Parshat Vayeitzei: The Power of Chesed - Rabbi Yisroel Perelson

[Music] this week we have the Pasha where we're starting to build cloudy side start to build cloudy strong and we know Yakov Aveeno comes to heaven comes to Levon and he makes a deal with LaVon is going to work for LaVon for seven years for Raquel be tracked Anna for Rocco your younger daughter and he's as clear as anything he tells them black and white what he's looking for so this should know shouldn't be any mistakes Raquel right there's no other Raquel at home fine beat huh don't get me somebody that's not your daughters it's gotta be ruffle and your daughter Hawk Donna the young one cuz he understood the LaVon is a gangster hearing the stood that Lebanon is a very deploy duplicity is fellow and he's going to add any opportunity he will try to trick Yakov out of having the fellas a wife so therefore he goes ahead and he's very very clear with him to make sure that there's no mistakes that are possible and comes the day of the wedding after Yakov Avena sweated away for seven long years and what happens that night Levon makes a wedding it's all night it's all dark nobody could see anything and he brings the daughter Ali out now Raquel knew that this was going to happen Raquel had a choice what should she do should she let her sister be embarrassed in front of everybody there that night which means to say she's going to come in with her wedding dress Yaakov Aveeno has already so who LaVon is so here he gave signs he told her I said listen I'm going to give you signs you know what those signs were those who had the challah hot they were the hella hot of kala there will I had a hot of needa and there were the hella hot of NER of the candles of Shabbat these were these were the three ala hot that he told him but very extensively and he told her very simply under the chuppah I'm gonna give you a little test I'm gonna ask you about these hella hot about these laws if you know these laws I know you're a girl if you don't know these laws I know this is not Raquel I know LaVon is pulling a trick on me so this is what they do but Raquel says to herself I cannot imagine or fathom that my sister is not going to go in front of everyone and as she's in front of everyone Yaakov is going to notice that it's not her they're gonna force it to take off her wedding gown and give it to me and how embarrassed is this girl gonna be how embarrassed is they are gonna be so she decides that she's going to train her and teach her these Alec ought to stand a nonchalant conversation and that's what she does Yaakov goes ahead and asks the questions as they are comes in and the answers are all there it's wonderful Wow LaVon is an honest guy for one time in his life he's an honest guys look at this this lady knows all the answers it's wonderful but the Torah tells us via Bob okay Vinay Ilya Yaakov wakes up in the morning and all my goodness it's not Rafael it's Leia it's unbelievable he switched everything on him and Jakov says LaVon what did you do what did you do so what is that man answer lawyer second beam come in who you can't do such a thing in our place latet attacks Iran to give the young one in front of the older one it doesn't make sense maybe by you guys it works you were the do you the younger one you took the bus first made from a Saab maybe in your circles it works but by us we're finer people there's a protocol the older one goes first the younger one goes next it doesn't work this way you can't skip and that's the answer that LaVon gives Yaakov but you think to yourself gentlemen you think to yourself the amazing Monsieur would nefesh the amazing mysterious nefesh that took place that Raquel had to do she literally gave up her entire future to be with Yaakov Aveeno means to be the one to build cloudy strong she's willing to give that up and it's it's it's it's amazing almost nonchalantly she just gives it up now Raquel at the time never thought she never thought for a moment that Yaakov was gonna marry her why would he married two sisters doesn't make sense it's not nice it's not it's not appropriate right why would he do that so when Raquel was giving lit up the simony she was giving her the signs she understood that she's giving up the entire future her entire future and in a sense it's something that we applaud and it's something that we give so much coveter ahem how was she willing to do something like that something so great but I want to ask you a question I want to analyze what Raquel did over here and maybe we maybe if we 0 and what Raquel did maybe it's not so great what she did why because think about it you have somebody doing vested she's doing Fred she's doing a tremendous festered with his sister but imagine I go to you and I take $100 from your pocket and I give it to a poor person is that considered pheasant I took from your money it's like Robin Hood takes from the poor gives to the Riddler liberals right the Liberals they want to take from the poor they wouldn't take from their own money but they'll take from the poor they'll take from the rich and give to the poor is that excessive that's not offensive because address it that affects another person I guess it's on an account of another person is not a true cressid that's not a good person so Raquel you did a wonderful thing for your sister but excuse me where does Yaakov in this picture what happened to yahko why aren't you sensitive to Yaakov why are you only sensitive to Leia where's Yoko banal thatis he got cheated out of seven years of work you ever thought about this seven years of work this man worked seven years day and night he describes his worth Yaakov Abuna describes the difficulty of his work and now all of a sudden Raquel decides to be it's a decade she decides to be a righteous woman and bingo she's going to leave Yaakov in the dark she's going to put on the light freely huh and that's it and Yakko now seven years down the drain how do we comprehend that where is the cheat code where is the righteousness on Raquel's part but I want to make the question bigger because obviously God felt that this was a tremendous set code God felt like or the sparkle felt that this was such a righteous act their colors broke who grants Rucker something amazing see when cloudy straw is kicked out of Verity straw and they're going to bubble it's such a dark time in Clairol's history that all their both begin all the forefathers begin to advocate and cloudy straws behalf and you have a Brahma be new that begins to advocate on college girls behalf and of course Burke who says I've wrong I can't listen and you have yet shock that comes and Yaakov that comes and you have Moshe that comes and each one occurred is Burke who turns down each one I could his bar who was not interested in listening to and finally Rockley man who gets up and says how could this bar who my children mama Rocco she begins to cry and she says God how could you do this to my children how did you kick him out of Barrett's Easter all and burn down the base I make does and out of everybody who does I coulda swore who respond to only raha goddess birth who says mean equal x me baffi they ignite me demo stop your voice from crying and your eyes from tearing GES circle de full-si the shovel Bonhomme de glulam there's a reward for what you did Raquel the shovel Bonnie Malik vom your children are going to come back Raquel you're different everybody else I couldn't listen to but you did something so extraordinary that I cannot listen to your cries please stop crying so obviously in a college bar whose eyes what Russell did is enormous which magnifies the question where is Yakko in this whole picture in this whole scenario what's happening to Yaakov a kameez ignored so I want to tell you an answer with a MYSA from Herbie schewe brim maybe schewe brim was Russia Sheba of Russian and river shore brim was a person that really cared about his community and there was an Alamo no there was a widow that Ravi schewe prepared someone to go ahead and conduct the Seder for them basic night she lost her husband young children so he hired somebody to go prepare to go to the Seder to lead the Seder for them and maybe show a brand come Seder night he says you know what let me just check up on the ala moana let me make sure everything is running well and I'm gonna go straight to my house so he told his he told this is his wife and his children he's gonna be couple of minutes late because he wants to stop by and down mother's house in the widow's house to see how she's doing to make sure to say there is beginning and it's starting well and then he's gonna come home he comes over there and he's waiting 10 minutes 15 minutes 20 minutes the guy didn't show up the guy didn't show up he tells the mother the I'm gonna bring me a cup of wine we're going to start I'm going to start the Seder so he begins to say there he begins with with accommodation or cots managed on all the kids are asking questions they're very excited while the receiver is here doing to say that with them what could be bad right this is this is amazing the guy didn't show up for a session we have the regime with doing the Seder with us so he does the Seder he ends at 10 o'clock and he rushes back home he comes home not comes home and he tells his wife bring me the kiddush cup let's go and he said well what happens there's no time to speak I can't explain to you what what happened just get me the kitters cup I gotta make sure that I'm gonna reach the afikomen at the right time let's just start after that we comin after the after later I say that I'll explain to exactly what happened and kapha that's what happened they went to the to the Seder they made it to the afikoman and then his wife says my dear husband I want to understand something you know you went ahead and you did a fess it with an ala moana and of course it's a tremendous lesson but what happened to the huset of your family your family was waiting here all night what what happened to us why aren't we part of the pheasant so tells her that's a very very good question it's a good question it's a good question where a lot of us are faced with this question so many times what do you do am I supposed to do a custody with them and then leave these people out hi I can't do both so what happens now she says I want to tell you I'm gonna tell you a story when we were young what we did with the husband ish and from this story you'll understand what is a person supposed to do in such situation because we're always faced with those situations he says we were young we used to hang around the house initial OTT used to be our mentor used to teach us and one time the husband ish got a little upset at us and he says you know we're a group here of 20 guys we're all married except for one person who's getting older and older and he's not married this is why don't you guys take care of this guy why don't you guys find him a read him off him ask your wife's to get involved why are you just letting him gone he's not getting any younger and the students saw that it bothered the husband ish two decided they're gonna make this their project that they're gonna try to find this guy's and that's what they're gonna focus their time on and they did they did they focused a lot of time they found him a it was amazing they come to the husband ish they tell the house initial husband ish this guy's going to get engaged it's amazing he's gone he's gone out with this girl that we found him a girl everything is going well he's going to get engaged and the housing issue was so happy he was so happy so they told him in a week there's going to be the tonight where everybody's gonna come they're gonna sign it's gonna be the tonight so has a nurse says you know what not a problem I want to be there but do me a favor I don't want to linger around each minute of my time it's just so important to me with couple of blocks away just send the messenger as soon as you see the simcha is ready to go and everybody's ready and it'll take me five minutes I'll get over to the hall and I'll be there right at 9:00 great no problem so comes the day of the tonight they're all ready they send somebody out it comes to the house an ish and the consignee happens to be talking to an older couple so the guys the guys waiting and waiting and he can't help but overhear the conversation and he hears that this older couple is talking to the cousin ish they're telling him are they asking about the type of string that they should take the type of the they would they would weave there were tailors so they want to know the type of thread that they should take what type of thread they should buy the new buttons that came out and they're speaking to him and there's and and and the the tailor showing him the old different types of buttons that are coming to the market and the husband ish is sitting there very calmly and analyzing every button and talking about all the type of threads that you know this woody should take 15 bundles that one and he's very very calm and the person is winking to the cousin is trying to catch his eyesight to tell him you know rabbi we gotta go we gotta go they're all waiting for us and the husband ish is like almost doesn't see him and he's calm and collected him like he's got all the time in the world like nothing is pressing 15 minutes 20 minutes 25 minutes finally the older couple got all their questions answered and as soon as they got all the questions answered has an ish tells the person hurry up let's go get Mike get my hat were running so as they're running to the as they're running to the hall the person is the husband ish has inertia they were they weren't speaking about anything so important what why don't you tell them maybe to come back or two so he says one explained to you something these two people are Holocaust survivors they lost everything they came to this country in Israel they didn't have anything this is their only business I felt it was a tremendous Hesed to go ahead and help these people but Rebbe Oh what about all those people that are waiting for you says you have to understand how it works Crescent works these people that are all waiting for a for me they are also responsible for this cousin if these this little if this couple if this unfortunate couple will come to them they would also have to drop everything and listen to them so the by the mere fact that they're waiting for me they are partners in this acid and therefore they're getting credit for the tested that I'm doing they're partners and they're getting credit for it Sarah be sure maybe she what tells her never be sure brem tells his wife he says I want to tell you Fidel mana we all had a responsibility you my children my son in laws my daughter-in-laws we all had a responsibility for the Salman oh it wasn't only me yes I happen to be there but this responsibility was for all of us so by you're waiting you have to understand and you get the lesson your partner in my facet so whenever there's a blessed that really is the responsibility of everybody else then at that point you have to reach out to that presser that everybody's responsible for so you're right of course I wanted to be with my family of course I wanted to be with you of course I didn't want to be late but we all had a responsibility over here just because you weren't there but you're getting credit for it because I was there the same ideas with the Yaakov Aveeno Yaakov Aveeno had a tremendous responsibility of making sure that Leia would not be embarrassed he had that responsibility in front of everyone in front of hundreds of people Leia was going to be embarrassed so Rocco understood that Yaakov had this tremendous responsibility and this has said was also Jakob said and Raul understood that you're right Jakob was also gonna pay the price Jakob was also part of the equation and now I'm not ignoring Yaakov but at the end of the day Yaakov has this tremendously of also and since he has this tremendously this tremendous responsibility therefore I feel justified and God how could this Berg who feels that this was the right thing to do and when it comes to Klaus all being exiled I could have spoke with listens to rock all over everybody else but the truth is the story doesn't end over there the story continues the story that one day after Rockland they are both married to Yaakov Aveeno Jakob avinu loved and made a deal with them you'll marry Yaakov the next week and then you will work for me another seven years see ya Kobra venom was one day would split up his time between Raqqa land lion and one day Reuven comes and finds dude I mean those dude I am had certain powers it was able to expedite to get a woman pregnant it was able to assist a woman that had a problem with infertility to make her fertile and she would be able to have a baby Soraka after after Reuven finds this dude oi'm these were miracle workers these dude I am had special powers so she asks Leia Leia could I have a little bit of those dude I'm so I could get pregnant I could give I can have a child and what is Leia respond they response how may add cast Ephesus TV lakas gamers Duda a Bini is it not enough I'm out like calf terraces she is it not a nothing you took my husband you also want to take my dude I am Rahul excuse me I mean lay excuse me really I don't understand why doesn't Ruckle now she's got the greatest response to lay out lay you're only here because of me you have a short-term memory you don't remember that you're gonna be out in front of hundreds of people and this is how you respond to me how come how come lay a response that way she doesn't remember what went on so the answer is Rojo never explained to layer when she was telling her to seem on him when she was telling her those signs you just told her in a nonchalant way she was just explaining to her what the helices are and she was telling her you know there's a lot of needham there's a look of column there's a look above AB NER of lighting candles she never told her that this is the Samana me so when Leia walked in there she says who I'll shoot thank goodness I just I just had this conversation with Rocco a couple of days ago but Rocco never for a moment told Leia that these are going to be the signs that are gonna save you so Leia had no idea that Rocco was part of this picture this was the godless of raqqa and you know it's amazing if you think about it Russell didn't get pregnant for seven years all of a sudden now after the story happens and she has an opportunity to respond to it to Leia and she does not respond she holds her tongue she doesn't tell her lay on you know what you and I have to have a conversation now I want to explain to you really what went on over here okay after with the way you respond to me about your sons dude I am then you don't want to give me these these dis medicine let's have a conversation and she could have put her at her arm around her and told her a thing or two but who decides to keep completely quiet she doesn't respond doesn't say a word to Leia when that happens only then does she get a child when she's able to keep quiet in such a fashion after hearing such harsh words from Liang how could the spoke who says that warrants a child and therefore she gets a child now you think about it you think about what Ruckle did for herself how nobody ever loses from custody ruff oh we know was a barren woman think about what would have happened if she would have not done all this you would have gotten married to Jakob Jakob would have waited five years no children ten years no children after ten years he would have married another person who would he have married probably Leo and Leia would have been giving birth and Rocco would have been by the side and Rocco would have been just that tag-along wife after a while that couldn't give birth that did not have any children and she would have been completely forgotten from history but Rocco show was a completely different path she chose a path that risked her eternity and because of that I could've spoken says after seven years that she's trying to have a baby how could this Buerkle says Wow you were able to keep quiet to the harshest critic after lay is only there because of you you can have a child you're going to be remembered forever and ever and collie strong you will never be forgotten AHA because you're eight you're able to put your feelings aside even in the face of harshest words you see from here the power of cressid when a person does Hesse it for somebody else a lot of times there's a lot there's a lot of balancing to do you don't know I do discuss it but my wife is going to lose I do discuss it but my child is going to lose what am I gonna do should I do it should I not do it a person has to many times speak it over with his wife and tell his wife you know you're part of this hasit when I'm away you're receiving cressid urease you're scoring big don't feel bad we have a responsibility but it's not only my responsibility I may be able to do it now but the truth is if you're patient enough and you're allow me to do it you're gonna get a great part of that reward and the same thing the other way around my lady gets involved she's cooking for people that gave birth she's cooking for people unfortunately that that lost a loved one and it takes time away from the husband or it takes strong away from the children but we have to remember that sometimes that's how I feel everybody is responsible for this individual and since everybody is responsible for this individual therefore the right thing to do is many times to help that individual and the spouse will get tremendous amount of reward for it luckily Maino understood that and Rockley may know from everyone else how called the spark who tells her minicoy left me badly the officer crying the officer advocating on our college strolls behalf as the kicked out of rarity strong God is not interested Brook was not interested my schirra Boehner was greater because was not interested luckily Manor that comes along and God feels defeated ok many could let me back he stopped crying Runkle I can't handle it why because Rucker understood what hazard is all about she understood the responsibility a facet she understood the power of not insulting her sister the power of keeping quiet in the face of the harshest words from her sister after she gave up her entire future to her sister and with Danica this Burke who says that I can't handle that already ruckus please stop because I have a plan over here I will bring them back right the shovel bottom the Ghulam but because of who because of Raqqa shovel burning the Ghulam because of Rafa Rocco you had that power I'm gonna bring Kali straw back mean Eclair let me Betty we should always remember the power of Hesed but it does and the power of watching our mouths the power of self-control could propel us to Heights that we never thought would be possible even to be able to cause God so to say keep Yoho to surrender and say like this I can't tolerate your coming to advocate I can't do anything anymore we should be decided to only do cressid and kindness with every every individual that we meet our main