Afflictions Of Love - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (31)

[Music] we are on our uh Tuesday at in Avent Florida um today sh will be for [Music] umana Doris B David benri um D Mercedes and Es and all of Cl and also for um by default as I mentioned uh last was it Sunday we had a Shure you know people are asking a different times uh when the gets into them they uh and the is on vacation people ask what does it take to sponsor a lecture um so I discussed it on Sunday so we're not going to repeat but uh there's two types of lectures there's the local lectures which are these you know three times a week we have lectures in Florida uh which could range anywhere from uh, 1500 to 4,500 depending on how big the event is how many people and food and so on uh but then there's the lectures where people want me to travel to different places and for those lectures it's a little bit different because it's really more so that they have to invest into the event uh to make sure there's going to be at least a few hundred people uh CU um it's not very easy for me to fly so if I'm already going to fly it has to be something that's worthwhile uh but uh the reason why I mentioning it again is because if somebody uh sponsors a lecture whether it's a partial lecture the whole lecture it's him and a few friends him by himself her by himself all of the blessings it's not just that they get the merits of the that come out of that uh that but they also get the extra blessings as well whether it they need whatever it is that they need the the power of Torah is already by itself uh enormous but uh the Torah being publicized to the world uh for the sake of helping people do chuva there is no greater Merit than that someone asked me just the other day you know people always ask me UHS they don't mean by it but some of the questions when you think about them they're a little bit silly but it's very funny people always ask me about who should who they should donate to they tell me that arim have changed their life and now they are this and they're that and this and now they want to start giving so they give me two three different options of organ ganizations they want to donate to which one do I like the best so uh you know it's it's it's it's interesting but um you know it's I know it's my personal tun but anyway the other day a very nice uh couple asked me uh what do I think of uh there's a few of these organizations that uh is uh collecting money from people for the sake of building the next bet mikdash what do I think should they donate to them and I told them clearly what I'm going to tell you now anyone that's collecting money to build the next beta mikdash is either an ignorant fool that will never see the bet mikdash because they haven't learned t or they're a criminal that will also not see the BET mikdash why because anyone that has read the prophets anyone that has read the Prophecies of what's going to happen at the end of big of time knows that money is going to be the least of our problems at the time of mashia one of the signs that the mhia is the mashiah is that he's going to be able to build a bet mikdash he's not going to need to borrow any money from any banks to say the least he's not going to need to apply for any loans you're not going to see the Messiah going to your local Chase Bank and applying yes sir what's your name first name mashiah okay last name Ben David okay date of birth today okay uh where you from uh here oh okay sure sure what's your annual income zero oh well sorry sir we can't approve you like what are people thinking you think you going need money to build the BET mikash what are we Christians who who thinks of this so who thinks of this criminals criminals or ignorant people it's hard for me to believe that people are that ignorant but I've seen some people that are so ignorant that it wouldn't surprise me that the group or actually several groups uh of organizations are collecting money from innocent souls to to to build the next bet mikdash it's the most absurd thing in the world there's even an opinion by the sages that the bet mikdash is going to come down from heaven ready set with just a couple of stones missing so we can become partners with hem in building it but in reality the whole thing is going to be built but either way guy anyone that asks you for money to build a bet mikdash or to uh to go fund the next manora or uh to go fund a bunch of red cows any of that stuff just put it on the block list you know there on your phone is an you know after you go on contact is you scroll down it says block press block what know outright it's complete nonsense the most important thing that person needs to do first more than anyaka in the world is save thems save themselves what does it mean save yourself chuba every person must do chuba every person every person has to correct their character traits every person has to overcome obstacles every person has to overcome addictions we had a Shure last night with our dear friend Leo and in Chicago which has been a big hit in the last 24 hours and and uh the reality is that addictions to all of all types whether it be drugs uh gambling sex alcohol and so on are unfortunately in every single community and the Jewish communities are not uh not excluded from that list people that want to see mashia have to overcome their addictions you're not going to overcome your addiction you're not going to see mashia if you're addiction is to drive on Shabbat because you don't such a big deal guess what it's a big deal hasm says it's a big deal so the first thing that a person needs to do before he writes any checks fix thems you have an arrogant personality you're a mean person you're stingy you're a uh have some type of uh character trait that obviously everyone else thinks is bad guess what you have to fix it that's how you get yourself prepared for Mia cuz mashia is not going to be you know giving sh once a week oh guys you okay next week I'll see you next Tuesday mhia is going to smell the fear of God smell the fear of God in people and the side judge right there right there alive or dead on the spot no second trials no I'll see you next week we'll give you another chance on the spot that means if we don't start getting ready to fix our Horrible character traits our horrible sins our horrible whatever Hashem says is horrible guess what no amount of takaka in the world is going to help you so first and foremost before you write any checks save yourself once you're already on the path of saving yourself then you have a both a moral and a uh biblical obligation to save others you have to help people get closer to hasem why because they're all his Creations they're all his children and the last thing you want is for AEM to have his mashia have a face to face with you and say listen didn't Hashem give you like half a million dollars in a bank didn't Hashem give you like a million two million $3 million in the bank what' you do with it oh you have a house in the Palms a house in Mexico how how those houses doing for you they did good they went up in price what about all those Jewish what about all those Jewish that you could have saved with that money instead of having 13 houses you could have had one it's enough maybe two you didn't have to have all those houses you didn't have to have all those cars you didn't have to have such a big collection of watches you didn't have to have all these different things okay you want to enjoy the world no problem but did you at least fulfill your the minimum requirement of giving a for the sake of saving other Jewish why because is going to say that's my kid too I gave you money not for you to buy just to buy houses and cars and this and that also to save you are my tool you didn't serve your purpose last thing you want is that meeting why because if even if you're keeping Shabbat even if you're keeping you're keeping kosher I promise you you're not going to want to have that meeting if you have money in the bank you have money invest in all types of things but your kiru account is a halfway homeless why because this is our last chance this is everybody's last chance no more chances after this someone lives someone dies finished mhia comes finished so if a person wants to be wise and wants to invest into the future not the future in this world the future of Eternity they have to invest into K they have to invest into publicizing to there is nothing greater than that in the world because you're literally taking your hard-earned money you're taking your Blood Sweat and Tears and you're telling Hashem hashm I know it's all yours anyway I'm going to take out of the 100% you gave me I'm going to take 10% I'm going to invest it so you can get your other kids back home that's what I'm going to do no one in the world could ever accuse you of anything at that point why anyone that helps the public do the says sin doesn't come to his hand he has special protection from heaven special protector from Heaven of course he cannot be a a thief and donate the money he stole of course he cannot be a Shabbat and help other people keep Shabbat Shem is not going to give him such Merit or her Merit but a person needs to know that there's unfortunately because there's so much money involved in the religious world or if you want to call it even the religious business unfortunately there's a lot of criminals there's simply a lot of criminals some of the criminals have a long beard some of the criminals have big hats some don't some are Christian some are Jews some are Arabs there's all there's no there's no like oh only they are no there's criminals there's young criminals there's old criminals there's female criminals there's male criminals all types of criminals you have to be smart just like if you are going to make a major investment into property or stocks or companies or anything like that you're going to do research you're going to get references you're going to double check is is is you know you're going to check what's the uh what's what's the rest of the neighborhood look like before I buy this house that's looks beautiful you know for for for half a million dollars let me check the neighbors let me see what happens let me see the crime report let me see what's going on here before you invested it why CU you want to check where your money is going into well guess what when it comes to K when it comes to your St when it comes to your money which are two different is 10% sta is as much as you want when it comes to that that's the only thing that we're going to actually have left from this world Thea that we gave the M that we gave and the Torah that we fulfilled the Torah that we learned that's it nothing else the cars the houses the uh fancy pens and watches the uh fun vacations what food you ate on Tuesday none of that's going to help you none of that's going to come with you so it's important that we act wise with our investments now many times people look at their uh money that they donate a lot of money and uh they see that sometimes their donations really haven't helped their life very much they still have they still have problems they donated they built a they bought a SE T you know they did a lot of nice things but their problems didn't go away in fact sometimes their problems increased I remember after I bought a SE years ago when I actually still had money and uh I just did it because it was a good thing to do I didn't necessarily think no one ever told me oh you buy the you're going to heaven and even if they would have told me that I wouldn't believe but uh I bought and you know people made a big deal out of it it was in the newspapers had a big party was nice but the last thing on my mind was that after I B that my life would slowly but surely go down the tubes like instead of things getting better it actually got worse much much worse much worse it got now you asked the average guy listen you know how did your life turn out after you bought if his life got much worse many times the person doesn't want to do it again if the person donated a lot of money for something good and bad things happen after many times he doesn't want to do it again she doesn't want to do it again and that's the mistake that's a mistake and the reason why is because that means that you did research on donations maybe to figure out what's the best donation you did research maybe on your business to make you the money to make such a big donation but unfortunately you didn't do enough research on what is the purpose of your n in this world and that's what we're going to talk about today why does every single person on Earth have problems everyone has problems there's no exception the only people that don't have problems in this world are people that left this world if you have problems that's a good sign you're alive but that means that whether you're doing good things or you're doing bad things you have problems different problems nonetheless but you have problems so the ran over 800 years ago writes in his letter after he tells us to make sure that we correct our character traits after he tells us to make sure to run away from anger to be nice to people to look at people in a favorable way to make sure that we learn from the Torah to uh on a regular basis review it apply it to our life like we talked about last week now he continues and he says he says review your actions every morning and every evening we are if you have the small book we're on page 98 which is the 25th chapter review your actions every morning and every evening now he told us to learn toah he told us to see what did we learn that we could apply to our life he says no no absolutely not absolutely not you actually have to review your actions yeah but if I already applied stuff to my life doesn't that mean that I reviewed my actions no the reason why is because when I say to you guys review your actions what does that mean to you no they don't have to be shy they don't see you on the camera they only see me what does it mean to you when I say review your actions what does that mean to you son you tell me what does it mean to you other than the brownie what does it mean to you review your actions like how you did today like how how what does it mean how you did what your attitude attitude what good attitude bad attitude good stuff bad stuff what maybe like why bad things happening to you like you're okay so review the the bad stuff that's happening in your life yeah but also think like why it's happening to you because so review so what so what's going to cause bad things to happen Sin Sin so so review the bad things you did yeah okay good no anybody else has a different answer and the good things you did why would you review the good things that you did because you you need to know that you need to know both so you can improve on it also well how can you improve if it's already good how can you improve it I don't know what to say cuz you can still do it you know you say you had the answer I'm going to keep focusing on you because you have the answer that's the answer I'm looking for Why do I have to look at the good stuff bad stuff everybody knows because you can't if you only look at the bad you'll get depressed and you'll just think you're some kind no you're going in the wrong direction you're performing a u-turn on me right now why do I have to review the good stuff no who's going to give me the answer why do I have to review good stuff no how to make it even better how to make it better okay that's nice what else what's another reason I have to review the good stuff not be depressed give your kids not to be depressed so I got to give myself Pat in the back I'm going come to your house every day no why do I have to look at the good stuff anybody else want to volunteer any more anwers yeah if you think of yourself as as being good or being perfect then you might think you might look upon yourself as being like Oh I'm good already you get content get content you become prideful yes okay we're both of you are in the right direction but it's not it yet you're always in the middle so you can choose between good and bad but that's still not the answer nice nice you guys no you're you're in it so okay so let me tell you this is a fantastic but it's it's deep it's something that you have to think about for a second because naturally we're never going to come up with it we have to use the sages to come up with this answer if you anyone here would have come up with the answer I would have probably hugged you why I would come up with this answer we had to go back 800 years to come up with this answer so the r is telling you you have to review your actions in the morning and at night meaning there's a lot of stuff going on a lot of stuff going on so reviewing your actions is introspection or in Hebrew it's and the says that a person has to carefully examine his ways on a daily basis just like a successful businessman constantly supervises and evaluates their Investments a person has to designate a special time each day to do his his personal accounting to conducted you know everything he did in a uh in a positive way in a good way and is getting good returns you have a store at the end of the store I remember I used to work in retail when I was a teenager every day at the end of the day you know you open the the boss opens the cash register and starts looking at the receipts how much they made for the day either has a smile or he has a frown you know it's how do we do today cuz you have an average you're making a th000 a day 10,000 a day 20,000 a day if you met that average you're happy you did above that average you're even happier you went below average something's wrong you do below average more more than a few times you have to make changes if you have any type of company you have to do this type of analysis on a regular basis sometimes daily sometimes weekly sometimes monthly uh but the point is is that as a businessman every person understands that you have to review what's going on your profit and loss if you will the is telling us you have to do it as a human being also but you cannot wait for the whole week to go you can't wait for the whole month too you can't even wait the whole year all the way to R why it's too late already you have to do it every day you have to review it in such a way that the explains is that you have to scrutinize yourself and review all of your horrible things that you already know about yourself you went to aure the Rabbi says you're not allowed to steal not from Jews not from Gentiles okay you already know at that second you heard that statement whether you're a thief or not you know you're a thief so if the Rabbi says you're not allowed Torah says you're not allowed you already know you have to fix that if you're a thief Torah says you're not allowed to be arrogant why says I hate arrogant people you already know if you're an arrogant person if you think you're better than everybody else guess what you're arrogant if your wife is complains to you're arrogant I promise you you're arrogant people in your workplace complain that you're an arrogant person or you think who you are and all types of other Expressions that are similar to it that's what you are you have to fix that why hasm hates it everyone knows their bad stuff immediately if I say what's bad about you every single one of us that's normal immediately 1 2 3 four five things pop up I got to fix this I got to fix I got to get over this thing I got to do it but that doesn't require day and night you already know it when you woke up you go you know night had it for 30 years so the explains is that you have to it says he has to scrutinize and he has to evaluate the scrutiny is over the wrongdoings the things that are obvious but the evaluation is evaluating your good things why are you valuing your good things reasons that you gave were wonderful don't get prideful you know don't get content yeah that's nice the sages say something different they say listen let's look at what the ramban said last week he said study Torah every day and apply it to your life and don't get up until you apply it don't just uh treat like a history book now he says review your act is day and night why now that you've learned Torah now that you've learned a few new things in your life now review your good actions are they still good before you learned to you thought they were good you thought it was a Mitzvah to steal money from go because somebody told you yeah just steal from go what's the big deal now that you learned that in a million and a half different places it says that stealing from go is worse than stealing from Jews worse it's too not just theft it's also is that stealing still good yeah but RAB donated the money to a synagogue that synagogue is not going to stand because the money is not clean that's what the P says the P says there are certain people that fool themselves into thinking that you're allowed to steal from go there's a there's a leniency and they make themselves feel better by donating the money to synagogues and they get C from the community good job thanks for donating we wouldn't be here without you so he feels good he says they don't realize that they're worse than anybody else it's worse to steal from go than to steal from Jews cuz not only is it theft that's forbidden forbidden in Forbidden in every place but also it leads to also it leads to giving power to also it leads to giving the angel the of theim the right to steal from the angel of the Jews all types of horrible things happen when we steal from Jews now you guys are probably thinking I'm thinking oh yeah stealing probably don't don't Rob his house no I don't mean that what if a says to you uh listen I uh I want to buy Kosher meat I want to buy kosher meat why I want to eat kosher now all of us know go are not obligated to eat kosher meat they not there's no like if if if a eats a pig or eats a bat or eats a cow it doesn't make a difference as long as it's dead allowed to eat it no problem there's no like uh prohibition from eating any of these these people say oh this stuff is happening because they eat animals no it has nothing to do with that it has to do with eating live animals eating live animals is forbidden for everybody now so what if this guy wants to elevate himself says I only I'm not going to eat this bats and cats and dogs and all everything else I want to eat what you guys eat I want to eat the kosher cow that's slaughtered and everything else and preserved and it's salted and so on I want to eat that now you know came to sh he doesn't have to do it doesn't change anything about him he doesn't become Holier because he's eating Kosher meat it doesn't affect his mind like it affects a Jew like it has no nothing to do nothing no no no effect on the non-jew at all if he eats Kosher meat if a Jew eats Kosher meat it affects his n non Jew eats Kosher meat nothing so now you go to the back and you see I got Kosher meat this guy is going to buy $1,000 worth of kosher meat so I got the kosher meat box and the kosher me box cost me let's say 600 700 I'm G to sell them for a th000 it's a good profit but then I have the bad stuff the stuff that is not Kosher you know the the slaughter went bad so usually what do you do you sell it to the Arabs because the Arabs don't you know they have Hal they also slaughter their animals just in a vicious way so in essence all of the bad Slaughters we sell to to the Arabs that's why you're always going to see the kosher butcher right next to the Halal meat on the same block cuz they buy the meat from us when it's not good well it's not good for us it's still good for them I mean it's still a good product but it's just not Kosher for us so now he sees oh here's the kalal meat right next to it here's the but now you cannot sell the kalal meat you cannot sell the non Kosher meat for $1,000 this dropped in price by uh 60% 400 bucks if you're lucky but this guy doesn't know it can I sell him can I sell him the non Kosher meat for a th000 bucks you'reall going to say no cuz we already started the top but tell me why tell me why first of all the Kosher meat doesn't affect him second of all he doesn't have to eat kosher meat three he's never going to know he's never going to know and four I'm going to take the $600 profit instead of the $400 or $200 profet I'm going to take the $600 profet and I'm going to give it to I'm GNA give it to organization I'm G to do it I'm GNA doah with it well what's the problem no give me a reason why why am I not allowed to do this he says he wants Kosher meat whether it affects him or not it's not up to you to decide right so he said Kosher meat you have to give him the koser meat that's the deal why simple as that why I need a why why I know that the reason no I got you but I need a why it's called I'm stealing his mind he whether it affects him or not like suon said doesn't make a difference to me but he is under the impression that he is buying Kosher meat he is paying for kosher meat that's the impression he's under what it's going to do for him not going to do for him that's not my business reality is he's under the impression that it's going to do something for him he's paying for it I'm not allowed to get in the way I'm not allowed to steal his mind I'm not allowed to sell him a fake watch and tell him it's real I'm not allowed to give him fake dollar bills I'm not allowed to sell him a house tell oh this house is fantastic and I know the house has to change change the pipes in two weeks oh this house yeah it's amazing amazing house the block look all the neighbors are nice people what a wonderful house you have you look at the look at the house yeah yeah how much you want for it 600,000 okay deal now the guy that sold it knew that the house has to change the pipes and he ALS he didn't do it himself why why didn't he do it himself because you change the pipes it's going to cost you 50 $60,000 guess what according to the Torah that's that deal can be cancelled if you can prove that he knew that there's a problem you cancel the whole deal why because you didn't buy it under the the the impression and the the knowledge that you're going to have to spend $60,000 to fix this place you bought it as if everything is good if the guy knew there's already something bad you have a very serious problem now whether that buyer is a Jew or a non-jew doesn't matter you're not allowed to do it to either one of them but it's actually worse if he's a non-jew it's worse if he's because it leads to now some are going to tell you wait a minute hold on a second there is a r that says that the the mistake of the is allowed it's allowed if you didn't know about it and he made it on his own and in some opinion say that's not even that's not allowed but if you knew about it you tricked them it's forbidden by all opinions meaning if you're in a jewelry business okay and somebody comes to you and he says listen I want to sell this uh inheritance that I have got this I don't know this piece of jewelry whatever this watch you want to pay me uh pay me anything for it you look at it it's like ah it's not worth anything it's not worth anything I'm not even I want it and you know in your heart this thing is worth $150,000 you know for sure it's worth wor 150,000 cash you want to destroy this guy's morale cuz he came in there expecting hopefully 10 20 30,000 now you want to destroy the guy and you want to get this guy to sell to you for nothing guess what in sham you are 100% a thief gazel 100% 100% Thief you knew it Thief not allow now you go to 47th Street you go to different places in Miami different places in Los Angeles you can tell them this they're going to put me on say this guy's not allowed in any Jewish Community but that's not me it's not allowed to cheat people not allowed and you're going to say yeah but they're donating a lot of money donate all you want you have to review your good actions did the good action that you do was it really good or you just think it's good you gave money as a donation did you give the donation because you care because you want everyone to say oh Mr Mr Smith and Mr Ruben and Mr this one and that one they're the ones that built this is that the reason you it's not even a good action what's good about it you got that's good that's what kind of mitvah is that that's like a mitvah with holes in it show the sh with ripped clothes you look like a rockster what is that that's that's what the is saying to us when you review day and night it's not just review the bad the obvious you know that if you're stealing for sure you know if you're murdering for sure you know if you're eating for sure you know if you're cheating for sure you know no review the good stuff the things that you thought was good but what would lead you to now think otherwise because now you learn to you learn toah you reviewed it you found new insights you learned a new you learn a new insight about something that you never know before now it's time to fix it now you have to review and compare it to your actions that's the amazing of the ran here now when a person looks at things that way all of a sudden he turns himself into suspect number one he no longer cares so much about what everybody else is doing wrong you know there's a lot of people they could Point what's wrong with everybody else oh yeah she's cheating he's lying he's this he's ugly she's fat she's this everybody has something wrong except themselves a person does not flaws in himself why doesn't he see any flaws in himself because he's only looking at everybody else except himself once a person does this he starts reflecting on himself based on what does the Torah really say and compare it to what is he actually do in comparison to the Torah T automatically nobody else matters why I'm the biggest criminal in the world even my Mitzvah I'm not even sure has is going to accept them they're like a Mitzvah on discounts like from like a home that gave it to me yeah what kind of Mitzvah he starts analyzing how you're supposed to pray and then he compares the last 20 years of prayers and he says honestly surprised if hasem just put my uh my prayers on a Do Not Call List you look at your prayers you look at what what a says you're supposed to do you look at the that you give you look at what expects from us start reviewing your oh wow you get embarrassed you get embarrassed that's why in this week's when was complaining was complaining they they want this they want that they complain to [Music] two of the greatest human beings on Earth the gar says no one else was greater than them the Torah didn't give such a high description such high attitude towards such appreciation towards anyone more than them even abah and Jakob they called Moshe calls Moshe isim the man of God he was your loyal servant no one know loyal be just a Jew what servant M the king of if it wasn't for him we would all still be in Egypt till this day 3,300 years later no one else could do the job no one else wanted the job we are nothing we're nothing he tells complaining to me what drink this that complaint to me I'm nothing How could somebody so amazing strong beautiful smart uh holy everything you could describe he has how could such a person arrive at such a conclusion that not only he's not all those great things he's the exact opposite is nothing tell me honestly who here really thinks they're nothing don't lie to yourself don't raise your hand nobody thinks they're nothing you know how I know says in the Torah no one is ever going to be no one ever was no one's ever going to be like the humblest human being that ever existed no one is ever going to think again I'm nothing like m even if you're depressed you still think you're you still think you're more than nothing even if you're suicidal you still think you're more than nothing I met one guy that was a uh um he had a um what is it called some type of disease that uh you know makes him look very weird and act very weird to the average normal person and you start you know you talk to the guy this guy's more arrogant than anybody else in room he's like yeah you're looking for a yeah no but I I don't want somebody like me though he says so what do you want no I want a nice beautiful girl this that do that I'm thinking about this guy will look in the mirror does he understand a pretty big you know gap between where he is and what he wants like is he in this world no he thinks what's the difference what's the difference what what what's the matter he doesn't think he's nothing nobody thinks they're nothing except mhu M raenu says I'm nothing how can you arrive at such a conclusion when you evaluate each one of your actions and you see how you perform them how you can perform them how you should perform them how you're serving AEM versus how you're supposed to serve AEM anyone that's proud of their f every day you know a lot of people tell me listen you know I pray three times a day like they accept they expect like applause yay three times a day wow there's nobody like you sad from now on you come to B I'm gonna stand up because you pray three times a day no no I put on feeling every day this week except Shabbat you know what next K is about you you want to see somebody pray go watch the video that I have on my channel of the closen bger Reby the every single day we're not talk about every single day every single day the way he would pray I wish I could pray like that once in my life forget about every day once in my life if I could pray like that I'd be happy every day the way he cried to a like a little baby and he would continue for hours it wasn't like a show it would continue for three four hours people would just come there and just get just by standing there and crying with him not even knowing why he's crying cuz he's the biggest sadik in the world but they're crying cuz he's crying three hours four hours 10 minute prayer for the average person 15 minutes max two hours 3 hours crying hysterical hysterical crying tears and everything people would travel from all over the world just to show up just to be in the same room when he prays he didn't have to speak much he CED you hear him pray you do either you do commit suicide one or the other something's going to happen you cannot say the same human being if you hear and pray anyone that's proud of their prayer you should hear how you're supposed to pray that's actually how you're supposed to pray if you believe the is in the room that's how you're supposed to pray where are we and where is he so when you start evaluating the stuff you think is good no one says get into a depression but be real be honest is it really that good is it as good as it should be is it as good as it could be do you invest into it as much as you do into all the other stuff that you do once you evaluate it you you could start now finally understanding howu are arrived at the conclusion that he's nothing because he knew his potential he knew what he can do and he also knew Hashem in a way that no one else in the world ever knew he knew what's owed to Hashem now the beautiful thing is is that once a person evaluates these things he starts looking at things very differently now the says that when you say uh push the scrutiny or examination of yourself he says that that's the essence of The Human Experience meaning that's in essence the ultimate level that a person needs to get to immediately in order to start fulfilling their role in the world evaluating everything and he quotes schl that says in Proverbs 20:4 he says it's bad it's bad says the buyer when he goes on his way then he boasts he says that you know sometimes guy comes to the store and he wants to buy something but he knows this dealer doesn't know who he is so he's probably going to try to take advantage so he says I want uh I don't know phone I have uh 500 bucks to spend I want a phone I want a car I want whatever I want and the guy's going to tell oh hey we have this for sale especially if you go to a used car lot for sure they're thieves hey you want a car here good deal 500 bucks the buyer says nah it's no good it's no good I don't want this so guy say oh it's no good okay gives him another option okay okay what about this one this one is a good deal steal I honestly I can't believe I'm giving it to you I'm losing money on this one yeah I love those I'm losing money on this one why you said that you lose money on every customer how do you stay in business campaign I'm losing money on this one and he says no no it's not for me not for me it's no good it's no good he says no good no good no good says no good no good and eventually the guy the seller gets so frustrated like I gotta make I already spent three hours with this guy I gotta make a sale so finally what does he do he gives him the best stuff he goes here here's this one okay take this one okay okay I'll take it and now the buer goes home and says Ah I got the best stuff I got the best stuff where the buyer says it's bad it's bad but on his way home he boasts I got the best stuff the says this is how a person needs to do with his own MIT he has to evaluate his own to his own and his own character traits the same exact way in his quest for goals a person can never be satisfied with what he's already done don't give anybody the accounting of all of the good things you did in your life this is one of the worst habits people have you meet them and if uh if you're in I don't know for whatever reason people love to tell me all 25 minutes they tell about every mitvah that they've ever made in their life it's almost like I feel like they're pitching me but I don't know what I'm buying oh you know I know Rabbi this one okay oh you know I I went to elect RAB by that one wow you know I donate to that RAB by that one amazing I can't believe I'm talking to you you know my family built this place I feel like I'm talking to M no you're female I'm talking to her and they tell you and they go on and on and on about all the people they know and all the what they did and all the they gave and all the books they read and all the rabbis they had and all the students they had and who cares who cares you shouldn't care either as the G says you shouldn't care either why why you content with what you did you should look at what you have and always strive to improve by scre everything that you've done and saying it's bad it's bad and demand higher from yourself all the rabbis that I met good I need to meet more rabbis all Thea that I give it's good I got to make more money so I can give morea can become more generous I gave 10% of my whole life I got to give 20 now all the different prayers you made not good why got to do better tomorrow that's the Nish of a Jew that's the Nish of a Jew that's what a Jew is supposed to be in this world that's what you're supposed to do strive for more you do it for business you got to do it with your it's much more important that's why he gave us different traits that come to people naturally one of them is ambition ambition was only given to us in order to strike for more Torah kindness that's what we're supposed to use that ambition for to make the next prayer better to make the next Daka more generous to to make the next Shure you know even longer even better even more precise with more sources stay alert stay awake do all these different things even better never get content with where you are why that's not the voice suppos to be it's not the way it's supposed to be look at it as it's I did it bad bad I got to do better not depressed like I never you know I'm never going to do better people say oh yeah but if I always think like that then I'm just going to Beed good enough that's a loser mentality saying bad bad doesn't mean that you actually made a sin like your mitvah is a sin meaning I can do better I can do better just like I stride for more when it comes to other things I got to do better with serving hasem now the ram has an entire chapter discussing this we'll go over some of the things in this chapter and he says that in chapter three of he says there are two methods that are necessary for one who wishes to oversee his conduct on one hand he must Ponder what constitutes a true Good Deed that a person should uh should do and one that he has to evaluate what is a true evil that he should run away from meaning the first step that a person needs to do when it comes to self- accounting when it comes to is first and foremost you have to know the difference between good and bad now as a human being you have the ability to determine it once you know what it is most people don't know what it is and the reason why is because they determine what it is based on whether they benefit or lose from it not whether the Creator determined this good or bad now for example if let's say a woman says to you like this tragic video that was sent to me a woman comes to a clinic and she says listen I got this thing in my stomach it's really bothering me my husband says it looks terrible and uh I need a doctor to help me how I need you to remove this thing from me I need you to help me give me a little surgery I'll pay money I'll pay cash no need insurance whatever you need I need you to take care of this why it's bothering me now the doctor now it's his business that's his business to help people now if he says yes does that make him a good doctor or a bad doctor not a trick question go to bed what do you mean is it like aat operation or based on just what I gave you if I wanted to give you more information I give you more information based on the information that I gave you if the doctor performs his job this is his job she didn't go to him because he's a shoe salesman she go she went to him because he's an expert in this stuff she says I got something that's bothering me and it's ruining my marriage and I can't stand it and it looks horrible can you help me out by removing it doctor says yes is he a good doctor doctor says no is he a bad doctor no so far so good so far so good smart boy so far so good if he says yes a good doctor now if we find out the hidden fact I haven't told you which is that this is an 8 and a half month pregnancy it's 100% a real baby there not a goo it's not an amiba it's not a reptile it's 100% a living baby you take that baby out right now it's living a full life but States like Colorado and other states in this awful Edom that we live in that has these rules but unfortunately many other countries also allow for doctors to murder these babies even at8 and a half months why because it's bothering the girl it's bothering the guy it's bothering somebody and the doctores it doesn't bother him to murder now if you took that baby out and he crying he's cute put a little diaper on him put a little t-shirt on him he's so cute but then the doctor comes says know I don't like this baby let me chop let me see how it looks what is that now that's murder so how come it's not murder when it's in inside our belly that's human logic human logic cannot determine good and bad cannot determine good and bad because we look at it based on do we benefit do we lose she's going to look at it as this is good why it's bothering me so it's good for me to kill this baby I don't look at it as a baby because he didn't come out yet the doctor says this is fantastic few thousand today I could go after to that vacation after all for him it's also good but to anyone looking at it with a clear lenses that understands what God wants from us in this world we view it as the worst thing you can possibly do you're murdering a little baby that never did nothing to anybody at least in this world that's why the starts this chapter with this he says the first thing if you want to do evaluation you have to know what's good and bad based on the Creator's opinion cuz he's the only one that can tell you for sure with no bias whatsoever what's always good and what's always bad what's always good B that's why he gave us the Torah now now once a person starts to evaluate their own Deeds says that he has to look at them he has to look at the things that he didn't do he has to look at the things that he did do based on whether they conflict with the Creator's mitv and laws and statutes because anything that conflicts with what the Creator says he must eradicate like you would have a Mitzvah of eradicating Amal which we also learn from this week's at the end of the par if what you're doing contradicts what hasem says to do you must remove it from your life immed like it's a plague like it's cancer like it's a it's murder like it's whatever you think is bad you think the drug addicts is bad okay eradicated like a drug addiction you think that murder is bad eradicated like murder is bad whatever you think is bad if you're doing something that's against the Creator you have to remove it from your life you have to chop it up there is no le leny here you have to be lenient with others stringent with yourself to be because if you're not if you're constantly lenient with yourself what ends up happening is that you end up turning the sins into mitv now he has to survey all of his deeds oversee all of his ways in order to remove any bad tendency or trait let alone a sin or transgression it's also necessary that a person is meticulous in his way and in his ways and weighs them daily just like a merchant will but when he does the accounting now there's the next level what's the next level he has to do what the prophets told us come and do an accounting the sages tell us in page 78 B says come to come do an accounting what kind of accounting now come and do an accounting on your sins and don't just evaluate the sin just okay you you did a sin you wasted seed you uh stole you cheated whatever you did okay now that's not enough you got to look at it the way God looks at it how does God look at it God looks at it that not only did he do something against me but with that time he could have actually done a Mitzvah something for me Hashem doesn't look only at the sin he looks at what was wasted as a result of it what did you miss out of oh instead of coming to sh he went and watched the movie and then let him to to to to sin so not only did he sin by going to a movie by going to a game by watching some type of other filth but on top of it he missed out on the that every second is a that's the way God looks at it once a person looks at it from that perspective it becomes a little more difficult to commit the sins because you think it's not worth it I want to go to the game I want to eat that burger that's not Kosher I want to go with that girl that's not this I want to do that I want to do all everybody wants to do sins that's what says don't ever say you don't want to eat pig it's not true you want to eat pig it's delicious but you have to say what is it what could I do that my father in Heaven says it's not allowed that's why I'm not eating it not because it's disgusting taste wise I don't know people told me it's delicious I'm sure they're right reality is I'm not allowed that's why I don't need it so a person has to look at wait a minute I want to make this sin but now God's going to look at it as not only did I go against him with this sin but on top of it with with that money that I spent on the sin with the resources with the energy stuff that I put into the sin I could have used all of that for a Mitzvah now instead of taking another shot of heroin I could have used that few hundred to I don't maybe help a Jew do chat I could have bought another SE for for for myself to learn from instead of eating that non kosher Burger I could have actually bought a kosher burger or maybe a little less CU it's a little more expensive but the point is I could have done something else that's the way God looks at it he looks at the entire picture and that's the way we have to look at it because if you look at it it becomes much much much easier to stay away from sins not uh the person doesn't sin anymore but once a person starts thinking this way already your desire to sin the big sins drops dramatically because now you're thinking about it you're thinking about the Holy equation the problem is is that says that unfortunately there are many people that are blood they're so blind they it's like they they walk in in darkness and he says in Mish chapter 4 verse 19 the quotes him he says that um fools walk confidently stumbling and perishing without any prior awareness or fear as it says the path of the wicked is like Darkness they know not what they stumble he says some people people are so ignorant they don't even ask themselves what's the consequence of my crime they don't even ask themselves what's the consequence of me going against theem they just oh do whatever they got to do I'm going to live life let me live you live Let Live and Let Live you know that expression that people have when you tell them the truth and you try to rebuke them to change their listen you worry about your life I'll worry about mine I am worrying about your life and I'm worrying about mine also problem is you're not worrying about yours cuz you're just living like a fool it's blind not thinking about tomorrow you're thinking about today he says that the fool is is filled with transgression but yet he feels secure the guy is driving on Shabbat toet and you tell him listen you know you're not to drive on Shabbat listen buddy if I wasn't allowed to drive on Shabbat would God give me a Ferrari if I wasn't allowed drive on Shabbat would everybody as soon as I walk into theet would the give me Aliah if I wasn't allowed to drive on Shabbat he walks in says you know hello to everyone I remember this one guy every time he walked into beet he would give a kiss to every person you know he was like a safari guy so you know it's it's tradition to kiss people but he made a he had a rule he comes he wants to make sure everybody knows he's there he comes he kisses you hugs you shakes your hand all ordeal doesn't matter where you are you're praying you're not praying that make a difference you need to know he's here nice guy shab M shabat send to a uh the besset group pictures of him being on the beach with his wife no one says a thing why he's why would they say anything anything why would they say anything to him it's perfectly fine he's perfectly confident he's secure you know how many people like this there are countless I saw a video today of a person like this someone sent me a a video of this guy that constantly has videos about defending is's right to defend itself which obviously we don't necessarily need anyone doing videos to tell us we have a right to defend ourselves but you want to do it do it I don't know if you actually think it helps people to realize you have a right to live anyway he says that uh although he is secular he doesn't keep he wouldn't mind if they started teaching Torah lessons in regular schools public schools in Israel he wouldn't mind if they told him to he wouldn't mind if they told him to have a class about he wouldn't mind if there was a little bit of Torah in their life where they at least knew how to say kadish when their parents die he wouldn't mind like it's not why why is that such a problem because he says our ancestors you know value the Torah so much they died for it so I wouldn't mind now people are sending this like this is a like this is wowak for standing up for the Torah even though you're secular you know what the truth is the only reason why people are so secular are because of people like him but it's not even his fault he doesn't know that he's a fault why is it not he doesn't know that there a consequence of going against the Torah no one ever told him this G no one ever told him there is hell no one ever told him that tragedy comes to only when we sin no one ever told him that so he thinks he's doing good and other people that are just as ignorant about him are sing this clip around also thinking that they're good not realizing that this is the mentality that's the worst mentality in the world it's better the person be completely on the left than to have such a mentality why because at least you can Define what's good and bad here it looks good but it's really bad that's what the is trying to tell us the fools walk blindly but yet they feel secure he thinks he's doing a Mitzvah the people that are sending this video think he's doing a Mitzvah why you're not keeping yourself but you're saying you don't mind it because you think it's a good thing there's no such thing either the Torah is from God or it's from Buddha either it's or it's from Yosi either it's from God or it's from your local 7-Eleven there's no other option if it's from 7-Eleven Buddha or anybody else why do you follow any of it who cares what these people said if it's from God how dare you even think that you are allowed to sin that you're allowed to go against it and worse yet do it openly as if it's not such a bad thing it's like not only did you cheat on your wife but you put it on the internet to let everybody know and you still expected to stay married to you I mean the audacity I mean it it just it's unbelievable how stupid people are but that's what happens when you never learn the truth for what it is when people sell you Torah based on only reward where if you keep it you go to heaven but if you don't not such a big deal that's the mentality that it it creates it creates a mentality where you think if I do it I go to heaven if not not such a big deal so therefore I choose not to not to keep it and I'll live Heaven here but that one of the 13 principles of faith in a toah is Heaven and Hell or G or uh or a lot of other names seven other names for G if you [Music] want the you have a wonderful name wonderful place in G that's why we teach it that way that's why reward is one of the foundations of Judaism without knowing there's a consequence for our actions we will naturally do the wrong thing naturally because there's no consequence continues he says the worst part the worst type of error the worst type of blind person is not just a person who doesn't know but a person that actually interprets the information wrong it's not that he's blind he sees a little bit but he can't make out what he sees so he thinks it's something else he says that's much worse it's much more evil because they see the beneficial and the good as if it was harmful and they see the harmful as if it's good that's a much worse stage of blindness and of error not only do they lack the ability to see the truth and perceive the evil that's before them they also think that they can find analytical proof and concrete evidence to draw from life to support their evil ideas and their deceitful options their deceitful op opinions this is the overpowering evil that Embraces them and carries them to the abyss AKA AKA that's what the says they can't even see the truth even if you help them and they'll even tell you I can find you proof there's no God I can find you proof that God says that homosexuality is not such a bad thing I can find you proves that uh you could do whatever you want you could abort babies you could do this you could do that he say right you're allowed to abort a baby if the if the mother's at risk right if the mother's at risk you're allowed to abort a baby cuz her life comes before the baby allowed so he's going to tell you listen she's not really dying like what you think but who's God never described how dying really is maybe she's dying you know spiritually maybe she's dying emotionally maybe she's depressed maybe her her marriage will die and she's afraid of that maybe she thinks the baby's really not healthy and therefore the baby's going to die anyway so therefore she might as well kill it already early that's what the do they'll give you things and they'll say oh this my evidence this my evidence see they'll interpret the to the way they want this is very dangerous it's dangerous because we can do it also and not even know that we're doing it if we're not honest with oursel now it continues and he says the way to get out of this the way to get out of this spiritual prison is the follow what Isaiah says in chapter 6: 10 the heart of this people has become fleshy and their ears heavy and their eyes covered shut lest they see with their eyes and with their ears they hear and their hearts will understand and says all of this is because these people are living in darkness people are sinning and they're not willing to see they're not willing to hear because they're sinning and they've become slaves to their evil inclination so how can they get out of it Isaiah says follow those that have already left this spiritual prison and know the truth of these matters completely because they are capable of advising others and gives us one of the sources where he says if you want to know how to overcome your yet how to overcome this warped logic that you've learned in public school and in universities and on the internet you have to listen to somebody that overcame the same yet you have why he was also in prison and he found a way out that means he knows the way you can't go and listen to someone who never got out why how is he going to help you you cannot ask you know the the uh somebody that never went to prison how do I break out of this prison he doesn't know how who are you going to ask you got to ask the guy that broke out of the prison and says you have to learn from the B you have to learn from somebody that knows how or someone that's a real because a real also learns the same things not because he needs to escape out of this prison but he needs to help others learns all subjects things that are relevant to him and things that are relevant to others that's why the the covers all subjects including things that thieves thieves can use in order to steal better it even teaches that why because it we need to know what the thief is thinking so we know how to stop it and he says one who walks along these paths is not capable of seeing or knowing at all if he's taking the right route or he's taking a mistaken one since they all look the same to him from his perspective by prior experience and a Keen Eye having been there once before he knows the route now one who stands on the Gazebo meaning as if like you're on a maze and sees all of the paths that are before him sees how the maze is sees how where the open openings are and discerns the correct ones from the false ones is capable of forewarning those who are walking through them as we speak telling him this is the route take this one take that one any person willing to place his trust in such an individual that has experienced this and got out of it will reach the designated place and one who is not willing to act to listen to such a person and follows his own eyes instead will surely remain lost and fail to reach it so here we see that there is a extraordinary teaching here where it talks about how there's a major advantage from learning from people like who was a major B Ora was a b and obviously many others in this generation years you know thousands of years later because their their understanding of the is to the same level or even more extensive level than the average person because they dealt with it also but they overcame it now with all of that why did we really review all of this because this is the foundational teachings that a person needs to know as a Jew or as a gentile because this is the reason for all of your problems we have a countless teachings in the tah that tell us that it's it's a principle of our faith where the ramban talks about it uh the rambam talks about it the uh um talks about it many many sages discuss this and say that the principle of our faith is that everything that befalls a person whether to his benefit or to his detriment is decreed by heaven in accordance to his deeds meaning that there's no such thing as you getting hurt if you don't deserve to there's no such thing as you losing if you don't deserve to lose it's not such thing as a person dying and don't deserve to die and you can say wait but he was such a ni nice guy I'm no problem he probably is a nice guy but God says he deserves to XYZ he deserves for that stuff to happen to him so when someone says that oh such and such just lost all of his money you're not supposed to say oh he deserved it that's a horrible character trait you're not supposed to make fun of people you could think it in your heart that this is what we learned he deserves it we don't know why it's not your business why he lost it but the point is you're not necessarily supposed to ever think for a second that it's allowed for you to say oh why didn't God do this to him he was such a good guy as if God's wrong why is God doing this to me as if God's wrong you could ask why is God doing this to me because or why is he doing it to him to uncover what the problem is and fix it but never for a second think that God makes mistakes when people say oh where was God during the Holocaust 6 million Jews died if you're asking it in the perspective what could we do to avoid it again H from happening again which the answer is to do chuva then that's a good question where was God during the Holocaust oh he's the one that did it okay so how do we stop doing it how do we stop from happening again by doing cha okay but if you're asking that question where was God during in a holocaust like I can't believe he did it that's a problem that's a very serious problem cuz in essence you are you know standing in a putting yourself on a stage like an idol as if you're right and God's wrong if you think God was wrong for killing six million Jews you have a very serious problem with God if you think that anything that God ever did is wrong you have a very very serious problem with God this this is why we speak against certain people that give people the uh at least the thought if not the complete outright lies that they say as if that can even be implied that God can be wrong because if God can be wrong that he's fallible he's he's flood if he's flood why we worshiping him at all so when a person evaluates their actions it leads to a lot of solutions so the in page 5 a says that if a person sees that they have afflictions befalling them they have all types of suffering in their life lost money divorce uh health issues whatever kind of suffering people have should investigate his needs like we just talked talked about for the last hour to determine which sin he may have made that would cause such suffering as it says by the uh the prophet in uh um Jeremiah says in mikah in Lamentations 34 3:40 let us search and examine our ways and turn to hasem but what if he examined his deeds thear says and he didn't find anything he looked at his actions can't find nothing he says I give staka I keep Shabbat I'm nice to my wife I send my kids to a good Yesa I'm modest my wife's modest why is God doing this to me why did he just give me a pain in my leg a pain in my this a pain in my what what's what's what's going on God what's going on I got problems God what's going on ra tell me what's going on you talk to God all the time don't you no what does he say to you he mention my name so says you got problems review search your way search for a sin you didn't make it you didn't find any sins he should attribute this afflictions to a neglect of Torah study why you have all these problems you're not studying enough T that's the first answer there's several that's the first answer the says if you got problems and you don't know why because you reviewed all your actions everything looks kosher but that's to you you look like an angel you should really be putting the right now with your clothes on so says oh so if you have suffering that's because you're not studying enough Torah but then the comes he wait hold on a second how could it be how could it be he couldn't find anything wrong with him so he should rely on the fact that he just made one of the biggest sins in the entire not studying enough T not studying enough T is is is is is one of the worst things you could possibly do it's that God wrote you a love letter and he said God give it to somebody else do me a favor God wrote you a love letter toiled over it with black fire on White Fire made sure the generation after generation of people survive all these sages all these people good people bad people Wars pgms inquisitions why so you 3,330 years later and you you're finally going to have this love letter from God personally to you and what do you say God do me a favor give it to somebody else I don't have time for this I got work I got to go make some money I gotta go on a date I got to go do I gotta watch TV I gotta watch the game God do me a favor not for me not for me the T says saying such a thing not studying enough T is one of the worst things you could possibly do one of the worst things so how could you not find something and yet you are oh going to rely on worst thing might as well just talk out listen you didn't find anything wrong rely on murder you probably murdered some wait a minute if I murdered somebody I would know no no it's not Mur okay so rely on the fact that you just violated Shabbat on purpose he drove no if I viol shabat on purpose I would know okay rely if you cheat on your wife wait a minute if I cheat on my wife I would know so the says what does he really mean here attributed this afflictions to lack of Torah study he says it has to be lack of Torah study because if you didn't find anything wrong with your actions for sure you did not study enough to to even know that what you're doing is wrong you didn't you don't know anything that's why you think that what you're doing is right when in reality it's wrong so of course that that's a sin and there's many other sins but don't know that the other things are sins cuz you don't know anything you're a donkey with two legs you came to the world you leave the world the same thing nothing changed bank account went up bank account went down you you drank some coffee you ate some steak you work to make some money so you could eat you ate so you could have energy so you could work and then you went back and you worked again to make some money so you could eat and then you ate so you could have some energy so you could work and you worked to eat and you ate to work and you work to eat and you ate to work and like a donkey that's what donkey does his whole life you ever see a donkey go on vacation no you ever see a donkey say listen I want retirement no donkey complain about anything no one understands him anyway like you no one understands you when you complain nobody cares you came into the world you ate you work you ate you work you ate you work you don't know to work donkey the says his failure to to learn to surely is the reason why he doesn't know why he made sense because if he knew Tora he would know for sure a lot of things that he can do better what about ladies some people think that the ladies are not obligated to learn T this is a mistake women are obligated to learn tah every single day just not t they're not supposed to learn gar they're not supposed to learn the mishna but they are obligated to learn M they are obligated to learn the basics of how to keep Shabbat how to keep the holidays how to educate the kids because if she doesn't how's she going to know how's she going to know if if she's keeping Shabbat and she doesn't know how to keep Shabbat how's she G to know how to you know to cook ker food if she doesn't know what ker food is you're relying on for her to to cook for you and she doesn't know the you're probably in who knows what are you going to ask her every time she made you a salad oh listen honey did you wash it 15 times did you watch it four times you watch it two times did you wash it at all or you just put it directly from on my plate fresh with the bugs in it and everything I should say sh instead of on this because the bugs are sh if she doesn't know if she doesn't know that she's supposed to wash it insult it and take the bugs out she doesn't know the kosher law she doesn't know that you eat one bug it's like you ate Pig six times bugs are worse than pigs if she doesn't know how could she be in charge of the kitchen if she doesn't know the laws of which is the most important in America marage she doesn't know whether she needs to count 4 days 5 days 8 Days 20 days 30 days she just goes to the m whenever she feels like it you could have a bunch of kids that are people from from n kids of N and you're surprised that your kid has 18 earrings and 14 holes kid comes out of a gangster out with a gun out of where's this kid come from oh I don't know that's what happens instead of going to Yesa he wants to go to uh all types of places that are not exactly k a woman is obligated to learn tah for the things that are relevant to her she doesn't need to learn she doesn't need to learn Mish but she needs to know the basics how to keep a kosher house how to keep Shabbat how to keep the holidays how to do certain things in order to fulfill her role in the world married a single this is also why it's it's highly recommended for women to also come to find a baby s go to at least once a week don't just rely going to YouTube If you have a good sh locally go to it's much more significant to go to than to watch one online now if a person if a woman or a man sees all types of suffering in their life the says first and foremost because you're not learning enough to you're making mistakes you're making sins you don't even know they sins so hasem is punishing you for them he's punishing you for those sins that you're making and therefore you got suffering now Rashi says that we also have another answer we also have another answer the continues where it says that if he couldn't find any reason to this uh these uh sufferings towards he didn't find anything then maybe he could say this is the afflictions of love this is these suffering is coming to me is because God loves me God loves me so that's Way's suffering why because there are several different places in the where we see that God gives suffering to those he loves for a few different reasons number one if a person is very righteous very he's doing good he's doing Chua but he still makes mistakes he's a normal human being everybody makes mistakes but those mistakes those sins are soig The Accidental sin not on purpose soem says listen I love you so much my dear daughter I love you so much my dear son I don't want you to go to G but there's a bill to pay you made a bunch of mistakes there's a bill to pay I can't just say oh no he didn't make any sins can't pretend they review everything so since I love you so much and you're doing so good you're not committing any purposeful sins you're watching your Bach you're watching your eyes you're watching this you you're doing everything right but you make mistakes here and there so because I love you I'm going to clean you up while you're in this world so I'll give you a little bit of suffering instead of giving you you know five years and G home for that sin I'm going to give you uh you know you're going to break your nail it's going to hurt for you know a day and a half two days instead of giving you 10 years in Gom for that sin remember that sin you did okay remember that okay instead of you know that $5,000 raise you were supposed to get you're not going to get it you're really upset you're not going to get it but I promise you you'll be happy you didn't get it why it's much better than 10 years and gay on so Hashem gives us all types of sufferings because he loves us why because we're making a bunch of accidental sins so he says I'm going to clean you up in this world that's one reason it's one reason another reason Rashi says is that AEM wants to elevate a person to a higher Place Ina than what their merits would give them otherwise he has certain amount of merits he learns an hour two hours a day he does whatever he possibly can do but Hashem wants he likes him so much he likes us so much says you know what what your merits what your merits are going to pay for is the first level of G first level of gedan but I don't want you to be in the first level of gedan I want you to be in level six I want you to be in level five I want you to be even level two now I can't just uh you know decide hey group discount throw this guy in also I can't do that so what I'm going to do I'm going to give you some suffering you're going to accept that suffering with love you're going to overcome this suffering still stick with me that is going to be as meritorious as all of the good things that you're doing you're going to enter G in level two level three LEL four five that's reason number two the also says that there are certain people that also get this afflictions of love where hasem says there's a the P yua actually suggests that uh even even though hasem runs this world based on reward and Punishment based on Justice based on Emit and a person that makes sins must be punished for his sins a person that makes mitv needs to be rewarded for these mitv there are exceptions in his rule book there are exceptions in his rule book what type of exception if you will where there are certain types of people where hasem knows that this person is a new B cha this person's only been religious for five six seven years and if hasem gives him the suffering that he really deserves for things that he did he know he's going to break him and that guy is going to get off the de he's gonna go off he's going to go back to guya he's going to go back to being a gambler he's going to go back doing a b a bunch of bad things and hasm doesn't want to break him but the problem is there's still an outstanding P there the bill there's a bill that's old you can't just ignore the bill you can't ignore the bill the bill has to be paid but in His Infinite Wisdom knows if he gets this guy to pay the bill if he gets this girl to pay the bill that they owe they're going to break them he's going to break them and what's going to happen is they're going to turn into Heretics again so hasem in His Infinite Wisdom says okay someone to pay the bill he can't afford it he can't afford to pay the bill it's going to break her she can't afford it if if she pays the bill it's going to break her since hasm promised us that he's never going to give us a test that we can't pass but yet we still have to pay the bill what does he do he says there's a tadik there's a sadik somewhere in the world that he is on a very high level and any suffering that he gets he accepts with love he accepts it with love he says hem thank you very much for making me suffer I appreciate it hm I know you're cleaning me up I know I did thank you Hashem thank you he says thank you for suffering like we say thank you like we won a lot of soem says Ah I'm gonna give the suffering to him I'm gonna give the suffering to him he's gonna accept the suffering with love he is going to go even to a much higher gun inen and that way the bill is paid that's what the 36 36 it's part of their role in the world if you will there are others as well but the point is is that sometimes you see that there's a very righteous person some uing quite frankly it's very rare to see a righteous person not suffer whether you look in the tah or you look in the real world you look at the tah there's not one righteous person that didn't suffer Jeremiah the prophet Jeremiah cursed the day he was born because of how much he was suffering how much torture is put him through they tried raping him raping him imagine you're the the Babas you are you are the you're coming to people you're tell them listen you got to do what do they do these disgusting filthy people they try to rap him can you imagine such a thing God willing you can't but that's what he had to go through he he C he cursed the day he was born that's how much suffer he went through and he still tried to help everybody still tried to help him do cha unfortunately didn't work out but that was destroyed but the suffering that he went through might as well be get does anybody know anything about mosenu how much suffering mosu had I'll give you an example imagine mosenu just saved you out of broke you out of prison you were in prison no no end sentence you are going to get life life in prison forever that's it never giv out on top of it slavery on top of it you may you may not even make it they're going to kill you in there or chop of some body parts have fun with them all types of fun stuff he broke you out of prison and better yet he broke your wife out out of prison also he saved her and he helped her do cha he helped you do cha he helped the whole sh go through that's a good thing right that's what he did with millions and millions of people what do they do to him why'd you break out my wife well you want my wife you have your eye my wife why you looking at my wife why you talking to my wife all of them started accusing M the holiest man that ever walked on this Earth the only person that spoke to God face to face like you and I speaking right now not seeing an image but rather speaking like right now they accused them of warning their wives why because they noticed that the wives are listening to the rabbi Moshe much more than they're listening to the husband so they got jealous they didn't like it so much not that I'm even the shoestring of a shoe of M but that feeling I know a little bit why sometimes you see people you help them out you help their marriage out but then the husband says listen stop talking to Raben why I I think you got something for you she say them what's something for me he's in Florida we are in Arkansas I never saw the guy no no I don't know something something people psychotic why because the wife is asking a questions you answer them oh no psych that's what happened to M that's not bad enough they accused him of wanting all of their money trying to steal everybody's money take the money for the BET mdash put it in hiset pocket you should press the battery in the back son the uh phone they accused them of trying to steal all the money you call them a loyal servant they accused them of wanting wives they accus them of of wanting their money M cries to and sayem they didn't even pay me for my donkey to come to free them from Egypt that came on a donkey didn't even pay me for my didn't even pay for my air fair either nothing not even gas me but they're blaming me for wanting their money wanting their wives and wanting everything so sometimes there's a righteous person there's a righteous person in the world that hasem has and God shifts the oness of punishment that's meant for the average people onto the righteous people who bear it with love since the righteous person who afflicted for this reason is suffering on behalf of others and he's credited with reward that is consequently taken from people this is in Chapter 2 uh 38 so now this explains a lot because sometimes you're going to see a righteous person suffering why is this person that learned so much T doing so many MIT suffering what kind of sins that he does he even have time to to make he's learning to all all day it could be it's not even his sins the de says it could be it's not even his sins he's suffering it could be suffering for your sins could be suffering for somebody else's sins that's actually where the Christians got the demented idea for their God for their Idol Jos oh he's suffering for our sins he died for our sins all that nonsense any idea that has any validity whatsoever or even a remote validity has to come from Judaism but they've turned that into idolatry where talking about righteous people people flesh and blood they go to GH they die and so on now the the in says that even a person who observes all of the MIT and doesn't sin might never feel some desire for pleasure in this world now this inclination even though it's a natural inclination is stands as a barrier between him and his full potential his full spiritual potential and in order to free him from this limitation God will afflict him with suffering which has the effect of distancing him from the pursuit of this world and muting their siren Call God sees how hard you're working on serving a serving him but he knows you have a desire to go to a casino he knows you have a desire to go play some cards so what does he do he takes all your money away that way that way you can't go to the casino no one go you can't go to the casino broke what are they going to do what are you going to do they just look at everybody he knows you want to go but you're trying to serve him at the same time but you want to go but you're trying to serve you trying to go you do he just takes all your money that way you can't afford to go can't the F to go he knows you want to go play football he knows you want to play football you love the game but it's only if exercise no I'm not going so he breaks your leg breaks your leg why now that way you can't play meaning sometimes hasem will do certain things in order to actually Elevate you because you're already doing something good to keep you away from your own he's fighting for you he's fighting for you lastly the SL say says a person who's weak and Ill finds it more difficult to study tah and perform than someone who's strong and healthy therefore their reward is greater according just like the says chapter 5 verse 23 the reward is in proportion to the exertion so this means that by suffering bringing suffering on the righteous God is increasing the opportunity for reward meaning that because hem knows that it's much more difficult to learn T if your back feels like there's like lava going in there instead of blood he knows why he's the one that put it there difficult it is God knows how difficult it is to to learn to with a headache God knows how difficult it is to learn when you have your something hurts your financial ISS issues marriage issues health issues God knows that it's difficult and he's still gonna give it to you why he says look if you would study Torah with one leg over the other drinking coffee eating some bambba okay you're going to get a reward you'll get you'll get your reward you'll go to level one but if you study despite the headache despite the financial crisis despite the marriage crisis despite the Health crisis you're going to you're going to learn to anyway you're going to level 10 why because it's that much more difficult this is why there are many stories in the Tor that some of the sages actually brought suffering on thems one of the famous stories in thear is razar rimon the son of rimon when he found out the value of suffering in this world he was he was a very big person and he would eat enormous amounts of food in order to learn to for 30 40 50 60 hours straight something that's not human with full passion and fire now one day somebody insulted him and he questioned himself maybe I deser this maybe I did something bad maybe I imp purified myself so he checked it how did he check it says that he told his uh friends that do me a favor take some fat out of my body because I want to see what happens to this fat are the Flies going to go there are the maggots going to eat it what's going to happen did I sanctify my body and make it holy or is it just like everybody else so you have a that specifically talks about the first lipos suction in history but the lipos suction they're describing is something that's not even available today they took three buckets three buckets of fat you can't do that today they had much more advanced technology in 2,000 years ago than they have today they took this out and he put this where he put this you put on a roof in Israel over here on the top of the roof where it's hot sun just to see what happens he comes back later on now if you put a steak outside in Florida within a matter of a few hours that Stak is not only bad there's stuff coming out of it maggots and all types of disgusting stuff you're not eating this thing needless to say if you put you know fat of a person with the blood and everything else within half a second there's uh enough flies to build a new city he L he takes the buckets of fat he leaves it there they come back later on I think it was the next day or a few days later not a single fight the fat is still fresh like they just took it out of his body so this is how holy he was just just you imagine who this person is he found out how valuable suffering is so every night he would pray to Hashem to bring suffering on himself don't try this at home I promise you you'll get suffering without praying for it you're alive you'll get suffering you don't have to pray for it he was at a much higher stage than we can even imagine he prayed for suffering to come on him you know what kind of suffering came on him do you guys remember what I told you that I went to the hospital for an absess or two absess or three abscesses remember I told you that I went to the hospital I was in pain agne surgeries all types of fun things his entire body was full of abscesses now what absis the entire body became like job they would have to changed the bed sheets 60 times every single night because of all the puss and blood that would come out of his body throughout the whole night then in the morning he would tell them my dear friends go your way I have to go learn toah and miraculously he would heal he would go learn to her the whole day and then at night my dear friends he called them my dear friends come come my dear friends and he would have this Agony and pain the whole night now his wife didn't know one day his wife hears him pray for this Agony and pain and she says you're doing it you're praying for this I wasted my entire inheritance from on bed sheets for you and you're the one that's wasting all of our money if you don't stop it I'm divorcing you I'm leaving youim says to her fine no problem you can leave you want to leave leave but I'm doing it forem I'm doing it to sanctify myself she didn't understand she left now surely if you don't have a wife you don't have somebody taking care of the house your house is going to turn into mess doesn't take long 24 hours it looks like there was a but loves loves loves people that make sacrifices for him so he makes a hurricane happen in the middle of the ocean right next to a ship full of businessmen the ship is about to sink the businessman start screaming to Hashem saying God please save us if you save us the next the next land that we see we're going to stop there we're going to find the biggest sadik over there we'll give him all the money we'll give all the money for Torah in a second the whole wind stopped all of a sudden everything is clear and they see there's a beach right there they stop at the beach they go who's the biggest sad in town who's the no question shim his father he saw somebody sinning put him on fire in a second another guy made fun of he looked at him he turned to Bones that's how holy he was saw one person made fun of him not that he wanted to kill him he just thought oh he made fun of me they it hurt him a little bit has says well somebody hurt you he turned the guy to Bones just turn the bones bones that's it you know give it to your dog another guy was violating something went on fight was not that much less he was also at a high level also did amazing things they came in they saw he's there they went to his house they see this mess blood everywhere mess there all types of things what the is living like this all they brought all types of cleaning people turned the whole house into a castle a little time passed by a few months T passed by his wife missed him so she sent her son she says listen go to Aba and tell him listen I still love you and I'm willing to come back if you just please stop so the son comes and he sees the house turned into a castle full of servants and people working there he says ABA what happened here goes listen when your mom left my Father in heaven sent me other employees to help me he helped me she's supposed to be supposed to help me supposed to be my when she quit her job something other employees other helpers but tell her I love her too and she can come back she came back she came back this rabai a person who understands the value of suffering should not pray for it because like I told you it'll come naturally you won't have to pray for it but this should give us a perspective a little bit where if you have suffering you have to thank AEM that's what the says you're supposed to thank hem for the suffering as much as you thank AEM for the reward because even the suffering is good for you it's good for you now one of the ways that you could understand and I can understand from looking at our own perspective now since we all believe in the 13 principles of faith we all know that there is no suffering without sin whether you sined today or you sinned 10 years ago or you even sinned in your previous Carnation previous life whatever sin you whatever suffering you have in this world it's coming for a reason this life past life doesn't make a difference most of us it's for this life we're making enough SS point is suffering is coming for a reason Reon right there's no doesn't just do nothing for no reason not having a good time with you now we complain to Hashem because we don't like this suffering we don't like not having money we don't like not having a spouse we don't like not having kids we don't like having health problems we don't like not having whatever it is that we don't have we don't like having these problems right so we think that Hashem is short changing us but Hashem is saying in his tah not only am I not short Chang in you I'm actually giving you the best thing that you can possibly have how is that possible your perspective is so far from Hashem you're saying Hashem why you doing this to me it's not fair that I don't have any money it's not fair I don't have this I don't have that I have it's not fair and Hashem says what I gave you is actually the best thing in the world for you how can you be so far apart that's because we only think as a human and God thinks like God we have a limited perspective he has an unlimited perspective and I'll give you a little bit of light of what that means we're thinking that whatever sins we have it doesn't necessarily deserve this punishment okay whatever I did is probably bad but I doesn't deserve that I don't have any to pay rent for three months in a row it doesn't deserve the punishment of uh my wife wife wanted to throw me out it doesn't deserve that the kid happened this and the kid something happened to the kid it doesn't deserve all these things we're thinking from our perspective it's not such a big deal I deserve to be rich I deserve to be successful I deserve to have this this this and this God on the other hand says not only are you wrong where it is a big deal but also even worse there's a bunch of other sins you owe me on so now what does that mean your options are no longer the option you think you have meaning you no longer have the options of being rich that's an option but not for you you no longer have the option of marrying this girl or this guy that's an option but not for you what options are now available to you the options that are available to you are now based on these actions once you've turned there's a road there's a split Road let's say split into 10 ways once you took a ride to the right Road the destination of the other nine roads are no longer an option you now have a whole new set of options because you took a right by making a sin by doing something you now have a whole new set of options and the out of all of the options that are now available to you this is the best one what was available oh Hospital death uh you know the government putting you in jail for 20 years uh your wife cheating on you your kid all types of horrible things what' you get oh your uh your foot broke God says out of all the options you deserved I took the best one for you cuz trust me the other ones were much worse the other ones that were available to you based on your actions were much much worse than the one that I gave you that's why it says everything Hashem does is always for the good what does it mean always for the good is it good in our perspective no because we don't know what's available to us but once we know that based on our actions the things that are available to us are horrible and what we got is actually the best case scenario that means that if a guy is homeless if a guy is homeless him being homeless is actually the best case scenario of what was available to you it's not necessarily good you shouldn't say oh you're homeless good for you no but BAS Bas on his actions out of what was available to him that was the best option available to him if a person is sick he's sick or person died you don't celebrate that he died you don't celebrate that someone's sick but you never question AEM why because Hashem whatever options were available to that person that was the best option him getting sick was the best option why it's better than death yeah but him dying how can him dying be better what's worse than that well he died maybe he died before he made a sin that would be too far where he would lose soem killed him without losing his the point being is that everything hasem does is always for the good always for the good but that's what it means it means that we have a new set of options every time we make a decision whether to do good or to do bad you make a mitvah you are now changing eternity all of the infinite amount of options that you had available to you before you did that Mitzvah before you helped K before you helped somebody do CH before you learned another before you gave somebody a before you invited someone to a sh before you gave somebody a CD before that you had let's say a thousand options of things that were supposed to happen to you once you made that one mitvah you have a whole new set of options that are much greater much better than anything you had before unfortunately it also works in the opposite way so a person needs to know that whatever they're getting whatever suffering they're getting the reason why our sages call it suffering of you know uh afflictions of Love or suffering uh of love it because of reality it is Hashem is always going to pick the best option for you the least painful but it's not his fault you keep making bad choices he can't make the choices for you he can't force you to do a mitvah he can't force you to go to G you have to choose that that's your test in the world you have to decide whether you're going to learn toah or not you have to decide whether you're going to marry a Jew or not you have to decide whether you're going to convert or not you have to decide whether you're going to do the right thing or not you have to decide these things that's your purpose in the world and that's why the sages constantly said that you have to review your actions review your actions day and night don't lie to yourself says in his ESS one strategy to do this divide your day into manageable segments he says divide your day into the times you eat you eat three times a day okay so divide it into three where wake up in the morning say to yourself I'm not going to sin I'm not going to sin until breakfast now I'm not going to sit all day that's a big commitment you know people want to make big Comm commments no I'm never going to waste seat again Rabbi oh that's hold on there hold on you you're addicted to this sin for 20 30 years you're already all of a sudden you're going to abandon it what do you the styple gone that quit 80 years of smoking cigarettes in one second relax relax don't sin till breakfast can you do that that's what that's saying don't sin till breakfast can you do that can you handle that oh for sure Rabbi what an animal okay do that now once you get the breakfast it's time to do the first the first self accounting what did I do till now I just woke up two hours ago I finally had breakfast what did I do till now that make any sense oh make any sense I pray to put on because you're not allowed to eat before you put on so I did everything I need to do I didn't any okay so now you did the first the first accounting now you make the second commitment says commit not to sin from breakfast until lunch until lunch that's it not so hard small time frame no the whole week the whole year no no just to lunch I can do this I can do this the guy goes on like he wants to make a sin but it's 11:30 it's almost lunch I want to sin I want to sin I want but it's 11 survive another half hour I only survive another half hour just that's it I can make it to the Finish Line he gets to 12:00 gets to 12:30 he's got his lunch I got my burger it's a Burg I didn't sin till now he feels like he thinks he's floating cuz he hasn't sinned at 12:00 in the afternoon says number two accounting number two what have you done so far you make any sense no any whatever you did okay good now commit now you've accounted what you did that's good what you did that's bad what what's going on if did if it's really good if it's really bad and so on now commit not to make any sins until dinner until dinner you got what 5 six seven8 n hours commit that's it not the whole day don't be crazy now commit till dinner survive till dinner with no sins why don't you've survived till dinner how much time do you have left how much you have time left say say I'm not going to till the morning I'm going to learn an hour or two go to sleep that's it Kal finish finish the day you survived an entire day without sinting big sins without sinning purposeful sins that's how works that's how it works when you look at your day in such a meticulous precise way you can find out how you can literally sanctify yourself in a relatively short period of time and see how where you are today and and where you are in 6 months 12 months 2 years 3 years from now is Worlds Apart but you got to put yourself in in a place where you know you're not putting yourself into a trap because you know your own limitations we'll finish with this we always talk about the sages as if the sages do not have flaws as if the sages are not human well I'm going to give you a couple of short stories to show you that they are human just like you even if they learned to the sty at his time in those days the doctors of that day used to say that smoking cigarettes was healthy healthy and many people religious people used to smoke a lot of cigarettes inside the the of's father used to smoke so much that he would see he doesn't know how people learn without smoking the BET mid was a cloud it would smoke inside the as soon as he finished one cigarette he had another one to light to Del light it he would never stop it would constantly be in his mouth 80 years time passed medicine Advanced one day he goes to the doctor doctor tells him um I'm sorry but the you know the the cigarettes we found that it's a little dangerous it's getting dangerous how much you smoke oh it's dangerous okay then I'll stop the doctor laugh why because he knew you didn't have to look for the stier why you see there smoke smoke there's a cloud inside oh he's there there was so much smoke every just you know where he was smed the Stifler you smoking for so many years going to stop okay no slow down maybe slow down maybe but the doctor was curious so he went to the BET mid the next day and he walked inside there's no smoke she asked one is the ra here goes yeah he's in the back says he's not smoking goes no he hasn't smoked all day W he said oh maybe he's told somebody so maybe he's hiding it he's hiding it so he went back to the bash at night when everybody left he peaked into the window you know the cple is still there learning to no no no nonstop maybe he light a cigarette while nobody's there nothing wow okay I'll survive a day two days three days after the while stop stopped never never another cigarette again after a little while he came to the for the how did you do it please tell us how did you do it please teach us because there are people that are smoking for 10 years they can't stop five years they can't stop you smoking your whole life you just stop just like that could you take something you did cabalistic goes no what cabalist no nothing so how did you stop he said Doctor you said said it's dangerous he said yeah but every okay I said lot things no one listens to me what do you mean I said then he goes no you said it's dangerous in the Torah it says you're you have to preserve your you have to preserve your body if it's dangerous it's not allowed so that's it he said yeah but how he goes what do you mean how he tells him what do you mean how it says it's not allowed in the Torah things are said in the Torah but people don't do it he goes crazy people that do things against the Torah so that's a story that makes the SES there unreachable impossible right I'm going to give you another story it was so difficult for him when he was smoking when he was smoking it was so difficult for him to learn to on Shabbat cuz he was so used to smoking cigarettes that he would put smoke into a bottle and close it and on Shabbat open the bottle and take the little whiff of the smoke so it help him with with learning to so you could see how high the addiction was the addiction was enormous but once he knew God said no no that's it finished last story than you can go home I love Shalom doctor told him you're not allowed to smoke it's not allow it's no good it's not dangerous all that types of things so said okay so I'll stop okay I'm stop quit smoking quit smoking okay quit smoking hard is to quit smoking I smoked for 20 years when I when I told me I have to quit smoking I started crying what you mean CH I like smoking why are you taking everything I like what's the matter with you people I'm already suffering as it Isla says oh stop okay he stopped one day first day stopped first day stopped not a week not a month not a year first day stopped comes into his office in the morning and ask for I was learning this and can you give me an answer I don't know I didn't understand this because he gives him the answer and he goes oh by the way you know I stopped smoking right okay strange extra comment Rabbi doesn't usually Tech talk extra but fine he left as he left somebody else comes in I have this issue over here can you help me what it says over here oh it gives him the answer he goes oh by the way you know I sto smoking right okay true and all day whoever walks into his office the janitor the cleaner the the uh the the helper the guy that fixes the senders the guy that fixes the lights all the the other rabbis every single person that walked into the office he told them by the way you know I sto smoking for three days straight even if the guy already went came to him and he told him already he tells him you know I stop smoking you know I stop smoking you know I sto smoking after 3 days the say for the what's with you and to stop smoking okay stop smoking what do you want want the clap what's the what's the smoke goes no no I know my I know my my likes to smoke I like the smoke but I know I'm not supposed to but I know my says you are supposed to so how could I do it how can I do it now you all did me a favor I included you you all did a for me I already included you in myah how I told you I stop smoking so that means that all of you all of you are witnesses to me stop smoking which means that if I smoke if I smoke you're going to see me that's G be I don't want to make but then I say okay so if I I thought to myself he says says I thought to myself if I smoke I'm going to smoke in in the mid but then they're going to see me oh so maybe I'll hide in the back but then somebody else is going to see me oh I'll hide downstairs somebody else going to see me oh maybe I'll hide behind the building yeah but the janitor is going to see me oh maybe I'll go in the middle of the city but people over there know I told everybody I possibly could so that way I can't smoke I don't have any place to smoke I don't have any place to smoke I don't I don't want to disre hm's name I put myself in a situation where now I can't smoke it's not that I don't want to smoke I can't CU it's against God now a genius adult using a tool that an average person can use the difference is do we believe in the same God he does if you do you could do the same thing you could quit smoking you could quit any addiction you could overcome any desire you could overcome any sin you can be a full B CH going straight to GED with your clothes on it all starts with reflection who who you are be honest with yourself and grow from there next week we'll continue tomorrow night we have a so any questions that you have that are Urgent you can ask today if it's not urgent keep them from tomorrow especially if the Torah questions because your questions usually after the camera is off are sometimes better than this you [Music]