Harry Rothenberg Giving Is Living

okay good morning everybody welcome to this very special program um and um it's a double header today uh we're gonna be first uh hearing uh some words of inspiration uh from mr harry rothenberg and um and then uh where everyone's gonna i was encouraged to join us at the mass giveaway at the end of long beach uh just uh some of the quick opening remarks this is being presented by the kazakh organization in conjunction with uh all the amazing shows of the of long beach [Music] and uh i want to give a great shout out to everybody silver you'll be here from momentarily for some opening remarks who really helped uh spearhead this amazing event and coordinated all the different schools and also want to thank everybody beagle eisen uh who was in touch with you originally who introduced uh me to try by silver and said you really have to connect to him and work together because he's such a tremendous force and she's tremendous um community leader so she gets such a great honor and um just um um so just to go over the programming so uh we're hearing the momentarily from mr harry rothenberg we'll be speaking on the topic of giving a living and then following that uh following the amazing uh sheer and lecture uh from 11 15 a.m to 1 p.m this will be a mass giveaway at the young ago long beach the address is 120 long beach boulevard in long beach and again that just is uh young visual of long beach if atlanta starting 11 15 to 1 pm and just a little bit of background about hazak if if some people watching might not know because i organize amazing programs like this every single day following this mass giveaway there's going to be one lower east side from 2 to 3 30 and whether it is whatever it is inspirational programming just to inspire the community because main mission is to help jewish public school students transfer to yeshiva just in the last three and a half years alone because that helped transfer or not even children from public school yesterday so whatever it can to inspire and be there for the needs of the kidney it is a great honor to call upon you by being in silver the the rabbi of the image of long beach for several bigger marks thank you robbie am i alive yes you are thank you very much robbie thank you for putting the time and effort into organizing this it's uh it's a fantastic event it's great to get the community together behind the very worthy cause and to help familiarize them with the great work of hazak we're very appreciative and nice to meet you looking forward to working with you on future programming and thanks again it is my honor to introduce mr harry rothenberg mr harry rothenberg is a partner at the rothenberg law firm and a very successful and highly rated personal injury attorney and also as a hobby as a passion likes to inspire and to educate and to teach torah so for me that's something very near and dear to my heart when is not an occupation but rather a hobby it comes across as very meaningful and uh particularly inspirational message so it's really an honor to have watched many of mr rothenberg's classes and now to actually have the opportunity to introduce him it's a true honor without further ado uh mr rothenberg please um thank you very much for the introduction and thank you robbie and kazak for organizing and tour anytime for streaming and all the other shows it's too many to mention i don't want to i want to risk that i'll leave one out so hello long beach hello lido um and uh beach and anyone else who might be tuning in so there is a well-known phrase we all know this phrase and if this were live i would ask you to complete it but i but i can't and the phrase goes like this it says no good deed goes we all know right unpunished so if i asked you who said that who said this quote this fantastic quote that we all know the answer is no one has any idea don't do it now you'll be wasting your time it's not that exciting you can do it afterwards if you google it who said no good deed goes unpunished you will see they don't know there's a debate it's variously attributed to three or four or five different people so i am going to tell you that i know who said it so you heard it here first if this ever comes up you're at a party you want to settle debate people are saying who said it who was it i'm telling you now the first person who said it was none other than satan the sutton that's who said it what do i mean because the son's job is to try to convince us not to do the things that we're supposed to do so what better way to talk you out of doing a hesed talk you out of doing a kindness talk you out of doing a good deed and to tell you you're gonna be punished for it it's just not worth it you know what's gonna happen it seems like a great idea and it's but it's just somehow some way it's not gonna work out that is something and i'm telling you it's not true it may seem like that sometimes why because he's trying to get you to regret the good deed that you did it's not as well known we all know if you do something wrong you sin and you regret it so this disappears it's unbelievable something called teshuva so in order for teshuva to work newton you know thinks he taught us this the rabbis really taught us this there has to be something equal and opposite in the world right that's just the way hashem works so if you do a sin and regret it and sin gets wiped out so it works the other way also if you do a mitzvah and you regret that mitzvah you lose the mitzvah that's what the sun's doing he's trying to convince us to to to either regret it afterwards or and not do it in the first place and i'll tell you a a cute story there are a thousand stories like this i'm telling you this only because it's the most recent one for me and it reminded me of how careful we have to be never to say that phrase that no good deed goes unpunished i was this is a month or so ago i had um gotten any sure an entry permit now unfortunately it's really locked down you can't even get this anymore i got an entry permit because my daughter-in-law inaudible was expecting and so the israeli government at the time was saying you can't come in because of the virus one second i'm expecting i'm i'm expecting grandparents oh in that case milestone you can come back so she was late it was uh it was getting to the end of my easter period of like two weeks where you can you can go once you get the insurance so i booked the flight this was like on a wednesday night and i'm frantically trying to get everything done because my flight is on on sunday i have to get everything done in the office on thursday and the short day friday and i'm on a i think it was a whatsapp chat with some other uh speakers um and somebody posts one of the speakers is in israel you know nobody's coming in but if anybody happens to be coming in this role or know somebody coming and you do me a huge favor my my son left his his iphone it was an ipod and so i say to myself oh boy you know it's the nice thing to do it's the right thing to do but i don't know just at the time i don't have any time i said to myself it's an ipod now realize that i was like a donkey by the time i got to israel because i was taking so many things for so many people including my my kids who were expecting there and um and my other kids who were there bleh and harold i said it's the right thing to do fine so i sent her a message by the way guess what i'm going it's it's wednesday night i'm leaving on sunday if you can get it to me if you can ship it out tomorrow and get it to me by friday here's my address i'm happy to bring it great okay 10 15 minutes later she writes back saying listen i hate to ask this but i just got a message because i posted this somewhere else from somebody a participant in one of the care trips that i did saying to me oh i'm also looking for somebody my son desperately needs his medicine and so if you find anybody keep me in mind i'll keep you in mind so now i start to say to myself there we go no good deed goes i said cut that out cut that out so i wrote back there i said look let's be partners i don't have the time but if you're willing to interact with this other person and give her my address and make sure it's small and she has the prescription because i do not want to be a drug mule and find out that that medication was really cocaine or some band controlled substance i'm willing to do it great so i ended up taking that also the the now it's an hour later or so and i guess after she arranges to have it sent to me the person i know writes to me says okay by the way where are you gonna be staying so that i can pick it up so i said funny you should ask i have no idea i didn't realize i should have realized the hotels are closed usually i go on my phone i go on the app i book a hotel room that's easy i say i have to find an apartment which is going to take time what's the minimum amount of time it can take to find a rental apartment you have to ask around you have to go online maybe you have to look at reviews you have to look at pictures you have to figure where they are she writes back to me instantly you know i have a friend who's a beautiful apartment centrally located i wrote back have you seen it she said i've seen it it's beautiful i said sure have them get in touch with me five minutes later i have a whatsapp message from that friend with pictures oh we can give you a great price because it's you know no nobody else is coming i have a great apartment at a great price centrally located it took me five minutes i just said to myself you see that no good deed goes unrewarded sometimes it may seem like something happened and maybe we would otherwise regret it don't regret it that's a problem and if you don't see the reward like i did in that case right away in this world it's coming in the next world without any question shakespeare does the same thing he says he has mark anthony in one of the world's great speeches not as good as the speech that yehuda made to yosef and the in the parsha that we just read but it's a great speech he has him say that the it's a little early in the morning for me to do shakespeare but i'll do my best he has mark anthony say that the evil that men do lives after them the good is often terrored with their bones so what's he saying the evil that men do lives after them we agree with that you do something terrible in this world that's your legacy people are going to be talking about i don't know you know bernie madoff for a long long time and then he says the good is oft interred with their bones meaning the good things you do that's often buried with you people don't remember that and that we disagree with because the good that you do that is your legacy and that's what you take with you you take your shame tov or god forbid your shame raw your good name or your bad name the good things that you do here absolutely live after you and what's so interesting is that right at the outset right at the right at the beginning of the torah we know what happens what happens is that kane cayenne kills his brother and god shows up where's your brother and he says this we all know and we know who said it cain says am i my brothers keeper like god what do you want from me you know i don't know go look for him what i'm supposed to look after my brother and i heard this once said that the entire rest of the torah comes to answer that question yes you are your brother's keeper every one of us has an obligation to look out not just for ourselves but to look out for each other and that's our legacy and we see this time and time and time again i picked some examples that i find interesting um maybe because they're not so obvious there are some examples that are much more obvious i could spend hours and hours and hours going through possible passage after passage in the torah drilling home this lesson so here are several the flood killed people immediately immediately right away they're dead didn't take 40 days for the people to die less than four days it didn't take but it didn't take that long for people to die they died right away and god's plan is to wipe out humanity and rebuild it through noah so let him off the boat a day later okay let him off the boat 40 days later he stays on the boat for a year for one year humanity's been wiped out so champion farher says you know what he's doing for that year he was rebuilding the world and in order to rebuild the world he had to first rebuild the world had been destroyed due to man's inhumanity to man so he had to work on loving kindness because he's the one he and his family are the ones when they get off that ark are going to start repopulating the world they have to spend a year concentrating on chaser avraham because they bathe is not so well known because they in the early years they lived so long ten generations uh ago was still alive when avraham was born avraham actually got to meet him he spent some time in noah's house and he once asked shame noah's son what was it like on the ark and so shame said to avraham we did not sleep for a year because we were taking care of the animals so that's what they were doing rebuilding before you're going to repopulate the world you got to first work on for a year that's how important it is fast forward avraham sends his trusty servant eliezer to go find a wife for getzhank and eliezer devises this plan that the girl that when she comes to the well is going to offer me water and to my men and my camel she's going to be the one and rifka comes up and does exactly that he's standing around with his bed and she's bringing jug after somebody once did the math it was an obscene number of gallons that they're standing by not helping or watching this this little girl bring all this bring all this water and he repeats the story and she has a say in this matter if her family asks her you want to go with this man and she says yes so i heard an explanation once that the reason she said yes is that she said to herself if if the servant's only test is to test my hesed that shows me what his master is like i'm saying yes if that's what his master is like and his master's son presumably is like that i want to join this family the only test that the servant not the master that the servant devises is one testing tested that's the family that i want to join fast forward again there is a a story that we're all um familiar with if we're not you can you can look it up or ask your your local orthodox rabbi i will just give you the the the sparist details because it's something that deserves a class of its own um tamar the daughter-in-law of yehuda has lost her first two husbands lost the first one second one marries her in in ebon leveret marriage the technical term in english and yehuda understandably is concerned about letting her marry the third son so he pushes her off and then unbeknownst to him he doesn't realize who she is he thinks she's some woman at the crossroads let's say offering her services which requires a lot of explanation but that's what goes on he does not know who she is and he is intimate with her and she gets pregnant and he believes he's the he's the judge he's the ruler there that because she's a the daughter of a of a priest um not the not necessarily um the the same priest that we will later have coming from our own but the daughter of a priest that she had what seems to be an adulterous liaison because she was she was zakukalyavum she should have only been able to marry his youngest son he pronounces the death penalty on her and so she's being taken out she's going to be she's going to be burnt to death and so we know the commentators tell us that she refused to name him as the father which would have exculpated her because she teaches us this incredible lesson that it's better to be sent to a furnace or better to be burnt to death than to embarrass someone if you look carefully at the language to something very interesting here's what they the passages say it says i'll translate it says as she was being taken out she sent word to her father-in-law this is tamar sending a messenger to her father-in-law yehuda saying quote the man to whom these items belong is the father and she said identify please who owns this ring this cloak and this staff those are the three items that yehuda had given to her in exchange for the right to uh the the right to have this intimate moment with her earlier the and she said is superfluous if you look carefully she could have just said she could have said she sent word to her father-in-law saying the man to whom these items belong is the father identify please who owns this ring this cloak and the staff why do you need the additional and she said the torah never writes an additional sentence it never writes an additional word and never writes an additional letter what's with the and she said just say this is the message so just heard this explanation recently the aunt she said is there to point out that she sent two different messengers the first messenger she said go to him and tell him that the man to whom these items that i'm going to send belong is the father that's it that messenger delivers the message now the second messenger comes and she said through the second messenger identify please who owns this ring this cloak in the staff what's going on what's with the two messengers because this is how careful she was not to embarrass him if she sends one messenger and that one messenger says the man who who owns these items is the father identify please these items then when yehuda sees he's gonna be embarrassed in front of this messenger so instead she says the first messenger just says the man to whom these items that i'm gonna send belong is the father he doesn't know what's gonna happen he doesn't know what the items are and he doesn't know who's sending them he's just the first messenger he leaves exits stage left the second messenger now comes the only message he's been told by her is please say to him identify police who owns this rig in this cloak and the staff he has no idea what the import means he doesn't know that the prior messenger has said the owner of these items is the father so he's not going to be embarrassed in front of the second guy even if he identifies themselves they're mine okay they're yours i don't know maybe you lost them and she sent me to return them so you're talking about a woman who is going out to be executed and she's sending a message to the guy who passed the death sentence and not only is she willing to not identify him if he doesn't if he doesn't say yes she's right it's me she's gonna die but even in delivering the message that's how careful she is you know what not only am i not gonna say if he doesn't if he doesn't admit to it but even in the manner in which i'm gonna reveal it if he does decide to fess up i don't want him to be embarrassed that's how careful you have to be pretty amazing fast forward again let's talk about yosef happens to be my favorite character in the torah joseph so we just said the following those of us who were in uh synagogue in shul on a sarba tavis that was on friday we said slithers now slithers are uncommon we don't say them that often and they're they're in addition to the morning service and so we tend to breeze through them pretty quickly um not because they're not important it's just we we say them okay and they're not that easy to translate so it's uncommon somebody out there might raise their head and say no that's not true i take the time but the night before i read them in english to make sure that i understand them or i read them afterwards if you try to read them along at the same time you'll never keep up with the positive because they go too fast it's very difficult somebody out there might say no my hebrew is so fantastic i can translate it great you are in an extreme minority so for those who did not realize what they were saying i'm going to tell you what you were saying okay here's what you were saying my adversaries this was in in the if you want to look this up it's in it's in the last one of the the last the last one of the sleepless that we said on on friday my adversaries opened their mouths and swallowed my heritage they overpowered me mightily and drank and swallowed my blood strangers besieged me and treated my brethren wrongly those who said destroy destroy the offspring of asap they said let us go and destroy them and obliterate their memory so we're talking about our worst enemies imaginable here's our tefillah here's our prayer oh jealous and avenging god requite them let them bear their destruction pay them according to their deeds and let them be ashamed of their hope like here we go big enemy of the jewish people who's it going to be is it going to be paro is it going to be is it going to be is it going to be titus who's it going to be like the one who dreamt of three wicker baskets parrots baker there's a measure that says that paro's baker was an enemy the jewish people wanted to kill yosef wasn't an accident that when yosef got to interpret his dream he was like you know you're out of here in three days they're gonna hang you so yosef knew the baker was a mortal enemy let's talk about the other guy with whom he was in jail he was in jail with the wine minister another fantastic fellow real friend yosef interprets his dream says listen do me a favor do me a solid put in the good word for me with para when you get out three days you're getting out tell them you know i'm a good guy maybe get me out of here two years go by why mister doesn't say a word simple request i re interpreted your dream just put in the good word doesn't put in the good word all of a sudden now paro's had dreams of his own he's all agitated he's upset now the opportunist my minister says oh now i have some of the game now i'm going to mention yosef how does he mention him he says oh your excellency you know when we were in in jail when you put me in the wine minister rodney and the baker in jail there was a fellow there with us he was a nar and ivory and evade that's a kid a jew probably spit it out a jew a slave not a fine young man that's how so two years go by doesn't say a word about him and even when he finally has cause to say something about him uses words they're not complementary he's got it and and all three he's a kid he's a slave he's a jew this guy was not a friend so you got the baker mortal enemy the wine minister not a friend and yosef who as as much as anybody was a a master at discerning personalities the person with the with the with the greatest queen who got along with people notwithstanding the fact that he's with a mortal enemy and another fellow who's not exactly a friend they show up one day in the jail and they got long faces and they're upset and he says to them why are you so upset today why the long faces and they say well we had these dreams he said okay tell me the dreams maybe i can hop out so he said i saw the two people one who's a mortal enemy one who's not a friend they're upset you know what maybe he could cheer them up so he's cheering them up of course leads to him getting eventually getting out of jail so if you gotta if you you see this like screaming out from the pages you're supposed to try to cheer up somebody who's your enemy and somebody who's definitely not your at best not your friend of course you gotta try to cheer up your friends your relatives your your colleagues the people you pass by you have no idea what a good word a kind word a cheerful word a a joke a lighthearted moment showing some concern can do for people i had a friend call me this is the the uh the virus started in earnest in the state second march i have a pretty bad case in in in between portugal and pesach so it's march it's april it's may maybe it was may june somewhere a few months in i got a call from a friend and uh and we're just you know we're supposing and i'm waiting because every time i get a call from somebody it's just a matter of time before they get to what the ask is and i'm always trying to suss it out early because i i don't have a whole lot of free time so are they calling me because they got into an accident i represent people who get into the injured serious accidents are they calling me because they want a donation are they calling me because they want me to speak somewhere are they calling because they want some advice with respect to their insurance policy or liability um what's going on and and the guy's just it's just a shaggy dog story like we're not getting anywhere so finally i said him so you know what to what do i know the honor of this call and he says no i was just checking in on you i said what do you mean he says you know because of kobe we really haven't been out so i have friends i haven't seen so i figured you know what i'll just call friends and see how they're doing it's unbelievable so i said myself why am i not doing that so i started going through my head like which of my friends that i haven't seen at all and maybe they're cooped up because maybe they're maybe they're high risk and i started calling some friends it was just it was an absolutely beautiful thing made my day and then i and then once motivated i should have been motivated earlier i went out and tried to make other people's days fast forward again we just read this this week yehuda approaches yosef and he he he goes through his explanation as to why yosef should free benjamin and he pulls all the right strings hits all the right points it's one of the the greatest examples of persuasive oral advocacy that exists until finally yosef say his topic he cannot control himself anymore footnote that word it's the same word that's used in the guild about about haman who was able to control himself but he stopped it he controlled himself yo safe that was it he just broke down he was not able to he's a lawsuit his plan is to keep this ruse going eventually have them bring yaakov down yaakov will bow down to him that'll be the full prophecy being fulfilled that'll take the place of the of the entire exile to egypt but he just can't he he's lost it he can't hang on any longer and yet with his last bit of strength he throws all the egyptians out of the room he's he's he's he's at an emotional breakdown he can't he know y'all holy stopping he can't handle it any longer but with his last reserves everybody out of the room why rashi says he couldn't he couldn't bear to have his brothers embarrassed in front of the egyptians the brothers that had sold him as a slave maybe uh you know maybe they use a little bit of embarrassment no no i'm gonna reveal myself but not in front of the egyptians because i don't want to embarrass them those are some examples similar vein how important it is that when we have a a contra temps a confrontation a difference of opinion a back and forth an argument a blow up a flare up we get into it with somebody else how critically important it is that we have to make up with them and we see example after example after example moshe at the time moses at the time of the rebellion of korach two of koras of course two of the people that are in cahoots with korach are dawson and avira not those two guys again i mean these guys have been a thorn in his side forever these are the ones at least one of whom reported him to to paro and he had to flee for his life these are the ones who gathered the man when they weren't supposed to these are the ones that riled up the jews against him time and time again and yet he goes out to them because he's trying to appease them and so you'll so so even if you're moshe of course he was right and even if they're dusted on a viewer and they're so wrong you still got to make the effort to try to go appease somebody else so you'll say oh you know what i don't know you know you never know two sides to everything even though it was moshe with all due respect i don't know you know maybe maybe he wasn't right or maybe it was the way he said something previously you know i don't know i'm not convinced okay fine stay tuned yitzhak after sarah dies after his mother dies goes back to hagar it's beautiful the same time that avraham is looking for a wife for yitzchak he send his sends his messenger eliezer yitzchak's looking for a wife for abraham he goes to hagar to be heirlochai roy where hagar is living to bring her back as a wife again bring her back to so she can remarry abraham why and it says in the mcdover that he did that because he was worried that hogger had a copeda hugger was upset at his mother one second number one his mother already died he's still worried about that that huggers got a complaint against her number two what would she have to complain about because her mother sarah had thrown hogger and her son yeshmael hug her son out of the house so he's worried that hunger is upset about that god himself told avraham at that time listen to your wife which means that even if the person's already passed away somebody's upset at them and even if god himself had said they were right if there's a way to appease the other person whom they insulted you got to do it that's crazy okay now you'll say i i don't know i'm still not 100 convinced so how about this one god tells us you have to we have to bring a special sacrifice a special carbon on rosh chodesh don't ask me to explain this i'm just going to tell you what what the commentator said so rashi says you know what you know part of the reason is for that because god's saying do me a favor bring the sacrifice for me because i diminish the size of the moon because originally if you go back to the very beginning there were two luminaries the sun and moon were the same size and the moon had complained how can you have two kings foolish complaint of course they're not two kings they're two servants of god whatever he got it wrong and so god said okay fine in that case reduce yourself so god had reduced him so god says to us bring a sacrifice because i reduce the moon now that means even if you're god there's nobody's going to argue that one i don't know maybe maybe god made a mistake on that one god did not make a mistake on anything ever ever ever so even if you're god you got to go out and if there's a way to appease somebody that you insulted even if you were as right as moshe and even after death and you're the kid and even if god said you were right even if you're god yourself you got you you not the other guy let him apologize to me no you you go out the way moshe did and the way you sucked in for his mother who had passed away even though god said she was right and the way god does on on rosh and so let's talk about some some life hacks how we can how we can try to uh to do this try to incorporate into the kindness into the the fabric of our lives because if you're not giving you're not living you're not that's what we're here for we're here to give because we are our brothers and our sisters keepers so number one the rambam maimonides says that it's better to give if you're gonna give charity you should give charity ten to twenty percent of your net income ten if you want the minimum back from god more if you want more so ten to twenty percent of your net income it's better if you're gonna give a thousand dollars in charity it's better to get one thousand dollar bills than to write a check for a thousand dollars why because if you give those one thousand dollar bills you're creating muscle memory you've given and you've given and you've given and you've given and you've given versus given once it's interesting i don't want to take anything away from any fundraisers for myself what are you doing i want the bigger check i got it so write bigger checks to a lot of different people a few institutions if you can but you got to keep giving and giving and giving and giving that's why also why it's important you're not supposed to turn anyone away when someone asks you for a um for a donation next is everyone knows about the obligation to donate money that that's i'm not teaching anybody anything new some are careful about it some are less careful about it hopefully we'll all be more careful about it less well-known is the obligation to donate time it's totally completely separate obligation you have an obligation to donate 10 to 20 of your time somebody once asked me is that net time or is that gross you know like with the income you know you first take off the taxes and then you take the 10 to 20 of your net so time like is it 10 to 20 of what i have left or not so my answer to that is well that's a little tricky because with taxes there's no way around that the only way around that is big cheating and you're absolutely not supposed to cheat on your taxes with time what does that mean what i have left you know if you fritter away your time on all sorts of foolish things and say i don't know i don't have any time left i mean you know come on what do you want to do you want me to you want me to miss my you know my my ball game and i i go and then you want to miss the next one i got bets on these games you want me to miss my favorite you know tv show you want me to miss you know there are things that we can we can take off of our schedule and free up more time so that i leave to you to figure out with your with your lor with your local orthodox rabbi um the the third one is that we have to use our our shabbos table shabbos table has to be like a it's supposed to be like our like where we're bringing sacrifices to god and that has to be a a focal point of our headset because that's where we can talk it through we can so we have the time where we can we we don't have the outside world intruding we finally can break away from from the phones that and our electronic devices that absolutely rule our lives the rest of the week we could sit down with their family and we could talk about the question that we've done the past week that we plan to do come up with ideas things that maybe we can do together how we're going to to donate our our income our time our resources and right away when we start that meal it's beautiful when we we make hamuzi and we and we use salt we dip the holland salt partly because salt was used on the miz back on the altar and our shabbos table is our is our miss bath it's our altar but also because if you had to explain salt in human terms nobody eats salt alone you use salt to improve the taste of something else so in human terms salt is pure kindness that's all it's doing is making something else taste better that's why we start our meal with that we start with that with and reminding ourselves we dip that challenge in the salt and reminding ourselves how kindness has to be part and parcel of our daily existence and next we have to always be ready to help somebody else with no notice this is a tough story to tell over but i will um because it's instructive so i once represented somebody and he was um coming home from work and he was you know i don't know a block or so away from his house and he saw somebody in in in the in the street in a crowd around me and he went over it somebody said you know what's going on and they said oh this person was just in a car accident so he looked and he sees like a you know fellow on the ground and and and it was in the winter and the way the guy fell like his scarf was like like around his around his nose and mouth so he said the person's neck facing got to move the scarf it's going to it's going to be having trouble breathing and the guy said no i don't think so like you're supposed to wait till the ambulance you're not supposed to you know you know to touch the person what do you mean the person looks like they're having trouble breathing you got to move the scar because no i don't think so he says i'm moving the scarf so you move this car okay all right person was bloody terribly he went back home he gets back home and he uh and he says hello to his wife and he says oh where's where's so-and-so his son you know who's usually home from school by then and she says i don't know you didn't come home yet and he has this like weird weird premonition he told me later like i i can't explain it he says i'll be back he goes back out and now there are a lot of people around there are cops around and the ambulances they're working on this this film street put him in the ambulance um and he and he says to the police officer did they identify the person yet and he says you know i i can't say anything he says oh i'm just you know i mean i hate the ass but like you know my son usually home by now he's not oh no you know what he says what's your name he tells him his name he says let me see your right dick and he shows him his id and the police officer tells him that the person in the ambulance um who was no longer alive um or at least was on his way did not make it um was his son which means that this fellow who walked by not knowing not recognizing the last thing he did for his son was said to move that scarf to try to help him breathe so he can he now knows that the last thing he did for his for his son and beloved son was ahead and imagine the opposite imagine if he hadn't and he had gotten the news that he had passed away and imagine him thinking maybe that's what did it maybe that maybe if i had moved the scarf and so you never know you know god gives you countless opportunities and some of them are as easy as a smile or a or a joke or a hey how you doing why you're sad why are you sad like jose did and some of them are more difficult or awkward and there's these are opportunities there's opportunities for us to give because giving is living and i'll finish with because this will be the tie into our to our next event is that we have an opportunity now we have an opportunity now to wear masks and i i can't stand them i'm the first guy to admit i did they are so uncomfortable i wear contact lenses which means that when i'm not wearing my lenses i'm wearing glasses which means that when i wear a mask they fog up i had to wear the mask on the way to israel and back the whole time while on the flight it was uncomfortable but you gotta wear the mask and and realize i had the virus i had a pretty bad case i have i have antibodies so i'm it's very unlikely that i would it's possible but unlikely that i get it and give it again but notwithstanding that we all have to wear the mask because each person making their own refreshment you know i had it already so i don't have to worry about it and the person who sees you well if he doesn't have to wear it then i don't have to wear it and the other person's like well i don't want to be the only dork in the room wearing it if nobody else is wearing it you got to wear the masks and i know i know there are people out there that are crying and screaming about how it's governmental control over us but i've spent time speaking to infectious disease experts who do it great that on balance it is a plus and it does help mitigate the spread in the transmission of the disease and frankly even if it didn't do we really want the bad rap you know we know what happened in new york you know we know what happened with the with the tweets and the comments from the mayor and the and the governor and uh which we were up in arms and we should be up in arms but is it a surprise you can't have it both ways why are they singling us out what do you mean why are they singling us out we're the omaha we're the chosen people of course they're singling us out we are the ones that are supposed to be the light unto nations we're the ones that people are supposed to look at us and say that's how you act not that's not how you act not what is the deal with you guys i had a crazy experience very early on when things just first opened up in in the early in the summer we um went away to a uh i won't say where it was and so we were in a community where they were much less careful than the one where i live and passage about wearing masks and so i went and see the kosher grocery and nobody was wearing masks because it was shocking to me because where i was coming from everybody was was was careful about wearing masks nobody's wearing masks three people walk into the store and very obviously not members of the the tribe it seemed um fellow was wearing like a guy with two with two women guys wearing a tank top tattoos all over the two women were wearing literally wearing nothing you couldn't you couldn't even you couldn't even look you couldn't even look and i hadn't been in manhattan since the prior summer so i had gotten re-sensitized to that you know thankfully i've seen people walk around wearing nothing and i was thinking myself my first reaction was you know how can you how can you walk outside like that i mean don't give any self-respect and then it hit me the three of them are the only people in the store wearing masks so we're looking at them going how can you walk outside like that and they're looking at us going what are you guys aliens like what planet did you drop off from did you not know that there's a virus everywhere else they go they go to walmart and then they go to to wherever to trader joe's they go to some other you know to best buy or whatever else was open at the time the gas station everybody's wearing masks all of a sudden they wander into the jewish store yes we beat it we don't have to wear masks it's not a good look to the jewish people so giving is living and that's why we're here to be our brother's keeper and if our being our brothers and sisters keepers means going through the awkwardness or the discomfort of wearing a mask and if it means making sure that the outside world doesn't look at us the wrong way we got to wear them so mask up enjoy the giveaway and thank you for listening and thank you again to to hazak and store anytime it's all the shows and uh and hudsola and hopefully we'll all get out of this together soon be well i mean thank you harry for inspiring us we're actually right here in the front of the show we're gonna be in the show in a second and uh we have a disposable mess and we wear we you can wear re-wearable ones after you watch them and um i went to cards to come younger so long beach right now until one o'clock and uh thank you again harry for taking the time for your busy schedule to inspire us as always and thank you our um thank you to all the shules for collaborating in this special event and we'll see everyone right now at the youngest zone of long beach the address is 120 long beach boulevard in long beach have a great day