A Nice Word - Rabbi Dani Kunstler

in this week's partial parcious Valero we find that avruvino brought these malachim into his tent these people or so he thought were into his tent and at a certain point they asked where is Sarah your wife and that compelled African to explain to them Sarah is in her own tent she's in the back and Rashi brings down points out a very very significant point which I want to elaborate over here Rashi brings down to the reason why they asked they knew sorrow was in the back where else is a wife if she's not in the tent she's either out shopping or she's uh doing her own thing on the back of the house barashi says that they asked the question in order to make avram feel good about his wife to endear her to him that look where's your wife oh she's not here schmoozing with the guys she's in the back sneeze modesty she's separate and they did it to endear her to him that abramino should feel like my wife is special I'm answering that question and my wife is in the back yeah I should bark Hashem she's a very very special person and there's a tremendous tremendous lesson to be learned from this this tiny little Rashi that explains this tiny little seemingly insignificant idea of endearing a person to somebody else there's so many times where you know you you you you you could easily make somebody feel so good about the person that they're affiliated with so for example you hear a rabbi speak uh the rough speaks and she'll go over to the Robinson and say your husband spoke so nicely today how many words was that a few your husband spoke so nicely today that's it will make her feel good about her husband your child I saw said Thank you to somebody said you know did such a nice thing such a beautiful thing and I always like to say over this story with um with my father my father was diving and used to David and Yeshiva and Bell Harbor and one Shabbos there was a bar mitzvah over there and he sat at a table and the table next to him there was a visiting uh father was there for the bar mitzvah and he was there and he was dabbing next to his son and his son was doubting very very nicely so my father went over to the father afterwards and said by the way I was just very very impressed at the way that your child sat Diamond beautifully real real really nice and the man got so excited he quickly ran over to the azer's notch into the women's section and he brought out his wife and he told my father say it again and my father was a little bit confused and he said you know what you know I was just commenting that like your son dabbing so nicely they told my father says you have no idea what this did for us it's been so difficult for us with our son he hasn't dabbing well he doesn't learn well we've had a very difficult time with him but lately has been coming into his own he has been improving in his areas of Hashem and the fact that someone's coming over to us now and saying thank you and saying you know wow your son diving so nicely thank you so much thank you so you have no idea what that does for us all we need to do is say a few words he did such a nice job he did such and such look how beautiful he dive in look how nicely he spoke and you endear people to other people and it it just goes such a long way and you have no idea the ramifications the effect the the domino effect that it could have in a person's life [Music]