Save the World by Noticing Others - Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein

[Music] I want to talk about very very specifically. it makes a lot of sense to talk about it tonight and that is Yoshat Sadi in Guloshadic who went to gullis but I want to specifically speak about him tonight um and I want us to understand what it means to be a sadic how do you become a sadic so the first introduction to who Yoseph had sadic really was and that is in the beginning byev. It says the following. Aila told us Yakov. Yoseph the child of Jacobu was Yoseph who wrote us. He was a shepherd. He's also a shepherd who has been a zilpa. But he cared about the underdog at the time that he was a shepherd. So there were six tribes that were the children of of Leia and Yakov. And there were four tribes that came from Bilah and Zilpa. Billah and Zila were not the wives of Jacob the same way as Raa. They were schwakos. They were maid servants. When when love gave his daughters over. So the minute of those days was that each woman had her like a maidervant that took her that took care of her. So he gave their maidervants together with them. Bill of Zilpa Jacob had children with two children with Bilah and two children with Zilpa. But they weren't on the same level as the six tribes from Leia. Yoseph's born. Yoseph's his father's favorite. says in the para Yseph's on a different level gives him a special coatim he's the bakar of the of the wife that Yakov really wanted to work for which was so the special child he's even above the six tribes of Leia he's the bakar of ra and for some reason he's the protector of the four children that were being made fun of by the six children of Leia because they were being called you guys. You four, you're not on our level. You're the children of a maid servant. Our mother was Leia. Yoseph, which we'll see what I'm talking about tonight. Yoseph could not see another person being hurt. So he ran to his father and he said, "Yaob, my father, do you know what's going on? Do you know that these six guys are making fun?" We don't want to use the word bully, but sort of that kind of word. And the brothers hated him for that. He was a tattletailer. They hated him for that. The introduction of the Torah to Yatadic was that he cared about the brothers that were being made fun of by the others. This was the source of who Yoseph was and this is what's actually going to go out throughout the and save the world. Not only save his life but save the life of the world. Okay. So, The brothers saw that that Jacob loved him more than them. They hated him. They hated him so much they could not say they could not talk to him in peace. So much they didn't like him. Okay. Yakov sees this and he's got to do something. His kids are not getting along. So what does he do? He comes up with a master plan. What's the master plan? I'm gonna send Yoseph on a mission. He's going to go to his brothers to find out how are they doing. And when they hear that he cares how they're doing, they'll shake hands, they'll hug, they'll kiss, they'll make up, and this whole thing will go away. But everyone here in this room knows sort of backfired in a big way. So the says the following. I spoke about this a whole week. actually was in Lakewood. I was a my says the following. So Yseph's on his way to he's on his way to find his brothers. And a man finds him. The man was a Malik Gabriel. Yseph was lost. He was wandering in the field. And the Malik asked him, "Not where you going. What do you want? What's ves? What are you looking for? So there's two very big questions on this p. Question number one, first you get lost, then you get found. The p here says they found him and he was lost. No, it's the wrong way around. You don't find something and then it's lost. It's lost and then you find something. So what's this saying over here? That He found him and he was lost. He was wandering in the he found him. They flipped the words here. That's one. Two. If somebody's lost, what do you ask him? Where are you going? How can I give you directions? The M didn't ask him where he's going. And the Malak knew where he was going. He's a malak. So he asked him, he asked him, "What do you want?" He wasn't asking him, "Where are you going?" He said, "What do you want, Yoseph? Things are not going good between you and your brothers." Yoseph, what do you want? Not where you're going. But said, "I want to be I want to be accepted." The big word tonight share called acceptance. I want to be accepted by my brothers. Everybody in this room and everybody listening to the share and every human being on earth is looking for the same thing. What is that? Acceptance. We want to be accepted by our husbands. Want to be accepted by our wives. Want to be accepted by our parents. We want to be accepted by the people we work with, the people we live with. We will do some crazy stuff to be accepted. Fatic said to the Malik, "My brothers don't accept me. What do I want? I just want to be accepted." The Pik teaches us a very big lesson. I came I was by before this and I told it to the girls. This PK it says that he was he found him and he was lost. It should have said he was lost and he found him. Once somebody's lost, once a kid goes off to Derek, once a marriage is broken, it's very hard to put it back together. Intervention takes a million times more energy and money and time than prevention. The Malik over here is teaching us a lesson. He found him. He met him. He talked to him. He asked him, "What do you want?" And he realized after that that this boy is very lost. And then he said, "You're very lost. What do you want?" Parents and children, it's very late in life when you find out when your kids 17 and 18 that they're off to d. It's very late in a marriage when you find out that your husband is not where you should be or your wife is not where they should be or they're online talking to people they shouldn't be. You have to spend time with the people that you're having a relationship with. And if you spend time, you'll find out maybe something that you don't know. that your wife needs more compliments. Your child is lost. He's doing things he shouldn't do. He doesn't feel good about himself. He doesn't feel loved. He doesn't have self-esteem. But how do you find that? First has to be you have to spend time. You have to talk to the child. Then you might find out my child's lost in the field. How do I help you? What do you want? If you wait till he's lost in the field to find him, the marriage is lost or the relationship is lost and you wait to find him. At that point, many times it's much too late. So I spoke very much this week in Lakewood that parents, specifically parents, need to spend time with their children and need to explain to their children. And I think the the disease, the mental disease of our generation is not bipolar or all the other letters and words that are classified as mental diseases. I think the the origin of a lot of a lot of depression and suicide and cutting and all the other things that people are doing is low self-esteem. When when you don't think much of yourself, you project that so people don't think much of you and you go into this cycle of depression like what am I doing here? I don't do anything anyway. Nobody appreciates me anyway. Nobody thinks of any there's no reason for me to be here. And there's a very interesting pusk and I I spoke about this for a long time and I think that it's extremely important in marriage and with children and in any relationship there's a fascinating pik in the end of yadic is being challenged by the most beautiful woman in the world says that y with Gilgal of Adam Ysef was very very beautiful. We know that he looked like Jacobu. There's a Gar that says that God who was so beautiful that we know Malus the princess said peel the skin off his face and stuff it because I want to be able to look at him for the rest of my life. He was that beautiful. She said of all that mus to the king let him live. Gomorrah says the malim came down when they looked at they said he looks a little bit like the we don't even understand what that means but that's very beautiful was just a gilgal of sadic was very beautiful and is a very fascinating medish it's there's only um I think he's the him and It says by it says he was the Tory says he was very beautiful as a man. Doesn't it doesn't describe any other man ever in that description. So he was very beautiful and the says she was created by the Sultan to trip him up. If the Sultan's creating a woman, he's creating a woman. So she was according to the the most beautiful woman in the world and she couldn't eat and she was losing weight and she was looking terrible and her friend said to her, "What's wrong with you?" And she said, "I have a slave that is so beautiful and I can't get them and it's making me so sick that I can't eat." And the Egyptian women said, "A Jewish slave, beautiful. There's something mentally wrong with you. Can't be. Can't be. We have the most beautiful men in Egypt. Can't be. A Jewish slave should be so beautiful. So the man says she invited her friends and she put them in a semicircle and she gave them a knife and an esrig. They I guess they didn't have grapefruits or oranges. So that was their citrus fruit. She gave them and they said, "I'm gonna bring him in. It's a madress rabo." And she put his head in iron so that he could not move his head. He had to look up. And she brought him into the room. And the garra says the the the med says that they were in such awe of what he looked like that they were cutting they thought they were cutting the esrig. They were cutting the tops of their fingers off. So the med says and the blood was running down their hands. And she turned to them and said, "I'm sick. Look what you're doing. You're cutting the tops of your fingers off. This is a war of the worlds. How did he refuse her? How did he today I talk to kids that are that are shabas and off the derek and angry because their revi said something wrong to them or their parents didn't let them stay up till 4:00 in the morning. Everybody has reasons for being angry at Hashem. Nobody ever in the whole Tory had a better reason than Yatadi. His brothers took him, undressed him, threw him into a pit with snakes and scorpions to die. He didn't die. Okay, so they should have said, "Wow, he must be a sadic. Look at this kid. He is not wearing any clothing. He's in a bar and the snakes are going on running away. The scorpions are running away. The kid has to be holy. instead they sell him. That's abuse. He ends up going down to Mitra and if you learn Rashi, talk about abuse, it says in Rashi that Potifa was gay. He bought Yoseph because he was a pretty boy. He bought him for himself, says Rashi. So you're talking about Kadash. He he was called the Isite of the world. This holy Jewish boy who had a special jacket. He was his father's tal gets tried gets attempted murder. They try to kill him. Then they sell him. Then he's brought in such a house. Shouldn't be angry at Hashem. Doesn't have a easy a reason to go off to death. Instead, this woman far away, nobody cares about him anyway. Nobody knows where he is. Emptifiable viku. It says she was a sorcerer. She was also very brilliant. And she said to yade, "Why aren't you succumbing to my wishes?" And he said, 'I have two reasons. One, you're married. I don't commit adultery. Two, you're not Jewish. I I don't I don't I don't sleep with women that are not Jewish. I'm not married to you. This is not who I am. But you never give a reason when someone asks you a question like that. You just run for the hills. You don't get into a discussion because that's already halfway the problem. But once he said that, she said, "Really?" She said, "I'm not married." Because in Jewish law by the non-Jews, there's no kaducin with money or star, but the marriage is consummated by a physical relationship between the man and the woman according to Jewish law. That's how a non-Jew is considered married. So she said, "You know my husband, you know, Rashi, right? You know, my husband wasn't with me because he's gay. So, I'm not married. I'm not married. So, according to your laws, it's not adultery. So, there's number one answer out the door. She says the other part that I'm not Jewish. So, the media says she took him outdoors and she showed him the stars. She was a stargazer. And Yoseph had learned by his father how to read the stars. And in the stars it said that from Potifa's wife and Yoseph were going to come two big Sadikim Ephraim and Manasha very clearly it was written in the stars. She said and who arranges the stars God. So even though I'm not Jewish it's going to happen from the two of us are going to come to Jewish Sadikim. So now both your reasons are out the door. That's why you don't give reasons. You just run. So he had a problem. He gave her two reasons and she blew them out the door. Now what really happened with the stars being that she adopted us and was calledas basifera. She was considered the daughter of Asia Potifa even though she wasn't. She was adopted. But from her came a manasha. So what she saw in the stars is that from her and Yoseph were coming a framan but it was from her that she hadas that he was having a fra. So the stars said it but the translation was wrong. So ladies and gentlemen, how did Yoseph not mess up? Beautiful. Unbelievable and a lesson for all of us. Yoseph Yoseph refused her. And on the word, the men see this when they read the shaalas. Shashalas is a musical note. Every word in the Torah has a musical note. It's sort of a siren like he he refused. But it wasn't easy. But a shall in English means a chain and the it looks like a corkcrew. The the the the musical note shall looks like a corkcrew. It looks like a chain. It actually looks like a chain. A chain connects two things. What's connected to Yoseph's? So we look in the para and we find another. There is one other vay in the para when they came to Jacob with the jacket full of blood and they came to be because he lost Yoseph Jacob said I refuse to be comforted you can't somebody sitting shiva and people want to come visit he can't close the door and say it's bad enough today you know they have their special hours from 12 to 4 and then back from 6:00 to 8 it's Like it's like a birthday party. This is you being manak. What do you know hours like a doctor you know you come to the door you're like oh we're not let anyone in for between 12 and 2. Nobody can come in. But he said no I don't want novel have a good day and he threw him out. You can't do that. Jacob said something unbelievable. It's also brought down in the Jacob said, "You brought me a coat. It's full of blood. It looks like an animal ripped my child to pieces, but you didn't bring me a body." So, as far as I'm concerned, he's not dead until you bring me his body. You can bring me blood and you can bring me this, and you can tell me stories. I put so much into this child. He is my future. It says Yoseph was the ash was the fire. Asov is the kash is the is the straw. I put so much into my kid and you're telling me he's dead. Show me a body. Until then, I refuse to give up on him. Those are the two minds. Ysef said no to her. Jacob said, "I will not give up on my child until I see his body. Until then, in my head, he's alive. So don't come and be on me." Yseph is thousands of miles, no hundreds of miles away in the worst place of his life in the biggest test. He says, "No, not doing anything. Stars are good. You're not married." Still not doing anything. says Rashi. He saw Dikuno Shalave. What does that mean? Like a magical face like showed up at the window. Don't do it. Oh no. Come on. Come on. There's no ghost at the window. Please. But kunos. As kids, we learned it's like a ghost came. Yakov came as a ghost. And if YaKob came as a ghost and he knew that Yosha was alive, then how come he didn't go back and the ghost didn't tell Yakov, "Hey, he's alive." So one shot is that he looked exactly like YaKob. He did. He did look exactly like Jacob. And when he went to the window, he saw his reflection in the window. Yoseph saw his reflection. He saw his father. It's one shot here is different. What was the kunos? If he saw that my father I know my father, I know my father. I know Yakov. He will not give up on me until I'm shown to him as I'm dead. I'm not dead. I'm here in triumph. And I don't know what my brothers are telling him. I'm dead. I'm sold. I don't know. I'm not there. I don't know what they're telling him, but I know one thing. My dad, my father, my father Yakov, until I'm dead and he sees it, he will never give up on me. And therefore, when a person knows that their father or mother or there's someone in this world that absolutely refuses to give up on them, no matter where they are, that will give you the power not to give up on yourself. I deal with some extremely severe situations. People commit suicide. You should never know of it. When they come to a point where in their head there's no one left in the world that believes in them. And when they get to that point that no one believes in me, no one thinks I'm worth anything, that's when they're like, "So, what am I doing here? I'm out of here." As long as there's a person in this world, whether it's a friend, specifically if it's a parent, the child knows that my mom or my dad or my mom and my dad, no matter what I do, no matter how I fail, no matter if I'm off the DK, no matter where I am, my parents won't give up until I'm dead. As long as I'm breathing, they will never give up on me. then that child will come back because that child will never ever give up on themselves. Today I sat with a girl who's getting divorced with three children. And the reason she's getting divorced because her husband gave up on the marriage. She said, "I'll stick if he believes that we can make this work. if he refuses, if he refuses. And I sat with him and I said, "You have three children and you have a wife. You have to refuse to get divorced. You have to do whatever it takes to make this work by your mind. You have to refuse. If you do that, it'll give her the kayak to refuse to get divorced, too." No, he doesn't refuse to give up to get he doesn't refuse. So in the end of the meeting with all the people that were there, she has no one in the marriage that refuses to give up on the marriage. So she gave up. So there are parents in this room and there are pe there are people who will be parents of mitem. And there are grandparents. And if you think that a grandparents job is over, I hear people tell me, "Well, I brought up my children. I don't got to bring up my grandchildren." What a crazy mistake. Maybe you're in this world and you're still alive to be a grandfather or a grandmother so that you could help your children. Grandchildren, I have grandchildren. Grandchildren have a safe place in their life. It's called grandma and grandpa. No matter what's going on at home, no matter what kind of marks they're getting, no matter how miserable they're doing in school, they could always go to grandma and grandpa and get a hug and a kiss. And my grandmother and my grandfather think I'm the best thing in the world. You can never take that safe place away from them. Grandparents are not supposed to criticize their grandchildren. That is not your job. But your job is to be a safe place. Your job is to say a good word, to give a hug, to give a kiss, to take them out, to buy them something. Everybody needs a safe place. My generation didn't have that safe place. Our grandparents got killed in the Holocaust. We didn't have that. Hashem gave this generation a present called grandparents. and a super present called great-grandparents. So if you're a grandparent, you think it's over. It's never over. Your children and your grandchildren always need a hug and a kiss. And no matter what you do, my son or my daughter, no matter how far off you are and how far away you are, I will not give up on you until after 120 they put me in the ground or they put you in the ground. Until then, where there's life, there's potential and there's hope. Yakov of saved Yoseph Hatsadic because when Yoseph was brought up, he knew that his father would never give up on him. I'll tell you a story, a true story. I spoke about this in Florida many years ago to a huge shel. I think it was in Bokeh actually. When I finished speaking, an older man came over to me. I know who he is. Very very very very powerful name. People know this name. Very very very very five very wealthy older man. Said Walstein can I talk to you for two minutes? I'm like sure. I thought he was going to give me a check from Orava. That's not what it that's not what it was about though. He says you know I listened to your speech. I was crying. I was like I'm sorry. I I didn't mean to trigger anything. He says no no it was healthy. It's okay. He said, "I have to tell you something." He says, "My mother had 13 children in the hol before the Holocaust. She was married with 13 children. The Nazis killed her husband and every one of her children. She lost everything. 13 children. You know what that is? They murdered all her kids. She came to America. She married my father. This guy's telling me. and she had me said, "Ray Walstein," he was an older man already. "Never in my life did I hear my mother say, I love you." He said, "I accepted it. I knew she thought the Holocaust was going to happen again. So, she's going to get close to me and then she's going to lose me. She wouldn't be able to handle it. So, she never ever spoke to us emotionally. I thought I handled it. He said three days before she died, I was in the hospital with her. I was sitting next to her by the bed. She was very unhealthy physically, but extremely clear mentally. And she said, "Yanka," I'm changing the name so you don't know who he is, but she said, "Yanka, there's something I never told you that I need to tell you." And he's like, "Oh my gosh, she's gonna say it." No way. She couldn't say it. She said, "Yanka, I just want to tell you I'm very, very proud of you." He said, "Ray Walston, that's all I got. I didn't get I love you. I didn't get I'm sorry that I wasn't more loving to you." He said, "Ralstein, all I got was Yonko. I was I am very proud of who you became. He said, "Roy Wallstein, I had a day in my life where I flipped in a business deal a bunch of buildings. I made close to $100 million that day." I'm like, "Arnava?" No, I didn't say that. Like, where's the micer? No, I didn't say that. But I but I was thinking that while we're talking, he said, "You don't understand the power." I sat by this deal. Everybody looked up to me. The power, the money. I thought it was the most important day of my life. He said, "Rabbi, it was nothing compared to the day my mother told me, I'm proud of you. You don't know how right you are. Don't stop talking about it. That's what he told me. Don't ever stop talking about it. Parents, grandparents do not understand what it means, how important it is to a child to hear, "I love you. I refuse ever. You need to know in your darkest corner, in your darkest moment, my son and my daughter, no matter how far away you are and how deep you're in it, you have a mother and a father or a father that will never ever give up. And I am telling you that if a child knows that in their darkest corner, they will come out. They'll make it. But when you think your mother and father gave up, you're willing to give up on yourself. What a lesson from one word of the Tyra by your mind. So we need to go home and we need to stop with this stupid technology machines with letters and words that have no feelings at all. No emotion whatsoever. Even if you put that little smiley on the bottom. Zero emotions. I heard something brilliant. You want to hear something brilliant? Brilliant. Hashem created a world, the world that we live in. And we created a world called Apple technology. It's a world we create. It's man-made. Man-made. Phones, internet. It's amazing. It's even To me it's like much bigger than Yamsu because in creas it says one of the Nissim was that the 12 tribes went through 12 different ways right and one tribe could talk to the other tribe on the other side of the ocean. I'm like hello I can talk to China like big deal a plane. Could you imagine them going through the Yamsu and there's a plane flying to Israel with 375 people sitting on it eating watching a movie sitting back air conditioned at 40,000 ft. We're outside the plane. It's 79 degrees or 179 degrees below zero. Want miracles technology? Wow. Okay. We can't really make frogs multiply, come out of the water, but we can do stuff like that, right? We do all kinds of we do cloning. We do some crazy stuff. So, Hashem is hidden in our technology. What's the brilliant thing I heard? You have to listen to this. Is amazing. The world that the human being created, all our electronics, everything has an energy source from the outside. A car has gas, coal, batteries. Phones need batteries. Your phone dies is dead. Whatever Hashem created has no outside energy source. The sun, no outside energy source. Plants and trees and flowers and everybody in this room is is 98.6 degrees your whole life. Sometimes 101, 102 when you're sick, but otherwise 98.6. Do you know what it would take to heat this area 98.6 degrees for 90 years? You know how much gas and oil it would take? Your body is 98.6 and at the same time over 1 billion heartbeats in a lifetime. A billion times. At the same time, your body is 98.6. At the same time, you need energy to walk and to run, to breathe, and to eat. Where's all this energy coming from? Where's your battery? Where's your battery? Where's your coal, your coal, your gas, your oil? What's driving you? Where's the battery for the sun? Where's the battery for a tree, for a little seed to end up becoming a 40ft tree? Where's the energy from that? Where's the energy to create flowers and fruit? Where's the plugin? There isn't any because it's not man-made. The energy is God. Everything that God created, he put his energy into the world. There's no batteries, there's no plugs, there's no outlets. Even though I happen to go, everyone askked me, "Why do you go to the I go to Eric, right?" And I they say, "Why you go to?" I'm like, "To to recharge? I want to recharge." I'm like, "Recharge? That's such a funny word." I'm like, "What are you talking about? Where do you find an out? Where do you find an outlet if you're looking for it?" In the wall. That's where I go to recharge. I plug in to the Kaiso. Where else do you find an outlet? Right? But seriously, it's fantastic. The human world that we created needs an outside energy source. But everything else in this world that Hashem created has no energy source. It's all God. I dealt with this with a with atheists. I'm like, so where's the energy thought? Where's it come from? It's an energy. I'm like, and where did the energy come from? It's an energy. I'm like, but where does the energy come from? Has to come from somewhere. B when he created the world, he put himself in the plants, in the trees, in the animals, and everything. Animals are 98.6. Where? 98.6. The whole living world has an inside temperature without any batteries. There's no batteries. A far battery, C, D, A, AAA, nothing. Just the rabbit, the little alkaline rabbit. But we don't we're not the rabbit created this world and he put this energy into this world and we're so busy playing with the toys that we have when our children need us. Our children need us so badly. This little girl in pre-1A I asked her name is Mali. I said Mali who does your mother it also backfired by the way. I said who does your mother love the most in the world? Of course I'm thinking she's going to say Mali. That's why I asked her. And she's like, "Rookie." I'm like, "Uh oh." I'm like, "My Rookie is your sister. Your baby sister, right? Your little baby sister. She's cute." She goes, "No, you're not even a relative." I'm like, "This is really not working." Um, Malaki, I think we're going to go to lunch. Um, who's Rookie? my mother's best friend in the whole world. I'm like, "And how do you know it's your mother's best friend in the whole world?" And she's like, "Rabbi Wallerstein, she's always talking to her on the phone." I'm like, "Kid's perception." So, I called her up. I said, "Hello, you got a problem. Your daughter thinks that your best friend in the world is not her cuz you're on the phone the whole time." Shem gave you live children, live husbands, and live wives. What are you doing on that machine? That machine is not about your mind. It doesn't refuse to give up or not to give up. That machine has an enter button, but it doesn't have an exit button. It has an escape button. I don't know who came up with that idea on the key, but it doesn't say exit. It says escape because once you're in, right, enter and escape. ESCP. I don't know. Why did they write exit? So, I'm here tonight on a mission. And my mission is that we need to tell our children, and even if they're if you're 80 years old and they're 60 or they're 55, they need to hear it. Maybe I didn't tell it to you enough. I love you very much. I may not love the things you do, but I love you. It doesn't change you. You do some stuff that may annoy me. I don't like that stuff. But you, I'll always love you. Every person in this world needs someone to love them. Just like you need someone to love, you need to love someone. Someone needs to know that. And the way to tell them that is not only to express it with words, but to express it with the most important thing that we all have. And I talk about this all the time, and that is time. Time is the most precious thing in the whole world. America on New Year's Eve, which you missed already. Haha. Haha. And everybody, right? Um, America on New Year New Year's Eve drops a ball. They take a ball and they drop a ball. Everybody watches a ball drop. We would have We would have a very different thing. We would have the ball rise. Not the ball drop, but the ball rise. We go up and up and up and up. The world goes down and down and down and down. What's new year is taking something that's up and dropping it down. Israel takes something that's down and bringing it up. When went in last week's para when we went into into the Torah says up, not down. We're the opposite. Everyone in this room that came here tonight is not sitting by a TV watching a ball drop or a New Year's from one second to the other, but instead came to learn and to grow a kb who knows that you very much appreciate the time that you have in your life and you want to use it to do the right thing. I specifically wanted to be learning when so much tuma is in the world to bring kaduca to this night that is full of getting drunk doing immoral things. The opposite of our rashash shana where we sit together as a family and pray and ask for forgiveness and grow very different rashashana than their rashashana. That was my plan tonight to come here and I think that if we if we just take this one step and we let the people in our lives, we go home, we tell our husbands, we've had our struggles, we've gone through a lot, but I will never I refuse to ever give up on this marriage. It's just too valuable. And then the husband goes home and tells his wife, I refuse to give up ever to give up on this marriage. This is this is my life. This is what I have. I refuse to give up on my kids. I refuse to give up on my wife. I refuse to give up on yishkai because the biggest ladies and gentlemen is from Hashem refuses to give up on this nation and that is why we are still here. You have to take the step. I'll end with this thought. Everybody thinks to change the world, people come to you, right, Wall Street, you changed the world. How'd you do it? Like, you must have been a super kid. I definitely was not that. You must be I don't know why. Superman. I'm like, no. You know what it takes to save the world. They ask they ask a question. What was the turning point of Ysef? Ysef really saved the world. I didn't save the world. He saved the world. They would have starved. The seven bad years. They wouldn't have had any food that would have been reserved. The world would have starved to death. The whole world. Matra, the Jews, everybody. He saved the world. This poor kid who was sold and stripped naked, thrown into a bar, sold to Matray, ended up this guy saved the world. Joseph, what's the turning point? What's a turning point? What made him Yoseph Fat? You'd think, ah, I don't know. He was somebody unbelievable. No, if you look in the para, it says the following. We'll end with this. And every one of us can do this. That's for sure. It says the following. He's he's the he's the head of the jail. Wherever he went, he was he's the head of the jail. He had the keys to the every every cell. They made the warden made him number one. That was Yoseph's masle. What happens? Yseph meets the two. First of all, he saw them. They were very uptight, very upset, very nervous, very depressed. So he says to them, "Why do your faces look so bad today? You guys mas look bad. You look depressed." So everybody asks why does it say the word hayom he should have said why does your faces look bad what's the why do your faces look bad today is mash from this that every single day he looked at their faces so he said today something's different why do your faces look bad about silic what are you looking at Egyptian captured in a dungeon people what do you care what they look like you are lost in a dungeon the Jewish people don't know where you are. Yakov doesn't know where you are. The schwatam don't know where you are. Potifa put you in the dungeon. Who's going to get you out? You're dunkski. You're never going to get out. You're worried about two Egyptians. You got your own problems. Says the Tyra every single day. He looked at all the people and how you doing? How you doing today? You guys look mama's depressed. Mua why? So they told him we had a dream and we don't know the translation of the dream. He translates the dream. Parro has a dream. He tells them he translates the dream. So had Yoseph never asked them, "What's bothering you?" They would have never told him about the dream. He would have never translated the dream. He would have never gotten out of jail. He would have never saved the tribe. He would have never saved the world. So what happened? He saved the world because he said to heal him. He saved the world because he was learning the death. He saved the world because he was some giant brilliant person. He saved the world because he asked somebody what's bothering you. Saved the whole world just by asking someone. But the first word comes from Vyar that he saw he looked at other people to see how they're doing and he had his own problems. So that's Yoseph this week's para Moshe. God doesn't talk to Moshe. God doesn't talk to Moshe in Mitim. God doesn't talk to Moshe in Midun. Moshe finally gets into the desert. Hashem shows up. When does Hashem start to speak to Moshe? Moshe sees a bush burning and it says, Hashem says, Hashem saw that he turned off the road and said, "Ma, what's going on with this bush?" Hashem then Moshe, Moshe, Moshe. Hashem didn't talk to Moshe until Moshe stopped and said something's different. Why? What's going on here? Hashem said, "For someone to be a leader, you have to be able to see that things are different and you have to ask the question why." Going back to what I told you before with the Malik, by talking to him, he realized that he was lost and all he wanted to be was a brother. So what we learn from Mosher Abenu and what we learn from Sadi is that to become a leader and to save the world is just looking at another person and asking them what's wrong, why, what's going on. That's what makes a leader. That's what makes and that's what makes au. And there's nobody in this room that can't do that. You just have to care. You just have to look. I call it the second look. I myself, I'm standing in front of you giving you this whole speech. I'm like anyone else. I I I go shopping in this place called Kapanach in Flatbush because they have great kla, okay? And I go every single week and there's this poor old little lady who sits outside with her little paper cup collecting sedaka. So I'm very good. But I feel I spend a lot of money on the food I buy, so I feel guilty. So I never this poor lady sitting out there in the cold. I put a dollar in her paper cup. She's a very nice lady. Sometimes she says to me, "Rabbi Wallstein, you're so handsome. You're getting younger." So then I put five bucks in the cup. I'm like, "Why not? For five bucks for a compliment? That's that's cheap, right?" So she has she knows me already, right? So, a few years ago, it was a very cold day and I come outside and there's this young like a seminary girl, I don't know, maybe 17 and a half and she's giving her it was like I usually go at 11:00. It was like 8:30 in the morning. She was already sitting out there in the cold and and this the seminary girl is giving her a coffee with a chocolate danish and she's like, "Thank you." She g all these bras, whatever it is. And I go over to the girl because that's how I I like to talk. And I'm like, "Do you do this every Friday?" She goes, "Yeah, ever since I spoke to her," I'm like, "What does that mean?" Ever since you spoke to her, she said, "I'll tell you the truth, Rebel Wall, I know who you are." She said, "I used to come in the morning to buy stuff and bakery stuff from the from Kapanach, whatever it is." And she would sit there and she she she didn't have a bag of food or anything. And I was like wondering like when does she eat? She sits there all day. She's there at 8:30, 9:30, 10:30, 11 till they close till 2:30. And she doesn't have a bag of food. So I asked her, "Do you eat?" She says, "On Fridays, I don't eat." "Why don't you eat?" She said, "Cuz because if I have to get up from my chair to go across the street to Jerusalem, too, to get a coffee and and and a Danish, it's going to take five minutes. I'm going to lose $10 because people are going to leave the store and I'm not going to be there." She has a poor poor woman's mentality. So she would sit there from the morning till the store closed collecting money and fasting because she was scared she's gonna get up. She's not going to have any food. So this girl said to her, "I see you don't have food. What's going on?" And she said, "I don't eat." So she comes every Friday, buys her a Danish and a coffee so that she has what to eat. I didn't see that. I saw a cup. So I put a dollar in the cup. This girl saw a cup is connected to a hand. And that hand is connected to a person. And you don't talk to a cup, but you talk to a person. And maybe that person's hungry. And maybe that person needs something to eat. It's called the third eye. It's called the second look. It's called What's bothering you today? It's called the Malik. He spoke to him and after he spoke to him he found out that he's lost. After she spoke to him she found out spoke to her she found out this woman is hungry. Could you imagine every Friday not eating because she was scared and whilst she's walking by I gave her a dollar. I'm a big chic mean she's starving. She can't eat the dollar. That's greatness. Greatness is not just giving the person, but understanding that what's connected to that cup, to that quarter that you're putting in the cup, is a human being. And maybe that human being needs a good word. And maybe that human being needs a coffee and a piece of cake. That makes you a good that makes you great. The last word tonight when it's talking about He went out and he saw their pain says to it's one long line. What was the greatness of Mosha Rabeno that he grew that he went out to see his brother's pain. That's what made him raenu caring about another person. If we show Hashem that we refuse to give up on ourselves, on our children, our grandchildren, on our marriages, we refuse to ever give up on Hashem. Then in turn, Hashem will refuse to ever give up on us. And with no with that knowledge that no matter what gull we're going through and we're going through a lot of stuff, but with that knowledge that he refuses to give up on us and that we will be here until Msiah comes, that will give us the strength to refuse to give up on ourselves and you totally miss New Year's. My bra to you all is that you shouldn't totally miss the real one which is rash. We should all come to to that toemish with mashiach healthy with children and health. Thank you very much.