Rabbi Aaron Goldman's Hesped on Rabbi Dovid Trenk ztz"l at Yeshiva Gedola and Mesivta of Carteret

first Henry was ever read this was the first dinner that he was ever at that everyone everyone was there wanted to be there last week rattle abaya everyone was there didn't want to be there but if there's gonna be Leviathan wanted to be there everyone wanted to be there the Joshua's were inspiring we weren't too long they were beautiful one of my children called me up afterwards and asked me so did they hit the new CUDA did they hit did they get it that they did they that they define the man you say a story it's not true of course so Marshall three blind men got together and they they met an elephant and each one wanted to define the elephant so one of them went over a blind man sees with his hands and he felt the legs he said an elephant is like a tree it's it's like big and strong and white another one felt the tail and said what are you talking about when felt the trunk is it you guys are way off and elephants like the snake everyone from their perspective they see a certain part of it and they think that's what it is I also do I'm also wrong they you all didn't get it I also don't get it but I rabbit roundshot so he honored me with being able to speak about a man I knew for many years I met her up dove at rank in 1971 and can't walk all the pictures in the at Ted have him as a white Peter and I don't remember him that way I remember him with a black beard and he was still the same ball of energy he still was the same comic zooming out of the sky we I used to check them I mean those of you who know me know that I did that for many years almost 50 years I tempted them said is it true that you're ready in the mirror says yeah this is Julia of the bug shear go nuts of course not is great the greatest I was very impressed with it and I am I used to observe him play one interesting story tsch above his a long fast day a long day and the children have eaten already those days was before you sheep in camps and the campus went up to the seventh eighth grade my CI T's maybe 99 arts essays I don't remember which letters it was and uh and they ate most of them so what are you gonna do when the counselors are eating so one of the senior members of the staff were taken the senior division and Robin took the junior division and when everyone went to eat he sat there with these foot there with them he told him the story to keep them occupied and I don't remember it was my first year he can Monica my second year but I wanted to watch it so I probably had my box of Entenmann's at my two-liter bottle of soda and my 50,000 ounce of potentials already ready and I went to the junior division to watch it it was uh there was a stormy night and Duffy was up there a flashlight he said I recall Bernard Goldman could you please turn off the lights in the back he said children it's there's a storm tonight it couldn't be that the lights are couldn't go out see how the flashlights see how funny I look see up there might be see how place it could be in the ministry it could be the lights to go out somebody who's this specially sure enough the middle of this three the lights went out and nobody blinked he told him the lights are gonna go out yeah the flashlight and he continued this story he said I'm gonna go to the other place make sure everything is it was pandemonium that was a panic they were going crazy by Arab dolphin it was said first of all the story is mesmerizing that's for sure second of all is entertaining a third of all and they know what's gonna happen so what to be dealing that's what he was he was we thought about things beforehand you're gonna define him who is he is devoted he's dedicated he's his Fela his out of the sabrina's yeah these are all through things about him mama tell you something that most people who knew him will be stunned when I tell you this I might be wrong this is my perspective you put me up here right so this is my thing don't shrink was a very shy person it was a shy person it was very difficult for him I know I'll tell you he was a shy person he had to gird his loins to do the things he did you all think in that city of everybody goes it went for my faith he came up a base open some friends of Russia had to make an announcement there are three words that no one in camp is allowed to say anymore I don't want to hear it anymore there are three words that no one is allowed to say Frank is crazy this would be chanted in the dining room this would be chanted on the fields no the same don't save anymore there have been other crazy people in history I brought my vino didn't want to live by shame he meant bakit ethic he didn't want to live there why not he went to the pleasure to live why because he's gonna do stuff that Sheamus gonna think is not you're gonna get down on the floor and Bank filthy dirt worshiping Harris to come into your house you have a worker outside it's a hot day off from a cold drink outside right it's cold you know from a coffee you're breaking into your house you're bringing for some of your [ __ ] got a good cow from to get better time for your nuts make a broth oh I'm sorry that's not my religion oh oh okay how much a million dollars where else you need to get a meal like this in the desert not paid no million dollars for a meal oh and the answer we happen going here because we'll be spending money without [ __ ] he doesn't want to pay could you get your sword well what was a [ __ ] Barbara well go ahead I say you're Russia she thought you're busy with that that's how you're doing karen says he was not from Hashem my wife told me had to say that but I did anyway Javed Sheikh was not sure I shall wet psy one of the darshanam by the libido said that dolphin shrank only saw the good in people he didn't see the bad and I don't completely agree with that I do agree with half of it he didn't see anything bad he saw the negative he did see the negative qualities of people didn't care it didn't bother me to focus on it but he knew I know because I worked with him for 20 years now many people there in his Shiva so if there any vote with another that means they worked with them I don't mean that I don't mean how isn't the same as she visit I mean I worked with him I could talk to him about every single boy he wasn't 1,000% the positive I had the less positive that matter wasn't a bad boy but he was he was a human being he wasn't so full of thought oh this kid is perfect as he counted on his jaw to break his jaw right one little boy went berserk and he grabs him he holds on the old to him down and the kid Yanks his arm out of the his breast and pounds on his jaw again and again yeah filly credit can barely open this job for weeks that's a negative thing that's not something that should be done he didn't give a big kiss and they can't be afterwards he didn't smack him he didn't kill me I don't be me they don't even know he threw him out later of course the president remains a stenographer you don't wait to what do you mean we live for one he know and care wasn't important it was a humble person now when a person thinks have been enough a humble person so if I were to ask you you know two people come into a party one person comes in sneaks along the side of the wall apologize to everybody for getting in their way takes a couple of Soudan stands to the side drinking it another person who walks in and saying hey saw my I didn't know what happens in such a look like a party of my fight not to a party which one's the one of so people will say well it doesn't want to attract attention to himself yet if you look who is the premier or though who is the most humble man who ever lived where's your baby shall be no what are you hitting that guy for he kills him he goes to parent you better let them go out or gonna crush you with the with the the shyness terraces and enough says I don't matter let's say I'll say something to someone I know will give me like what's wrong with you but that doesn't matter it's a right thing to greet someone so I'm breathing I only got nuts it doesn't matter I will greet it because it's the right thing to do and I don't count how many times poison is Shiva see a boy has a big mouth and he makes fun of somebody and you think it's wrong you're afraid to say something because maybe he'll turn on me next but an olive doesn't have that fear maybe he will turn on me maybe he'll even attack me but it doesn't matter because I don't mean side of me is I thought me dog train was an honor it was an Emma stop Otto you think he did it no the people thought that things were naughty he knew it's gonna be good he's gonna dance my cowboys Chavez does he want a baby he does maybe he doesn't but it's the right thing to do when is she was smoking he couldn't stand they would smoke he couldn't tell you he once raised the guy and he beat him he said you know why because I don't smoke in you and do smoke he couldn't abide it we was caught smoking we put a miss car drove straight that Brooklyn dropped him up with his house yeah can't smoke another since he was a little boy and the tree doesn't rain no but he wouldn't throw them out because this boy needs this and that boy needs that and there's no set of rules that says this is what you do when this happens every situation was staged what the best thing for this boy not what's the achievers rules what's the it what's the best thing for him and that's what he would do it was devoted to the children I say the children because what my children mentioned to me they learned a lot of words they learned a lot of words from the Train he's going to take out the refuse he wouldn't say the word he could he was so fine he was words that word not that naive now we're not and we're not refined he just he would he's going to have their refuse garbage is such a terrible word he wouldn't use that type of work just it wasn't his vocabulary he was so he was so sensitive to even things like that we lived in Adelphia you think Carter had this small adelphia was small also close to the Lakewood but he was small and everyone all the children felt a personal killed a connection to demonstrate he could talk to them as they were he never talked down never took done to anybody he didn't care if you made fun of him teaching you promise with little dolls little benches right see he showed the relationships in you vomit this one's married to this one this was brother this one's it so said everybody had claim of men she's but everybody knew tomorrow he was a good teacher he wasn't just a showman he was a good friend not just cuz he can into a victim he's a good teacher he got he got information atrocity I I got closer with him 1977 I got married in 1975 1976 didn't go to camp on 1977 we went back and can't monk at that time did not have washing machines and dryers in the camp so what did one do so one went to the laundromat so the oven shrank and I would go to the laundromat early in the morning before domini to do the laundry and we spent time talking and one time I asked him you know I'm a young man I'm thinking of going into him how do you teach for 20 years and I burned out and not figure I can't can't do this anymore what do you do to keep that freshness you know what he answered me zero you didn't say a single word you did not know what I was talking about yes but what on earth do you mean he didn't express it but when you won't like teaching anymore you're one who like dealing with children but it wasn't was it what are you talking about what is burnout didn't know what I meant he never it because he has no idea burn dubbing trainer was a fixture in Camelot they still remember over the microphone call me about it could be a change in later years I left camp long a long time ago I'm in Kip bunun knee Norman for 40 years so I'm gone from Kipp monk I looked up in of my days at 3 p.m. milk milk milk cookies come and get them no came out he worked third activity you know he checked it sometimes he had to be the late OD they don't eat meat you're on duty we still to look like in the morning you wander around the camp to make sure that they're not burning down the bumps or any other childish of fun I once said to like a shot you're you're up in the morning early you teach you teach them I Smith and afterwards you're busy with milking cookies you check their own activity yeah they'll go to a bucket where do you go D what are you doing this for it's not to worry about it let's say they come in on 12 o'clock that's fine it's not my headache it's so relaxing when he was in his Shiva every kid of every second was on his mind you think I'll beat Mikasa you think I'm exactly I have to tell you something when I first came to Adelphia I have a place to live I lived in Baltimore and I was teaching it Adelphia they wanted me to live on campus there was no place yet we look in Lakeland throw a place to live and have a hard time finding something so I commuted I went home each week each weekend but but during the week I stayed in the house of Ravi and Rebbetzin training this schedule at that time yeah about five o'clock in the morning and learning 7 o'clock or 7:10 he would go to the dormitory to wake the boys up he came back to Domini and his Tolleson full and diamond book of rub every single word he nuts heated clearly middle of Luke it is him he would go back to the dormitory to wake up the rest of the me that diamond he was over he sat down for 12 minutes and learn part of walk with his voice after that was breakfast he went to the dining room and stood behind the waiters making sure every boy got food then first Sager I remember nine 3915 he taught till 11:15 a break for 20 minutes then he taught till I don't know I remembered 10 to 1 for the one then he went to the dining room and stood behind the waiters and made sure everyone got lunch you not eating whining eating who you take this try this room then is minister but karl rove meal of a meal then the second Seder be 20 to 30 now when the rest of us are collapsing he's the English principal he was the principal of the secular studies he was there around the classroom for the teachers huddling discipline probably because you may or may not notice but sometimes probably can't imagine that there were times where the children got rambunctious and the other needed to be a calming influence 6:30 English is over suffer time never expected the dining room for supper making sure every boy has every night Seder so each one of us I was in tenth grade Remmy there's eleventh grade and twelfth grade each one had to be a night Seder every third night except for that weight training it was there every single day exhausting schedule for any human being after my roof as a break ten o'clock back to the dormitory is the dormitory supervisor until 1:00 in the morning and then he finally come home and I don't know what he didn't guess out I don't know it's why young woman Kia's number it's it's it's almost impossible to believe he was so tired I was at that I was at the Train comfor I don't remember why it was shaman Shuba and I remember it was before we move was there fresh office and he was so tired his his head kept drooping falling down into the and and it was you heard footsteps quickly hurrying toward his house he jumped up somebody's been hurt he runs to the door throws it open and there's a point down the street the garden foam it was on the house wind up by 24 thank you what happened it went is it me you're exhausted will you play from what do you think happen we think somebody killed somebody I think kids you know something he was once [Music] once there was a there was there was a political disagree I safely got mean really there was a sex off in the belt between the Lubavitcher ever and roughshod and someone said something I don't know if it's true or not true but in the Obama to read his name something negative with synagogue of shock and rebellious faith made it not see fit and groping to stand up through the honor of the God willeth art so it happened to be a weekend or for us so I said to the boys you know you're gonna be in Brooklyn and rebellious gonna speed it was a time here is that go where up higher and had enough see me talking about college it was like a fundamental plastic saw happening you're gonna be there anyway so why not go when he rebellious speak so later I talked it over with me drugged of it he said I never would have done that I would never have to see Jess if they go to that I said but why rebellious abuse so you from carbonate era he said the children do not understand such things they don't get it and although get from it is confusion there's no Milan Hall okay I was 28 I know everything he's an older man must have been 38 39 so of course I know better than him so I wasn't - I was nonplussed a week or so later the boy in my class came over said Betty I don't understand something there's a guy on my block he's my manager he goes to shul every day he he he shops the same kosher food stores away Dobbin train would never talk about these things what a joke not to get above this nonsense work it was so bright he was so right we were once coming back from great adventure he organized a trip for the children to go to great adventure and it was a long day we're coming back I said next time on the bus I said you know that tomorrow it will be come on de les baux be like me didn't nothing it'll be like what have you done for me lately he just looked at me that smile who cares this was a good thing for them and therefore we're doing it I'd like to be you anymore is a bottle bathroom now I'm enough you who never arrived but rubs left early so I he's like tight let's remember this man with tight the Osher been accomplished money his name is Joshua pen combo he was one of the Kohanim Cat Island and he should be remembered everlastingly for good shield male who because if not for this man yoshua penned gamla his talk got tired be Israel the title have been forgotten from the Jewish people 7th ela because in the beginning me she's play off beloved a title the person had a father the father taught his son Tiger me shame I have someone who didn't have a father low high alignment Tiger he could have learned my Doris why did they do this believe my dad was ugly mind about that you should teacher absorbers his ski that they made a decree she was even beloved team Vikas fuchsia light he should make schools in Jerusalem my odorous what was the joy sir what was the hander he means the other type they'd say Saira the iodine would still be here so hot whoever had a father Malo an alum they would bring about 30 should learn it one by the beloved me shave my eyes someone who had no father Lohia England didn't go out to usually Bellomo his kingdom they made a decree she was even before plot the plot in every region there should be a school my fear so some conventions I can bet you in science they bring a man at 16 or 17 that didn't work too good me show a rabbit cutting us all off and he prayed the Rebbe got angry at Mahmoud PO the kid would kick you out sonship that's it I don't need you I'm 17 years old there were no such a thing I'm 70 I know what I'm doing need you that's it boy you're Shubin God he can she was she alum 18 acres before Medina medieval here but your mom feels on your Majesty's command Sheva made elementary schools he made them in every place but Weinberg the second rose achievement in you so that so yes the very powerful question but Weinberg asked why if not to your Shubin gumbo with the turban forgotten people have fathers there's children whose fathers are teaching them ok so the ones who don't have fathers will not while the Taira be forgotten nice route somebody's gonna have a father Weinberg said entirely that doesn't care if there's people who don't have personal kill but tomorrow that doesn't care that there are people who can't learn that kind of toy life doesn't need you don't take care of those it's women if you don't think about shall the other hand I don't like you so sorry so time-consuming God does he took care of them does that mean every also learn I don't know but it was a attempts at work everyone knows that doesn't rank when to determine sort conventions and he stood up which I don't believe was easy friend and to get daily Israel he not equipped yo why don't you do it why don't you take it why don't you take you why don't you don't be wasn't a giant Shiva but they took it good boys it took it boys we're having difficulties to get wins we're not having difficulties who knows why now there's nine thousand people in Lakewood learning who knows why there's seven thousand it would be really rich life when I came to Adelphia there were 1500 Tom meeting in lately who knows where the scheme of program in in the world who knows why artichokes bubbling out with toy room via walking the streets is he fill target learning you walk in a store didn't used to be like that then he used to be like that well you mean this man sitting in this little thing co-teaching with his little men cheese and going to Thomas or Convention and begging and pleading with the leaders of the generation that care about these children they you know what was the flowery of I don't know I don't know but cuz I'll tell us you know mullion to a big table you should talk after me so we can more continues to drop which i think is also an after but he's also convinced a scheming Sheva it brought in children six or seven years old or merely robbed her of school by Sheila's from school by Sheila's was a famous Mohammed he said to him I've told them I just tell six years old look Rockville don't take them into the school they have to be home by mommy don't think of it be convey a look from then and there over six Caulfield take them beyond spilling it Torah stopped up like an ox for speed chant as much time as you can into them the overlay around the room I see less he bought his lien Nuka when you have to hit a child load Timothy L of Iraq so the Messiah hit him with his shoelace don't hit him with anything work painful than a shoelace now listen to this dakari khari if they learn and they learn the low curry love itself so the hovering if they don't learn don't throw let him be there to be part of the population they'll be company for the others you don't have to throw them out right she says it straight out well having sat on the copy he does suck of the a-string you don't have to hit them it's not going in you did them you should be dying a little bit south of alpha nothing don't throw him out le ation in my favor let them sit with the others bits ATSA a super loss easily in the end maybe maybe you don't maybe it'll open up I remember a point adelphia was in my class he didn't understand anything he didn't understand anything it was so sad he tried so hard and it just didn't go in it didn't go in he was fired oven I don't know what he did maybe did get something in by me he couldn't understand the culture he couldn't understand the simplest thing such a nice boy he tried so hard I went to the 11th grade and he his schedule was he would eat and sleep meaning he was in the basement issue from Dominick he go he brings it back to me Spanish go eat lunch of back to this bench Gaudi suffered back to the base finish he didn't stop it was so sad he tried so hard it was in 12th grade that year don't ask me why we were learning fooling and he came over to meet with the cash this is a good this is really a good caution they must say s discussion Mayan down one the acronym yes but it was a complicated but I Owenton yes the capsule right so I got it I got a teacher deterrence so I sat down with them and I read through this thing set the end he said to me let me make sure I got this straight and then he said it back up an organized with every point covered I just looked at it he said I say something wrong I said no he walked away I couldn't even move what on earth happened this guy's already there just fell down what do you nobody nobody would take this kid nobody you want to know what I mean hey it's like bill has been working us brightest eyes that you'll get married young children learn well what do you want you have no ahead you get a dope he didn't believe that every single person can't have a family Kent I wrote I personally was having a difficult time at one time financially it's very very difficult I was advised to look for an afternoon job lately teaching in the Heder teach English and I didn't really have much of a choice because I didn't have enough money to pay my tuition and I was ready to make the phone calls I had been called before and I always said no but now I was gonna make the phone call velvet rink heard about it he said no you teach English by me they come here how much did you pay we get bathing I said I can't cover the tuitions he said I'll take care of it he covered all the tuitions all my kids because I talked for an hour and a half they have to I have my children left school they got older so there's less tuitions see he got the money to me you'll teach him to see that she's short once a week and because of that I was able to stay in the Achieva for a number of years nobody nobody with no big Tehran's you don't even have my saga how many other people I used to beg him to close the sushi I have to admit it's not the way I think masculine I used to beg I said what do you want what do you want he said I wanna have a place for these boys I said you can't have it nobody's sending to you it's a statement don't you understand they don't want it what are you always like doing statement would you like to help children go to the lake and take ten kids bring them do a show and learn with them in the morning then set them off go back to the lake in the afternoon take ten kids and learn with them you'll be a hero you'll be you'll be beloved with it like that then when I do rotations you remember but you'll be a hero what do you need it for I want a place for boys my children love all the children what should you do - uh - what - or - somehow said he loves - Davin you love to learn he loves to help people they had very beautiful articles in the intent this week in fact other newspapers will carry other beautiful things and there's stories and story but can you ever touch up such a person a shy person a humble person who made himself not shine who forced himself to be in the forefront to defend any underdog anybody who didn't have it wasn't able he was there for them he was Hannah and Hannah listening here it was not an honor it was a person who knew what people were he understood exactly what people were he didn't care he didn't care he chose to focus on their qualities and what they could be I listen which I tell you we all [Music]