The Extremes (Rabbi Dovid Kaplan) (Weekly Parsha - Vayikra)

you sure you want an answer yes are you going to yell at me if it's not the answer you want no you sure you're not going to yell at me that's I I was gonna do let's get it straight you're right so then I would say I don't think I think you could do better you say why what's wrong with it I said look I can't tell you what's wrong with it I can only tell you that I see black is black white is white don't tell me black is white and white is black I look at the outfit the outfit to me is inappropriate you want to wear it where it there's nothing I can do to stop you anyway let's say that I'm like yeah how could I possibly stop you it depends who it is if it's somebody if most people who do it are being disrespectful to begin with so I'm not too worried about respect I just say Okay sometimes I'll just say okay I had a guy once I got once uh walked into I bought a product and the guy said something about he asked me in a challenging way about that sir so I started answering him and he started cutting me off I said well do you want an answer are you asking a question here's the answer but whenever whenever you should know in general when you're attacked by people and you especially you guys are going to be vulnerable to this I'm going to say how come Orthodox Jews think they're better than everybody else so you if you're you when you're young and foolish or why don't the religious Jews go to the Army all right so if you're young and foolish you start answering when I was younger first I would start answering it turns into a big argument nowadays I stop people in their tracks because I just say uh it's because how come Martha actually is here better do you want an answer yes no yes right because then they they realize that you don't say no well I answer okay I've got the energy to argue with you want to ask me a question I'll be glad to answer you I'll give anybody I'll give anybody an answer to any question if they ask respectfully the kid wants to ask me this this was years ago this kid uh they had a program you know a program and a kid came over and said why can't the rabbis do something to make it easier for women to get divorced divorces from their husbands when the husbands are with the Raquel Street and how they won't give a get so I said to them do you want an answer yes I started answering so I gave an answer and the certainly started arguing I said I thought you wanted an answer he goes yeah but this is what I have to say so I said Tim and here's an answer to your question like I said to him I'm really not interested in what you have to say he was like what I said listen you know I I I didn't I only said this I don't really believe this but I only said it vis-a-vis the kid I said to the kid I'm an expert in my field I've been studying this for the last 25 years you haven't studied enough to even offer an opinion so why would I want to hear your opinion if you answer your opinion because their opinion to your friends also why do you have to developed a rabbi go tell your opinion on somebody else yeah he just went he kind of got huffed well that's not fair so I in the reason I did that and I did it in that way because I felt more important for this kid was to understand that Torah isn't just a free-forow where everybody could go and express opinions right it was about me against images I felt that that less is much more important than the question that he's asking now the turns out for you wouldn't go you would go up there at the guy who's building a bridge who's an engineer and thought well I think you ought to you ought to use a few more a few fewer suspension uh whatever it is as they using Bridges I'm gonna go tell a guy you want to go tell a guy in medicine what you think you would go without any field of Life what you think yeah you're not whoever you're you're you're you don't know you're a novice you're not even a novice you haven't studied the subject so I found it I found it's absolutely pointless I had one guy once in England hit the door Samantha ranching this is actually cute the guy came over after a sheer and he asked me a question so I said to the guy it was a nice guy as a sweet guy he has a very challenging question I said do you want an answer he looks he goes well yes I do uh no I don't I I don't know it's just like that we're and we both started cracking up yeah we both started crying out so my brother used to do it to me but I didn't realize so many years to many years later um where I would say something to my brother I didn't I didn't and and he'd say to me something like uh is that a question right and I didn't even know where he was going with it I was too to be and I've done this to my kids what I used to do when they were younger I'd say why did you hit him that wasn't a question all right why did you hit him meaning you shouldn't have hit him right they'll say what he called but but they argue I've got the energy who's got the energy there are plenty of answers the problem is first determining if the question I have no problem giving an answer my problem is whether or not a guy wants to hear an answer if we got those winner and answer what's the point yeah yes if someone's like why don't religious Jews go to the Army and if you don't have an answer then if you don't have an answer I he's he doesn't want an answer he's making a statement his statement but sometimes they actually if somebody don't know let me get back good that's the best answer you know what that's a great question let's research it together then you can bring them into our cement and I'll talk to him all right that's that's one of the best thing you can somebody's asking anybody has a right to ask any question they want if it's a respectful question and if I don't know that's the best thing to ask you know that's the better I don't have to I don't know everything my grandson asked me a question the other day I said to him I don't know I have to check I don't know that was a good question my grandson asked me actually a very good question if you look back you went here I just have a very sharp question and then then uh if you take a look all the way back in the book of baratius when they when they mess up Kirby Shapiro is a very good question if you look on page uh page 16. it really stumped me then one of my other uh my son-in-law came up with a very good answer but my grandson has a very sharp question um if you take a look when when God curses the serpent it's uh seven lines to the bottom see where it is on page 16. seven lines on the bottom on page 16. but your marriage Kia sees those because you did this you're going to crawl on your belly you're gonna eat dirt your entire life whatever that means I will create enmity between you and the woman who veins will step on your head you'll nail him in the in the ankle so my grandson asked me well one second I understand who are you talking we're talking about a curse today right now you're talking about cursed to the snake so the first part is a curse that he'll step on your head but that the snake bites the human beings not a curse of the snake that's a curse of human we haven't gotten to the human curse yet we'll get to the human curse good question isn't it a very good question and I you know and I I I've read this a few times in my life and I never noticed it's a great question it's a curse to just think that we're going to crush this thing said so you should say to a woman and by the way your curse is the snake's going to be biting you good question Rabbi Shapiro yeah what do you say you want to fight back you can reach only oh very good that means the curse this is what my son-in-law said very soon he said the curse of the snake is going to be that that your height was reduced you're the lower the highest you could reach is the ankle very good no you're adding very very important you're adding he's adding the part of your curses even when you fight back you can only get the ankle then again the ankle is our most vulnerable part the back of the left foot is probably when you take a shower the part that should be washed the most and gets the least attention because it's way down there right they know how many how how much time you send spend scrubbing the back of your ankle that you know especially when you got to balance yourself on a slick floor and most on one foot most of us don't do that so though that is definitely should get more attention than your shoulders or your chest right because you know your your feet are probably need more cleaning that's a very good answer in case he used to be tall the steak used to be high and he used to be now he's being punished everybody's being punished that the highest you could possibly reach is the ankle he used to be a four-legged creature there's probably there's a spiritual component always but but just on a physical level the snake was highest it was stake was a four-legged creature The Avengers says that a succinct wouldn't have sinned we would have had two wonderful servants a snake would have gone and he would have gone through the ends of the Earth and broke back diamonds and jewels for us and they would also go on and plowed our fields and he would also fertilize our fields and we lost a tremendous servant when the snake when the serpents when his feet were cut so that's uh that's what it says in any event let's finish brushes aikro okay just a few points um yesterday we spoke about the the poor man and take a look at peric base pasok Olive page uh 548. so uh in the Battle of 548 three lines of the battle it says 548 uh three lines of the bottom an that doesn't say when a man brings a a meal offering how does they translate a meal offering made out of flour it says the nephesh it says enough fish take a look at Rashi take a look at that she left column left column about nine lines from the bottom are Netflix it doesn't say the word nephesh by any of the volunteer offerings only by a meal offering me Darko who is it that's going to donate a meal offering that's valtter meal offering Ani a poor man a poor man who brings a bill offering it's as if he's offered his soul because when you give up when you give up it's in many times it's harder for a poor man to give up a bill off because for a rich man to give up again you're giving and I've told you many times that the idea that giving charity saves from death because uh when you when when you take money from somebody you're taking part of their life stealing is considered there is an act there's a level of stealing which is seen as killing when you take somebody's money you're killing him you know there's no capital punishment for it but what you're doing when you're stealing somebody's money you're stealing his life I guess how do people earn money they work right work means you've given up time for your money you've given up part of your life to make that money now I'm taking that money from you except if you're Prince Charles I'd have never worked a day in his life but uh but most people who do work uh so when you take their money you're you're taking part of their life because you earn money by giving up your time by working that's why people don't like working it takes time so uh the Torah then describes five types of meal offerings that a poor man could give when it comes to a rich man you bring an animal okay bring this animal that animal but basically is one animal whichever animal it is there's only one thing you do with the animal you know you burn it and there's a carbon when it comes to a meal offering the Torah describes five variations of meal offerings that a poor man could that a poor man could bring and the malforsum explain why that is is that you want the poor man to feel that he's got a choice that the poor man he feels bad enough he feels bad enough that he's poor like one poor guy said he was spending a lot of money somebody said hey you can't afford that he said listen it's not enough that I'm poor I gotta live like a poor man too you know it's bad enough being poor and by the way there's a metric that says if you take all of life suffering and you put it on one side at a scale you put poverty on the other side of the scale it'll weigh it down I like that poverty weighed down you know why because it affects every area of your life what does that mean the poverty means when when a person is struggling financially it weighs down every aspect of your life you can't afford the good things in life you can't even afford the best actor rich people go to the top searches they go to the best doctors you can't even afford the best doctor you can't afford good food you certainly can't afford tasty food you can't afford in in in and and then at night you can't sleep because you're worried about the next day your house is you gotta lousy house the Goron talks about a house the puzzle talks about a poor man's house is dripping down and then there's a statement that said the word says Apostle says all days of the poor man are bad he's constantly suffering City Omar says what about Shabbos if you know here you don't have anything on your head so you know the answer is if he suffers do you know why because he ends up with physical ailments because of the DraStic switch in his in his any drastic switch inhabit right so a rich man who's eating he's eating the the finest meat during the week so he's four fine meat on Chavez he's used to that but a poor man who's barely is barely scraping by it barely has three meals a day and outside the shop as he starts eating him more than he normally eats so then there's going to be a backlash of physical background he's not going to feel well from it says in all all suffering all suffering in life you put it on one side poverty poverty outweighs it it's constantly on a person finances are constantly and by the way I mean marriage it's it's possible it's probably the probably the biggest cause of strife in marriage is finances all right the gabbar says the fighting starts when the when the uh when the the words of the world where there's no more barley in the house that means there's no money in the house that's on the fighting starts a wife has ideas spending money there's no idea is spending money and uh you know it's uh it's uh like they like none that's the husband's idea right and the wife is the wife needs to spend and it would often have the men are so unreasonable men are so unreasonable the wife is usually asking for money because she needs to make food for him and the husband comes and he says how come there's no how come there's no woody and we're eating uh how come we're eating sandwiches because you wouldn't give me money to go buy chicken what do you want me to do or the husband's wife needs to go and pay the wife there's a bill the wife takes that tells the other there's the bill and husband gets upset they ask the pay bill is that her fault it's not her fault bill has to be paid kids after she you need shoes wait you don't want your kids to have shoes fine so they go without shoes what do you want them to do so it's a tremendous pressure tremendous pressure on on what he called it causes stripe you have to know how to handle it very well a couple has to be on the same page and they're not in most cases okay that's the test okay let's go to a couple more points I want to do here all right now if you take a look at peric-based plus a good gimbal so it says um page 552 second two lines in the Bible you go into a very interesting concept here the whole Corban means every Corbin every mental offering that you bring a minha by the way the minha is not just the dabrina means the meal offering you put salt on it vilosash peace not withhold the salt of the Covenant of your guide from your memco offering and all your core buddies you bring salt that means all the carbonos we had had a certain amount of salt that were put on them now the idea you'll notice that the Torah calls melach bris a covenant of salt that means there's a covenant between us and the Altar and the in the in the offerings certainly represent the Covenant the bond between us and go to work why is it called why salt called the Covenant why is it a covenant of salt why salt called the Covenant [Music] before you get to the promises to the oceans and the Seas what else salt doesn't get stale no you've never been at a table where somebody put on sauce oh this salt is really stale to the country it's also preservative call it salt salt is a preservative salt and salt keeps other things fresh you salt it you can salt meat to keep the meat fresh that that sort of thing salt is a preservative so the same way that salt doesn't become stale the bond the brist the Covenant between us and of course doesn't become stale that's idea number one idea number two idea number two is uh is is more far-reaching and that is if somebody would ask you what are the first two things that you would hear that you know what opposites people always play Let's Play opposites all right what's the uh what's the first two opposites that come to mind what's the first thing what's that water water and oil water in oil I wouldn't have said water and oil darkened light I always said water and fire I was over man and woman is by by the way abandoned woman are opposites and woman is fire man is water kabbalistically a woman and Manner and that's why woman Isha is Olive Shin hey that means she got the word h in her name H with a hey at the end man also has fire in his in his name alephed Shin but he's got a yield between the fire that means little woman probably her fire is lit less often but when it's fired when she's lit up look out right there there's you know you don't you know that's it and if a man gets his wife upset or anybody gets a woman upset a woman gets upset they had Asia's there and that's why the gamara said that when a husband and wife live together in harmony so you have the yud from the man and you have the hay from the woman which is hashem's name so the Divine Spirit hashems hashem's uh the presence of God is there when a husband and wife where there's Harmony between them but if you take away the Hashem Spirit if you take away that they know you left the two fires Maryland is two fires I I remember when I first my first year of marriage we were living in uh we're living right here up behind the issue of 135 and Mild Dafna and there was a secular couple living in the building that was my first year of marriage I was trying to behave as well as possible which wasn't great but I was trying to at least I was trying and uh there's this married this older married couple who are uh not religious and at least once a week they would go at night she would just unload on him I mean she'd be screaming at him I understood what the fire what because I meant when they talk about a fire and she was yelling I mean the thing she was yelling at him and all you'd hear is she's yelling and he'd just give a very calm answer and she's screaming right and it was it was like they say some things about his girlfriend and sometimes about this and I mean it just kind of sure rattled me as a as a newly married man that kind of that kind of rattled me yeah that idea of that I did they're kind of screaming and uh um so so fire represents the first those basic opposites that most people think is fire and water fire and oil water and oil is true because water and all the oil floats to the top they don't mix together most people yes what's the opposite of fire most people tell you water like the water and fire the water exchange okay there was a uh there was a book written by a Reconstructionist Rabbi I don't know what reconstruction this is probably you know I guess it's a some form of Reform right but again that wasn't enough reform wasn't enough they'd be reconstructing to say okay there was a by the way I think Rabbi Gottlieb told us about this there's a guy in a uh Sociology class so the instructor in college the instructor turns to one guy he says to the guy uh a guy's name is O'Connor he says O'Connor you're Christian aren't you he goes yeah can you tell us something about your religion so it kind of gets up and he talks for about 10 minutes and he sees another guy he always got guys named Mohammed he says you're you're a Muslim aren't you yeah okay tell us something about your religions he gets I'll be taxed for about 10 minutes this is Goldstein Goldson you're Jewish aren't you he says yeah he says girls are going to tell us something about your earliest I'm sorry sir I can't he says why not he says I'm reform he said well don't you think you ought to know something about your religion before you reform it that one line pushed Goldstein off and he turned into balchuva as a result that started his search because he went home and he thought himself hey the guy's right I don't know anything about my religious I started searching like many people I have a very close I have a friend who was in a Catholic school Catholic uh Prep School a very very smart guy and one day he gets called into the office by the principal Bishop Garver Bishop Garver called somebody Taps him on the shoulder he says Hey Levin Bishop Garver wants to speak to you so he walks into the office and Bishop Garver is the prayer he's the base of he's the one he got the principal of school and he says to live in what's the difference between maimonides and not commodities it looks like he goes I never heard of either of them a completely secular family so I never heard of maimon he's never heard of Commodities so Garver reaches under his desk and he pulls out a translation of the ramban in English and he says to him Goldstein go back to your people you don't know what you're missing I mean Levin okay Levin go back to your people you don't know what you're missing he told me that he didn't know what hit him you know what his guy want for me to make a short story longer he ended up he ended up he ended up going to the new Square Casino found his way to the new Square hasidim in New York he became balchuva ended up in near Israel Yeshiva in Baltimore where he got his smiha and he said at his wedding there were three people sitting at the head table the square rabbit Yeshiva and Bishop Garver was sitting there at the at the head table he said Bishop Garver had more than anybody that's what he said to me he said he was so happy there you go now this guy's very very big before he became a show Rabbi now he's a fourth he's involved in Outreach a very very successful guy so so that that triggered off in any event this reconstruction is a rabbi named Harold Kushner wrote a book one of the biggest selling books in history which is why bad things happen to good people I don't know if you've ever heard of the book why bad things happen to good people it was one of the biggest selling books in history at one point I think it was only surpassed by the Bible and by Harry Potter which tells you about how sophisticated our society is so the uh in his idea in the book he himself suffered an intense personal tragedy he had an eight-year-old son who developed what's called rapid aging disease there's a fancy medical term for it they're like you know 21 cases in medical history where the kid is eight years old what's that I don't know the answer is yes but the the what he called is and what what happens is that the kid I saw a picture actually the kid is eight years old he starts aging there's nothing else wrong with him except that he's going through an aging process his entire body and all of his all of his uh uh what he called all of his organs are aging and at 12 years old he died where he had the physiological makeup of an 80 year old man right and the family just watches a Wilt away and he dies of this disease so he wrote this this book and we're not judging his personal tragedy but the claim that he makes in his book and I don't know why it became so popular because I would certainly hate to Hate to hate to Hate to live like that his claim was God is good and all good things come from God bad things are random and haphazard and happen independently of God which is obviously heresy from it's her point of view that was the claim that he made it's not the first person in history who's made that claim ancient philosophers made that claim as well his book became very very popular the Torah over here wants to emphasize that we do not buy into that philosophy and the way the Torah emphasizes that is by bringing salt on the mizberg salt represents the fact that rules the extremes that means good what we perceive is good and what we see is bad in life is also a result of our controlling it how does salt represent it because salt on the one hand he has a characteristic of burning if you leave salt on something it could burn actually burn through it's got the principle the property of fire in it but where does salt come from comes from the sea so it's got the property of water so salt represents the extremes and therefore we put the salt on the misbeck on the altar in our devotion to God we're making a statement that we believe that our courage rules the extremes that means even something unpleasant that happens to somebody assuming they haven't been Reckless or absolutely careless but something bad that happens to somebody that is also being brought by Curtis Brooklyn his claim was that it's operating independently randomly and haphazardly and it could strike anybody at any time which is you know I would much rather believe that God is doing it for a purpose than that it's random and haphazard and it's not it's and it's happening I don't know how that's how that soothes anybody I don't know I don't know why the book became so popular Rabbi Godley obviously dissects his all of his arguments as Rabbi the gottlieb's a rare ability to do so and breaks it down and first of all he starts with you know why bad things happen to good people well how do you know that you're a good people you know what makes you a good people did you put on fill in today did you give charity that you know where you first got to Define what a good people is well Godly once told me he was he was give he was on a panel and I think this is when he was younger he was a little arabicately but you know as you know he's usually the smartest person in the room whenever he's in the room he's probably the smarter he's always been the smartest person he he was uh yeah on a panel and it was a panel of parents who have suffered the uh the pain of their children becoming Bali chuvas so he said there are 200 people in the audience those kids became about you because there's a panel of rabbis and the last woman of the evening they're asking questions the last woman of the evening gets up she says well my daughter became a ballist juvent she projects a holier than thou attitude and is very irritating so the first Rabbi gets up and he's very apologetic we're not supposed to do that we don't think we're better to give the whole the whole thing and the the rabbi Godley is now the last speaker of the evening if you get a picture of doing this he's the last speaker of the evening and he says to her um well did it ever did you ever cross your mind that perhaps she is holier than you all right when is The Last Time You Prayed when is the last time that you did something you went to this time you obeyed a rule you know he just and he shredded her and he told me he told me that he did it also for very much the reason that I did it to that kid he didn't want 200 people leaving the less speaker of the last question he didn't want two people 100 people leaving with this idea that Bali chuvas are a bunch of monsters that make everybody upset and he felt that he's going to have to sacrifice the individual for the good of the cause he said he heard later the lady hated him but but but he you know it was a calculated and I happen to agree with him I have to agree with him here you're you're starting off with a given you're starting off with a given it's like that famous course have you stopped beating your wife yet never heard that question John hey you never heard that there's a famous it's a trap is it well what are you going to answer if you stop beating your wife yet yes which means you're right no I know either way you turn you're finished yeah I'm thinking about it I I understand I'm thinking about it I'm thinking about it doing it or doing it harder yeah I understand either way you're either way you're finished so she's starting with a given given that she's holy she's projecting the thing now everybody is accepting her given well who said you're given is correct maybe it's your projection it's a loaded question I would have done the same thing if I would have thought of it if I would have thought of it but they that that's the that's the idea okay um now a very important concept I want you to take a look this is extremely important um and this offering page 558. is a very unique offering that's brought and it's brought for specific circumstances and this is a this is a vital importance gentlemen on page 558 it says top out of age you call it is if the entire Jewish people make a mistake vanilla on government they do something that they shouldn't have done they mess up the entire Jewish people messes up what this describes is where the Sanhedrin has made is rendered a a a halachic decision the people followed the halach decision and they did something wrong the Sanhedrin made a mistake so a certain offering has to be brought I'm not going to go into the details of the offering what's what's what's crucial here is that do you know that there's a tractate called there's a tract they call horius one of the masectas in chess which discusses what happens when the sun hedrin makes a mistake when big people the cohengodo makes a mistake in his Allah ruling and it's disgusted the perception of the people outside look at us and they think that we think this is this is this is where they wait they think that we think that we're perfect and we know we are anything about perfect that's why when a religious man does something wrong they jump on it ah see a religious man embezzled who said who said we who said we can't and who said we don't if the Torah says don't steal that means we're capable of stealing if the star says don't murder we're capable of murdering we do it a whole lot less than everybody else and the things were held to a much higher standard than everybody else but no one ever said that we're infallible and not even the leaders aren't available I want to show you something remarkable take a look not every name but almost every name of everybody in the Torah we'll start with Adam harisha utter marisson is criticized Adam is criticized made in the image of God and he's criticized he didn't know the original sin Java is criticized who's called it got drunk right he's criticized avrah mavino is criticized he said Hashem How will I know that we're going to inherit the land they got punished with 210 years 400 years of exile for those two words how do I know I'm going to inherit the land the flaw in faith at avravina's level Yitzhak is shown to not have seen through Asaf ASA have deceived him yaakov married two wives he got upset with Rahul he's criticized for getting upset with Rahul when she was upset that she didn't have children who got angry Aaron was involved with the golden calf Miriam spoke lushanhara pick a name in the Torah and you'll find almost every name there is some sort of criticism for that all right nobody you know you don't see that anywhere else you'll see Mohammed there aren't too many negative statements about Mohammed and the people who made negative statements oh I haven't lost a lot of weight very quickly right their head was chopped off right you know they didn't they didn't there was a sudden a sudden 10 pound weight loss program right criticized the new 10-pound weight loss and lose 10 pounds instantly criticize Mohammed right that's yeah what's his name in in I've never read the New Testament but but but there isn't too much criticism about him right he's just you know they I don't know what is he he's a water skier or something you know I'm not sure exactly what whatever you're awake exactly but all it was just wonderful just just great and wonderful and in the Tour all of a sudden everybody everybody you see you pick a name and everybody's got a flaw the answer is the what the third thing is we're not Flawless there is no there's a posse that says there is nobody who is perfect who doesn't sin four people the Gomorrah says four people died sinless and even that is not agreed on by everybody there the gumar says there are four people who died four people in history died because of the decree that came about of the serpent which means that God decreed death on mankind I mean there are four people who didn't deserve to die and they died what's called sinless in some opinions say no they didn't die sinless it's just that they didn't sin bad enough to to to have to die and the reason they died is because God decreed people have to die so the Torah is telling you we we never said that we're perfect we never said that we're Flawless and it's a very big misconception that people have because that's what people think that you're thinking people think that you're thinking oh you're just so wonderful how could religious Jews go into this and how could religions go throwing stones cars throw stones and cars and shops or burn fire fire garbage garbage dumpsters and massarm when they're protesting and do something wrong the answer is because they're human beings who have a big gate Sahara like every other human being they're not the fact that they're wearing a black hat doesn't you don't put on a black hat and automatic become exotic it doesn't work that way yeah you have to work on yourself and we never claim that we are flawless and the Torah is telling you even the Sanhedrin could make a mistake in a ruling and we need a whole track day to deal with it and that itself is a lesson to us the fact that there's a tractor that itself is a lesson to us hey guys you know we never said that we're perfect on the other hand the Gomorrah says that the criticism of the Jewish people is a sign of the greatness of the Jewish people so when when the Jewish people are criticized if we're if you know if if you ever saw a imagine you see two religious Jews get into a fistfight what would your reaction be yeah imagine you're in show imagine you're in show and two guys get into a fist fight which has happened in Chills by the way it's happened I missed it that time I was already I was already in Israel my mother said to me oh yeah this weekend she'll two guys were talking one of the guys turned around they're talking during the Torah reading when a guy turn around and they just kept until they ignored him like a fly on the wall and he just turned around and clocked one of the guys behind him and I missed chill that week how do you like it right he clocked them and which I'm sure by the way there was some history there also they don't usually clock people I mean this is the guy these two guys were probably he was probably looking for his excuse to clock him right yeah what's her and everybody's my goodness hitting a religious Jew hitting now what if I told you there was a Two Italians all right you know you're you're actually like what took him so long you know you know it took 20 minutes till he punched him you know what what took so long the answer is the criticism of the Jewish people is already part of the prince if we're criticized for that about one of my warmest childhood memories with my older brother who is the the the goody goody the sadical who who was always skipping grades and uh you know he was he was brilliant and then one day I think he came home with a 91 on a test and my parents are like uh what happened with the test what he didn't study and they didn't pressure they never pressure but for him it was because he didn't study for the test and I remember what happened I think he came back with a 90. that was like a meeting a closed-door meeting behind you know I was so happy I was so I was so happy I got a 77 we went out to our restaurant that night you know I was so happy he was getting in trouble they also got my parents also got upset at him once because they got upsetter once because some other kid in the class caught was copying off him and got like a got the award I got to get some sort of award copying off my brother he got a higher he got the same grade right he got the award he had copied off my brother my brother just didn't care you know my parents were who were they also weren't there those type of hairs I just remember the song I don't even know what happened but they they they ever just remember that tells you something about the person they tell you well you know I saw a guy bench that's how you bench it took you so fast you benched in a minute and a half hey are you forgetting something he benched he benched right that's the crit the criticism tells you what we expect of the people so if we're criticized we're criticized for for something like oh yeah I forgot to dive in minika today you know well oh you know look okay that tells you something there's a person we expect to be that van it's a very high expectation and the higher the expectation that's why the criticism tells him okay tomorrow we'll start parchment