Carriers of the Flying Ark (Ep. 159)

hi this is debbie dolowski and welcome to the robert olavsky show and whether you're watching with our friends over at tony time or wherever you watch or listen to your podcasts or call up as i mentioned i was in lakewood a lot of people told me they call up attorney time has an option listen on the telephone wherever you are we're happy to have you along and uh the sponsorship this week is uh is is personal and uh and painful and uh and hopeful and put it all together i'll read you the sponsorship and then i want to add a few words of my own this episode is sponsored in memory of marty levine zeke lebron by his ncsy friends from the memphis southern region or hanegev and national ncsy 1977 to 1981. now you probably know that um i started in ncsy in los angeles i had a chapter and that's jacob 1978-1979 and then 1979 i became the regional director of long island position i held for nine years and since i was young and vibrant at one point in my life i was flown around to a bunch of regions and i got a chance to meet people and one of the places where they used to bring me um remember david goldwasser who everyone knows today he was he was always now he's of course he was regional director of southern region he used to bring me down and uh it was uh it was a very special place and very special people and one of the people there was marty levine i continue reading from the dedication it's hard to put in a few words the impact he has had on so many of us during our time together in ncs wine and also during the 40 years following the heart attack brain injury he suffered on his way to the base madrid i will never forget this he was so young and he was he was a bran he was a he was a he was a fire brand and um and he got a heart attack and he had brain damage i'll never forget it i i i met him maybe a year later they didn't even know if he was going to make it and uh he looks and he says i remember you oh we had been we've been close i mean i it was such a stunning experience you know somebody said to me once uh i i deal with people with mental illness and i can go back and look at their you know uh online background you can see at one point they were normal people before this happened and i mean i knew marty very well and then after this happened i mean it was it was so amazing to see somebody go through that kind of a transformation that locked in like that is the only term i can use he was the rosh of our gang in southern region and as we fought to grow in turin mitzvahs making them his goal while serving hashem to strengthen his soul he inspired us to also let torah reign supreme have we journeyed through our teenage years we're so proud that we're in southern the light of southern region anyway it was it was a very special time and obviously for a lot of people still i mean this is 40 years later it's usually the adults in our lives be they teachers verbal or advisors who have the major influence on who we become however for our nca's why kevra while our advisors were a source of inspiration marty played a huge role in inspiring us to become who we are today he especially loved you robert olavsky aka the fuller bula rebbe that's what i used to do in ncsy during ruach i loved him too maybe amelia to yoshi for all of us they asked not to read the names but the names go from atlanta savannah virginia texas uh long island milwaukee wisconsin uh really quite a cross-section of people who in their own right are very very inspiring and special people and and the fact that they would choose to remember marty by sponsoring this podcast um i i think it would have meant a lot to him because this is the kind of thing he would have really enjoyed so uh yeah yeah some people um have a real smooth path through life and other people have a very difficult path and marty had a real hard one there's a it's a very powerful song deaf man in the steeple about this cousin whose father was deaf and he used to come every shabbos and give him a big yashikaya but he couldn't hear him starving you know and after he passes away he gets up on yom kippur and davin's the most beautiful david he ever heard and they said what was special he says this is the first time my father heard me darwin so i guess this is the first podcast that marty's listening to up in chemism and uh we're happy to have you and uh they're lucky to have you and uh there's a hole in our life where you were okay uh on the topic of amuna and filo which we've been dealing with in the past weeks i mentioned in the last two podcasts that there was an interest in putting together a uh an online kabura to learn to feel a little more in depth i've received a lot of response we're trying to find a time that will work for everybody i've gotten emails from england from los angeles from all kinds of different time zones and we're trying to uh to see if we can come up with a time that will be equally inconvenient for the majority of people which is what we really shoot for and if we can put it together it'd be great if you're still interested in possibly participating and you want to find out more and add your voice to the decision-making process please go to my website rabiolowsky.com contact and uh send a little message that you'd be interested in participating like i say we have a lot of interest we'll see if we can make it happen because i would really enjoy that um there have been suggestions of just making a regular recording and putting it up but the fact of the matter is that um um i don't i don't think that's called the sheer shear is interactive that has to be you know give and take and that's why um i have one share where everybody really makes an effort to turn on their cameras and uh another charm where they don't and when everyone turns on their camera it really makes a big difference because you feel like you're part of something there are people there if i just see here looking at a bunch of black boxes you know i feel like i'm in a protest so um in any event uh we hope that we're gonna be able to get this going because uh when we started this podcast over three years ago we mentioned that we are looking to develop an online community and uh the fact of the matter is um i've spoken to audiences of two three thousand people uh but every week i speak to an audience of 10 000 people and there's a there's i believe a certain connection people who listen to this uh are motivated by a number of different factors which maybe we'll talk about uh one time but uh we would like to continue this with ongoing shirum and other uh services i've mentioned already i have a trip coming to america we're trying to put together a robiolowski live show i don't know if it's going to happen yet but we'll we'll definitely keep you posted if it does if you're on our email list then you'll get an email about it if you have not signed up i urge you to so that's the uh that's the business portion it's a challenge when you give a podcast like this what do i mean by that um i from time to time get an email from someone who said i just found your podcast and i just started listening straight through and uh gosh we're almost up to 200 episodes so that's a that's a serious um investment of time so i try to keep the topics that we discuss generic enough that whenever you come in well obviously if you're going to do the pesach series it's going to be a little bit different if you're going to do the tissue above one it's going to be a little different yeah so that doesn't mean we can avoid talking about things we have to go in and approach it and that's really one of the things that inspired that feeler series if you go back to the first one is uh we were talking about the koyakatfila among the others and how that develops and that was our our impetus to start discussing um tvilla so i want to discuss something again whenever you happen to be listening but this podcast is going to be coming out the week of partial truma and truma tetsava half of kisi sivayakio pakude and i would say a large portion of a yikra is dedicated to the building of the mishkan and what goes into it and the avodah that takes place there so i thought it would be an interesting idea to start to talk about some of these in yeonem and like i say they're universal because it it's something that is the completion of us as claude israel it's a bias the bias is a place where we live within the spiracle and that's a that's a very powerful thing we've spoken about this in the past but uh maybe we'll reiterate some of these aspects but i want to take an idea from the parasha uh it's my own idea it was a time when i was young i used to have people over my house for a suit there's we still have people over the house pursue this but when i was younger i would ask everybody to say dvator i don't i don't do that anymore now in fact life has grown much easier because once i have my children and grandchildren coming usually that fills up the house we don't even have room um when we have seminary girls it's really easy because they all just talk among themselves and i can just you know learn a little bit and eat go to sleep they don't even notice you know they're having a great time yeshiva guys uh some of them are quiet some of them like to hack what about this what about that look at this okay yes yeah but when i was younger i used to make everybody say water boys girls children of all ages um i i don't i don't have the strength anymore but people knew this so they would prepare when they came one guy said a beautiful thing if you can remember all the way back to when the godolm tried to make some kind of seder out of the disaster that our weddings today where everything just becomes uh just over the top crazy so they tried making guidelines uh the they did not succeed but there was at least a was at least an attempt so it used to be that there would be a lachaim and then there would be a variet and a var in america is basically the same thing as a wedding here in israel only fancier and more expensive and then they would first have the khasana you know yeah the expenses were tremendous so they made a number of taconis so i remember at this time there was a guy there who uh was a was a a very smart fellow um and uh and i said to him no say of art and he said the golem said no more vart only elohim that was good that was a good one uh but um okay you know there's uh there's there's different ways that uh that people would do this anyway a guy comes in and he pulls out a piece of paper and he starts to read i'm telling you it was incoherent but totally incoherent i said i understand what you're saying he read it again now one of the problems was he didn't appreciate that most of what he was reading was russia tavos and maya mccomos i had somebody who today is a very clustered with tom holcomb but at the time when he was in my shirt he like many people were in my share used to try to catch me people like to take me down could it be that i have a certain slightly um grading attitude obnoxious perhaps i don't know but people sometimes like to try to take me down anyway so he says something and i say no that doesn't make any sense and he says that's what it says in the hagahaha i said the hugger he says yeah and he flips to the back of the rush and he points to a little little box there in the middle he says see the hangar i said you mean the hagosa shree [Laughter] anyway that story must be 30 years old and i still whenever i see him he goes [Laughter] i guess i sort of traumatized him i'm sorry okay i'm sorry he's a very question um in fact a full disclosure he said over a vert ones that i just knocked off and he wouldn't give it up he kept working on it and eventually he came to me shrouds night and he said it oh he'd put it all together make like it's rushing and tysos and what a carmelist was and i said i said wait a second this is making sense and i brought over my my good friend rabbi zave redmon who's bona fide tamil he's one of my tom hawking friends i checked things out with and he says it over he goes it was the middle of the night through he goes i must really be tired this is making sense anyway he submitted it in a uh contest of divreitarani won it was so brilliant which uh just shows you that the way i uh most successful at inspiring people is by convincing them that they're wrong and that gets them crazy and they're going to prove me wrong and this fellow certainly did so but this guy is reading this my torah with things like the hagah in it you know so i finally said where did you get this from he says the emma's liakov jakov kaminetsky and i pull it off the shelf and i look it up and it's this little thing it's all filled with meyer mccombs and russian tables so i start looking them up to try to figure out what he's talking about and halfway through i said why did you pick this and he gave the obvious answer it was the shortest one and that is often a motivation so uh i've learned from hashem for many years maybe a quick word about this because i think it's important um i had never gotten down to commission rushing and i had a friend his story was maybe 30 years ago maybe 30 years old and he was he would just rattle off rashi's and these who went to um went to yavna in cleveland for seminary i can mention topher khan she lives in miami now and she said you know normally you go to high school you have these young teachers who are teaching he says there you had people who survived the holocaust you know and they would give you a humishitas if you didn't do well they would say to us girls how would we have survived auschwitz without hamish and rushing yeah the linga franca of the jewish people i remember that made such an impression on me my good friend ruby barack rabinowitz one of the leading mechanism of our generation besides being tremendous thomas just a wonderful guy just a wonderful all-around human being so uh we were talking once when he was in shidduchim he got married a little older than the average he said i went out with this girl and i mentioned the homicide rashi and she didn't know it and i said how can i marry someone who doesn't know misha rashi i used to tell the story over in seminary and i'd see girls right away you know start learning comments around anyway i had never gotten down commission rajing so i said to this guy what did you do he says i just sat there mozi shabbas he says now i'm married but mostly shy was nothing doing and i would sit there and would go through every rashi and i would do this year after year that's how i got it so i couldn't do that but what i would do is i would get one of the children's mushroom which is commission rashi which i still use to this day because i like the print it's a big print and i would take the parsha and i would divide it up into five sections and i would do one section with rashi every day so i did this the first year and i really killed myself and if i didn't know what something meant i looked it up and i really worked on it and the next year i didn't remember anything i did it a second time but the third year it looked vaguely familiar by the fourth year i opened it up and i understood it so now it goes much quicker so you have to invest three years to see paris just like a tree yeah after three years and the fourth year you get to see pairs so um um so i i was pretty and you'll see a lot of my shirin are based on commission rashi um so one year i decided i'm going to add another another uh reshape so i took the das kanum why because it was short i've tried to do ramban every year and each year i get a little further but it's long it's a lot of work so i figured that's kind of easy i had to narrow down to the dust kanan the sporno or the rash bomb should have gone with the rush bomb that's really short anyway so i did the ass kingdom and if you've ever learned the dust kingdom like through each one you look at you go what what what is this now i also did the balturum once i was talking about atmash and the guy says what do you mean the baoterum uses it all the time i said no he doesn't i mean i've done some ballet term he said sure he does so i said that i did all the baloterum and there was no at bash and when i finished i said to him there's no ipad she says well i got you to learn about the term that's true anyway so i i would go through these dust kingdom and every now and then i would actually sit down and try to figure out a shot of what was going on and i have a number of shiram that are based on the dust kingdom from that year that i spent going through it so here's the following question there's a hierarchy to the materials in the mishkan obviously gold then comes silver then comes copper then comes wood right and you can find that there's for example the mishkan itself the crescent are covered in gold and they sit in silver sockets whereas in the outside there's silver around the the beams the poles and they're put into copper sockets you know there's a certain hierarchy that's involved so you think the arena kodesh which is the most important of all of the kalim would be made out of solid gold but it's not it's made out of wood and covered with gold on the inside the outside so the dust cannon asks why didn't you make the whole thing out of gold so one answer is to say it represents tyra and tara tells you that you should always be pushed on the inside and only on the outside should you show any glory that's that's uh one answer he gives another answer he says because the around had to be carried you had to lift it up and put on your shoulders gold is very dense and if you would have made the whole around out of gold it would have been physically impossible to lift it it would have weighed tons so therefore in order for people to carry it it was made out of wood covered in gold so it was only a few hundred pounds before cohanum pick it up and carry that's the answer as it does canaan but we know from safe yeshua our own no say as nozov the kohanim walked into the yard dane the jordan river with the arone and it stopped now obviously it didn't split splinting doesn't help with the river because it keeps flowing not like a sea the yamasu if you can do that trick of splitting instead it just stopped flowing and flowed up which to my mind is much more frightening if you're sitting there watching the river continue to flow up higher and higher and they waited for everybody to go across and when they were done they put the river back now they're on the wrong side and so the around picked them up and flew them across the river to the other side evidently the our own flies so who cares how heavy it is our own no say es nosof it doesn't really carry itself it carries the people who hold on to it a 747 is pretty heavy but it doesn't matter because it flies so if it flies who cares how heavy it is let it pick up and uh fly so make it out of solid gold as a covered to the torah and lift it up and doesn't matter because the thing flies that'd be fine says the thus cadem it doesn't really fly that was a one-time miracle that took place at the yarding but it's not shot that the that the our own flies it's just one time because pacquiao made it nice and made it fly la have the elephants we asked a question uh a few weeks ago about steven spielberg if he uh hadn't made all of his movies you know what would what would he have become one person wrote and said well because he made all those movies he was able to then put out a documentary on the holocaust and and people paid attention to him because of all his movies okay but um but he did make a movie called e.t et was the extraterrestrial um who by the way ate reese's pieces because they offered it to eminem's and eminem's turned it down so they offered theresa's pieces and the sales of reese's pieces shot out of the ceiling after they put it into the movie i think that was a mistake for the m m's that's my own opinion there's one comedian observed i don't know what you call them m ms they're just m's [Laughter] and why do they come in different colors they all taste exactly the same i have to tell you everything he pointed that out i've always thought about that you know that's really true yeah anyway he calls some chocolate advils i think it's interesting anyway um so uh so he ate these things and at one point they were being chased and he used his whatever his powers were to make their bicycles fly and there was a famous scene in e.t where they're all you know pedaling on their bicycles as they're flying in fact that became the inspiration for the um for the emblem of the amblin uh entertainment uh thing is the kid on the bicycle going across the moon and flying yeah so the hop deal it's not that the bicycles fly e.t made it fly so it's not that the oran flies it could sparkle one time picked up and made it fly now if we stop there we're fine we're fine and in fact the dust canim and the kizcuni were both talmidim of the bahar shore and that's where the bahora shore stops and that's where the khizkuni stops but the dasakinam goes on and asks another question if the iron doesn't really fly and it was just a one-time occurrence what's the story as david malloch is bringing the arna kodesh back to yerushalayim the orange was captured in the time of ailee and the plisham took it and because of this the plishtim were affected by a plague i don't mean to be indelicate but it involved um rats entering the body through an orifice where things usually exit the body and do not enter now that's a little vague so i'll try to clarify it a bit it's not any of the orifices involved in checking for corona so i've narrowed it down considerably at this point now rats entering the body that way i can only imagine is extremely unpleasant so they were very upset so they took the iron they put on a wig and they sent it on its way and eventually he made it to beichemish and uh finally when david was secure he decided to bring it up the island and he's bringing it up with singing and dancing and celebration and instruments and at some point the oxen that we're pulling the cart lost their footing now it's not supposed to be in a cart it's supposed to be carried on the shoulders yeah it's carried on the kate your vote is done like this in fact that's how we learn that if you carry something uh in the resistance rabbit only goes up tenth so if i'm carrying it on my shoulder why am i high if we learn it out from the other one because they carry on their shoulders it was part of the voda of the mishkan so uh instead he put in a wagon it says forgotten their children though put in a wagon and the oxen started to shake and the wagon started to shake and uzu was afraid that the orange was going to fall and he runs over and gives hold of the iron to stop it from falling and he dies and that ruined the entire celebration and they left it over there and cured ya arim until david brought it up at a later time and the gemaran sota says why was uzza killed and it says he should have made a cow of chris arun no say yes nose of if the aron can carry the kohanim who are holding it then certainly it could be nicer as asmai it can carry itself says the dust kingdom but if it didn't fly it was a one-time miracle why should he make a calvar you don't expect the red sea to split that was a one-time occurrence but you don't you don't base yourself based on that one miracle so too over here if it doesn't fly and it was a one-time miracle then what's the reason that uzu was killed that he should have made a kawabahime says the drastic doesn't answer the question so i know what the answer is but evidently that his kuni wasn't bothered by this question and the baharis sure is rabbi wasn't bothered by this question so vice does there must be an answer and i want to suggest maybe an answer i want to give a more liberal interpretation of lefisha when he says it flew maybe when it flew at the yardane at the jordan river lefisha doesn't mean it was a one-time occurrence like et's bicycle maybe it means that when it needs to it can carry itself don't ever worry now let's go back to the original question for the covet of the torah and the covenant of hashem we should have made the iron out of solid gold but we didn't why because we wanted people to carry it so kuris baruch who was michael on his covered to make the arowan out of gold covered wood instead of actual gold so you can feel the burden of carrying the toe on your shoulders not ki ilu come on if i can't lift it then the whole thing's a miracle i just say okay let's go rise our own yeah i'll hold on to the poles let's go things get a little bad he could just you know i'll lift up my feet and just ride you know flies no hakuras who wanted you to carry the torah on your shoulders but don't ever make the mistake that if you don't do it that it's finished because hashem can take care of himself i worked once for a care of organization and they were cutting corners in halatha in the areas clearly they felt they had no choice because we have to say kaiso i said you know i heard a kurdish so what's that there's a god he runs the world and not you it's not that he messed up and therefore uh i have no choice i have to say that coach burke okay stay out of the way and i'll try to clean up this mess that you made somebody asked with my shapiro once what should a person's approach be in kier verkhokker in jewish outreach and he said don't get in god's way we're coming to the end of time and coach baruch who's bringing back everyone who's ready to come back before the end and you're given this course to participate but don't think that god can't do it without you krishna can handle it it's not a problem when we are given this horse to carry the torah we have to remember it's a horse i started with the dedication for marty levine and i have to say during my years in ncsy every now and then you'd hear somebody say something like how many people did you make from i never made anybody from i was a teacher i would like to think that i was a friend i did a little inspiration i didn't make anybody from when i have notches on my belt you know because and everyone who's been in the field can tell you that sometimes you do everything right and you get nothing and sometimes you do everything wrong and the person comes back because america wants this person to come back and if you let yourself be the schlier for that it'll come through you if not from you it'll come from somebody else and you have the schools to carry it and the coachburg will be mike on his cover and make it out of wood so that you could carry it but don't ever think that it's not going to last without you because we'll be here have to worry jewish people will be here we have this course to participate and all my years in habbassa satori whether i was a rebbe or whether i was in kira whatever i did i always took the approach that i have the hus to participate and that's how we all have to look at because baruch has given us the opportunity to support torah to carry torah to help other people but don't don't ever get so invested to the point that you think oh if i don't do this it's not going to happen hashem runs the world he knows what he's doing and we have this squish to carry it and feel the weight on our shoulders but if it ever has to it can pick up itself up and fly don't worry about it that's the point i wanted to try to make uh as we go into the parsha of the mishkan because the kuch baruch gives us a chance to so to speak build him a house yeah that's a it's a school and so we uh are lucky to be able to participate and uh and when there's a shull to build where there's a yeshiva to build a community to build the kurdish barrack who's allowing us this course maybe we'll talk about the nasim next time who didn't quite get this message all right now we come to the question and answer part of our program the new feature that our intrepid producer introduced and we keep getting lots of questions i can't answer all of them obviously we only have a short period of time i try to get to as many as i can so huge fan asks do you think if pesach crown prefaces each story by saying i'm not david olaski i actually check out my stories absolutely not the only times he ever quotes me is when he says over one of my vort luck or one of my stories and he always speaks about me with the utmost covet and uh he's you know i'm gonna take a moment just to just to say this right there are certain people in this world who are roy to be our heroes he's one of them you know his his uh father passed away when he was young he took over his father's miele business and people don't like to hire young moa lim you want to hire the most experienced guy you know out there and uh he had a very hard time with the paranosa and uh and he took upon himself to take care of his whole family and he took on that ahrefs on his own and uh he is just such an inspirational person and the reason that he always says and i checked out this story um and in fact uh uh you know one of his kids told me because every now and then if he if he checks out his story and it's doesn't get schmeck to him even though it looks like it's it's true he doesn't feel comfortable with it he doesn't say it over so uh to him it was pasha i'm sure he doesn't even have to say i check out my stories that goes without saying uh with me it doesn't okay anonymous asks what is significance of making hollow on friday i've been told there's an onion to do it on friday but i'm finding it hard i want to know if it's a real thing or not this is the third time i'm asking this question if you choose not to answer it i'll take the hint and give up in the meantime i make challah on tuesday and it still tastes delicious probably the reason that i didn't answer right away is because i have to actually bring a macar that requires me putting on my reading glasses and getting a mr brewer to magically appear before me i'm reading right from the beginning of khalid gimmel ezra is you should wash your clothes or dry clean them whatever it is on thursday so they're ready for shabbos no again la luchade there is a mitzvah to need a shear of color on friday in your home to make breads for shabbas and yandeff the who me covered shabbos viantiff the english channois and this is covered shabbos and you should not change this minig says the mishna brewer heino milvad shahali afiyo mccloud shabbos even the kneading and the baking is we covered shabbos yantiff commotion messiah odysse de la cayman mitzvas khala the reason we do a sheer khala is admirishon admiration died he was the khala of the world should never bear of shabbos and he was created on friday even the person who eats garlic bread during the week we should only eat jewish bread says the bear hello and there's a reminisce to this in the torah he says the age remembers because and you should bake on arab shabbos for shabbos gambasmanagamarayamina cavua commercial and now in our lowly state there are women who have put aside this minig the lochen and they buy it from the baker the lav shabir shapir they are lessening the coverage of shabbos now obviously if a person can't you know there's only so much a person can do now what if i don't need so much what if i'm i'm a small group sherhala is going to make too many colors so what's better here's the choice i can make a shirahala and bonagee to make six colors i only need three for shabbos i'll freeze three and use them next week and i won't bake next week or make less than a sheer challah every single week so i always bake bread look over shabbos it's my legacy corona some say it's better to do it this way some say it's better to do it that way ask whoever your uh your local rabbi is but in answer to the question is it a real thing or not the answer is yes anonymous asks if all hashem expects of us to try our best and growth takes time why are we slammed for the times we messed up and must do chuva for it would a parent punish his child who's learning to walk for every time he falls down no no he would not and that's where the passage says sheva yipot sadiq seven times that sadik falls down you obviously had a very unfortunate not dissimilar to the one that many of us had unfortunately where we get this idea of you're going to burn and you're going to burn in hell and you're evil and kind of like that absolutely not the the fact that we mess up is built into the system yeah of course that's why there's yom kippur yum kippur is there because we understand people are going to make mistakes so we set aside one day a year when people can say i'm sorry for the mistakes i made having said that right this even i'm going to be married 40 years do you make mistakes in the marriage of course you do everybody makes mistakes few and far between are the people who like zalman who had his wife's camera they said the minute is to ask machila he says i'll do it because it's the minig but i've never done anything in my life to hurt my wife that's why they write books about him you understand that's unusual but for many of us it's a learning curve we have to work on it great marriages don't happen they're made but should you say you're sorry when you do something wrong or she just say well it was a learning experience i understand i was just practicing on you to become a better person [Laughter] of course not in any situation you make mistakes we understand you make mistakes but that doesn't mean you don't say you're sorry if those mistakes have consequences so i made mistakes and i messed up so i say to hashem i'm sorry but but that's not because i am afraid i'm going to get punished as the rambam says yirus ownesh is something that's only appropriate for the uh unlearned and little children that you have to try to scare them into doing the right thing you're intelligent person you understand in any relationship a person make mistakes and i want to say i'm sorry that i made that mistake because i didn't want to do something bad that was going to hurt you it's just it's just the decent thing to do so uh why are we slammed for the times we messed up i know you're talking to who's slamming you you got to get new friends don't slam someone who makes a mistake you encourage them next time you'll do better but does that mean that there's no consequences to what i did no of course there's consequences i hurt somebody's feelings i gotta say i'm sorry rap mistake you know hopefully i won't make again but uh but you're right it's growth and you're right it takes time and the coach miracle is extremely understanding i would go so far as to say he has an infinite amount of patience it comes with being infinite and he waits for you and he hopes for you but that doesn't mean that when i i did some things that were wrong yeah so when you're driving and you do something wrong if there's a cop there you'll get a ticket why because next time you won't do it you'll be more careful and that's part of the growth process i looked at a drive in los angeles when i moved back to new york i had a california license and someone told me you know there's no reciprocity between new york and california now in my stupid youthful mind that meant that i was invisible and invulnerable which is not the truth so every time i would get a ticket for speeding i'd throw it away because california license yeah so one time i got stopped by a nassau county cop it was 30 miles i was going 45 i mean it wasn't a big deal you know it's late at night it pulls me over he says you know you're driving with a suspended license i said no no it's a california license and he said you're right we can't suspend your driving privileges in california but we can suspend them here in new york and we did this is a misdemeanor i could arrest you and i suddenly realized that my stupidity had consequences and i said i don't want to go to jail and he said to me listen to me you're not a bad person but you did something stupid and you have to face the consequences i'm going to let you drive home but your yourself a good lawyer and you better work this out because this is serious and i got a good lawyer and uh evidently um you know how they say whoever has the most points wins it's not true by your license also not true by weight watchers i i thought that whoever has the most points wins uh was one of my problems but uh nope i had points of my license for a very long time i had to pay a lot of fines you know i had to pay a lawyer and got out of it but you know what i drove a lot better after that so it wasn't that i was being slammed in fact the the it was one of the best mushy schmoozin i ever got from anybody who's from this nassar county police officer you're not a bad person but you did something stupid and there are consequences and a little kid who keeps falling down yeah there are consequences i had this with all my kids especially when they like to climb up on dining room table legs and then let go and smack their head i can't tell you how many times i went to the uh to the uh emergency room where a kid his head was cut open and they were afraid of child abuse they were going to take my kids away but they always gave them back anyway so uh yeah nobody's slamming you for that it's built into the systems chevy he bought sonic you have to celebrate each victory but of course if along the way you do some damage you're learning how to drive and you smash into somebody's car and you have to pay for it it's just a reality yeah okay well that's it for this episode if you want to find out more about the show go to rubiolowski.com you can leave a comment you can download different shirum that we put up there besides this wonderful podcast you can um sponsor an episode you can go to raviolovsky.com contact and either leave a email or you could 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