A Women Who Fogets Ya'aleh V'yavoh in Bentching on Yom Tov - The Amazing Ruling of Rebbi Akiva Eiger

okay good morning everyone want to speak out of suya very briefly the gumar says that the mission describes the obligation a husband has to provide for his wife through a third party potentially and he has to provide her with clothing and shoes so gamar says you're providing her with clothing once a year and shoes three times a year gar uses unusual expression this Tana he's not wearing any clothing but he's wearing shoes like it's like a unusual situation you're giving her so many pairs of shoes she doesn't even have enough clothing so says the Tanana lived in a mountainous area that the women needed shoes three times a year and the is you should give it to her on the Yum so that she should be able to enjoy it so this gar alludes to the mitzvah of being one's wife on Y and an in an area where she needs three shoes three times a year you should get her uh shoes specifically schedule the purchase for y so we're going to talk about the mitvah to be one's wife on the Regal if you look in on simest person is obligated to be happy and joyous who him and his wife and his children love and everyone that's part of this Camp how do you make them Rejoice the you give them toasted grains and women you buy them clothing in accordance with their um in accordance with your money okay so from here we see that a person has his wife the stems from your whole family so we're just going to analyze the Mitzvah of being one's wife is the Mitzvah that the wife has to be happy or is the Mitzvah that you need to make her happy whose Mitzvah is it the brings from the says it's even nowadays meaning has nothing to do with the it's nothing to do with and it applies by women also even though we don't have anymore possible to be to be M theah with other types of Joy now the says that you know it says which means Begins the first day the first night of that there's novah yet okay that's the seems to be saying there's a to a for a woman to be why am I talking about this I saw an amazing Rea last night if I were to ask you what's if you forget say in benching on chabas do you have to bench again absolutely if you forget it Friday night do you have to bench again yes if you forgeted shabas day do you have to bench again yes what if you forgeted shalas do you need to bench again no cuz even though we pass and you need to wash and you need to wash but there are that we don't hold like there are that you don't have to so therefore but the first the two sud if you forget say you have to bench again because since you're obligated to eat a suda therefore because of chabas is an integral part of the benching what if somebody for forets what if a woman forgets R in benching on chabas does she have to bench again yes what why CU women also have to have sud chabas why do women have to have sud chabas women have to have sud shabas because since they're not violating shabas they're in yeah so women have to uh eat sud and chabus and therefore if they forget say they to bench again the million dooll question friends and I didn't know this is what if a woman forgets is a woman obligated to have so you say why not why wouldn't a woman be obligated to have well it's going to depend whether the Mitzvah of sim is on women according to the the Mitzvah of is on women but maybe you'll say there's no mitah woman the mitah of is the man has the woman and in that case maybe a woman who forgets would not have to repeat watch this this is okay so it's K you're at the Kaneka party you say to your kids your family hey anybody know the first chuen reer whoever knows the firster gets Kana G yeah but when I say you get chocolate coins but not even the big one or the medium siiz I'll give you the small one no I'm joking you could be more generous than that you could give them the mediumsized one if they know this also buter wants to know somebody forgets Y and R said one time he forgot when he was young and the rabbi said not to go back saysa AER that you did the right thing that you benched again and this who told you not to no question that he's an old man he forgot his learning and probably what happened this R Who says that uh he remembered they told him not to he's not remembering correctly it probably happened ones not on y everybody knows ones if you forget y you don't go back in benching but on y if you forget y y you do go back [Music] um was asked anybody [Music] who anybody who is an adult if he's a male he should go back and bench but not women women do not go back on y if they forget y why because is a woman allowed to fast on Y what a woman's allowed to fast what about the MIT woman doesn't have a MIT you have a MIT to make her happy but she doesn't have a mitah to be happy there's no for to have a not that she's to be why why you not to fast because women are women are only in of not working so they're not of so M to fast not only according to the rivid who that a woman says reaber according to the r that the mitah of is on the man but she's not fast maybe a woman has to eat drink wine and eat meat says rebar woman maybe you'll say she has to drink wine she has to eat meat she does not have to eat bread you don't eat bread for because onab there's no but you have to eat bread and are two different things so there's a Mitzvah to be and women have toab so they have to eat bread and the proof that and Sim are two different things the ra says it's aah to honor the so to and then he says it's also beit of a ESS and you have to be that's Mas and are two different things says comes out on shabas the obligation to eat bread is not because of it's because of so women are onab and it could be since with which which is called so there's a to be where it's it's enough to have meat and wine and which is you don't have to have bread there's a listen carefully you have to eat meat you have to drink wine you don't have to wash because pass is there's no on there's only in that case a therefore it's a woman who forgets does not have to bench again a man has to bench because a man has to a woman has to have that's a Whopper what is for men namely there's no of pass yff is for women ah but the first night of where she's or sh if she forgets say she's in the of so she's all the so therefore if a woman forgets what say on chabas she has to bench again she forgets the first night of P She asked the bench again I didn't know this says woman who forgets y on does not have to bench again you should know in the footnotes they bring many argue on and they say a woman does have to bench again look in thein it's a and if she forgets she does not go back wow very interesting seems like if a woman forgets on y except for the first night of P she would not bench again not everyone agrees with rer but the sh Al says it's at least a suff and suff thank you very much good everybody Good Very