How Many Rabbis Should I Learn From - Jewish HaShkafa (79)

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of K did not die now the of the P the simple meaning of the p is that the sons of kak saved themselves by doing chuva last minute last minute as the debate as the fight was going they realized that they can't choose their own father's side and they went to mosenu side which of course they didn't know what the end was going to be they didn't know that the ground was going to open up and eat up uh and uh korak and anyone that followed him or his whole family uh the all of his servants the uh the rabbis that followed him they all got burned but uh the the servants and the rest of the family of korak all went to Gom and they're still there 3,333 years later uh but the few sons of kak they didn't die because saw that they did CH despite the fact that their father threaten them that if uh they go with mhu they're going to be uh uh thrown out of the family no inheritance no money and K was the richest man in the world so they took all of that and threw it in the garbage in order to go with the in order to go withu and because of that made a special miracle for them that when the mouth of G opened up everyone fell including the sons of korak but made a miracle happen where a uh something came out of the wall to uh right under the feet of the sons of korak to stop them and literally Shield them from the fire of G that is still burning till this day that's in essence the of the P but the mid says that there is also a another meeting another meeting behind the scenes of what means the sons of K didn't die that the ideology uh of korak is still in the world today that's his children that's still in the world today that is creating all types of M all types of fights uh in different synagogues and different yes different uh uh ways of uh learning and teaching and of course m is only when there is two sides and both of them are standing for the truth not when one is standing for a lie so it's important to know that there's a and then there is simply calling out a heretic when you are you know you have the you have your you have your you have the way that you're doing things and that's the way of the and someone has a different a different a different way of doing things there's no problem to uh to have different ways and sometimes those differences create you know when one p says that the uh uh the other p is incorrect In His that's not necessarily a uh a bad thing this is the way of our Tor anyone that has learned for more than five minutes knows that thear is full of uh debates back and forth of what's the truth and how to arrive at the truth and what tools to use and how to use those tools but when it comes to Heretics that are distorting the Torah what's called meal that in essence they're showing a new face to the tah where it's not the tah itself it's something else they're bringing their own opinion to the tah they're bringing a their own truth to the Torah that's a heretic that's a person that is not a m when you call them out that's in essence fulfilling theah of to destroy that's a person that's distorting the T so that's not a but unfortunately many times people that don't know the details don't know much T they think that both are the same things that when you say that somebody's a heretic somebody's an idol worshipper it's the same thing as having a m with someone that actually has and of course we learn from the Tora that's world's apart between the two but either way the uh the world perceives things in a certain way and we have to understand uh how to uh how to deal with certain people and how to work on ourselves in order to make sure that people do receive the Torah in a beautiful way and apply it to their lives hence the reason why sometimes there are certain things that the Torah will say that don't necessarily make make uh common sense don't make rational sense to people and this is when you truly see who's seeking the truth and who's not the one that's not looking for the truth it says that as long as something doesn't make sense to me I'm not going to do it and the one that is seeking the truth says listen even though it doesn't make sense to me and even though I've learned things a different way until now since this is the truth that's it I'm just going to follow what what it says now this is why we have K is connected toat because this week's starts with the mitvah of the par the red heer and this par is a is a is a mystery to all of mankind of how it works because in essence what you're doing is you're taking this par you're taking this heer that's completely red that there was never any burden on it it never worked a day in its life not even a minute in its life you after you Slaughter it and you burn the uh everything to ashes you use it in order to purify the impure now up till now everybody understands how that works this is a obviously a this is something that instilled into the world the part that confuses even schl the wisest man of all time is that the one that is purifying everybody else meaning the coin that's purifying everybody else he himself and whoever helps him all of them become impure all of them become impure which again doesn't make sense if you're able to purify everybody else it's you know obviously safe to say that you yourself are pure you can't purify everybody else if you yourself are impure so of course the Coen has to be pure in order to purify everybody else but at the end of his task whenever that task ends an hour later a year later a day later whatever whenever it is not a a year later cuz no one could go that long but let's say an hour later or 5 hours later or or a day l later uh at the end of his task that's it he finished his job that second he becomes impure and he has to go through a whole purification process now this confused even SCH where he says this is this is too big for me not just this mitvah but the entire t meaning that this mitvah teaches us that the t is not something that's always going to make sense to us and in fact all of the times that it does make sense to us these are not really the real reasons of why we should fulfill what the Torah says that was the problem of korak korak says that as long as something doesn't make sense to him he's not going to do it he doesn't understand why decided that a single string should be therefore it's uh that's what uh to commanded but he says no but what if I have the whole thing is shouldn't that be better rationally K is Right biblically Torah wise he's wrong is wrong so K didn't like that the same thing goes with people today that cannot understand free choice how can I have free choice if Hashem knows the future and you sometimes have different types of Heretics that tell you yeah Hashem doesn't really know the future he knows as much as you do or they'll tell you different things that make sense to them or perhaps you'll hear people that say listen we can't prove the Torah 100% but we have a uh it's safe to say that it's certainly right meaning we're not 100% sure this is not quite heresy but it's definitely stupidity spiritual stupidity so a person needs to know that even though there are certain things in the Torah that are not going to make sense to you you should know these are not the only things that don't make sense to you because even the things that do make sense to you they only make sense to you because AEM allowed it to make sense to you but that's not the real reason of why Hashem instilled those things into the world why he commanded those things the world the real reason of why everything in a toah is written the way it is why all of The Commandments in a toah are commanded the way they are is because it's the decree of the king that's the reason for everything the decree of the king hasem will it and that's how it is and this is something that a person must must accept if they want to serve a the second they don't accept it they're already going on the wrong path and unfortunately this is one of the things that many people don't realize don't think too much of they simply like to accept what they like to accept and reject what they want to reject and unfortunately such people end up putting themselves in a very very great Jeopardy of going to Gom for a very very long time getting punished for a very long time and since a does not want to punish his children what ends up happening is that hasem tests those people in those very same things that they have doubts in order to force them to arrive at a conclusion and of course the right conclusion but that doesn't necessarily always work because in order to arrive at the right conclusion according to the to says a person has to be like water what's like water he has to be humble like water that always goes down to the bottom to the lowest level a person has to be humble a person has to be uh has to acquire humility and not just talk about humility but actually acquire humility many people will say humility is very important why they themselves are the most arrogant people on planet Earth so it's important for a person to know that humility is not just something that you can talk about and thereby acquire it it's something you literally have to work on in order to see things from the right perspective and of course the only true way to get to humility is through the Torah itself and seeing how great the Torah is and how great our God is so now the Kish has uh uh taught us uh over the last several weeks several strategies that we uh we able to uh utilize in our day-to-day life of how to eliminate the bad things how to acquire the good things first and foremost to realize that there is one master bad character trait and one master good trait the master bad trait is simply giving up just I was born this way I'm going to die this way mentality where they simply don't want to change a person that does not see the need for thems to change and become better is certainly a person that is going to become the worst person on planet Earth as they grow older as they age now they may say listen I know I need to change but simply decide to do nothing about it that's not very different that's not very different than outright claiming I'm I was born this way I'm going to die this way mentality that's the worst character trait people like this all of that terrible uh uh all of their terrible decisions their anger their stinginess their their their arrogance whatever whatever things they have all of those things stem from an arrogance that simply accept me as I am accept me as I am is a liberal mentality which is in essence telling you I have all of the worst flaws on planet Earth and I don't want to change them not for you not for me not for anybody else you have to accept me as I am this is unfortunately a very common character trait is a very common mentality that is has become more and more popular in the world today where people simply say listen if you don't accept me as I am that means you don't love me no loving you has nothing to do with accepting you as you are accepting you as you are is the true meaning of it is meaning that I'm going to do whatever I can to help you I'm going to do everything that I can to support you so long as you are willing to help yourself so long as you love yourself the mentality of today is accept me as I am means that I'm going to be the most run person in the world I'm going to punch you in the face I'm going to I'm going to throw a a a dung into your food I'm going to steal from you rob from you and and do everything to provoke you in a negative way and you're going to accept me as I am you're going to love me anyway this is a terrorist mentality a spiritual terrorist a communist a socialist a psycho whatever you want to call it either way this mentality is certainly wrong but unfortunately it's become more and more common and that's actually been one of the seeds that has breeded into this homosexuality LGBT ABC nonsense that they have out there I have strange desires to be like a beast I have strange desires to be like some type of uh uh animal and you should accept me as I am and in fact you should be like me also this type of mentality all stems from arrogance it comes from arrogance all of it one of my dear students recently told me that she was surprised to find out how arrogant her husband is we've been trying to help her husband for a very long time trying to get him to learn to trying to get him to do what he's supposed to be doing but he simply refused he says yeah he's scared he's he's a very Meek personality he's uh you know kind of one of those people that's scared of his own shadow and this and that and that's why he needs something soft maybe like a child maybe this obviously we know that's all nonsense that's just simply him you know that's his the mo that's the way he portrays himself after a while you realize this guy doesn't accept anything that doesn't agree with his predisposition whatever he doesn't already uh think if uh if it you you approach him with it he doesn't agree with it he has his own way this is all arrogance how did she eventually come to terms with the fact that the root of all evil that is in our husband that's still a decent person but nonetheless has the the in him what's the root of it arrogance why when he simply refused to accept a better job than he had in the past because the new company refused to give him the title that he wanted this is obviously a deluded mentality but nonetheless it's coming from arrogance many times people will will forsake a marriage a job opportunity a certain uh certain uh certain benefit because of some super official nonsense how are people going to look at it what's my business card going to say what's the what's the number on the house what color is this what color is that all types of superficial nonsense and it's very very important for a person to recognize where they stand in order to know how to heal themselves hence the reason why the Kaz says the worst part the worst mid the mother of all bad midot is when you simply accept yourself as you are and refuse to change on the other hand the best character trait is the one where a person says I'm going to do everything I possibly can everything within my power which changes over time to improve myself if I see that there is something that I'm not good at if I see that there's a weakness if I see myself get angry quickly if I see myself uh having a hard time being generous if I see myself uh you know uh bringing myself to as a uh as a chief among others and I to think as if I'm better than others I see different weaknesses in myself I have to obviously catch myself and start working on those things now of course you can't work on everything overnight hence the reason why part two of this chapter uh uh of this uh section three of chapter 4 is the K says you have to break things up you have to break things up you have to break those character traits those negative character traits that you identified into pieces because once you've broken them up into pieces it's easier to deal with them and that's where we were last week when the brought the MNA in the name of ranan B Zak who asks his students to bring something that's going to teach a person how to live a purposeful life each one of the students came up with something Rabel said a good eye having a good eye not just for your own things but for other things being happy for other people looking at things in a positive way seeing things in a positive way not necessarily being Mr pessimist and calling yourself Mr honest or Mr realistic being an honest person does not mean that you have to be a pessimistic person it's important to see the positive in things and of course the same token not be a delusional person and only see positive when there's negativity in front of you so it's uh important to have a good eye Rua says a good friend you have a friend you have somebody that uh that you call a friend how do you determine who your friend is who is the one that's going to tell you the truth if you need to hear it if that person is your friend then yeah he's really your friend if he's going to tell you the truth if she's going to tell you the truth about you going against theem or you doing a good thing or you doing a bad thing uh she's going to tell you the truth when the time comes then she really is your friend he really is your friend but if if not then they're not really your friend they're an acquaintance they're just somebody that you like to have lunch with or have coffee with they're not your friend typically the friend is a person that's a study partner it's a person that you learn with because you both are in a uh you know on a journey to uh for the truth but many times people have have a lot of best friends this is my best friend that's my best friend I have 87 best friends when a person has 87 best friends or five best friends that means they have zero friends that's a reality why you meet any meet any old man and he ask that old man how many friends do you have just the nature of your question will make the old man laugh why because you said friends friends no I don't have any friends if you have one friend already in an old age that means you're already a very rich man why because the reality is as you grow older you realize that many people cannot be your friend either because they have a certain interest that's against your interest they have a certain bias that's that's in essence something that's unacceptable to you or perhaps they just simply care only about themselves or perhaps they don't care enough about you or perhaps they're now willing to invest into the relationship or perhaps they're one of these leeches that only wants to take take take take that's not a friend that's a leech you could put them in a uh some type of pond or something or a lake and uh they they belong there rather than being a friend or there's simply a person that's only there when there is something uh good going on but anytime there's tough times they somehow disappear they're somehow on business trips they're somehow on vacation they're never there for you when you actually need them or you need to ask them for everything they simply are never really there to uh check on you and again it's if you need to be checked on that's something that you cire from your friend last but not least they wait for things to go wrong even though they see it because they don't want to offend you they're not really an honest friend they're simply a friend that's going to be that Monday Morning Quarterback that's going to tell you all the things you should have done these are not friends a friend is a person that's going to tell you what you're doing wrong when you're doing it not that the second that you're doing it in they top on top of you because nobody wants to hear rebuke every second but again they're going to be conscious of the fact that you're best interest has to be in their mind and last but not least not necessarily uh be the type of person that's only your friend because you have something that they want most people simply cannot get to that they just simply do not have the ability to do it or the interest to do it or the time to do because they have their own things or they have somebody that perhaps is a better friend than you are so a person needs to realize that if you think you have friends you have nothing we'll also talk about the fact that if you think you have rabbis usually you have nothing you have no rabbis you're your own Rabbi why because there's no way that a person can have rabbis if unless this person is literally an extraordinary scholar that is learning from all and is able to accept all somehow in such a way that uh they could uh decipher who what when and how on every single detail and it's uh to say the least very very difficult if not impossible especially in our generation but nonetheless a person that is a uh looking for a friend has to look for the right things she's looking for a friend she has to look for right things if you're looking for somebody to have coffee with you're looking for somebody to waste your life talking to you're looking for things like that surely there are plenty of people there are eight billion people in the world that you could acquire yourself as a uh pretend friend but a real friend is someone that actually has to have actually care about you and you have to care about them and that brings us to the second point it's much easier says Ru 800 years ago to be be that good friend than to find that good friend much easier to be that good friend you're going to have a very hard time finding that good friend but it may not be as hard for you to be that good friend to be that good friend means that you have to care about somebody else's interest even if it negates yours you see that your friend is doing something that may end up costing you some type of loss but will generate them more profit and it will be actually more for their interest you would do what they're doing if you were them you have to give them that kind of advice for them to do what's in their interest many people are so uh uh connected to their own pockets and their own best uh uh interest that it's very hard for them to remove themselves from their own interest thereby making it impossible for them to be good friends so a person needs to try their best to be that good friend because perhaps as difficult as finding a friend is being that good friend they may have some more success in so now the next thing that uh the the sages said the of Zak said is being a good neighbor a good neighbor again very similar to a good friend but in a more of a general a good neighbor is a person that's going to uh invite you to the sh is going to invite you to come pray a good neighbor is going to be the one that's not going to look at your house with an evil eye and uh and wish that they had what you have look at your grass look at your house look at how many uh uh Outlets your house has to in order to determine how many rooms you have look at what car you have and whether it's new or it's old or what model it is and if it's the supercharge or it's just the standard and if you have power windows no a good neighbor is a person that's simply looking for your best interest and it's going to try to bring good to you that's a good neighbor much again similar to a friend much easier to be the good neighbor than to find the good neighbor because most neighbors unfortunately are people that are not interested in the best interest of their neighbor they're interested in their own interest so if they know that you have something an event or something that's going to create some uh uh noise that they have to deal with many times they're going to say listen you have to keep it down yeah but you realize that this event is not just for fun I could also get business out of it or I'm wetting off my son or my daughter They Don't Really Care why because they don't want their little three-year-old to wake up they don't want their 5-year-old to uh to wake up they want you to uh cut your event in half because they don't want to be uh uh Disturbed even for half a second so of course again everybody has to consider each other consider their friends consider their neighbors and uh try not to hurt each other but when a person is too uh particular about their own interest it is impossible for them impossible for them to ever be a good friend or a good neighbor why because they're only looking at their own good not the best better good not the team and that also makes these people terrible employees terrible Partners terrible uh uh uh colleagues why they're one team they're onean team they're not a team player a team player is a person that's always looking at the better good the greater good a person that's an individual that's a loner is unfortunately the worst person on Earth to work with when it comes to team efforts and this is unfortunately very common very common in the world today where you have talented people that simply are too arrogant to work with anybody else this is a uh a good and bad on one hand if you have a unique project that you need somebody to focus on it's good to have somebody that's a loner to work on the other hand if you want to build something that's going to that's going to scale that's going to grow that's going to be something significant you must use a team why because it saves you time it's it adds skills it adds a lot of different things and people that are not willing to work as a team are usually people that cannot last very long and they're simply there temporarily wherever they are it's always temporary they're never parked anywhere for very long so a person needs to see themselves look at themselves and say do I care about the team or do I care about myself if you care about yourself you have to look at wait does the team care that I care only about myself or does the team actually think that I care about the team because this is one of the things that a person needs to ask themselves in order to determine how to proceed in their life in their career in their marriage in their relationship in general to see where they stand if you know that your team that your marriage that your relationship of some kind doesn't really care and actually acknowledges and accepts the fact that you are a loner there's some wolf out there that simply uh uh kill or be killed mentality and They Don't Really Care by all means or better you said maybe a lion by yourself but if you are uh expected to be a team player but you're uh but you simply cannot bring yourself to do it you simply think that everybody else is uh mentally challenged they cannot be on your level or they're simply slowing you down then you yourself are actually the weakest link you yourself are the weakest link despite the talents and this is why if you see for example in corporations or in uh uh in sports many times the people that are the most talented don't end up uh succeeding very much because they can't work as a team the the best athletes out there many times they end up getting fired cuz no one wants to deal with them no one wants to deal with that individualistic mentality people want people to be a team player if a person doesn't want to be a team player then unfortunately this is a person that's bringing harm to themselves so this is one of the things that a person needs to acknowledge to see whether they themselves are that good friend or that good neighbor and rabish Shimon says to have a purposeful life you also have to have or develop the ability to see the consequences for your actions this is common sense that's not so common it's common sense to see the outcome of your actions this is something that you have to teach your children to think think before you do we all tell our kids to think before they do because they just uh they played uh they decide to climb the counter not thinking that they can fall they decide to play with glass not thinking that they can break they decide to play with all types of things not realizing that something bad can come out of it so we all tell our kids to actually think before you do we all educate them that way but the only problem is we forget to educate ourselves that way forget ourselves to think why because we're so amped up with our own anxiety and with our own desire to fulfill that anxiety that we forget to think we become like children we don't have any patience we want things right now we don't want to wait we don't want anyone to tell us what to do we want what we want when we want it and we forget to think and that's usually some soles most problems is when you give yourself enough time to think many times when people ask for guidance and I give them guidance and they actually listen they are amazed at how brilliant and how great oh this is amazing and the reality is there's no Brilliance it's simply I'm giving you advice from a different perspective you're inside the war and you want a uh a solution right now you have a certain desire you want to fulfill you have a certain anxiety you want to remove you're a certain problem that you can't see past I'm not in that problem I'm outside of the problem so I can see things from a clearer perspective and therefore give you advice based on that but sometimes I need to think about it so I don't respond for a day or two days or week or two weeks and people say oh what you don't care about my problem did you see my question or the best yet I sent you an email and you only responded with three words did you read my entire email if you don't think I read your entire email why did you send me the email in the first place if you don't trust that I'm going to be honest enough to give you advice only after I looked at the entire problem and you think that I'm only looking at part of the problem then why send me the email in the first place send it to somebody else I don't need the extra work anyway the problem is people want a solution the way they want it they want something the when they want it and if you don't give them what they want when they want they simply reject what you give them and you simply wasted your time this is the reason why Shalom one of the many times people would come with questions and he would ask them did you ask somebody else if you ask somebody else don't bother me with the question if you ask somebody else go to somebody else and they would ask him you know why don't you want the question he goes why do I need the headache why do I need the headache to deal with this question that they have if they want me if I'm going to be the only one they ask the question I'll give them an answer but if they're gonna go Rabbi shopping and they're going to ask 57 different rabbis the same question why do I need to burden myself with with this for what and this is something what what I tell people don't ask me a question you've asked multiple rabbis go to them it's perfectly fine you don't need to go to me if you've gone to other people why it's simply a waste of time because more times than not you're not going to listen to me anyway why waste my time and that's unfortunately something people don't take into account they're not a good friend they're not a good neighbor they're not a good student they're not a good anything they're simply selfish so a person needs to evaluate themselves by looking at the consequences if I ask this question what is that going to lead to okay that's going to lead to the uh the rabbi or the person spending time on this question well they could have spent that time on something else uh even if it's one second or 10 seconds or 10 years doesn't make a difference that time could have be spent on something else that attention could have been spent on something else do I really need to get it from them or can I get it on my own or did I already have it and I'm simply not happy with it why do I want to ask a person needs to look at things that way across the board before you go somewhere what's going to come out of this meeting before you meet somebody what's the purpose of this before you eat something what am I going to get out of this is this just to satisfy my sugar rush or it's simply because I'm hungry what am I going to get out of everything to see the consequences of everything and of course see the consequences of bad things when a person decides to do bad things to steal to cheat to lie to do all the things that are simply common sense that everybody knows think about it before you do it don't be one of these people that eats the food food without knowing that it doesn't have a kosher stamp and then you send me a picture of the rapper and say Rabbi it doesn't have a kosher stamp but is it okay that I ate this this is obviously a person that has perhaps maybe a few cockroaches in a mouse inside his head and not a brain why because this is a person that ate the food already now you're asking what's the point if I said no if I said yes what's the point if I said yes it's okay you pe yourself but you're going to do it again because you're going to feel safe that since it worked out the first time the next time you'll eat pig and say if if it wasn't a rapper oh listen 50/50 on the other hand if I say it's not okay nothing's going to change anyway why because you already ate it where you say oh what do I have to do Chua what do I do the chuva is you should never do what you just did again and learn about but unfortunately many people don't think this way they think I have a desire I need to fulfill that desire I have an anxiety I need to remove that anxiety go and everything is this fast food mentality everything is like Tik Tock everything is like Twitter everything is immediate uh uh gratification type of mentality this is the type of mentality that will lead a person into a life of Gom not just Gom itself that's after this life that could be Eternal but a life of Gom actually this world in Gom why because they're constantly going to make the wrong decisions they're constantly going to have to pay the consequences for those wrong decisions because they simply do not look at the consequences and they allow the anxiety or the desire to Simply control their mood to Simply control their lives nine out of 10 times if you simply sleep on it you'll get a solution nine out of 10 times if you simply wait you'll be more clear-minded in order to make the right decision but anytime a person wants immediate gratification more times than not they're assuring themselves of failure so a person needs to have according to rabish Shimon the ability to see the consequences then says a good heart a good heart that's what we learned last week you have to have a good heart surely this all requires constant repeating which I'll tell you again in a moment why we needed to repeat all of this again but the key is says you have to have a good heart you have to have a good heart why the good heart encompasses all of these things you cannot have a good heart without being good at all of these other things in essence what says that's the umbrella when you have all of these things you will achieve a good heart when you aspire to have a good heart it'll give you the uh the Boost and the uh uh the The Willpower to have a good eye to be a good neighbor to be a good uh uh uh friend to look at the consequences because one lives off of the other up to this is what we learned about last week and now we're going to continue and Ki says since the dis diseases of the spirit of the N vary according to the variations of human nature the sages were provided with varying Natures each Sage possessing personal and unique talents and so the many therapies and ways of the various sages in accordance with the wisdom of each one of them enable every person to find treatments for his bad traits when the sages talked about the straight way that a person should choose it was not a discussion aimed at reaching a dry verdict do this but rather its intention was to diagnose the disease correctly and provide the proper remedy for it this is the starting point According to which the should lay out the musar teachings to perfect one's morals set a study program arrange its chapters and present it to the public for study and review so that they can review it constantly until they are cured each one of these sages found in himself the capability he's talking about the sages that from mishar Shimon all of the sages each one of these sages found in himself the capability of helping people perfect their traits in a different way and he felt obligated to construct a system of M teachings based on that point which was to have a guaranteed effect if not for all then to thousands of those whose disease responds to these teachings and they were to find a cure for it in these repeated teachings Hashem gave of his wisdom to those who fear Him and each one takes what is allotted to him when ran B zakai spoke to his disciples he said to them go out and find meaning go out and compose a book of character trait development up to now is we're going to try to cover it's a lot of grounded but it's a lot of interesting points we try to cover so now first and foremost the Kish tells us that one of the keys to the problem is not necessarily the teacher and and not even necessarily the teachings but sometimes the problem the root of the problem is the student itself where he says that there are diseases spiritual diseases arrogance stinginess a uh person that is stubborn and so on and so forth all types of spiritual diseases and these diseases that people have they vary but they vary according to the variations of human nature meaning that you can't just say that if this guy has a problem of stinginess and another guy has a problem of stinginess they both have the same problem why because just as they are their faces are different the way they treat their spiritual sickness is different as well he is stingy and he is stingy but they're not necessarily the same typee of Stingy he could be stingy only when it comes to buying things for himself he does not want to buy anything for himself he'll eat last week's food just in order not to buy a new sandwich but if his wife tells him listen honey I uh I need to uh get a new uh dress for the next event he gives her here you go honey $5,000 go have a good time for himself he's not even willing to spend $5 to get a sandwich but if he comes to his family no problem if it comes to his house no problem comes to a lot of different things no problem that's a certain type of sickness another guy on the other hand he is very generous on himself he gets himself a nice Rolex $25,000 or more he gets himself a nice suit for two three $4,000 custom made he gets the guy to come to his house to measure him and everything he gets himself a very fancy house all types of chandeliers and so on he is very large but somebody comes for a donation I don't have I don't have anything you know what you know what he gives him some few coins that he found in his pocket that he's not even sure it's his or somebody just put it there there has some few coins and I think there's a single in there when it comes to giving sta he's a stingy get it's a very very sick person or worse yet a person that's stingy with the people of his own house he buys himself all the things but his wife she is limited she gets an allowance of $50 a week he could afford to give $50,000 a week but he gives a $50 why what do you need you have a house already you have a car you have a uh what do you have you have me you don't need anything so get $50 limit that's it a grown woman he's given $50 now of course if that's all he can afford because he himself in the whole house is limited to $50 no problem but the reality is when you're spending on yourself 25,000 on a watch and you have the audacity to give your wife an allowance of $50 you really should be put in spiritual jail that's what you should be put in should put in spiritual jail for such an attitude a person that stingy and his wife is a person that's destroying his life and needless to say a person like this makes a lot of different types of sins a lot of different types of sins so a person needs to know that this guy is stingy that guy is stingy but they're not the same type of Stingy and because they're stingy is different says the K the that deals with it has to also be different meaning you can't just say listen he had a stingy problem and he had a stingy problem and of course this this pertains to all problems it could be arrogance it could be uh ignorance it could be whatever it could be all things two people same problem title of the problem but they cannot go to the same why because just like their Spirit their spiritual sickness varies based on their own human nature the Sages have to sometimes vary sometimes the same Sage the same can deal with all of them but sometimes you have to go to a unique point you have to go to someone unique so the sages were provided with varying Natures each Sage possessing personal and unique talents sometimes there's going to be a that understands your spiritual sickness he says oh you're stingy with your wife I understand I understand why you're you with your wife it's not because you don't love your wife it's in fact because you love your wife too much he's like yeah how' you know Rabbi I know I know I know it's not that you love her so much you're afraid to lose her too yeah Rabbi she told you how how do you know yeah I know I know I know it's not only that you love her so much you're afraid to lose her but you're afraid that if you give her more than $50 she's going to run away from you Guy starts crying Bo yeah Rabbi you read my heart no no it's your your spiritual sickness I've diagnosed it several other times before you are simply stingy because of your jealousy you're jealous because of your insecurity you're insecure because you have noem and you have no because you yourself are not serving him the right way huh yeah so you see he has the perfect diagnosis for this person as if he went inside his heart and read everything in there and he told him go this why I got his a report on the other hand is another guy the other guy he's not stingy when it comes to his wife he's stingy when it comes to other things he's stingy on him on his own doesn't want to buy himself a sandwich or he's stingy when it comes to Saka or he's stingy when it comes to helping other people and that Rabbi says I I can do nothing for him what do you mean but but you helped this other guy that was uh like one of the 10 plagues how can you not help it's not that I can't help that guy I'm not the source not the source I'm not the vessel that can help such a person for different reasons either because my expertise is simply not enough to heal his problem I don't have the medicine for him or other reasons it could be because he simply will not accept it from me he is so arrogant that he is certain that his way is perfect that he is being Frugal not cheap he is rationalized as evil and I simply can't help him I can't help a person that can't help themselves that doesn't want to help themselves that doesn't think they need help or better yet I'm revolted by his stinginess or his flaw whatever it is so much I just can't bring myself to help him it's like somebody telling you listen you want to work I want to work you want to make money I want to make money you want to make good money want to make good money you want to make $5,000 $10,000 a month sure how much do you make now two oh so this is more than what you're making sure okay we have a job for you okay fantastic when do I what do I do oh you're going to work for the sanitation department you're going to be the guy that all of the trucks from all over the city are going to bring their filth that everybody has in their houses they're going to bring it to the center you're going to be the guy that processes the whole thing and then after you press it through the machines through the a little bit of broom a little bit of sponge a little bit of this a little bit of you're going to be the guy that makes sure that the room is clean at the end of the day how about that 10,000 a month listen I told you I want a job I want to make a living I didn't tell you I want to commit suicide no we didn't tell you commit suicide we just told you that's a job yet that's a job it's not for me it's not for me I'm disgusted by it some people not disgusted by it how do I know there's people doing it there's people doing it there's people doing all types of things there are some people that literally they work with manure all day and they make a fortune out of it they make a Fortune out of manure in fact in thear it says that the uh the guy that was a uh uh that was the uh uh InCharge of all the horses of he was a wealthy wealthy man he had hundreds of horses the guy that was in charge of all of his horses became Filthy Rich from what one of his payments that rebi would give him would be the manure of all the horses and he had so much he became filthy rich now of course you could say oh that's a dirty job pH okay but it's a lot of money too some people are willing to do that if you're not then it's not a job for you the point being is that when you're dealing with people you have to know your own limitations as a teacher either this student is simply not going to accept you as a teacher why they don't see you as the vessel they see the truth but not with you they see you may have the truth but they don't want it from you or perhaps you simply are disgusted by him you don't want to doubt them you have no connection say yeah but isn't the teacher supposed to do this supposed to do that yes at the end of the day they're all human at the end of the day nobody is mosu everybody understands their own limitations and it's better you know your limitations than pretend and end up destroying more than you built so a person needs to know says that the diseases vary just like human human beings vary the sages were provid divided with a varying natures and each Sage possesses personal and unique talents so not only does the student have to have a acknowledgment that they have a problem and there is a solution out there and they need to get the solution from that but the also needs to know if this student is the right fit too if this student is the right fit too I know a few very very serious they refuse to have students refuse refuse under all conditions to have students they'll take questions from people from time to time but they refuse for anybody to call them their students why they say they're not going to listen to me anyway no no they listen you said do they yeah today they listen next week they're not going to listen the second I tell them something that they're uh disagrees with them they're not going to listen why do I need that headache why do I need that Agony that I told him something he didn't listen and now there's trouble because of it why do I need that for nobody's my student and many refuse to have students refuse why I can tell you from experience it's much easier life to not have students much easier life not because you're looking for ease because you're not looking for The Agony and the pain of people simply not listening when you're trying your best to help them so a person needs to know where they stand if you are not the vessel don't push yourself if you are holding a problem you have a problem you have to literally look as hard as possible to get a solution to get a wise doctor meaning a rabbi to help you with that problem now and so the many therapies says the Kish and ways of the various SES in accordance with the wisdom of each one of them enable every person to find treatments for his bad traits when the sages talked about the straight way that a person should choose it was not a discussion aimed at reaching a dry verdict do this but rather its intention was to diagnose the disease correctly and provide the proper remedy for it here we see that after we've identified the problem you've identified you've come to terms with the fact that you're not perfect perhaps you were born perfect but you've ruined it since then or you've realized that you haven't been perfect your whole life whatever the case may be you're not perfect and you need to work on things how do you know you're not perfect ask your spouse do they complain about you about anything if they do that means you're not perfect even if you disagree with them certainly they're right about something if your colleagues complain about something regarding to you that means you're not perfect if you yourself complain about something about yourself that means you're not perfect so once you've D you you realize that there's a problem you find yourself a that's not only willing to help you but is capable of helping you capable of helping you once you have found that person you start learning as much as you possibly can you start doing whatever you can because this is able to treat your bad traits and when the sages in the mishna said go find a straight path to to choose from they were not telling you listen if you do this everything will work out after it but rather they're trying to tell you different things to look for in order to diagnose the root of the problem the root of the problem many times the root of the problem will give you a solution in itself sometimes a person say listen I can't stand this person every time I go to work they uh they they look at me funny every time I go to work they make a funny comment every time I go to work they're parked in my spot and so on and so forth so you think the root of the problem is this person the truth is it's probably not why it could be your insecurity your lack of amuna your jealousy it could be other things and most likely it is other things so the is not supposed to tell you listen you know what just ignore that person it's bothering you that person bothers you why don't you get a different job or you can't get a different job why don't you go to a different department oh there's only one Department uh why don't you just ignore that person pretend like they're not there that's not fixing the problem that's like putting a Band-Aid on a heart attack so a person that wants to that goes to a that is going to tell you the root of the problem and the root of the problem is not that person that you are so red up about what is it it's you you are the root of the problem your mentality is the root of the problem you the think that you're underappreciated because you're an arrogant person and think that the world owes you a thanks or you think that the world hates you because you're self-conscious or you simply are just you know lying to everybody pretending to be something that you're not and you're afraid that they're going to find out and this is one of the people that calls you out all the time or a whole list of other different issues the root of the problem is you now where is the problem with all of this the problem is not with the teacher if you actually found the to teach you then surely he's not the problem so how come everybody still walks around with practically uh uh uh uh critical or chronic spiritual illnesses one of the reasons is because people hear the medicine except accept the medicine and then think the treatment is over and move on to somewhere else they move on to something else they figure oh I had an issue I was stingy I was arrogant I was this I was that I heard this lecture I heard this advice I had this meeting I listened I took it into account it helped I'm done that's the problem you have now created a new problem what's the new problem you have created a new mentality thinking that you can first and foremost fix all of your problems that easily two you have limited this into a single issue meaning that you have taken whatever advice you took from that Torah teacher and applied it to your life and that's it and you ignore the rest of the issues assuming that since the other issues are not making any noise therefore you don't need to work on them and in essence took the gift that Hashem gave you and threw it in the garbage now sometimes a person says no no I took the advice but I also take other advice I have many teachers I have many rabbis that I listen to but yet your spouse continu to complain about you but yet you're still unmarried because no one wants to marry you but yet you still can't even afford to buy yourself lunch because hem doesn't give you blessing with P but yet there's not a day that there's not a war in your house but yet you still cannot figure out what is the purpose of life despite all of your teachers why just like a person that says they have a lot of friends in reality that means they have none a person that says I have many teachers that means they have none because one of the things that Theon teaches here is that that cure that you got that that you found that possesses that cure that's just the beginning there's an endless amount more that you need from that source and in fact even the original medicine that you got is not enough in order to keep that spiritual illness at Bay and you have to keep going back how long forever this is one of the secrets of success to when they glue to their rebi this is one of the secrets of success to real as they have a rabbi that they listen to a their of a certain Rabbi there a certain Rabbi that's who they go to that's how who they ask they don't look right or left this is one of the verses of the Tora that tells us not to look a rabbi tell something don't look right or left one of the uh one of the implications is that a person has to make themselves a rabbi and simply ask and do everything that that Rabbi says why because there are many spiritual illnesses that you possess right now that you may not even be aware of and unless you continue to yearn as much as you possibly can from the same exact source and continue to repeat the things you already had and needed and and and and helped you as well as new stuff at some point or another you're going to Veer the wrong way but what about the thought process of many teachers many different types of guidance that's wrong why is it wrong because although those teach teachers may be good they're not necessarily Heretics they may be good teachers but they possess medicine that doesn't help you what's the proof look at you you have five teachers but you still have no blessing you have five teachers you still have a horrible marriage you have five teachers you still don't know anything you have five teachers but you still have all the problems in the world and no idea how to solve them when you had the one teacher you also had more focus in your life why he possessed that cure you had five teachers you have no cures so this is one of the things that we see here from the K that these they are in essence trying to help you diagnose the disease and provide a proper remedy for it and just like there are many types of diseases based on the many types of people there are also different types of wisdoms that the sages themselves possess not all sages have all wisdoms or the wisdom that you require so a person needs to know these things in order to know where to go and what to what to do if you have a Al question there is an Rabbi if you have a personal issue that may also be solved by an Rabbi or somebody else but the person needs to know that whoever they go to they have to see this as the only solution and not this is one of the possible medicines that I may take when you go to different places it's like going to three different pharmacies or you go to one Pharmacy in the west that has practically every medicine under the Sun so headaches okay I'm going to take Adil Tylenol store brand and something I'm not really sure but it has a uh some symbol on it I'm GNA take this one too I'll just take all four pills and pray to hasem it all works out pray to hasem you don't die that's what you should pray to Hashem because the reality is you take everything just to see everything works out everyone normal realizes that's dangerous see same concept and even more so when a person learns from everybody that's not the way to do it now you're going to say wait a minute but didn't say yes says I learned from all of my students I learned everywhere I can there is learning and then there's learning meaning there are different things that you can learn from there's an article there's a Shure there's a whatever it is there's all types of things you can learn from but there is a source source that you in essence get everything from all of your spiritual nourishment is supposed to come from that main source everything else is extra Whenever there is a uh uh you know extra time if that extra time exists Unfortunately today with the growth of the internet the Torah World also grew and what ends up happening is that many people for whatever reason or another don't feel that it's enough to get their spirit spiritual n nourishment from a single teacher they feel like they need to listen to three or four or five or six or seven different rabbis and I've been young and I've been old and I've never seen a single person achieve the status of a having five different rabbis it simply does not exist you listen to three four five different rabbis every single week you simply know nothing nothing not only do you not know what you think you know but you don't know anything why because each Rabbi has a different way a different uh conclusion a different thought process and in essence a different cure that may or may not jive with your n if it drives with your n then certainly that's something you should get everything you possibly can go to his books from 500 years ago go to every one of the sources that he mentions go to Every Shure literally invest every little bit of yourself into that Source but if you watch a Shure and nothing changes for you it's interesting it's mentally stimulating but it's not going to cause you to do anything in your life guess what that means that even if that teacher is a good teacher that helps many many other people he's not your source and he never will be and all you're doing is wasting your time that's all you're doing and unfortunately many times I hear people say yeah no listen I have a serious schedule I listen to this and I read this and I do this and I said wait how do you do all this you still don't know anything how how do you do all of this and you still don't know anything this is the this is one of the reasons this is one of the reasons where a person has many different choices but in reality that subconsciously puts thems in a situation where they're saying listen I have this sh and in this Shure he talked about the parasa and he said don't be a liar don't be a heretic don't be this yeah but let me see what Rabbi X also says and he listens to Rabbi X and Rabbi X talks about something completely different different completely different idea in the par what does that do that Rabbi now takes away what he was supposed to learn what he was supposed to learn now is his mind is on Rabbi X's idea why because Rabbi X's idea is more appealing it requires nothing it requires him to do nothing he likes doing nothing she loves doing nothing she listens to 10 20 30 different rabbis and guess what the combination of all of them requires her to do nothing because the second one of those 20 has the audacity to tell to put a the second one of those rabbis has the audacity to tell her to be modest what does she do click I'm going to a different Rabbi I don't like when the rabbi talks uh tough I I like him when he's nicer he talks about amuna he talks about SCH he talks about cooking he talks about kosher he talks about the subjects that I like today he's uh maybe he's in a bad mood I'm going to go to Rabbi B I'm going to go to Rabbi C I'm going to go to Rabbi e what ends up happening 20 years she's listened to nothing changes why she doesn't have a rabbi she doesn't have a source they're all good but she's not good he's not good and there Li thereby the outcome is rotten rotten this is also the same thing where sometimes I've seen this with my own eyes honestly if I didn't see this with my own eyes I wouldn't know how to explain this to you I had a guy who will called himself is my for a while he doesn't call himself my anymore thank God thank God a million times maybe I should said 100 just to say thank you hasem for not allowing such a thing to to to call himself anything connected to what I do this guy literally every other day you would ask me what give me more titles of books I one of my books he would literally buy every book Under the Sun every book under the sun he would tell me listen I finished this book this I'm like wow this guy's a genius how do you finish all these books one book one book another book another book another book and it was all you know musar book and the Mauna books and all types of books and this guy was like literally eating the books amazing but yet nothing changed he was still a thief was still a liar still rotten and how do I know I experienced it from this person everything stayed rotten why he was looking delving into things superficially yeah he read the words but applied zero why because it's always another book this Rabbi said don't be a liar with business okay so I'm not okay fine let me see what this other Rabbi says oh this guy said don't be a liar when marriage so maybe marriage is more important all right I guess since I'm not married I don't have to worry about it yeah what about the don't lying in business no listen if don't lying in business was so important this Rabbi would also mention it since he didn't mention it then it's probably not that important this Rabbi is probably stringent maybe somebody took advantage of him and that's why he said don't be a liar in business and they start putting all types of foreign thoughts into the mouth of of the why they're delving into everywhere and accepting nothing accepting nothing this is unfortunately a very very common problem today because Torah has become so accessible that literally with the Press of a button you could go to application press play end up in ganeden or you could press play at some other website and go to G why they give you a choice of a thousand different rabbis with a thousand different Ash some of them are Heretics some of them are actually Christians and some of them only who knows what they are and some are good and since you like to delve around like you buy different vegetables every week you D different salads every week different rabbis every week and what ends up happening the Cure exists but you refuse it you reject it why Hashem sent you the Cure we said maybe there's something easier maybe there's something sweeter maybe there's something that uh I don't even have to take maybe there's a cure out there that I don't even have to take it I don't have to do anything about it maybe that's the Cure doing nothing and thereby lies the failure that a person brings on themself continues the Kish continues Kish and says this is the starting point According to which theam should lay out a musar teachings to perfect one's morals set a study program arrange its chapters and present it to the public for study and review so that they can review it constantly until they they are cured here is the whole point of what I've been saying saying it ahead of when I read it where if a person has found some that they are reading his book or watching his sh or attending them or whatever it is and they attended and they got the that that addressed their issue whatever issue they had it helped them it applied to them and they utilized it and it worked that person should literally sell their house if they have to just to get more from that Source why that's the cure for every spiritual element that they have but if they go to sh and all they hear about is the business success of this guy in his uh side companies and all they hear about is how he likes to go on vacations and all they hear about is how you should be nice to people because one time he was nice to somebody and that somebody ended up being a good customer or something like that but in reality they not really helping their issues all they need to do is run out and never return why they don't have the Cure anyway maybe next time if they don't have the Cure they don't have the Cure even if they have a cure for somebody else doesn't mean they have a cure for you because the one that has the cure for [Music] you you need to do whatever you can to adopt their study plan their study program the one that they've arranged the one that they're presenting to the public study it review it constantly until you're cured of what of everything everything every single ailment that you have everything you may say wait but maybe he's good at teaching ala but he's not good at teaching Musa you may be right those are two completely different uh subjects perhaps usually it's not common for one to be good with one and not necessarily good at the other but some people just specialize in one thing I personally don't necessarily teach Al on a regular basis I teach here and there during the sh but I expect people to read books in order to learn most of what they need to learn because it's so easy to learn Al that that pertains to your day-to-day life and if somebody has a questions of course we can answer it but the point being is is that the shim themselves the lectures themselves are for the general public regardless of where they stand whether they are new students old students uh B converts from birth R doesn't make a difference M applies to everybody this is why we had to have all types of students from all over the world at all different levels people that are searching the truth are glued to the screen when they watch the sh but unfortunately one of the difficult parts that you have to see is that people fall off at some point they go they learn they get the they start transforming their lives and then somehow they disappear one day as if they're like air as if they were never there it was like a ghost on the internet they just disappear and I'm not just talking about their donations disappear or their likes on Facebook and and YouTube disappear they literally disappear there's no more messages there's no more acknowledgement there's no more responses nothing sometimes it comes from shame that they haven't been around sometimes it comes because they're busy but sometimes it's because they found something more appealing and typically the more appealing is destroying them the more appealing is typically something that is giving them the comfort that whatever they're doing is enough yeah but when they first started with you they knew right away they weren't doing enough and then they changed yes but then after doing more and more and more and more and the Torah obligating them to do more and more they fell for the Trap of the Satan who came to them said listen there's another guy there's another woman raban another Rabbi really really nice very popular wrote 17 books must be good try it out and they do and guess what they enjoy it not only is the speaker compelling not only is the speaker smart mentally stimulating good stories but the best part is compels them to do nothing obligates them to do nothing why the goal of every lecture is to remind them to love themselves as they are and do nothing about it simply love yourself trust yourself and don't push yourself too far you may destroy yourself in the process and guess what they do destroy themselves by running away from a cure that grows with time into neutrality and eventually destruction and when that teacher comes back into the picture somehow he says hey how are you how everything I haven't heard from you in six months oh no everything is everything is good everything is good and they say you know what since I saw this teacher or somebody recommended let me press play again I used to like this guy and they press play and all of a sudden ah they can't deal with it why he reminds them that they're still arrogant he reminds them that they're still stingy he reminds them that they've become less modest than they were 6 months ago he reminds that in reality this new teacher or teachers have actually been slowly but surely destroying them and their spirituality and they're not ready to change like they were when they first started on the road five years ago so what do they do I'm going back to my regular teacher he he's he's more up to dat he's more up to date he he makes me feel good makes me feel good about being a sinner and that's why the says that a person needs to find the study program study it review it constantly until your problems are cured until your problems are cured if it cured that original issue it can cure all of the issues the second you start delving into other things you are simply taking things that are at best neutral at worst poison each one of these sages says the Kish found in himself the capability of helping people perfect their traits in a different way and he felt obligated to construct a system of musar teachings based on that point which was to have a guaranteed effect if not for all then to many thousands of those whose disease response to these teachings and they were to find a cure for it for these teachings Hashem gave of his wisdom to those who fear Him and each one takes what is allotted to him when Zak spoke to his disciples he said to them go out and find meaning go out and compose a book of character trait development see here the Kish is in essence telling us if you search enough in the world of tah certainly you will find many some of them put themselves out there like the of Zak as teachers not just as students but they want to teach people they feel an obligation to teach people says a person that learns T without an intention of teaching anybody other than themselves is like a person that does not have a God why because in order when you learn Torah you in essence get closer to hasem the more you get the closer you get tohm the more you want to emulate Hashem one of the main things to emulate about hhm is that he always gives if a person learns learns learns and gets all the gifts from Hashem and doesn't want to give and share that with others that's like a person doesn't have a God so surely all teach somebody they teach their kids they teach their their spouse they teach a a group of people but there are some out there that teach the public they teach everybody either way if you go out into the Torah world you're going to find some you're going to find some people that are wise just because they're wise and just because they possess the Cure it doesn't mean that the Cure is for you if you have found someone that's not only a that's honest that's not only that's honest but also has the Cure and not only that's honest that has the Cure but the Cure is for you you literally have to do everything you possibly can to glue yourself through that as much as you possibly can and literally run away from everything else that distracts your attention why because everything else may be good just not for you we're not talking about the Heretics and the Liars anymore and and all the people that are changing the Torah that we've already done we've covered it time and time again we're talking about assume that there are let's say a hundred really good teachers out there a thousand a million whatever it is just because they're good and all honest and all wise and all great doesn't mean that they're for you you may have a foot problem and thereby going to a heart doctor is not going to solve it why he's an expert but in Hearts not in feet you show him your foot he's going to show he's going to tell you put your shoes on and get out of my office like nothing has nothing to do with what I do so even though there is going to be many wise people doesn't mean they're all going to be right fit for you so a person needs to know that there are going to be there are going to be wise people out there and a person has to make themselves a not only a rabbi but literally a a source for all of their spiritual nourishment in order to actually fix themselves because when they try to delve into multiple types of wisdoms they end up with nothing in the end you know it's like saying either be a master of all trades uh a master of of a trade um I'm sorry be a uh um a master of none when you know a lot of different things you end up being a master of none there's an expression I'm forgetting it escapes me don't forget I forget to but not this uh I won't forget to and I forget this but the point is is that a person sometimes will uh uh will sometimes delve into a lot of different things and end up acquiring nothing nothing in the end nothing and this is why the have succeeded have succeeded because they Glu to a central Source now of course when you get yourself into a uh situation like that and you tell some people that do not respect do not respect rabbis do not respect anybody that's not themselves or anyone that's alive you'll tell them listen this is my teach teacher this is my Rabbi and they're going to tell you listen your Rabbi may be good but I have a different Rabbi why don't you listen to this guy why don't you read this book if you tell them no because you're okay with what you have they take offense to it why your Rabbi knows everything there there are other people don't know stuff he's not the only one now if you argue with them you're simply wasting your time why if they think that you can just recommend any Rabbi to any one that means that they themselves are spiritually sick and do not have anyone to cure them because they don't accept anyone that has a cure they think you could just recommend good speeches good stories Whenever However and create that as the source of information for you for this period of 6 months a different source of information for you for the next 6 months and the next six months another one and they think that it's okay that you have all of these teaching and unfortunately what ends up happening with people like this is they never really truly acquire knowledge they never acquire knowledge now there was a um a that uh was very very successful and but very very humble that the mentions in his in his a number 16 that talks about say make yourself a rabbi in order to eliminate the doubts to show us to what extent to what extent a person sticks to the truth and also to what extent that can save a person when they allow that to do so so there was a true story about a Daniel yaf who was a uh was a uh very successful very uh generous and also knew a lot of Torah and uh but more than Torah is generosity paved him a uh paved him a road to admire this Daniel yaf he uh lived about uh 250 years ago 260 years ago and uh he made a fortune in banking and then after banking he uh made a lot of money in other businesses but he wasn't always Rich when he was a young boy he uh was learning in a and then uh he was learning with another guy named uh David wariner now David wariner learned toah with him and and everything but he didn't have the same success in business after uh the Torah world after Yesa and the two obviously went in different ways many many years decades passed and David warsh was still a poer didn't have much money one day David wanted to marry off his uh his daughter and uh his neighbor who admired David and his son being a said to him listen I uh want to my son to marry your daughter but the only thing is we need uh you know we need your daughter I want my son to continue uh learning and uh your daughter definitely is a sadik so but I want your uh I want myself son to continue learning so I need you to come up with some money so I'm only willing to allow my son to marry your daughter if uh your uh if you come up with $10,000 for them to start off their life now David said listen as much as I would love my daughter to marry your uh righteous son that's a and surely can be something great one day I don't have access to that kind of money this is more money than I have this is more money than not only for her this more money than I have for a house I don't have any kind of money so his neighbor says yeah listen you told me one time that he used to be in a learning T when you were a kid with Daniel yaf you know he's become very very successful why don't you go to him and ask him for to help you surely an old friend can help you David said you know what why not a go if he's so successful and we know each other surely he gives staka why not help an old friend why not help my daughter get married sure he found out where he is and he uh went to go visit him now 40 years have passed so when he first saw him you know Daniel yafi didn't recognize who he is so he was planning oh here has a few dollars goes you don't recognize who I am he says no you remember and he mentioned something that they learned together 40 years he goes oh David my dear friend oh it's been so long and they hugs and it kisses and how are you how are you how are you how's everything and they start talking and he's like yeah listen I uh wanted to tell you I wanted to see maybe you could help me and uh I'm trying to marry off my daughter and uh you know she's a really good girl she's she found nice and uh you know listen a uh I didn't have the same fortune as you the best fortune that I have is that remember that time when I had that pocket knife and uh you know you uh you liked my pocket knife and I told you listen you know I'm willing to give it to you but what are you willing to pay for it and you said listen how about this you give me that pocket knife and I'll give you every penny that I have after I have $10,000 everything I'll give you that's the most I ever had and I give you that pocket knife now Daniel yaff didn't just think that his friend David was mentioning that story he thought that he actually means that he has to deliver on that promise immediately D offit got sick he didn't feel good he started sweating profusely his friend dby says you okay CU yes yes but why don't we uh get together later today perhaps come back at 4:00 so I can rest a little bit so sure no problem they part ways and Daniel yaf runs to his house goes to his wife and says my dear wife I'm sorry to tell you but we are completely broke she okay my dear husband I still love you still accept it still live with you but can you tell me why he tells her listen my old friend David just reminded me of a promise that I made I made a promise 40 years ago that I wanted this knife that he had and I told him that I'm willing to pay him every penny that I have after I acquire $10,000 and now he's come to collect it so I have to give him all of our money because I took the knife his wife was a very wise woman she says listen perhaps you do but I don't think you do because when you made that promise you didn't have as much money as you have right now and you didn't even know if you're ever going to have $10,000 at all and more so you could have paid him earlier meaning that as soon as you got 10,000 11,000 you could have given them the 1,000 so we need to go to AR he says sure yeah of course we have to go to the rabbi and they are both ready to accept the dean from their Rabbi that's going to tell them what he has to do meaning he is already ready to part with all of his wealth the wife is ready to part with all of their wealth we're talking about Millions here we're not talking about he has 20,000 they go to one of the great sages of the time and knows a student and says yes what's the problem and he tells him he says my dear student you have a good heart but you don't owe him anything according to De T you don't owe him anything and he gives him all of theic reasons of why he doesn't owe him anything you didn't when you made the promise it wasn't under these types of conditions when this all different details we'll go over perhaps another time we go into dissect this story and he says to them don't be distraught this is a classic case of a person who attempts to transfer the ownership of something that he doesn't that doesn't exist where at the time that you own the knife that you took the knife you had no money at all and therefore the transaction that you made by taking the knife for a potential possession that you don't own at all was not really a transactionally that's binding and therefore your friend David was uh you know was aware of this and he only gave you the knife because he wanted to make you feel good not because he actually expected you to deliver on your promise but he knew that you're not going to take it for nothing so to make you feel good he said yes to your offer you're a good friend so Lally you don't owe him anything so after he explains this to him Daniel yafi accepts the dean and he com comes back to his friend they meet at 4:00 at 4:00 he opens a suitcase takes out $100,000 he says here his friend David shocked says whoa no that's too much I I don't need all this much I just I just need 10,000 for my daughter this is way too much David yaf is confused goes what do you means too much you came and told me that I owe you everything Beyond 10,000 this 100,000 is not all I have I have much more than that I'm just giving you a 100,000 because according to I don't have to give you everything but I want to give you something D says to him no I didn't mean that I actually am entitled to all your money I was just telling you a story like you know like reminiscing of the past that the best thing I ever had was you know the knife that I gave you that I was able to to do a Mitzvah to make you feel good I didn't I didn't actually expect you to deliver on the promise I just wanted to make you feel good but you didn't want to accept the knife because uh you wanted to give me something but you didn't have anything so I said I had this possession one time this knife that was worth a lot to me why because it was worth I was able to make my dear friend feel good that's it I didn't mean you actually have to give me all this money so no no just give me 10,000 he goes no no no I'm giving you 100,000 I'm giving you a 100,000 because now I want to help you take 10,000 give it to your daughter take 50,000 start a business and the rest put for retirement and that's what he did when he went home he didn't go home the same way that he came there he came he went there with like a honorable person with the carriage and so on but here we see the story by and his extraordinary true story of how a person was willing to literally go to the end based on their rabbi's decision now surely only a fool thinks that this is the only time that Daniel yaf encountered his Rabbi only this one time surely there were many other times that he learned from this Rabbi and he asked them questions and he did whatever the rabbi said but the point is that if you ask your average person today who's your Rabbi you usually they'll tell you two or three names if you look at Aid resume of the average person usually there's two three four sometimes even five or six different rabbis if you ask a person do you watch who do you watch usually they'll mention three four five six seven 10 different names if you ask a person are you happy with your Torah with the way your life is going N9 out of 10 10 times they'll be too embarrassed to tell you the truth because although the rabbis they have may be very good it's not possible for all of them to have that cure it's not possible for them to accept a cure from all 10 of them even if they had it because when there are so many choices people end up choosing nothing so you see when a person delves into it and delves into it our holy Torah they'll find that the most successful people were the ones that stuck to a source they saw good from another story that mentions in his SE in the uh most recent SE that he published in story about the great the great sadik the great uh defender of Israel this sadik helped endless amount of people and the amount of stories that are told about him have literally filled the pages of countless books one of these stories is uh the story that brings in a page 37 in where there was a famous person by name of who was a student of and RAB Aisha was extraordinarily wealthy he was good in business he was honest and he was very generous and one day he comes toov and he says Rabbi tell me what you need and I'll write you I'll give you the money right now and he has a SP smile on his face and the Rob says to him what what is this for why he says Rabbi I just made a fortune in a business deal I'm very happy not just from the fortune but also it's good timing because I'm marrying off my daughter so double uh double blessing I'm marrying off my daughter plus I made a lot of money Rabbi I need to do something good please give me something that I can give it to says to him take a certain amount of money as much as you want and give it for this specific cause to help am he gives the money no questions asked both part their ways the uhel goes back to his business and starts setting up all the things that are needed for the wedding of course a rich man has to have a rich wedding for his daughter has to you're not just uh Rich for no reason this is actually one of the things that writes in the brings inar that a person that's rich needs to look rich you can't look like you're a bum if you're a rich person it's a uh AEM decid that you're going to be rich you have to show yourself as you're rich because people need to know who to go to when they needak sometimes there are people that hide their wealth like some of these Hollywood stars that look like they're homeless even though they have $100 million in a bank this is not the way of toah to people need to know that you're rich so they can go to somebody that can help them you were hem gave you wealth that's a responsibility soel helped many many people and surely the time came to prepare for this wedding and they bought all types of new jewelry and all types of dresses and all types of things but as you would have it he gets robbed they leave the house one day they come back and the house is robbed all of the things they've prepared the special dresses and a special jewelry and all of the special possessions they have for this wedding everything was robbed comes to his Rabbi and he says for I don't know what to do they robbed us the wedding is in uh the next couple of weeks what do I do says to him go to theed and tell him you've been robbed and to Pasad on it doesn't know what the Rabbi means but the Rabbi says he does he goes to the bed makes an appointment sees the bed everybody knows the wealthy that helps everybody but they have no idea what he's talking about said you sure that sent you here say yeah of course and he told you to come here to get a de tah yes for what the thief that stole from me okay where's the thief because I don't know where the thief is so what de to do you want us to do if you brought the thief here and you can prove he's the thief then there's something but just you what de to you want us to do he said I don't know I'm not the rabbi we're sorry we can't help you is confused he goes back to they don't know what to do says okay you have a uh scroll you have some type of the right on a parchment sure in those days they used to carry thing carry parchment like people carry notepads and he gave him a piece writes Lov don't steal on one corner then again don't steal on the other Corner then again don't steal on the other corner and then don't steal on four corners he says okay here he gives him the piece of paper the parchment with don't Steel on it loov goes okay don't worry you're money will come back to you now is even more confused than he was from the beginning first the rabbi told him go to the bedin then the bedin told him we have no idea what you're talking about then he comes back to the rabbi and the rabbi writes don't steal on on on four different corners of the paper and he tells him everything's going to come back no clue did he doubt the rabbi no he just knows I have idea what's going on if the rabbi said the rabbi said okay he say no fine he said everything going to come back okay everything's going to come back we're only a few days away from the wedding the rabbi said the rabbi said I don't understand that doesn't mean anything that I don't understand he goes home and he decides to go take a walk in his Forest he has a for huge house Forest big area over there he starts walking over there and all of a sudden he sees some people some commotion gets closer they see him they all run away he immediately goes to where they were and he sees all of his stuff the dresses the jewelry the the everything that they stole him all is over there inside his own forest quickly he gets people to collect all the stuff and gets back and of course he's as happy as can possibly be but he has to go see his rabbi ask him Rabbi how did you know what is this what did you do he goes to he says how did you do it he said I didn't do anything he goes no no the everything was in my uh in my field they brought oh that oh no nothing I didn't do anything but how did it happen he said listen when you told me that these Bandits these thieves stole from you automatically I knew that they're going to try to hide it because everybody knows who you are you're a big ve you help a lot of people so surely everyone is waiting to see if these losers are going to try to sell your stuff to them and immediately get them arrested so these thieves they're probably not stupid so they're not going to try to sell everything right away they're going to try to hide it and where are they going to try to hide it they try to hide it under the ground so I sent you to the bed so the bed Canin that they are thieves they stole it and write on a on a piece of paper once the bed writes on a piece of paper then in sh they also know these people are thieves they stole AEL stuff don't accept it the ground doesn't accept it no one is allowed to accept it but since the bed didn't know what I'm talking about I was forced to do it myself that's why I wrote an apartment I wrote Don't steal four corners of the world you are now aware that they stole whatever merchandise they have they stole from R A you're not allowed to accept this because if you accept it you're Partners to the crime and what happened is every time they tried to hide this stuff the ground would spit it up and what ended up happening when you saw them I saw Ines I saw when you came over there immediately they saw you and they ran away why because the ground just spit up all the stuff they out so that's it here you have it I didn't do anything he says Rabbi that's amazing says to him what's amazing the ground is also not allowed to steal when a person appreciates their source of Holiness of Torah of teachings they'll be amazed and how much they benefit from it in ways that they couldn't even imagine have been with us from the time that created this world but of course there's always going to be the people that are going to detract us from the source one of the greatest sages that we've had in the last 150 years was a of theant and hisid was the sabok the author of naok RAB ysep yel now theok although he wanted to be uh focused on fixing himself and perfecting himself he was an extraordinary eventually when he realized that being alone and recluse is not for that generation anymore and it's time to help do chv he used all of the gifts that hasem gave him to open seven and create literally a extraordinary world full of Tor now this saok or alok didn't do it quietly and everybody accepting it quietly in fact in a bio that was published recently it says that in the year 1896 the popularity of the altar of nvok grew tremendously and so did the dissension increase in the Yesa world when it came when it became known that the altars Kim and yes were including M teachings as an integral part of their daily schedule a number of ranim published letters against him saying should mus s based on the teachings of ran to be taught as part of a parcel of Yesa studies that a student who spend all day studying T need to spend time perfecting his midot and some of those who objected the musar studies requested that the residents of novardok withdraw their support of his Yesa meaning not only were they not approving of his teachings but even more so they wanted to hurt him by encouraging the people that support him that they may or may not know encouraging them to stop supporting him stop donating to him why he is mistreating our uh people how he's teaching a mus as if our gar and our mishna and our is not enough he's teaching a m as if they're not already uh doing enough and they literally went right for the pocket I've seen this with my own eyes with different that try to discourage people from donating to our organization why because we teach mus and they think that musar is not for this generation this is not a new thing one of the fathers of the uh of the yes of the world today got the same exact letters of course he had supporters in the uh the the residents of Nook published a public letter on Thursday the 3rd of Sian June 3rd 1897 saying this is not a cult the students are Torah Scholars who study Shas meaning the tud and diligently we're not wanly spending our money to support them their way of study is approved by great Torah Scholars straight and pure people they are they have no ulterior motives all they do is for the sake of heaven we know this clearly we feel the need to announce this publicly in the name of truth and the also had the of the head which was a one of the don't mistake it with that's 500 that's 400 years before it also very famous and the the naok was also backing the sa but needless to say many many people went against and his student uh the sabok and didn't just goes against saying this is not good don't use this but they wanted to bankrupt them why because truth and falsehood cannot coexist in peace so sometimes that truth and falsehood will be very apparent very obvious a person can see one person is telling the truth another one is lying one teacher is teaching the truth another one is creating a new truth out of his own philosophical mindset that should be easy for us to decipher the more difficult part to decipher is when you have multiple teachers of Truth you have 10 20 50 100 teachers of Truth they all have their own style they all have their own wisdoms they all have their own gifts and it's important for a person to know that although they're all truthful teachers you cannot dip into all of their wisdoms and make all of them your Rabbi because when you make all of them your Rabbi all of them become simply ineffective when it comes to you because once you have a certain spiritual sickness not all medicine will work for you not all of them will possess that medicine and a person needs to be honest with themselves to know which one is and which one isn't if they're truly aspiring to get a cure the only thing that will stop a person from acquiring that medicine is not shortage in the Torah not shortage in Torah teachers but rather shortage in them being honest with themselves to explain this I'll tell you a story and we'll finish it all from there and you'll understand perhaps says in his that in the time of Noah there was a very unusual thing that happened no is in a and Noah is feeding each one of the animals each day no does it on his own each animal whether it's the crocodile or it's the lion or it's the zebra or the giraffe whatever it is one day the lion gets really upset with Noah because Noah was late with his food and he hurts Noah badly and no suffers the mid says agonizing pain throughout the majority of that year that he's inside thata from that one time that the lion heard him now of course you could say you know that lion is really grateful how could he hurt the hand that feeds him okay he's an animal and you're right he's an animal but rovic put it it differently rovi says that you see that lion he's not just any lion why he not any line after the Holocaust cause the destruction that it did and the Nazis went everywhere alovi by pure Miracle escaped Europe and went to China to shangai over there he tried rebuilding but the few Jews that were there were not really supportive so he asked the people a question he says what's so different about this lion that hurt Noah you can say he's ungrateful but he's an animal he has an excuse for being ungrateful I'm saying there's something different about this what's so different the people were confused what's so different about this linei says he says this lion he knows he's the last lion there's no other lion there's no other lion in the world he is the only lion left and because he's the only lion left a lot is on the line Noah you can't just skip my meal because if I die there's no more liance of kovi says to the people there you see all of the destruction that the Nazis have caused and how many millions of our brothers and sisters they've murdered these few that I have with me learning Tor these are the last of the Lions there's no more Lions we have to feed them we have to make sure that they stay alive so the Torah stays alive so Judaism stays alive we take that teachings and we apply it to our ourselves you see we know that there are extraordinary teachers out there we know that there's extraordinary the K tells us that yes although there is great em out there that doesn't mean that you just Dove everywhere whenever you have to be specific to your spiritual illness and the only thing that will stop you is if you delude yourself to thinking that you are the lion and does nobody else like you anymore in reality a person that has arrogance and refuses to accept the cure for that arrogance will only allow themselves to continue with that mindset if they delude themselves to thinking they are lion they are the special one they deserve special treatment they can handle multiple teachers they don't need to change they are perfectly fine and on those victims that that false lion surrounds himself with it's important for us to know where we stand when we know where we stand aadh who's cure is is readily available to us if we don't know where we stand and we think that our rabbis and are on the same levels as us instead of learning with them we'll offer them something to learn instead of asking them we'll give them advice instead of Yearning more teachings from them we'll simply run away from them the second they teach something that applies to us it's important for us to be realistic when it comes to the Tor and to view it as the only cure to our spiritual ailment and the sends us pick the doctor that affects you the most that has the P cure for you and say that's the doctor Hashem sent me I'm not going anywhere medicine to no end once a person looks at things that way then perhaps they'll see the benefits and the blessings that the is able to give them and they'll see themselves flourish in t in in good in everything that hem wants to give that person if only we'd stop pretending to be the lion and realize we need the lion amen amen [Music] Shalom everybody very happy to announce a major event coming up in is this event is going to be unlike any other we've done as an organization last year we had a group of young guys that completed the entire sh B and the Mish in a single year this year we're going to have the entire foundation of the oral T completed in a single night uh our own GE f of the organization and a single night we'll have the completion of the years and years of toil lots of effort is coming to fruition and uh in a single night all of it will be completed to sanctify K's name this is going to be a night where many many will be joining us at this event there'll be hundreds and hundreds of people at the event in is including the of course our own very dear I myself will also be joining coming to for the first time in many years to join this Monumental event this Monumental K in order to sanctify K's name to show them how much we love his T how dedicated we are to his T and to be able to in another way [Music] we're looking forward for uh this event we're also looking forward to seeing some of you that are going to be joining us there are going to be some sponsorship opportunities for anyone that wants to uh be able to be a part of it uh and of course there'll be a uh opportunity for any of you that want to join us uh one way or the other uh last but not least there will also be a raffle that will be announcing very soon for anyone that wants to uh join the raffle and also be able to do kiru at the same time the winner of the raffle will win a flight ticket to ER Isel uh and be able to join us at the event so uh please look out for more news looking forward to seeing you at this event and [Music] a [Music] n [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music]