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okay today's class is dedicated by Adam Farkas in loving memory of Lucy and Maya and Rina D from Efrat the mother and two daughters who were killed on pesach Lucy D and her two daughters Maya and Rina made their tragic loss to Terror serve to truly unite the Jewish people in the land of Israel amen and thank you very very much so today everybody knows that after pesach between pesachar and the custom and Jewish communities is that we learned the ethics of the fathers every Shabbos or week another chapter so last Shabbos was pericard of the first one of the Shabbos we're going to learn chapter two perki Elvis pereg base and I want to focus on picky of his Pedic base um missioner test actually Mission a test there's a few versions some put it at a later mishna but many of them is Mission attests that's the middle of the second chapter and it's a fascinating fascinating mishnah will also see it's also connected to the portions of the week tasria mitzvah which this year reckons is coincides with this chapter and the discussion in this chapter is in the previous mishnah just to give the context the mishna mentions one of the greatest sages whose name was the son of zakai and he was a student of Hillel and shamai and in the previous mishna review who was a student of illumin says he used to say the mishna says if you learned a lot of Torah don't become arrogant from it sarta this is the purpose of your creation the next mission seemingly goes off on a tangent and starts discussing history and here's the history had five students the elohane these are their names are the son of Hercules so the mission now says five students he's also known as Rabbi Eliezer haggadel the great Rabbi Eliezer review is you see in the bottom below the Hebrew there's an English translation I put in used to count Or List their their praise their outstanding virtues and this is what he said the son of hurricane us he is a plastered cistern which does not lose even a drop of water is a cistern like a pit sud is it's plastered it's plastered so well that even a drop of water doesn't leak out doesn't get lost that's how he described the first student of Elizabeth Hercules which means he retains everything he forgets not even a drop of water that I put into him he is like a cistern but a solid one that contains and retains everything without losing even one drop which obviously describes what type of memory he had what type of mind he had his ability to listen his ability to absorb his ability to retain and not just retain but retain literally everything it's important to emphasize that this is the time says this the oral tradition has not yet been put on paper the terrorist was still called was was really cold Parish about that because it was Tori that was given over baalpa mouth to mouth face to face teacher to student it was not yet written only a few Generations afterwards generation of by Judah the prince he would be the editor of the machinayas and he's the one who would put down all the traditions and from the generations onto paper and that would become the mishnah the first official text of terrorism so the factor of Elizabeth hurkin retains everything is an incredible incredible feat and very very important especially in that era next happy is the woman who gave birth to him that's what he said about him fortunate ashrae fortunate or lucky or how great or happy is yoladatai the one who was mild him the one who gave birth to him obviously he's such a special special fine person that the mother who gave birth to him must be truly fortunate and happy the third student who was a priest he was a client he just said one word he's a hasid custard obviously from the word Crescent a truly kind pious generous outstanding human being the son of Nissan of the fourth student is somebody who fears sin Rebels the fifth one the blood he's like a spring that is continuously vibrating with ever increasing Force Mayan is a Wellspring Hamas Gaber it's always vibrating it's always flowing with strength with might it never ceases okay if all the sages of Israel were on one scale they were on one scale of the balance of Elizabeth hurkin was on the other scale he would outweigh them all in other words this qualities his virtues would outweigh all the other sages even though it's four to one he actually says all the sages may even be more than four foreign literally means a borrowed father an interesting name said in his name is if the sages of Israel were on one scale of the balance was with them on the scale he would outweigh them all so we have her two versions of whatever I sent either he said the first student of Allah the cistern that's plastered that doesn't lose a drop that would outweigh them all or that but quoted him who is the Wellspring that is always vibrating and flowing he would outweigh everybody okay on my left the picture of us continues said to these five students so ooh go out and observe AZ director Adam which is the right way to which a person should cleave what's the path a person should cultivate this is a challenge he gives these five great students foreign a good eye to be able to have a good eye that's rebellious the first student nothing like a good friend a good companion a good pal Ace he says a good neighbor says the fourth student Heroes foresight somebody who has Vision somebody who sees that which will be born even though it's not present and the last one says a good heart foreign I somehow prefer or have a proclivity or a special sensitivity to the words of Allah for his words include also your words in other words from all the choices a good eye and a good friend and a good neighbor and foresight he says I choose the fifth one a good heart because in the good heart you already have included the other four as well that's basically the story brought here in his five students it continues with the opposite in which he says to them go out and see which is the most negative attribute that a person can cultivate and they come back and ibiley as it says an evil eye and Abby Yeshua says not a good friend says not a good neighbor and if shiman says somebody who borrows and doesn't pay back which means no foresight and rebelazu says again a heart that is negative not a good heart again prefers his insight now let's delve a little bit into this mishnah and think about it the first thing is is a very interesting track day to mishnais but the common denominator of all the five and six chapters is that it's basically teaching a person ethics truths medus proper behavior the Gamora says somebody who wants to be uh meaning somebody who wants to live a Pious and good and decent and Noble life should learn and should implement it because already from the beginning is basically a teacher but it's not a teacher of technical laws it's a teacher of of Personality issues dispositions characteristics we to work on things to be cautious about things to cultivate and so forth you don't have anywhere else in particularis a mishnah that is just dedicated to a teacher giving compliments to a student it's a wonderful thing starts telling five students he's he's enumerating their praises it's wonderful but how does it fit into the genre of precarious the genre kelvis is not history nor is it a diary about the relationship between a particular teacher and a students and yet we have her a whole mishna that tells us the story that a Birkin Zaki had five students if you really want to talk about everybody's students there were hundreds of teachers who had hundreds and thousands of students so you can go through all of the Messiah the rambam in his introduction to Mishra goes through 40 Generations who was the teacher who was the student but the bishop Kelvin doesn't do that it starts off right away Maisha kibble Toyota Messina and goes fast all the way Township and over there it's to tell you how the tradition worked here just about five students and then he just tells you he counted the praise of these five students how does it come into pre-kay office that's number question number one doesn't seem to fit the genre of the ethics of the fathers number two there were many great rappers many great teachers and leaders and sages himself was a student of the great Hillel and the great shama Hillel himself had 80 students Nigeria says in sukkah if you had joined us in bonusio his oldest student his youngest student everybody that's how the trader was transmitted from teacher to student from teacher to student is like and the the possible says it's like a kadur kadur bonus it's like a ball that a girl throws to another girl to pass it on in other words every teacher took the ball like the Baton and passed it on through the ball to the next and they catch it they make sure you have it and then you throw it on to the next generation why is he the only one who's complimenting his students so you say others also did but some others so one story we have that he's the one who was praising his students there were hundreds of generations before him and certainly after him and zakai lived even before the mission was written but this story is said about another interesting thing is Hua is praised how does he praise him he speaks about his mother now it's nice to speak about a mother we can speak about everybody's mother with him he doesn't talk about his qualities it's almost like he's speaking about his mother's qualities in a way you can even say he's not talking about him he's talking about his mother now they all had wonderful mothers who raised them but over here he speaks about Ashley he doesn't just say though fortunate as his mother or fortunate as his father or fortunate as his parents he said uses the word that I fortunate is the one who gave birth to him but why don't you talk about the qualities the virtues he doesn't say that sin now that's an interesting thing because all of the sages one of the prerequisites for being in the Sanhedrin for being one of the Sages if you don't have that Integrity that ethical sensitivity so then the scholarship is pretty much worthless he emphasizes he feared sin obviously there was something special about different than the other ones and then there is the argument if he held it if Elizabeth he's not a sister that doesn't lose a drop but he's a well that doesn't stop flowing with ever increasing strength so how are we supposed to understand all of this the truth is that this it's not just a story about a sage who had five students and he decided he's going to compliment them and in particulars we have to hear about their complex with the compliments which is a wonderful thing but doesn't seem to fit into a book that's instructing us about ethics and about behavior and about this position but what if this mission is actually teaching a very very profound lesson that does guide a person especially in the world of pedagogy and mentorship and leadership in education what the mission imprison is telling us is how does one raise students disciples children grandchildren talmudium raised and why him why him so before we get to why him let's understand what the mission is telling us and we have here clear very powerful guidance foreign means count he would count their praises now it's an interesting expression you count money maybe you count how many eggs you have you have to make muffins and you need a certain amount of eggs you count how many eggs you have you count how many tomatoes or cucumbers you have for the salad people count things that are countable doesn't mean he counted their praises he had a sheet and he counted one two three four five six seven but this is essential to the entire message here didn't just say I have amazing students he didn't even just tell them you guys are outstanding I love you I cherish you you are creme de La Creme you're the best of the best that's also wonderful but he did something much more than that like when you count there's one two three four five he specified and he counted and he elaborated in a very detailed and specific way each one of their praises he didn't compare one to the other he didn't say you're all just wonderful kinderlock wonderful students I'm lucky to have you which is also a wonderful thing to say but are you minor like an account we have to be specific and particular counting doesn't refer to the collective you say there's a big crowd here how many oh it's a huge crowd it's one and two and three and four what he showed to is each of the students as he showed to them their strengths he mirrored to them who they were he allowed them to hear from him and to see in him what he saw in them understanding that that's the way they're going to be able to see it in themselves by having a teacher who truly believed in them and not just believed in them in a general all-encompassing way and gave nice feedback and comments but somebody who can really pin it down somebody who can really really get down to the to the details huh it wasn't just general positive reinforcement yeah oh so you're saying is very general the other ones are more specific very good that was our question actually a lot of it seems very general why don't you speak about his midday is his qualities his virtues his good good question we're going to get to that in a moment right hate also seems okay he fears sin perhaps in a unique way and that's what we learned from here when when when we try to lift up somebody we try to compliment somebody in a very positive way I could do it in a very general way you know you're cute you're adorable you're Angelic you're such a good which is all good teaches us something much more uh yes that's another interesting thing it's not that he did it once how are you like it says he would always do it this was not something you know once in 20 years when the shotgun called he said something nice oh yeah this was a constant thing he was always looking out for it he always sought he identified it he emphasized it he made a stood him he made a Ruckus about it this was his thing and he would bring it out he would bring it out not just in words and actions in in most importantly perhaps in body language in gestures in the way you communicate to each of them and because he did this on a constant basis and in a very genuine and authentic way they began to see that in themselves he mirrored to them what he wanted they should be able to mirror to themselves he showed them what they should be able to see in themselves so of course this belongs in precarious because it's teaching you how to inspire people how to empower people the first thing is you have to be able to see the goodness the second thing is you have to be able to celebrate it I could see something and then go to sleep be able to celebrate it talk about it get excited about it dance with it and and then help them dance with it so first of all it's seeing it it's noticing it and then it's communicating it and it's not just communicating it once but it's a lifestyle that is engaged and dedicated to that type of of of of communique of communication every teacher was in a unique moment of History why is I mentioned was a student of Hillel and shamai where the zoo guys they were the Great sages that lived close to the end of the era of the second base the second base amiklus was destroyed in the year 70 after the Common Era now we're in the year 2023 in the year 2070 right 2070 it's going to be exactly 2 000 years because it happened in 70. so 2070 is C after the common area not BC BCE is before zero in the secular calendar zero officially is Begins the year that ish was born whether that's Mama's the year or it's not Mama's the year is a separate issue but the year zero Begins the year officially that he was born no if he was killed by the Romans he was crucified by the Romans in his 30s so that would be approximately the year 30 or 36 Common Era which means exactly 30 40 years before the Corbin by Ashanti which coincides generally with history now there's a lot of you know not everything is so clear and a lot of debates in terms of the exact history but that's when the year zero begins in their tradition in fact BCE and CE usually stands for something else but we call it the Common Era they have another there's other acronyms for it it's not for this class huh A.D A.D is completely different that I usually don't say CE so the year zero starts starts that calendar our calendar Jewish calendar of course the Besame was destroyed in the year um very good very good huh but but just a drop 38 28 or 38 29 or 38 30. right a few hundred years over you're talking about the construction of it now somebody was destroyed in the year 70 or the year 69 or the year 68 there's a few versions but it's one of those few years in the English in this Jewish calendar that would be the year three thousand eight hundred and thirty so it's very different than 70. the secular calendar that's 70. by us it's already 3 830 years since creation because our calendar doesn't begin with the birth of a Jewish kid but one Jewish kid yeah so some say it was 28 29 or 30 which in the English would be 68 69 or 70. who was the leader of the Sanhedrin which means who was the spiritual leader of the Jewish people during this time felt that it's impossible for the Jews to fight the Romans it's simply not going to work and he felt that they have to engage and talk to the Romans do with the zealots the kanayam the secret who said absolutely not and they staged the Revolt they burned the Grain in Jerusalem so it forced the Jews to go to war and Robert had a very different opinion he sneaked out of Jerusalem and the only way he can do it is he feigned his death and they took him out in a coffin to make believe they have to bury him and he was really alive and he went and he met Vespasian aspicionus now that's a fascinating thing because aspaciones at the time was the Commanding General of the Roman Legions coming to conquer Jerusalem but later he would become the emperor of Rome he would go back to Rome succeeding Nero neroy and he would send his son Titus To Go destroy the actual vespedian was the father of titusia and vespasium was so impressed by him that he asked him what he would like famously asked for three things he wanted a doctor for absadiq who fasted 40 years he wanted that he should spare the dynasty of REM gamlil which is the dynasty of David and he wanted the lasting Tenley Avenue he should spear the city of yavana and its sages which means he should not destroy yavana and its sages agreed there were people very critical of the gemaria says coined the phrase they used to paraphrase the possible sometimes Hashem takes the mind of the wise and he sets it backwards and they applied this positive that he wasn't thinking Vespasian says I'll do whatever you want give me your wish he should have said leave Jerusalem alone don't touch the base of make this go back to Rome I thought he will never agree to that he didn't ask for something small but they were very absolutely the truth is the truth is and you have to understand this the gemara says in braces was very sick he was at his deathbed he lived very long Moses for the first 40 Years of his life he was engaged in business Commerce second 40 years he learned the last 40 years he taught so he had a very productive life when he was on his deathbed his students came to visit him and they saw that he was sobbing so they asked him Rabbi why are you sobbing and he says when a person leaves this world there's two Pathways One path leads to grenade in the paradise and one path leads to get him to purgatory I don't know which path I am going to be led through so I'm sobbing and then the last moment before he breathed his last breath he said prepare a chair near the bed for his apparently came to escort him passed away now the question is did he really feel that he's going to go to gehenna I mean if he's not going to grenadin who is it made for you know it's like the old joke the old joke they say that uh in Paradise God takes out a can of tuna and feeds it to Moses and the next day sardines and the next day another can of tuna and then jard gefilte fish finally after a few months says can the menu and be a little more Diversified he says listen for one person doesn't pay to cook you know you want the kitchen you've got to get hand and there's a lot of action over there humility doesn't mean that if I'm tall I say I'm short and if I'm smart I say I'm dumb that's not humility it's stupidity you'll forgive me humility doesn't mean I lie about my qualities and my virtues humility means putting them in perspective contextualizing them I really thought that he deserves Purgatory after the life he lived well you know who he was it's a very difficult thing to understand and he saw me that he may end up in purgatory the answer is that sometimes when a person comes to the end of their life generally when we get older and more introspective you may have lived a wonderful and amazing life but sometimes there's one story that eats up on me and I can't forgive myself for it and even if a person looks back and they know they try their best and they did many good things sometimes there is that one choice I made or that one decision that happened or that one occurrence that I may have not dealt with correctly and precisely at the end of one's life that really comes up I knew his virtues and he knew his greatness but there was one story that sat on his chest for many many years and that was the moment he met for spasia because Vespasian said what do you want I will do it for you SEF and later generations felt that he made a terrible terrible error he was given the opportunity to save Jerusalem to save the base of mikdish obviously he was trying his best but he asked himself am I indirectly responsible for the decimation of yerushalayam because of me obviously the Romans who destroyed it but I was given the opportunity to prevent it and maybe my fear or my insecurity or my lack of courage or I was afraid he's going to throw me out of the room or I wanted him to be good to us whatever their calculations were I failed not just me I failed my people I failed my history I failed my past my future I failed claudiusro because what he asked for was a doctor for episodic spear one family and spirit Yeshiva don't destroy the Yeshiva he says maybe I do have to go to gehenna and at such a moment when you're standing in front of a special it's not like you could start looking into books and calling your your teacher and calling other people to consult you're right in front of the most powerful person of the world soon he would become the emperor of Rome the Roman Empire was the most powerful Empire in the world and at that moment he made a decision that's what he asked for and at this point before the end of his life he said maybe maybe I failed my people and failed them in such a catastrophic and dramatic way and yet the last moment before he breathed his breath he said prepare a chair for his care ER what's the uniqueness was the King of Judea says it was one of the most righteous Kings which is not a small thing in the Tanakh because not many kings made it into the list of righteousness Tanakh is very honest about how leadership corrupts people especially the kings of yore was one of the special ones the pure ones and sangher of the Assyrian King came and he exiled the ten tribes in the North of Israel and they have been lost until today nobody knows what happened to millions of Jews who were assimilated I don't know if you know but there's close to 50 or 100 million people around the whole world who claim that they're connected to the ten tribes of Israel it's fascinating go figure the ten tribes are going to come back Ruby Akiva disagreed and the Gomorrah says in San when he said that he abandoned his piety his piety for saying they're not going to come back usually Rebecca was the defender of the Jewish people the king of Yehuda should also surrender but he refused he refused to surrender and he did not give in to sanghairev and yerushalayim remained in the Jewish hands so now when hiskia Came to Say Goodbye to abujah he was telling him you did not destroy Jerusalem I'm here to escort you I'm the one who protected you saved Jerusalem why because he didn't realize this Beijing thought this old Jew is asking for yavana big deal I'll give him the Avenue Yavin is a city it's like 15 miles from Jerusalem 20 miles maybe 12 around 12 miles I think 20 kilometers not far from yerushalayim and that's where the center of learning was of scholarship of the yeshivas of the son Haddon big deal I'll give it to them one there's no power here what vespasia didn't realize was that by fulfilling this request he was actually signing his own obituary he was actually um stamping his own death certificate Rome's death certificate and guaranteeing The Eternity of the Jewish people because that with the base I make this without a base maybe will the Jews be able to survive it's a very very powerful question without your shalayim etc etc but he knew one thing that if they have yavana if they will continue to have the Torah and the Mitzvahs and yiddishkite will be alive ultimately they'll be able to return ultimately there will be a nation said yeah I'll give you he didn't realize that in for a few hundred years Rome would be gone where's the Roman Empire today it's in Wikipedia that's where it is you could check it out you could there's an entry with vespedian and a statue of a special and a monument of a special and uh what is it called a bust a bust of vespasia we don't have a buster we don't have a bust of my should have been we don't have a sculpture of David if you want to see David you have to go to Michelangelo's Florence if you want to see the rambam you got to go to Cordoba in Spain the miralem Prague in in the Jewish place you have no monuments and no bust of anybody but you know what we have we huh they wanted because that's what that's what there are they have monuments you have a monument of Titus a monument of espasia and the Pharaohs mummified themselves in Egypt what the Jewish people though have is the teachings we don't need a buster you have the soul of America we learn this Torah every day like him and there'll be a Kevin of ramadano so by asking foreign years Rome is gone but the Jewish people are vibrant not just survived but thrived but at that moment he was full of Doubt so history came to tell him you weren't wrong you were right because he lived in that era he literally watched the transition from Independence to Exile from Jewish people having their own land their own spiritual epicenter their own independence spiritual and to some degree and not political they were under Rome already for a while and they were on degrees at some point liberated them from Greek Syria Greece but then the Romans took over but they still had a spiritual and physical Center they can call their own I saw that all change he saw it all go down first of all he saw untold amounts of death and suffering Jews being sold as slaved in the hundreds of thousands of the point Josephus says that the price of a Jewish slave was less than one dollar imagine you can buy a slave for less than a dollar there were so many that's how cheap the value of a Jew was I saw all of this and he was the leader and he felt the responsibility to guarantee The Eternity of the Jewish people and of Judaism in that era which was one of the blackest and darkest eras in Jewish history maybe the blackest and darkest era till the Holocaust both in the sheer amounts of death and the catastrophe that took over the collective people and the catastrophe continued because Rome did not just go home and say okay we destroy the base some English now live in peace 60 years later there would be a Barca Revolt in 132 and that Revolt would not end well it was a disaster already passed away by then Ruby Akiva was then by the Barca revolt at such a moment in history understood you have to create students who will become leaders you see in a way it's easier to create students than it's to create leaders to create people who are always dependent on you who will just always quote you and always call you up and say what should I do now what should I do what should I do that's not so hard but to create people who can create people to create people who are independent who are Visionary who take responsibility that's much harder for this you have to empower them there are leaders who create students but the greatest of great create leaders and what does it mean they create leaders they create people who can take responsibility like they took responsibility for this you have to be able to teach them who they are not just always come back to the source for guidance you want to be able to always come back to the source for guidance But ultimately you find the power and inspiration in yourself understood that in such a moment in Jewish history we can't afford to lose any Talent we can't afford to lose any child we can't afford to lose any creativity we can't afford to lose any gift we can't afford to lose any Soul we can't afford to lose any student we can't there's too much at stake it's too precious a time it's too serious a time to be able to just let people fall down by the sidelines and just say there are always casualties so therefore from all the teachers it was him who taught the path he went to each of these students and he said let me teach you who you are and by showing them who they are they became those people this wasn't just a man sitting on a chair throwing compliments this is a lesson in pedagogy how you do it but it must come from a very very genuine place because if it's just lip service if I just say nice things about somebody and I don't really mean it I don't really connect to it I'm just you know just throwing out words but the words are empty It ultimately doesn't have that effect and it's not always easy because people have virtues people have flaws people have great qualities but people also struggle with something and sometimes those struggles take over and they're very profound and very deep and naturally we gravitate to those struggles if you see a student or a trial then you're not ready to be able to see the praise and bring it out you can't be an educator you can't be an educator go get another job sell pencils Gesundheit pencils are not so sensitive become the CEO of a great Factory but if you want a factory for Souls oh a factory for Souls when I come into my house when I come into my classroom when I come in contact with anybody even if there's other things going on if I cannot identify and zoom in and tune in to the to the virtues to the greatness to the depth to the genuineness to the sincerity to the authenticity to the spirituality to the Light present in this student's soul then I will never be able to be that pedagogue who really really brings out the best in my child or the best in my disciple or the best of my students there was a wonderful teacher he passed away a number of years ago rabbit shrink he was the principal of the Yeshiva in Adelphia in New Jersey so my friends truly best wrote a biography about him it's called just love them beautiful book so he shares there a story about transa and his wife often Tunes in to us Mrs trench so if you're here welcome so he shares a very it's it's a small story but it's not small at all there was Apollo saying Yeshiva in the high school that you're not supposed to smoke not such a terrible policy right you're not supposed to smoke anyway he walks into somebody's room at night one of the dormitory walks in and the boy is sitting on his bed and he's smoking and it was like on a very strong policy if you smoke you can't be here it's not good for your health it's not good for other people's Health secondhand smoke season the boy you know they're face to face and he's smoking like a middle of a you know middle of that Puff you know usually say I got it from somebody else you know it's alpikabolo which means I received a cigarette from somebody else so uh I'm probably trying to looked at him and said listen you know what you're doing is wrong you're not supposed to smoke but you know I also did something wrong I walked into your room without asking permission you're not supposed to do that you're not supposed to walk into somebody's room without knocking so we both did something wrong so let's try this again okay I'm leaving the room and I'm gonna fix what I did and you try to fix what you did and he walked out he waited a few minutes and then he knocked on the door the boy said come in and he came in and guess what abracadabrica dude there was no cigarettes I'm sure yeah I'm sure if you were there you would still smell it I don't think he had a spray it was a boy's dormitory but uh but that was it you understand the difference and that was the end of that the point was there's a relationship there's a connection I'm not trying to catch you the rules are there for the child the children are not there for the rules it's a different approach of course rules are important and policies are important but the rules are there for the children the children weren't created for the rules the institution is here to serve the children the children are not here to fit into my institution or as Winston Churchill put it we create institutions to facilitate our dreams and then we become prisoners to those institutions that we created for our dreams you forget what's the means to an end and what's the end institutions policies rules they're all means the end is people Souls which each soul is the connection to the people the attachment the empowerment the feeling that they have that they're seeing that they're safe they're secure they're sued they're cherished they're valued they're loved you want to bring out the best you want them to fly you want them to dance till the end of love and Beyond so there was a boy over there who unfortunately stopped keeping Shabbos and he was quite mischievous and wild and one Friday night he managed to break into the principal's office Rabbi Frank's office and the keys to his car were on the desk and he knew everything doesn't need his car for the next 24 hours at Shabbos and he took the keys and he went to the parking lot Friday night so one of the other boys says where you going so I'm going to the movie theater I'm going to the movie theater this and this movie it says take me along he says no if I'm sinning already it's for me I'm not sinning for other people it's for mine so he says if you don't take me along I'm gonna snitch I'm gonna tell Rabbi Frank he said good I anyway want to be thrown out of this place now I'm here because my parents are forcing me once I'm throwing on I'm kind enough to go back to Yeshiva wonderful please tell them and it was Friday night he drove away imagine so he steals a car on shoppers and he drives away this fellow was true to his word he went through abdovich ranks home and he told them that this and this boy went into your office broke into your office however he picked a lock took your keys took your car an abdovich rank listens it's Friday night towards the end of the middle of his meal and he says where did he go he says he went to the movie theater so David shrank puts on his coat and he says do you know where this movie theater is he says yes this and this address he says can you tell me how to get there he says yeah we all know how to get there and he tells him how to get there but he says it's very far it's not a few blocks so you have to walk a mile or two miles it was a Friday night a winter night in New Jersey he says I'm going I'm walking he puts on his coat and he walks to the movie theater imagine he comes to the movie theater he goes in there's a booth you got to pay whatever you got to pay no seven dollars twelve dollars eleven dollars the woman says how can I help you he says I don't want to watch a film but I have somebody a close person he's there and I have to speak to him for a moment could you please let me come in without paying she says I can't you can't go into the movie theater without paying he says now look at me do I look like a guy who came in to watch a movie look at me look at my hat look at my bed look at my face look at my code it's Sabbath it's Saturday we don't do this on Saturday look do I look honest do I don't look she says okay but how long he says just a few minutes she says fine go in so he goes in now you know you have many auditoriums with different Cinemas and now he has to find and it's dark they're all watching movies I don't know there's gonna be five movies ten movies simultaneously so now he says to start looking for his beloved student so he goes into one and he's looking and it's pitch dark and you have to see where everybody is sitting it's not so easy big rooms it was a big theater and he goes from one to another one another he goes into one of them he scans the room and he sees one of the he sees him he sees him sitting watching the movie so you know you're not allowed to make noise because you're going to disturb people in their moment of height and tranquility so he you know he he slowly walks over very clandestinely very silently near the boy there's an empty chair and he sits down close to him without making even a uttering a peep or a sound now you know when you know you're sometimes sitting and even if you don't see you just feel something is happening around you it's like an energy right because people have energy like you just feel somebody is near you even though they didn't touch you so this boy just felt suddenly that there's somebody near him so he turns around now you can imagine what that moment looked like like you know the worst nightmare for Yeshiva boy coming true you know like his principle is sitting in the movie theater right near him I'm sorry watching the movie Friday night when you have a better time right and he said he he's like what are you doing here can disturb anybody they're watching a movie is very important what are you doing there he says I came to talk to you he says what do you want to tell me so I want to tell you as follows the popcorn in this particular movie theater is not kosher so you'll probably want to buy some food and Pepsi and soda to enjoy the movie do me a favor don't buy the popcorn I love you have a good night enjoy yourself he gets up and he leaves he leaves he goes out of the theater and he starts walking back he tells the woman thank you I'm out he starts walking back home it's Friday night a few minutes later he feels somebody near him he turns around it's the boy he says I'm not going to let you walk back alone I'm walking with you he says wonderful let's walk together and they walk back a hallway almost two miles cold I'll betrayed didn't mention a word not about the movie not about shop it's not about the car all he did the whole way back was tell him jokes and stories he was a very funny and charismatic person if you knew him he was extremely charismatic and vivacious and loud and passionate and firing trank family so uh that's what he did they came back to the office they came back to Yeshiva they had to part ways he gives him a kiss he said have a beautiful Shabbos and hope to see you tomorrow and he went home didn't say a word the boy told the story and said at that moment I knew I was staying in Yeshiva and I would never ever violate Shabbos again I was I was uh I said this once at a sheer and I was in a store a few days later one of the stores here in Muncie one of the supermarkets I know was Wesley kosher Evergreen Rockland kosher somebody came over to me and said every word was true because I was a Yeshiva at the time he says I was a Yeshiva time I could tell you the name every word was true he once said that Gomorrah says which means in how do I gain ownership over something how do I gain ownership over something if something is yours how do I get an over in a ship if it's mobile if it's real estate there's different ways question so one of the main ways is means by uplifting it you give me your watch you give me your phone you give me your jacket I lift it up it becomes mine of course if you if you give consent I don't mean if I steal it used to say you want to be kind of somebody you want to acquire a student hug ball lift them up hug boy you lift them up you're kind of them forever you put them down you lose them forever you pick them up kinda you think Robert Trang didn't know what he did with the car you think he didn't know about Shabbos you think it didn't eat him up but he had to make a choice he could have looked at this boy and said never step foot into this place and I'm calling the police and I'll put you in prison he could have done that where would that boy be today we know where he would be what he understood was the boy is disinterested the boy is having whatever the boy was going through but he understood that if there's connection if there's attachment if he feels really cherished and loved and believed in he'll find himself in a different way there was a boy over there just reminding myself there was a boy there who unfortunately he liked to steal you know sometimes he didn't have money and he would go from dormitory room to dormitory and he would empty out people's pockets and people's draws too listen there's another million positive stories but that I'm just bringing out these stories because it brings out who he was as a mechanic but you do remind me of a story you do remind me of a good story there was a there was about shuva who came to learn in a Chabad balchuva Yeshiva his mother was completely secular she calls him one day and she says Jack how you doing so he was a real balchuvi was very into it so he said mom Mom today is Utah Utes of the day that the altar ever came out of prison beautiful day she says wonderful okay a few months later she calls how you doing he says today is youth based Thomas the day that the rebirayats came out of prison a few months later youth Crystal David came out of prison it's a great day so she says you know I'm so happy you're having a good time but I'm not so happy about the people you're hanging out with why are they all in prison and why are they coming out of prison and why are they your friends okay I don't know if it's true or not but it's an old joke they said or an old story they said so this guy was pickpocketing people and you know what they busted him somebody caught him and Rabbi Frank one evening in the Yeshiva he sees like a little commotion and he hears Through the Grapevine that they decided a group of boys they're going to go into his room at night and they're going to beat him up he's stealing everybody's money for months and months they're gonna they're gonna they're gonna give him a lesson that he's gonna remember they'll give him a beating he heard about this so he right away asked one of the boys tell everybody he gave him a list that we're having an emergency meeting in my house right after my roof for all these boys he brings them to the house and he tells them a fictional story that he says guys the fellow who stole the money came to me today to apologize and he said that he feels so horrible and he doesn't know what he took from what so he gave me all his money and he said here give it back to them and let everybody take what they own and Rabbi Frank takes out from his draw he empties out all his dollars and he says everybody take whatever is yours and they all took their money and he promised he'll never do it again they all left now he called him this boy and he said listen I went out on a limb for you I apologize in your name it never happened I gave them back the money that you never gave back to me I did it this time next time you got to take care of yourself he changed the person's life before Rosh Hashanah before Rosh Hashanah one year but with Slickers before Slickers I told the story here somebody sent me the story in email such a moving story it's a little story that maybe captures three books of psychology person emailed me he was a person went to a wedding and he sees his third grade Rebellion School his third grade represes and he goes over to him and he says do you remember me he says no he said I learned in your class third grade he said yeah I was like probably 30 years ago 35 40 years ago he says wow it's so nice Mazel Tov great to see you what's your name he says his name oh I remember such a name in my class he says what do you do and he tells his old teacher I am a third grade teacher just like you he says wow that's amazing what inspired you to do that he says you you inspired me when I saw the impact you had on me in third grade I decided I want to have such an impact on people he says what type of impact did I have on you and this is what he told them he said I was a very poor kid we came from a poor family all I craved was a watch my parents couldn't afford a watch one day I saw that one of our my classmates in third grade got this new watch and he had it in his jacket in his his coat so by recess I decided to steal his watch he came back from playing outside by recess he walks in he sees his watches gone he starts screaming to you to the teacher somebody stole my watch it's gone somebody took it so you turned to all the Kindle lock and you say that somebody by mistake or Not by mistake take a watch it's not yours or below somebody please give it back and it's fine at this point I was too embarrassed I was too embarrassed to give back the watch I was afraid of appraisals and revenge and anger and who knows what would happen to me and you close the door and you said somebody needs to give back the watch it's not fear we stole we somebody's watch was stolen from me we can't live like this and you close the door and nobody was showing up with the watch because I was too embarrassed and you said everybody please line up and close your eyes and empty your pockets onto the desk scenario and nobody's going to see anybody else and we'll give back the watch and that's what you did and you had everybody's eyes closed including mine so when my watch came out at the desk there was a big desk everybody put it on the desk nobody could see it and you saved me from public shame and humiliation that day and I thought you would call me in afterwards and reprimand me for what I did you didn't even do that you ignored the story as though it never ever happened and when I saw how you saved my dignity that day because I thought I would be shamed for life I decided I want to go into this field I want to do for other children what you did for me and the older teacher was so moved he says wow that is so beautiful that is so amazing he says Rebbie you're making as though you don't remember the story you must remember the story he says actually I don't he says you mean when you hear my name and you look at me you don't remember that I stole a watch and you found it and you did not tell me anything and nobody else knew about it he says I don't remember I don't he says how can it be and he says I also close my eyes I also closed my eyes I didn't know I didn't know it was you I just saw a watch and I gave it back it was irrelevant to me who took it I said this over before Slickers a few days later I'm getting messages from friends in Brazil one after another wow the story really did it well I'm like what happened there was the president of Brazil was then running for re-elections to be to be nominee to be elected again as the president of Brazil somebody sent them a clip of me telling the story before slickus he had it translated with uh by with um captions into Portuguese and he sent it out to 25 million people on his list with an introduction the introduction was we have to learn from the Jewish people how to educate children and then he sent out my clip I'm talking in English he had Portuguese captions so 25 million Gentiles got the story and he said this is what the Jews understood how to educate children but I want to see what what did what did this teacher know that other people don't know what did he know this you don't I could go to 100 seminars I can read books right I can know all the rules this is something else this is called anashama emotional not just intelligence but love empathy it's believing in people part of me I see a child a gun A gun type of Mother Does He share with his mother of course he's a god of and I knew the barber I knew that and you know what I remember when my mother used to talk about the grandmother after the war I remember you think Google does research on people ask your grandmother about after the war you know those everybody today she's against we remember what she looked like yeah in 1947 I'll tell you what happened to the DP camps so of course the the inner colors are gone if it's very easy to go there and you know what some of it may even be true but what he understood was I can analyze he's a thief and why is he a thief everyone has toxicity we all have Darkness it's called the yet Sahara whatever it looks like and whatever the reason is he had then a choice and the choice is what am I gonna connect with which world am I going to live in am I going to live in the world of negativity or am I going to live in the world of light of brightness and that changed everything the most important thing is he showed the child which world he can live in a child every day can look in the mirror and say I'm a filthy Thief well the child could wake up look in the mirror and say I'm worthy of this teacher's infinite dignity and dedication why am I so worthy maybe I'm not just a filthy Thief maybe there's something so valuable about me that attachment that connection is at the core of everything and that's responsible for the complete destruction of the Jewish epicenter and Exile is going to begin and Jews are not going to have anything that they used to have to hold on to pesach is going to be different no base there's no carbon Pastor a circus everything will be different imagine chanukkah that used to go to the base on mixtures it was different uh the Rob of the coastal honored me to light them a notice he says you know this is the closest physical proximity the closest place to where the Hashem it was the closest place but it was none of the arabias it was down by the plaza of the coastal I said we can't afford to lose leaders we can't afford to lose Talent we can't afford to lose balikishra and we can't afford to lose their shamas we can't afford to lose a child how do you do it brought out that quality now let's see let's see what you ask uh foreign it's almost like his mother gets the credit not not a happy he's a not Hustle but the truth is he was saying something very deep here he doesn't even say mother or father he says when he was given birth to and the one who gave birth to him when a child is born and we all know this feeling especially I'm speaking to a crowd here in this room who knows this feeling better than Alabama ever be able to describe when you look at that baby a few seconds a few minutes even a few days a few weeks a few months after they're born what do you see you see everything everything is there right I remember when my first son Mendel was born so I was in the hospital was Friday night he was born which made it for a very interesting situation because you can do a bris on Friday because it's the seventh day you can't do a briss on Shabbos because it may have been Friday so you got to do the bridge almost on day 10 Sunday but the Midwife said it wasn't benashmashes it was already Friday night but the hospital said that it was they didn't use the word anyway it was so uh I remember he came into the world and I made Kiddush for my wife afterwards and then when I started to talk I said you know I want to be so careful with the words I'm saying in this room because it's the first words this little baby is gonna hear no one they should be they should be anything but pure words we see that child you just see perfection you see them pregnant with all potential but how many of us live up to that moment that moment when everything is so pure and perfect no Distortion yeah no no negative influence not from a parent not from a home not from a community not from a school not willingly not unwillingly it's just like a gift it's straight from heaven right it's still Heavenly you could see the soul and you want to retain that but unfortunately many of us at the time were five already our heart has been broken into a thousand pieces by the time you're eight your heart may have been broken into three thousand pieces by the time you're 22 some of us are just in a different place was a person that he lived out that moment of birth that moment of that moment of birth when you're pregnant with all that potentiality pre any Distortion pre any Brokenness pray any trauma pre any toxicity that's what he lived out he saw himself that way and he actualized it so he was saying something very very powerful about him when I look at a child can I see that moment of your ladita that's the moment I want to see I want to be able to go back to that moment of you know people often talk about their children or grandchildren or students I get a lot of emails with very negative terms my daughter became such a mother writes to me my daughter had the best Midas in the house best Midas and now she's 17 years old she's obnoxious and rude and disgusting she became narcissistic and self-centered stopped keeping Shabbos and she's being very tough with her so I wrote back to this mother I said listen I don't know and I'm very sorry but I just want to ask a question you say that till she was 17 she had the most amazing Midas in your house you think Suddenly at the age of 17 a soul of the Gestapo went into your daughter and your daughter said you know what from today I'm going to destroy my mother and father and brothers and sisters and the whole mishbach I'm just going to be destructive is it possible that this refined Soldier suddenly became the most evil human being in your community I highly doubt it you're responding to your pain which I understand but maybe it's so important to respond to what is really going on even though you may not know and she may not know so she says how do you know you're right maybe you're wrong I said maybe but let me tell you something if you want to error in life I know which side I want to error on remember if your error on the side of not blaming the child but understanding what happened to them even if you turns out that you made a mistake what happened you show them a little extra love when you shouldn't have okay but if you error on the other side when you blame them for things that they should not be blamed for and then you put them down and that's the side you're airing on and then one day you figure out you will never forgive yourself for destroying that person maybe I'm wrong but you want to know which side Terror it's always good to error on one side rather than another side the worst came to worse is I underestimate how horrible you are my daughter you know what I smile to you a little more okay I'll go to get him for smiling the other way is a little more dangerous how did I get into this can I see the child from that moment of Yolanda time can I see the child fearing sin very important he doesn't say Fierce punishment he fears sin sometimes a person abstaining from negative things is because of consequences the punishment but then it's a much more superficial fear because basically the punishment is coming in the future right now this tremendous enjoyment so who knows what outweighs what and I think let me enjoy now I can always make up later but if it's your hate if what's bothering me is the separation itself taking a marriage a husband who doesn't do anything wrong why because he's afraid his wife is gonna find out and there's gonna be a punishment if he could make sure she doesn't find out and even if she does maybe you can repair and even if she does but now it's so amazing he may fall she may fall if what's bothering you is not the punishment it's the relationship is going to be ruined it's two of a special relationship to ruin I'm afraid of losing such a relationship it's not about what's going to happen in a year in two years and three years if somebody's gonna find it if I could fix it or not it's a different type when we say year is Shaman what does it mean I'm afraid because of a punishment no the sin itself is what I'm afraid of the relationship is too precious that I don't want to disrupt it but now let's see the last point and here we bring it together and we come to the last point and that is praises cistern that retains everything who was the ever increasing spring because here you have the two personality types one personality type is somebody who could retain and transmit the other one is creativity it's like the Sun and the Moon the sun is consistent and stable the Moon is always we call it lunatic right lunacy a lunar personality it's always changing waxing and waning disappearing coming back there's two types of personalities foreign creativity Innovation newness curiosity he took the old and he transformed and he interpreted and he explained and expounded and both are crucial in life and both are crucial in education I want my child to be able to have solid stable values that don't change like a cistern that's plastered that holds on to all its truths but yet we want people to grow and be creative and in Judaism too you have this solid tradition that doesn't change with time that's but then there's the Kamaya namaskabe the ability to be fresh the ability to be vibrant the ability to be able to soothe see the newness and not just become stuck which often depletes somebody from inspiration but now look when the Beloved when America says go and see which medatova is the best me da they argue nebulies says to have a good eye everybody says a good friend because he says a good neighbor if Schumann says you see the future and abilizer says a good heart what's the argument so I want to share with you and this I want to I think will be our last point a teaching from the binaya sasra was one of the great Hasidic Masters in Poland as a famous Hasidic work banay is how you pronounce it and what's this argument he says go find what's a Derek taiva and they're all arguing what it is says how do we understand the the nature of the argument and he gives a fascinating fascinating interpretation and I want to shoot I'm just going to share a few points briefly it's a little bit of a deep idea but just one one or two points I want to share with you Hashem take a look in the last paragraph of your Source sheet please you should all know these Kim ayim the s-hearts right you all know them in the beginning God created heaven and Earth and the Earth was chaotic and there was darkness and Hashem Spirit hovered above the world said let there be light and there was light first creation light Hashem called light day and darkness he called Night by evoke says that if you see in your dream the letter tests if you see in your dream the letter tests it's a good sign simentive why why because what's the first letter in Toyota that begins with a test toiv good so the first letter in title with a test is other letters with a test but the first one with a test is toiv so if you see a test in the dream it's good what do you see from here says that every word the first time it's mentioned in the Torah that ultimately has the most powerful significance when it comes to this word just like tests there's other tests but of the first time the title uses a test is tied it means somehow test is good so this means that the first word that Tyree uses about anything the first time you have the ultimate core because that's like the beginning you want to know what good is look at the first time it says to even the terror the first time it says good in the Torah that's the first goodness if that's the first goodness it's the primary goodness it's like the mother of all goodness it's going to say five many other times but the first time it says that's like the mother of all goodness that's like the beginning the Genesis so if we want to find out what's the director let's look at the first toive and see what it's about so he says this is now all the opinions revolve around us what's the first time in the Torah vayara La Kim God saw that light was good what's the function of light light allows us to see light gives us perspective if there's no light everything could be in the room but I can't see eyes need light to be able to see ears nose I could smell in darkness I can hear in darkness sometimes even better I could think in darkness I can move my hands and my feet but to see I need light so rebellies says the first light is seeing uh so he says what's the best thing a good eye it's how you see things what do you see in people what are you seeing yourself there's people who forgive there's people who lift up a good eye in in impartial there's an expression the leprosy did not transform its look literally means it's look in other words it still maintains the same disconfiguration the one who is a leper didn't change his eye his eye in the way I look at people the way I look instead of an iron we spoke about bringing out the goodness in people what's the opposite of that Lush and Horror versus what does lush do what does do why why why why is the terrorist so so opposed to it it's not just a decree that is just a decree you have to do it and just put a zipper on your mouth it's a way of living this people when they talk about people they bring out the best in the people there's people when they talk about people they just know how to bring out the worst it's what the mirror I'm holding up to they hold up a mirror you look at it and say wow I'm beautiful or do I make sure to always hold the permit and say wow I'm so disgusting and ugly which person am I going to be in this world and it's how I use my words constantly how I talk about myself I talk about people I know I talk about people I don't know doesn't mean if I have to correct the situation or save people from a very dangerous situation it's not like that may be the best thing to do when you have a danger in a community Etc means when I become that type of person where's my juice where's my Theos my islamas I'm busy bringing out always the worst in people and then myself and my loved ones is the exact opposite so rebelieza says what's the best me the iron tiger I do want to make mention of a very special friend who passed away on Friday at Mahal schnitzler was a embodiment of this when he came into a room his eyes and his soul sensed immediately who's in pain and he knew how to go over to them give them a hug and lift them up even whenever he met me always shower me with compliments why he just felt such an urge and yearning to inspire to empower to uplift people you see somebody bring out the best in them that's the type of person he was he did it with his songs he did it with his humor he did it with his conversation most importantly he did it with his heart people make a mistake they think Russian horror or Russian taive is just laws it doesn't begin with laws it begins with who you are inside the halacha flows from the inside it's not the other way around it's not like I hate your guts but listen Hara you're a sick person dropped Russian horror it's still good not to speak whatever but it's about cultivating the personality that's the that's that's at least equally important and significant so the bellezza says what's the meaning the Delight should be good light is good when you see light in a person in a situation that's what iron table means I forgive you I see the light in you because I see the light of myself that's the first opinion when you have a good friend where did he get that from says listen to this fascinating word he says as follows take a look at the person before the Earth was engulfed in darkness let there be light so who became the friend for the darkness the light the Earth was engulfed in darkened and God said it's not fair the darkness needs a friend hello darkness my old friend hello light my old friend I just thought of that the darkness needs a friend he says it that's where they got it from all those two Jewish boys Shaman and garfinkel they got it from the mayor oh my God okay he says God said Darkness needs a Darkness needs a friend NASA Darkness needs a friend what a beautiful so so the second opinion who's the second person of Yeshua says you know what you need you need a good friend you know why because we have darkness and what does it mean to have a good friend somebody with whom I can share my darkness that's the definition of a friend and they can then embrace me with my darkness if it's a good friend a woman I can only say the nice things about myself that's not a friend very good very good the only friend in Hamish is Yehuda has a friend the only friend all other relationships in Hamish are familial or Master Slave King subject Brothers of course parents children Grant the only and what's what what what do we see there what happens yahuda does something and he doesn't want anybody to know and who does he share it with his friend because a relationship is always about sharing my vulnerable Parts saying hey I'm the best guy look I did this I did this I don't need a friend I could tell that anybody a good friend is somebody that my darkness finds a friend in this person so that's that's what he says of course the light is good you know why the light is good because it's a friend it has a friend the light has a friend and therefore the darkness has a friend and they befriend each other then you have the third opinion the third opinion to be oh you see he says a good neighbor what's the idea of a good neighbor he says take a look it says God so that the light was good and what did he do he created a boundary who said good fences good neighbors make Robert Frost they're all learning good neighbors I was just a joke good neighbors good neighbors good fences good neighbors make what's the power of a good neighbor boundaries not boundaries that you're in New Zealand that I'm here then we're not Neighbors but it's even in a relationship in a marriage there's respect for boundaries I'm not going to choke you with my love there's boundaries a shock and type of a good neighbor so he says that's what Hashem does with the good he sees it's good and he creates a boundary with the darkness so they become that's a shocking type so you have a bless UA says he who has Vision has foresight so you right away see again he uses the word yeah sees doesn't understand but sees everybody could understand the future but to see it like it's Vivid it's a whole different experience we all know that everybody understands when I eat three pieces of Cheesecake at the priest we all know what's gonna happen but I don't see it all I see is cheesecake that's the problem right if I could see the future I would look even better than I look can you imagine I'm working on it I'm working on it I have to Payson after Payson where I was pesacher was a dangerous place used to be peso he lost 10 pounds and today where I go pay it's bad news hello because they served during my speeches when do you think they serve food okay it's just a little humor let's let's finish here so he says it's right here it says so Rashi says Hashem saw that the original light was the light you could see from one end of the world to the other end of the world but Hashem saw that light will be abused so he hid it away for the future he saw the future and that's why he hid it away that's the opinion of rayasan Island and then the last one says a good heart where is that so he says now you have to do counting with me let's go to the first word and let's count how many words are there from voracious tiltaif let's go veracious is one one Boris two of the chemist three one two three four five six seven eight nine 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 256 27 28 29 30 31. 32 leave and what's the next type so there's 32 words fumberations are key that's lame 32. lave and the next word is but read our works all the words are leading up to tithe what's good a good heart that's the definition of good I heard that he says he includes everything else you say because you all focused on just that word when you asked what is Taif but he showed you that everything till that point is all leading up to that type so it's true you all learned your toy from Taira and they're all amazingly powerful good things that are mothers of other good things includes oh so you're tyvis why because he does he includes all the words from the beginning of Terror till Taif so therefore he includes all the tyvis that you said because he includes all the words up to Tafe foreign ER which is the 18th day of the year because he says essentially I'm sorry the 18th day of no login is the 18th day of ear which is the 33rd day of the aimer right so he says we know that the spirit days are 49 days the gematry of 49 is is 17 9 and 6 and 2. that's 17. how much is 32 and 17. so 42 and 7 is 49. so really the focus of the 49 days of sphere is the cultivation of laive Taif the good heart 32 plus 17 together that's 49. that's why hazal say ain't it Terrace called Taif hid the light in Torah Toyota also has what's called in Zion the 32 Pathways of so to really understand Toyota Hashem says you need a lave toib you need a good heart says there will be like yesterday's man but small says there's 13 ways of interpreting Terror so the name of says only when you have your own yudim in yourself then attire and addresses that you could really expound Torah when somebody learns title but they don't have this lave type they don't have this sense of attachment of connection so then it's just information so I could learn I can discipline I could scream I could be zealous I can be afraid I can instill fear in others but the core of connection is missing the life time is missing the whole the preparation the schmooz is 49 which is lave and Tafe if I don't have the heart or even if I have a heart but it's not a good heart it's a harsh stone-like heart you can't have that mountain title you can't have this inspiring students like this it's just not going to happen it's going to be a different type of relationship yeah you may be following all the rules and all the policies but you don't have the kind of the lifting up of a child the lifting up of a student that comes from a heart feeling a heart that's a preparation and sometimes I can't teach that through words somebody doesn't feel it they don't see it in somebody's eyes in somebody's heart it's it's very very difficult I guess we could learn it but it's hard to learn especially when my comfort zone and my manuals tell me to go the other way so the lathe type is the preparation for shavuas says so after 32 days of the aimer you're finished with leave now you start with toys is the first day of Taif after you got till the word key is 32 the first 32 days of svirus aimer is tell tell the word type that's lamid base and now Islamic gimmel now starts the toive the revelation of the anti volatility the revelation of the light the toivhaganos the inner good once I cultivate that heart now where I look I see light I see it in people I see it in myself I see it in children I see it in students even if the light is gone to us it's concealed by arilakimous concealed it but I start identifying it and revealing it he says that starts the one who revealed Safran the word Zoya means light zoyar means Radiance light he revealed the light of kinimius attire interior itself you have the niggler of Terror the revealed part of which are the halachas the laws the structures which is the structure of title like the skeleton and then you have the penis that's why it's the day that Jews build fires Maduras they make fires which are light sources of light how do you celebrate the beginning of the day of it's through light through identifying the light in yourself and in every person you come in contact with have a wonderful week foreign