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G-d's Mercy is Key, Change yr Attitude on High Holidays - Igeres haTeshuva 11b- RC Dalfin
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okay so we're
learninga chapter Al 11 on page K it's
the second Shear on this chapter to
refresh our memories here speaks
about the the humility on part of the
person in the process called
chuat but then he he shifts and he
introduces
Sim in other words we
in this until now is there we haven't
mentioned
Sim the I I don't believe there's even a
mention of sim one time until now and
this is towards the ends of of the of
the gis it's chapter 11 and 12 it
finishes
so it's interesting and important to
realize that why is that possibly
possibly this I didn't hear from this is
my own thinking that
for Sim to be truly
appreciated when you go through a
process of
chuva again like you asked me before
this year then it becomes real in other
words when you're real and you realize
you I mean us when we realize our
shortcomings and we deal with them not
just we we flip service we do something
about it then there's Sim then you then
there's Sim you know it's practically I
had a struggle I had an issue I I held
myself back I worked on myself I
changed it's it's you know it's a my
wife and I talk about this you know
we're married 40
years and and and and we ask each other
I ask her more than she asks me have I
changed for the
good you know you get married on the
younger side
you have children you have a family you
have paros and you have all of life's
issues 40 years later you take a look
and you say no we're talking about now
you know personal have you have you
changed in areas
where and and and number two have you
changed because of your
spouse has your spouse helped you
change I don't know to me that's a very
it's important it's important because
was we want to leave over for the next
generation and the Next Generation
something that they could look back on
and said our parents came from here look
how they
developed and and um and we could learn
from that and emulate it and all that so
parents I believe should should take
some time to make such
Ain you know in private and you when
they go out or whatever you know to H H
have I helped you change have you helped
me change and that that's part of a
relationship and there's nothing to be
embarrassed about it's very very healthy
I think
so you
know and I and and and when you identify
an area too where you could you see that
that brings you
s you know it it it brings you s in
other words I got married I was so and
so I had a weakness in this area and now
40 years later looking back like I say I
say to my wife you know to say that I
don't have you know an urge here and
there whether it be you know impatience
or anger or B what whatever the issue is
car hoiness whatever the character issue
is but I've tamed it and and you've
really helped me tame it because I
listen to to you in this area because
you're more refined in that area and I
hope that you learned something from me
and and when you reflect back on it you
feel good about it it it there's M it
does bring Sim I don't know what what's
your feeling on that thought is since
it's you and I alone so we could we
could share go ahead what's your
thought um I think this the s
from is is inherent meaning that when
you when you DOA you're different person
and and you feel closer to because
you've you've done the work to
repair what you messed up in the
past um somebody you know there's a v
that says why why Kipper are we
singing you know we're
singing is it feels good to get
clean very good I like it in the shower
feels good to get clean yeah I like that
word yeah so so Masha please mute
yourself so so
Sim is is so let's go back to the text
says here
that in in in conjunction with
the now
I didn't say this yesterday I'm saying
it now why is he
emphasizing actually I did say it
but because ordinarily the mode of joy
of sim and the mo mode
of humility sub subjecting your your
tiis it's not
sim I I want to I want to eat as much as
I want I want to sleep as much as I want
I want to do what I want we say come on
control yourself you're not a beh it's
not healthy for you and you know as a
physician how we struggle in in so many
areas with health and issues constantly
so so stay
be having a
simultaneous joy and frustration let's
call it it is is
a Now by someone who's a b like in
chapter one at T brings desire of chap
chapter 34 that there's two
compartments and
therefore just you know realize where
it's coming from and then you can have
SIM and you can have you
know but here in is's talking to one and
the same person because here we're
talking abouta which I said yesterday is
each and every one of us and why because
the
the AL terminology Bas and the ne kiss
are mixed you're about to you know what
you did wrong that's that's that's neis
yet you're pulling yourself away and
you're and and you're working on that
that's NE it goes hand in hand here the
question is how can the two go together
and this is why here Dr says
that if you that's he says in the second
on page K in in the second for the
second the beginning the second
line he says when you combine the
concept of belief and Trust I told you
the difference yesterday you said a good
ver about
that now here he inserts in other words
when you know when we know that Hashem
wants this and he's open to this and
it's not like you're coming to him you
know begrudgingly like like when you
come to another to a person say please
forgive me I'm sorry so you you go into
that that situation knowing you know I
did a no no and this guy and he G he he
pardoned me once and pardoned me another
time forget it the third time he's not
going to do it if he does it he he's
going to say you don't really mean it
you're a bluffer you're a faker and and
therefore his pardoning is not really
truthful completely there's always a
rosem a negative rosham negative uh
impression left
that since
is he is the
abundance of Mercy he definitely
forgives you for
completely and that's such a and at the
same and and and what's the result is of
that that's why you should have
SIM the Sim that you that you that you
the having SIM from a struggle is is
good but it's still limited why because
the struggle sleps you into the
situation of the
negativity and you're grappling with it
so yes you succeeded so as far as you're
a that you worked
hard
okay a person who wants one measure of
his own a better than nine measures of
others you know the
says you know if you if you if you
reject and hate gifts you live longer
and the by the way I think I told you
this ones was very mck and careful he
was he he he never he hardly they never
accepted gifts if they gave it to the
library fine to the kabad collection
fine you know people wanted to always
give him be and silver this and silver
that anyway so there is something
to but the AL says here yes that
something will lead to the greater
accomplishment that is so to to put it
into your words is from before this year
the is analogous to the global
Redemption those are your words your
language
the is not a normal
expectation you when you goof up you pay
the price like I told you you you you
you speed you get a ticket there's no
two ways about it you smoke you
drink you you're taking big risks you're
overweight same things whatever it is we
know what we're doing we're not
foolish
so then to say that the ab will will
will see how hard you're working and
therefore he says come my dear my K
Kinder come talk to
me so I'm pointing out this now this
pointed which is different than
yesterday an add-on that the is not a
second tier you know NE you have no
situation you come to
God he'll forgive you that's the way by
the way most people I would say look at
the
Yem is so
nice so he even put up with my nonsense
and forgive
me is very different he says the essence
of God the content of hasem is
quote what does that mean that means he
doesn't get
fathomed by you asking and and asking
again when he's because
he's and the language
in these the
adjective god with your mercy save us we
don't say that every day in
the we
say that's a verse
in famous
Story Once Ted the same said
God on you is great Mercy the mercy is
on you that you keep us and go us heard
it he said if he wasn't the AL the bat
the I would excommunicate him how can
you say such a thing it's like
Theus he draws a circle he says God I'm
not leaving here until you give the Jews
you you're telling God who are you so
what is the
say if he wouldn't be he would be
excommunicated
but said the same thing the tradition is
about the
Al it's a mercy on God what kind of
words is it so why am I
saying is is uh is not just an adjective
a behavior it's a noun God is the
Abundant of Mercy so and that is the
that is the in a sense that that he
speaks here from that
perspective if you understand that and
you relate to it there could be true Sim
together with the frustration because
you identify now with and he and he uses
the
words to have faith and trust that your
your heart will be cleansed and pure
because Hashem wants this hm loves us
he's and he is quote let's continue now
um we are five six lines from the
top as we'd say in every
every as soon as as we request God
please pardon us Etc we say blessed is
who's gracious and bestows the abundance
of
Mercy not
just the same because God
is is now going
into he's asking a rhetorical question
on
himself from we know that when it comes
to whether you're a doubt of making a
blessing a you take the lenient opinion
because
it's if you don't know if you made a br
not you don't make the BR because it's
it's suff you're M you're
lenient right because of a concern that
you'll say a in vain God's name in
vain so the question is y what's the AL
asking it
himself how can we say Bor
we say this three times a day
365 every day did we once think about
what he says here how can we say such a
such a
blessing you're sure God forgives you
really how do you
know this is a rhetorical question
himself and what's the answer the answer
is because since God is the abundance of
Mercy there's no question is there from
the abundance of Mercy perspective he
forgives you if he just ordinary
forgiveness like a human you know
similar to a human being you're right
maybe he won't forgive you he'll say go
fly a kite I I forgave you already twice
go you're a faker you're a bluffer you
don't mean it but since is and that's
why the terminology in the is
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the grace comes from the abundance of
Mercy again that's not an ad only an
adjective it's a noun that is the god
that I'm addressing in Theon and from
that perspective that's who he is in
other words here is listen to this it's
not like I'm I'm asking God for
something more than what Hashem is this
is Hashem
Hashem
is you see the regular from Jew thinks
no
Hashem and that's true rward punishment
and when you goof up you ask for
forgiveness you bang away
I'll and all that and hopefully God
forgives you says the AL you have it all
wrong you have it all wrong it's
backwards if you understand and if you
identify that God
is so of course is important and of it's
basic and but nevertheless you could be
assured that you get from a god that is
a
God if God was only and
not you couldn't be
sure because then it depends on your box
it depends on your conditions and one
day I do well one day I do well and
that's what it is I'm asking and then
arguing and positioning let's continue
inside El Ella is the response to his
own rhetorical question El
Ain there's no doubt here that you might
not be
forgiven since we asked we
requested so since
we exerted effort in not just banging
but really requesting forgive us pardon
us look at this if we would have not
reverted and and sinned
again we would immediately be redeemed
as we say in the next that's the
connection of the two
in you hear the point here we say
blessed are you God the Redeemer of
Israel so what do we think normally we
is the Redeemer is going to bring mhia
says it's
personal that if you are relate to
as then you have in your
life G is CL like you said is before
clean cleanliness and a cleanliness that
brings Sim Vis the
chuva so that's why he say that's yes
that's what the reab always said the
reab said that we're the ones that have
to bring the glory we have to bring the
messah yes not to wait for right we are
G to bring the Mia yeah but he's talking
about through
our the at the end of the first mimer
that he said in January 1951 when he
that was kind of the official day
accepted the leadership of kabad after
the previous passed away a year before
so at the end he broke down he was very
emotional that mimer and he said you can
listen to it it's in Yiddish but you can
hear his emotions he says there is the
G and the gis so he spoke a lot about
the G is the general Redemption Messiah
and then he says it's also connected
with our own gula and we have to get out
of our own gos and he spends time on
that in a very emotional way and we
understood from then that this was a
call to our generation which continues
today until bhia till the actual arrival
of mhia that you can't separate the two
see there have been philosophies that
have separated the two and and and and
and and
the that he he saw from the AL on is
they they inter connected and that's
what I was telling isra before the she
he asked me a good question you
know if it's if the is more limited and
in conditional in the
Box how does that lead to a goues you
know how does that lead to a chuv law
which is like the a general Gula and and
and and that's what he's saying here
because even the chu here its objective
is it's its objective is
I'm connecting to that
is is the equivalent of the the
general
continue we find even in in The Human
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Condition a person should immediately
forgive and pardon his a person who who
who hurt him
and as soon as we you ask he should
forgive the person look at the's
words he shouldn't be
cruel from for for forgiving the
person and he
brings if someone mistakenly whatever
cuts off someone's
hand says you should forgive
and if you request forgiveness from
someone three
times and he doesn't forgive
you you don't have to ask anymore for
forgiveness this is the
actual now he asks a question from the
story ask for forgiveness on behalf of
who
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killed and they didn't want to forgive
him decreed upon
them they shouldn't come into the Jewish
Community
why says I believe that the the three
traits of a Jew and one
is
merciful
yes so the fact that the did not D said
you guys aren't Jewish there's not
Jewish blood in you if you were Jewish
real Jewish blood you would forgive so
what does d bring he brings the point
that forgiveness is part of the Jewish
experience and he and and and
understanding it deeper and more clear
he says because God is the god of
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forgiveness so if this is so he brings
these two garas in bakama and over here
um in yamus to say that look at look at
Hashem expects of of human beings to
forgive each other so needless to say
Hashem is definitely how much more
so
Adam the the the the the Zenith of the
symbol the Prototype of forgiveness
I guess I jumped the gun says and and
and and we praise and we thank we we
bless God that he is the graceful in
being the abundance of
forgiveness says yes those words very
precise
is the abundance of
forgiveness in in a human
condition if one person sins against
another and the person ask for and he
forgives
him and then the person goes back to his
old ways is very difficult that he
should forgive him a second
time
surely if he does it a third and fourth
time repeatedly
attribute is
different there's no difference between
the first or the Thousand
time because God's part attribute of of
mercy and his attributes his holy
attributes they aren't in the in the
category of Li of limitation and and it
has a box Ella next page
top of page 200 it they're
infinite as it says God's
um
Mercy has no
end we'll stop here and we will continue
mem on shabas on Monday
M so have a great chabas and good BR and
and give my
regards you too and only good
things byebye thank you thank you thank
you