R' Chaim Horrowitz - Introduction - Azmi 3

This Torah class is brought to you by Torah anytime.com. >> Want to welcome everyone to Shabasmi 3.0. [Applause] I first want to welcome all our returning members, double returning members. [Applause] and of course our future returning members. Just two short years ago, you can come in. You're all invited in. All invited in. There's no fee. Come in. No extra charge. Just two short years ago, this whole thing was a theory. It was an idea. It was a dream. And then we're sitting here two short years later and there's over 100 book by Shabas Atm. Wow. [Applause] The idea of Shabas atmmy was born out of the need for to go away from the daytoday life and go away for Shabas and drink for a shabas. A place where Bhim could learn and gain valuable insightful ideas for life. A place where Bhim could discover themselves, the true deepest parts of themselves. It was a place which we wanted to create where Bim would feel comfortable to ask all those questions which they got spanked for inhibana. They have a ability to ask on Shabas. It was also a place where Bhim would get to meet the greatest Mashim who are dealing with every every type of person in our generation. And also not only that, we set up a program where they could sit every book has opportunity to sit down with the greatest therapists from the greatest from the greatest and sit down one-on-one sessions and discuss any topic including if you think you're Msiah, I think could help you with that one. >> Yeah. Okay. So all of you came a few hours ago, pulled in to this beautiful campus and you might have thought that this thing happened. It just it just came together. If you thought that you made a grave mistake. This Shabas has been cooking for months already since the last Shabas. And I want to just give a shout out to a few people who made the shabas made the shabas from A to Z. First I want to point out [Music] [Applause] days and nights into class says what's the best place best program best food in the book I'm going to enjoy and then we have rebellion I'm a doubt he's here he's probably running around unclogging a toilet somewhere he put and then of course our foundation our rock of a tax speaker [Applause] who if you wake him up in the middle of the night the first word that will come out of his mouth is ask me that's like life is surrounded by ask me 24/7 so I want to thank the Rashiva for putting this together we're so excited to be here again spend chabas with you and we're so excited where the shabas will go so as you saw in the papers the theme of shabas is relationships So I'm not sure if all of you know the definition of relationships. So just to clarify what is the definition of relationship? So as an old school liter I took out a Webster dictionary. I looked at the I didn't look at all the bad words. I looked at the good words and I said what's the definition of relationship? So here's the here's the definition. The way in which two or more concepts right ideas, objects or people are connected. So it's the connection between ideas, concepts, objects, and people. That's what relationship means. If you think about it for a moment, your whole life is defined by the word relationship. Think about it. Your relationship with yourself, how you view yourself, how you believe in yourself, right? That's a relationship with yourself. How you relate to the people around you, your parents, your friends, and also our relation. Then is your whole life is relationships. How do you relate to these three things? People yourself and the people around you. So now we split up Shabas into three parts. We want the Shabas to be clearcut so Bhim can walk out in their pocket with clear ideas. So the first part of Shabas we called unclogging meaning to unclog all the uh messed up relationships. not properly built relationships. So you got to unclog that. So let me go into that a little bit. Right? Let's go into relation with yourself. Right? Now many of us like me included the first cameab you made. You have to tell me what is the I'll never ever speak by I will have from beginning to land. I'll never speak. I will all these grand ideas we all had. And what happened? Life is life. By the time we don't remember what we believe in, right? It was over. So what happens then? We stop believing ourselves. Like I have a conviction to do this and it doesn't work out. So maybe not. Maybe I'm not good enough. Maybe I should lower my expectations. Maybe uh my boundaries is I don't set boundaries. I maybe I'm not talented. Maybe I have no maybe I have no future. Maybe then you start questioning yourself. So you start relating to yourself in a very distorted way and what happens as if like like son bought this you have such a thing yeah you know this is a water god and no water inside right so you have like a pipe like this right this is yourself this is when you're born you're clean you have all these great ideas I'm going to be a fireman I'm going to be a fire truck I'm going to be a man all together right you have all these grand ideas and then what happens is you start doubting yourself and the pipe Slowly you put this bad idea, that bad idea into you. You start believing yourself. You who knows, right? And then slowly but surely the pipe starts getting a little little little little more clogged, more clogged and more clogged and we're having a harder time pushing things through. And not only is ourselves, right? We all our people around us also clog us up, right? The n the magic also tells you that you're not gonna be anything. You might you might be a plumber. You might maybe maybe you'll be able to sweep the streets of Barak. Maybe maybe even not even that, right? We all have these comments. I have these comments. I'm sure most of you have these comments. You won't become anything. Sometimes our parents, right? They don't believe in us or your friends don't believe in you. They have to put you down for some reason. They have low self-esteem. They need to put you down. So all that starts clogging the pipe and you have this relationship with yourself which is clogged with so much so much stuff and come from anywhere. I'm just giving you examples. And then we have a pipe between relationship between us and right. We have a relationship. Irish created us. He loved us. We know we we know loves us, right? The Zites, if we knew how much the Irish loved us, we would go mash. We would go crazy. And then started getting a little, you know, a little little messed up a bit over there, a little bit over there. What happens? You know, the ninth says, you know, that we all had this, right? You're sitting learning learning a muri. You're smoozing your friend and your leans over a you know the first thing it hits you is his the last time he brushed his teeth and then the shower which he took on his birthday it hits you know he starts telling starts giving you you don't know how to learn you you don't know how to relate to and then your relationship with starts getting clogged up again your relation with get clogged up and then your relationship with the people around you start getting clogged up you have a friend that doesn't like you and he puts you down and you say maybe I'm not maybe maybe you don't like me and you start questioning yourself maybe My relationship myself is also a relationship with other people around me either good. I don't know how to relate to people. Maybe I'm not a good dad. I'll help him to find the shik one day. And all these pipes start getting clogged. So our first part of Shabas is to unclog you these these pipes. These three pipes have to be unclogged. We got to unclog them. That's part one of Shabas. The second part of Shabas is to rekindle that fire within you. We're all born with that fire that that that child in you know the child within us. you're always here, right? That that spirit that that wanting to be great, we have to rekindle that. We have to rekindle between ourselves, between our relation and relationship around us and the relationship between us and our spouses one day. And the third part of Shabas will be practical. How do I do this? How do I do practically? How do I live my life practically? So if you walk out of Shabas with these three things clarified, then we will know as organization that we accomplish. Now many of us as we grew up we have this idea that life changes with one idea with one story one our life has changed right we're waiting for that moment you know you hear that story this and for the rest of your life is a new person but let's be honest the life doesn't work like that I want to tell you amazing I when I heard this I was blown away the British cycling team Right? Every country has a cycling team. Now, the British cycling team were famous. They were famous for being the the biggest losers in the world. I'll give you the statistics of the British cycling team. They won one gold medal in a 100red years. They didn't win a tour to France, if you know what that is, in 110 years. So, they were the bottom bottom bottom bottom. It was so bad that no no companies in the world want to sell them bikes cuz they were like oh you drive that don't these bike bikes are garbage cuz like the British British cycling team uses them. That's how that's how bad they were. Now in 2003 they hired a new coach his name Dave Dave and he decided let me try this differently right all these cycling coaches like we had these grand ideas we'll try that we'll have this kesh and he discovered this idea called I think if you if you engrave this in your head your life will be different the aggregation of marginal gain what does that mean the terms aggregation means to me to collect small ideas. So he came over the finish like this. Let's take every part of cycling and split it up into a thousand different parts and we're going to hit each one separately. For example, he would, you know, we all drove a bike, right? And sometimes that seat, that little seat, you know, it's uncomfortable. He discovered the best seat for a cyclist. And one thing he changed, he redesigned the seats. He rubbed alcohol on the tires, which gave them a little more grip than the next guy's tire. Three, he made them heated shorts. They should be more comfortable. Four, he discovered the best massage gels in the world, which cyclists could recover quicker. He tested all different fabrics, which would be the best fabrics for cyclist to use. Another thing, he even targeted pillows in their beds. Which is the best pillow? We get the best night's sleep. Next, he he everything. He targeted every small thing. Just hear this. your fall each year within five years. Yeah. By the next Olympics, they won the British cycling team won 60% of gold medals by the Olympics. Four years later, they won they had they set seven world records. From 2015 through 2017, they won every single tour to France. They won 178 world championships in that span. and him. He was a coach. They were branded as the best cycling successful team in history. From a person taking the life of a cyclist, breaking it up into parts, small little parts, and said, "Let's fix this small little thing." You're like, "What the pillow? Why why you fixing the pillow?" Because a pillow makes a difference. Why you fixing the seat? Because seat makes this much of difference. This small little 1% changes. And he took that and he changed cycling forever. Here's the interesting fact. If you change 1% of your life for a year straight, how much different will you be after a whole year? Don't say 100% cuz that's not that's wrong. You'll be 37% better. Think about it. 30% 37% better after one year. But changing just just switch the seat. Just switch the heating. Just switch the gel. It's all it takes. So now Shabas you might get that idea will change your life you might I don't know but it's more important that Elvis Shabas you take out a 1% here a a little idea here a little change over there and if you walk away Shabas with these little little tidbits how we can improve just that little piece next Shabas asks me you'll be a different person. You've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by tora anytime.com.