Understand how your animal soul (Nefesh Behemit) works in order to fight it and WIN

on Shabbat technically what happens on Shabbat all the worlds get elevated to their source so that's why we're we're commanded we can't have any connection to the physicality because all the worlds get get elevated so that's one of the reasons why we're commanded not to work because it's kind of like the elevator is going up now to the to the penthouse you grab the elevator you go up with it you don't grab then you stay below you know when I became religious and they used to tell me when you don't keep Shabbat then it's called Shabbat now in Hebrew is when you take a flute and you you know so I was like I don't understand what do you mean shabat doesn't make sense the word even doesn't make sense now then how I figured how I understood it on Shabbat all the worlds get elevated everything gets elevated now if you keep Shabbat and you grab the Shabbat then you get elevated with the Shabbat if Shalom you don't then everything goes up and becomes AAL a space between all the worlds and down here so if you don't keep the shabbat shalom you stuck in this kalal in this space which means everything that you do is Shabbat so that made more sense to me and the thing is this is unfortunate why shabbat doesn't keep doesn't feel stuck in his face that's the problem that they don't feel but some people actually do that's what this like this space is you don't feel that already depends on the individual because there are some people that when they don't keep Shabbat they they feel they feel but unfortunately when a person gets to the point that he doesn't keep Shabbat then he's already so far away that he doesn't get affected by Hees doesn't feel the absence or if you know to compare a person who was born not religious and he does never had this connection it's almost like a person take now a child and raise the child on a deserted island he doesn't know that he's missing the candy cuz he never had candy so even if you come and tell him you know there's such a thing as candy he'll be like okay big deal because a person who's born religious never tasted it so he's lacking already The Taste I'm talking about a person who was born not religious at all so they he doesn't have even the minimum of taste of Shabbat even people that are not relig like they know some don't when I grew up I didn't know anything about Shabbat not only that I didn't even have said you live near but I that's for I knew the concept of Shabbat but I didn't know what it means to I didn't taste the time of Shabbat the taste of Shabbat to say oh I actually like it so when you you born Israel like like it's half and half everyone you know if you never if you were born not religious you know about the concept of Shabbat but when you don't keep it you don't feel like you're like okay it's another just another day you don't feel like the absence now if you were born religious you kept shabat many years then you stopped and you some people they feel they feel like I meet a lot of people that they that they in the beginning but I meet a lot people that they you know went away from from their path and they tell me I feel you know this this distance on Shabbat I seem I feel something going on on Shabbat unfortunately the more you drift away then the less you feel you lose the sensitivity that's the whole problem with people who drift away in in sin slowly slowly it gets and that's it if Shalom you're born you're not born into it why a lot of people who are they were born not religious they come they light once candles on Shabbat or they put fill in ones and they're like I don't feel anything people think that you're going to come and put fimon and like you're going to faint from theusa the thing is that the body is so far away the body is so full of cipot that you're not going to feel anything what about those people that it does make some type of something something ignit yeah the thing is that in in the spiritual level in the spiritual level any Mitzvah person will do will ignite this Godly spark in the body that's the whole point when you want to approach somebody and you want to bring him close to Hashem you can't just scream at him oh you're going to go to again oh that's not going to work cuz the person will be like okay you know leave me alone you Su you want to get somebody closer to Hashem you just you you you can't talk with reason because you're going to come and start talking about spiritual thing they they'll be like that's nonsense but if you want to ra awaken this Godly spark you make that person do a mitvah so what happens is the Nish is sitting in the body for many years is just being doing sins all day long eating not Kosher doing so many bad things the Nama gets covered with all these layers these cipot so anything that you're going to approach to that person is going to right be right away going to be an auntie no no no I don't believe it I don't want to do it you want to come for shabat no no no I I don't I believe it you want to do a mitvah no no no it's fine what about liting cand of course why not I have a friend they light candles every and now the thing is the way it works no the thing is when the person is in in such a level that the the N is so covered with cipot then the doesn't matter what you're going to let him do the Nish will not feel anything it's like you know you take now a source of light and you cover it with many many many layers you're not going to see the light now if you're going to come now and make the person do aah the starts waking up now usually what happens right away the will shut the the light down no don't get excited shut up now when you saying some people they do all their life they light candles you know what the comes and do he says no PR fine light the candles but continue sleeping in all the rest of the stuff so the comes and tells you yeah yeah light your candles it's time to light will make you be very perfect to shut you down there was almost like and she was like and she knew that I was I need to like I was telling her that like you know she knows about the lightting candles she's like Sarah you got a light but then the is smart he's going to tell you no problem I'll give you one Mitzvah just shut up don't come and demand all the rest of the stuff and that's how the will work now the thing is that when a person is so far away from religion and the N is so covered with his klipot you come to approach that person you tell that person you want to put filin on no why not I don't believe in it and you doesn't matter how you're going to come and explain it they'll be like nonsense and then if you finally somehow convince that person to put F in on or light candles or come to T not only that nothing will make sense they don't feel anything you know only people I meet that you know they come to our Shabbat they light candles and like okay nothing happened like people think that you're going to light the candles and so so the thing is some people do some people are very spiritually sensitive that they do a little Mitzvah Israel with non-religious people and my husband was putting on film for them they had no idea they didn't even they knew they're Jewish that's about it and they begged him every morning can we do it again want it again and again and like then we went to the coel and they were all like crying and I'm standing there religious and like I didn't feel anything I'm like why don't they feel this that they're feeling yeah like this connection that's that's the the same metaphor of the little kid that grows up on a deserted island he never had ice cream in his life suddenly you gave him one lick of the ice cream he gets all excited you have ice cream every week you don't get excited from the ice cream so it really depends depends on the N some people yeah they don't they don't feel anything you come and make them do a mitvah n nothing some people you just do something they feel this this amazing arouser I have a person that I know that I took him once to the mik he went out of the mik like you know he was like I can't believe it he was like for a whole week he's like you know I I can't even explain to you how I feel I feel like like this rock was removed from me so each person gets gets affected by something else I know a lot of people that they're like a rock doesn't matter what you're going to do I don't feel anything so it all depends the thing is that we create our own masim this own kipot so if I'm now removing myself far away from hem it's going to be very hard for me to come back and I'm not going to feel anything now the thing is that talking how we we started talking before about the r when hasem wanted to create the world Hashem said okay I have to remove this Godly light in order so there will be some type of existence so Hashem basically contracted his light made these tumim now the Tsum this contraction is for us not for him hasem doesn't doesn't change any anything forem the concealment of the light is for the Nim for us so when Hashem hides himself in these contractions inum like these layers the one that gets affected from it is the one that it's done for so I'm not going to see Hashem not that Hashem doesn't see me or it's it's like a oneway oneway Direction and the thing is that when I now decide Shalom by mistake on purpose by chance by not knowing but let's say I do an a what does it mean a a the word in Hebrew a people translate it a is a sin I did a sin but a comes from the word so if I'm now in the side of in this and then I move over here I went away from the so I went from here to to here that's the a I remove myself from the from the realm of and I remove myself over here now once I move it nobody I can't I can't blame anyone but myself if I chose to move over here then I I'm responsible I can't complain to somebody oh because of you now obviously there's there many different levels in the a some some of the sins you don't even know that it's a sin so then the then the there's no punishment there's no there's nothing against you there's still the blemish that was done by the sin that needs to be polished but some degrees of the sin are harder if I know that it's a sin that that I wanted to do it that I had a fight there's many different levels of the severity of the sin but the fact is that when I Shalom do the opposite will of hem then I transfer myself from here to here this is the concept of from moving from one place to the other so obviously when somebody's on the other side of Kus the other side of Holiness then he there's there's no connection so some people are very far away so nothing you're going to say do or think they're going not going to feel anything sometimes the the distance is not so far away sometimes a person he did one little mitvah and even by chance or or by like you said with the the your husband used to put fing on the on the men sometimes all it takes is one little mitah for the to start waking up now usually how it works is that when we're in our body we have two we have a and is The Godly part of the exactly how it sounds comes word like an animal Soul The Godly Soul only wants to do only wants to learn T only wants to do only wants to be connected to hem he doesn't want to do anything that has to do with this world the is like an animal it wants to eat it wants to sleep wants to enjoy everything in this world it wants to enjoy everything that has to do with this world and they constantly battle now if I feed my NE constantly and I and I take my NE to restaurants and I let it sleep in and I let it enjoy the indul to indulge about everything in the world then the ne is empowered what's called in Hebrew beab so what happens if I'm now imagine two friends one one of them is like a good guy one of them is a bad guy imagine the bad guy is like a stronger personality every time the good guy will say hey let's go do this and this no no no no now we're going to rob this place now we're going to do this now we're going to do that so when you feed your NE constantly then then the ne is in control so you want to go to a Tora suddenly you get an email tonight there's a t you're like oh maybe I should go right away no no what are you talking about there a football game tonight you can't go to the so right away the comes and opposes and you know something you you walk in the street somebody asked you for charity you your nature is like oh oh maybe I'll I'll give him some money right away you'll put the money in the pocket you no no no no no you you're about to buy something to eat now forget about it look look I see a sale over there you know I see a big sign 20% off maybe you can get new shoes forget about this guy right now so will con see danger coming and no no relax relax it's fine we'll come with all sorts of sophisticated why is it called beemit CU a be is an animal oh I like from no beemit comes from the word be it's an animal it's an animal Soul not animal that it's like a like a wild animal but it has the traits of an animal and animals if you what's the difference between us and animals we have we can think more than that we can make a choice this is good this is not good animals don't have a choice animals work by their Instinct so we know that about um the food pyramid animals follow like a food pyramid that that's I'm not this is this is not the what I'm talking about I'm talking about saying that's also like like they don't know that's not they don't no no an animal Works only by Instinct you'll never see a cow how do they know to Ma how do they know to they worked only by instincts yeah animals only work by instincts what does it mean no that's you're saying that's an intin yeah but you'll never see a lion eating grass or you'll never see a cow running after a sheep and and and eating it it's not common sense it's an instinct because in Hebrew maybe I'm using the wrong word Instinct in Hebrew it's called it's their nature so so for example we know that an eagle is very Rahman very merciful and we know that a crow a black crow is very sadistic so we know a famous story that the ramban not the rambam the ramban he was the adviser of the king at the time the sultan now he was the only Jew and all the rest of the advisers didn't like him because he was like the smarter one he always get the gave the good advice King liked him so there was one argument and the ram said no whatever tea whatever instinct is instilled in the animal you cannot change it we as humans we can change this is the the the MAA the advantage of a human being that I can be here and I can change to be here there's no such a thing that a person says oh I'm my nature is to be lazy I'm always going to be lazy no as excuse it's an excuse because it's difficult to change nature that's now of course it's difficult I didn't say it's easy generally stay lazy people self yeah exactly of course but you have the power to change youra actually hasem put you in this world to change youra so if Hashem put you if you're now saying I'm lazy you can already know this should be your easy instruction to know my aod is to break this laziness and not to be lazy if my if my nature is to be cheap it means I have to work on my cheap I have to work on it and break it to become not cheap so the thing is most people they use it an excuse and like oh it's my nature I'll never change no you are put down in this world to actually break it it doesn't matter if it takes you years excuse me life exactly some people die still the same so they so they missed the point you know being from living as a God-fearing person is not to run after mitv all day long is the mitv is just the tools how to to work in this world but explains that why why am I here in this world I was good it was very fun for me in in ganeden who who has to come down here what do I need to come my was sitting in ganeden seeing on large screens TVs Hashem all day long I had gim G who has to come here why do I have to be here so the reason why we came here is to Elevate first of all to elevate the entire world when I'm when I'm being placed in this place in the world I have to elevate thisa this place in the world but more than that I came here dressed in a body dressed into a nees to change and and and Elevate the body to change the ne to work on my midot there's a concept that we know that we have to work on a we have to constantly work on armid do now if I'm autopilot and I'm very religious and I go to sh every day and I eat kosher and I do Shabbat and everything but I'm very like autopilot I'm like sliding I'm not doing anything the fact that I'm doing Mitzvah it's very nice and hm is very happy and I'm going to get a great SAR in GED for that but I'm missing the point it's like going on the highway putting the gear in neutral and putting the gas all the way down nothing moves if you don't step up if you don't grow you fall exactly exactly this is what I always say when the life is like comparing to driving a bike if it's easy means you're going down that's how it is so obviously we came here not to like for sure not to do sins and enjoy this world but let's say a person already is in a level that he at the his from and he's doing mitz if he's not constantly working on refining himself then he's you're losing the you lost the point the mitv is very important to run after and we have to learn Tor and we have to do everything that's just the tools how to deal in this world natur stuff like that no and then once you mastered refining yeah you constantly have to refine yourself and whatever is the hardest for you you lazy you're cheap you're whatever not you I'm just saying a person is there isn't just one there's like a person can have million exactly yeah yeah yeah and that's what you have to do all your life so if I'm lazy I can tell you on myself that when I became religious I came to the show oh with a whole list of things that were very very bad and I can tell you that half of them yeah half of them I already completely change it completely and some things I'm still working on it so the whole point of doing chuva of living religious is not necessarily to follow all the MIT that's you have to do your whole point is that you want to refine yourself constantly constantly refining yourself to be more more and more better now the thing is that go going back to the to the story with ramban so they had an argument because ramban said no we as humans we have the power to change our nature the way that we were born is not how we're supposed to leave the world we came through here and we're going out from here so if I came and I didn't do anything I I missed the point so we came here to refine our midot so at the time so ramban said no we as human beings we have the options of changing our nature nature animals you cannot change so the other advisers were arguing with the ran they're like no we can prove to you that you can train an animal to do whatever whatever you want so they said okay let's put it to the test so they the the advisers they took a cat and they trained the cat for months to do whatever they wanted came the day that they came to prove the the experiment so the advisor the advisors came and the King were sitting they made a whole thing out of it and then they brought out the cat that they trained for months and whatever they told the cat to do he did and the cat came out with the with the trays of food and the cat did this and the cat did that and everybody you know got all excited wow they really trained the cat look the cat is serving food the cat is doing this the cat is doing that so the ramban looked at it and he laughed so he went and he pulled out from his pocket a little mouse he threw the mouse on the floor the second that the cat saw the mouse threw all the all the trays and start running after the the mouse so you can train the animal to do whatever you want but you can't change its nature you have today all the time see animals are trained cuses andu and how many times you see a lion that is trained that that he freaks out and suddenly eats the trainer so here now in Disneyland whatever water world whever where it's called Disney World they had like 15 cases in the last couple years that the the whales they eat the trainer didn't do shows yeah yeah yeah and now I saw not too long ago somebody yeah cuz the whale got freaked out at some point and he attacked the trainer and I saw literally a few days ago somebody emailed me a a video it was with a joke it doesn't matter the joke but you see a person that was like making a show with the crocodiles and putting the head into the crocodile's head there movies everywhere on YouTube and Facebook and he bit him in the middle of the show so you see so many shows that the the lion bites the trainer the whatever so you can train an animal that's for sure but you can't change its nature so you take now any animal and you train it but then put it in its natural environment it will forget the rules but the thing is that we're not animals we we have the ability to arouse ourselves that we can work our mid so if I have a bad trait I first of all it's very easy to recognize your bad traits if I'm lazy if I'm cheap if I'm stingy if I'm whatever I can recognize right away my mid my bad my bad mid and if you want to really refine yourself in this world you work on that and that's the hardest to really refine refine your midot but it in essence Hashem doesn't really need your mitv you're doing mitv for yourself mitv is like you know how to to maneuver in this world you walk into a car now take a person who grew up on an island you give him a car keys doesn't matter how fancy the car is he doesn't know that the right pedal is to move and the left pedal is to stop so you have to learn oh you move the stick if you move the stick you starts driving and if you press this stick it moves you press that stick the car stops so hasem gave us a lot of these mitzvot press here you're going to get there don't press here you're not going to get there so hashm gave us to to learn how to maneuver in this world but the main that we want to do is we want to refine refine our midot and there's a lot what to refine and exactly like you say you have a whole life life to to to refine it that's not that you wake up in the morning like okay from today I'm not going to be cheap anymore it doesn't work like that you it takes you a long time to change yourself so going back to what we were talking about that you have in your body a not that it's a comes from the word an animal why why because it wants to be involved only in gashos it wants to eat it wants to get physical Pleasures it wants to to enjoy life it wants to sleep it wants to enjoy this world it doesn't care sitting in a sh it doesn't want to go to a t it wants to go to a movie he wants to sit with friends and have a cup of coffee your will constantly will move you away from and you constantly have a battle now if a person lives a certain lifestyle that is so far away this NE will slowly slowly diminish the power the light of the then you approach this person with a mitvah either he doesn't want to do it other doesn't doesn't interest him well he does the mitvah like I didn't feel nothing you know many people I drag them to come to our shabas table and they're like you know very nice family and the food was very good but I don't feel anything it's just another day I feel actually more fun when I'm on the beach because sometimes the ne is so buried that that's the that doesn't matter what you're going to do doesn't see doesn't see anything like how you said with Shabbat sometimes yeah I rather be in a club I rather be on the beach I rather be here why because your your is is still like an animal you put now an animal in a cage and you make the you know its food walk outside the cage excuse me it's difficult to well the way for you to to to reduce the power of the is to feed the with with yes so slowly slowly like you said sometimes I'm doing doing and could be an amazing doing and then and then the next day it's worse later but that's normal having the same that's normal thoughts or the same a lot of people say and a lot of people think that you elevate yourself to a higher level and everything should be perfect but I'll give you a very simple example go go to the hospital now and go to a heart patient and look at the monitor what do you see up and down up and down up and down you know the heart that when the heart is straight that's dead so when everything is straight it means that you're spiritually dead you constantly up and down up and down so one day you up one day you down if you look if you the day that you're down you're like ah what a shitty day and I didn't pray and I didn't do this and I didn't do that and I'm and I I didn't say any today if you're looking it in a very negative way then you you you're missing the point of the going down it's almost like you know kids they like like jumping on trampolines if I'm going to jump now on trampoline I'm going to throw up after a second but when I was a kid you know kids you put them on a trampoline they don't stop why they get some type of this Rush this excitement from jumping up down up down up down you put an adult on a trampoline he'll throw his guts out so the same thing that sh has to go up and down up and down up and down so when you're down if you feel down then you then you you're missing the point that why' you go down you go down to jump up again so you need these days that you're down because if everything will be good that's you you you you're writing on a straight line you don't get the what's the whole point of the heart pumping in pumping out pumping in pumping out yeah exactly like a muscle if you now go to to a a a gym and you go and you take a piece of weight and you go like that and you don't move you didn't do nothing you have to you have to pump it so the same thing in the in spiritual level if you don't pump in out in out up down up down your it gets flat there's no so the fact that you have a bad day if you let the yet over overtake then he will tell you oh look what a bad day you have yeah is going to take all the air out but if you're saying okay I'm now bad day yeah so for tomorrow I'm going to be in the app so it's a normal thing don't let that discourage you by one one day okay so sometimes the the jumping sometimes the trampoline is a little bit loose you have to go very down but the good thing is it that that you can take to in Hebrew say sometimes you know when you want to jump you want to jump far away or you want to jump over a big wall you have to go far you see you know remember when we were kids we wanted to jump over a wall you go like 50 feet far away to run real fast and then you have power to jump over the wall so it's everything you can see in the physicality you can compare it to the spiritual level sometimes you have to go far away so you can get the how do you say nu in in English like to drive the drive no it's not drive NOA is like when you you you you you you go far to like accelerate like a car you want to drive fast you have to accelerate the car doesn't it don't get just press the gas in your 100 miles an hour the car has to take off it's kind of like taking off gradually so the thing is that the is waiting for the second that you're a little bit down to come and push you you know those annoying friends that you're having a bad day and then they come and annoy you because they they have this bad mid that they see you in a bad mood then they come and annoy you so the answer is that type of a friend he sees that you're having a a bad day that you're not so strong spiritually then he comes and annoys you yeah yeah you didn't do this you didn't do this that's what the Yeah to push you when you you know unfortunately some people that's their nature they see you they see you down they come and annoy you instead of picking you up so your all this clan they're waiting for you to feel a little bit bad so they can come in and and tell you oh look how bad you are don't get excited because of that rather he's saying okay if today was a bad day must be that tomorrow I actually will have the K and sometimes you wake up in the morning and everything you're like you know you didn't even put the alarm clock on you wake up at 6 you like run you're like okay I'm going to pray today and I'm going to do this and usually every day you come to eat you're like oh it's a Moy I don't feel like washing now okay I'll just eat this so you find a some type of a loophole to say oh it's not even a moi it's it's a and some days you're like oh I want to eat because I can say some days you have this excitement so you need to know when the days when you back how to deal with it and the days when you're strong how to deal with it the point is not to get dizzy because one day you're not 100% don't don't let trick you so much you have to be a little bit smart