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#11: Iggeres HaRamban (10 Minutes of Meaning) - Conquering Your Ego
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In this episode of “Ten Minutes of Meaning,” Rabbi Efrem Goldberg delves into the powerful teachings of the Iggeres HaRamban, a letter from the Ramban to his son, which offers timeless wisdom for personal growth and spiritual development. Rabbi Goldberg explores the Ramban’s advice on overcoming anger and cultivating humility by speaking kindly and compassionately. He emphasizes the importance of humility as a gateway to Yirat Hashem (awe of God) and how ego can obstruct our connection with the Divine. Through vivid anecdotes and practical insights, Rabbi Goldberg demonstrates how humility and self-awareness can lead to a more meaningful and fulfilling life. Join us as we reflect on the Ramban’s profound message and discover how to apply these lessons to our everyday lives. Wishing everyone a meaningful and joyful Tu B’Av!
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everyone a very happy to 10 minutes of
meeting is generously sponsor
by
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mother please help yourself to coffee
and to pastries make bras this morning
celebrate two together we're learning
the ran the Ran's letter to his son but
really the Ran's letter teaching every
one of us and the ran has been teaching
us this formula we want to be spared
anger anger is not something you work on
or conquer directly but indirectly by
conditioning and habitual ourselves
to if we speak kindly compassionately
softly then we will be spared anger when
we're spared anger then we'll be filled
with humility humility is the greatest
quality of all as we said we've learned
from moshu if that's what asem praised
Moshe for it must mean that humility is
the greatest of all of the qualities
when a person has a healthy dose of
humility says the ramban then the next
step in this formula is y you're able to
have awe you're able to have fear if you
have a big ego you've edged God out
there's no room for God you can't be
impressed you can't be inspired you
don't live with either fear of
punishment or consequence
or it's only when a person sublimates
their ego it's when a person surrenders
to Hashem it's when a person realizes
it's his world now there's room and
there's space for him in this beautiful
world that we live in
is
paraphrasing that a person should think
about three things if a person is
Mindful and cognizant and aware always
of three things it'll lead them to a
good place and the first is may know
where you come from when a person
realizes where we come from person
realizes our very humble and modest
Beginnings then a person can't have an
inflated ego we can't think too much of
ourselves then we'll be able to have a
right context we'll be able to be in the
right in the right place in the right
position ego is the number one thing
that gets in the way of all of our
relationships we sabotage our
relationships we T sabotage our success
we sabotage our connection toes to the
almighty in fact this was his past
week's para Torah tells us as mosha is
delivering his monologue to the people
he recounts these seminal moments of
Jewish history he's recounting the
iconic words of the assra the decalog
but first he reminds us he reminds us
that he stood between hash and the
people he was the agent he was the
Ambassador he is the one who transmitted
and communicated hashem's word
how you know what stands between us
and when we have an ego when we're
driven by our own selfishness and are
seeking our honor and our own desire to
be an influencer when we somehow think
that we have power or fame or money
says you know what stands between us
and there are
two the an that is the beginning of and
this our an our sense of eye and there's
not enough room in the world for both
someone once wrote a letter to it said
the following quote I am in a state of
sadness I wake up each morning dreading
the day ahead I find that nothing lifts
the clouds of Gloom I try various
distractions but nothing seems to work I
pray but in operation does not come I
need the rabbi's help and advice the
rebbi sent back a brilliant reply he
didn't write one word all he did was
Circle the first word of every sentence
in the letter what was the first word of
every single sentence in the letter i he
circled the I and sent back the letter
this is your problem the way you'll
break out the way you'll transform your
life the way you'll improve your
relationships the way you'll be more
inspired the way you'll find greater
happiness is you got to work on the an
he wrote back all he did was Circle the
first word of every sentence the letter
i when it stands in the way then we have
trouble to have relationships but when a
person says that to his
son if you put on your heart not
occasionally not every now and then not
once a week at the 10 minutes of meaning
but Tom consistantly and constantly and
always if a person regularly puts on
their heart may I in BOS your humble
beginnings where do we come from a where
do we come from and where are we going
what are we entitled to what right do we
even have to be here have our faculties
working we're going to be future warm
food we're pushing up daisies and Roses
that's our future all of us have the
same ends can have all the money in the
world but you can't buy a longer life
maybe better medical care but ultimately
when it's our time it's our time all the
money all the followers all the
influence all the power of Fame can't
extend your life we all have the same
ends and when a person Ted
regularly tumid put in your heart
consistently and constantly keep coming
back to it it is the anchor it holds Us
in position and it's what enhances
enriches our relationship ego is the
enemy ego is the end ego is the dead end
to every relationship and to our own
happiness and edges God out and when a
person says that're I'm bound to his son
when a person can work on eliminating
that ego when a person can achieve the
greatest Mala the greatest Mila of anava
now there's room for
and that is the most meaningful life yet
so we have to cut it short here the 8:30
minu will begin with RAB is wishing
everyone a very happy Tu should be a day
we hear yes