Living With Emunah (Part 212) - Carpool is the Best Classroom

good morning poker tov so great to be back living with emunah the microphone was requested so hopefully you can hear better in the back with it loud enough good fantastic i'm so happy you're all here love learning emunah together and growing and reminding ourselves what we already know i say every week i'm still shocked that you keep coming back because i just say the same thing every single week mostly for myself i'm glad that you come to hear it as well which is our weekly emoji support group working on our amuna muscle to be able to instinctively react with emunah when we need it when our anxiety kicks in our envy kicks in our arrogance kicks in our anger kicks in to dig deep and to remind ourselves stay calm cool and collect let go oh my god everything is for a reason everything is by design everything is meant to be there's nothing there for it to grow anxious about there's nothing to be envious of there's nothing to get angry over and there's certainly no reason to get arrogant because we are not in control we are not in charge of absolutely anything i want to thank as always i want to begin with our attitude of gratitude which is such a core prerequisite to emunah to be capable of feeling gratitude the humility to feel gratitude the administrators is generously sponsored by dr xavier morgan a member of it in memory of his mother and chancellor allah the life of service to the jewish community and thank you so much also this morning's i'm going to share is sponsored by ron gaul in honor of his recent engagement to pam cohn big mazeltov and we're so so excited and we're looking forward to welcoming ron to our community more fully and to celebrating that simcha together also this morning co-sponsored by bailey smith for the reformed slam a wonderful young man we wish him a refuge should have good health and happiness should give his parents and grandparents and quality through lots of nachas and he should go on to achieve the greatness that he is poised and positioned to do so i want to start with an emunah story every week i always tell the listeners those who are watching those who come in person should have mentioned you first you are the primary audience um but i always say send in your own stories because there's no better way better way to grow there's nothing that more reinforces our sense of amunah than those stories that make it come alive and put in practice so this is a great amount of story because it happened last week at the amunishir so last week i don't know why for no good reason at all i started telling you about rav machlas great sadik of yurushalayim his wife allah shalom who was an extraordinary satay guess how many peop how many ordered the book there you go i don't even get a cut i should have sent you like a special code on amazon i got a cut for the shul but rabbits and machis was one of a kind there was simply nobody like her she was just an extraordinary extraordinary person you got the book you read the book we talked about reading biographies is the best genre of growth not self-help but uh said talbot shakhar the famous happiness guru professor at harvard don't read self-help books read biographies biographies inspire us the most i'll be the biography so whatever reason i was moved last week to mention that i tried to get rid of michael's to come behind the bhima he is so humble and so real and so genuine and so special that he said why in the world would i be on a show about inspiration if i read through these texts you wouldn't even believe it he said if i ever become inspiring i will let you know but right now i don't qualify to be on that show you should go get to someone who's inspiring back and forth and back and forth my groveling my begging my pleading and the answer was no the end of sure last week stephanie gross who should have good health and happiness and success and vibrancy and that we think of and wish the best for stephanie's father's first year site is coming up and she said you know remarkable went to school with my father and loved my father i bet if i reach out and ask him to come on to speak about my father and dedicate the episode and maybe my father i bet he would do it fast forward next week's guest behind the bima rabbi marcos so i don't know what motivated me to talk about it last week but then stephanie happened to be here last week and she says it happens to be that next week is my father's yard site and they happen to have gone to school together and i bet marcus would respond to that and now that i've announced it for sure he can't back out so next week hashem on behind the bhima that is our emunah story of the day these stories i just want to clarify something very very important very important these stories are not the reason to believe these stories are not the reason i believe when someone tells you this incredible story and i was running late and it turned out now i would have been in the car accident the plane went down i would've these are not the reason to believe because someone read a story and it made you cry and it tugged on your on your heartstrings and you saw that video and you said wow this hashem and it came to be and it just worked out that's amazing they reinforce ouramuna they're lovely they give us goosebumps to bring tears to our eyes put a smile on our face they're well worth it i like them and share them as much as you do but let's be very clear they are not the reason for emunah because for every one of those stories we don't forward the video that says we dabbing really hard but my loved one died anyway you know they were delayed they left and then they got in a car accident which had they gone on time they would never have we don't share those stories those stories are also emunah they're a lot harder to see a lot harder to get inside and i want to tell you in this context there was a great article last week in the shbaka magazine i do i don't get a cut of anything that i promote or share there's no like product placement like dunkin donuts right now i don't get a i don't even get a free cup of coffee at dunkin donuts we don't even still have our kosher banana i get nothing don't get done so but i'll i'll tell you there's a great article from a rebbe of mine reverberator was a teacher with the rebbe of mine when i was in israel after america and i was learning revlocker is the talmud of obama the masjid of yusuf i'm very close to the revolver is an incredibly special human being big time himself one of the reasons i love reflection he actually visited us when i did the narula elf program in israel way back when way back when so they would go out to the people who went out in the field and they would visit and check up do you remember what stayed with us one night and he came he taught my judaism a to z i was in the colo i was in charge of outreach at the time i had a class did that were any of you alive when that was happening i had a class called judaism a to z judaism a to z and he came in one week and he taught you this immediacy so he has an amazing article last week and he's talking about um he said many years ago my friend's wife passed away leaving him with five young children to raise when i went to the shiva i found him surrounded by friends and family and i felt a bit super superfluous when i spoke with him he told me he was very happy i'd come because he elaborated everyone else had tried to explain to him that his wife's passing was really a good thing i was the first to acknowledge that something terrible had happened so let's be very clear living with amunah being an extraordinary example of amuna does not mean whether for ourselves or trying to convince others that there's no such thing as a painful experience it's all from hashem so the fact that your loved one dropped dead leaving you all alone with these orphan children it's amazing isn't it amazing it's from hashem smile be happy for that's foolish it is absurd it is an absolute it's an injustice it's a disservice it's a disgrace it's not what hashem wants from us at all living with a moon and believing that he's here doesn't mean that things aren't painful and i'll give you the metaphor that i think about all the time when the answer sometimes is now for us which is with our own children i always try to think you know the mystics kabbalah tells us that all the relationships that we have in this world all the relationships that exist marriage romance of a husband and wife intimacy a parent and a child the love the devotion the selflessness of a parent towards a child hopefully reciprocated one day a child to a parent every dimension one day one day no it's here don't worry i don't worry none of my children listen so i could say one day but um and i'm not bitter at all about that but one day so all the relationships in our life colleagues employer employee friends king and servant master these are all metaphors that kabbalah for the relationships with hashem every one of them there's an aspect and a dynamic with hashem that we can relate to an experience only because we have a parallel in our relationships in this world of all the relationships by the way of all the metaphors which is the most aspirational in our relationship with hashem which is the highest level which is the paradigm that if we're living our relationship with that most fully that's the model or that is what the the metaphor the analogy we're following is it master and slave is it boss an employee is it friends is the parent and children so the missionary adam says that kolashiram kadush but shirashiram is kodashikadashi all the shia all of tanako 24 books all the mcgill is they're all holy in their own right and the books are filled with these metaphors these examples these comparisons these analogies and they're all holy and they're all out of service and they all have a purpose but you know which is the holiest energy they're all holy but the holiest is a husband and wife a love affair longing yearning desire romance energy electricity intimacy that is the highest the union of a husband and wife sharon begins describes yesha he describes it as an intimate kiss and rashi who sees all of shirashiro has that metaphor and that's the art scroll translation methodology of rashid says an intimate kiss between a husband and wife something reserved you know for people who are really in love even other acts of intimacy or boundaries that are violated with others but that act is often protected and preserved as the ultimate intimacy of a husband and a wife of people who are really devoted to one another the shah khanim and the shikhas pew the imagery the intimacy of a kiss which as much as i'm blushing right now talking about this is one of the books of tanach it's this is our sacred torah when we talk about it in the right context in the right way for the right reason there's nothing to blush about so what is the what is the image is shaking when we receive the torah we connect with hashem when we submit and surrender to him when we feel his presence in our life it's like it's like a kiss do you not ever feel his kiss when things work out when things come together when things came through the thing you were panicked about or anxious about or worried about and it worked out when you got that good news of the miracle of the blessing of the good fortune of the yes to yesterday's telo do you not feel like he just gave you the biggest kiss he just gave you the biggest kiss you feel so connected you feel so in love you feel so bonded together you feel so so attached so that is the holiest so we have all these metaphors so that's the one we strive for unfortunately or realistically often the one that we live with regularly is the parent and child that's the one i think about all the time so as parents those who are not yet parents we bless you if you long to be parents you should be zoha have beautiful healthy children we give you lots of nachas grandchildren who give you tremendous nachas many many many many six million six million we were dating i don't know how it came up how many children do you want true story of heaven how many children did i say i wanted i wanted six million since i didn't carry the children we didn't get there we didn't even get to we didn't get to a million but anyway should all be blessed with with six million each so parent and children you know we love our children does loving our children mean that the answer is always yes the third grader says can i have a phone with no filter in my room with internet all night and then cries and screams and as a tantrum you don't love me now fast forward and the 11th grader says my friends are all going x and they're going to enjoy y and they have no curfew to come home at z can i go are you out of your mind absolutely not they have a tantrum a older tantrum but it's really it reduces it it's the same it's the same tantrum and in both cases and now you know keep fast forwarding and in all these cases when the parent says no is it because they don't love the child the parent says no it's because they enormously love the child it's the parent who has no boundaries and always says yes that in fact doesn't love the child they think they love the child they really love themselves and don't want to have to deal with the tantrum of the child and they're loving themselves and not wanting to deal with the tantrum or not having the head space or the or the energy or the time and they love themselves more to not deal with the tantrum you know so so in our home it's been said sometimes when the answer is no and the tantrum ensues and says but my fitbit so and so and so and so and so and so are going so and so and so on so and so i have that device get to watch that thing get to experience that thing i say i'm so sorry i feel so bad their parents don't love them as much as i love you now i feel a little guilty saying it but not that guilty i mean i know them i know their parents i won't lie that i hope it doesn't get back to them my friend my kid's probably texting their friend right now my hobby said that your parents don't love you as much as he loves me right so if it gets back i don't care it gets back because it's true because it's true when you really love then you put boundaries and you sometimes say no and if you don't love as much or you love yourself and your serenity and your sanity more than the expense and the cost and the effort of saying no then then you then you don't say no you always say yes but if you really love then there are times that you say no and you say that no not out of hate or spite but only out of love the kid who wants to run in the middle of the street a little kid who wants to put their finger in the outlet the little kid who wants the answer is no because i love you says the answer is no now when that child is crying hysterically you're having that tantrum you can say no and simultaneously hold them and cuddle them and cuddle with them and and tell them how much you love them and do another fun activity with them and say the answer is no sorry you can't go but i love you and i want you to know it and i respect the fact that this is frustrating painful that right now you say you hate me and you feel i hate you but you're going to grow up and say thank you so so so much for not letting me go hashem we've been zohan and i bless all of you to get to a point where they grow up when they say looking back remember the thing in the fight the yelling and the screaming and hey the tantrum and the drama thank you so much for not letting me go thank you so much for not letting me have that so that's what a lifetime is saying you paid the ship a call where everyone else foolishly and ridiculous we're going to get to the safer i hope but foolishly and ridiculously said your wife died isn't hashem amazing you have these little orphans isn't hashem fantastic everything he does is for a reason this is what's meant to be you were so lucky to have her when you had her and god bless him i'd love to put and he said i'm going to paraphrase he didn't say this stinks i'm so sorry you must be in unbearable pain from hashem he has his master reasons master plan one day maybe we'll find out why but right now it hurts it stings it's unbearably painful it's acutely painful it's chronically painful and i'm with you and i'm with you and he says everything i love this article that's why i'm sharing it with you this is the safer first of all we're learning revolver revlon so we're learning revolver by learning this sort of lifter and he quotes revolver here if you read it i apologize it's khazar he says the following muscle which i really love he says life is like a voyage across the sea most of the time the sailing is smooth sometimes there's a stretch of choppy water but once in a while there's a storm at some point most people experience a major crisis when it seems impossible to go on those storms of life threaten to pull us out of our world into the narrow cell of our own emotions our ship is in danger of being swept away we need an anchor to hold us in place the amount that everything hashem does for the good is vital to our lives as jews but it's a weak anchor it won't save you from a raging storm because the storm will always be stronger and the reason is simple we can't understand hashem's plan one day hashem will be open our eyes to see the reason for everything but for the time being we don't have the ability to understand so the experience remains a painful one shiva houses are full of well-mentioned visitors well-meaning visitors who tell them warner that a sudden tragedy may be according to save claudius all from a massive blow or the deceased received the tremendous host of rousing other people to do cuba it's all true but it's not an anchor statements like those don't help them want to cope with pain they don't give tools to deal with experience they simply dismiss it as if to say you've got it all wrong really your reality is a pleasant one it doesn't help a person in the middle of a crisis to sugarcoat his situation doing so might it most distract him from the bit of reality but at some point it will return in full force and this is the story i wanted to tell you this is revolba a certain rush of shiva once suffered a family tragedy the whole shiva he told his visitors that everything hashem does is for the good and we must accept his his decree thank you with simha it was amazing to see zamuna but revolba told me it won't last long imagine a vulgar the great mashiach is sharing on his way out of the shiva house to his talmud about a russia shiva a rosh hashim who is carrying himself the whole shiva with greater muna it's from hashem it's for a reason i'm happy we accept it you have to have it with a full art we don't challenge hashem and revolver walks out and tells his talmud it's beautiful and ain't going to last enjoy it while you heard it because this rashashiv is going to crash unfortunately he was right several weeks later the russia shiva was totally unable to function he wasn't a charlatan his moon was truly steadfast but he had tried to use the moon to bypass the pain that doesn't help because he experienced the pain but not the goodness of hashem's plan which only he can understand a person going through a storm needs an anchor not to try to convince himself that the storm doesn't exist we need an anchor that deals with our experience rather than denying it if we look deeply in the torah we'll find lessons of ammuna that can help us sail or survive even the strongest storm and that's the rest of the article i'll still make you spend some money on to read the rest of it he then quotes the other sources in torah this notion but my friends what a powerful lesson back to his savior those two is to say for the stories from istanbul is also the life of rava but what a powerful message that we need an anchor not to live in denial denial is not just a river in egypt denial that says everything's amazing and hunky-dory and you know denial and hunky-dory and fantastic and wonderful isn't it amazing i got this diagnosis isn't it amazing my investment crashed and burned isn't it amazing i lost a loved one is that's just denial and it can't last and it won't last and mental health professionals will tell you that living in denial which is one of the stages of grief at first it's got to transition to an acceptance and to a closure and to being able to grieve to mourn but you need an anchor to deny you're in the middle of a storm is not going to save you when you need an anchor and the anchor is emunah the anchor is that's why we meet on wednesdays this class is a moon this class is an anchor it's not enough on wednesdays every morning with a bracha that first broke of the day how are we doing on our homework so so average got to set an alarm we got to produce our mugs our coffee cups we're going to get to it berliner but every day you got to start dabbing three times a day we're in the middle of a storaging storming raging sea so you stop and you're diving three times a day and you drop your anchor and you remember oh yeah i forgot you're here i don't have to worry i'm gonna get anxious i don't have to panic oh yeah you're here there's a reason there's a purpose oh yeah you're here i don't want to be envious what someone else has and also be jealous so we dropped that anchor that is why we live with amuno we practice we pray with ammuna that is why we talk about emunah we're mindful of ammuna we need that anchor don't be in denial of the storm drop the anchor the strong anchor that'll keep us stable and keep us steady even when we even when we and and i'll transition to something else that he said which we began with many of our children go off in life to places where there are hurricane force winds if you're going to a secular university campus there are category 5 winds that are blowing from the day they arrive we who engage and encounter and go out in the entire world we are engaging category 5 wins every time we drive i-95 and its billboards every time we let the messages and the icons and the ideas and the ideals of the world around us we let them in through what we're reading or watching or thinking there are category five storms all around us and the only way we will survive is if we have a strong anchor and that anchor has to be a geshmak to be a yidd a beauty of yiddish kite and torah a beauty of doing mitzvos a beauty of what we have and we live with a beauty of emunah that there's a hashem that he comes with us to the campus or our dormitory room comes with us into the courtroom operating room he comes with us in the boardroom he comes through the supermarket in the gym he's with us in our living room he's with us in our kitchen he's with us in our dining room he's with us in parent teacher conferences he's with us wherever we go he's with us that is the anchor that stabilizes us and makes us able to withstand whatever storm comes our way the storm again can be bad news it could be a diagnosis storm can be pain the storm can be whatever that storm is we need that anchor it stabilizes that anchors what's going to be able to hold us up my amen we're on page pavel let's get in at least a little bit of the text the flow of blessings coming from above everything about this coffee which i told you a billion times already the growth of the coffee bean the 95 the distributor every gift of this car everything about life make a bracha there's a flow of blessing that comes down wow the air we if you lived here you walked outside it's unbelievable the weather we live in this is it this is why you're here combine that with those state income tax it's unbelievable unbelievable the gas mias is unbelievable the richness hopefully is not bad we all belong in eretz israel this is the best stop on the way there that's what i tell everybody on the way it's a little detour this is the greatest stop in the world on the way there but you walk outside how could you live in boca raton you live in florida in november and now walk outside every morning and say thank you it's unbelievable clear blue sky the cool breeze while you feel the warmth of the sun on your neck the birds are chirping the lizards and iguanas are crawling and you say it's unbelievable there's no winter coat there's no gloves there's no shovel there's no boots say thank you wow what a way to start the day i'm losing friends right now watching elsewhere but what a way that's all right it should come down what a way to start the day thank you hashem and then when you make that first brock of the shackle many people's verse bracha is on the mug that they're spilling on the way to the car to the carpool to the late to work to the so you have a you have an opportunity you have the opportunity walk outside for so you understand that the greatest classroom that your children will ever sit in is the carpool is the car it could be a place of great tension and strife and fighting of being late or it could be the biggest classroom of their entire childhood the curriculum of what you talk about and what you do on the way it's a holy jew in the lower east side of new york who owns this farm store up in the mountains and he told me that even though boston was available in new york he never put his kids on the bus he always drove them to school i know many of you are thinking what's wrong with him is what we would give for while we have so much here in florida there's a price to pay for the no state income tax we do not have busing for our kids i grew up with bus and we had bussin he said you know some of the worst thing that kids learn in the world they learned on the bus on the way to school and on the opposite side if you have the chance to spend a few extra minutes every day every morning and every afternoon with your children to give them the right message on their way into school and to embrace them and welcome and connect with them right as they come out of school who would pass up that opportunity and that's why i encourage you have it every day drive carpool i pitch in a few times a year anyway so it's but it wasn't the curriculum so so imagine imagine for a moment imagine for a moment that the kids get in the car every day and they'll get sick and tired of hearing this but every day they get in the car you make the children stop and look outside and lift their hands and take a deep breath and say wow where we live it's unbelievable unbelievable and then they hear the mother the father whoever's driving the carpool the neighbor make a bracha on their cup of coffee that they quickly put together on the way to the car they're running late for the carpool and they say kendall on the cup of coffee is not on a cup of coffee it's out of all this it's the fact that hashem invented minivans where would the jewish people be without minivans who remembers the station wagon my head is still spinning from having to sit in the last row looking backwards outside i've had vertigo my whole life from that who's ever who's recovered from sitting in the back seat of the station wagging driving the wrong direction making faces of the car behind you who's ever recovered from that it's enough to put you in therapy the rest of your life we have minivans with the push of a button the side door is open the trunk opens three rows it collapses it is that not enough to say a shahako the minivan honda honda is sending on the the the minivan industry that's enough to make a personal match in kendall with a minivan do you know what it meant to have to climb through and fight over who has to sit in which seat minivan kindle look outside of this weather look that you have a mommy or an abba or someone to drive you to school look at the zohan to go to a jewish school so when i'm going to say the shahakal kendall it's on everything it's not on charcoal chaco everything about your morning now you'll probably get some grunts some rolling eyeballs some resistance some resentment but you know what they're going to grow up my first cousin passed away last year tragically young very very special woman missy stein melissa stein masuka sara very special and you know what one of her daughters said at her funeral many many years later they remembered that she used to sometimes driving them to car driving up to school philadelphia where they grew up she would sometimes pull over because she saw something that she couldn't contain herself and she would get out of the car she loved taking pictures she was a photographer amateur just for herself and she would see a scene the sun in that moment the building the reflection that she saw something she would pull over get out of the car and she would say marabou she would say hashem i just saw you i just caught you i just captured you hashem i just got a little glimpse i just saw a little window of you and this that's what one of her daughters remembered all the years later that when she grew up now i'm sure when she was in the car she's like ma get back in the car we're late to school enough with your camera enough with your mara enough get in the car i'm sure as a kid i'm sure she didn't mention that part of the funeral but i'm sure she rolled her eyes get back in the car we're late to school and yet fast forward those years later is there a greater classroom is there a better curriculum when they see a parent who believes shacovaro that it's really hashem and you like the diamond come to it you got to show that but the greatest lesson is not yelling at them and joking the sinner is the way they hear our shahako the way they hear that we make a shahakal on the sun and on the minivan and on the clean air that we're breathing and then a cup of coffee and all of that islam sorry i lost the place we pronounce kale it's one of the um holy names of god that we cannot say casually or lightly so this name kale this name kale is the name of god that reflects his chest when we perceive the loving kindness of god and just like people are complex they don't have multiple personalities as in the disorder but people are complex and sometimes you see the professional side sometimes you see the personal side sometimes the private side the public side sometimes the person's gregarious and outgoing and warm and other times they're reserved and they're shy sometimes the person is in business mode sometimes they're calm cool and relaxed people are complex well the ribbon of shalom also has multiple dimensions to him there's the god what we perceive as the component of god of justice the media of god and there's the media of god the components of god of love and kindness there's the god who's a judge and we come before him and there's the god who's our father avinu malcano the guy who's the king so this name kale al-aflamed that amen is the god of god created we have received we've appointed we've coronated god as our king a moshal is a ruler moshel is a ruler a ruler rules by force if you live under the oppressive hand of that ruler he is the most shale over you you don't have a choice you didn't elect them you incarnate you didn't inaugurate too bad you live under the dominion you are you are their subject they are your moshe your ruler amelia is elected is appointed rosh hashanah rosh the section about kingship the monarchy and that is the way that we coronate god rosh hashanah the grass as we blow the chauffeur the chauffeur is the trumpet at the coronation ceremony it's the inaugural bowl of god that is rashford russia is not a day to walk around scared and frightened and crying and worried rosh hashanah is away day to walk around happy and joyous and and how honored you got an invite to the inauguration ball of the king of kings of the almighty he is a melech we say in our davening god is now on moshel on all the on the nations of the world by ash and we long for the time he'll be a melech right now he's in control he's in charge they're his subjects they don't recognize his his rulership it'll recognize his dominion as providence but we long for the day that everyone will so melech god is our king he's our king we submit we surrender we recognize he's our king god says jump we say how high we work for him he doesn't work for us the third word is loving kindness we don't feel his judgment right now or justice right now we only feel his love you know like like you said there's different versions or dimensions to people you know there's like the vacation abba and there's the envelope you didn't do your homework clean your room and then there's vacation abba you know like the op at home sometimes i was like can i buy that no absolutely not you have enough things don't buy don't spend i'm changing the amazon password for the four thousand time absolutely not and then there's the outbound vacations like okay kids who wants what souvenir drinks and like who is this guy who what what is that that's vacation album you know there's the media of the abba on vacation like once you already have to take out a mortgage to go to disney so what's another 25 coke like you know vacation it's just another layer of the mortgage it's fine to be able to go to disney even as a resident so so there's the vacation ribonucleot there's the god of justice who's like you're accountable there's consequences to what you did i'm going to hold you accountable but then there's the meetings the vacation reborn he says i'm a father i love you i can forgive you i can overlook i'm flexible i love you i want you to be happy that's the kale kale means when we say amen we are invoking and drawing down that dimension to russia let's go on vacation together i want the vacation hashem let's go on i want the hashem it's going to shower with love and flexibility and patience and generosity and graciousness and understanding and you're the kin and why should you be that way because i elected you because i love you because you don't have to rule over me with resistance from me i've elected you i've inaugurated you i want you so that's the third word god is trustworthy and reliable how many people have broken their promises to us how many people have we trusted and leaned in on and they've broken their promises they said they'd be there for us they promised us all kinds of things friends family members bosses how many people have made us promises and they and they failed means trustworthy reliable dependable says i'll be there for you his word is his bond it's as good as take it to the bank that's why moshe avenue who is the most loyal servant of hashem what does hashem himself testify about moshe the cho basi in all of my home and all of my world says hashem moshe is ne'eman what do you mean is the most reliable trustworthy dependable what do we wish a young couple who get married every uncle brother-in-law mother sister niece who speaks also says may they build a by israel may this be a poem that is built on the foundation of trustworthiness reliability dependability may each one be able to trust the other may their word be their bond may be reliable i don't mean trust one another that you're not going to go have an extra marital affair although today that's a bracha you should give it every several that that's not what i mean by reliable dependable i mean that you entered this covenant with commitment to give to care to love to protect be reliable and dependable that you're not going to disappear you're not going to become self-centered you're not going to retreat you're not going to change the rules you're not going to lose lose the love and the romance and the and the commitment and the being prepared to be devoted and to give so that's that word netman nehman is real so we are way over time but i'm enjoying myself so give me a couple more minutes vacation dad vacation hashem nobody's ever described hashem that way before in all of history vacation hashem don't don't quote that out of context please right so god you don't have to force yourself upon us you want to rule over us we elect you we submit to you we surrender to you we are your loyal servants reliable you're reliable to us you're going to redeem us and we can be reliable depend on us so with the word amen you are revealing three aspects or components of hashem you're going through entire philosophy 101 course with the word amen there's three letters someone made a brah i made a shahakal earlier and you all answered amen and with that amen philosophy 101. three credits we're done you invoked unbelievable theology philosophy ideas of hashem in the three-letter word amen and when you do that you've opened the garden of eden you've opened them in that moment you've peeled back the covering you've peeled back hashem's hiddenness to reveal him he said i mean he's in my life wow he's in the beautiful day outside he's in the car that got me here he's in the cup of coffee he's in the air conditioning that plays in the beautiful that way my cousin missy pulled over you know why because she saw she saw an opening to garnet everyone else drove right by nobody else noticed everybody else dismissed it as nature or it's not cute or isn't that a nice scene let me put it on my instagram so the whole world can see it and i i didn't really ever experience it because i was just more concerned with capturing it but she saw an opening to garnet she was screaming amane the sun is rising amen hashem i see you there unbelievable there's a natural wildlife there's some animal creeping and crawling you walk around the lake here you don't you save money on butterfly world you don't have to go to lion country safari just go for a walk around the lake during corona i used to walk my grandchildren around the lake i haven't gone for a walk since i left but uh walk around the lake you know what you see around the lake there's frogs there's lizards there's iguanas there's fish there's butterflies there's birds there's it's unbelievable i posted a picture online because last week i don't know if anybody saw it same picture a bird nearby caught a fish in its claws and the fish had a hook in its mouth must have previously been caught so the bird was flying with the fish in its claws with a hook in its mouth and the hook caught our aerov and pulled it down and somebody who was walking who loves wildlife saw this beautiful bird and saw the fish and took a picture and snapped the picture at the exact moment if you see the picture you will see a man took a picture of a bird a bird called a fish a fish had a hook that fit the hook took down the era of it's an unbelievable picture it's an unbelievable picture so now online this whole discussion it's an osprey it's a whatever what kind of bird is we live in butterfly world we live montoya circle it's butterfly world we live in lion country safari so you walk you could walk all by and go ew and disgusting and i hate it and then get it out of my house and out of my life you might be bonus you're everywhere you're everywhere it's unbelievable my cousin missy would have stopped and said i can't stop taking pictures i have to stop and look at each one and marvel i have to look at each one and gaze and say there you are i just saw i just got to peek into ghanaian i just i'm maine i'm mean to the lizard i'm mean to the osprey i'm made to the frog i'm mean to the fish i'm made to the cool breeze i'm made to the one for the sun in the back of my neck i'm made to the clear blue sky i'm made to the rain i'm made to the rain a mane to everything the world is screaming out it's screaming out hashem is like i'm ever high it's not hide and seek he's not hiding he's like i'm here and seek it's not hide and seek i'm here and seek why aren't you seeking why aren't you seeking see bonus in in in full view but we have to stop and when you stop and say amen to whatever he's showing us so then you're getting a peak you're getting a little glimpse you're getting a window into ghanaian you're peeling back instead we walk around all the time with layers and cover with where's god if hashem was here this wouldn't have happened that news wouldn't have come i wouldn't be experiencing this there is not why hashem i saw wi-fi there's no god internet's down in my house comcast is horrible and there's no god that's that's our generation's like worst you know problems first world problems they're called the wi-fi is slow i don't believe anymore i lost my faith crisis of faith or real problems real real problems but we think hashem is hidden you can't find him and he's in full view he's everywhere he's everywhere just stop and say on main and look and see him and that is dropping the anchor that is the anchor which will carry us in that moment when the winds are seeking to wash us away and to knock us over the simple texture of the words the world is filled your acquisitions you acquire you own you own the whole world we are your subjects this is your world but the safari say read it differently the world is filled with opportunities to make a kenyan on you the world is filled with opportunities and invitations for me to acquire you for me to acquire you i'll end with something i just said a few months ago in the the sister charms here which is i just got this new saver my good buddy mandy is responsible it's very it's costing me a lot of money because i just have to put in new bookcases because he's always sending this farm thank you mandy so there's a brand new book that came out an amazing author of dove bear pinson was ahabadnek but very broad and invokes and pulls from everywhere wrote this beautiful book that apparently was many years in the making called the illuminated sound the basham tovan prayer illuminated sound the basham tillman prayer i got it yesterday just this morning i was going through it i couldn't put it down so beautiful such beautiful ideas about who we are the word in yiddish is the dream to yearn to long to reach to connect to the infinite the hebrew word adam human is rooted in imagination we are created in the divine imagination and we in turn create our reality through the prism of our own imagination it's a very very beautiful book beautiful ideas why am i invoking it to close with one more thought he says in here from the basham that i haven't marked anything up in it already but he says apostle tells us in all of your ways presence of all times and everything we do this will bring one to the ultimate clarity of meaning and direction of our lives the word you to know him used in this all-important phrase implies vegas the torah uses the word da no as a euphemism for intimate relations means knowing him by passionately cleaving to and unifying with akadej baruch there is no biblical word for physical intimacy between a husband and wife to biblically know one another is the act of intimacy the ultimate vulnerability the ultimate bond the ultimate connection the ultimate union and we are meant to know god in that way it means to kill have that intimacy that bond that connection that vulnerability with hashem said in all of your ways you can have an intimate moment with hashem in the car in the carpool in the supermarket while making the cocoa while negotiating the deal while in the sheer while having the conversation behold with whatever we're doing not just you could know i'm like oh yeah shem i know you i know you cognitively i know you academically i know you in the abstract but wherever whenever with all that i'm doing i could be having an intimate moment with you god you are there you are there with me whenever and wherever sorry we went over time got a little excited today don't forget to drop your anchor to protect you from the storms to make your first shackle tonight behind the beam at 9pm douglas scene next week please god rob machlis keep telling me your emunah stories till next time stay happy stay healthy and stay