A Yeshiva Student's Guide to Identifying the Yetzer Hara | Letter #11 of 30 Letters in 30 Days

good evening welcome to 30 letters in 30 days class uh or letter number 11. it's actually our 10th class because Thursday night's class is a double class we have two letters so this is our 10th episode on our 11th letter it is uh Tuesday night Hoff base other and I want to wish my wife a happy anniversary um before we get into tonight's letter somebody just writes on the uh chat I'm Muslim and I love your videos nice to meet you that's fantastic I didn't know how wide the appeal was fantastic I'm happy that you're here okay um before we get into tonight's letter I wanted to mention something so we had this wonderful thing yesterday where we were able to follow up regarding some more information about a previous letter I think letter number nine the one that I did in West Bloomfield Michigan was the ladder that ever wrote to the mother who was concerned about her children being finicky eaters and uh so then the next day I got more information from the family that that ever wrote that letter to and I spoke about it last night um when we did letter number 10. so then today are you following this whole soap opera so today I got more follow-up where one of the family members said wow you did such a great job describing the situation it sounds like you grew up in our house well thank you I would like to think that I'm intuitive that way so I'm going to go out on a limb and I'm going to make up some more stuff that may actually happen to be true if you remember letter number nine where the mother wrote to the rabu and said that one of their children is especially one of their children is a finicky eater and that maybe they should compromise their kosher standards not that they would God forbid do anything that was not Kosher but you know there are levels in how meticulous one is in observing conscious so it was something that for them would have been a departure from their regular extremely high standards and so the mother wrote to the rebel and asked if we should do that and that episode no don't do that um the the cautious of the food is incredibly important has a has a influence in your children's character and the way that their character forms for the rest of their lives so definitely don't don't make compromises in that area so I want to add something that I made up today and I was I was driving back from the aisle today um and I was thinking about that letter and I was thinking about how lucky men are to have wives maybe I was thinking about that because um tonight it's my wedding anniversary as I mentioned earlier and I'll tell you why men are lucky to have wives because um I don't think a man would have written that letter we mentioned that the the father in that story was heshold Salem a ritual slaughterer I don't think you would have written that letter I think he would have been self-conscious why am I bothering the rabbit to ask for parenting tips I don't think it would have written that letter but a mother a mother writes such a letter and so his revits in salanga yoren Rifka wrote that letter and I'm sure he was relieved I'm sure he was so relieved I would never bother them about that but thank God I have a wife who's enough of a crazy khasid that she's gonna bother the rabbit about it and we're gonna get an answer and they did get an answer and the and the wife was obviously right that it was important enough of an issue to bother the Deb about because that wrote a whole long answer so there you see she was right men would never bother about that but women know that the debit is available and uh for that and we should be more like women and we should know that the devil is available and stop being so self-conscious stop holding yourself back from the access that we have that's all I'll say about that if we had a longer format I could February all night on that topic alone but I'm going to go into tonight's letter um [Music] by the grace of God the 20th day of the month of Tavis 5719 Brooklyn greetings and blessings that I was writing to a man okay do you know do you know anything else about this man uh yes he's Jewish uh yeah he's a Jewish man he's young he's a young Jewish man uh he's in Yeshiva um he's unhappy with Yeshiva uh he's newly observant how do I know this I can feel it by touching the page no I'm joking I read the letter I read the letter and I don't know much more I couldn't figure out much more but we're talking about someone who's newly observant not just somebody who's new to Chabad it's like we used to use that term more often they don't use that term anymore but there's nothing wrong with it by the way I think it's more uh politically correct than other terms that are used at any rate but not just someone who's new to Chabad but someone who is new to observance in general um and is learning now in a Chabad Yeshiva I don't know if it was a what we call balchuva Yeshiva maybe they should start calling it a it's okay Yeshiva I don't know if it was a balcubi Yeshiva I don't think it was but I can't tell from the letter um it could just be somebody you know they used to be more into mainstreaming now that's the term in education mainstreaming um or uh if it was a special Yeshiva program made for young men of such a background I'm I'm not sure I'm not going to guess but at any rate young man new to observance in Yeshiva and a Chabad Yeshiva and he has some complaints and he writes to the dev about his complaints what kind of a what kind of a barker thinks that has time to hear his complaints about Yeshiva well I'll tell you this and he was right because the devil wrote him a whole long answer and in the letter that I've actually apologizes for not writing an even longer answer so again the women who write about their children's finicky eating and the Bahama right about complaints about the Yeshiva and everyone who's writing to the river keep it up Don't Stop okay in answer to his letter from the fast of the tenth not the 10th fast but the fast of the tenth that means the fast of the tenth day of Tevis I met my wife on assorted that's trivia for you yes you know where I met my wife on the 10th of Davis was a matzo Shabbos in what's it called seven Balfour Balfour place in the wraps apartment that's right that's where I met her okay you see that and then you're thinking hold on he met his wife and his anniversary is Huff bass uh other and how long were they did they know each other before they were married yeah okay you can figure out whatever you want to figure out um so the nebus says an answer to your letter that was written on the tenth day of Tevis the fast of the tenth day of Davis May It Be formed into a day of gladness that's how the rambam says at the end of the laws of fasting he says these fasts are all going to be not just canceled but they're going to be transformed and they're they're going to become days of uh here I got a memeable quote for you from Fast to feast there you go run with it at any rate is in your letter you write that you've been for a few months in fill in the blank whatever City it was I'm guessing the guy's Israeli you know I'm guessing that because he's newly observant and that I was writing to him in Hebrew so I'm guessing he's Israeli so you've been in Tampa in the town of the Rabbit doesn't say where uh fact Checkers go find out for me in 1959 how many there were well I suppose it could have been learning outside of itis at all yeah hmm I don't know get me a list find out let's crack the code here or maybe the person who got this letter will come forward and let us know yes I'm and there are issues there are details there that are not to his liking over there um and he he enumerates he details what those um issues are okay so the driver says first I want to apologize why do I want to apologize uh basically because that I was about to tell him that your whole letter was written by the itsahara basically that's when the number says so first I want to apologize in advance and I want to mention first what our sages say even though is called a fool right or is that [Music] he is clever in his craft es Israeli how to trick the Jewish person since people don't have the same mind as each other right different people have different ways of looking at life everyone's brain is wired a little bit differently therefore it's understood that everyone's yet Sahara takes a different approach hamasima fitting the specific personality of that person so everyone's brain works a little bit differently and everyone's yet Sahara Works a little bit differently how you like that makes it so much more difficult so let's talk about you let's talk about you the Rebecca says we're talking about now a young man who made a decision on his own emphasizes that he made a decision on his own in other words nobody talked him into this nobody forced him to go not like uh most kids in Yeshiva are only there because their parents sent them no you're a young man who chose this way of life you put yourself in Yeshiva so yay Taha is checking you out and he's thinking Hmm what's the psychology of a guy who chose on his own to put himself in Yeshiva and become religious because you think because you became religiously it's a heart is going to stop bothering you the it's hard is going to start bothering you I heard a great story from a friend of mine um I heard this from uh whatever it doesn't I'll leave out the name a friend of mine who who learned in Montreal and he said there was a guy who used to hang around Yeshiva who was not Jewish but he was studying to become Jewish and eventually I don't know how long he hung around Yeshiva knew the guy because he was there often and then finally after his Gyros after he converted according to Aloha and he came out of the Mikvah and uh so sometime later he was hanging out in Yeshiva again he says bakram I want you to know the Toyota is absolute MS Torah is 100 true how do I know the Torah is absolutely like this this whole thing Yiddish kite is real is undisputable that this is all real how do I know what's my proof the guy who just converted says to the baham how do I know that Yiddish cut is real because I finished my conversion and now for the first time I have svakis and a mono I have doubts about faith you hear that when he wasn't Jewish so whatever it was easy accepted yeah potato is true yeah this guide is true then after he actually took on the Yoke of Mitzvahs he actually became obligated at that point man the it's ahada came up and started poking holes and maybe it's not so incumbent upon you whatever so yeah you became religious and you think the it's not gonna bother you anymore no this is when the real fun starts see it's the hottest sizing you up and he's like okay here you are you're a young man what's your profile who put himself in Yeshiva says in spite of many difficulties it wasn't so easy wasn't easy you know I don't know what those difficulties are but many times when somebody becomes observant not only his family doesn't support it but the family is very upset and they object and maybe the rep is referring something like that she yield my Tita beginnishvis foreign and what do you do you made a decision you're going to learn Toyota with with fear of heaven and you can increase your midst of observance and you're going to develop your connection to all matters of Toyota and mitzvahs the dev is describing what the Yates is seeing the it'sohara gets a um a profile on the guy the the you know the head office okay we have the information we just want to update you here's the here are the files this young man he in spite of many difficulties made a decision to commit to an observant lifestyle to put himself in the Yeshiva and not only he made a decision he started actually carrying it out there's a difference you know there's a difference they say three frogs are sitting on a log two decided to jump into the water how many frogs were left on the log three two decided to jump into the water they decided they didn't jump into the water they decided to jump in the water they didn't actually do it and you actually began to implement the haklata you made a resolution you're actually fulfilling it you're in Yeshiva allude so you put yourself into the environment [Music] and we know where he is you put yourself in a place where they emphasize matters of fear of heaven where they emphasize also learning this penis the inner dimension of the Toyota is looking at you and all those facts should be imigase if he approaches you with the argument that you should go back on your resolution and return to your previous lifestyle knows that if that's what he comes he says to him yeah let's run out of Yeshiva and let's go back to non-observance foreign certainly you're not going to listen to that that uh enticement you're gonna say it's harder you're being so obvious you're trying to ruin my life get out of here but the answer when he ruins your life God forbid he's not going to be obvious that he's ruining your life no when the it'sohara comes to ruin your life God forbid he makes you think he's there to improve it let's let's go further um we're looking therefore manasa are the tries in the following way he thinks maybe he's going to entice you by explaining the following this is not the place and this is not the way Al yada in which to reach your goal in other words yes young man you want to be a good God-fearing observant Jew what a wonderful goal the heart of saying this to him that's a great goal you should go for that I just don't think this is the place that's going to enable you to actually reach that goal um is going to start to look for reasons that make sense according to logic diet is not going to just come with a half-baked plan and say this is not the place for you he's going to give you proofs why this is not the place for you now he's telling you he's he wants you to find a better Yeshiva the truth is he wants you to become a Yeshiva Hopper yeah I'm speaking to you yeah there's somebody out there listening right now who's Yeshiva hopping right now stop it okay how do I know because statistically first of all other than the guy at the beginning in the chat who said that he's Muslim but I I think there's a certain profile of people who watch this kind of class and I'm thinking statistically among the people who watch this class there's at least one Yeshiva Hopper out there I want you to stop doing that and just listen to the rest of this letter at any rate so the it's a HUD is going to come up to him and he's going to tell him yeah you got to change your shivas and he's not just gonna let you he's not just going to tell you you got to change yeshivas he's going to give you proofs why this Yeshiva is no good proofs like that ever says that are that have that yes you know what that means like they actually have some logic to them he's not just going to make up totally far-fetched things that are ridiculous because then you're gonna see through his see through his uh intentions he's going to say to you things that yes that actually sound like they make sense and to some degree maybe there is some partial logic in other words he's going to rationalize you know what it means to rationalize rational lies that's right to rationalize is to listen to the rational lies they are lies sheka Gummer but yes there's a basis in logic so it sounds sounds compelling okay the appsama and maybe you're gonna see you're gonna like say ah maybe Taki yeah there's something to it Kevin because after all nothing's perfect in the world it's true there's nothing perfect in the world so if the itsahara needs to come bring you proofs that there's something wrong with anything you could find something wrong with anything in the world is mixed with good and bad yes I love this part because I'm not even sure why it's essential to the letter that's what makes me love it more because I could have understood the letter without this section therefore the fact that the rabbit took time to include this section tells me this is a really important idea and I don't fully understand it yet but I hope with time God willing to understand this idea fully the Deborah says everything has good and bad but when we say that everything has good and bad obviously we don't mean to the same proportion there's a spectrum a very wide spectrum for instance on the one extreme the good extreme the ra is minuscule Trace Amounts tiny tiny amounts it's like it's not there it's a thousandth or one or or a ten thousandth what is that point o o one percent that's a thousandth 0.0001 would be a ten thousandth I think that's pretty miniscule yeah I think the USDA allows there to be more uh I'm not going to say what it is but bad stuff in your ketchup [Music] than that amount it's a very tiny amount you won't even know it's there fore it is completely nullified at least effectively speaking but then you have the Other Extreme side of the spectrum God forbid May the merciful protect us where uh the Rabbit doesn't even spell it out but where the proportion of good to bad is that there's a preponderance of bad and only Trace Amounts of good so but the point is everything is mixed with good and bad in this world so you could always find bad um and then just parenthetically that Eva mentions that there are are all different uh proportions to which that is true to which that holds true in various different cases okay the more is afraid that his uh guy that he works on is going to choose a good path and that he's in a place right now that it was is threatening to the yetzahara um afraid that the guy is about ready to act on his good resolutions so what happens conversely it's gonna step up his enticement of the person like it's explained in the book of Tanya Which chapter who's going to tell me it's in the Tanya map behind me if you can read it I know this is not in 4k so there's no way you could actually read the time you met behind me what chapter who's gonna say it where does it say I'm going to read it more they get worse the Ace Hardware during davening then during the rest of the day how come punked well I'm trying to damage my an essay that's when the it'sohara starts attacking my mind yes of course because that's the time that threatens him the most Fila is a time of transformation davening is threatening to the Yates so that's one well that's when he's going to give you the most grief what chapter of Tanya is it somebody write it in the chat somebody text me somebody email me should I say it chapter 28. let me just look here on the let me see chapter 28 ignoring sinful thoughts while engaged in Divine service if plagued by Foreign thoughts while engaged in Divine service I wrote this 20 years ago I used to use words like Divine service now just write while praying because that's what it means um ignore them it is precisely because The Godly soul is now active that the animal cell resists chapter 28. there you go I like that all right continue after day sun cases now the Reba says it is possible that the claims the arguments that you're making that you write about are true at least partially true in fact said as much earlier in the letter that episode indeed is going to come to you with arguments that have some basis in logic even though it's not genuine in any desire to come to a logical conclusion it's obviously has an agenda to warp things but its initial arguments will have some semblance of logic which which is precisely what makes it so Insidious that's what the numbers explaining here okay um and that is to say specifically in your case that there may be some validity to your claims that the young man that you are paired up with for for study partners you know in Yeshiva most of the learning Isa you learn with study partners so basically this Baja wrote and said I just became observant why did somebody write thank you in the chat just now what did I do why'd you write thank you it says Alex shemtov was one of my researchers but they didn't give me any research tonight they told me the letters understood on its own so I can't even credit my research department for telling me chapter 28. but I do want to credit my research Department because there are some letters where without the information they provide me with before the class I wouldn't really be able to give you the Share that I'm giving and is that the same as elective I'm assuming so so uh yeah but why did you write thank you just to distract me and now somebody's writing in the chat Tanya yeah I know Tanya the Reba said Tanya but I ask you which chapter of Tanya and we said it already it was 20 28. oh people aren't all watching live they tuned in at different parts so they could be like five minutes behind just figured it out okay great um so basically this bachar writes to the rabbit it's newly observant bakra and he's like and he's like listen my have Russo's you know good and I gotta leave I gotta get I gotta get out of here so the debus says you know what it may be true that the young man that you are um study partners with it they are actually lacking in some of the points that you brought up about them I don't know what points the guy brought up but he said this guy is is less than desirable and this way this guy's less than desirable and that way and Heim rosting says good evening rabbi thank you hi I'm Rothstein my neighbor from Far Rockaway I usually see him at the Far Rockaway Mikvah which is my mikvov choice on arushabus for many reasons okay um see what you miss when you don't watch the live because after uh after the live you don't see all these chats these chats are only on during the live um so it could be true that there are these issues regarding your services let me give you a helpful analogy can I give you a martial an analogy is a merchant who is making a living materially he's he's got a business he's trying to make a living people come to buy his his merchandise right he's in business to sell stuff all right so some people come but prospective buyers who may be interested in making a deal with him he tries to find in his potential buyers those qualities in them that may assist making a sale you know sales is about closing it's always ABC always be closing so you have to look at your potential buyer potential buyers are complex they have all types of stuff going on and you need to be the one who gets them to the place where they're ready to to make that purchase so you don't look at them and try to find reasons why this can't be a deal right you want to sell stuff right you're a cycle you're trying to sell stuff so you're looking for aspects of their character or their situation it may help you actually make the sale and then you're gonna actually make a profit a nice profit you're not going to emphasize the qualities of the potential buyers that would be a in contradiction to the sale I want to mention something by the way the translations the translations of these letters are beautiful and English provides them for us and they do a wonderful job and I want to thank rubbish Molly and citizen English for providing the translations I also want to say that generally I don't look at the English while I'm reading because it kind of hinders my flow so I'm sitting here struggling how to translate this sentence I could just look inside and read the English but then it's not as easy for me to flow in and out of the Hebrew and the English but I do want to mention that everyone has their PDFs I'm hope I'm hoping I'm assuming if you don't have your PDF go to 30 letters 30days.com and download your PDF and print your PDF and then you'll have this wonderful English and they really are wonderful English translations and again we think is in English for their their commitment to this project okay and people were asking are there going to be physical booklets like last year I don't know maybe maybe if you guys are good maybe we're working on it we'll see we'll see what happens but for now 30 letters 30days.com you get your PDF you download it you print it okay um yes it's been 30 minutes over 30 minutes since I started yes we're going over time yes it's a long letter it's a really long letter and again thank you to Citizen English for the extra work that it entailed to get this letter ready for us tonight because it was a long letter yeah we're gonna go a little over time so uh yeah if you're uh if you're a a merchant come on you're not going to look for reasons why this buyer is not a good buyer you're going to look for reasons why he is a good buyer and you're going to close the deal ERS same thing in the uh in your case should be he should be he's foreign connected to another guy they become involved all of lahadgish so he should emphasize Ula havelit and to emphasize you know to make it uh Violet to make it stick out and he should try to strengthen let me see the beautiful English that I have right here because I'm saying emphasis emphasize and make stick out and strengthen but let's see what they wrote here um he should emphasize and ensure to focus on the good aspects of his friend yeah excellent [Music] not the other aspects right so if you're trying to sell stuff look for reasons why this buyer is a good buyer and close the deal if you meet somebody and you become connected to them look for reasons why you could gain something from this relationship don't look for reasons why you don't want the relationship because like that ever said there's good and bad in everything and in everyone but come on you you use some sense I mean I love the the soccer analogy because I say her could be a real perfectionist be like I don't want to sell to anyone who has any problems I only want to sell to a very very special clientele usually the guys who say that are guys who can't sell anyways so then they justify it by saying our product is for a very Niche clientele right that's after the fact they rationalize rationalize but uh right no normal person in business is trying to find reasons why not to do business with potential buyers and the same thing if you meet somebody there's something you can gain from them there's some positive net gain that this relationship can yield so let's look for that level says I'm sure that your have rusas have problems everyone has problems but look for what you can gain from from your relationship with them it is certain to me that among the young men in the Yeshiva series Mayhem that there are tens of them literally tens of them that do not have the problems that you wrote about okay so I'm admitting that probably some of the guys that you wrote about and you say they have certain problems yeah they do have those problems that's true I also want to mention there's probably literally tens of guys in your Yeshiva who do not have those problems at least not those same problems even though they may have other issues that need Improvement therefore the sound counsel the advice Lee Ace law made me call Adam is to learn from everyone that is what hazal say learn from everyone learned from their good qualities and connect to their good qualities not the opposite in other words every single person in that Yeshiva has some quality that you can gain from and therefore it would behoove you to have a relationship with them and as as for whatever qualities those individuals may have that are not uh positive qualities so nobody's forcing you to accept upon yourself everything that everybody is offering you can be discerning you know what they say take what you like and leave the rest that's what that I was telling this guy you're in Yeshiva there's a lot of people around you they have a lot of good qualities and yes some qualities that need Improvement I know that so take the good stuff focus on that that which arises from all of the above meaning to say the the conclusion here what's the final analysis I love it that I was so predictable is the bottom line in his life bottom line you know what I think you need to do what do you think he's going to tell about her in the bottom line in your life is um what you need to make more money the bottom line in life is I think you need to learn means the diligence that's mother means the constancy of it learn with Focus learn consistently that's the bottom that's I think that's what you need to do only history and you should Avail yourself of the whatever positive stuff you can be helped from from the background around you in the yes for instance that are bahram who are mass medium what a mass made a mass Med is from the word tamid mass Med is someone who's constantly learning even though they don't necessarily pray at length and what can you get from these guys you can gain from this guys constant studying right so you see a guy you see some guys who are mass medium but they don't diving so much okay great so those guys I want you to pick up from them the fact that they are mass medium and don't pick up from them they're they're dominating because their davening needs Improvement and conversely those guys around you who do pray at length and they they pray with a lot of feeling although they are not such diligent Torah studiers from them you pick up you pick up their style of Prayer take from each person the quality in them in which they Excel that's it that's all I'm saying um and our sages have already guaranteed if you toil if you work you will succeed viratzi may be God's will say Hana that my above lines that are uh few relatively few compared to the importance of the matter I just want to stop on that phrase remember how I started tonight and I said good for that wife who actually wrote to the rabbit and I'm sure and I know her husband was grateful that she wrote to ask for guidance about the children remember I mentioned that at the beginning of tonight's share the rebel has time for us that ABBA wants to hear what's going on yes there's no problem too small yes okay so here we see it again is writing to the leader of world jewelry to complain that he doesn't like his kavrosas I'm going to say this grub some wants to bother that he doesn't like his coversas you think the Lubavitch doesn't have better what to do than to listen to such problems okay let's ask says to this guy that what I wrote to you we called it a long letter the devil says this ladder that I wrote to you is very small it's just a few lines relative to the importance of the matter you understand this that I was writing to some young man and saying this is important to me I wish I could write you more you deserve more the importance of what's going on in your life is Worthy of an even more detailed response from me I'm unable to give you as much as you're worthy of but I want you to know that you deserve to have even more of a response than I'm giving you and just stop and soak that in for a second I didn't want anyone to miss that detail okay so I hope that these few lines which are relatively few compared to the importance of the issue Lawson I hope they have their effect and how will they have their effect you're just going to read the letter and it has its effect no I already told you how egress works that ever wanted us to study the egress that's what we do here in 30 letters 30 days that's what we're trying to do hashem's help the neba says I wrote to you these few lines but here's how they're going to actually have an effect she is that you're going to meditate on these few lines I wrote you know and it's going to uh enlarge in or you're going to enlarge in your your your your meditation on these lines will enlarge in your understanding of these lines you have to actually think about this the egress are meant to be studied deeply so that ABBA says please deeply study my answer deeply meditate upon my answer and it is going to help you to reach a Clarity that you require s because these few lines that I wrote you describe the situation accurately and set aside any of the cadusha and any of the spiritual power and an answer from the rabbit certainly contains just think about what an absolute blessing it is to have somebody describe things accurately that alone is such a gift um and certainly that um you're going to use this out you can understand what I'm trying to tell you and you're going to be able to use it out you're going to be able to find good use for this in Yeshiva the message after a while I want to know who this guy is because I bet you he became some big mashpia that's what I'm guessing that ebba says after a while you're going to use this out on how you influence others maybe not right away with the passage of time this is going to affect how you affect others are I'm gonna make something up and maybe it's totally wrong toy the benefit of the many is going to help you what do you think what is the devil saying here Shea's Talbot's making this up I have no proof that this is an accurate way to read these words the number says basically I'm helping you in your personal life okay now please meditate on what I'm telling you it's going to help you and it's going to become clear to you in the passage of time I don't know exactly when but at some point you are going to start I mean it's probably not a revolutionary event it's going to be an evolutionary process where you start becoming a mashpia and you're going to help others so therefore you think I'm emotional for for other reasons I want to explain to you that when you read Clarity and it is so clear there's a certain profundity I'm not I mean seriously you think maybe this is triggering some type of a like purely like uh emotional response I'm telling you why I'm so moved by this because when you read something of such profundity just the profundity alone is deeply moving at least to me it is listen to the profundity of this statement and I could be reading it wrong you're going to internalize this message which I'm writing to you which is to help you in your personal life but eventually you're going to use that same thinking that I'm teaching you you're going to use that same thinking to be helpful to others four the Merit the Merit of helping so many people is going to help you to have Clarity in your personal life now let me ask you did he help those people yet he didn't help them yet he didn't even help himself yet put your oxygen masks on first he didn't even help himself he's still confused he still thinks he needs to be a Yeshiva Hopper but the Deb is telling him this Clarity that I'm giving you it's going to help you then you're going to use the same Clarity that's why I want to know who this guy grew up to be probably became a must be in Yeshiva and you're going to use that Clarity to help others and this all that helped others gonna work backward in time you didn't help others yet that's happening in your future but the schools that you're going to have in the future from all those people you helped is going to come back in time and help you now to have Clarity right now that's not beautiful enough that concept is not beautiful enough to move you to tears okay to each his own I guess we have different different preferences all right it's going to help you overcome your imaginary obstacles perceived obstacles Yeshiva it's going to help you to succeed in uh studying while you're in Yeshiva you do uh this is known the syrup of the rabbit the fifth position which is printed in in safer Terrace is a safer of circus idea this is how to pick him that's that's for sure okay invest Buy Low sell High I'm telling you like munculus's Uncle told him so so it's known from Taylor shalom that somebody whose job is to be a meshbia Verizon and he wants to succeed in this job all of trilolies he first has to be a macabo a recipient in all matters or in the language of our Sages to be an empty vessel me called Pine from all alter ulterior motives foreign and he has to be clear of any of his own thoughts that will confuse him from being a recipient and through that he will become a mashpia an influencer over the course of time it's an incredible glimpse into the into the process I don't know that that ever had to share that with this young man you know there ever could have concluded the letter a little bit earlier and just I mean after that already proved that the yetzahara is the one who's engineering this Yeshiva hopping idea and that ever proved that this is this is the way the etah is going to ruin his life not by telling him to go back and be irreligious again but by telling him to find fault in his closes and try to change yeshivas That Could Have Been Enough but the dev is sharing I hold myself back from saying words because um I don't want to be judged but you know is it okay if I say a little little and uh you know that doesn't have to be shared obviously but the dev is saying um it's not just about you it's about your future and you are going to be the but in order for that to happen I gotta I gotta tell you there's gonna be a time you're gonna be the mashpia but in order for that to happen you need to go through a necessary prerequisite phase where you completely clear yourself out you empty yourself out to be a true recipient so will you just please submit yourself to the authority of the Yeshiva just show up and learn just try to get what's good from everyone around you absorb absorb absorb and there's going to come a point where you're going to be the leader and again I don't know if they'd ever had to share that with him but could ever did um we're almost done there's a comment here somebody wrote which is very kind and I'm not going to read it but I I read it I mean I can read it out loud but thank you very much for your comment and um it's very meaningful to me the aid license I want to add another thing another thing when I had um it's for sure that some of your friends that I was talking about his old friends his old group when he wasn't observant they know about your cloth about your resolution to change your ways and they know you've actually started already you think it's a secret that you're in Yeshiva I mean this is before social media first you could think it's he's off the grid but basically that I was saying your bodies from when you were not religious they know at least some of them know that you've made a commitment to this new way of life foreign therefore any regression on your part any turning back on your part you are giving them place to come to you with various different proofs shall I said that you are not correct in your resolution in other words they are going to weaponize your lack of clarity and come to you and tell you that you were wrong from the beginning that your whole desire to become religious and to to seek that way of life and to learn Torah the whole thing was off Israel I love this observation every Jewish uh miyasartum say who they're never shall a kiss is complaining to them admonishing them why didn't they make the same resolution as you in other words that I'm just saying let me say it and plain English your non-jewish friends are probably really proud of you oh our body is going to come and Rabbi that's cool rabbi your Jewish friends they're very nervous about this what's he doing you know why because you're Jewish friends they also have a Godly soul that wants them to do exactly what you're doing and it's actually crying out to them they can't hear its voice because The Godly soul is buried underneath the sound of the animal soul and the body but your your your old friends are feeling guilty maybe not even consciously so maybe completely unconsciously they are feeling guilty that they didn't do what you did and how are they going to deal with their guilt albeit perhaps unconscious guilt they're going to prove to you that you made a mistake and if they can prove to you that you made a mistake then they don't have to imitate and copy your mistake after all you learn from other people's mistakes a wise person does so we're learning the fact our friend what a fool he tried to become from and it didn't work so that's why I'm gonna make sure that I don't do the same thing that's what your friends are rationalizing rational wise yes yeah so they are going to use this to weaponize against your uh your decision that you made that you're going to return to a life of True Life which a life of true life means a life of artera which is the Torah of life and a true life is the life of Performing Mitzvahs regarding which the title says and you shall live with them you should live with them so in order for them to rationalize their own lack of making the same commitment that you did the easiest way there is there are other ways as well but the easiest way for them is just to criticize to poke holes in your resolution to return to the ways of our fathers and to the Torah and its tradition with blessings for good news in all of that which is mentioned and that's our letter tonight we'll see you tomorrow night