After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (10)

[Music] each one of us has to look in the mirror and say are we telling ourselves the truth are we telling ourselves the truth are we just joking are we just kidding we're kidding ourselves so so the that we have after is we had a section during you know we've sinned before you have mercy on us we have no other king you're our only King give us a renew our year cancel all the evil decrees and so on and so forth so you say listen we messed up cancel everything that's uh bad against us and not only that we go further if that wasn't enough we say listen Hashem put us also in the uh same book as you put theik put us in a same place that you put the people that are put us in the same book as the people that have good life remove all the transgressions that we've ever done wipe them all out we're asking not we gave us a little finger we're asking for three bodies so now sometimes there's a bad decree in sh a bad decree in sh and we're asking hm to cancel it and it says said it said it it's in [Music] the and Proverbs I believe I actually believe it's in two places in will save your life but sometimes it's a bad decree it's a bad decree in sh and we're asking not only forem to remove this bad decree we're asking Hashem to turn it into something good so how could this be the bov Shalom say say a uh one time he saw a guy carrying water and he ask him how are you and he says everything is good next day sees the same guy carrying water that's his job 20 years he's carrying water says how are you so difficult so hot so this so that says what a you just gave me this guy carrying water in 150 degree weather says I gave you I gave you a I'm just carrying water complaining about my job that it's hot that it's heavy that it's this because you gave me a says what what's the says in thear it says that hem judges us on R from R to he decides how mucha you're going to get is in and also two places in the it says decides how much you're going to get on until next R and whatever you're G to get does not include the money is going to give you back for whatever you spent on Shabbat for whatever you spent onim for whatever you spent on and whatever you spent on that's in addition to the that he decided for you on so if he decided that this she going to make $75,000 that doesn't include any money that you spend on shabb and which means that anyone that has M serious would M spend every opportunity they can to spend money on Shabbat to spend money on and to give They're Not Gon to think oh you know this month was tough I'm not going to give it maybe next month oh no maybe we shouldn't get this kala we should get the cheaper kala they wouldn't have considerations like this why because they know that this is not included in my PM is going to pay me 100% back so the B says hasem decided and he told us in the twice already twice that he decides the on but the M that came before the says that hem judges us every day on our so I always ask myself the B says I always ask myself if if he already decided on what I'm going to get why is he judging me again every day you already decided I'm going to get 75,000 100,000 200,000 200 million whatever I'm going to get you already decided what I'm going to get why is he still judging me every day and you gave me the answer Mr Waterman he goes I gave you the answer he goes yeah you gave me the answer goes what's the answer he says on decides how much we're going to get but every day based on our based on what we do with it he decides how we're going to get it so yesterday you had a de in sh that you're going to get P easy way even though it was 100 degree weather you didn't feel that it was hot even though the WEA the the water was just as heavy as it is today you didn't feel that it was heavy even though the job was 20 years yesterday and 20 years on one day today yesterday felt like the first day yesterday you had parasa easily whatever you did Led you to have easy P today apparently you didn't do so good with what you did yesterday today apparently same job 20 years same heat same everything but all of a sudden it's hot all of a sudden it's heavy all of a sudden it's difficult why you did something wrong in shim they said today did something wrong P today you're going to get the same amount of money you're supposed to get you sold one bottle of water 10 bottles of water yesterday supposed to sell 10 bottles today also but today's 10 bottles is going to be much more difficult to earn so when someone has a bad decree in sh for example when hasem decides listen you have a difficulty coming to you because you did certain things when a person prays to hasem he could open the gates of Mercy where hasem can in essence postpone this and give you an opportunity an opportunity to not get this or to get it in a different way to get this decree spread out over a longer period of time what's the source the source is the punishment as a whole got for the the golden calf when hasem saw that am is sinned against him and worshiped this golden calf the golden calf came out and said I am God that took you out of Egypt and they worshiped him they worshiped him and everybody else didn't say anything about it it was in essence considered in sh as if they all did it as if they all worshiped this golden calf hasem told mosenu let me wipe them all out and start a new nation from you a better Nation from you mosenu fought for the nation said no what you know please forgive them or wipe me out first and so on and so forth as The Story Goes says no problem butal tells us in the that every single time that as individuals or as a whole suffers throughout all of history from 3,300 years ago until today and until the end of times anytime am suffers part of the reason that they're suffering is because of a why hasem said I originally owed them this punishment based on what they did I give if I gave the punishment in one shot will destroy all of them but because of the chu that mosu did on their behalf because of the Chua that the nation themselves did on their own behalf I spread the punishment over thousands of years why because if I would give it all in one shot I would destroy them so sometimes when they is a bad decree your prayers your chuva can spread out the punishment over a long period of time so because there's no such thing as suffering without sin so sometimes you could for example get a flat tire because of something you did 15 years ago sometimes you can lose money because of something you did 10 years ago not now now you're sadik but you did something 10 years ago and says i' rather pay you now this punishment now because the five minutes 5 hours is five days or even five years of Anguish in this world is infinitely more valuable than uh than uh the next world because in Gom it's much more difficult and much longer suffering five minutes here could be the equivalent of 500 years there so if you knew it then you would say give me more give me more punishment give me more punishment so that's the thing with when it comes TOA when it comes to all types of all types of good things all types of Good Deeds this could e could potentially cancel out a decree altogether depending on your chuva or uh more likely it could potentially spread out the punishment over a longer period of time which will make it pain you know less painful there are certain sins that you could completely do chuva for and there are certain sins that you have to suffer for but that suffering could be over a longer period of time and the way you know where you stand is that the deeper your chuva the deeper your chuva is the more hasem is going to give you opportunities to do Chua for things that you forgot about so I give you an example this is a logical but it's very much truth someone that had an abortion someone that had an abortion how do you do how do you do true well for an abortion you killed the baby what are you going to having a baby is not chuva having a baby is a different Mitzvah how do you do chuva for an abortion so what could happen is again this is obviously hashem's ways are infinite and as he says his thoughts are not our thoughts uh beginning with me but this is just to give you an idea an idea someone that had an abortion in reality they can't undo an abortion but what Hashem can do for you if he sees that your chuva is serious if he sees that you are doing everything else good you're keeping Shabbat you're keeping kosher you're working on this you're working on this you're working on a million and a half other things you're doing great you are super chuva sadik sadik everything is great but you can't undo something you did 10 years ago you can't so what is he going to do he's going to send you a person that wants to have an abortion but asks you your opinion what do you think should I have an abortion should I should I kill this piece of meat no it's not piece of meat it's a baby no but you can't see it no no no you could see it if you look at the camera you can see it's a real baby and you are given an opportunity to save this baby that could be a form of chuba or for example somebody that wasted seed somebody wasted seed there I don't think there's a man on Earth that hasn't wasted seed how do you fix it how do you fix it a lot of people ask me this question we have couple of big lectures about wasting seed as I told everybody there's a few things that are necessary for chuva for wasting seed because you can't undo it every time you waste seed it's millions of were destroyed as a result of that you can't undo it but the way that you have to do it according to the according to the there's a few things that you need to do um most important is that you have to there's two main things that are most important obviously you have to stop that's an obvious that's not part of the two most important that's just a reality if you don't stop then stop listening to the lecture and smash your head against the wall a few times and then come back to the lecture and then become you know then maybe you'll listen because if you can't do chuva if you continue to sin but if you're normal and uh or at least after you smashed your few against the wall a few times and you became normal as a result this is what you need to do in order to do chuva for wasting seed first you have to learn serious toah meaning to that's difficult for you not difficult like you're pretending it's difficult difficult for you so for the highest level of Tor is learning you have to learn it's difficult it makes you work your brain and makes you it's difficult it's not easy learning with art scool without art scool doesn't make a difference it's all difficult you have to learn extra more than that most importantly you have to learn without corruption not like like you're talking with your friends and hanging out and the TV's on and you're playing on the internet and you're checking your text message no where is at least two hours you're not talking for two hours straight about anything other than Torah and you're learning it m sweating sweating when you're learning T if you can like exerting yourself as much as possible that's after stopping learn serious so that helps each time you sweat that helps rectify the sin but it's not going to be enough by itself to fix all the times that somebody wasted seed even as when they were a teenager forget it as an adult when they were a teenager so what's the best way what's the ultimate solution to help to doing chba for wasting seed getting other people to stop getting other people to stop is the most important thing that you can do now obviously you're not going to be able to be or even want to be in a room with every single person that you know when they're about to waste seed uh so the reality of it is that the way to do it is by spreading the information so you have our lectures that we did a couple of lectures about wasting seeds send them the lectures either by link or get some CDs give them the lectures on CD number two it's track number five that's the most uh well-known lecture about the uh wasting seed very comprehensive there's a few other ones but that's the most comprehensive one if you don't have money to sponsor CDs just tell me I'll give you some CDs for free if you don't think you know don't have a place for CDs you could just send people a link for the lecture long story short get people to watch the sh get people to watch the shers and learn about wasting seed because every time somebody stops wasting seed as a result of you it's as if you saved another Soul each time another Soul another 100 million Souls another 200 million souls and so so on and so forth and in essence making up for all the times that you made a mistake that's the way to do serious chuba so it's a combination of learning T and getting other people to do Chua one by itself or the other is not going to last it's good but it won't last just learning T is not going to be enough just learning is not going to be enough because you probably wasted seed well more than a few times and just doing Zim won't last simply because without T you're not going to continue knowing that it's important to to get people to do Chua so when it comes to uh doing cha for all these things again it's a kiru is the best solution in the world if you can't give out CDs if you can't share lectures because you're embarrassed or you are I don't know uh don't know who does and who doesn't then the best way is to sponsor it donate money donate money for anyone that teaches uh things about wasting seed you know in in Hebrew there's several in English there's very few um I think there's only two of us two three people that talk about it that's it um but in essence that's that's the way to do it you could either do it with money or you could do it with time or you could do with a combination of both um I think I answered most of the questions oh quickly the as far as elevating the sh the best thing you can do with elevating the shot is getting people do chuva so to elevate somebody that died uh whether now or million years ago whenever it was you want to elevate set up a with them in mind uh or sponsor CDs or sponsor all types of kiru activities seminars uh um know Retreats whatever all types of things to get people to do chuva uh invest into kiru that's uh in their in their honor and their uh uh also that's definitely going to every time somebody does chuat that's definitely helping them drastically as far as elevating the um during the uh the first year you know especially since somebody had their whole life uh to do uh to do mitv it's yes you are limited to how much you could possibly do you're limited if someone's someone died there's not much that you can do for them there's not much you could do for them you could say kadish you could make you know pray for them to have an easier judgment or for them to be given a uh another chance or for hasem to have more Mercy on them but in reality there's certain sins that there's really nothing you could do but it's still good to pray for anyone it's still good to pray for anyone I tell you a story I heard from R again and Shalom he says that uh this uh woman that he tried to get her to do chva with a husband try to get her to come to a seminar for two years two years she started doing chuva but she could never get a husband to come to the seminar and he never did Chua after two years she calls him love you again we're ready you have a you have a seminar we're going to come he's like yeah we have a seminar this weekend but there's no room sold out four five 600 people sold out I'm sorry no my husband finally finally agreed to come after two years two and a half years I'm trying to get him to come please for find me a room he goes I'm sorry I don't have she starts crying so again had a huge heart for and he says fine I'll give you two rooms my rooms I'll give you my rooms he tells his wife M you know the the the raban always goes through a more difficult time than a rabbi why because she has to Suffer Without the credit quietly so she says to the rabbi where we going to where we going to sleep says oh they have a miklat they have like a uh what's the M CL in English shelter like a sh like a what is it shelter shelter guess to some extent they put all types of uh equipment there there's no ventilation there's no nothing we're going to sleep there he says they opened the M CL for us cats dogs rats everything came out he says even the rats ran away you know why he goes they're afraid I want to make him do chva so anyway his wife started crying me but what are you going to do to get people to do Chua they knew the value of helping somebody do Chua long story short as uh everyone is uh supposed to come he gets a phone call the same lady is crying love again I'm sorry but my husband is not going to be able to do chuva he goes what again he says he's not coming goes no no my husband got into a car accident and died a few hours ago and uh he's not going to be able to do Chua so he says the story continues though apparently Hashem knew in his heart this guy wasn't planning on coming to do chuva or he made enough sins where hem has had it with him he gave him enough times he said I'll make sin I'll do chuva make do says I'm not going to let you do chuv even when you're ready to do CH I'm not going to let you let it happen this is a real punishment in this world so AB again says that the woman after the guy died she came to my office and she started hysterical crying saying he coming to my to me in my dreams every night like a homeless person says little little little what does he want for me what does he want for me and he says right now he's in G and he needs all the you can possibly give him any that you can do on his behalf any learning any anything you could do he's asking for you to to do for him somebody you have somebody doing kadish he because no nobody doing kadish so he told her a few things to do donate certain money learn certain Tora sponsor this sponsor that and have somebody say kadish for him says I have yes I have tell so after he had this uh start happening the uh guy stopped coming to her in our dreams a year passes the agreement was for a year year passes the woman comes to him a year and a day later crying hysterical and she says he's coming back to my dreams and he's saying a little more please a little more a little more why what happened did the guy stop goes I don't know if the guy stopped let me call him he calls his uh student he tell him did you stop saying kadish he goes yeah I said for a year he goes oh apparently needs a little more apparently needs a little bit more so we do everything we possibly can is a real stories it's not like make believe stories these stories happened you want to believe don't believe it's your problem the reality is these are real stories these things happen a lot of people don't like to believe in mystical things no it's this it's that it happens you don't want to wait for it to happen to you for you to believe it one guy came to the r and he says uh I'm never going to do chba until God puts hair on my Palms if God puts hair on my Palms I'll do cha he RI again says am in am in this was a big scene a lot of people the guy was a big a year later somebody walks into his office with a beard religious yeah how can I help you the guy starts hysterical crying what happened who are you what he goes you remember me he goes no no who are you goes I'm the guy that says that said I'm only going to do Chua after God puts hair on my Palms he says oh oh yeah yeah I remember you I remember you yes I said amen he goes yes it happened and he shows him his his hands and they have hair on the on his on his palms he goes how could this be it's it's it's a it's against nature he goes that night after I made a whole big scene in front of 500 people said when Hashem makes this and this this this Hashem took it seriously that night I got into an accident with my motorcycle and they had to take the all my my hands got to all the skin from my hands peeled off and they had to take skin from different body parts and when it healed those different body parts had hair growing on them and now I have hair on my hands people think it's a joke people think Hashem is their buddy think Hashem jokes around they treat them they test them they do all types of stupid things and that's what the says stupid people M stupid people why stupid people he says I give you everything I give youa I give you this I give you this I give you this and what do you do you go against me you use my air to breathe against me my money to bet against me everything against me it's m stupid so for us to do Chua everyone is responsible for each other so you can't just do chuv by yourself got to get your friends got to get your family got to get your neighbor got to get the people you don't know got to get the people you do know got to get as many people as you possibly get involved now they're not going to listen to you why because you used to be just like them but they may listen to me they may listen to ra mrai they may listen to somebody else because it's coming from somewhere else so that's where the CDs come in that's where the lectures come in that's where you could sponsor lectures set up lectures all of those things get on to do CH it's not it's not as difficult as it seems we just need you to care and that's really what Hashem is expecting from us in this yum Kip yum Kip is not about kaparot of chickens because if really if it was karot for our sins we'd need a farm of cows each one of us would need a a slew of cows lined up one after another like they said to count the amount of people that uh the population of uh of China if you just wanted to count them 1 2 3 four like a line it would take over 40 years just to count them 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 nine 10 because you know so many people billion and a half people people give birth and so on and so forth it would take 40 years to count them our sins probably not so much different so the chicken's not going to help you chicken's not going to help you what's going to help you you two things one work on your midot start doing serious chuva if you're lazy work on it stop being lazy if you're not learning you better start learning if you're violating Shabbat you got to start keeping Shabbat there's no half Shabbat start keeping Shabbat as best you know if you still think it's okay to be not modest you have something coming reality check you have to be modest doesn't matter if you're 12 years old or you're 25 years old or 75 years old stop lying to yourself you have to do chuva you have to do chuva that's number one number two get am to do cha you got to get am to do cha CDs links whatever we have several major projects we've been working on for a long time and they're going to be launched very quick very soon one is a brand new website the website's going to have many many new features chuva stories each person here can write their chuva story on there other people could has tens of thousands of people that watch our lectures they want to share their stories to motivate other people you're going to be able to share your chu stories on the website you're going to be able to share uh questions you have questions you could ask online we'll publish the answers online if you want to make it as a video make it a video but just make it short so they already have enough length with my videos um the same thing with the application there's going to be an app coming out very soon for for the phone with all the lectures and also we're going to have a a uh this is actually practically ready but we're only going to launch it it's going to be a TV station we have a TV station with all of our lectures uh I'm not telling anybody to buy a TV Shalom but if you already have one instead of watching nonsense at least watch you'll be able to watch you'll be able to watch as we had more rabbis those will be on there too so the the the organization is getting bigger and bigger a lot of major projects there's a few movies in the makings in the next month we should have at least a couple come out the application the posters the CDs all of that it's coming out you can share all of it you can sponsor all of it you can partner with it whatever you want it's up to you you know me I don't ask for money you guys want to donate donate you don't donate doesn't make difference to me somebody will AEM will send it the key is get involved get involved somehow because you need it more than anyone else because you're doing chuva you're doing CH to do CH takes time to do CH takes doing get you that so we're going to have a sh also tomorrow night in Miami anyone wants to join us obviously a different sh other than that uh anyone doesn't come to the sh have make sure that this yum you realize it's not just about chickens it's not just about fasting hasem doesn't care if you eat hasem cares you do chuva okay so think about chuva think about what can I fix what am I keeping what am I not keeping do the pros and cons do what I'm doing what I'm not check versus not check whatever you not doing start checking next to it start doing it work on it and all of will do and we'll have a another year of more more amen amen time is it [Music] [Applause] [Music] la [Music]