'll continue more next time so he he did a little bit and we tried I was there once or twice over the last couple of months try because translating was it was hard it takes the the vision and the and the concentration and he could still still listen and listen to the dfim and listen to the parir and listen to the navi like just whatever it doesn't matter if it's last week's para show or whatever it is he uh my parents were my biggest fans biggest fans you know my mother used to call up you know the T tidbits that uh that come uh so my brother would call up on on Thursday Shalom guess who's on the cover I said uh Ruda Michelle he's like no page 26 is a great page they were they were my biggest fans but again everything came came from them but anyway so so I set this up for my father and we tried tried but it it was hard towards the end and um so after the P that day so I had I went back to my father's apartment to pick something up before I went home I walked into the uh to the apartment and I see on the dining room table I see my safer open to the first page and I see the notebook and the pen and I see the cup of pens see the dictionary I said to I said my father tried to the last minute my father tried you know this is a testament right until he had no he tried and he was driven and it was life of Abdus and it was life of and everything that he accomplished was not knowing Olive Bays until he was 11 years old so let's even take a little bit a to use our time B to focus our life evem to recognize we're the same person in the business world in the b medish in the wherever we are we're making a kesem number four to adapt to any circumstance throws our way we don't choose we don't choose our our cards right we don't choose our cards we do what we can with the has from our side and finally to always try to be driven to something again it doesn't mean that we're not normal and we don't have relaxation as my father had that also but he had a drive to be in EM maybe theas of being the one that survived the family that the whatever it was it went from his birthday Aldo so on this night the night of his schim we TR we try to take a little bit try to take a little bit ofua and we should be able to be z to follow his following his footsteps uh he did so much the OU had never officially but the ajs and all those organizations you know he was uh always very uh supportive of and involved in and we should be to follow in his footsteps and follow in his ways and uh keep up um keep up learning from him for for many years for