A Battle For Identity - Charlie Harary

[Music] okay good morning everybody hope everybody is well happy Monday welcome to the Boost hope everyone's doing well happy we're sitting in the middle of the summer been talking about this concept of infinite Consciousness and understanding who you are and understanding your power so critical so important that when you think through what we can accomplish you understand where it's coming from so much of what we've been talking about over the past few weeks has been this really is based on this premise that the more you dig in the more you'll find when you have a very physical way of seeing the world when the glasses that we use the lens that we see through is physical we're constantly trying to protect the limit the limitedness of who we are let me sort of unpack this a little bit today may have done this a little bit but I think it's important to discuss this when whenever you deal a challenge whenever we deal a challenge whenever there's something that comes our way whenever we're too exhausted whenever you ever get this where you're just exhausted and it's the next thing and you want to cancel it if you can or you want to give up you could be in the middle of work and it's just too hard or too tiring or you've done it and as a result like you ready to give not great material you don't really deliver for your customer you have to go somewhere and you just don't want to go whatever it is whenever you're in that state of I can't when you're in the state of I don't want to hear someone else's opinion that I disagree with because it's it's bothersome to me whenever you're in that moment in which comfort and greatness Clash where you you should go you should do the right thing you should work a little harder you should be more patient whatever it is and really in your life you should hear new things you should learn new things as you find yourself in that moment of but I can't but I'm tired but it's not me what's really happening is there's this identification taking place youever see if you pay attention to your mind you may hear this that's not me anyways I don't do that stuff I'm never gonna be I'll be like this I I I maybe I shouldn't be like that maybe I should just not worry about you know the thing that I would become and just that's not who I am that's not who I I was but not anymore as you start to get to a place in which comfort and greatness start to clash the end of the of the ego depletion what what is going on in your mind is really a battle for identity because at the end of the day who you identify with is core to how you're going to make decisions so you're not going to make a decision to do something that cuts against your essence even if it's hard I'll give you an example one of the great phenomenons I believe at least like I say in I keep kosher and one of the great phenomenons I believe about life you can see in young kids who keep kosher it's an amazing thing if you look at it just from whether you do or you don't don't matter just look at it here you have a kid okay this happens all the time the family keeps kosher right and in that family is a four-year-old a six-year-old an 8-year-old let's make them eight and like every other eight-year-old they're online at some grocery store of some sort or they're in some 7-Eleven or type store and they want whatever is the sugar whatever congealed sugar is the latest congealed sugar they want it and you will if you're paying attention this will this will happen a thousand times a year they'll turn to their parent and go can I please have it please I need it I want it I can't live without it you promis me remember I got a good grade 20 years ago do you remember I was good last week I I'll never bother anybody again you know they're negotiating for this for that congealed sugar and Mom and Dad mom or dad may not want him to get it but they're not giving up they're kids kids don't give up if kids would ended a no they'd get nothing right we should we should learn from kids to not end at the first no and then all of a sudden mom and dad or dad look at the package and there's no symbol on it and they say I'm sorry honey it's not Kosher you will find 9.5 out of 10 times the kid drops it just drops it what happened a minute ago he was throwing a Tampa tantrum a minute ago there was no no a minute ago there was no there was no negotiating he was going to hold to the end and now all of a sudden one word One expression it's not Kosher Everything Changes how come because that's his identity because in the identity of that kid has been expressed so many times that eating kosher is what we do it's who we are and it's non-negotiable and even though he's eight or six and has no he has no muscles to hold him back there's no self-discipline anywhere in that little kid's head for anything sugar related once you go one level deep to who we are all of a sudden strength is found all of a sudden that kid who is already you know losing it picks himself up and realizes that they're not giving in and he moves on to the next candy it's unbelievable because whenever greatness and comfort Clash whenever you're being pushed all the away what happens the The Clash takes place at the crossroads of identity it's now who you are and who you are and the things that you hold the most dear that's what's navigates your behavior because if it's any little LEL of extra if it's the goal you want but you haven't inculcated it yet you're going to give it up right and this happens all the time in our lives you start running in the beginning you hate it or you can't do it and then you keep going and you run and you you feel amazing and then five years later you identify as a runner and it's late or it's early and you're traveling and you got to get your run in you don't even think about it you're out there running why cuz that's who I am what I do is extra it may be important but it's extra to my life who I am is necessary I can't give that up it's who I am it's nestled inside me I can't stop I'm not going to stop I'm not going to wake up one morning and stop being a parent or stop being a Jew or stop and you see this sometimes people get pushed to the end see in our history people that are not connected at all especially times of real tragedy and real um an anti-Semitism times like the Holocaust get pushed to the end at the end of the day I'm a joke the end of the day who you are is what navigates decisions when you just have no more strength than inside you and that identification is what gives you the strength to push forward okay we'll talk about this all right everybody have a great day God help K and see you again tomorrow have a great [Music] day but you're caught up in the rain it's like your wide open but cannot see watching Walk in destruction the wind Life vision [Music] the fre you're locked and onlyy