Rabbi David Kaplan - Weekly Torah Portion: Vayeitzei - Part 2

um with the the feet around the ground and the head is in the heavens so yesterday we spoke about the latter being the latter of uh which represents spiritual growth that a person is meant to be climbing the ladder one rung at a time if you jump too many rungs and under cartoons when a guy would climb up the ladder and he would fall and he bangs his head on every rung on the way down which is what happens when people try to jump to you know bowing for boing people try to jump too far too fast and that's not good you go up one one step at a time but you go up okay now what the commentaries say over here is that a person the angels are going up and they're coming down that means a human being could surpass the angels and ultimately we do ultimately we do because uh the angels do not have free choice certainly not as we understand it uh we are on a higher level human beings are in a higher level of angels because we were put into this world to be tested with our free choice and uh the uh the the uh there's a source in the more that says in the future world the angels are going to ask the uh the uh human beings what's god doing in there i mean in the world to come we're going to be so close the angels are going to be outside of us they're going to be asking us what's going on in the inner circle so that's the human being we don't feel it now because we're trapped in a physical body but uh that those are the facts the facts are that we're in a higher higher level and that's why we've been selected for the test our neshama is on a higher level even the angels in the in the process of of spiritual growth i don't like to use the word spiritual it sounds a little too too spiritual so in the process of the growth in roches as a person climbs the uh climbs the ladder you could even surpass the angels the angels start out above you olivier dimbo they're up they're going up and then you're them they're coming down because you're going up you're actually surpassing the angels number one number two and this is what we'll leave the angels out of it for a few minutes uh what does apply to us immediately is that a person has to realize that in the process of his growth in ruchnius as a person tries to grow as a being a jew you're going to have days of aliyah days that you're going up and days that you're that you have a urethra where you feel that you're that you're you're you're you're spiraling downward sometimes very very rapidly so a person has to know how to deal with those two phenomena sometimes the person feels there's certain days where you're learning well and everything's going well and you feel good you just feel like jumping up on a table and shaking your hand and saying yeah i'm from yeah you know you feel like you know you wanna you're part of the team there are other days where you know you're on a way down and it's just not connecting and you're wondering you see the the the the gates of gehenna open up under under you and the angels with pitchforks and so on and so forth and you're wondering why am i doing any of this it's old aramaic anyway and that's natural that's normal everybody has those types of days everybody at every level has those types of days even the biggest holiest rabbis have those types of days even i have those types of days sometimes so the uh the uh that was the joke the uh the uh you know the the uh everybody has their days of aliyah in their days of ureta everybody has the days that they're connecting and the days are going down that's the first thing the ladder tells you that you have to realize that's all part of the process it's a process of three steps forward and two steps back three steps harder than person when they're on the way down they just have to try to tread water just try to maintain your level on the way down don't do anything other than try to survive and wait for the good days when you can then break through and push up higher to new levels that's the idea um the other thing is that the arenas are there's a purpose for a urethra when a person has a down day one of the purposes well why does guys remember we spoke about the concept in the uh muslim works or the concepts of you may ava and you may cena they're what's called days of hatred and days of love that's a muslim council that's brought down the classic monster storm and what that means is remember we talked about how a little child how does a child learn to walk a child is one and a half years old and the parents hold his hand and he takes a few steps and everything's going well then the father let's go child takes a step or two and he falls flat on his face and everybody goes yeah yeah everybody in the room collapsed because he fell send a child against he doesn't know what said what happened now when did he make more progress when he when the father was holding his hands or when he took those two steps they're going to do steps the father let go so sometimes says listen you're great when i'm holding your hand you're great when i'm holding your hand you're doing well the the uh what what do we call it yesterday the pipe is open the uh there was a word we used for it the energy is coming in clear remember we're talking about the shama yasera the the the the the flow that's sort of the flow is strong we feel the connection then the control goes okay now let's do it on your own a little bit but he's doing that because number one you've earned the privilege of trying to grow a little bit more and you feel lousy now let's see do it on your own a little bit anybody could do it when they feel like they're you know let's see you do when you don't feel like doing it and that's when you grow that's when you grow more on the days when things aren't going well and then things are going i had a rebbe who said to us area to rebbe and when i was in chevy uses eight house anybody could learn when they feel like learning then it's fun the trick is to learn when you don't feel like learning trick is to learn when you got a headache when you're tired anybody could be nice and do chested to people when you feel when you feel good the trick is that when you have a headache or you don't you got the flu some people's attitude is i have the flu and if i'm suffering everyone's going to suffer right which is the which is the atmosphere the trick is when you're suffering to not show everybody when you're suffering to be kind to people and that's when you really grow so so person when a person is having a down day often that shows you where your area of work is on a down day i still dive in on a down day i still put fill in put on filling on a down day i learned but on a down day i growl at everybody in my family well that shows me that on a down day that's where my area of work is that's why i really got to start improving and therefore the ladder of growth includes very much it's a very much a part of the growth process is the concept of the concept of of of having down days and don't think you're the only one everybody goes through it at every level okay go on to the next page uh iaco vevino wakes up and yaakov vino realizes this is a holy place and then somebody just pointed out to me if you take a look at uh possibly katsyakov so yaakov wakes up from his sleeve top of page 146. top line vayika it's yakov mishna so yaakov awakens from his sleep the word vayikats is related to the hebrew word okitsu which is a thorn or they get stung when a beast stings it's called an akitsa katsyakov that means jakov wakes up with a start as opposed to you know how we wake up in the morning you know with the snooze a lot you know you take it you know i take it easy waking up is a process just like going asleep is a process sometimes even a longer process yucca is stung he jumps up because he realizes that with this dream he realizes he's sleeping in a holy place god is in this place i didn't know i wasn't aware had i known that god was here i wouldn't have gone to sleep i didn't realize where i was sleeping that's the plain meaning of politics let me just tell me an interesting spin on this that the puzzle could be read as vaikats yaakov so he woke up from his sleep hashem as i god's this place and myself lu yadati i don't know myself in such a place that means that in the presence of god i don't exist i don't know myself as such the attitude is that if you're in the presence of god and we spoke about in the laws of schweinsteiger we're supposed to feel that we're in front of a king and totally negate any sort of sense of ego or sense of self that we are totally and uh completely and totally at the uh at the mercy of the king okay now go down to the bottom of the page a bearcluff test yaakov uh yaakov uh decides to start continuing his flight he's off to uh kharon and then in possible possible three lines from the bottom of raglav valley picks up his feet and goes off to the land of the east now uh the commentaries see in this uh just in in just one it is one pithy uh comment that they make yaakov picks up his feet that means there are certain people in life who they carry their feet and other people in life whose feet carry them yaakov carries his feet that means jacob is moving with some sort of purpose in some sort of direction yaakov knows exactly where he wants to go and he takes his feet there as opposed to some people whose feet just happen to carry them we had a guy here once it was the day after i think shivas are betamos so we had a group here completely secular guys came in for uh for uh you know for a few weeks so the day after shavasana thomas the guys were learning about yiddish kite they know it was a fast day so the day after shivers over thomas i went around the room i said you know ricky did you fast he said no i didn't feel like fasting i said mike did you fast he says yeah i fasted it was it was gehenna it was the hardest thing i ever did but i made it through i said tommy did you fast so tom goes um well you know i was going to and i really started and then i was walking in downtown new zealand and i passed the falafel shop and then something happened just like that and i remember and this was the perfect guy for it this was a guy who was totally unconnected totally and i just remember the way he said to me well well something happened you know sure something happened you know if you walk past a falafel shop and you're starving hungry you know something's gonna happen if you walk past a cemetery when you're starving hungry then probably nothing's going to happen so well you know instead of walking past the falafel shop go past the plastic factory you know but you say if your feet carry you my brother told me my brother my brother was in tulsa you ever been out to telstra a little little place outside your side about about about 20 minutes from your slime so one night he's walking on the street he sees a guy walking towards him with a suitcase the guy says with a thick french accent he says him in hebrew uh excuse me where's elio on novi street so my brother says uh there is no elianov street here he goes no no there is there is my brother says well i've been living here for about 30 years telstone is a small little town it's about the size of malo dafna or philadelphia or something like that you know it's not not very big and uh and uh say says to them i've been living here 30 years and there's no ileana street here the guy says yeah yeah there is they they told me i have to go see my relatives on a leonardo b street and binet brock and and i want to know where it is so my brother says to him uh well there is an alien on obvious street in banay brock but you're in telestone you're not in benae brock the guy says what do you mean he says what do you mean what i mean you know you're in tulsa so it turned out that the guy had gotten into a cab he was a tourist a french tourist he got into the cabinetry apparently there's an arab cab driver he told the arab that he needs to get the banane brock they were picked up on him that he's absolutely clueless so instead of driving him the hour to benay brock he dropped him off in till stone and he said okay we're in benay brock even pointed to the building he says you know that's 107 nali on abbey street right over there that building the guy got out in the meantime to make that you saw my brother invited him up to the house to have something to drink till he could get himself in order and it turned out that while he went to the back of the cab to get his uh suitcase his jacket was draped over the front seat europe helped himself to his wallet as well so he was having a really bad day and uh so you know they sent him on his way to the the daybreak but you know the lesson is if you don't know where you're going if you're if you don't know where you're going you're getting messed up in life yeah you better know you better know where your head and what your direction is so the first thing it tells us is yaakov picks up his feet his feet don't carry him he carries his feet there's no such thing as well let's just go we'll see what happens and i know guys who have gone on hikes guys go on these say these road road trips or hikes or this sort of thing where are you going to sleep i don't know we'll find a place you know we go out for hiking through the judean desert you know where are you going to sleep i don't know we'll find a place to sleep you know you want to make your arrangements beforehand so you don't need a helicopter rescue when you're stuck in a wadi somewhere you know you're going to make sure you know where you're going otherwise you get into trouble so yaakov is a human being who has direction and therefore he picks up his feet and carries his feet number one they are he takes a look vinay be airbus so that there's a well in the field v h some shlosha edward zone roof simulator flocks of sheep who are over crouching around it kimina and that is the main well where the flocks are bordered there's a big stone covering the well it's a giant stone venezuela adore him all the all the flocks would gather the gala they would roll off the stone they shiva then they put the stone back in its place so we started talking yesterday about what that indicates now they're going he's going off to lovin country remember lovan is this sneak and cheat in a swindler and everything else and apparently the people of his place the influences spread and it's spread to such an extent that nobody trusts anybody and therefore we are not taking off the stone off the well till we're all there to take it off and then we're putting it right back on so nobody comes and takes more than his fair share and that seems to be the this needs to be the minagamakum that seems to be dominic of the place that nobody trusts anybody else which is very very interesting because there's a a a lovenonian influence they said yaakov says where you're from we come from this place kharan which is exactly where he's headed do you know lovan the son of nachar yadano yeah we know him now i read the puzzle differently i read the puzzle differently do you know we know him all right we know him yeah yeah we know him and that's exactly why we're covering well over here with the stone yeah we know him all right now you'll notice what's the name lavan white white what is white always a symbol of holiness holiness purity right he's right a symbol of pureness it's interesting the biggest swindler in the torah his name is white his name is whitey and i did which is probably part of his charade that to put out you know and i would imagine that people saw him you know we had a guy there was a i told you there was a guy called the teflon don right john gotti who was a teflon don because his nickname was because it was teflon nothing stuck you know they couldn't get him on anything you know love one i'm sure if you looked at it she'd love it as clean as a whistle right he's clean as a whistle you'd never you'd never be able to link him up to the al capone it took him a long time to get the al capone until they finally got him on where was the income taxes or something you know tax evasion you know they got them on something you know but but you know you can't trace anything to them a lot of people are dead wearing cement shoes in the bottom of a river and that's all al capone is doing and you can't get anywhere getting the name you know you can try to find you know you know do me something you know until you can find him so lovin seems to be this guy who keeps himself clean now the word white love on what does white tell you what does the color white tell you absent what's absent there's nothing there's nothing there and the only difference between absence and non-absence is put on some black ink and you've got a contract right white total white means that all possibilities are still open and that's really a description of loven's life even after you put on the black ink he still got all possibilities open i mean never keeps his word he's white he's everything is open everything is at best a maybe everything at best the maybe you make an agreement with him we'll see how he violates agreements one after the other and it's at best he's the he's the uh he's the prototype lawyer who's fighting over a comma exactly what the comma means you know lawyers sit down on the contract they put in periods and comments and they both got to look it over and even afterwards there's an argument what exactly did it mean lovin is that's who lovin is because lovin represents total deception and the white is a symbol of all possibilities remain open all the time even after we've agreed all possibilities are still open and therefore uh it seems that they're not very enthusiastic now uh yaakov says he says yeah here's rocco his daughter is coming along with the flock new man in town what's the first thing he does gives him a mustard shmoose because hey you know what what are you coming in here you're being paid to work all day why are you standing around or go go graze what are you doing over here yaakov sees a certain dishonesty over here now this is you know let's put this in the proper perspective what did yaakov just do who's he running away from he's running away from an ace of why because he just swindled him out of a birthright he just stole the bracha and now he comes and thou says hey guys little honesty over here so what does that tell you what to tell you about yaakov himself we'll see that he'll tell russell right away that i can match your father if he wants to play not fair i'll you know i'll i could play not fair with him and i even have an advantage we'll see in a second very good sasha we'll see in a second but what does it tell you about love yaakov's view of his swindle he's very happy about it he doesn't see any you know a guy who just robs a bank a guy who robs a bank isn't going to come to somebody else and say hey you know you just sweat you know there's a famous story about a jew jew's walking this band that stops them just got a big pile of caches a band that stops them and he pulls out a gun he says i'll hold you up i take your money he's out in the forest somewhere so you said said man look i got a problem i'll give you the money i just got a problem you know this is the community gave me money i'm supposed to be doing something with communal funds i mean if i tell them i got robbed nobody's going to believe me right nobody's going to believe me so do me a favor do me a favor at least put a bullet hole in my coat just shoot a bullet hole through my coat so that i could i could you know tell the people well i got held up here there's a bullet hole the guy takes a shot he says you know could make it look a little better you want to put one over here too so he shoots he shoots he shoots he shoots he's got six holes he says can you put another one here so sorry i haven't got any more bullets he says really punches out the bandit takes his money starts heading the other so bandit starts chasing you swindler you cheat you know so so yeah yeah yeah you know i mean a guy most people in the world you just swindled somebody you're not going to see yourself as mr musser now to go tell other people that tells you that yaakov understood what there was there was nothing wrong with what he did he had to do what he did i had i had to do that that was a mitzvah now you guys what are you doing over here you got you're being paid by the day you can't go take a a a an hour lunch break where the boss said 20 minutes you can't do that by the way that happens in offices all the time people take all sorts of liberties which according to allah is not acceptable so if you're being paid to work you got to work not read news on the computer and then hit the button when the boss comes and uh uh you're not supposed to be emailing your friends or doing whatever else you're doing but yeah if you're being paid by the hour and if the boss gives you a break you can't take liberty so well everybody does it so you know it's a half hour but i take 45 minutes that means you're stealing because you're being paid to do a job a certain way you also can't take liberties and helping yourself to office equipment which sometimes people you know i'll take a pencil don't take a pen i'll take a stapler home take a computer home you know you know anything that's not anything that's not tied down you can you you could take home you know people do this in hotels as well when people go to hotels and you know you take a towel home you know take it out from holiday inn well they want me to take the thoughts good advertisement for them you ever hear that yeah it's good everybody who you're advertising for in your private shower at home i don't know how many people take a shower in your house who exactly you're advertising for i don't know take an ash tray take a thing you know tv came out of the wall they want me to have it obviously you know so you can any of these liberties any of these are are just that they're liberties and you're not allowed to take those liberties you know to help yourself to other things just because everybody else does it and one of the things people help us do is their obedience they're they they take liberties with the job they're meant to be doing and you're meant to be working a job properly the amount of time that you're expected to work the job so yaakov says to him yaakov says then go out and great vayomar lonnuchao we can't arasha yasuko hadore until all the flocks gather the goal of louis evan malpea bear we're not loafing we're waiting to water the flock and we can't do it until everybody gathers vishkina watson odeno madabre mom he was still tall he was the middle of talking then barack obama saw la vie aqui roy rachel came along because she was a shepherd so we see in here later on we're going to say they love and he has sons it's the sons of love and at the end of the parsha who yaakov gets nervous around love on sons because they're talking bad about yaakov that he stole all the money and the commentaries say well lovan when yaakov arrived did not have sons he only had daughters and it's only because yaakov was there that he was blessed with sons and loving himself realized that yaakov was a source of blessing not that boys are better than girls but the boys are a blessing so uh uh the the one that one little girl one right in yaakov and yakov that's right right then one girl comes out with the sheep by the way zachar which is male 227 227 which is bracha which is which is which is male which is 227 is the bracha now i'd show you while we're on the subject i'll just show you skip ahead for a second now skip back for a second um it um take a look at page 158 the second line from the top this is where yaakov avinu wants to start working for himself he's been working for love in the whole time and alejakov says well i you know i'd like to i'd like to uh uh what he called i'd like to uh start working and making my own money so look what love and says i'm in the second puzzle look at the translation specify your wage and i will give it now what is the word nakva is the exact same letters as what hebrew word nikkeva which is a female the female so it's interesting because later on in the torah when bilaam wants to curse the jewish people what does he say lo cabo quel how can i curse them if god hasn't cursed them the word ekov is the exact same root as the word nekeva that interesting is interesting now pay attention very carefully we're on film it's gotta be politically correct here zucker is comes from the root of curse okay now it doesn't mean that all wives curse out their husbands it's not you you got it you got it wrong sometimes not all the time but that's not what it means what it means is what is the definition of bracha and when i tell you the definition you'll see that this is exactly suitable for why zakhar is bracha and the nikeva is is is related to curse what does the bracha mean you know the word is related to the word you know what a breikai is yeah there's hot things a spring a spring they call it a swimming pool in modern hebrew is the hot thing what no that's barack yes that's about it here but that's miraculous those are you mean no barack is a varicose is actually i believe barack is is is a word rooted i believe it's written in arabic it's like it's like falafel those are not what's that libyan something like that yeah it's it's an arabic and it's a it's an arabic word it's like falafel all that stuff those are all hair those are all middle eastern dishes a spring a spring is a place where there's a flow of water broca if you say if you ask a guy how's your business doing he says well we were blessed this year what does it mean you had a good flow what does it mean good morning yeah i made some bucks that's what it means you know we were we were it went higher and higher and higher bracha means spreading out bracha means that there's an overflow bracha means that there's an abundance that's what brach is even in modern hebrew where they talk about the religious families the secular refuge and so calling them big families and over populated families and their kindness they call it families blessed with children that's what they call it a big big from families the bffs they call them blessing always means abundance increase that's the word i'm looking for nakva when says to yaakov let's set a price what is he doing really let's get a limitation over here let's get some sort of limitation let's set a price so that we all know what we're told let's get into the box over here that's what nukfa means a curse means putting on a limitation that's what a curse is the difference between males and females i mean you guys are all males you come from long lines of males so you should know that a male nature is always looking outward more and if you have a husband and wife have a discussion one of them has an idea to take all of the family savings and go for the big one invest it he's got it one of them's got an idea to invest it and go for the big one and the other one says no no let's just save and be cautious now in most cases who would you say is going for the big one and who would you say is saying let's be cautious usually usually the male wants to go for the big one and and and the female the female takes away all the fun and says let's be cautious and and what what that is the definition of blessing the male is looking for increase let's let's let's get out there you know you know let's do so you know if a man works a job for three weeks he holds down a job for three and by time he's done it for three weeks he's looking for a new job a woman can work the job years and years and years and years in the relationship what's a man doing he's always looking over his shoulder he's looking out you know what's that one like what's that what could have been what would have been what should have been you know how much you know there with that he's always looking over his shoulder what's the wife doing let's take it let's develop it let's nurture let's communicate you know that they yeah let's let's develop something over let's nurture something let's build something probably the best two weeks of my life the best two weeks of my life when my older brother had his first kid my mom left chicago she went to israel to be with the new you know to help out help out in the house area so it's just me my dad my brother at the supper table so when mom's home of course supper means communication you know when dad's home when mom's not home it means a television a newspaper a sports illustrated we're set that we're good to go you know so i think for two weeks the only thing anybody heard at the dinner table was past the meet that was it and that was a long conversation you know the only thing other than that was you know see check what's on the football what time of the football has that it was great ten minutes before she came home you know everything gets put away you know scampering around like scared rabbits you know okay let's communicate again that's what she's into building and nurturing that's the difference between male and female there's nothing here that in that there's nothing disparaging here this is the nature of men and the nature of women that's what the torah is telling you over here the nature of my mom uh when cal ripken set the record for consecutive games so you know i broke lou gehrig's record so my dad and i were talking about it i mean that's significant that's important so we were talking about it and we're talking my mom said well you know what happened so you know he explained you know some guy just set the consecutive game record he's also a shortstop he's not like a first baseman would stand in one place this was impressive so my mom was a nurse so mom wasn't impressed she said you know big deal so i went to work every day i also go to work every day so i said yeah but mom you don't understand you're only a nurse you know you save people's lives he is a ball player he made a contribution to society you understand so so so the the wedding called the the the the idea of consistency you find much more by women than you do by men that's uncontrolled spells gematria disaster i don't know if it's a gematria but it should be you know bracha that is controlled means it's a controlled form of blessing a curse has in other words neither one of them is an inherent good or inherent bad each one has a purpose a curse limitation could be a very good thing sometimes you need limitation in life because without limitation we would hurt ourselves and that's why you need the limitation most men if they were not married if they did not have their wife most men would at one point or other i'm convinced of this i mean i haven't done statistical survey i've done a study most men would at one point or other end up in prison if their wife didn't control them i told somebody when my wife when i met my wife the first time number one so after we got engaged she said i said you know what you know we're talking about her first impression she said when she walked in and she met me she said she liked me but she saw there's a lot of work to be done that's what she said which is true and don't worry it's going to be true for you as well right because there's going to be limitation i know guys who are absolutely growing up build the highest out of control like you wouldn't believe these are guys who prison would have been too good for them they got married and you know they're just totalized now yeah because everything is you know they say please thank you all sorts of stuff that that was never part of their minha growing up you know all these things that's what the job of the wife is that's the difference between broken curse and it's not it's again it's very important to know there's nothing disparaging about it it is the fact that is how they relate to the world that's how men rate the relator that's why they work together in unison that's why the combination works um okay so uh yaakov yaakov uh um back back to where we're at i know when i could okay um so there's yaakov impossibility page 148 puzzle guide by hikasha royako everybody see that it's about uh eight lines from the bottom now realize he's been on the road 14 years the first relative you've seen in 14 years he was in yeshiva for 14 years right when he left the atlantans he hadn't seen a relative in 14 years this song loving him and he sees the sheep of love who's his uncle the yogales now we uh we spoke yesterday about the kinds of viviaco in great strength the coco guttal that the the strength that we talked yesterday about it was the strength of the muna the akko's belief that god's running the world so it makes a difference how heavy the stone is if you believe god gives you strength for anything little things so the big thing makes no difference we spoke about it yesterday part of the symbolism here is the commentary say two things water always represents what what is synonymous with water torah torah is synonymous with water torah is anonymous with water and yaakov decides that you know the water here the well water torah is the foundation of life water symbolizes torah the stone do you know that the gemara refers to the evil inclination the eight sahara is referred to as a stone evan who if he is a stone torah cracks them your only battle against evil inclination is torah the only way to fight the yetzer is through torah torah gives us the fuel gives us the energy there is no other way to control the sahara other than torah the eight sahara burns like a fire in a person ever since that they ever feel like he's burning like a fire torah itself is fire torah is that white fire written on black fire that was given to mankind it's the fire that counteracts the fire of the evil incarnation not only that the word voracious take a look at the beginning of the book for one second keep your finger on a place here look at the very first word in the big blue book take a look at the word voracious page two you got a word voracious look at the first two letters what do you have bayes race look at the last two letters you'd tough which spells what bay's ratio of tough spells bris a covenant and look at the two middle letters it's a covenant of fire the torah is the cabinet of the fire the torah is inherently fire and the torah is the only way to control the evil incarnation the stone is on the well and yaakov vina goes and jakuben says hey guys why don't you roll the stone off the well and yaakov goes and he does it so symbolically there are two ideas here idea number one is that when it comes to torah you have to do everything he can to fight that stone get that stone off the well there's nothing that the yetzer wants to stop us from more than studying torah because that's the most potent mitzvah it's the most important mitzvah talmud turkey coulomb and the evil in galatia wants to stop us from learning torah and he presents himself as a big stone the first thing is we have to always remember roll the stone off the well number one number two what else isn't it interesting where does eliezer meet rifka at a well where does yaakov meet rocco where does mushroom meet sapora at a well there are three times in torah that we find husbands meeting wives and it's always at the well what does the well represent water which is a source of life what's the wife she's the source of life that's where the babies come from and therefore the well represents the source of life which is the wife the stone and the well represents the barrenness that russell is going to go through can't get to the water remember russell's going to be barren and yaakov avinu removing it from the well is symbolic of how he will remove her barrenness through his fila through his prayer but the wall the stone on the well represents the fact that rahul is going to be barren that's what the commentaries say now um the next posik everybody has trouble with and you really shouldn't um but everybody everybody wonders is curious about this the next pastor possible um raises his voice he starts crying so rashi says he's crying because he sees prophetically that she is not going to enter burial with him rahul is not buried in the moro okay so everybody asks how could yaakov kiss rocco what a question what a what a bomb question so uh the most basic answer is that the measure says there are different types of kisses there is one kiss which is a kiss of family kiss where you see a family member she is his family member and yaakov gives her a kiss as a greeting as hello there's a kiss of uh uh lust this is not a kiss of lust number one number two a little boy said a little boy said in a certain remember he hasn't seen a family member in 14 years and he's just you know he's just happy to see somebody now the commentaries do not discuss this a lot like oh my goodness what an average you know when they talk about yaakov sin yakov virus in and marrying two sisters that there's a lot of discussion on nobody discusses over here my goodness how can he do such a thing so it's not a big apparently it's not a big deal but doesn't mean we could do it we can't but a little boy said a little boy said uh very interesting thing in the classroom so somebody said you know this came up in class and little boy said well ruckle was so holy if you see a safer torah coming past what do you do you kiss the safer torah jacob saw safer torah it's all living safer torah so give it a kiss okay that's very dangerous because then guys guys are like you know hey well i got a few safer torahs now you know here's the number of my safer tour you know yeah so see if that i'm just telling you what he said it's a very very clever thing for a for for a little boy to say bottom line is that yaakov cries and then yaakov tells her father the following that he is her father's brother meaning a relative and rashi says he's telling her i'm your father's colleague i'm a peer that means if your father wants to play dirty i could play dirty too he's talking right away don't worry about me being a frumion who came out of yeshiva if we gotta if we gotta get to get get if it gets to the point where he's gonna start being deceitful and playing dirty i'm his i'm his peer i know how to play dirty too and then he says to her vichy ben rifka and i'm the son of rivka so the commentaries say not only not only he's telling her not only i know how to play the game i've got an advantage i've got an advantage over your father because your father everybody knows is a no good nick everybody knows your father is a swindler your father knows me as the goody-goody son of his goody-goody sister rifka so your father is gonna your father's gonna think well he's going to wrap me around his finger and he ride like he did it you know well i'll get you know this guy's this guy's you know the frumi the son of the ferment you know and you know you know she was always a family goody goody over there you know he's he he's fair game you know fair hunting you know and he's telling ruckel don't worry i could play the game too and now that i got an advantage because he thinks he's got me in his sights and he doesn't know who i really am and in the end we're going to see that loving gets him anyway but torah it's about target la vida she runs and tells her father so when yaakov hears the name of when lovin hears the name of yaakov his nephew by your hustle crossley goes to hug him and i should go he hugs him and he kisses now why is lovin running out to greet this guest yeah the last time a guest came from home who was it last time it was it was the servant with 10 camels and you know all sorts of good things yo well here comes the sun we can make a sun a song out of it but here comes here comes the sun and and you know he'll he'll what do you call in and and sorry uh and and he'll uh he'll uh uh uh you know he must have all these riches and then by supper little oven it's called melo he says listen little darling uh there's a reason i don't have uh any and any riches over here and it's because loving took them away from the elisa took away from me the medrus says that asap sent his son elifas alifah's he sent them after yaakov and eliphaz caught up the yakker he says hey my past said i gotta kill you so yaakov said to him uh well i'd prefer not and alifa's grew up he grew up in yitzhak's home and he didn't really want to kill yaakov so yaakov convinced him not to kill him he says yeah but what am i doing about my father's command he's very very righteous elephants i mean you know my dad said i gotta honor my father and kill you there's some sort of distorted righteousness which comes from asap he says what about my father's command he says they said take my money the gummer says the poor man is as good as dead so you tell your father you killed me it took all my money so it won't be a lie and he left me that and he takes the money and he leaves him penniless so yaakov shows up penniless and loved one is disappointed that after patting yaakov down first he looks at him no camels then he starts patting him down a hug you know where's he hiding the jewels nothing there you know the love is a little disappointed the yaakov comes in okay so uh what could they do with this tomorrow mirza sham exactly you