Purim 2024, What's your Intention? Inner peace # 119

welcome everyone to another Wednesday night the fundamentals to gain in our pece with your host Coach man bernfeld and here we are before PM before T we're going to be setting some intentions see where we are what we're feeling and all of our thoughts for the next few days last week we did some meditation Letting Go meditation to be able to spend a few minutes without all of our bags with all of the things that we carry around with us our beliefs our stories just for a few minutes as if everything is fine just imagining for a few minutes that there are no stories blank fresh and um so yeah if you want to listen to the recording the recordings are available um bf.com you can go listen and it's something that you should do more often not only once and it helps just a few minutes a day whatever you use whether it's breathing meditation self care all of it is needed especially in days when things are overwhelmed there's a lot going on to find some time some time in your safe space where you can sit down take it easy or maybe take a walk in nature whatever works for you so before we start setting Our intention for tonight and talking about intentions let's get grounded just to take a deep breath and uh become aware of what we're feeling where we are becoming present being in the moment where am I where you sitting and then turn inwards to see what does your body feel there's always some feeling going on we don't we're not here to change it to fix it just to become aware take a deep breath in and let it all out and just do a body scan just to become aware of what your head feels feels like your face your mouth your jaws your shoulders and if you feel anything just be aware of those feelings take a deep breath in deep breath out your stomach your feet your legs your toes you can wiggle them just to shake it out you become aware of how you feel of where you are okay that's all that's needed to become present just a deep breath we connect with our breath and our breath is always in the moment it's always in the moment and it's consistent you focus on a breath it's always there no matter what's going on in your life no matter where you are the breath is there connect to it in and out so let's talk about a little bit about setting an intention so what does an attention mean just the basic definition is to get some clarity where am I what am I doing why why am I doing this so it brings you into the moment and you become aware of where you are what you're doing and it takes it to the next level what do I want what do I expect what you know you can we can set an intention um but we discussed many times you can actually decide how you want to feel for beginners might take time but eventually you learn that we can decide how I want to feel wake up in the morning and you can set your intention for the day is everything going to work the way you want I don't know so yes there's a way you can look at your day journal for a few minutes to see what do I want my day to look like and then you can see how do I want to respond and what do I want to feel and let's say you set your intention to feel calm it could help for your day to walk around take care of what you need to take care when things don't work the way you want you stay in that calm moment and it doesn't mean it always works and you might find yourself in a place where it's not working but that's okay but it's the idea of looking you know looking forward seeing what comes up and deciding what do I want so setting that intention it helps us the focus our energy of where we are how we feel so let's actually practice let's do it now let's set on intention for the next few minutes okay so we'll set an intention why am I here you're listening to me which is amazing you took some time off of your day I don't know what's going on could be it's hectic could be it's not and you decided to come here and listen so what's your intention for the next few minutes and if you want you can share it in the chat just an idea just what what are your thoughts what are your feelings your intentions of showing up here being here with me so I'll share my intention my intention for tonight for showing up here is to spend a few minutes with myself and with you to stop to stop running where I can relax take a deep breath and think about setting an intention for the next few days that's my my intention to find some time where I can be just be and see how I'm feeling and think about the next few days see how I can set my intention for the next few days beautiful so some of you want to set an atttention to stop from everything that's going on that's beautiful to relax to have easy fast okay so all of this could help taking some time before before you do something you know what do I want in the next 24 hours so this is by by sitting down before you know when you get it into the moment before thinking if you don't think about it if they throw you into it it then it is what it is and your reaction is the way it is and you're not even aware of what's going on but if you stop for a moment and you become Mindful and then you can decide how do I want to feel tomorrow I will feel a little bit weak if I don't eat okay and what's happening what do I have to do will I manage what do I think take a deep breath we can visualize things happening it might be be kids running around might be hard so you can decide you want to find some help or see yourself in that situation take a deep breath and see how you can set that intention how you want to feel when that happens you want to feel calm you want to be in control you want to take it easy and hopefully when it when it actually happens you're there you're aware of it and the this idea of setting intention is before anything it's living on purpose it's being aware why am I doing what I'm doing what am I doing what do I want and then can I control everything no but there is a difference you can say you can I would like it to be a b and c and what happens happens but at least you you're able to project you can be there you can see it and at least you know what you want what are some ideas some ideas before to set an intention you want to get clarity talking about t even P so what's something that you can do you might want to read something listen to be to feel connected you know that's an intention or to explore maybe to find time to relax but all of these ideas are simple ideas that you stop for a moment and think for you know think what do I want become aware so if I ask you thinking of Tomorrow tan and then Sunday PM what comes up so step number one is just to be aware before you set any intentions what comes up and you can share in the chat just a a word or two your feelings your thoughts for some people it's hectic some people it's not but just to be aware what comes up when you think about the next few days you might be excited looking forward or overwhelmed fear of the unknown uh confused frustration hectic these are very good words just to be aware of where am I that's it being aware of those feelings will I do it right I have not you know some people haven't had the best experiences in the past how am I going to do it this year what what's going to be different social pressures family time what comes up just uh just to be aware before we set any intentions to see where I am take a deep breath and just be aware of what you are some people love it and some people hate it and others are in between just to see where you are now we're not judging there's no right and wrong if you feel that way you feel that way and there's probably a reason for it but we're not going to get into it but just to be be aware you're going to your kids kids coming to you staying home alone not coming too noisy you name it you name it so that's that's the first step becoming aware take a deep breath and don't judge you might not like the way you feel but don't judge it's okay now the question is what would you want to see something different you know it's it hasn't happened yet maybe there's something you can do maybe you can do something you know you have time like we said you can prepare you can start early you don't have to wait for the last minute you can call a friend to discuss it or whatever it is something that you can do that can make it a little bit easier here but that could also be part of awareness if you would have a button that you can press if you can make the day look exactly the way you want what would you like to look like it's part of the awareness now it could go into expectations but we're not expecting it to be that way it's just that if it would be my choice I would do it that way now could you could do it could you can't but just the awareness how do I feel and if I would have a choice what would I do how do I feel when these when these ideas come up when I think about [Music] it and if I could press that button what would it look like the next step is to visualize now there's two ways two ways how to visualize you can visualize positive and visualize negative and they both work you have to know what works to you visualizing negative for example you imagine everything going wrong and you take a deep breath and by the time you're there it's probably not going to be that bad so you'll be used to it you'll be ready for it and you'll be able to be there be present and say it's okay I would love if things be different but I'm okay and you continue breathing you can be in the present moment you don't have to escape take care of yourself that's the looking at the negative wave another way is to visualize the positives just see yourself calm everything working the way it should know be ideal it should make sense and see how things are just amazing and that's where you set your intention how you want to feel how do I want to feel while it's happening and do it now do it beforehand we setting on intention before I do it what do I want to feel and you can come up you know relaxed present listening observe just to be there and then you visualize it as if it's happen happening so by the time it does happen it's not the first time you're there you've been there before visualization is actually takes you to a place where you feel it's happening it doesn't always work for everyone I know that but do what works for you if if it works visual visualize see see it happening see yourself there you want to dve him you want to say something him you want to have some time some people have a lot of pressure because it's such a holy day and that makes a lot of pressure then I would say just say one cap do something and we can decide beforehand if you decide to say tell them twice maybe you should call someone to discuss it it might not be a good idea but the intention is amazing you have a great intention but you want to make sure that it's something that's doable that you can actually do but you know sitting down beforeand seeing what do I want it to look like if I would be able to control it what would I do and then you decide what are things that you could do and the things that you can't sometimes we're not in control we're definitely not in control of other people how they're going to behave how they're going to react and then we set our attention how do I want to feel and you'll let me know you'll let me know how that works especially when there's when it's hectic things are happening you're not used to it it's really every moment is different you're not you're not ready for it but if you find some time beforehand and you can look at the situation and you could see how things are happening um things that you didn't plan for and other people showing up there's a lot going on but at least you're ready for it so let's the next two minutes if it's okay close your eyes and take a deep breath and become aware of how you feel now just by listening to what I'm saying does it make sense or it doesn't and now let's set Our intention for the next few days just visualize think for a moment without changing anything what do you see what does it what does it look like your initial reaction what does perm look like what does Testa look like your initial reaction take a deep breath and just be there if it's positive amazing if it's not be aware if things come up that you don't like take a deep breath and just see it many times it's in our mind and now you could see what's in your mind it could be based on the past but you can see what's in your mind things that you're scared of even if it didn't happen yet you're worried to take a deep breath and become aware of it and now let's try to visualize that everything is working out it's just positive you're relaxed things are taken care of you're organized it's clean and even if it's not it's okay see yourself there people around you are Happ happy things are working out just visualize it see if you can do it see what comes up see if you can have some time when it's quiet for yourself just few minutes in a hectic day beautiful and that's where we set Our intention what do I want to feel relaxed calm happy just feel okay being in a good mood content just observing with all the ups and downs you're okay just set your intention and now comes the most important after we set Our intention we let go after you see what you want and how you want it to you know if you want things to be different you set your intention you want to be in a good mood in a calm mood everybody happy which is amazing the next step is to let go and let things unfold and you're the Observer You observe it might work it might not work you might see yourself calm you might see yourself overwhelmed it's okay so that's the tricky piece over here we're setting an intention and then letting go a lot of people wouldn't want to set their intention because then they have expectations but the reason why we want to set intention is because it makes a difference your energy your energy in the room by setting intentional will make a difference so you want to set the intention but after that you want to let go and be the Observer and be okay with what happens take a deep breath while things are happening so beautiful that's it for tonight again setting an intention and then letting go and you can do that every day in the morning you don't have to wait for hectic days you wake up in the morning spend a few minutes take a deep breath and talk to yourself say Where am I what do I want for my day set your intention and then let go and then observe see what happens and especially before hectic days you want to find some time where you can stop spend some time with yourself see what comes up see how you feel don't judge it's okay whatever comes up keep on breathing and then you can see how you can set your intention how you want it to look what you could do and what you can't what you're in control you're not in control and I'll end that that's really that's really what perm is is all about not only P every time you know we have goals there's a lot of things we want to accomplish we want to serve Hashem we want to do what what works what he wants and that's great that's amazing but then there are times that it doesn't work the way you want I guess Hashem wants something else it's not working out the way you want so how how do you take it what do you do so that's where we have to let go obviously there's something behind it there's somebody behind it and this a certain way that has to be even though I'm not happy the way it is it might be hard the story of P talking about on Testa they didn't know that there's going to be the whole story of P were in trouble they were in trouble it wasn't so exciting for the Jews so what they do they fast and they prayed and they D so again there's that piece of wanting a certain way doing your best and then observing and letting things be the way Hashem wants and then is the other piece of when you're in a situation that you don't like it's okay and that's what has wants we should D so that's what we're going to do tomorrow we're going to D there's a lot of D for there's a lot going on so we have what we can connect a little bit and then hopefully with the with purum we'll have everything that happened on purum hopefully everything will happen for the Jews that needed today's days and um we'll see a lot of Yeshua in mem but that's the idea find some time set an intention then let go and observe and take a deep breath thank you very much enjoy the next few days with the ups and downs whatever comes up and the recordings are available on man.com we'll meet next week Wednesday night mitem thank yourself thank you thank yourself for coming for joining for taking some time off find some time the next few days for yourself just a briefe have a good night and I'll see you next week