A Father's Love - Likkutei Torah Matos "Veshama Aviha" #1 - By Rabbi YY Jacobson

the yeshiva dotnet yeah okay will actually do something we finished the Satan will do something actually on mattis impartial smartest page 168 168 the last column maybe even some people will be a Hazara because I once taught it but let's go fella 116 permit boy remembered by mid bar you remember the numbers start all over again yeah this week's purchase matters Friday matters receive a Shama vs nedra for Shama vs need the beginning of passions mattresses a daughter we're not talking about a daughter was an adult of buggers a younger daughter died losses the Homer says if she makes her nether and when you make her nether you have to fulfill the nether but the father hears about the nether and he knows it so then she's good to go even if she didn't turn all her nether she take makes an ED there she's never gonna eat cheesecake ever right the next week there's a beautiful Bar Mitzvah great bris is unbelievable cheesecake and she wants to eat the Cheesecake your father says don't worry my tired I heard you make the nether and I said so to say that whenever he hears about it he could be Novato the nether and it's fine she doesn't have to anything of course this is a concept called a tourist nerd arm anybody could do a tourist Nidoran right you go to a Bezdek will you go even to one expert or you go to three and they could do a tourist and on they could have no almost not almost not every but almost any net that you make when they consider the circumstances that's the look with some heavy isn't it those off to another Union is gonna come back we'll have an onion the Duke a cipher to understand the whole concept of the piece of the cookie size room literally means the meticulous instructions of the sages and the rabbits on Orion commands we see Kamat Shekhawat Alma's almost the entire Gomorrah the entire body of talmud of chaos bobbly your shaman male is filled man washes with homeless men who shall come in as acronym of rock it's filled with halacha sand stringencies that the castle instituted by Sifu comma the Daruma cemetery of itself they added many fences and many parameters around turnip itself any suit being tomorrow that you're learning any Sookie learning right we learned today in the SEC debate sir I Marilyn ah Christmas I'm a lot Carmela to do myself on Shabbos I don't tell are going to do for me on Shabbos I mean I tried it's not a problem common it's a major issue in Hooksett Shabbos major it up and it's a whole new definition it's a whole new fence around those choppers well take all that losses of Mook sir and the same is true so many other areas right we don't eat chicken and milk you lie to eat chicken and milk a lot of cooked chicken and milk it's not possible all of chicken is not Muslim really Lamar says he used to do it it was giving one example but there are hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and thousands the whole Gomorrah and asougi and Gomorrah is about this concept we learned today young commercial goalies we're celebrating the second day of Yom Tov right this is what the rabbi's added we don't have to make a second day of Yom Tov we know when young turf is we have a calendar they said min ago they said can be a day so the whole body of Talmud the whole body of Yiddish guide is filled with guitar and extra fences and homeless that are common mate in terms of mitzvos weather washing your hands before bread or saying hallelujah a dish or saying Ruffus or diverting three times a day shackles men summative or making blessings before you eat etc etc or or Haqqanis institutions or Gazette is decrees don't do this because it's similar to this you may come to do this for Indian mover the question is if this is what God wants so why didn't he say it why didn't he say it good question yeah well Indian Movement abstract is as Mohammad Reza because I'll tell us our pasta kitto even they'd ask me I doesn't share I shared in the beginning of Sheridan you sure came him in a shaker spiel kiss me with a kiss of your mouth kitto you made a cameo in because they definitely your love is better than wine smack of the wine jug the Gemara i'm knockin sec struck the jewish people said are they from Malaya David is so from Yosemite National Taylor the death are refers to delay safely the words of the sages are more sweet to me me yayan than the wine of Tyler what does it mean given a suffering are sweeter than the wine of time Peter should means as follows yeah initial tight opening me ascertainable say they say they don't say yeah Tyler Quito today that from me yayan why Nevada represents the internal core of Tyler the situs of Taylor the depth of their the secrets of town commissioner as I listen a sign yet site kumari says in the second say even when wine comes in secrets come out we all know people get inebriated or toxicated by wine and they say things that usually they would not say the secrets come out some people drink just to be able to speak openly mrs. Sonia - so some people drink for other reasons the Gemara says ein is the gamma 3 of 70 you'd you'd known as 7 d soit is also sama from of dollars in 66 and 470 because wine and secrets have a common denominator and the reason for this is also partial thing - miss wine is a secret it's concealed in the grave you have to crush the grape and get the wine out it's not on the surface so when we say llena shelter they were referring to not just trade on the surface we're referring to the wine of Tyler the depth of Tyler the yaw in the core of tighter the situs of Tyler that which is beneath the surface of Titan nonetheless divin is safe from male vimar classicism aside this Italian more than the wine of Tyler is the sweetness of divination safe from of the words of the rappers of the saint of wine she call her get out of our homeless shipment in Vienna by saying whose acronym live rock because all over the guitar and all of the fences and astringent sees that the kazow introduced into you describe the dark' Musa and the ways of ethics Shabab God is so pretty others which fire are found in all the a goddess of shots of course in chassis our halacha never God Allah who deals with xavius and the homeless and attack on us and them in hug him and this bosom and so forth but then you have all the a goddess all the mad Russian like pre-clovis which teaches various ideas of ethics all over this Coulomb named shock him a penis available all of them come from a vertebra which means from an intense obsessive love commercial cause of the passage says are half the Eskimo Masha the Navi mal a key and it's important who said it the Navi mulaskey was from the last nerve iam in Jewish history this is the beginning of bias Shanee which is the era of most suited era bottom by Amyas we'll see so the beginning of that by shaming Malathi says I want you to know something a half the Eskimo Marcia I love you and Oh the homeless come from this album was shot Komodo marshal marshal take a medicine album a human being Maximus avisail binoy because he loves his child medaka keema yes sir so he's more meticulous he's more cautious to nuance law hi Sifl of schmira mullah he guards him much more than he would guard anybody else because of him oh god Aaron making egg and parameters or fences Oh garden and bow injuries but far left Shari balcarcel area manuka makovica because he wants him to be completely clean because he wants them to be toxicity toxic free because he wants him to be cleansed if he doesn't care so much about a child you want to eat this eat this cotton candy cotton candy you already had 29 lollipops one more you already finished three ice creams why not one more it looks good you had one piece of cake take another piece of cake but char C wants his son to be completely healthy cleanse me Luka he should be cleansed he shouldn't have any toxicity in him so he's more cautious he's more sensitive and he wants him to stay away from it the pain Huff it's my dream sustained the sacral BSS ace and he has a deep desire that he should be able to develop a life in which he finds grace and which he develops his life is with his mind like a glimpse of canvas we say in vanilla Fame the sacral type vanilla Killa are them but yesterday's more Okamoto Marshall Margolis when you have a gem when you have a Margolis a diamond mocchi you Carter be I said the more precious it is shame to be oyster you guarded more schmira moola better schmear kliebert I flee in the expression of Cazale I'll put it to one vessel within another vessel something within another vessel in other words you guard it much more why are you guarding it so much you're guarding it so much because it's so precious to you it's so powerful to you you did not want it to get lost you didn't want it to get tarnishing I wanted to get ruined you don't want it to get dirty why why so paradoxically the schmira the fact that you say no stay away from this stay away from this is why because I'm so sensitive because I wonder you should be after you should operate on your most optimal optimal level and because I want you to operate on your most optimal level and to be as healthy and as powerful and as robust and as have as much as energy and enthusiasm and alacrity as much as possible therefore I am very sensitive to the details of what goes into your system what doesn't go into your system what you eat what you don't eat what you do what you don't do all mossad the rubber Karma's going to lava sea is Baruchel a new because of the tremendous love of our sham tours Marc Mero Murdock de colina bd2k safer therefore you have the various stringencies in the keuken meticulous details of this you do this you don't do Shane Hamer deviate or OSA which are the words of Tara Hannon chakra is my aviary ABBA they all come from excessive tremendous love this yogi Magoo darlin with various parameters and boundaries listeth case a new to refine us latoya valano for our goodness tahini and the qiam the fun of his burrow that we should be able to be completely cleansed completely sacred completely wholesome completely mucky completely pure that's the definition of all the guitar demand all the circum in other words any black camera that you learn any Mishnah you learn a nice official Canara that you learned you have to be able to see in it a flow of endless love if I'm not seeing within it love then I'm not seeing it that's Kiko him the death of me yayan vividly safe for him has something even more than a national title because yeah there's a tiny even the depth of Toyota that I sham gave is also an expression of love but the divination so friend they were so sensitive Zeta this later that up to this sup to that we're worried about this you shouldn't come to this this is similar to this similar to that it's like what's going on they were so sensitive because the Alpha the tremendous a variety neshama s-- to neshama cicero we all understand that if somebody has a nuclear reactor in their backyards hopefully not you put a fence around it you put a fence around them but i don't have to say a nuclear reactor you have something that can give an electric of course other damage so you put a fence around it why you don't want you or your wife or your child or a guest to touch it so just say don't touch it the answer is you don't want them to get even close to it but for this tis one condition you have to realize what the danger is if you don't realize what the danger is who cares if somebody touches it when we look at a lot of things areas of the chasm we're not sensitive to the nuclear danger that exists in the issue so therefore it's like relax so they'll come to do this so what's the worst thing that can happen but understand if somebody understands the home resistor and they realize how damaging it can be spiritually or emotionally or physically and so on or morally and so forth so then you would look at the fence not as a as a fence to make your life harder it's rather a fence because they're sensitive that you shouldn't get hurt and if there's another fence it's only because there's extra sensitivity and caution so if I'm not if I don't realize that toxicity in this food or the poison in this behavior okay big deal what do you want from me just chill out and relax but if you are sensitive to it if you are aware of it as the Casal were to Taylor so then your paradigm changes your perspective changes you know your child is allergic to milk 6:00 or allergic to peanuts or allergic to sugar just go add cookies crying without it that's not cold love that's called apathy it's called coldness and may even be called cruelty and the contrary you want somebody should operate on their most optimal level that is essentially what is behind all of the Tucanos and all of the homeless kitto whom they met him a young you have to be able to look in and see a flow of lava rubber a flow of our habit to be able to operate on the maximum level on and everything spiritually physically emotionally the he may if so we have a big question so Toyota should have been given with all the homeless and all the tacoma's if it's so important that you want your child to operate on the highest level and therefore you want them to be cleansed and you want to guard the diamond that it shouldn't be tainted and tarnished in any way so it should always been there why are they attack on us of the huzzah he neighbors man should be somebody to show you kion the base--emitter stood are you sake bhaduri rice it was sufficient with the mitzvos of Terra remember that Yiddish died during by assertion looked somewhat different than Yiddish that looks today because he didn't have for example the show he didn't have shot Horseman comidas you had the basic stuff I mean you had to man Tyrel that was a big thing that we don't even have today of course you had the midst of thermal and yet the Mitzvah of Shabbos yet the Malakal subscribers but you didn't have most history they're abundant you had some MOOC so it actually came from the time of David and schleimann and some other stuff that came then but a lot of the things we do and we don't do and a lot of the things were careful right if you talk about a blast to somebody in bias tradition he doesn't know what you're talking about even though today it's a major element of Jewish life I'm saying a lot of the Tucanos all the denim of Musa right so some have to worry but many late and it's even all the brothers we make you eat an apple you make a brother you make a buddy pretty ain't such a hackle British a shocker all these things it's all tucked honest and all from antique nuts and another from Bayou Chene he says in the time of the base Armitage especially the first one it was enough with very nice a minute IRA key hoisin and Manas a shamrock a no because our spirit was loyal to God for Lloyd Marsh a new have lay our voices our Visayan Allah typhus gosh miss we were not pulled with thick ropes of love to material addictions and cravings for how you burn a coleus a visage on cool believe kalisch it was easier for a person to experience love Hashem entrenched in his heart Lia's be Slava Slava the session Vittorio's to be passionate about a voice a shaman Tara gamma bleach in his earlier Missa Alvarado even without feeling and experiencing the tremendous love Dara had their generation after generation came is smart to holla Vova says the hearts became diminished I love officer schliemann's Boveda session the wholesome Arsenal in the session got diminished IVA as a British fish in the sense of not having that intense love like a glowing fire finish renew by Arizona we became scorched with a alien fire but Alvis vittatus goofily is with love and cravings and inclinations and addictions that deal with the material the Colca overall a no and they're so powerful either she knows a lava - ember other we almost cannot we don't even know what it means to serve God with love we just don't even understand what it means like what does it mean to have real a visage Shem we know what it means to have cravings and inclinations and addictions and all that but then a vataj and we just don't have that sensitivity and by the way this is the reason why I'm biased addition the biggest miss Sian was of a disorder which today we don't even understand what this ty bit of a disorder so it's brought it's explain because clipper is always a competitive - kaduche it's always ello Amasa and this man hobbies Judaism was not so much an experience of institutionalized religion it was more of a spiritual experience of intimacy with Hashem and avoided Zara offered a spiritual high without the humility and the discipline that halakhah demands that Jesus tried demands so our disorder was so attractive because it was an ability to get high high on life like today we have some stuff right it was the psychedelic experience of the time to be able to challenge what kedusha had to offer and that is intimacy with God and by his Shamy with that changed in kaduche it also changed the clip of it it's already did it become very attractive in fact either skite assume much more of an institutionalized institutionalized reality to the point that you could go through all the motions you don't even know what a visage MN means person doesn't even know what it means to have a relationship with God to have intimacy with God have an experience with God in fact it's even strange language so it's a whole different situation so he says when that happened what happens is like new collaboration baba we can't experience this love built in this island mr. Ivey raba if we don't feel his love to us if we don't have this idris if we will not be aroused from that his love to us I did okay so from the Himalayan but help retire with it his love come out and by Shaney through the homeless through all the Dookie cycling through the whole mesh niacin gomorrah all the Huaraz and all the details of a locker this was so to speak a shams way of saying I love you in the most infinite infinite infinite way possible so basically the whole game re you know people wonder why we learned Gomorrah so much right so now you understand the reason we learned Gomorrah is we're trying to basically share with our children especially our boys who need it for seven eight nine 12 hours a day how much we love them is that what the bucket of my hearing in the Gemara ah well that's what they should be hearing in other words how much how deep the love is how deep the of Arab is I they the kooky seven come Ram behold proton hey Betina samara both in terms of going away from robber Coahoma Shiva tomorrow poison all the stringencies in Gomorrah and of course all the pie scam because remember besides Gomorrah suddenly when you get to the world of Shikamaru you have a whole new set of commerce right you have this addition said this this afternoon said this there's a homer here of homra there that's why he adds poi skip the hain beginners vise a tithe the same is true in the positive but dividend mustard shebar godless Saluda others all the directives of MU sir of ethics and our God there and prickly others for example ient IVA to develop a good arch here Escovedo betoid ayan to see your friend with a good ivory roster aur action bully boy don't contemplate in your heart evil about your friend that he's bad you know what we call judging people the Thane lave toy of a good hardcover to have a good friend is giving an example of brick Elvis so this is all to arouse in the person the sense of the deep love that the Reba national oil um has to every single Jew which as a result of that as a result of that a ver now he could reciprocate when you can feel and experience how much somebody loves you and loves you uninhibitedly and loves you with Alvarado this helps us in the later generations to be able to experience a visage sham so that's why in earlier parts of Jewish history it was enough with the mitzvos of trader derisive and then later when the ropes of love are schlepping us we gravitate towards gluttony or addiction in materialism so now came out all of the Tucanos did a Safran he tightened a deaf comedian to be able to experience far more this love to kanessa sister all because that's basically beyond what is behind all of the halacha that tremendous alvin gazelle shackled after the parenthesis he sees her parentheses with footnotes references the social cost of this is the meaning of the passage for Shama vs need Rohini avi very heavy now we learned in beginning of Motta's a daughter makes a nether the father hears about it the hey Nia via I say hey Nia via means he Haney anybody mental how much this week you know what key Haney of ERISA means huh he removes it yeah key hey Nia voic he removes the nether he disclaims the nether says what's the meaning of this cough may fit is another the father our nulls undos the promise kima kima's IV robber from the tremendous love that a father has to a daughter who may fur qatar Goom i'm avital the targum says what's made fair hey fair Novato he nullifies what does he nullify Neda what's a nether call her ascertain all the all the is suitable them no no no his sudden Vicky showed him all the knots all the knots Vicky shoot him entanglements very good a sickness this is wrong via surat Shura with which Canessa sees law the community of jewish souls is bound up with he arose all those knots and entanglements vain coverage matter at smile and the prisoner cannot extricate himself from prison the camera says encourage my time to mr. Vaman shame if I'm handcuffed I can't remove it myself I need you key him the only way he can get out of prison as I they meet us available only through tremendous a ver which is Pina severe that's what a father represents I have comes from the word other I have a love of the word lavash ma la casa a visa to Gila desire love I love a spa after such a military that's our definition of a father is love so Rashad my vision only the tremendous love of the father this has the ability to remove the entanglement and the knots of classicists our own you take this what he says you see you could gloss over these two lines as many people do and I've done and probably will do and okay fine I've met there Easter kiss sure why what tied up so you have a via you may fit it here's a classic example you have two lines here maybe address is one of the greatest issues of our generation what's up net there a promise what's up literally in Allah huh I make a promise a vow a pledge I'm not gonna do this in this that's what it is technically for what's the concept of another and that is basically when I make a net there I'm now bound I can't say I'll forget it there's an Easter Easter from the word ah sir base are sort of a prison when you say something is forbidden why is it called Easter because I cannot touch it so to speak my hands are tied because it saucer mutter is untied right mutter we have another Shabbos lahat AHA Ke$ha to untie a knot wouldthe means my hands are not tied let's push it technically practically allotted but go step deeper he touches me what's another people are often knotted they're in shackles they're in a prison they're all sir they have a pseudonym Vicky showed him that they I made a promise I can do and that represents a certain paradigm I'm in a position where I feel stuck I feel lacked I feel paralyzed I can't my hands my feet my soul my heart my creativity my happiness my optimism my confidence is tied up it's tired of that step shot on either kanessa sister all is sometimes tied up or individual is entangled in something and I can't get out of it maybe trauma maybe insecurity maybe jealousy or whatever it is every person has the knots that you know what is holding you down it's literally you're not it your hands your feet your mind your heart your soul your potentials your creativity your conscious what what's the cause of them now whatever the cause of the night is called cloud before everyone has their Pecola their mysoline so person is in prison how do you take somebody out in prison of prison do you tell them go out won't help in coverage Marty Reisman do you tell them why are you in prison they know they're in prison come out of prison won't happen so what do you have to do ah unlock so he says Shama vs Kneedler when the father representing absolute love here is the measure of his daughter in other words he becomes sensitive to what she's entangled in Kihei me of via ISA because there's a father a father represents Minnis alvorada what that does is it automatically breaks off the nether what does this mean in a person's life what it means in a person's life is I think what the ball Tanya's teaching us is as follows you have a plethora child you have a child a child is in an ed there what do we mean here by an ED there another means metaphorically they're stuck there tied up there ah sir their cost of the stock I could come over to that and I could say come on come on let's go snap out of it come out the problem is I can't can't it's trying he can or sometimes you start explaining to him how bad his situation is don't you realize what you're doing he knows he's in prison so some of us are screaming don't you realize what you don't he knows what he's done you just can't get out some of us we don't tell them oh don't you good but come out come on develop a dessert he wants them Kent so what do you do what do you do so we scream a little harder we scream a little harder come on you wake up three o'clock in the afternoon no normal person wakes up three o'clock in the afternoon get your life together be productive to let your older brother look at your older brother look at your sister get your life together right that's what we do and and we mean well we're trying to guide them we're trying to guard and this is what you got to do get out of your prison so either I want to inspire a desire do you realize you're in a mess come out or maybe I think you have with this out but I just tell you this is not good come here the problem in these situations is that often the person is trapped he can't he would love to but he can't he knows that he's in prison he doesn't know he's in prison then you're in a good place tell him right if he doesn't know how to what to do tell him he knows he's in prison and he even knows what to do but he can't do it he knows what would be the right thing the right way to live but he can't there's one aid so what's the aid sir aviary Abba ivory robbing means you have to find within yourself that Tata you have to become a father father means me the sava rubber tool of the person with tremendous Alva how does that help how does that help push it maybe not so portions what other rabbit does is it makes the person feel their dignity their value their power how is this person loving me it's been the hash Motta I'm a hopeless despaired loser how are you loving me the fact that you love me so much tells me consciously or unconsciously that I have dignity that I'm a Machias that I have significance that after service you know what happens then you allow the person to experience that they are more patent experience themselves and realize that they are more powerful than their trauma they are more powerful than their shackles they are more powerful than their addictions they're more powerful than their fears they're more powerful than their Tigers I have chains I have addictions I've trauma this person may have been abused or even molested right and it's a fact that's there you can't take it away it's dear you can't say get out he's traumatized this kid is traumatized get out of trauma he can't encourage mother announcement the only thing I can do is one thing I could try to help her reach a place where he should be able to look at himself and say I am more powerful than my trauma I am more powerful than the abuse I am more powerful than the two chains are there but I'm more powerful I'm more powerful than my fears how can I help a person do that by telling them to get out there traumatized by telling them what to do they know better than you what to do what's the right thing what's the wrong thing what I need to do is I need to build them up they're broken and a broken prisoner can't get out of change they can't go through a wall they can't break down the door I have to give him power how do I give him power Kihei me of vis the mythos Avila what it does is when I love you but Emma's genuinely I lift you up you feel hey I'm loved I'm not damaged goods there's something worthy of love here there's something worthy of love there's something special here you allow the person to find in themselves their goodness their power their confidence their their hope their sense of belonging their sense of connection touch them and then they ready know what to do they want to go out of prison more than you want them to go out of prison they want to go out of prison and they knowledge the prison you think they were a person likes to wake up every day five o'clock in the afternoon okay some of us would love to do what I know but you think every prob regular person loves that sometimes the person is more bother than anybody else but he's paralyzed he's in a state of paralysis so you have to be very very sensitive people often are completely not tyfa's than a CUDA they're making believe that the person is choosing to be in the prison or he doesn't realize it's a prison he knows what's right then what's wrong he knows he's prison he wants to get out of it the problem is he's broken he's broken that's what a nether is on this level on this interpretation what you need is you need to make him whole you make him whole we can get out okay we started on Friday Matos so we'll finish it today page 169 parshas map theis page 169 as I told you the numbers repeat themselves every Homer so make sure you're in by mid we're 169 harsha smartest pay hey column one closer to the bottom closer to the bottom so there was two year sodas there's two fundamental ideas that the Baba Tonia establishes here number one is the first half of the miner and numbered is the end of the moment number one is to understand why suddenly and by Shanee they became an explosion of serious and homeless almost on every single Mitzvah the rabbi's and the sages added a new stringency a new fence a new parameter and anybody who learns much niacin tomorrow as he says call her Calma the entire town Magan is filled with this right and he should give me we're learning now in the morning before this with a massive debate sir so constantly constantly you now let us sweep your dining room on Yom Tov after the meal when this earth why because you're gonna come to fill up a hole with earth and that would be a concept of huayna of building right I'm just giving one example any sugar you're dealing with you have this you have this constantly things that biblically are not revision biblically they're not forbidden but they are rabbinical II forbidden either in the negative things that they said you're now letter do or things they said you have to do by say type and this didn't happen in the beginning of Jewish history for a long time this didn't exist most of the sailors of Hazael come out during the second base of mikdash towards later points a second you have earlier also yeah I'm not chicken essence a very long my second all the breakfast and all that Phyllis which are of course a major institution and Jewish life you have the concept of the show that comes later in Judaism the very concept of the mikdash Malthus is introduced by your escolar Navi after the horn by his tradition the concept of the mikta smart the mobile base are mikdash and then you have most of the sailors and tacoma's you have during buying a shame you buy the sugars by the timonium and this would continue after herman by a chain of question would continue the time of the Gemara which is i'm-i'm-i'm will continue with their opponents Ferrari the guy in there is shining and the Harriman etc ah well if you know Jewish culture it never stops it never stops some people actually get very excited on every new homra if they could do a new homer they embrace it but you can't compare the two and I'll explain to you what I mean there was a time when Isaiah of Hazael became universally obligatory of course well that doesn't exist anymore all that can happen afterward that some once the sanhedrin was sealed once the son had written was was dissolved and the Gemara was sealed no bez did in the world could make at econo that could obligate can oblige all of the Jewish people even there is showing them or a stirred kidney is on pace right right on pace of Caligula's on Pesach it could only it can only be imposed on the Ashkenazi communities the communities in Germany the communities in France not the communities in Spain and Portugal or North Africa or the East you know Iraq Iran because now it was up to each Bezdek in its location in its locale the ability of Sanhedrin who were the spiritual authority the Supreme Court so to speak in charge on the Constitution of Judaism Muslim ish me P ish literally till my Strabane no generation after generation 71 Giants in each generation that was dissolved at some point approximately in the 400s 500s when the Talmud Bavli was sealed during this similar a little before that after by another and therefore you don't have that level of authority anymore ya bastard there have no Carabas to the shmuel moreh school there but they didn't say look arrive etcetera you know send so it's a big difference the question is what happened in other words if this is what I shall want this is what a sham wants if not what's this idea of all these all these areas and Haqqanis so the main point he made here was that and this is counterintuitive because usually most people see the intricacies of Halawa as not very much going on the same line like inspiration or spirituality or ecstasy there's two different experiences in Judaism one is the nuanced big Dukan halacha which really speaks to a very cerebral part of a person and you get into the details and reading could that be my focus and didn't and this is Maura that's Maura so that speak so to speak to one part of the brain and then there is you know spirituality emotion ecstasy Vegas intimacy which so-to-speak addresses a different region of the brain and I mean even in simple not simple even in neuroscience and it really addresses different regions or the rain that which you know become lights up with halakha which is very very detailed oriented extremely detailed and it's all about nuances and it's a very cerebral cerebral limit and I love it so there's many ways of learning it but generally you're dealing with analysis that is often detached from the emotional life right you're learning details and MOOCs are you're learning details and rebus or details and skitter or an area and you know gets very it's interesting but it's very technical and noise and then you have the realm of spirituality of transcendence of intimacy with Vegas of inspiration and so forth but it's fascinating in this mind read the ballot Anya oh I guess was an interesting person cuz he was a paisa can mister but he was also the same place again Miglin I love you original America and Mistral tomorrow when you read look at the turning you eat real tomorrow it's always fascinating to think that it was really the same person the truth Amara especially in his clintus affluence he follows completely that realm of Halawa you know the realm of nickel and all of its it's curious in the document for polar romeo serves evan that determines had led from with his rights in his one of his smart him that in the countries akron of south america roth he has found the seeds for the brisk and mahalos and learning interesting the trigger of seven writes observant was one of the go india dark last generation she says in the country's a current of shocked America Ravi found and he comes into many examples nuggets or ideas of what later would be attributed to the brisket Erica for kaya a kind soul of a jerk and the dynasty of brisk so when this mind where it's very interesting what he says is that at every blog can moderate every dick look really what you're finding is an explosion of love it's really a ver and if you're learning a mission or agamotto examinee not seeing the tremendous Ivan it are you're not in touch with it because basically in the beginning of Jewish history was easier for Jewish soul to be on fire towards God it was easier for the soul not to be consumed by physical and material cravings addictions appetites there was a certain spiritual subtlety that vibrated in the cosmos I think I once shared there was somebody who's very into this idea of cook ramen psychic Eileen cook writes about us a lot that then by his mission you see then avoided Zara was very rampant right in his sign above a desert even the greatest Jews they put on tefillin and when it came to cashiers they wouldn't eat anything but but that's a Vedic redness but when it came to avoid the Zahra suddenly everything was was most mutter it was a strange thing that the Gemara even says that the ant recognizes a girdle an osteoma killed the it's true dividers are in the beginning of Maya Shaney they murder the XRF way that we don't even understand what the observer of a desert is so the Gemara has a whole saga and human of stomach the solid base that the ant recognizes and Darla came back to build the second base of mikdash and they took the it's a herd of it's not a whole story how they did it and they obliterated it they wanted to also kill the eastern arias it's a horrific promiscuous relations and what they tried they locked it up the Gemara says and then for three days they were looking for a fresh egg they couldn't find a fresh egg fabi's reasons and they said cally Alma you're going to destroy the world so the eight sort of it arises they colored they they weakened it so the Gemara says it helped at least that people are not into their sisters like they used to be in vice with their siblings and their mothers promiscuity then was so insane incest you have it you know doesn't you don't have it but the same intense craving for for incestuous relationships didn't exist afterwards other forms of promiscuity but a void is are they obliterated completely so what does this mean it's more you take the H over there you put it in you put it in a bag and then you tie it up you throw it into the river that's what it sounds like in the Gemara the shot of course is everything in this world is El loro Mazda kedusha and citraratha or compete with each other in this bias Eurasian intimacy with God that was the experience of Judaism that was the primary experience of Judaism and that was on of a designer representative it as other represented an ability to get on a spiritual high without this discipline humility and self-worth that you described required or in one word it was a psychedelic experience just like today people look for highs through various paths in life that take you there much faster and much easier despite of what it does to the cells of your brain despite of what it does to your productivity despite of what it does to your long-term relationships and to your sobriety but nonetheless to ease anxiety we live in a very anxious generation the in Messiah t levels are red Kia dua ah through the roof yeah through the roof so people search for different things in the time of bias tradition intimacy with God that was that was the reality of Judaism and if a deserter was and I don't know an elegant but it was a powerful powerful competitor an alternative will you get very deep they had steep spiritual states of consciousness without paying the price of real spiritual self worth that Judaism requires through humility through discipline the path of tyre in the path of mitzvahs the path of acres with Hashem by Shamy that whole reality was transformed so really we tie Judaism became very institutionalized extremely institutionalized to the point that a person could live a very Jewish life follow all hwacha and not even once really feel intimacy with Hashem they don't even know that it's really part of it and in many ways it becomes like a tragedy it would be like debating as I said once debating for years and years recipes without ever tasting the dish imagine we substitute the Gemara Lahav dog for cook books okay and we sit for 17 years with cookbooks and we argue but if there's no sugar then you take maple syrup and if there's no maple syrup then you take baking powder or you squeeze an apple will you juice this and if there's no and then you can put in kale let's look over good so and you debate and then you have my first Ramon the cookbook and then you have comment and what if you don't have this then you do this but but what about this so there's an argument this one says you could put it into the dish and this one says it ruins the dish and then some people know the whole cookbook by heart from page one to page 999 they know by and some even though the commentaries in the back and all the footnotes with alternatives there's only one problem nobody ever tasted anything it's all talking about recipes manipulating them arguing about them nobody ever tasted it so it sounds very strange right but isn't that what is often the condition of either spects debates arguments dick took a meticulous precise nuances is that but the fuels ask somebody did you taste godliness intimacy with awesome it's even a strange question it looks like like what are you into you know where did you end up you know what have you been taking or who have you been seeing it's even a strange question so in this mine were actually with a peloton you're suggesting is that when the other session became much more difficult Biggs Eris and Horus which is the way God revealed his tone and by his Shanee was him expressing an infinite love in order to arouse and empower the person to be able to reciprocate that love because through that through that perishable path so in other words that the whole qivana here and that's what he's made the whole come one is an infinite excessive flow and abundance of love like a father who's so curious for his child and if he wants his body and soul to be completely cleansed from all coxa city and therefore he would be careful what he eats and what he does and his regimen and his exercise in a schedule more than anybody else and you'll say come on why are you doing all this it's because I want to you to live in an optimal way I want you to maximize your potentials I want your operating system to be on the deepest highest level I was once invited to speak with a Russian Jew who won the Olympic season he won a gold medal in the Olympics in Sydney Australia for swimming I forget his name a young Russian Jew and we both spoke for a community I spoke as the athlete and he spoke as the spiritual as the spiritual guru or at least in my dreams so before we four so we were in the back of the room waiting for the program to start so I was smoothly with them and he's just recently won recently a few months or a year it took so I asked him what his schedule is in terms of swimming so he told me that he wakes up three o'clock in the morning every day and he gets into the pool at 4:00 in the morning and he's in the pool for six hours straight swimming six hours straight so he goes from 4 or 5 6 7 8 9 10 o'clock straight ten o'clock he finishes his swimming and then he relaxes the rest of the day I said how many days do we know how many days a week he do this he says seven days a week he followed the Dominica's fire today you could go to a pool on Shabbos Ashkenazim master didn't sign him but the slightly more matted it's all I guess he went that went according to that so I asked him seven days a week six hours straight he said yeah I said what happens if you take one day off what happens he said there's no such a thing I said why says the body knows and the body will not respond the next day if I want to remain in the Olympics I have to operate on that level if I don't operate on that level the body immediately knows and it's like soft with you and it will not produce you know you can't either we're in it the body study tells me the body says either you're in we're in or we're out don't play games with me there's no such a thing one that said what if it's five hours no five hours six hours I said straight what if you want to drink in the middle he's looking at me he says you know you're a Brooklyn boy huh you don't understand six hours straight four to ten you don't stop no such a thing those are the thing tell me once yet up some Leviathan the family say had to make off see he he did his swimming later in the day it was just a very interesting lesson about you know on one hand you could say neba he's a slave but in his money wasn't a slave he was a free man because these are his priorities and this is what he truly wants in his life and in order to maximize this potential this is the regimen and this is the discipline he's he and he knows that these limitations are necessary for him to operate on that level if you don't want your body to operate on that level you don't want your body but if you want to operate on that level that is the discipline that's required so when you look at it he says I'm giving it as a muscle all the exits and all the talk honest it was he says like I'm his muscle was a gem a diamond that you safeguard far more than anything else in the world not because you don't love it because you're so sensitive to it then you cherish it so much so he says when you learn all the GS and Clackamas he says look how they're cherishing your soul they want to distance your mind your heart your behavior from every last need note Kyle of an engine of isser which they understood what is cement they understood the Texas attea mister now they're safeguarding you so essentially every line of shots is an explosion of alpha it's an expression of Adorama that's how you have to see it and in bias training it became it became more necessary now this is very I think a very beautiful idea because very often in our culture we don't instinctively associate somebody who's McNamara near shamayim necessarily with love sometimes unfortunately in many of our instincts it's the other way around you know you talk about somebody who's my friend you know it's more of obsessive type or antisocial you know what I'm talking about right you know he's very Froome he's not he's not lovey-dovey teddy bear embrace her of humanity person whose heart is on fire not judgmental on the contrary how could you be so from if you're not judgmental you know the more from you of course you become judgment but here you see a very different paradigm it's actually the other way around that the true the true here is shaman was marked with an addictive Chi love David I saw him if he's sensitive to the energy it only brings out far more love from Hashem towards him and towards the Jewish people and therefore from him towards our Shem and therefore by expansion from him towards others so the deeper the homra the deeper the Taconic means that you're actually your love your love bugs are more fine - not less fine-tuned I think that's a very powerful observation that we learned from her then comes point number two in terms of the father and the daughter or the husband and the wife when the halacha tells us the beginning of precious matters that a father could nullify the vows of his daughter or a husband could nullify the vows of his wife we have it technically how logically pragmatically but like the whole message head is also a deeper spiritual message and what was the spiritual message that a nether is more than a pledge amanda means of course a pledge or an oath or nothing is a shirk it is different all office with ned their shoe fits this officer if it's a survivor of med news on the thefts issue is on the governor but that's that's already details in neder Scheuer then there's a hug of nausea but the common denominator and all these things is a person makes a promise that they will not do something they will not close summer they will not eat or they will do something well yeah calvario get how I like cynically beyond so you have to keep them but Ned there also includes something broader and that's the concept and the concept is once you make a nether you're bound by the nether you can't do it anymore so a nether becomes reflective of the is that in life a person often feels consciously or unconsciously bound if certain things I can't this is who I am and this is who I am not and that includes a certain form of paralysis this is the type of father I am this is the type of husband I am this is the type of human being I am and I remain locked up into that image this is Who I am like people often say this is who I am sorry you don't like it this is who I am and the main person they tell that to themselves more than anybody else and this is a way that means I'm afraid of certain things I don't go there I'm driven by fear I'm driven by insecurity I'm driven by a lack of confidence I'm driven by envy by animosity by by pain by grief by anger anger is a big one by anxiety I'm just mr. anxiety that's it I will die an anxious man even in other my MS I'll be anxious as somebody once told me in the grave I'll be anxious and my anxiety is so deep even death won't help he was certain about it or I am destined to be miserable and that's to be frustrated whatever everybody could fill their fill out their own their own question here that the dentist gives you or the doctor gives you right you come every person this is really admitted Aneta means it's like a promise this is who I am and I'm not changing you make a promise to you so if you make an oath you swear to yourself again consciously or unconsciously verbally or in thought in emotion articulated or emotion less articulated well it's an oath an oath is this is who I am this is a promise I will not change I will not alter and seldom do we come and revisit that seldom do we come the words that he uses is that every nefesh has a suit and Viki shirt him nots you're literally tight so if I'm tied to a particular wall that's where I remain I remain stuck to this place I can move around but only in this confinement and every person has knots that tie them to certain situations and I can get out of it in other words as much as my horizons expand and as much as I meet new people and as much as I encounter new experiences I ultimately remain trapped in solitary confinement literally as he says in a prison cell what's up but you could walk around in a prison cell you may even have a view they may even take a walk but there is a confinement you don't get out of and that's the story of a person's life not that what house was on them literally in a prison cell but collage Utley I may travel the world but I don't get out of my orbit because this is who I am I am the person who lacks empathy I am the person who has an addiction to food I am the person who is a glutton I am the person who's angry I am the person who doesn't know X Y Z that's yam and therefore all of my experiences are channeled and harnessed through that sense of identity that's what a nether means and he says how does one break out of this ain't over smarty rocks one the prisoner can't get out of prison you can't not because you don't want to not because even you don't know that you need to you may know you're in prison which is a level some people don't know you may know you may want to get out you may even know on some level or not but you may even know what it could look like on the other side we're at least that it doesn't look like what it looks like now so person may have a lot of knowledge first of all they know they're in prison and it's not good second of all they may even want to get out the problem is not wanting or knowing the problem is ability in harsh material and here probably one of the most amazing insights the ballot Anya says there's only one way to help a person get out and what law says Russian is me does Ahava robber thinness Aveda the father and a daughter the father's relationship to our daughter is considered one of the one of one of the deepest relationships in the world the Gemara Rosa says indeed the ish material filial at this macabre issue Mazar silly Allah does offer a unique relationship between father and daughter the word I've associate with the word other this Farva the definition of the father especially towards the daughter is one a very deep love and very deep relation and I guess there's something with the daughter more than a son because from a son the father has certain expectations you have to be my Irish Dube is mine Kaddish so the moment somebody is your Kaddish everything have to it's really a different thing your son got oh you know son got to carry on the business of the family but the daughter there's something unique about the daughter there's something unique about the daughter because that natural pressure that exists from father to son you know that his son has to do everything that you wanted to do and you couldn't then your son has to do it you were supposed to be the bucket of shots but you didn't so now your son has to become the bucket mushafs so they'll make sure that his son has to become the birth of a son so he could make sure that his son with the daughter this doesn't exist because being maybe they're harvested something even this is true so with a son but with a little ado something special so what the titer is saying is that who could be Movado the nether of the daughter who can help a person liberate themselves extricate themselves from the knots of life me the severe penis Aviram the unbundle of abundance of love that you love this trial do you love this person this is the only way you can help them get out and the reason this is the only way you can help them get out because it's not that they're not getting out of prison because they don't know they're in prison they know nor is it because they don't wanna they wanna but they're broken they're locked up they're in Chains so you come to this person in prison and you say how do you live such a stupid life you're in prison you're locked up you're confined rights like coming to somebody screaming at somebody what are you going to stop being insecure come on get secure come on come on you take them you shake them up put them in a washing machine twirl them okay maybe you'll help I don't know maybe a washing machine actually can help for some people if it was very fast the person knows he's there or not oh she knows she's there no come on that you like this life live another life who likes this life what a stupid life you're living they know that it's stupid much more than you'll ever know you think you feel the pain they don't feel the pain they feel it much more the problem is some people would call it in today's language have trauma they're broken they're fragmented they're shattered they have a terrible self-image they don't even know themselves so you could scream from today till tomorrow a mishmash like what's the aid sir one ASA and that is you need to so it's not just simple love and it says key word love love love love love it's much deeper the answer is to make a person cognizant that they are more powerful than their traumas they are more powerful that their insecurities you are more powerful than your chains you have chains you have pain you have grievance you have frustration you have anger whatever you have anxiety but you are more powerful than your anxiety you are not defined by it you can define it you are more powerful how do you give a person that feeling for this they have to first and foremost filled their infinite value when I love this person and they ask themselves consciously unconsciously why is this person loving a schemata like me there's nothing to love here I'm all wasted I'm wasted goods I'm damaged goods what's they do love what are you loving Wow what they're feeling through osmosis or verbally or non-verbally what they're experiencing is the Havas the indispensible non-negotiable dignity and unwavering value and power of their soul of their identity what it allows them to experience is that they are more powerful than all their shackles and that's how they can get out of the nether the Shama Vyasa Nadira when avea when the love here is the nether hany of the eisah hey Nia VA say he dissuade he removes the power of the nether why simply being in the presence of a via the ability of that it's a muscle it's a metaphor at level of avarice so powerful that what it does for the door to what it does for the person who's locked up it gives them the empowerment and the knowledge of appreciating who they are because of this love and then automatically they could break out of their shackles why can they break it though they want to go out and they know they have to go out but now they suddenly discover their largeness their greatness the awesome quality of their life that they didn't have now people often that can't identify this they associate this idea with enabling you were enabler tell the person what to do tell them to stop behaving like a tell them to stop behaving like an idiot now sometimes you can do that when the person is just behaving like an idiot but you have to be able to identify that's not a nether a nether means you're bound you're locked you're imprisoned now I could tell you stop behaving like an idiot you're a prison thank you I know I'm suffering more than you know get out thank you I can't they can't even say I can't write because they're in prison even to say I can't if they would say I can't that would be half the insurer they can't say I can understand come on who wants to live such a life get your life together learn from your older brother that's the best always look how successful is learn from your sister learn from your father you think I always had an easy life never got that lecture you think I always had an easy life I worked my way through college for 11 years I didn't have a penny they might have get your life together you spoiled rotten brats now this person thinks he's speaking truth and maybe is speaking truth from his perspective but he's completely not sensitive to the experience of the person completely not person knows they're imprisoned they want to get at a prison they're broken especially a person who's been abused and their ned there is beyond anybody with anybody can imagine somebody who's been abused what happens to them is they are so locked up because the pain of what they experienced causes them to have a self-image that puts them literally in Ana mental prison from which many people can't get it and there's one ASA the 80s Mohammed vs the meanest I've Arab to build up the soul and make the soul feel that as powerful as all over the toxicity and negativity you have that but you're still more powerful because you're more powerful than it therefore you can ultimately choose your path in life the first thing we stay in the morning but the Tavor unless we start today with them he's a prisoner his own [Music] this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the 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