Purity and impurity - When, why and how - Important information you need to know - Part 19

when i go to pray i like not to be seen not to be heard not to be talked to and when the same way then when i learn when i if i if i don't close myself i don't learn people come to ask me questions and you know there's too much of fraud when you put yourself in a corner then nothing bothers you then you then you really learn everything there are there are the words you mean one of them is that any bias any forbidden relation you know it's not so common in our day but people cheat on their wife their cheats men and men women women it's all under the same category for being with agoya you have to you the major tikkun for the major sins is to getting other people to stop doing it yeah like of course you stop but let's say i was shemi rahim with such and such amount of goyot mighty kun is to get a person away from his to convince them yeah but it's not enough you can't just say you're critical everyday and say i'm out of course i can give you a whole you know menu what to say what to do about the vatara and no doubt you dirty connectedly every day but a lot of people say okay i'll do the technically every day tonight i'll go out through with my goya and tomorrow i'll say the correctly no no this is just to fix you know how many times you have to technically to fix the damages so there's many many things one a man needs to do to fix the pass but the the highest level of fixing is reversing other people doing it so if a person if you a person was with a lot of sixes then you have to go and make a lot of other people stop if a person who is doing a lot of zera with the internet and this is this he has to help other people to get off it or for no doubt to stop himself but you know he has to do mikveh every day no questions secretly every day shiroshi remember every area of shabbos a big big big school is reading a perk shira every day he has so many things yeah where's the whole thing it takes five minutes ten minutes huh it's very short it's very short it's it takes me maybe i read it every day when i walk from show home takes me like seven eight minutes for the rest of your life you don't know uh it takes literally seven eight minutes make way you if you would know it's a migraine you would sleep in the microwave if you would realize what's a make way you would not go out of the milkweed we can do one next to you i'll teach you everything about mcveigh i promise you that you're going to live in the midway if you would know it's a migraine but in the general concept of the migraine every other that you do you bring on your even the smallest avara you know the little thing you can be 100 totally from you looked for three seconds at the wrong you looked at a beautiful woman you enjoyed her beauty for three seconds on your body yeah but if you so much more if a person is not religious there's different different levels of the worst is too much met but they also have to from beyo you have the work is forbidden relations from kosher stuff you each cautiously is one of the worst that a person can bring on himself you eat all sorts of animals that you're not supposed to no boy if you eat something grocery i don't have a problem but you know how many people there they don't eat meat and dairy they don't eat all certain animals but they'll go to a restaurant that doesn't have a good hershey and the and the puerto rican in the back doesn't doesn't really check the leaves and you eat on your in your salad you hear his joke sharma is a joke you know that's why you know kosher is not just the meat and the dairy kosher if you really this is the secret if you want to be mama perfect or you you become super strict with kosher to the point that you don't eat any you you don't you go beyond and beyond and beyond huh i eat meat with very very little and if i made meat only from a certain chocolate that i know in the certain type of shrita the shrita that i eat is actually a shrita only logo bashkin mainly because lubavitch the vehicle they also bet yourself they do all sorts of things that most share other shims they don't really do i usually don't try to not eat meat because you know we're not hmm mainly the thing is that even in even we're not in in a generation that our body can actually handle me too much and the meat in our generation especially in america is injected with all sorts of steroids with all sorts of proteins and literally the meat will be fat the meat is not healthy here my wife buys meat from a grass-fed a private farm that we know the chochet that the meat is good you eat the meat you're like wow this is meat but most of the meat in this country is bad meat the chickens are bad if you see how they grow them yeah that's why you have to be very strict with your diet and all these things they mess up with your brain before three year old the thing is that it's not a halacha it's a mean hug but the rizal was so mahmir about it that again if you want to go by you have no problem this is not a halacha the the rizal made a whole union with this whole thing he didn't let anyone if anybody would come to him and talk to him about the hair don't touch the hair that's the result but it's not what's the reason why there's simple reasons you can understand but like other reasons others mitzvot voted we don't have a reason you don't really understand it there's a certain kedusha that the child has it comes in the hair hair in hair is a very very special thing that's why women cover the hair that's why men don't touch the hair there's ah hair is a very sag it signifies something very very big for hashem to create the world he had to do a tim tsuma he had to contract the light and the biggest contracting the biggest theme zone had to be to remove the orange off and to create to remove a infinite and to create in it a finite existence so that's in tsum the contraction had to be the most strongest symptom and it corresponds to our hairs in this world everything in this world is a chain reaction what we have here originated in above so what we see here the lowest level of hyut in our body is hair hair and nails it's it's alive hair grows and nail grows but the amount of life force in it is so minimum that you can cut the hair you don't feel it so this corresponds to the highest level of tim tumelo ki because it was in the level of removing the infinite the the infinite and bringing in it the finite it's two complete uh contradictions having something that it's infinite and finite at the same time this is like the highest level of the locate and daft the sarot comes from that there what goes there's a concept of kabbalah with matamata whatever goes all the way down whatever you see in this world that is in the lowest it originated in the highest so the lowest part in the body that has the least coyote is hair and it means that there what the hair originates from oh it originates from the highest highest level that's why women cover the hair they can allow it even to see a piece of the hair that's why we don't cut the beard you asked before about the beard this is another reason it's such a tim tsum in the hair that it originates from such a high source so the same thing with the kids i don't know i'm not um to explain to you but there's something in the sarot in the hairs of the child that the rizal was like fanatic don't don't tear touch it and only for child yeah the three are the three years old the words yeah man has to go a man is good to constantly shave his head not to have too much hair and have a haircut it's not good the clipper they get carried they get they grab on the the hair white people don't do a long-term childhood why because a child is kadosh he doesn't have a sin it's pure totally pure yeah we're talking about a third three-year-old child is kadosha yellow if you wanna if you want something to happen you bring up why did why did for example mordechai how did he break the gaza he brought all the kids he didn't bring they didn't tell the people to do shiva he told the people going fast but he brought the kids you know he put them in one big synagogue and made them say the torah their mouth is so holy kids are holy kids doesn't have a sin a three-year-old is a kadosh there you know he can't do sin so his hair is his hair is totally holy now if you have an issue which long bite if a wife wants to cut the hair shlombite is more important than you know kabbalistic explanations on the hair you go to rav and you tell the rav what's the problem and the love tells you it's fine this is not you know it's not a sin you have nothing to worry about if you need to cut the hair because the wife is crazy about it and she doesn't want the hair for whatever reason strong bite is more important oh if it's just for that you put the hair in the ponytail on the top and he'll be fine and you turn the air conditioning on if it's something minor don't don't take the shot from the from the kid according to kabbalah everything that you do has a reaction an act the more dusha you take away from a kid when he grows up he's lacking it it's harder for him to do about hashem that's why you know all when the husband and wife are together to do a child the more the act is in kudusa the more kadosh the child goes out that's why you sometimes you see this big rabbanim the children are like why because when they conceived it was a hundred percent kosher not one little not kosher thing in it and the thing is within when the husband is doing the mitzvah he's cooking the sperm the sperm comes from the brain and when he is about to finish the brain the sperm comes from the brain out from the spine all the way down the spine through the organ and goes out and the father is the mohin we're not going to get we can do a whole sure about that too the father creates all the levushima of the of the child the mother is bina banim she creates the the she cooks the body for nine months but the father cooks it in his brain for two three minutes what the father is saying thinking or doing during the act oh you can't even imagine and the father dresses in the shama with all the so if the father is now picturing in his mind i'm going to go to to talk a little bit more free if the father in his mind is picturing the act and all the good things are going around it oh he's dressing the kid with the vushim tsoim with disgusting garments and if the father during the act is not looking at his wife he's not doing it to enjoy he's doing it because he's bringing in a shema from shamayim and his you know his mind is somewhere else he's thinking diverter you think of many things there's a lot of things to think yeah you you laugh but you know it sounds when when i'm cooking my child up huh it's complicated it's not complicated if you if you know if the thing is like this you have to deal with the child for at least 20 years to bring him up so it's five minutes of cooking the rights you have a child that is easy to raise now the thing is if the father is thinking during the act when i was when i'm cooking a child i'm thinking of i'm memorizing in my mind and you know and i see with my children i know where i feel when the child comes down when you if you elevate to a nice level you feel the sperm coming out of your brain and you feel when is it when it's a child that's why you that's why you have to constantly the only time that one would maybe allow you not to concentrate is when the wife is already pregnant and even then you still have to look at this but yeah you don't know when your wife is getting pregnant so every time you have to leave kadosh right it's not simple to be a jew no but i'll tell you who's standing next to the bed la medulla medutap is standing next to the bed waiting for one drop to come out that's why is only not only sitting in watching a movie or going with a goya or whatever is how you with your wife because lame dude is standing there there's all sorts of you need to know that if it leaks out after the act and the manly organ is already down no problem but you have to be very careful because you don't know what's the drop that is real and what's the drop that comes out because the woman takes the ducha so the water the sperm the water the sperm comes in water the water that leaks out that's fine but unfortunately every time my husband and wife are together now you think that she's a physical this girl with this this satan if you go into a mind of a of a robber a robber well where will he go to rob he was going to go to rob a house in a great neck or is he going to go to rob a house in harlem no of course he's going to go to great neck there's a jewelry and tvs and everything the same with the clipper you think the clip is going to go to rashad let's not do shot there the clip goes dafka to the way they do shines because there oh there's meat there so rami dude is standing next to the bed every time the husband and wife are together and she's waiting just for one drop to come out and then she grabs it and she takes this drop and gets pregnant with it and brings down to this world of demon shed a shed that's why you have all the tourists in the blowing themselves up they're shading they're not human and let me do this standing next to the bed waiting for the husband to pull out and to to steal one drop so the act with the husband and wife that's why you have to have the right preparation you have to wash your hands there's so many things the zorro says there's also soaking from the zombies you have to say if you want to do it a hundred percent this huh it's not like throwing your wife on bed and yellow you know it doesn't work like that you have this is this is a holy act you know why is it considered such a bad thing because this is the only mitzvah that hashem makes you a partner that hashem gives you godly power hashem makes you eloquent you have the power to create life can you imagine and if you go and mash it you ruin it why why why why it's like your father giving you the keys to the brand new mercedes well if you put one scratch on it i'm gonna i don't know what don't come home even so this is al-khatkam of akama hashem tells you i'm making you now a partner here you going and messing it all up that's why you know you see in the torah every time that it came to that thing even now with and his girlfriend the worst came out every time the zima in the torah you see what is what is balak said oh no okay bilaam didn't wasn't able to curse them so he said oh uh creator shallam they both shall and their their eloka hates zima let's go and send all the the girls to them this is the worst thing that hashem hates the worst because he gives you the keys to the safe i'm making you now a god you can create now humans and you can't go in now to to to reverse it so when you're doing the whole act you have to have the right mind when i was preparing for when i was a katharine i went to my love you know what he told me oh you think it's you when your wife goes to the migraine you start this dog all night you study when your wife comes you don't look at your body you your mind is like flying somewhere in bahrain of course you have to you have to enjoy it you have to wife has to enjoy it there's but you you have to know when where is the line that you're not letting yourself too much to go because every little thing here five minutes of pleasure and 20 years of headache from your child that is dressed in this levushim and it's not fair for the child why do you think people who are violate your vote they come from harim that oh i can't even imagine how my parents conceived me they give you the livoshim then you have to deal with this you have to deal with all this yet constantly and all these mahshav where do you think it comes from it comes from the regime your parents gave it so when you are with your wife you want to make sure that everything everything is pure you're saying the right thing you're thinking the right thing he's still in the line what's himself with that fish and the actor's right you don't want to be you know it's sad because you're like you know the best thing out of life you're taking away when i first became religious i thought oh yeah i'm gonna have my wife everything's back to normal my everybody told me no no no no no you got it all wrong that's not how it works you bring your partner with hashem you're bringing a shamath into the world and then how you cook them how you conceive them you are designed in the shama you're dressing the soul right now you the father not the mother the mother can think whatever she wants because she's no you know if you want to go in in the more the level of of kabbalah the father is the mohin is the ab the mother is bina she is the m and then there's the yehud zun is the is the the connection how do you say yahood is the the the unity the father is the one who brings the ma over the woman takes it puts it in her body and starts cooking it for nine months but the father has five ten minutes to concentrate the right way and he's designing the neshama not only that the higher the father reaches the higher he pulls down and the shema from a higher place so you see sometimes certain individual i know one guy where where i live you look at him he looks to you like a malach you see his kids you never seen anything like it you see the face like you know you can't even you you you seem so you know that's why the rizal says even in the little things nafka in the little things don't don't give discounts because you you say oh the the boy sweats for so he'll sweat for a year but he'll be kadosh for the rest of his life so you put the ponytail up on the top whatever he's a boy he doesn't care if he's wet put the air conditioning on it's chavez if you're going if you're saying okay i'm not so particular according to no problem you can cut the hair but if you want to be why why do we have kabbalah in our generation why do we have zohar why do we have khasidut because without the primother torah the torah is not worth anything the reason why it wasn't taught for so many years is there's a reason for that but daft in our generation nafka we have to learn premium tetra