Parshas Emor: The Cohen and the Ba'alas Teshuva

this store class is brought to you by torahanytime.com okay good afternoon everybody so as we prepare for a shop as precious Emma we have an unbelievable topic but really but we don't have real uh so much time to to uh cover it properly so let's do our best the uh it's very interesting the last name of the Wasa David you know where the name as lie stands for thank you very much stands foreign our vernacular we have our own definitions of azina but the in the very specific definition of a zeino what's a Zina azina make yourself comfortable okay is a Zion is a woman who had relations with someone who not just she's not allowed to have not allowed to have relations with but someone who who by living with them it's a love that's alive across the board for any woman but it has to be an isser of relation in other words if a woman lives with a behemoth she does not become a Zona if a woman lives or a non-jewish woman is considered a zaina or a Jewish woman that lives with an Adam that she's not going to marry but has been is so for example if somebody if a man lives with a single woman even if she's a kadesha which means she's mafika herself uh the Marcus right she would get malcus but she doesn't become a zoner so in other words if someone is mizana with a kadesha with a woman who who's promiscuous promiscuous so then she does not become a Zona even though they they would get Marcus for a living with each other and she doesn't become a Zona and she doesn't pass all to Kahuna ah but if someone a woman who has relations with any of the Lavin that are Chavez and are not particular to kohanim so then for example a woman who lives with a guy even one time becomes a Zina right she becomes a sinner so a Colleen is now to live with a woman it's a very big problem you know you have Bali chuba and who knows what the woman did beforehand so a woman who once had a relation with a guy 's not a Mario she always stays right she says even if she becomes Jewish we're not Jewish she was Jewish a Jewish one A non-jewish Woman by definition a Jewish woman who once had relations with a Jew with a guy is a zaina and a kind cannot marry her okay what believe me he could marry you a lady yeah it's only a Cayenne yeah um you saw Canary a woman who had relations with a guy but a coyan cannot marry a woman who even one time had relations with a guy now just by way of introduction this is a very interesting Indian the Avenue Loom has a suffix we know there are certain Jews who have the halachic status of goyam for example for example let's say you have a mumeral let's say you have a Jew who's Michael of shabbosia now says that nowadays it's very hard to attain the status of amoomar because in our generation most cases people are Tino and nobody gave them a proper hasra and nobody giving them proper and they never had the proper education but let's say you have somebody who sort of grew up knowing and they went off and they became a Mumma and the Mahal of has a status of a guy for uh for yayan in other words if you have if you're at a table say their table and you invite someone to your table and they they drive on Chavez so very nice you want to be Macabre them but in the meantime while they're picking up wine they render it uh you can't drink the wine fine but in terms of but in terms of in terms of mumma the halachic status of mumar what would be listen to this you have a woman she's a balastuva she once had relations with a Jewish guy but that Jewish guy that she had relations with was a Mumma so for all intents and purposes he's a guy so now maybe she's a zyna can you imagine this says right we said that a woman who has relations with a guy is a Zina midday Raisa well says what about a woman who has relations with saying is a guy does that also make him a Zina [Music] yeah he's a guy says imagine that well you have a um tubali chuva one of them you know learned for 10 years in uh the woman spent 10 Years Learning in seminary she was about but beforehand she had relations now I think it was a yid but he was a Mumma now it's not going to be no no that's the case the case was she was um she had relation was a man who was a mumar again says in our generation to have this level of mumar is very rare but if you found the guy let's say yeah he grew up in uh he grew up from and he knew and he went off and he's like American okay this is by way of introduction he loses the status of yeah to me is someone that speaks against uh yeah this guy yeah but the the okay but the definition of mummer is not what a mummer is to you that's why I'm against me I'm asking you no you told me what a mummer is too so I'm saying a mummer that's why I want to be corrected all right Umar is someone who opposes a Tyra technically speaking if someone came over to a guy and said look you um sir you know the God created the world and he gave laws and you gave him a proper and he says fine I respect you I don't you're a Mumma yeah but he doesn't really know that's what we're saying in this generation today okay the dinner might be someone absolutely but nevertheless if a woman would live with a halach mumar that would render her azina so if you live with a guy that's designed a direiser if you live with you strong Umar that would be uh comes along the Sam Cipher wants to know you ready for this husband and wife beautiful fam beautiful couple wonderful people they're not from they're not from and the husband dies She Wants to Marry a Cayenne say why not she's a wonderful girl great me those and now she's about super Tibet yeah but she used to be married to a Mumma so if you're gonna say again enough enough enough we're talking about if there was a move Okay so who says that if you're married that if you're mazana with Israel Muma that would render the woman of zynomial so then maybe not only if your mazana with a woman not only few uh with a woman who had relations with the Mumma but let's say a woman who is married to a mummer and now she became an almana maybe also she can't marry a Cayenne because she had relations with a guy for practical purposes is very hard to accept why because then it would come out listen to this imagine you have a Cayenne who married a woman yeah I'm fine no nice Jewish woman they're not from then they go to Akira seminar and they start to be Mercado al-tyra or Mitzvahs and they become balichuva so the rabbit says wonderful welcome back to the fold the only thing is you have to divorce your wife because she had relations with you and you were a mumma he should have to divorce her and then we'd be locking the door business so says would say that in this case the client can't live with her then we would not have the right to question it but it's not fear social justice liberal I don't care we don't we don't enter we don't say these kind of things but where we don't have explicit precedence of some server we're entitled to say you know what it's not logical to extrapolate into a case where you're making it unfair for people to do chuva so therefore the some side for seriously questions whether we could use this Avenue whether it's correct because taking it to its logical end it would mean not only could a Cayenne not marry a woman who lives with uh Israel mumar not only could he not live with a woman who is married to you so much can't even live with his own wife and that would not be uh appropriate okay she was a calling he was a coin they weren't from she was a bicycle Hannah that's that's not relevant to the today no Okay so we're going to talk about a very very common child and that is like this you have a cayenne and a woman they got married they're ballet people they send their kids to yeshivas but they're Bali shuva and One Fine Day the woman goes to Ashira and the guy says where are you going I'm going to a show again you're going to show every night you go to shawanna no I have to go to this year she goes to this year and in the share the Rabbi says that a Cayenne cannot live with a woman who had relations with a guy and she says uh oh I'm a good girl now but you know in the last in my previous lifetime before I became abalashuva she knows what she did now the question is does she have to break it to her husband because if she does break it to him if he knew that she had relations with a guy he would not be able to stay married to her so now the question is does she break it to the husband no so Mr Nathan paskins no you have to discuss it with you wrong okay [Laughter] so let's see so this question was raised to the title yes she married she didn't know it was awesome and then she found that afterwards is there a hectare not to tell her husband okay something that happens every day everything okay so advice this question was the other says that um you should know um a case happened came before me a woman was about Suva she said she was mazana with an outcome before her marriage and then she married a coyan she didn't realize that she can marry the Cayenne [Music] look in the day okay so he says now before the antifrey before the she learned that a woman who had relations with the guys but she didn't tell the husband yet and you can imagine the young thing was not Mama her knowing that you know she may be the next carving High Giga and the question is like this should she tell the husband now if the husband is not going to believe her it's a habitsara but what if the husband will believe her and to add insult to injury this is a couple a very depressed couple maybe not stable they don't have children and this is going to cause them tremendous Tsar they're in a matzova that could cause them you know emotional great emotional distresses what do we do in this case they do not have children but because of that they're very depressed in general and this will really you know knock them over this will destroy them so what's in this case what is a halakh on this case so we have to know in general let's say you have a husband and wife and one day the wife says hey I had enough of you that's over with over with Over My Dead Body I'm Gonna Keep I mean you're stuck so she said how am I gonna get out of this she said yeah well I was mazana and you're you're also to me so you have to divorce me now well if a woman tells her husband that she was mazane do we believe a woman or do we not believe a woman if we were gonna believe a woman who tells her husband she was mazana then any woman who didn't like her marriage has a very easy escape hatch she could just make up a Bubba Meister that she was mazanabara so she she had a extramarital relation and then you know we're gonna Force the guy to give a get uh so but it is at least has a way out any woman married to a client who says she was violated uh we know a client is now to live with so his wife who is violated so any woman who's married to gun who doesn't like the marriage could make up a maisa so what are we gonna do though what are we gonna say we don't believe her what if it happened so this was a very big historical quandary and the mishna says because out of fear that any woman could just absolve the marriage easily you don't believe it prove it but what do you mean but maybe she was Miss Anna and their living minister we don't believe a woman you don't believe her you know why because maybe she was walking down the block and she saw another guy that she liked better and she's making up a story but she's an honest woman doesn't matter he says the same thing no it doesn't destroy the marriage but he can get rid of it he says of course we don't believe that that's dummy's house no she's my dad she admits I don't spell then normally you know if we should normally believe it with that man wants it to get out of it no it doesn't do anything it doesn't do anything isn't there a general principle you can't testify against yourself so you wouldn't accept a word against himself no but this would be different because we'll see we'll see look in the mission the mission that says in the diamond that is a very important mission in the beginning they would say is three women they leave and they take their Siva foreign if a woman says you know it's been nice but I just I gotta tell you that we can't be together anymore because uh I was Mazama yesterday so and originally a woman who said that what she leaves and she gets aksuba skipped a linear they retracted because we're worried that women will be devious and plotting and cunning and they'll see somebody down the street that they like better so this makeup so when they come with us come to us with this maisa that she was mazana we say you're a liar we don't believe yeah but what if she she puts on the best show she says you know I have to remind her that you know I was I want to I'm coming to do chuva Avis and she's crying and she's we say you're a liar she puts on the best act in the world will give her an Academy Award but we don't believe her we don't believe it but what if she's represent so-and-so we don't believe her we don't believe any woman in the world every single woman who says the story we say you're a liar [Music] now what's somewhat problematic is the fact now this year might not be for the general audience but what's somewhat problematic is what the mishna says that she gets to exuber she says she was mazana Bharat sign right the mission started off three women take their tsuba if she says she was mazana Bharat sign she doesn't get aksuba a woman who has uh is mazanea willingly loses herksuba who says she was nanas okay so originally she would leave and get her Suba and khazawar masaken that because we're afraid a woman would see someone else that what's the we do not accept her story so therefore yes sir a woman who comes and tells her husband who's a Cayenne that she lives with a guy and she's a Zona and therefore she cannot stay married to him we don't believe her we do not believe her but in this case is it Cecilia how can we not believe this woman it's so believable she's been an airlift woman for 10 years and then she's sitting at a sheer and at the sheer the rub happened to be talking about how a woman who lived with a guy is also to a cayenne and she immediately turns pale and she faints and hatsella has to come and we revive her and we say why'd you faint and she says because I've been living my whole life for answer and I don't know what to do and she starts crying so what we're not going to believe her in this case it's so believable we'll give her an award best actress of the year but we still don't believe her that's what hazal say no matter how true the story looks no matter how authentic she seems to be no matter how genuine it is we say she's lying and she's allowed to continue living with her husband and and that and she he doesn't believe her she doesn't believe it no she brings Aiden it's a different story but but as long as she says so says that sits elieza this is very similar to the following case in the night to be who the look at number 10. talked about the following case Isha is cases a woman she's on her deathbed you hear this case a woman on her deathbed she's about to die and she confesses that one time they had a Michele look in the house and he was my honest her and now does the husband have to divorce her says tonight what in the world are you talking about why should this woman be Usher it's a joke it's like be used because she says it was behind us she's not upstairs to her husband she says a pressure hitter she said she had relations with the guy but she's the we only know through her and she says it was an itis maybe you're talking about a case where we knew anyway there was so we don't believe her that it was born his name is that not similar LMI you're talking about uh Asia's Cayenne foreign she's thinking to herself maybe at least for two seconds I'll be married to the guy I wanted to be married to and therefore we say she's lying and even though it looks so as accurate and the cover qadisha comes and says and she says I have one last thing to say and that is 50 years ago someone was my honestly sorry and now let me say sorry we don't believe you and then announcing tonight so it says chakra one second now specifically in this case I know and then where she she's coming and saying she has tightness on her husband that her husband doesn't give her enough money on her credit card and she has other kindness on the husband because certainly in this case we say she might be lying even though she's saying it in her illness even though she's saying it a shamnu imagine she's on her death we don't believe her it's a story it's a hoax says if she's not lucid then some shoes Meshuggah we can't believe her and if she's lucid then should we say maybe she's Lucid enough to come up with this Ploy it says and I didn't this woman is Mozart's her husband and I don't understand why you're so quick to jump to answer this woman to her husband the clown and Chassis a woman who comes with the story that she's out to your husband we don't believe her because in this case if in the case of the noise we are finger like this he says like this in a case where a woman says she was mazane we say we don't believe her even though not only is can he not live with her she can't live with him and we say no we don't believe you certainly in this case where he is allowed to live with her and it's she who can't live with him or maybe she can live with him as we'll see certainly in this case we're not going to believe it now well for this we have to see that we shine him in and that is look at taiswas the nadaram on page on a look at number 12. and number 12 it says like this and number 12 the uh asks a very interesting question says timer why is she not believed she is placing on herself a captain if a woman says that I married you and he says I never married you he is muttered to her relatives and she is also to his relatives that love is like this let's say we walk into the room and we have this water in the room everyone is drinking the water why not it's kosher water and I say I'm not drinking the water Pig juice said pictures we just all opened it up here oh the pig juice so everyone's looking at the guy like he's crazy now how to drink it because it's a rule of should we say he plays on her a means a person is not if a person says about something that something is awesome they make an answer to themselves whether it is us or whether it's not us sir there's a concept and chance of say that means if a person maintains that something is understood whether it is or not they have in effect made a nether that this item is that this item is also even if everyone knows it's kosher right you have a water if a guy says this in that water it's hazard to them it becomes us so imagine if a woman says to a guy that that you married me the guy says I never married you he's allowed to live with her sister he's allowed to live with her mother because he says that he never married her but if she says you married me she cannot live with any of his relatives so if in this case the woman says that I'm Tommy how could she live with him she made herself answer me myths and a very important concept the issu of zaina in this week's parisha is different than all others in the Tyra all others are just like he can't marry her she can't marry him for example your sister you can't marry your sister your sister can't live with you all Arias are two-way streets except for zyna Zina is a one-way Street the Cayenne can't live with designer designers so because I'll say that if a woman says I'm a zoner to you he doesn't believe her so now he's allowed to marry her so the question is the hell could she marry him the answer is because it is a one-way Street this resign is only he can marry her and if this case because I'll say he doesn't believe her so he can live with her and she could always live with him that's what after America yes the marriage absolutely you just said he can't marry her no if a woman says to me Anila again they're married already she came in with a mice that she's a Zina from past so he doesn't believe her but still but she's saying I can't live with you no she's not in marriages why would it be not they married because if they were in living or if they weren't already married he wouldn't be able to marry her but they did marry so the fact that they're already there's no the condition is just you're not a statement no condition is Thai face if a client marries a Zona they're married just don't know how to stay married they have to divorce but the marriage is effective so in this case she says when you married me I was a Sina say he doesn't believe her I bet Isis asks but she can't stay married to him very nice he doesn't believe her but she knows about herself she didn't have could she stay married the answer is the Easter design is a one-way street azina is allowed to live with a kind it's the kind who can't live a designer but since I say he doesn't believe her they stay fetiris this is very important the Terrace house he can't take her but now the question is but the gemara says in yavamus that anything he's not allowed to do she's not how to do there's a clown in our eyes and number two is that this woman eats truma because if she's not gonna eat truma then people are going to speak bad about the children that they're not going on him but how could she eat rumor according to her testimony she's a zaina and the Zen is not ichuma he doesn't believe her but she believes herself he can't do he doesn't put stick truma down her throat she he puts the tumor in front of her and now she wants to eat it how could she eat it she ready believe it you gotta do what I tell you no not that far not that far right right so so truma listen to what taister says unbelievable says Tyson venerally because we're worried she was so devious that she's making up a story because she wanted to marry someone else so because I were afraid that every so in other words the question is how could she stay married to this guy but anytime he can't live with her she can live with him the answer is the answer is like this why why our actions what made her resigner is someone was my answer when well this is talking about an Asus kahin um when she was married because someone who's my honest stama woman she doesn't become asotokai and unless it was a guy say because we're so worried that she's being so devious that she wants to make herself also to the Cayenne we're worried so you know what gazelle did they uprooted the marriage of a Freya and they said like this you married her harrietiously could as much of Israel we say that if you ever come and say that someone was you we retroactively uproot the marriage to begin with you were never married to this man Le mafrea and therefore you were never a nanas while you were married are not allowed to do that because and here they're saying that this man could live with this woman can't do that only as a like Carmel but not as a permanent that any woman who ever makes up a story that someone was her they can absolve the marriage of my Freya says in this case it's so so pressing come and broke the rules and they said the marriage is terminated either not allowed to you're right they would never do such a thing if not for how much we really suspect that women could be deceiving and conniving and try to get out of the marriage then any woman wants to get out of marriage will make up this nice uh so we we broke the marriage of my Freya this is just numbers yeah it says with the way Duran explains at number 11 you take a look later okay the round Compares that right I'll say the Rand says the answer is in this case in this case they uprooted the marriage Le mafreya because called The Mechanics if you look in touch this so we'll see we're also consistent we're also they're not allowed to normally do it but yeah they made an exception yeah yeah how did anybody ever get married if women were so devious no we're it still applies right look at this then early the kivan they will see men are also we suspect men of doing it also we'll see that let's not we're not picking generally is so so first of all ceciliazer says you know why she shouldn't tell him because we don't believe a woman when she says she become author to the husband even in a case of the night to be who though we will look so believable it was so believed she said it on her deathbed in her vidoy she said we still don't believe her foreign we're talking about a woman who claims before she was married she had relations with a guy we're talking about is foreign that's a 2A is Sir a woman who's meta the fact that a client cannot live with a woman a wife who is Nanas that's a 2A yes sir and even so we don't believe her in this case it's much better you know why because like this the that's it the lesson said that the Israel is a one-way Street is only he can live with design but his only can live with him how do we understand that why is the Israel different than every other why are other is surim are two-way streets and this is there's a one-way Street I don't have worked perfectly he can't live without the chicken with him the two of the living together no he's violating no so it's like this yeah but he's allowed to live with her you know why because he doesn't say he shouldn't believe her that she's a zioner why but but if she is why don't we say that if why don't we say that well very nice I live with the client but a kind can't live a designer ziney can't live with answer is very simple the answer is we know that when it comes to the Issa of cutting off pass let's say both the one who has their payus cut off and the one who does it they're both user but what about a cotton a cotton I'm glad I have the pace cut off right so what about the one who gives it a haircut oh so how long is he's also he's not doing anything wrong why because he is so the market is only if he's making that person to anavera but if he's not making that person to navera he's also added to it so the same thing with the Instagram is normally mostly suresina designer can't live with him why because the same way he can't live with her she can't help him do an answer but in this case he's allowed to live with her you know why he's allowed to live with her because I'll say so if he's allowed to live with her she's not helping him do another when do we say the rule that whenever he can live with her she can't live with him that's where she's helping him doing this sir but in this case she's not helping him doing this because he's not a believer even if he believes that he's not allowed to believe her so there's no issue here so okay can I add anything extra because he doesn't believe he's not a lot to believe her because I'll say he's not a Believer so and in fact unless it's an impossibility no but no but the question is even if she's not if he's not a Believer but she can't live with him because designer can't live with a kind the answer is a Zona can only announce but why why no because now why why is it only a one-way street it's only a one-way street because the Issa two-way street is only a two-way street is only if you're abetting him if you're helping him doing this sir but in this case she's not helping him doing this sir possible for him for her to help him because he's not a lot of people fine but just understand that normally the Eastern are two-way street why is it different here because here the Easter Zina is normally a Zion is helping him doing this sir but in this case she's not helping him do an answer added with fact that says it said so yes sir now we don't use this Hector by itself but the maristam says that nowadays fake guys and we really don't know who's a client So based on all these qualities like Mr Nathan paskin in the beginning says she doesn't tell him and I but what do you mean could they live together with a clear conscience absolutely clear she doesn't have to worry because that if she tells him that she was mazana with a guy he doesn't believe her mamela he's not answer to her mamela she's not also to him and even though clappy smile guy when they get up to Shania on the video it will show they were not ushers because in this case let her keep it to herself right let her follow the usual practice that uh should keep her mouth closed not say anything and is she hiding anything she's not hiding because even if she would say he would not be believer anyway he's not getting an answer she's not getting it and they live together you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you like torahanytime.com