Saving the world by paying attention to others - The Kavanah Show on 101.9 ChaiFm - Rabbi Alon Anava

we bring the news we bring it live this is 101.9 Kabab good morning and welcome to the cavana show body mind and soul live from spat and this morning we are the 29th of June 2016 the 23rd of 7 in the year 5776 and um just I want to dedicate the show to my late stepfather it was hisat a week or so ago and it's his h b Abraham that he saw heaven aah and all other Jewish and other Souls that need alot that need rort that need everything that we need All Souls past present and future and also I I I keep meaning to make a dedication to Kathy who is the CEO ofm and I'm just so grateful to her for for what she's done over the last eight years and I think it's coming on for nine years maybe maybe eight years I must just make sure of that but what she's pulled off is an absolute miracle and I often call km the the the miracle radio station it really is so thank you thank you thank you Kathy so this morning um I'm sitting together with Rabbi Lon anava and that um Rabbi anava has been a a regular co-host guest together with me live inat and we've had the privilege of sharing with the world with beautiful listeners so many wonderful um teachings that he teaches and his near-death experience and again I urge you to go to his website um Alon anava uhcom come and uh see his 1 hour 2our uh presentation of his near-death experience the the the it is lifechanging every single person that have I have steered in that direction it has changed their life I've got feedback to say it's literally changed their life and then the people that follow every single other one of um alon's teachings and CDs and everything that he's doing he put his every breath that he has into this work that that that he does and um I'm just I also feel so privileged to to be sitting next to you and to have the privilege of interviewing you and hearing you speak every single week and uh this morning the show is going to be about saving the world and it is saving the world by noticing other people people and that is such a powerful powerful aspect and we don't realize the power that each of us has on another person's life you just walk by somebody and you smile at them or you just give a kind word or you just say hello it can it can literally stop people from jumping off Bridges and it has there have been stories and I just want to share there's an amazing story that I heard this week a a a woman who had 13 children and a husband before the Holocaust her 13 children and her husband were murdered in the Holocaust and then she came to America remarried and she had one son he became very very successful very very wealthy and he was sitting at his mother's deathbed and she was very very lucid and uh she had never ever told him how much she loved him how much she appreciated him and he did understand on an intellectual level just um how how hard it was for her to get emotionally connected to him after such an experience but he longed for it and then on her deathbed 3 days before she died she said I have something to tell you and he thought oh finally she's going to say the words and she said to him she managed to say to him I am so proud proud of you and he said a couple of days before that he had just closed a $100 million deal that he felt like he he felt like a million dollars he felt like he owned the world but he says those words from his mother was nothing in comparison to what the um the deal felt like in you know in terms of ma um you know what how successful he was in the deal and that's the influence that we have on each other so Al um we also had a Friday night a marathan Friday night till 5:00 in the morning and uh you I just uh I just I mean awe of you in that your tenacity in helping other people in speaking to other people this young couple were at a crossroad in their lives and you took the time you took so much time just to be with them and um so that kind of gave birth to the the thoughts of the show of saving the world one person at a time and um so saving the world one person at a time and it also ties in with Y show just be just before this where she's was speaking uh to somebody from the from sedic that's the um South African um it's an organization that speaks to people that are suffering from depression and helps them so it's interesting that that's that's there that the energy is there and then you were saying just before we started the show that um the increase since Russ sh of suicides so over to you Al um oh first of all good morning and you know you mentioned before that you PR feel privilege but I feel also honored and we're doing the shows together and my own followers that never never heard of K FM are also enjoying the shows we posted online we posted on YouTube and on Soundcloud and iTunes U my editor is working hard the two three hours after the show it doesn't go live but two three hours after the show it goes online and I getting such amazing feedback from listeners from my own followers that they enjoy the show so now started to advertise on my platforms that they can go to km and log in and hear it live so it's also my privilege and honor so I can reach to broaden my reach and that I'm that we're able to you know technology is so amazing that you can literally reach Any Corner in the world yes and I keep teaching that technology was given to us only for that cause yes I mean the basics the basic reason why we got technology is to to prepare us for mashiah that's why we really got technology because mashiah is coming very soon and we got to learn to to relate with the concept of mashiach because if you would expose the idea of mashia even 50 years ago with the technology that we have now people will not relate with it my grandmother 10 years ago when we used to Skype with her she couldn't understand how we're sitting in in Israel and she's sitting in Australia and she sees us through a screen so the technology is coming to really prepare us for the for the Gula for the Redemption and one of the main things is that we see that with technology in an instant thousands and millions of people can be one and that's what we're going to find out when mashia is going to come that we're all one we're all one soul and the technologies that we have is actually giving us the opportunity to relate to the fact that we are one now maybe right now we have different bodies but we can easily reach millions of people in one shot I can spread my word to millions of people with no problem and technology is allowing me I don't have to be somebody famous even I can put a post on one of the social networks and thousands of people will see it instantly so technology was given to us to really not only spread God's word and not only to prepare us for the coming of the Redemption but to make us realize that we are one and we're not separated from each other because for years you know the world was based on the fact that we are separated from each other and families that were distant from each other who would see each other they would see each other every 10 years or send a letter today you send the text messages 20 times an hour you know 20 years ago I grew up in Israel my mother is Australian so her parents were in Sydney and we you know once a year we used to talk it was like a big thing after the break we're going to talk a little bit more about this Oneness and how technology can bring us together okay so stand from top to youth from Johannesburg to Israel from sport to business this is 101.9 hiab good morning and welcome to the cavana show body mind and soul and we live from spat and I'm sitting together with Raba Lon anava and we are speaking about saving the world by noticing others really it's it's like one person at a time and just in in the Breon was saying that in terms of the Messianic time we're going to realize that we are one we and and that's the truth the the rest is an illusion it's it's not real that we are separated so um you you were talking before the break also about the the the technology is actually that's what its purpose is is to bring us together and to reveal mhia because mashia is waiting yeah he's waiting for us to to to be ready yes and you know the one of the first revelations in the Torah is that after God created the world the last thing that he created was the first man adamar the first man and right after after that he said it's not good for the man to be by himself now the context is actually referring to the fact that all the animals were created Created with with two genders and the only one who was created single was Adam so the text is talking about that it's not good for Adam as a man to be by himself and therefore I will create for him a helpmate but the Torah also has more depth to it just more beyond what we just read and when it's talking it's not good for a person to be by himself it's already hinting to us that God created us as as a group because it's not good for us to be by him by ourselves and Adam he was created single just him and he got very upset that when he saw all the animals has they have a help made he also wanted one and you know the first commandment that they got is to be fruitful and multiply and already then the Torah was hinting to us that we are depending on each other that we need we can be selfish and we can be by ourselves because even if a person wants to be left alone spiritually and mentally and emotionally it's not good for a person to be by himself no and unfortunately the the the technology also has a bad side to it because technology can also make people very very isolated people in the you know in their own home can shop from their home can see movies from their home they chat with friends over all the networks that are available so technology also has a bad side to it that one can really be isolated one needs to take the technology and and and use it to a positive thing but the point is what I was trying to make before about technology is that that the fact that we can talk and thousands of people can listen to us that's a very very you know Mas di time it's a very it's a time that's hard for us to understand tell that to somebody 20 years ago they will not understand even what you're talking about the point is that as much as we feel connected and we're surrounded with tools that allow me to be connected to the world I have a phone and I have a home phone and I have emails and I have Social Network accounts and I have so many ways to communicate with everybody but at the end of the day most people are are by themselves now the reason for that is it can be blamed on many different things that's not the point right now is what to blame it on rather to see where how are we finding a solution to the point yes that people are isolated in even in a family you know there's always these videos and jokes going around on the social network that you see like a not too long ago somebody shared with me a video that you see a family and they're all sitting and eating but they're all with their phones and they're texting and and it's not a joke it's actually very very sad joke the reality is that that we we we use we tend to use things that are made for a Positive Purpose into a negative purpose and this is the secret of the tree of knowledge it's called The Secret of of good and bad that everything in the world was created with an option that can be used for something positive and with an option that it can be used for something negative and here I need to take the Torah because the Torah comes from the word h means to teach and the Torah teaches me how do I see the difference between what's good and what's what's bad because if I wouldn't have the Torah I would not know that pork is not a good animal for me to eat and that I'm not allowed to do certain things the Torah comes and teaches me these animals you can't eat and these estern acts you're not allowed to do you can't steal and you can't cheat so the Torah comes to teach us is a manual so the Torah also comes and teaches me how I'm supposed to interact with other people and the basic and the foundation of the entire Tora that was repeated by many of our sages is is that I have to have what's called is I have to have this love to another person and you know one of the pillars of our of our sages the known RAB AKA when he was asked he says that you love a person another person a fellow person like yourself this is the major rule in the Torah yes and the last couple shows we were talking about the mystical pillar of our of our Tor who's buried here inat and if you go down to his grave you see that it says on his grave I am there I'm accepting on myself a Mitzvah a positive Mitzvah of loving another person and this is how we start our day if you look at most of the prayers that are going by his no by his style we start by that that I accept to myself the Mitzvah it's a positive Mitzvah to love another person like as if he like as if it's me yes and if I apply this every day that's why in the prayer books in the based on the that's how we start today because if I will take on myself the Mitzvah a positive Mitzvah that today let me practice that I'm going to love another person like as if it's myself like as if it's me and if every person would take on himself a project of loving one person equal to himself then imagine how many millions of people are going to be F feeling this love coming from another person yes yes and the point is exactly how you said before a person can be a millionaire a person can be a a superstar a person can be the most famous successful person in the world but all he needs and all he cares about is one individual to say one word yes and all the rest of the things are minimized compared to one nice word coming from the right person from a random person a random person is also good but coming from the right person the trick is to understand that each and every one of us is that right person to many others as much as we feel that we're worthless or we're not important or we're just another person each and every one of us has a a group of people that that our word is that valuable word that's going to come from the right person can be my child it can be my wife it can be my neighbor it can be my employer just one word can change a toll a person's to life and I met so many opportunities that that people that I met a person randomly just by saying one nice word even good morning you know we were so isolated we walk in the street where we're either our heads is in the phone or the head is somewhere else in a cloud and we don't even notice that is's anybody around us yes after the break I want to share a a short story and and we'll see how the importance and how valuable our words are okay okay we're going to go to our second break we'll be back now if you haven't entered one of the many competitions or giveaways onf you definitely should the best part of your day at the heart of your community all the talk all the music all the news hi it's good morning and welcome to the Cabana show body mind and soul and this morning we are live from spat and I'm sitting together with Rabbi Lon anava and we are talking about saving the person saving the world and saving the person and every single person in this world one person at a time just by noticing others and just to get straight into a story you were going to share a story uh before the break now I was about to say that we don't even realize how powerful our words are and a lot of people don't find the time and the importance of sometimes it's just even listening it's not about saying anything and the story was that that one time about 3:00 in the morning you know I'm up almost 24 hours a day so it was 3:00 in the morning and I get an email and I have a a a video online that I somebody asked me about suicide and how the Judaism is looking on suicide and in the video I answered whatever I answered I don't even remember what I answered in the video but basically saying that we're not nobody's allowed to commit suicide Jews and non-jews the same we're not allowed to take our life it's not our body and it's not our life to decide what we want to do with it so this particular individual emailed me in the middle of the night was about 3: in the morning and he told me I just I was about to commit suicide and just out of curiosity of what was waiting for me what's waiting for me I I ran some searches on Google and YouTube and your video came up and I saw from your video that you're saying in a very harsh way that it's very it's it's very bad and the result is bad and and you kind of scared me in your video so I wanted just to make sure that you really saying the truth in that video cuz I'm I'm I'm so I'm so depressed and I'm ready to commit suicide Shalom so for technology I replied to him right on the spot and I told him this is my number call me right now or send me your number yes so I waited about 10 minutes and an email came back with his number and I called him yes and we started talking and he was like is are you is that really you I can't believe you really actually answered me yes and we started talking and we end up talking for about 3 hours wow and 3 hours that he was a you know trying to convince me why he should kill himself and I'm trying to convince him why he should not kill himself unfortunately it sounds bizarre but W that's the way we Liv in him it's very very unfortunate and he had a very good very good case he had a very good case h he presented his case very good but the bottom line was that hasem gave me the right words just to to convince him not not to do it and up until today he's one of my students and he's grown to levels that it's unbelievable to look back to to realize that couple years ago he wanted to kill himself and now he he's he's keeping Shabbat and he's doing a lot of mitv and he's in a totally different place the point is not to not that that the story should make me sound like a hero that's not the point the point is that it was 3:00 in the morning and my yet was telling me it's 3:00 go to bed cuz you have to wake up in the morning tomorrow to pray and you have to do a lot of other things and why are you wasting your time now the point is that we don't know how sometimes the the the Supreme supervision What's called the Divine Providence put somebody in your path because you are the one who has to say something yes and and even though it doesn't sound to you like the right thing to say even if you feel awkward even if you feel like what am I going to say who am I even you were placed in this PL in this position at the right time to say the right thing to say what's on your mind and the reality is that you know the older rebi the the the founder of the movement of kabad he's known in many different titles the bat the alter Reid his name is Rish from leadi he says that a person will come down to this world for 70 80 years for one time to do a favor to another Jew wow that's it wow wow W so we can live our life for 70 80 years go through the entire lifestyle for one time somewhere along the way to do a favor to somebody and that favor can be just listening just saying hello just saying something the point is that we don't realize how much other people they might look on the on the outside very very happy and content and and things look good to them but the inside is a is a struggle and and there's a whole war going on in there and usually people don't open up and they share their pain the point is is is not only to look at my own pain yes we're all having problems yes every human being in our generation is dealing with severe problems and there's many reasons for that one of the reasons is because right before mashiah is coming and we have to we have to clean the rest of the dirt from us and there's many reason many reason reasons why we're all going through something but if you think you're the only one who's going through th saying you're wrong every individual person in this life in this generation is battling something horrible people lose their money people lose their loved ones people are are hopeless every person is dealing with something the point is to understand that even if I'm dealing with some something other people also dealing with something and I might be the address I might be that shoulder that somebody needs to lean on and when a person realizes that his words and his acts and his attention affects another person tremendously this is by the way the secret how to remove my problems because God tells us you make your will my will and I make make my will your will and this is said in the mishna which means that hasm is telling you in other words you worry about my problems I'll worry about your problems so when I take up my time to worry about another person's Problems by carrying and listening then hasem removes my problems away from me and the point is that one of the biggest mitv out the biggest Commandments is is loving another person just showing love to another person and we don't realize how much it's affecting another person and and one one thing that I noticed the last couple years gave me this the Merit to to to teach a lot and to affect a lot of people and and I'm trying to use the the technology as much as possible possible to to do that spreading videos online and and audios and whatever whatever method I can and a lot of the times I get a little bit discouraged but you know what I'm talking to a screen or I'm talking to a lens yes and yes I do talk a lot in in live audience but a lot of the times I'm talking to a screen yes right now I'm talking to a microphone yes so the microphone is not nodding his head and then microphone is not telling me you did a great job so sometimes I I feel a little bit discouraged maybe maybe nobody cares what I'm talking about maybe I'm just wasting my time and every now and then I get an email of somebody saying you know you don't know you don't know me you don't know who I am I just wanted to let you know that I heard that video or heard that lecture or or I just listened to you and you changed my life you affected my life and I just wanted to know that your words affect people yes and this is the same level of the story that you started at this millionaire he didn't care what the world thinks he needed somebody close to him saying I'm proud of you you're doing a good job yes the point is that each and every one of us we have the power to destroy worlds and to to build worlds and sometimes it's just by turning to another person and just asking how are you yes and you you can't even imagine what you did to that person yes now I'm dealing with this young man who who's really lost he somehow found himself in Israel he's going through a very hard time and the Divine Providence brought us together and we we know we spent some time and I you know gave him some advice what I think he should do and then I didn't hear from him from 10 days and the first few days I was like I'll wait for him to contact me and after a couple days I got busy and every day he was on my mind I was like I should contact him see how he's go how he's doing and after 10 days I took the initiative and I sent him a message and I told him I didn't listen I didn't hear from you for 10 days I want to make sure you're okay that you're safe that you that you actually followed through what I told you and I just wanted to check that you're okay and without even seeing I could feel in his message the smile that it caused on the other side of the of the metal device that is called a phone and he replied with an answer and he said I just I know you're very busy I didn't want to take more of your time you gave me so much of your time I know you're busy but just from the tone of his message I felt that that just by me you know reaching out to him and just telling him I just wanted to see how you are yes that you that you're good that you're F that you're safe that you have where to stay that you that you have what to eat that you that you going on the path you need to go on I literally could feel the the vibe on on his voice calling back like as if he couldn't believe that what somebody out there that doesn't know me he's not my family he's not my father he's not anyone for me I randomly met him and he cares about me I knew I mean I didn't do that for that I really cared to see what's going on with him but I could feel that this one minute of attention made such a difference in this young man's life that somebody actually cares about him that somebody out there cares if he's eating or if he's hungry or if he has where to sleep or if he's happy today yes and the point is that each and every one of us can do it you don't have to be a special person for that you just have to be a little bit focused yes on other people's needs yes it can be your husband it can be your child you know the closest people to you are the ones who really need one nice word yes you know your child comes back home from school just ask him how was school did you you know I my kids come home from school they have all these games they play with marbles they play with cards I asked him did you I asked if one of one of my kids he plays with Mar mares one of the questions I asked him did you win marbles today did you win some cards today he doesn't want to hear me asking him what did you learn today he doesn't want he wants to see what my father cares if I want two marbles if I want five marbles the point is that we don't we don't realize how our attention is literally a Life Force to withering flowers out there and it can be in our home and it can be the most random person out there and and it's I feel that often love is like a boxing ring where you you enter into this boxing ring and get knocked down Time After Time After Time when you do Hashem gives you this Hashem gives you the strength that's what I believe to keep getting up and then sometimes you actually need somebody to step into the ring and to actually help you up bleeding and to pour some water into your mouth to rub your shoulders to say you can do it you can go another round um you know this is the world uh I think the a a lot of people um have maybe a little bit of Rose tinted glasses where they think that life is supposed to be Rosy and happy and um all smiley faces that they don't realize that there is work to be done here and I think um especially you know the Jewish people it's our mandate it's our mandate to be a lot unto the Nations and to to direct and to uh help um not not only ourselves and our families but to help the rest of the Nations and so in that boxing ring to keep to to to to when you see somebody down to help them get up and um you know my my own life experience with with depression where I was constantly knocked down and gave me the strength to keep getting up and putting people around me that actually just at the right time said the right things the the um and then also what made made a difference for me is that um I made a kind of a deal with Hashem you know that you look after me I look after you that I will look out there I will notice people I will notice that a sedoka cup is attached to a hand to a person to an individual that is that is sitting there that has a whole life history it's a person it's a human being created by Hashem it's precious and and people don't see past that y you know you said this is a beautiful analogy about the boxing ring is that one thing that most people don't realize is that people project that they're strong yes because when you look at a person's exterior and they don't necessarily cry all day long you you you think they're strong and the reality is that most people are not so strong yes and and inside I mean the the exterior looks strong but the inside is very fragile and the problem is a lot of people they don't have a a a I wouldn't say low self-esteem but they don't they're not so confident in their own abilities that they need somebody to tell them exactly what you said you can do it yes their Assurance coming from somebody else that they can actually do it because ultimately we all have these power in US exactly how you said God is dwelling in us and he gives us the power but we for whatever reason we don't with don't feel that we have this power we we kind of tend to underestimate our powers and and when a person comes and says you can do it this this empowers this this this internal power in a person because hey he thinks I can do it then probably I can so it's exactly it's a beautiful analogy you said with the Box ring it's exactly like that because when you're in the ring you're getting punched and you're getting beaten up and pushed and you just want to quit and then your trainer in the back screams you can do it hit back and the reality is that exactly how you said we we are these these trainers that sometimes it's just an encouraging word even if you think differently it's not about what you think it's about telling another person you know these words of encouragement even if it's something very small like you know somebody did something and wow you did a very good job or wow you did it looks beautiful even if it doesn't look beautiful doesn't matter the point is that these these encouraging words that the the these words build people and I see it mainly I really put my my emphasis in with that with my kids yes yesterday my 5-year-old came with some scribble or something and he came so proud to show it to me and and all he needed to hear is me saying wow I can't believe it and throwing all these you know these comments I can't believe how you made the colors and this and that's what he needed to hear he doesn't need to hear anything else and two minutes of of attention that's it you you this is more like it's like a thousand lollipops or anything else and unfortunately in our generation we shut relationships down with a with like a gift kids are shut down in our generation with plastics you buy a plastic toy that's it shut up yes and even in the in in the in the mature world you we people tend to shut things down with with with with something with all sorts of things instead of just you know one word you know and I have the privilege of teaching and guiding a lot of groups of women and and when I need to talk to their husbands I tell them you don't understand your wife doesn't care about a car or a diamond ring or anything else or that you're making a lot of money and you're providing a nice home she just needs you to walk home and say you look beautiful today or the dinner is real good or thank you for ironing my clothes I appreciate your support that's all that's what she needs exactly in the reality that we all need the these couple words of encouragement and and and appreciation yes so we're going to go to our third ad break and we'll be back now who are the people we know as our sages who are the personalities what were their life stories for an hour of inspiration from history join Rabbi Danny saxin every Wednesday at 1:00 p.m. [Music] stay relevant and toate you informed this is 101.9 good morning and welcome to the cavana show body mind and soul and we live from spat and I'm sitting together with Rabbi Lun Anova and um also I just want to mention the SMS line of 34519 and uh there have been some sms's coming through the I always noticed that uh these kind of shows really elicit uh a lot of response from the listeners there's um a a response here P lady she's um speaking about suicide but it's that that uh I um it's going to take up a lot of time and I really want to go on to the more encouraging aspect of the show that I that I really want I to share and and to put AC cross for people to hear because people need positivity they need encouragement and um also in my preparation for the show I was um listening to to Shar and um the story of ysf hat sadic you know when he resisted Po's wife um how did he do that H how did the 17-year-old gorgeous guy that was a slave his can imagine what his self-esteem could have been bashed down to living in a prison for 12 years nobody knowing that he's alive or dead but he knew he knew his father knew he was alive and Yakov a did not set sh he would refus to receive any um yes shipper calls and because he knew that his son was still alive he did not give up on him and when that Temptation came it's so the from what I heard is that the his father appeared to him but a deeper the the sense that I get the deeper thing is his father appeared to him to encourage him you can do this you can push past this temptation uh and uh the the rip the the repercussions of getting through that Temptation what ysf had sadik gave to us in our dnaa further down the line as Jews is Monumental so it's his father did not give up on him his father um Beyond and and above did not give up on him and he knew it and to for people out there to know know that one person cares whether it's a parent whether it's family whether and and and this is where grandparents come in and I'm speaking to the grandparents grandparents your job is not over your job is actually just begun the minute these babies are conceived and born you have a huge role to play in your CH your grandchildren's upbringing it's a safe place to go it's it's a softness it's a there's no judge judgment it's unconditional love that you can give to your grandchildren you can encourage them you can and and and just that they know that you are not giving up on them that you are a safe place to come to can save their lives and there many children that are going off the and are jumping off buildings and you you mention that just before from Russia sh till now that there is an unprecedented amount of people individuals that are committing suicide it's horrible just to hear of something like that but the truth is that the truth is that many people they they find a dead end they come to a dead end for whatever reason unfortunately our generation is not an easy generation there's many troubles and many many hardships and instead of you know emphasizing how bad things are the point is that each and every one of us even we are stuck in the mud what actually takes me out of my mud is knowing that I can actually make somebody else happy and help them yes and I had a period in my life that I was going through a very hard period that we can make a show just on that uh the power of trusting in God that can do anything he wants but but me the thought that was holding me and that was giving me a lot of encouragement is knowing that my mother is out there and she needs me to be strong for her yes that particular one I know I knew my father is a strong man that I didn't have a problem I knew he's fine he's dealing with the situation I knew that I can't afford being crack down or however you say it because it will affect my mom yes I had to be on put on my best beh best show to encourage her and to tell her it's fine I'm fine don't worry I'm good just knowing that it will affect how it will affect her and sometimes we do have to pretend sometimes we have to pretend especially parents that you know a father has a lot of pressure you know no money or problems in the business or a mother has her own pressures you have to think five minutes before you walk through the door is you have to take a five minute break and to think how am I coming into the home right now am I coming with all the baggage that I have from the from the this long day and I'm going to start screaming at everybody or am I leaving my problems behind because there are my problems my kids don't need to deal with my problems and the world doesn't need to deal with my problems that's my problems I need to deal with my problems and if a person takes a a couple minutes break two three times a day to take a deep breath and to say before I'm starting my next meeting whether it's going into my home going into my job the world doesn't need to suffer because I have problems it's my problems I have to deal with it that's a whole different R thing right now how am I dealing with my own problems that's a whole different thing but the world doesn't need to deal with my problems rather if I try to to deal with the world's problems my problems will slowly slowly disappear here but the reality is that each and every one of us shouldn't look at himself as I'm I have to be the receiver I'm the poor person I'm going through a hard time I have to get this encouragement yes you're right you should you do you do but you you you get what you give yes and if you take one person or one hour or it doesn't matter but you make place in your life to affect another person to remove your problems for one second yeah you know this this I talk about it a lot in many of my lectures that what stops us from from having success in any place is our ego yes and and most people they will become depressed or or reach a dead end because of their ego because the business deal didn't work out the love didn't work out the relationship didn't work out this didn't work out therefore now um you know a person turns to a completely different path and ends up being depressed and that's only because my ego was hurt so if I learn how to dimin my ego which is a the main reason why we came down to this world is to step over our ego when I know how to to to diminish my ego and to not to look at myself for one second and to look at other person's needs that's actually when I'm saving my own Pro my own self because I'm not concentrating on my own problems I'm concentrating on somebody else's problems yes so my problems just slowly slowly disappear because God tells me I want you to help another person person you help another person you take out of your time to help another person I'll help you don't worry and you should try it every person should adopt to himself whether it's a child a person a friend somebody I mean I would tell you to do it with 10 people not with one person the point is that you have to if you constantly in the motion of helping another person then your problems will slowly just disappear because you're making space and you're creating room for somebody to come into your life and help you yes so you give out you project into the world a positive energy it will come back to you yes so if you start your day by saying to another person a nice word and you're being nice to your kids and your wife your husband your coworker it doesn't matter you are projecting this motion of giving yes then the world is going to start throwing that motion back at you so your own problems will be solved the point is to constantly be in a motion of thinking of another person this is basically what the Tor is constantly teaching us is that I constantly have to think of another person's needs not on my needs my needs are going to be given to me and are going to be fulfilled by God of course I have to follow his Commandments I have to make sure that I'm following what he tells me to do that I'm not doing anything that he prohibits me to do the Torah is very clear but besides that you know you know being a Manch is much more important than many other thing our mishna tells us you know being kind to another person is more important than learning the entire Tor so if I put in my my highest priority into my agenda where am I helping another person today you know a lot of people contact me and they tell me I did cha I I I now on a total different path how can I fix the problems that I did in the past that I don't know how to fix I lied a thousand times I said 5,000 times I I did so many things that I don't even know how to repair so I told them the only way to repair things that you did in your past that you don't know how to find them I mean if you stole something and you have it you can give it back or you can reimburse a person but if you lie to somebody or if you said 20 years about somebody how can you how can you fix that the only way of fixing that is by being kind to another person yes is by helping another person doing charitable acts acts of kindness and this is the ultimate way how to fix things that you did in the past that you don't know how to really fix them because ultimately when Hashem sees you going out of your way to help another person he removes all his business to help you okay so we're just going to go to our last break and I can't believe how the th M just flown she's young she's smart good morning and welcome to the cavana show body mind and soul live from spat and I'm sitting together with Rabbi Lon anifer of absolute privilege and we are speaking about saving the world and we are speaking about saving the world by noticing others and really one person at a time to try and adopt an attitude and to start with oneself to be kind to oneself to be uh to start with one's family in in just uh kind words kind thoughts and and then to extend outwards and Hashem we we never short of opportunities to actually um help another person never ever I every single time I step outside there's an opportunity I just need to actually notice and not look down as you said uh look down and and and then also not to get too lost in my own stuff is to uh lift my head up and to really look into the face of another person and um so just in in in wrapping up how how do we really get in there and help people to keep getting up because um there's people think that you medication is the way to get up people think that you know maybe the the bottom of a bottle is going to help them get up uh various addictions are going to help them get up uh just from what I've learned is those kind of things you know knock you down even further so just sitting here love ins surrounded by opportunities to do a lot of goodness here every single one of us has an opportunity in the rest of the world to do uh every single minute of the day even if it's just praying for somebody else as well there's numerous things what one can do and really we need like a 10hour show just to start even touching things but ultimately one needs to have God in his life if you don't have God in your life then you don't have any structure and I mean you don't have to be people look at me and they see a long beard and a black yamaka and the whole costume and they're like I don't want to be like you I mean I don't want to be fanatic and my answer is you don't have to be fanatic you have to follow the Torah I mean I choose how to get dressed hem doesn't get impressed if I'm dressed with a black suit or or blue shirt the point is that all the Jews they have to have God in their life and if you're missing God in your life then don't be surprised were were voids in you starting to appear and it's not about just doing okay I'll just do 20% of the mitv you can't do 20% you have to do all mitv there's no discounts in the Torah for senior citizens or for people you know with the certain situation the Torah is equal for everybody and one first needs to have 100% the Torah in his life once you have that then first of all hasem is already dwelling in you when Hashem is dwelling in you because you are pure then you're never going to be depressed you're never going to be sad you're never going to be anything opposite from from happy and content because hem is in you Hashem told us when we left the the the when we left Egypt and we were walking in the desert told us you should build me a mikdash a tabernacle a dwelling place and I will dwell in you now if if I'm already building my body as a tabernacle to God then God will dwell in me and if God is dwelling in me I'll never have anything negative in me because I have this power of God shining in me so first of all every person needs to have G in his life and and whatever level you're holding It's never enough you have to add more and more and more and and and do it in the right way and people are very far away from that and slowly slowly they have to to to to to incorporate the life of Torah and Mitzvah but the next step is to really internalize that I need to care about another person yes when I care about another person it's like a little sick kid that you bu buy him a puppy yes why because you want him to care about the little dog so he's forgetting about the fact that he's sick yes and we're all sick essentially if you're looking at it we we we we we're battling something sadness or or disappointment or loss we're all battling with something so we just have to buy ourselves a little a little I don't want to say a puppy because it doesn't sound so nice but if I adopt in my life somebody that I'm taking responsibility to help that person with all my heart that by default I'm helping myself cuz I'm making room for for forem to create Miracles and the point to take from this short interview is that your words are extremely powerful and your actions are powerful and your smile is powerful and your helping hand is powerful you don't even know how much you affecting another person forget about your own problems this is not the right way of looking at oh I have problems I know you have problems I also have problems we all have problems but that's not the point the point is that I have to realize that other people have problems I can be the one who's reaching that hand to pull them out and if I do that somebody will do that for me yes yes and really to take from this show one very simple thing is that really we we we we depend on each other and when one word can change the entire world one act I can change a person's life and I should be the one who who incorporates that and each and every one of you should adop not one person 10 people that you're taking your time that I'm going to now make sure that I'm smiling to that person I walk into that store I'll say good morning how are you how is your kids oh he cares about my kids how is this how is that what happens you know all these questions sometimes it's just a question but you do it really do do it real don't do it fake the point is that another person that the other person on the other side of the room wants your attention and your love and you have that power to give it to him and you can literally literally save worlds and don't don't don't think of yourself don't worry you think of somebody else your plate is going to be full absolutely Amen to that and Alan uh thank you so much for being with me this hour and I thank my beloved listeners for being there and I want to acknowledge the sms's that have come through we just ran out of time in order to read them and thank you for sending them and just keep getting up and keep helping somebody else to get up and with that to have the most beautiful Wednesday the most beautiful rest of your week and the most beautiful shabas from cabona Baba we bring the news we bring the action we bring it live this is 101.9 Kaba