After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (9)

[Music] any questions yes Ken okay so as far as Shabbat ele as far as Shabbat elevator even though technically based on it's not doing it for you if it's a Shabbat elevator that um goes up and stops in every single floor based on the basics it's permitted but based on the major for example says it's not it's not it's not something you should do uh simply because H said it's not a good thing to do it's not a good thing to do unless you are sick disabled if you're 20s something years old little puppy like you you're not allowed to do it under any condition and if your friend lives on the 30th floor go somewhere else um simply because it's creates a lot of other issues it creates meaning other people that are either not religious or look at you they have no idea what a uh what a Shabbat elevator is they see a guy with a keeper going in an elevator on Shabbat so even if there's a 1% chance 1% a half a percent a percent of a percent of a percent chance of as a result of you going into an elevator you absolutely should never dare going into an elevator absolutely not it's for an elevator that's not just regular Ty absolutely elev elevator that's not elevator Shabbat you have no right to be in N let's get off on his floor he does it for himself I understand what you're saying you do that they certain rabis do that for people that are brand new to shabbat brand new to Judaism brand new to God they just discovered they're not a cow they realize that they have to keep Shabbat okay they you tell them yeah yeah whatever go in the elevator just don't press the button you make him feel good or at least he's doing something cuz he just realized he's not a monkey fine him you did a guy like you keep Shabbat for a few years already absolutely not absolutely not absolutely not which word of absolutely not do you want me to explain the absolutely part of the not absolutely not not allowed to go in there it's a it's again like I said aside from the uhb potential aside from a lot of other issues the biggest issue you should be worried about it's more than enough is is because you must suffer for it the only way to do is suffering like it says in the book of Lamentations the Prophet Jeremiah starts the book chapter 3 three he says I know suffering I know suffering why he saw the bet mikdash now I didn't see the BET mikdash get destroyed so I don't know that kind of suffering but I know suffering for about seven years you don't want suffering for seven days you don't want suffering for seven minutes you understand don't violate aem's name don't desecrate his name simple as it gets you don't have a keeper on your head then you get a keeper if you don't have a keeper I'll give you a keeper I'm saying when I go in the elevator put in my pocket God's not in the elevator no why people don't know you're Jewish no then why you going there I my neighbors I'm going to know I'm Jewish your neighbors know you're Jewish so somebody else in the building is also Jewish yeah but the same thing they also go Oho so one guy is is is justifying the other guy next thing you know s and Gomorrah so now when is it appropriate to have leniencies when is it to be strict like I'm being with you right now right we kind of answered it I answer I give you more detail there's no special level of Kus to be a as a matter of fact there is more significance if someone that's a if he finds if he works really really hard to look at all of the look at all of the look at all the books all of different cases all the different things it's much more honorable that he worked really really hard to find a true a true leniency than someone who says not low he's much bigger this is one of the things that made a giant because he while going through all of the pusim over the last thousand plus years looking at the small the big the little new students that were some of his students that were just little 25 years old he would even review their book he didn't discount anyone's answer he would looked at the books he wouldn't put SMA just a digital thing he'd actually read the book and he said oh no no I think you're mistaken here oh this is good this is a good opinion he would review all the books if he's looking a certain Shabbat would actually look at everyone's opinion including the little 22y old little puppy he wrote a book I want to see it not just the r not not only everything even the little guy and some of these people built their names because ra read my book so he'd look at everyone why to find a leniency not to make strict to make strict anybody can do any idiot can be strict don't alloud not allow not allow not nothing's allowed stay in the house don't even breathe why you breathing you're breathing no say it's not allowed anybody can do any ignoramus can say not allowed that's not that's not t that's not t even saying not allow not allowed not allowed anybody could do that but what's the difference between what I just said to you and what some other people say everything's allowed T staying honest to Torah staying honest to honoring what R did what all all theim did and what they do is despite looking at every possible leniency that they can possibly find they State true to the Torah they do not bend the law they don't change the law for you for your convenience because you're a big donator cuz you're a small donator cuz you're pretty woman because you're ugly guy CU I don't know you have a tail coming out because you have a toothache it doesn't make a difference T is tor allowed not allowed we'll find I'll try I'll try to find you a leniency but there's no leniency for there's no leniency for says in in a place where there's there's desecration of even the honor of the rabbi doesn't matter even the honor of the rabbi doesn't make a difference if this he's not a rabbi you understand so staying about leniencies and permission it's higher to find a leniency it's greater to find a leniency as long as you stay true to Torah the problem today is that every guy that goes to Yesa for 10 years read a few books finished a few M remembers a couple of pages by heart thinks he's a p every little guy thinks he's a p there's one imbecile in Arizona every other day the guy didn't even go to Yesa but he thinks it's a POS go see when we had the whole argument with uh the uh Goldberg and BRS thing when he wanted to bring a u a uh missionary Christian Missionary to their Sho he writes on his page no myak myak he's a PK now he doesn't even know how to read Hebrew but he's a pek now right he was a p he doesn't know how to read he doesn't know how to read Hebrew he doesn't know how to read Hebrew that doesn't necessarily make you a bad guy just he doesn't know how to read Hebrew but he's a p now I think I think in he in in Judaism you want to be a PC at the very least you have to know how to read Hebrew least now I'm not saying I'm some big scholar but I'm not you want to be a you have to read Hebrew I'm not a I don't to read HEB so he says no no my according to what he learned is that it's not even a sin I'm like oh wow you know it's kind of disagrees with rambam he's a little bit of a bigger P than you rambam said otherwise was able to revived the dead someone died he's able to make him alive again he's also a little bit little bit little bit bigger P than you a little bit a little bit a little bit bigger POS than you he said no no but he read a few books and he showed a picture of his uh living room with like seven books on there he's like I I suck it's not allow it's allowed this is every other day now everybody is an internet P everybody's a Facebook p Facebook Twitter Instagram Google this all this Las everybody's a p everybody makes laws that's garbage we have the leaders we have the Giants We Hold by them you hold by rabbis that are real poem not someone that pretends to be a pek if your Rabbi doesn't have a rabbi he's not a rabbi every Rabbi has to have a Rabbi every Rabbi even Rya had a rabbi everybody has to have a rabbi he doesn't have a rabbi he's not a rabbi why first law of the Tor you have to have a rabbi why to tell you when you're wrong who you think you are do you're not wrong no I read in the book so what you read in the book who says you're translating it the right way who says I'll give you an idea today the problem that people keep mentioning to me is that there is a shid Crisis shid crisis you can't find women and men to get married in Judaism I'm saying it's a big lie it's a complete 100% LIE there's no such thing as a crisis is a m crisis men and women you have men and women that know how to behave we don't have men and women with good mid do we don't have some women yes some men yes but together nothing mus crisis we have musar crisis for sure we have I see it every day I see religious people act worse than amalik I see non-religious people act like they a little uh cheep what's going on here you try to make shim once in a while the guy's like no he's a BAL Chua so why is a BAL Chua no but I'm from from birth I'm religious from birth okay so and your point is oh I don't know why is a different Torah if you're from from birth you read you read what it says in the r you read what it says in the it says someone did ch considered higher than you he's higher than you he's not lower than you higher someone that did real chuva not somebody just start keeping Shabbat but still Eats n kosher every day someone did real chuva serious chuva left everything that was material and got glued to left garbage and got to the gold is better than you in sh he's much better than you what are you saying is a downfall for to me Chu you should do Chua for thinking that but you have this discrimination within the religious World they look at B converts like they're deformed like the B like theyan that has a a missing leg or something on the other hand you have certain people that do chuva but only partly do chuva where they do chuva they do chuva for Shabbat for kosher maybe they go to Manan here and there but they want to hug their girlfriend and kids and maybe even a little bit of intimacy before the wedding that's not truva my friend you're still secular you just keep Shabbat so what's the difference what's what's the common denominator the common denominator is that no one is teaching people how to behave no one is teaching people how to act like a Jew according to the Torah you have people that are very very religious but you see unfortunately videos of them every day cursing screaming desecrating hashem's name fighting stealing molesting all types of garbage but they look 100% religious no one is teaching people how to behave like human beings like decent human beings especially the chosen ones there's a m crisis for sure everybody thinks they're holier than thee everybody thinks they're the greatest thing in the world in reality if mashia showed up tomorrow they wouldn't make it with the hat with the stri with everything they have they wouldn't make it mashia would look at them and burn them on the spot with everything there's a m crisis why no one wants to teach it this is not a new problem though said it was already a problem in his day almost 200 years ago almost 200 years ago he says that everyone is sick spiritually and no one wants to be the doctor why because there's only one medicine and the medicine is to teach people that it's an obligation it's an oblig it's a daily obligation daily obligation to think about the punishments of sh daily obligation to think about what happens if I'm daily obligation to think about what happens if I desecrate hashem's name daily obligation and the V says twice a day minimum twice a day minimum you have to think about what happens if I go on a Shabbat elevator and some other guy says oh see the religious gu is not really religious what happens to what happens to a desecrate name what happens to him ripping him into pieces is the beginning says to learn that to learn how horrible it is how horrible your situation is in shim when you desecrate aem's name he says an obligation every day everybody no don't scare people what do you mean it's an obligation in the Torah what do he say in this week's par this we your commandment to fear me how you going to be afraid of someone you think is a teddy bear you have rabbi's teaching people is a teddy bear is a little Care Bear or something no no everybody's okay everybody's okay let me give you presents for what Shabbat he's a thief he's a rapist he's a liar why you giving a why no he connects to hm in a different way yeah he connects to hem by putting a hat on while he's stealing from people what is he connecting to how is he connected to so musar crisis we have musar crisis for sure we have and one of the reasons we have it is because the foundation of much of our teachings is wrong so one of the examples I can give you we'll finish off with this point is that today there's something that hasem did for us as a he did us a did us a favor and he gave us such an easy way to learn Tor that for anyone who doesn't learn Torah it's m would be a special punishment I don't even know if if G would be enough for them for not learning T because of how easy it is to learn to today so easy to learn to you want books it's not like the old days you had to travel to different town find a book you have books $5 you get $10 you get any language you want Russian Hebrew Spanish whatever make a new language they'll make you a book you can't read watch videos you can't hear there's even certain places you can actually get it un bril it's so easy to learn T so easy one of the one of the that did for us is he gave us Arts quot I call it the and the reason why I call the is because art scroll is in essence was a prophecy that we're going to be a generation of stupid people no bit I'm not this is this is myself included we are going to be a generation of idiots that are not going to be able to translate what R Ros Zak all of the all of we're not going to understand what they mean we're not going to understand what they mean we're not going to understand so now when we had Rashi it was wonderful for the previous generation because everybody knew how to read Rashi problem is people don't not only don't know how to read Rashi they don't know how to read Hebrew many people know how to make the sounds of Hebrew many people know how to make even before I did cha I was born in Israel so I already knew how to make the Sounds in Hebrew understanding what the sounds mean is a different story completely so now even if you know how to read Rashi in this generation most of the time you're not going to understand even Rashi why deep in many cases it's deep you're not going to understand the T the point you're not going to understand it so what art scroll did for anyone who studies art scroll properly not just reading the top and that's it reading every single word on the page the bottom the top the little footnotes the small print the side print this everything everything on a page takes you six hours let it take six hours when I first started learning it took me six hours per page six hours per page I wanted to kill myself I used to be considered a scholar in the secular world and now 6 hours for a little page you know how many books I read in my life 6 hours for one page I'm like I could build a company in six hours so I started looking six hours eating myself up my brain is boiling I have smoke coming out of my eyes and my years finally I finished a page I feel like it gave birth but art school made it easy why because by the time I finished I knew what was going on I knew what was going on basically I knew what was going on I got to the conclusion why they told me what the conclusion is I got to the conclusion then from the conclusion you build other things you build on it the more you learn you finish one two three four you finish the you get a basic understanding of knowledge you finish it again got more understanding this you can learn is a thousand times and you're still learn more new things a thousand times you're still going to learn new things problem is that without art scroll we leave ourselves very vulnerable in a way that people just read the basics and they are forced to come up with their own conclusions now if you're learning in yes and you have a ra that's a that has finished the sh several times knows what's going on knows this specific Mar has gone over it with his RAV he knows what's going on not some guy just uh started learning six months ago someone serious is your teacher it's overseeing you and double cheing the conclusion that you arrived to by using your own intellect you have somebody like that don't use art school don't use art school why cuz you have somebody overseen you don't need art school cuz he's going to help you get to the light he's going to help you that when you make a mistake which is 99% of the time he's going to tell you this is why you made a mistake because he's D you're in a you're in a supervised learning but when you're not in that type of learning and you're just learning K with one of your buddies and you're new Bala or you're just learning on your own if you don't use art scroll you're an idiot why because you're going to be wrong you're going to be be wrong and I could I could tell you stories of how many people are wrong every day that send me stuff the world will end and my Stories won't end the world will end and my Stories won't end of how many people get to the wrong conclusions by learning it by themselves without art scroll why we're not at that we're not a generation of giants we're not you can get to be after you finish the sh several times you'll learn it you'll finish it you'll do it you'll be but in the beginning you don't use this you're going to be wrong you can live your whole life thinking your 50 years you will someone who doesn't have a ra God hates him some who doesn't have a rabbi God hates him why does he hate him he says because he's too arrogant to have a RAV he thinks he's his own RAV he doesn't think he's ever going to be wrong he has too much G he doesn't think he's going to be wrong he thinks he's God I hate him so for all of those people that say and I hear this very often in the FR World they say no no if you're studying toah you're not allowed to use art scroll first of all that's wrong on many levels number one because if you're not in a ASA environment you should and you have to use Arch scroll or something similar to it to arrive to the right conclusion two the right right conclusion is just the basics what you're going to use your intellect is after you go over it several times but at least get to the basics if you get the basic answer wrong everything you build on it is going to be wrong anyway so at least get to the original right conclusion so you can build on it something bigger so without getting the right conclusion in the beginning you're going to be wrong in general which could get you to staying Gan for a very long time so first of all it's wrong to tell people not to use it second of all in a generation where most of the religious Jews are to say you're not allowed to get help is 100% wrong because you are discouraging anyone who even wants to learn tah by tell your Torah is not worth anything you tell them oh you're learning with art scroll you're learning with assistance they're making it's easy they're making like it's easy to learn three four five hours two an hour it's they making like it's easy to learn ah you look at these faces like like they have some type of uh muscle deformity or something like that make these you liking you liking the faces hey you learn what OC ah yeah I learn I don't learn OS I I don't even learn what Rashi oh okay you're wow you're you're R you're rashy you're Rush let me kiss your hand you're rashy I have one guy one guy said no no no give me the without rashash amazing you're amazing sadik cabalist who are these people who are these people the guy didn't even know no no give me the without rash give meash so these people stay away from them stay away from them stay away from them why they are going to be or they are already the Kim of the generation they're discouraging B that's Point number two point number three what do you think is the biggest sin let's say let's just say it's not obviously it's a Mitzvah huge Mitzvah let's say let's say hypothetically we're going to go far now we going to go far let's just say that learning with art scroll let's say it's a sin because you're getting too much help because you're not using your intellect let's say it's not obviously but let's just say it is what do you think is the biggest sin what who do you think goes to get the guy that's learning with or the guy that says about SCH about the in public who do you think goes to G on for eternity which one which one who's the newest student here you can answer it so when you go out there you go into public you write articles hey no no you shouldn't use this you shouldn't use this you tell people like this you're hurting their business you're hurting the students you're hurting the B you're hurling everyone and last but not least says you have your Torah is not from sh anyway if you have Gava you have too much pride whatever you're learning with Rashi without Rashi with ar without AR it's not from sham it's your own knowledge is nothing it's worth nothing it's worth zero your Torah you want to get Torah Torah is using an analogy to water why because water travels to the lowest level water travels to the lowest level water travels to the lowest level it's the only way you could explain how a guy just started keeping Shabbat a few years ago telling you all these three hours for the last three years only way truth is it's all from hasem We have to know how to treat it stop with the stop with the Gava we're thinking who we are every single guy is a POS listen to the Sages do the right things relax be a decent human being learn some M stop uh thinking your little rambam start think stop thinking your little M because if you were the dust under the dust that Ramba maybe stepped on maybe maybe you'll be something one day but you're not even not yet what are the other questions I missed 40 days sh okay so memory is not relevant in sh simply because your only reason you have memory now is because you're limited by a body so once you go to the next World you have only your is going to remember every single thing you've ever done so what's an example of this example of this is your subconscious meaning that I'll give you an example one of the gave one time he gave a phenomenal example um has a lot of really good ways of putting certain things and he said one time there was a guy that uh came home and all time he was looking on the floor and his wife uh said what what did you see you're looking on the floor the whole time on the way home what' you see nothing he says nothing I said nothing what do you mean nothing you're looking at the floor the whole time you didn't see nothing no I'm just looking into emptiness nothing okay sometime later an hour 2 hours later she says honey do you have a nail do you have a nail he goes yeah yeah one second he runs outside he goes 5 10 yards outside of the house he picks up a nail from the floor and he comes back and he gives her a nail he says how do you know how did you know that was a nail in the middle of the street because I don't know I just saw it on the way home she goes yeah but you said you saw nothing this is called our subconscious our subconscious sees everything our n records everything but it's not consciously in the front here what's here is you mean you talking but certain feeling certain C experiences certain things that are around you your is recording everything that's happening around you this just putting putting it back here your when it gets to Sham it's going to put the entire picture everything that was going on the books behind you it's going to show you them even though you not now you can't see those books your n sees the books because it's not limited with the body what's outside it's going to show you what's up there it's going to show you certain people have near-death experiences or their n leaves their body and they could tell when they come back to life they tell people listen there are shoes on the roof what do you mean there how do you know there's shoes on the roof that go check they go check on the Roof oh there's shoes on the roof how' you know my sh went there there is an accident you know four miles away and they verify yeah there was an accident four miles away it's verified stories over 30 million stories of people that had near-death experiences which explain the same thing of how the leaves the body and the is Limitless it could see multiple things and be in multiple places at the same time which your body can't do we're barely here let alone being in two places so when you're in sh everything and anything that you've learned you're going to remember which is the reason why even if you're going to go to sh and you're really really tired it's better you sleep at the than not go to the T why because at least you're is going to be listening is still going to be listening so that's why obviously I'm not recommending for people to sleep and I try my best to make sure you don't sleep but even if you sleep don't make that an excuse for not coming come sleep come sleep here come sleep I'm serious come sleep here I tell you myself the first I don't know maybe at least six months after I started doing CH I used to go to by RAB Pinto RAB Pinto in New York I used to go to sh every I think it was every Tuesday every Tuesday Wednesday it was late at night now I used to be I was a night owl I would never really sleep much I was a business guy did a lot of different things so for me going to 9 10 o' sh was good for me and I was never really a person that needed that much sleep so I'd go there but to my surprise within literally five minutes five minutes of him like the whole time up everything's great people here there's a lot of people I'm ready I'm excited I just bought a shama I'm I'm I'm I'm excited for this Shure I'm going learn something I don't know it's different than stock market business all the stuff different so I go sh he starts talking literally five minutes into it I fall asleep now it's not because he's not interesting he's Ultra interesting Ultra interesting phenomenal amazing I used to listen to CDs great amazing five minutes fell asleep why my was too impure in the beginning from sins to be able to handle a Life Shield so it took me a while to finally be able to stay up so I had to m where every time for a while I would fall asleep after five minutes wake up fall asleep wake up fall asleep wake up fall asleep so if you're falling asleep in on a regular basis that means you have to do a lot of CH but eventually it started working how did it start working I started doing something that I figured was made sense what let me write down everything he says so I took a notebook I brought some candy so my my mouth is always moving I took a notebook and everything he said I wrote everything and u a everything anything I wrote everything just to make sure my my hand was constantly moving when you're moving you can't fall asleep it's like if for example if you if you ever want to if you have a late night you want to stay up chew ice you can't fall asleep naturally you can't fall asleep if you CH ice don't do this at home really it's not really a good idea but it's removing your teeth but whatever people that want to stay up at night I'm one of those people so certain strategies of how to stay up at night point being is that I actually had a secretary one time do research of how to stay up at night or for 48 hours in a row and so on story for another day anyway so uh with with in the beginning I forc myself to stay up by writing down what he says but this did two things for me not just not just let me stay up this also let me remember what he said you understand so you go to much of what I said it may have impacted you something something touched you but in general usually you get one two three things you take home one two three things you take home you write down take down 30 things 30 things you take 50 things you why because by writing down naturally you're using another part of your senses your sight touch already you're doing more than just listening so now it's going to help your memory more senses you use the better it is for your memory so it's very very good if you're learning and it's interesting and it's something that say write down write down notes you don't have to write down every single word like I did but write down a few sentence here a sentence there write down as much as you can because again number one it's going to get you in tune with this sh it's going to get you to remember much of this Shure and it's also going to get that what you remember to you're going to connect with it more is also one of the good advices for B is that if you want to take aah on if you want to do something new want to do chabbat you want to do you want to do anything you want to do something that's new learn about it the more you learn about a Mitzvah the more you connect to that Mitzvah the more you have will power to do that Mitzvah but if you don't know what you're doing anything if I tell you listen go be modest you tell me why be modest everybody else is naked why be modest well if you learn what Hashem thinks about it it makes it a little easier and simply said hasem views every every creature as his creation but a Jewish woman is even more so simply because she's the one responsible for bringing more of his chosen people so Jewish if let's say for example a Jewish man is considered here a Jewish woman is considered not just the same level in many cases even higher for example s menu was a higher level Prophet than Abraham she was a higher level Prophet than abah that's whym said to abah listen to your wife so now a Jewish woman if she was let's say if we use the analogy of a diamond if we use analogy of a diamond I don't know I read recently that there was the most expensive diamond that was ever sold was sold recently for 71 million it was a pink diamond pink diamond was sold for $71 million certain carrots certain clar all types of stuff it's cool looking Stone to me but point is is that it was a wom it was $70 million the lowliest of all low Jewish women is worth an infinite amount more than that to AEM an infinite amount more than that $71 million Diamond but now let's say you took that $71 million Diamond you have $71 million Diamond pink diamond cool class I don't know do something on put it on the arm or something put on your head whatever you can do with the diamond but what are you going to take this diamond and you go on the street hey guys look what I have hey look look I got a diamond I got a diamond you can do that in the middle of Fifth Avenue 47 Street hey guys look I got pink diamond $71 million H I got $71 million you going to do that you going to go in the middle of Florida you say hey guys we got $71 million diamond diamond diamond who wants two for 140 two for 100 you can do that two for 100 you can do that no why what are you going to do you're going to put it in a safe why cuz a diamond $71 million Diamond you're put in a safe and you're going to put the safe inside another safe and that safe in another safe and then you're going to switch safes you tell them it's in this safe but it's in another safe and on both safe you're going to put security guards and the security guards are not even going to know what they're securing and the security guards going to have to go to a special gate to put codes with I everything just to make sure that no one knows what's going on and what they're protecting because you're protecting $71 million diamond right a Jewish woman is infinitely infinitely more Val valuable than the $71 million Diamond that you have all the safes and the guards and the bodyguards and is infinitely more valuable so why are you going out and showing the whole world what you look like why you going out showing the whole world what your body looks like your hair looks like why if it's valuable you don't show it to the crowd if it's valuable you protect it you respect it you honor it so modesty is not keeping women down modesty is honoring women modesty is protecting women modesty is valuing women that's what modesty is you look at every high level classy woman in history Jew or non-jew you will never find one that's not modest never no one ever says Cleopatra was modest and no one ever says she was classy either no one but no one ever says hey you know Queen Elizabeth is not classy they say she's classy no one says she's pretty but they say she's classy why this just the reality as a diamond that's of infinite value you can't go around showing your goods to the world it only belongs to your husband if you don't have a husband your future husband so when a woman goes out which short sleeves she doesn't cover herself she shows her whole body she shows different parts of our body it goes against all logic and what's that logic you don't realize you're a diamond when a woman walks out showing her body showing her skin to the world acting in modesty looking IM modest having the short skirts or pants and pretty much giving everyone a free ride to see what she looks like naked in so many words she herself herself is telling everyone I'm not Priceless I'm worthless instead of being what Hashem says you're Priceless you're Priceless I want to protect you I want to honor you I want to make sure no one sees other than your husband that's allowed he's only has permission to see you because he signed a contract cuz he's going to follow the T he's allow to see you because he signed a contract it's the only reason he's allowed to see it and it's only if you want it only if you want him to see it he's allowed to see it otherwise no one's allowed to see it but to go show it to the world for free you took yourself from being Priceless to worthless you don't go around taking a $71 million pink diamond and throwing it in the air like a baseball saying hey look what I have so why are you taking your body and showing it to the whole world our secular mindset can never get to that logic why because you have a Satan in the way Satan tells you the less clothes you have the prettier you are even if you're 690 lbs this is The Logical mind this is The Logical Satan mind that's fooling you to believe everything the opposite of what you're supposed to they say the Judaism and the Torah is against women there's no document in the world that honors women more than the Torah none because no one values women as much as the Torah does both Jews and non-jews both Jews and non-jews must be modest both must be modest and the reason why is because you are Priceless it's not just because you lead other people to sin yes that's definitely another reason when another man looks at you and he thinks about you naked or or or make sins because of you of course you're leading other people to sin you have a serious serious problem in ch but that's not the only reason the main reason is because you're Priceless and you can't tell me that any of these Playboy Playmates are Priceless you can't tell me that any of these people that walk around half naked in the beach or naked are pricess no they're just this week's toy they're nothing no nobody wants to marry the playmate everyone wants to marry the class everyone wants to marry the girl that's covers and no one knows what she looks like that left some things to the imagination that's just telling you as a as a man not just as a rabbi or teacher or anything someone a little bit of experience no one wants to marry the girl it's half naked no one no one and the guy that married him he suffers his whole life why because now he has to deal with everybody looking at his wife all the time all the time guys want to come over oh let's go with your house why do you want to come to my house no let's go to the house have a drink in your house why do you want to come to my house let's just go to the bar let's just go to synagogue let's go some no no let's go to your house he doesn't understand why everybody wants to come to his house why you want to come to my house no I want to I'm I'm G to go to your house what do you mean I'm not going to be there how you going to go to my house I'm not going to be there you GNA be no no I'll talk to your wife talk to my wife why you want to talk to my wife why you want to talk to my wife people are so surprised that there's like you know cheating and divorce R it's not a surprise it's not a surprise you did it you did it you cooked it it's not surprise you let your wife walk around naked what do you expect no one's going to look everyone's going to go like this oh no no Mrs Smith is coming let's look let's look let's no you left it like that everybody's going to look and one of the guys don't want to touch and the second you make your wife angry he's going to take advantage of it like a tiger oh he makes you angry yeah I'll treat you much better I wouldn't do that to you everybody is the Mr uh Dan Juan everybody's done one with a uh frail woman that got got uh yelled at by a husband why is he even in that position because there's no modesty there's no modesty in speech there's no modesty in behavior and there's definitely no modesty in clothing it all starts there Torah keeps you away from that stuff keeps you away from that stuff it doesn't happen doesn't happen if you follow tah just doesn't happen why you don't let it happen no one knows what she looks like you look at pictures of any woman religious Jew or non-jew 100 years ago the clothes make everyone look the same it's all big it's all wide all you see is a face pretty face not so pretty face some Prett whatever everybody's the same no one knows anything what the difference is they stayed married they stayed married they stayed honest they stayed together you don't have marriages today stay 30 40 50 years marriage stay 30 40 50 days oh they got married what they spent 200,000 in the wedding ah wow what a waste of money why because next year you're GNA do the same thing you understand so modesty is something that's one of the greatest things in the world that you can bring to a marriage why a woman number one reminds herself that she is priceless every day if she's doing it for the right reason she reminds herself that she's Priceless that already builds her confidence already builds a confidence second thing is it reminds the husband who again if he does it for the right reason if he's connected to God is reminded constantly She's mine he doesn't have the need to go look elsewhere because he knows I have the best I have somebody I have somebody that no one else is allowed to look at touch nothing no one wants the Village bicycle everyone wants the one of a kind that's just the reality it's a reality of Life excuse my language being fresh whatever anyone wants to consider this is a reality I deal with Yeshiva guys every single day that have wasting seed problems every day I somehow became the expert in wasting seed and how to stop it fine whatever that's my T in life no problem I'll do it why do they have a problem because they all have the same problem you have a bunch of naked women walking around and some of them are married it's enough enough enough cover yourself value yourself treat yourself like you're Priceless cuz you are you don't want to treat yourself like you're Priceless why do you expect anybody else to next yeah I was just vac is yor shabat so you I believe a month or two ago you said obviously stuck my head not to waste not to waste SE waste words okay made a lot of sense okay because people people waste time yeah um so they're in Israel Jem a lot of people call themselves religion F some yes some no and I actually re and they all I'm direct do you know change your so what do you do okay so the question was one of the most uh important things that a person needs to know says is that you have you come to this world with a certain amount of words meaning don't waste your words on nonsense you could speak as much as you want about Torah but every time you talk about nonsense it takes away from your lifetime your years on this Earth so you listen to this and he's trying to apply it in his life and when he went to Jerusalem uh he was with some religious people in his family and they didn't didn't exactly follow this specific law they didn't exactly follow this specific uh teaching from the gar and they wanted to waste time talking about other things um so number one I would say is continue doing what you're doing and disregard the world around you and the reason why is because the closer you are to the truth the more alone you're going to feel initially from people you're going to feel more and more like an alien seriously I'm telling you from experience you're going to feel more more the closer you are to God the more different you're going to be from most of mankind and the simple fact is is that most of mankind is not trying or even interested in trying to do Chua because they don't know how good it is people think that doing chuva serious chuva is a bad thing or is difficult or is impossible or is a I don't know too much of a sacrifice even though it's all of those things there's pleasure in it endless amount of pleasure the more real that Chu huh stay stay stay with it again stay with you are not allowed to sin for the sake of other people doing you're obviously you are allowed to help them but you're not allowed to go down to their level in order to bring them up you're allowed to bring them up period so you continue talking about T and so on if you see that you've hit a uh uh a crowd tough crowd like you're saying where they attacked you don't answer just don't talk just sit there quietly it you don't have to talk simple as again I mean yeah listen you can engage certain conversations where the more you learn the more you're going to be able to connect certain parts so for example anything that you want to talk about we can connect it to anything cars houses money women whatever whatever you want to talk about you can connect to all oh you know about woman oh it's actually says oh and this one you could connect things so you can actually use their conversation as a pedestal to connect to to all the more you learn the more you're going to be able to do that so that's one second thing is if you see a crowd that just pretty much doesn't want to hear it religious or not religious is irrelevant you just sit quiet sit quiet for a little while and anyway most people that look that are quiet look smarter so it makes you look smarter anyway uh you can sit quiet it becomes less and less enjoy able because you have less and less in common with people but under no condition are you allowed to just sit there and start talking to them about baseball basketball for the rest you know for hours and hours of time it's just not it's just a waste of life but for direct family Meers anyone anyone it could be anyone it could be mosu it doesn't make a difference the point is is that you have to be able to bring them up you're not going to bring them up by talking about baseball there are rabbis out there that try to bring their crowd up but going down and there's I think more than many rabbis that go and play basketball with their students go to baseball games with their students sometimes even go to clubs with their students or beer and befriend their students it doesn't work doesn't work why once you become one of the boys no one's going to listen to you as an authority figure no one's going to listen to anything you say you just become one of the boys this the same thing as being a boss in a company once you befriend your employees they're not going to actually look at you as the boss they're gonna look at you oh the guy that owns the company but he's my boy he's my guy he's my friend they're not going to respect you so if you go down to their level you're never going to be able to bring them up you could only bring them up by showing them that where you are is where they should be where they want to be by showing them that you have pleasure out of what you're doing and you care less about whatever it is that they're so interested in because you're more interested in other things and again it's not necessarily going to uh jive with every single person you're around some people are you're going to disconnect from because they're just so far away from the truth that they're not even interested in changing anywhere near it some people on the other hand you're going to connect to deeper but say okay listen you know what what does this m say anyway what what did you learn what's this other people it's going to be neutral but in general the more you get closer to hasem initially the more like an alien you're going to feel you're going to feel different you're going to feel different from everybody else and that's a good feeling it's a good it's a healthy feeling because it means you're going in a right direction I'm not saying that it's good to separate from people what I'm saying is that it's good that you are different why because as it says the the prophets most people are not going to be happy when the mashiah comes just the reality most people are not going to be be happy when he comes and the reason why is because most people are still in uh limbo they have no idea what's going on yeah no cars and for me to walk it's more work so it defeats the whole purpose right so that's the thing so there's there's different there's different types of people there's people that are looking for the truth and there are people that are looking to create a new truth some someone that's looking to create a new truth someone that's looking to create excuses there's nothing you can do for them because no matter what you say even if a butt call comes from sh says Don't drive on Shabbat they say no no that was probably the neighbor like they're going to create a new excuse for anything you say so somebody like that that's you know it's you have to find out and you're going to be able to get better and better at this over time you're going to see who's looking for an answer and who's looking for a excuse now M says someone that comes to become purified they give him a hand they give him a hand someone who becom wants to be purified someone wants to keep Shabbat is GNA te you know help him with when he learns he going to help him learn it faster he going to help him make it clearer to him someone wants to no stop wasting seed he's going to help him by doing different things so he's not going to give him as many tests and so on why because he's trying to purify himself but they say someone who tries to become imp purified someone is looking for excuses it says they open a door for him so why is it open a door for him why why is it open the door why isn't it say if he tries to become pure they give him a hand if he tries to become impure they give him a hand either way they give him a hand because says helps you in it says hm helps you regardless of what decision you make you want to be rash he helps you be a rash you want to beik he helps you be a sadik whatever you say he's going to help you but here this m takes it a different way says you want to beik they give you a hand you want to be R they open the door for you why want to be tadik I'll give you a hand to help you lift you up lift you up you want to be rash I open the door don't let it hit you in the behind I don't want to see you I don't want to see you want to be want to be stay away from me go away go don't stick me don't infect me don't try to take me with you get out why I'm working really hard on being pure I'm working really hard on trying to be a kosher Jew don't try to take me down with you whatever you want to do what you got to do you want to go with a you wna you want to make new laws do what you got to do don't infect me leave me alone leave me out so this Mish already knew about all these people unfortunately they've always been around they're called or just in general also last question one of guis in Israel no it's no it's it's sometimes it's even more difficult to be Jewish in Israel than it is here yeah but think completely app but anyways um it's anti religion so the father just it's quiet shaking to say I mean he doesn't know what to say so I find yours your lectures M's lectures answering every question she had and Sh to her right doesn't get to me I'm like it says in plain English Hebrew doesn't get to you so I explain doesn't get to you you okay doesn't get to me but it hurts that it's family members like I have family members I have family members that are still far away I feel you I feel you trust me I feel you I understand it's hard it's hard to know the truth and be surrounded by people that you love and care about and they're still blind it's hard breaks your heart couple things I could tell you number one shalom shalom the r says the biggest punishment a person can get in this world biggest punishment more than G more than G people always want me to do it's a punishment bigger than it's punishment bigger than says ra says in sh decides no more Chua for this person no more Chua I take away his free choice he removes the person's free choice to the point where he will not be able to do Chua now everybody can do chuva which contradicts it so how could it be he says if he ever decides to do chuva or she decid to do chv I'm not going to help them it's on their own and to do CH without without hm helping you it's virtually impossible in addition he says part of the punishment is going to help them sin I'm going to help them make more sins why so I could punish them even more this is the biggest punishment in the Torah biggest in this world while someone is still alive G is the is the beginning Soom there are people in the world like this there are people in the world like this there are some people in the world that hasem says him he's not doing CH not doing but most people are not that's the good news but how do we get them back how do we get them to see clearly the only strategy that I know know for sure guaranteed to work is by getting hashem's help how do you get aem's help by going on his VIP list if you show AEM that you care about all of his children he'll care about the ones you care about if you show AEM that I care about you so therefore I care about your children and all of them make his will into your will says oh you know what your will is also my will now you help a few people do chuva I'm going to help the people that you want to do cha I'm going to help them too I'm going to give them special miracle special this special that special treatment why because you help other people do Chua that's the only way that I know for sure guaranteed works and there verses in the Tor that confirm it verses in the Tor confirm it in Jeremiah it says if you bring a um someone precious from someone in not precious meaning if you help somebody do chuva you will be like my mouth meaning your prayers will become my actions I'll do what you say I'll do what you say why you help somebody do Chua you help one of my kids come back home so the best investment a person can make ever is and especially if he wants other people to do chuva not just his family but just people in general is to help do K get people to do K with it sponsoring CDs sponsoring lectures sponsoring K organizations and so on simply because this is the way to get miracles to happen in all aspects of life whether it's Pala or anything else but especially in this regards because again this is a mid mid this works with AEM mm is measure for measure you helped 50 of my children to come come back to me I'll help 50 family members of yours to come back to you why it's fair so I've seen it happen I've seen it work and listen it's a uh it's amazing but um unfortunately not everybody has the to do K not everybody if you look at Hanah parties pan parties you know uh new betet new seph Tora new books I don't know some Zionist party a new uh gate for the elephant and the noahide zoo in Jerusalem I don't know Sav some tiger saving the dolphin saving the butterfly saving the ants that stuff millions and billions of dollars of Jewish money goes to it helping people do chuva it's a miracle it's a miracle that we get any money it's a miracle simply because number one people don't understand why you even need money what do you need money to help people do cha don't realize like everything costs money oh can you come to my besset yeah sure why not all right so so can you come Tuesday uh no not Tuesday maybe the following Wednesday oh oh you can't come Tuesday okay so already they realize you have a schedule fine all right no problem all right so I'll see you then I'm like yeah cuz is anybody going to pay for the plane ticket is anybody going to pay for the I don't know hotel is anybody going to pay for the cab or they expect you to pay for they don't want to pay you but if you're going to tell them about uh schum yours or tell them about some things that are not relevant to real life 15 20 $30,000 for a lecture first class flight like Amo says people don't understand people don't understand kiru people don't understand that aside from the fact that it requires an endless amount of money to give all these free CDs free lectures free videos free everything requires an endless amount of money aside from that it's you need an endless amount of partners that actually have Merit they actually have to have Merit for hasem to allow them to do kiru so in the beginning it was very disappointing for me to see that like people are not donating in the beginning as much as we would like them to but then you know I started learning about it my and he's like listen it's not even their fault they just don't have the Merit why because if they start doing kiru hasem has to start doing what they want he doesn't want to do it he doesn't want to fulfill their prayers simply said he doesn't want to fulfill their prayers he doesn't want to fulfill the promise he said to Jeremiah if they help other people do chuva is prayers are going to be like my mouth he doesn't want to do it why because he's a he steals he he's a thief he's a cheater he's a liar he's he doesn't have the Merit to do to help people do chva doesn't have the Merit soem doesn't want to allow his yet to loose all loosen a little bit and let him donate 50 bucks for K doesn't want to do it so as crazy as it sounds this is what I have to deal with but Hanukkah parties poring parties that stuff I can start a campaign tomorrow for some zoo tomorrow I'll raise $50 million CDs maybe 50 bucks that's it is amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] n [Music]