Revealing the Truth in your life - Be who you are! - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] first of all we have to understand that the Torah is not a history book that's coming and telling me historical events that the lights coming to teach me things for me to behave an act in this world so we said before you can rebel against and shame in one way or another another thing that the ones who are secular the ones are rebelling against the Sham even a person who prays three times a day in a very refined way can rebel against a sham so a we have to understand that we cannot go against the Shem and we cannot in any type of a way put me in front of a Shem in any type of a way and even me having a too much of pride or bigger ego that's also putting myself in front of a Shem and Shem doesn't like that a sham says I am God I want you to sanctify my name I want you to grate in my name I want you to go and tell the whole world that I exist not to put me aside not that Hashem has an issue with ego rather the sim I am God and you have to make sure that you're showing that but one thing that at least that's what I was most affected from this lil small teaching is that how many times you heard for me that one should not live his life in a lie that lying is one of the worst things one can do not because of how it's affecting me because the lie will always be revealed at some point and you know when it's revealed it's the most embarrassing moments when you pretended something and then then it's found out that it's not the right thing now there are two ways of looking at it more like fifty ways of looking it but one way of way of looking at it is that a lot of people write for whatever reason you know just out the day we talked about people the people are lying about different different things yeah you know we're not gonna mention names but a lot of people when it comes to dating they lie about different information their age their background how many degrees they have how much money their whatever it is why are you lying Wow why would you even lie going to a matchmaker are going to sum and say I'm 39 oh you know you're 42 why why would you lie well your aren't you think that at some point there excuse me the the you'll get married without a sham and the husband or the wife will bump into your passport be like oh so you're born in 68 huh doesn't work I was my math so what that's what he you know I was once a very big liar everything was me with a lie but you know what kind of stopped it then I got started getting caught all the time it's more embarrassing to get caught when you lie now you look like a complete fool so so you can take any first of all the the the simple lesson once you take from that is don't lie first of all it's a sin second of all you know it's really a lie it's really rebuilding against the shame it's basically saying to a shame in other words I am not happy with what you decided to be the reality so I have to make up a new reality shift says but but but that's not the truth this is the truth why are you distorting the truth but besides that it's the same besides that you're going against the shame now I sure know that one day the line will be revealed you're that ignorant that's you you don't think it's gonna be revealed and if it's not gonna be revealed in this world don't you think it's gonna be rebuilt in the world above you think it's somehow I'm gonna be a race from the data base so even if you were able to pull it through and fool the world 60 years in this world eight years and the world above everybody will know there's posters in the Olam haba of every word that you said don't you think at some point that I will have come up to the surface I mean just to understand the ignorance of a liar but another thing to take from that this is just simple out it's very easy just online leave a life of truth because the line will always come up I told you that when I became observance three years and I wasn't even observant I didn't even wear a yarmulke I did I used to put sir lemon in the morning that was my thing I used to put Phil in in the morning and my I used I wouldn't eat meat and dairy that's how I became observant and better the first when I started the first three years was not even to do a mitzvah the first year three years was just to refine myself like how can I become observant if I still lied and I cheat and I slander and I curse him and the first thing that I was I had my focus on so get rid of all the bad habits that I had I quit smoking I quit everything that was a bad habit then the next thing that was at the biggest challenge in the beginning every word that came out of my mouth was a curse every word literally and my and my speech was disgusting so I had to start controlling my speech but then came the big one that I was like okay you you can't serve a shame if all day long you lie and it took me a long time to really work on stop life for yourself not for other people and I found that you know we lie all day long with all day long line with these real lies irrelevant but is there a bigger lie this is another thing what we want to take from this message now all pretend it is something is not and that's the problem with most people they pretend there's something they're not and that's living a lie that's probably talking about Tuesday you know I want to live a life of a life now most people pretend there's something they're not why are you pretending just be who you are how many times I see people they dress a certain way because that's how the whole group is dressed but it's not you why are you trying to be somebody you're not and you don't happens when you're trying to be somebody not look how miserable you are miserable on Friday I don't know if you noticed here there were two men that came here they slept here in one of the rooms one of them was dressed totally in white and it was a very special thing to see Siemer all in white anyways we were talking at the end of the Shabbat and I met him many many years ago in a Shiva belong to Habad and he was black black hats black suit the whole Habad gear and he was dressed all in white with a smile on his face and I and he told me you know I didn't belong there I mean I don't don't have anything against anybody but I just didn't belong there I wasn't mean the black sued the whole thing and it took me years to to be me and now that's me I'm Safari and Safari I want to be dressed in white I'm not there I'm not saying something wrong with that I'm not hating anybody I'm not going against it but it's on me and I was pretending to be something I'm not and I was miserable I wasn't happy and most of you this is one example I managed just happened this Shabbat so it's just clear and fresh in my mind but most people are trying to be something they're not spear we are just be who you are you want to be a jokester then you'll be up jokester in kedusha of course not in a not nice way but don't pretend you something you're not because you're gonna end up being miserable and here we see that power he had an agenda I was pretending he something is not and it blew up in his face so at the end of the day you lie you manipulate use you you distort things it ends up the truth is you can't argue with the truth it might take a year maybe five years maybe ten years the truth will always come out you can't hide from the truth you have to be a complete fool completely ignorant to think that the truth that you can bury the truth in the in the in the ground and the lie is going to be the reality it's never gonna work but more than that I find it with most people and I know a lot of people look I'm not pretending you have to really question yourself am I really pretending to be something I'm not maybe I am pretending to be something I'm not why do you pretend because I want to be in this group and I want to be feel comfortable when I'm sitting with this group of people and I don't want to look a difference and I want to be dressed different I don't want to act different but then I'm not myself and then I'm end up being miserable so you have to always to ask yourself not to lie to another person that's one thing but are you lying to yourself are you living your life that you are who you are I want to be Who I am I'm gonna just say I want a dress I'm gonna talk I want to talk of course in the guidelines of the Torah I'm not talking not to start distorting the Torah but in the world of the Torah you have to be who you are you can't be a sheep and you know sheep are just you know sorry to tell you what I'm about to tear up a chief when they're going to hurt then you know what's in front of you the tokus of the other sheep so how it works when you go inland like that so it's not good to be in a herd now some people that's good for them they want to be in a group they want to dress all alike they want to talk to the same thing same movement through their hands it's good for you that's who you are so by enjoying that but most people when they're grouped and when they're defined then they're miserable and this is one example and I'm and I'm just now stuck on the group thing but nevertheless you have to constantly ask yourself am I really Who I am you know one thing that I see that it's the worst thing and I see it with people who become observant whether they are Jews that became observant or non-jews that became Jews and observant they lose themselves and they become reasonable in how many times I saw with my own eyes how many hundreds if not thousands of people that become Bougherra and they lose themselves because where they go no no you can't do this it's not so Noah yeah but that's what I like doing how many musicians I know that stop playing their music how many athletes stop doing the sports how many people they stop doing what they like because they were told it's not the the path of the Torah I'm going to take from that is that I see it's not as many points to take but where we left off I see so many people who become closer to the Torah and they get the wrong guidance and they lose themselves and they don't do what they want and they don't do what they're passionate about and if a shame made you an artist that you have to be an artist observant artists that if a shame made you a musician that you have to play your instrument in to do shine holiness and whatever Shem gave you as a talent you cannot cut it and say that's the old me it doesn't work it will never work you cannot cut off your your past you cannot change who you are I have a very good friend he was on the Olympic team for the Australian team four wrestling here was world-class wrestler he was like twice my width you know this was this huge guy anyways he became observant and the time when he decided to really take the the leap well they say there was the Olympics and he was scheduled to fight on a Friday night and he says I can't frighten Friday night you told him what do you think this is some some neighborhood tournament this is the Olympics this is when you fighting on Friday night he says I can't fight on Friday night it's Shabbat and they wouldn't let go he took his bags when he said my bike and he left and he became observant of course became observer went to yeshiva and it was growing spiritually but the Shema that he went to they told him you can't work out you can do resting anymore it's not this it's not that he lasted maybe three years and now he's back on some a beach in wherever he's done I'm gonna give too many details they're not gonna be the Shannara as a gym is this he's not original observant anymore because none because he has weakness or some resentment to their religion because how he was acquainted to the Torah no you can't do this anymore but that's my passion that's my passion you know many heroes how many wrestlers we had in our in our history so the point you want to take from that is the the external part you don't like just don't don't be a liar lying is there I mean a ship cannot send liars I can tell you my for my own experience if you want to impress ashamed online if you want to get on a shims nerve light sham cannot stand liars you know the seal of a ship we talked about it on Tuesday the hotel meet the silver shame is Jota Mohammed is truth sham is just truth nothing but the truth Moshe Rabbeinu Mohammed's Torah - I made a call isn't it so you you want to live a life of a hundred percent truth but take it to the next level power was a fraud he was a fake he was a phony and it blew up in his face so we're not in the level of power but you live a life of being fake or phony to yourself it will blow up at some point and you know it would most blow up that you become miserable and and depressed because you not who you are and you have to be who you are Hashem created us in such a way that he wants everybody to shine in their way the way to see you know how I see haha work sham created us Hashem is an artist is a painter a painter an artist he needs a lot of colors how many colors are out there we had already a class of colors there are seven colors but when you take still different colors and you mix them you get so much you get infinite amount of shades infinite amount of shades of blue infinite amount of shades of green and so forth can you imagine how boring a picture would be if the whole picture was blue the whole canvas is just blue there's nothing there but you need to make something there how do you make something then you have to exert making different shades and a good artist a good painter can make a with paint the picture looks a hundred percent alive just looking in a picture and a good picture and good painting not a picture how many shades are there same thing is a sham a sham is the artist and we are the paint so each and every one of us is a different shade so we are all different we have to be different we cannot be the same some of us are the same but the most of us are different so you are dark blue animal light blue so you have to be who you are and the more who you the more you you live who you are then you shine to the world what the world needs the most doesn't need a fake me another sheep another robot the world doesn't need that the world needs me and a lot of times you know whether it's my wife or other people tell me you know don't do this so don't do that that's me that's how I am some somebody told me not at all you know you're supposed to be serious in your class why are you telling jokes why are you making noises faces they I told him that's me why do you want me to be rude and the motion said drop me you know I look to you serious how it made me 25 years ago you know the the the center of attention I was the the jokester so you have to bring it in to push I imagine how boring it would be if I would be like in the Torah says that I have to spice it up a little bit so you can't be who you not and many times if people tell me you know it's not appropriate you can do this it's not a probably you have to do this and that that's the way I'm funny but I've lied to myself no one like you you don't lie to myself and I feel like doing a goofy face so don't go see face it makes you laugh good doesn't make it up then it so listen I'm not here to run running a popularity test not everybody has to like me the point you want to take from that is not to focus necessarily on the fact that Paul had an accident that's his problem is what I take from that is I don't want to be fake with myself I don't affect or shame and I want to fake to people I wanted I don't want to be Who I am but I will come and tell me what are the guidelines but I will tell me this you're really not allowed to do okay that says I'm not allowed to I'm not gonna do it the Torah is the center everything is around the Torah but you want to take from that which theatre there's a few things we took today but you want to take from that don't live a life of deception that you hear you're not who you are because the end result will be you'll be miserable you will be depressed you're going to be living a life that you are not happy you want to be who you are shining the colours you supposed to shine dress how you want to dress you want to sing sing according to the Torah with the Torah says you want to dance you want to jump up and down you want to be an athlete you don't change yourself because you're not going to end up losing yourself the point of becoming observant and close to the tourist to refine yourself not to change yourself and that's a huge difference that's what I've been to many as you vote and I didn't like neither one of them and not because they didn't teach good things because they all had a very crooked way of bringing the taurine and I didn't like that I just I'd like the Torah I like the rabbi's I liked everything but it wasn't me because I saw him not only the she wrote that I went to and many others she wrote the Torah is kind of like boxed in a way that was much more dynamic and loose than what you think that or is not always you know the the same same thing and I see how people they're looking the Torah oh my god so I can't do this anymore I can't do this anymore can do this anymore no no no I don't like that so you are what do you want to take from that is you have to get close to the Torah there's no question here but the Torah is here to refine you not to change you if you think that you should starting to change then that's not good if you see that you start refining yourself then you know that you are going on the right path [Music] you [Music]