Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #162 - The Habit of Having No Habits

we are here to turn Friday into Arab shabas it is not Friday it is not St a Friday it is z khaka the eth and last day of KHAK shabas Kesh hopefully a shabas that brings with it great rest great Prosperity great BR great peace great success great Triumph and great news turn Friday to shabas sponsored by men fish memory Jonathan taob today's turn fr is also sponsored by and Gordon in memory of's mother site is the Shas sh have and alyah cl the main thing is to not be afraid at all here we are on the eth day of Kana we are the end we lit the last candles last night our manura was full was brightest and it was setting shedding and sharing the most light and here we are now AR of shabas is a little bit of a let down whereas last Friday we had to coordinate and organize enough time hurry everybody be ready we got like the candles get the sh in time light the shabas candles kana's over it's the end only it's not khah ending on a Friday is an unusual opportunity it's an opportunity for letting us touch the one light with the new light the kanaka LI the Kaneka light might be ending but it goes right into lighting the shabas candles we conclude the eight the eight nights the manura of the eight branches the eight bright lights but they didn't go out we have to make sure that one lights the next and the Kaneka It Go goes right into it leads right into it connects and kisses right with shabas with the two candles of shabas sh the two candles of Shas with the candles of chabas the hope to illuminate our homes and our communities our lives and the world with the light of chabas that we so desperately long for we so desperately want a light that brings home the hostages a light that sees the soldiers going home to their families a light that sees a sweeping success Triumph and victory a light that is the light of Messiah and the light of peace that we so badly want so I want to share with you with us today as we're turning this Friday this Friday of Kaneka into a of shabas a shabas that is O khah that's after khah but candles of khah leading into the candles of shabas I want to share with you a fascinating Insight tells us teaches one who is rug one who habituates themselves with candles will have sons children who are Scholars children who are righteous children who give them tremendous list several other things if you're careful with m if you're careful with tias if you're careful with K but if you're careful with candles and what do you have to be careful about the quality the expense of those candles how bright they burn noil habituate with lighting candles which candles are we talking about isus is it shabas candles candles for our purpose we'll talk about both is bothered ask his when it comes to Mish it just says be careful and here it says har doesn't say be careful one who is careful it says one who one who accustoms them why does it have to employ a different word when it comes to the other positive practices it says haah one who is careful and yet here it says haril one who habituates thems and the masah answers because we're talking about a man the gamar is referring directing these words towards the man and the man is careful with M the man is careful with tius the man is careful with sanctifying chabas say KES and chabas but the candle he might think is delegated to his wife to the woman therefore he's not as careful with it therefore the great the great sh has a different interpretation and offers a different answer to this very question of the Mah and in it inspires us how to turn this Friday into a shabas how to elevate our chabas how to let those candles of kanaka and the candles of chabas continue to burn and burn bright regularly in our lives and he says the following and the others says here rug means somebody who does something out of habituation pattern practice mindlessly simply doing something out of habit and anyone who does anything out of habit that is very negative when people are creatures of habit when we're absent present when we're simply doing things because we're pre-programmed mind LLY do them we're not present we're not really experiencing we're not really elevating we're not really engaging that is something which is negative Something That We're critical of when a person does something a person does something just out a practice just out a habit just on autopilot think in your marriage think with parents think with any activity of life when you're on autopilot you're not engaged you're not present there isn't the richness of life and living there isn't the richness of a relationship what was the methodology of our enemies was to take away the pemus take away the depth and the meaning and the purpose and the mindfulness and get us to become robots creatures of habit just automated beings who are doing things in an automated way because the moment that we're automated the moment that we're a robot the moment that we're mindless it's over if you're mindless then you're daving what's your daving worth if you're not actually present when you're saying those words you're mindlessly saying them what's your marriage worth if you're not present when you're supposed to be sending spending time you're simply distracted on your technology you're on autopilot of Life how is your parenting if you're pushing the swing while you're looking at your phone if the Yahara or in this case the yanum our enemies our adversaries could get us to disengage and disconnect and become mindless robotic habituated beings than they've won the war then we're no longer plugged into what it means we're supposed to be doing in the most virtuous and elevated way so therefore what's the response what's the antidote haril the answer and the antidote to Harel to herel to habituation is is Ben be on fire that spark turn it into a raging flame be on fire be on fire the warmth the illumination the light the answer the antidote to hergel to habituation and habit is n that the flame is flickering upwards it's going and aiming higher that it wants more that it's not satisfied with what is says says never become cold never be disconnected never be ice cold be on fire be inspired and dynamic and passionate have your energy and enthusiasm be contagious har the answer to herel to being an automated robotic being is near hisas newness and freshness and fire and Spark says whether you're talking about which we're ending today or you're talking about shabas which we begin tonight one candle lighting into the next says what's new what new Z what new Doro what new Min what new chabas garment what new shabas practice what new shabas custom what new shabas safer what new shabas MOS what will you introduce that's new a parish is spark light fire the only Hair G that should be in your life the only pattern that you should have the only habit you should have is the habit of not having habits the only habit is the habit of newness and the habit of freshness and being in the habit of not being a creature of habit be in the habit of not being a creature of habit now we understand the promise of the if the only habit you have is to have no habits in life you'll have children who are on fire if you could be a spark if you could be a raging flame then you'll be able to Kindle the wick of your children you'll light them on fire they'll be a glow they'll spark they'll ignite har Ben if you never give into habit you're never a robot you're never automated you don't go into it's just another shabas same doing same shab as clothing same shab as table same shab as menu mirrors disconnected habit habit habit the only habit is to have no habit and if your children see har if your habit is to have no habits if you're mindful to never be mindless then you'll have you'll have children who are children who are sparks in their own children who will be on fire so the way we turn this Friday this Friday of Z KHAK into a of chabas is to light the chabas candles with the khaka candles to go from one into the other to Enda and begin chabas and begin both the bridge the common denominator of the two is to be har to be on fire how will you be on fire don't go ice cold don't disconnect don't go back to who you were shabas should leave Kaneka should leave you transformed and changed forever and to bring that attitude into a shabas should be Z to have a chabas of mindfulness should be a shabas f f with Sparks and light and mindfulness with all going on in our worlds Don't Be Afraid don't fall into habit even the that we're saying the things we're doing forel don't never grow to a point of doing it out of habit should have toos