LIES ABOUT BITACHON (iLuy Nishmat Rav David Feinstein & Rabbi Jonathan Sacks) - Jewish HaShkafa (23)

for [Music] we are uh back here in Aventura despite the hurricane outside um continuing our series of Jewish ashfa uh tonight's U will be for El nishmat David Feinstein also Rabbi Jonathan saaks sah barel Moshe benim and also for benon Bena but Aviva and Sha but risel um Orit bana raban SAR anat ra benan Leana M tal Stefan Ben Katarina Jonas Ben Sher Haley and also for for David and also of David Ben sha Ben farzan oshri Ben Doris Gabi Ben Doris elad benis uh Mara but Julie and Isa but Mara and all of Israel especially the ones that help us do all the wonderful things that we're doing lots of uh big projects in the works oh and also es and ysep benle and schlomo yob so the uh Jewish ashfa series continues in the last couple of days ISO we had uh two very big people uh leave the world we have uh David Feinstein Moshe Feinstein Shalom son of David Feinstein went TOA and uh age 91 I believe and also Rabbi Jonathan sex also left the world and um it seems that uh the rebuke and criticism that we've made on Rabbi Jonathan Sax's shim perhaps confused some people um to think that it's something personal like I don't like him personally or I didn't like him personally or wanted him wanted bad for him personally and um that's actually part of the topic today uh because I've discussed it before and I've even said it recently that we'd love all of these people that at this point perhaps are much much worse than anything that Jonathan saak said uh and causing much more damage but uh needless decision say we want them all to do chuva because we want all of to do chuva but so long as they don't obviously we uh we have nothing good to say about them uh as far as their teachings are concerned this doesn't mean that we wish them to die this doesn't mean we would beat them up if we saw them this does not mean that uh you know we uh uh we think of anything evil quite the contrary but it seems like people like to to use their own Horrible character traits to just you know they want to use the tah in order to justify their pre-existing Horrible character traits they like to hate they like to show off they like to insult they like to yell and scream they like to do all types of bad things so they figured oh so this is the rabbi that screams oh that's my kind of guy he's going against Rabbi so therefore that's it's it's permanently uh it's it's perfectly allowed to go and personally insult these people and I've told many times uh that it came to me where I found out people would uh go to these people personally and uh you know then send me a screenshot of uh their conversation with them of how they're cursing them out I told them why what are you doing what are you doing who told you to do this what makes you think that that's okay what but he's a rash okay he's a rash but it still gives you nothing no reason whatsoever and no justification whatsoever to go and curse him out what he's saying is wrong what he's doing is wrong perhaps even still doesn't mean that you're allowed to go s to something like that no one did that but that's the problem people have a rotten Foundation Horrible character traits and they think it's good so when when it happened on Shabbat of Feinstein passed on Friday B was an enormous sadik one of the real uh strong pillars behind art scroll an extraordinary organization that has brought the light of toraat to the English speaking world as well as some other languages as well Spanish French and I believe some others too uh but uh I think that if it wasn't for artscow the english- speaking world would simply uh you know almost cease to exist as far as Torah observance is concerned because the vast majority of people that do not have a foundation of to from the minute that they're born are simply never going to be able to catch up to your average Yesa that has uh was brought up in a religious house learning Hebrew and understanding what he's reading in a Kash when he's 15 16 17 years old uh so if you're a somebody that's starting a little later or even if you are starting at that age uh it's a um very very difficult for people to understand and to be honest with you even people that go to some weak yes uh even when they're born they still don't develop enough of a language skill to understand what the gar is talking about so many times they'll read the gar and even though they've gone to Yeshiva they've gone to everything they've read the gar but they in a Aramaic and Hebrew mix and they understand maybe three four 5% of it uh meaning it's much better off for them to to read art scroll and I always tell people read read the gamar in your first language don't be a superhero if you're developed your Aramaic and Hebrew to the point where it's become your first language go ahead and go for it but if it's not you're wasting your time why because you're going to miss a lot and you're going to get to the wrong Foundation but you know many people were against Art scroll in the beginning butom shalom shalom many were very very much a uh pillars behind it because they for saw the future but they also knew enough Torah to know the past where they knew that the rambam himself translated the Torah to to different languages they knew that at the time of the bet mikdash they translated the Torah to different languages they actually even knew that at the time of mosu time of mhu we got the Torah Mount sa we got Torah mount along with the Torah we got something called same time somewhere around page 70 says that we got a what's we got a interpretation of the Torah along with the Torah we call it today Unos wasn't alive 3, 300 years ago he just brought that back to light but there are some communities in the world still to this day that when the B reads the seph Shabbat he reads a verse and there's somebody next to him and interprets what the verse means not gives a whole commentary rash this that ra no just tell you what is actually being said here meaning that mste DAV all of the the they weren't innovative in their approval of art scroll but rather traditional it's only the AR arrogant and the ignorant that were against it because they said no no no you should just know Hebrew and Aramaic yeah but the vast majority of the world doesn't it doesn't and the reality is that I could show you anybody anybody you bring that's not a serious you read one I read one or one of my students reads one a million dollars out put if I had it show that he understands more than you why because the reality is it's not your first language you're going to miss some things you're going to miss some things now I personally I personally always tell people I like to read in English I'm my you know I was born in Israel I lived there for my first 10 years of my life I can read Hebrew I have no problems with the with the Hebrew language but when I read things I like to read both in Hebrew and English why just in case I miss something and many times I'll miss something sometimes I'll miss it on the Hebrew side sometimes I'll miss it on the English side because there are certain words you can't translate but the reality is that people that don't know the tradition they think no it was Innova nothing Innovative about it this is what we've done throughout all of our Traditions but that's the key the key is when you don't have the right ashfa the right mentality behind why things are done for you can get really confused and to think that there are certain things that are great are actually bad the things that is is is and so on and so forth this leads us to the next issue which is again the misunderstanding of the rebuke perhaps maybe even the constant rebuke it seems like to some people that we bring out when we see that there are leaders especially rabbis that are misleading people with their teachings you know telling people things that are simply wrong telling people sometimes things that are actually not only wrong but are damaging and we have had the Merit to go out there and uh and and put our own uh you know neck on the line with uh you know not for free because we get a lot of headaches to comes that comes with it uh to expose this you know whether it was a uh the the missionaries that are coming into shools or the misbehavior of rabbis or whatever else in between and but but for some reason it seems like people missed some people not everybody some people missed the point and have taken the rebuke for the sake of Torah the rebuke for the sake of a and turn it into hatred where they actually think that we hate these people personally and we wish them bad so that's why after M Shabbat came out I had a I don't know how many text messages from people everybody sending me some different journalist article highlighting that you know Rabbi Jonathan saaks died as if I'm going to celebrate or something like that shom as if this is like good news like a few people told me oh good news something El why is the good news I met oh but I I thought he's and he's bad he's this first and foremost you have to understand there's different levels of of of of bad he definitely wasn't the worst of them as far as the things that he said he said some things that are wrong which I'll go over briefly but I'll also highlight certain things that people need to understand much more than that which is that no matter who dies you have to say why because is not a compliment or an insult to the person but rather a statement of fact that the the Dan is AEM blessed is the D of emit of Truth meaning that no matter if somebody is the greatest sadik or one of the greatest sadic of the generation from the family of the Feinstein of David Feinstein or his father or or the other descendants or it's someone that had some issues some good that he did in his life for sure and some things that perhaps were uh not so good you still say the same thing and as far as all of the bad things that you can say this is not the time why everybody that leaves this world they already have enough to deal with your commentary is not adding any value and your distasteful behavior is a weakness in your character because you don't understand what's what you don't understand what we're doing what the whole goal is to get includ in those people to do chuva and it's very sad for me it's very sad for me that the mistake perhaps that we highlighted that uh Jonathan saak made with his uh interpretation of the Exodus and his debate with the atheist wasn't fixed by him sad because I the reality is he has to deal with it now and may hasem have mercy saying that he thinks that there is a uh the the uh uh creation was a Adam and Eve was a parable and there a mitochondrial eve that there's artifacts and things from 30 40,000 years ago and that uh you know if something is not proven by science it's a uh then a uh the the sages said that it's you trust science first you know these were all incorrect things one thing I can tell you as a side note is that as far as this uh for people that like science in 1997 there was a man a scientist by name of Parsons who was definitely not a religious person but uh this scientist wanted to track back to see uh an estimate of how many mutations take place every so often and the calculation originally that they had is that every 12,000 years according to the evolutionist every 12,000 years there is a mutation in human beings and therefore they believe that there is a female species which they call a mitochondrial eve there is a female species that really somehow magically is has the DNA that all of us have but she lived 200,000 years ago but what they found is what they they found is after doing some serious research is that the mutation estimate that they had of every 12,000 years is wrong how wrong we obviously believe it's zero there's no mutations we didn't mutate we didn't go from being monkeys to being human beings surely Some Humans went to being monkeys but that's in the Tower of Babel and some went to becoming elephants and there is definitely some change in human beings to some extent there some people that used to be much bigger than us and so on but for all intents and purposes it's a uh the uh it's not the same as what the scientists are saying but even their research actually said that the mutations now they believe are not every 12,000 years but rather every 800 years now this may not seem like such a big deal until this scientists had a speech that explained what this actually means in in real terms is that now the mitrochondrial Eve that they estimated to live 200,000 years ago according to the 12,000 years estimate is now only 6,000 years old which is the date of when we the Jewish people say that the Torah was created 6,000 years ago started so even according to their own flawed research they they still arrived at a similar conclusion same goes with many many other things a man by the name of Parsons a scientist back in 1997 published a paper where he looked at the control region that regulatory region of mitochondria DNA as a molecular clock so he was going to use that to study some um relationships and what he expected to find was that there would be one mutation every 12,000 years that's what he expected to find why did he expect to find that because based on the fossil record based on radiometric dating all of those things that humans diverge from Chimp that's what they had already assumed the rate would be but they found something very different now what he was looking at was Modern human DNA Mothers Daughters grandmothers granddaughters looked at 327 different generational events and found that actually the mutation rate is much much quicker it's only it's one mutation every 800 years okay that's orders of magnitude faster than what they ever expected now that in of itself isn't so much of a problem but it is a huge problem for them when you apply it to human evolution because the problem is that mitochondria Eve becomes 6,000 years old but the point being is is that this by no means is what we hold by as far is we don't start thinking that there is a major con leave and there 800 years all that stuff but the point is you see that Hashem is directing people at least to the right path to at least give you a chance give you a chance to do chuva and and I think that if Rabbi saaks actually would have done enough research even before that debate he would have arrived even in the wrong way he still would have arrived at a better conclusion than he did but needless to say this does not mean that we wanted him to die or we want anyone to die unless this person is simply actively and intentionally trying to murder Jewish n spiritually or physically like the missionaries missionaries on the other hand is a completely different story somebody that makes some a mistake a mistake is not someone that we uh we hate and want to die but for what whatever reason or another Perhaps it is my own shortcomings I don't explain myself well well enough that people think that they're all in the same basket this guy that you call the Rasha and that guy that you call the rash they're all you know Evil Empire and it's wrong and it's wrong in a lot of different ways because again there are some people that actively and intentionally try to mislead people and there are some people that simply make a mistake is not like them in fact even at the times of the rambam the G before the rambam called the rambam a heretic that came after the ramban was initially part of a team of big rabbis that called the ramb a heretic later on when found out that he was wrong he did ch for the rest of his life going from Community to community saying how he was wrong and based on that he wrote the very famous musar point is that there's everything has levels and degrees and it seems like we have to explain ourselves even better to tell people who what when and how but one of the confusions that people have is that there's a one-size fit for everything there's an easily explanation for everything there is a uh uh some things that the Torah doesn't have answers for like some people like to say oh yeah we don't know what the why the Holocaust happened anyone that says that is simply wrong and that's part of the shield today as well all of this we will discuss today and see how the Shalom helps us arrive at the we're now starting a new chapter in the we're in chapter two which is a section called now I can tell you that it's very likely that you're no matter who you are unless you have are or unless you are aspire to become one where you seriously study your translation of what is is wrong because most of us have been taught that is to have faith in AEM and therefore good things will happen someone that has confidence in hasem kindness will surround them and they translate that verse interpret that verse in a simple meaning and at face value this is what it is if you have confidence in hasem good things will happen the philosophers of the world like to interpret things that way of course not based on a Tora but they say think good and good things will happen they have a whole uh teachings uh called The Secret uh that uh they teach off of this where they say that if you think positive positive things will happen in the Jewish World unfortunately this is uh the same and uh much of it actually came from a a sect of theid sect of the I can't say because doesn't teach this teaches the real real sect of are people that look like act more or less like to some extent but make some mistakes with certain things this being one of them that you should have if you have faith in hasem good things will happen and this is actually what the k says translation there is an old misconception ction rooted in the hearts of many when it comes to the concept of trust inem this term used by theim to name a celebrated and sensual character trait has undergone a change and has mistakenly become a term to describe the obligation to believe in any situation a person finds himself self in where he faces an undecided future with two ways apparent one good and the other not that surely the good outcome will be the one to occur if one is doubtful and fears the possibility of the opposite of good occurring he is lacking in says there is a mistake that was taught by that's what he call he says it's not me picking on what he says and to thing know the the the the translator actually may called them righteous but it's a mistake in a translation which again is the is the reason why he always said if you know both languages always read in both languages because later on he mentions the word and he also translate that to righteous now surely we all know that and are two different people two different people now you can technically translate them superficially the same but I don't think that's what the author the meant I think he meant initially and later on meaning so now he says there's a misconception misconception about this trust in AEM that is used by the to that this is in essence a foundational trait to have but it has under some change and they have mistakenly turned what it is what it is which we'll explain in a moment into what most of us have believed or even currently believe what it is which is that if you were to find yourself in a difficult situation where you have two possibilities one is a good one one is a bad one surely you don't want the bad one to happen you just got a letter from the IRS the IRS says you have problems you now have two options one it disappears Into Thin Air and the IRS forgets you even exist or two you have a serious problem that you have to deal with lawyers accountants nightmare money this that two options and the misconception is is that if you think that the good will happen mean meaning that the IRS will just simply disappear or that perhaps Biden would just die and they just give the election to to to to no Obama who's it the Trump that that all of this would happen the bad would just go away if you just think about the good if you think no no he's going to win he's going to win they're going to go away he's going to win and they're going to go away maybe he's going to go away to the same place they're going to go away and you have this in your mind you you develop a mantra like the Tony Robins of the world and the the the all the the famous uh uh teachers of the world today they tell you have a mantra repeat the same thing over and over again and if you repeat it and it's good good things will happen K says wrong simply wrong that analysis is not it has nothing to do with actually the fact that you don't want something to happen and therefore you wish for something good to happen is not going to make the good happen why this understanding of is not correct for as long as the future has not been revealed through prophecy the future is not decided for who knows hashem's judgments and rewards no trusting in hasem is not that says you think that you could write the future with your mind that I no no I'm going to win a million dollars I'm going to win a million dollar I'm going to make a million dollars I'm going to get married also I'm going to have kids you think that that just you doing that much or 5 billion times a day you think that's going to write the future you actually think the world works this way did you ever think about this for a moment if this really worked we'd all meditate all day you wouldn't leave the house you just sit there all day and say million dollars oh hey how you doing how are you yeah just a million okay that's you know what that's what I said okay million dollar you're precise I just thought you're going to be generous like where do you like where do we get this from where do we get this it's mistake but it's not a mistake taught by Heretics it's not a mistake taught byom it's a mistake made by meaning people that are trying to do good how could this be I think when we find out what is in a moment we will also at the same time find out why there's a mistake because you're not going to find modern day's definition or common definition of in the books from three four five 600 years ago you're not going to find it you're not going to find today's definition in the gar you're not going to find you're going to find it here during the lifetime of the K slightly before slightly after that's what you're gonna find this window you're going to find it that's what he's talking about there's an issue now where people have changed the real definition of to positive thinking and therefore you will now write the future as a result because you don't want bad things to happen to you and therefore you wish good things to happen to you but how many of us think good and good and good and bad happens anyway I thought good Rabbi okay know what happened bad okay what do you mean Rabbi I thought if I think good good things going to happen who told you that I don't know some guy that asked me to put on some to fill in and he said think good think good think good think good and and what happened bad things happened did he tell you to keep Shabbat no do you keep Shabbat no so why do you think good things going happen to you because he said think good yeah but who said to think good I don't know he said God said but do you know did you check no I didn't check but one thing I could tell you for sure and I could show you God did say to keep shabat he did say to keep Shabbat in fact he said if you don't keep Shabbat he going to kill you he said that no he didn't say that you're you're you're you're crazy Rabbi I like the other guy he just thinks think think good yeah but it didn't work what's what's what's if it's not think good and good things will happen what is now elaborates trusting in hasem is not that but rather the belief that nothing happens by chance and that everything that occurs Under the Sun is the result of a decree of the almighty that's meaning rather than you have two options and you wish that option A because it's better for you happens that's not what's is a clear understanding that everything that's happening everything that happened and everything that will happen is all from the hand of the almighty it's all from a and whatever it is that's happening that's the best that's meaning what you perceive as bad and you don't want it to happen says no it's good you what do you mean it's good they're telling me they're going to find me a million dollars perfect that's when that happens or something else happens you have to look at either equation A and B are the same they're both good why because whichever choice picks surely it's the best one that's faith in Hashem that's confidence in Hashem it's not that you just pick this one surely we all want good things to happen but who says you know what's good for you who says you know what's good for you if if good was left to us I wouldn't even be here if the definition of good was left to us to determine I wouldn't be here why I'd still be on Wall Street or dead whichever one came first never in my wildest dreams would I ever say you know what let me just leave a 510 million a year job and just go work for free and get cursed out a few times a week yeah that sounds like fun you know what instead of working 16 hours a day pick it up to 20 just to make sure it's free for all my definition of good was like everybody else go make money go do this go do that never my Wildest Dream did I think that good is disaster collapse turmoil Agony pain to today never the average person never thinks that the bad that's happening to them is good why because they perceive things like all of mankind a wall that's in front of them whereas a Kad who sees all facets of the wall in front of it behind it through it on the sides of it top bottom of it and even if it didn't exist at all to have confidence in hem to have inem means that it's not that we wish something good will happen and therefore we have the confidence that it will therefore happen but rather whatever is happening Hashem that I have confidence that you the almighty you my Father in Heaven you are the one that knows all knowledge you are the one that provides all good you are the one that wants me to succeed more than I even want me to succeed and therefore whatever it is that you do regardless of what that is and regardless of what anybody thinks regardless of that keeps me alive or that removes me from the worldom regardless if that is perceived as positive regardless if it's perceived as negative you are the one that knows and I have the utmost confidence in you that whatever it is that's in front of me is the best not just good the best means there are an infinite amount of choices available to as far as to bring us from point A to point B that he wants us to get to we are at Point a aadh wants us to be at point B he could bring us there in any number of infinite ways that he has we not always want to go to the same be he wants us to get to but need is to say we do want to move forward somewhere along the way we may have a tragedy like getting sick we may have a tragedy like an accident we may have a loss like money loss or or all types of losses we may have some pain and some headaches and and some all types of emotional issues and so on and so forth along the way and somehow along the way sometimes we change destination because we don't feel like we want that anymore want something else and sometimes we change our destination a few times along the way because when we were 13 14 15 and 16 we wanted to become psychiatrist but then we remembered that when we were actually 12 we wanted to be football players so we figured maybe we go for the football psychiatrist or just be a psychiatrist to the football players but then by the time you got to 18 you fig let me just go make some money and then by the time you were 25 and you made some money you said I can't stand this I want to do something else and you keep changing your whole path keeps changing every so often because the things you wanted then are not necessarily the things you want now for different reasons either because you already got them and you don't want them or because you just realize there just something better for you the point being is your destination keeps changing destination for you never changes and the path that you're taking based on your choices is still always going to give you an opportunity to arrive at that destination now for a to bring you from point A to point B is an infinite amount of ways and whatever way he chooses whether that is through turmoil Agony pain and suffering or pleasure Beauty uh acknowledgement and honor whatever it is that choice is by far the best choice out of all of the choices that are available in his infinite World meaning in our mind we figure listen okay I wanted to be in business but Hashem wanted to be in me to be in Torah why couldn't he got me there in a different way why do I have to go through a surgery and Agony and pain and embarrassment and all types of things why did I have to go through that why he could why couldn't he just send me like some r by to come to my office spark my n wake me up and tell me hey wake up learn some Torah while you trade some stocks that's it well guess what that wasn't available what do you mean it wasn't available why couldn't he do it it's not that he couldn't do it out of all of the choices that are in his infinite World my actions my actions and actions alone decreed what of those choices are available to me he has all of the choices but my actions make him choose certain things that become available to me when you have an aspiration to let's say buy a plane you want to buy a plane and you're say I'm going to work my whole life to to go one day and buy a plane but along the way you decide that okay I'm going to try to be a Salesman or a doctor or a lawyer or something professional expert or engineer or software or something and go make a bunch of money and you're on your way and you're working at some company or you start your own shop and you start doing things and you're on your way to making and you start making 100 500 you go you're on your way to making but then you figure out you know what I also like drugs you know what so let me let me SN a couple of lines while I'm on my way to buying a plane well guess what the second you start doing that the choices Available to You decrease why because now you have a habit you have an act that you do in your life that hurts hurts your path now along with the drugs come all types of other immorality and filth so that adds to the cost and on top of that comes life risk in general and on top of that comes the fact that no one's really going to pass you uh in in a plane uh school and flying school and so on and so forth so even though you're working and you're doing whatever you're doing little by little you realize wait a minute I was going I was going on a trajectory up and all of a sudden I crashed and now out of all of the planes that are available to me after 25 30 years of working the only available plane to me is the one that I can buy in a toy store for $5.99 because I've lost all of my money I've lost my sanity I can't fly anything so surely you had a plane on your trajectory on your radar and it was a possibility for you but your actions changed which plane it is initially when you first started your path it could have been anything could have been a 777 you could have bought an Air Force jet or something from the Army because you was 18 years old with a great brain and everything and within a certain amount of time you could have probably bought one but because you made certain choices that choice disappeared and it was replaced by smaller plane continued making those choices that choice gone smaller that choice gone smaller smaller smaller smaller smaller which means that if you're still getting that $5.99 plane 25 years later you still have to be happy why that's the best choice you have available to you the reality is that having in having confidence in hem is understanding clearly that everything you have in front of you currently is the best available to you can that change over time sure but that's only going to change based on actions not based on mantras repeating the same thing over and over again or smashing your head against the wall or saying um it's not going to do anything other than just make hasem upset at you for just making stupid sounds all day like a cow the reality is is that we were brought up to believe a mistake that we are in charge of our Destiny without doing anything about it that we could just wish things to happen because a couple of times we wish things to happen and they happen so we figured that's the way it works wrong the most important understanding when it comes to says is one of the principles of Faith which is that there is reward and there is punishment and he elaborates here saying that the belief that nothing happens by chance and that everything occurs Under the Sun is a result of a decree from Heaven the says in that there is not a a single Finger pricked by a needle without there being a decree from the bedine of Heaven meaning some person decides to saw decides to do uh maybe uh screw something decides to hammer something the B of Heaven organizes themselves say hold on a second Ruben over there is sewing something he is knitting something he's hammering something let's see it as a count cuz right now it's a moment of risk it's a moment of danger may not necessarily be a life danger but it is a danger he is in a is in that moment let's evaluate his account the bedin reviews the book real time at a place with no time and says oh ruen deserves to prick his finger with the needle he deserves to smash his finger with the hammer why sh here's the account here's the bill we have two options available one option 30 years and G another option smash his finger with the hammer hasem says I love my son get him out of G smash his finger instead why the finger is going to hurt for a little bit maybe his nail will have to come off but more or less he's back to normal came on 30 years he's traumatized forever smash his finger I love my kid bet de of Heaven says that's the dean on his finger ohem why' you do this to me and hem is crying and Sh says my son if you only knew if you only knew what option you had based on the actions you made you had some actions you said this and you said that and you did this and you did that all of those things were on a bad list and there was payment and the bed said listen hasm you got out of all of the options two are available now this one or that one in his Mercy said no no no he's doing CH he's a good kid just smash his finger a little bit is thinking a for the good and the bad the same way why there is no bad that's the brisk rebi Shalom he didn't go out to collect money for his learned all day learned all day but you had to pay salaries money you know especially in those days it wasn't like today you could have have some campaign on the internet and people could just press donate and give you their hard earned money those days there wasn't such a thing if you wanted to get money either you had to go get it or the miracul had to arrive to you the brisk rebi refused to go out to collect money sit there would learn but then the end of the month would come and he would ask his gabai no so how much money we have in the Koopa how much money we have in the bank the gabai says the whole thing $170 what do you mean tomorrow we have to pay salaries says okay Rabbi salary no salary $170 so we have it's okay Mr re takes starts crying to hasem starts crying to hasm crying to hasm little while passes an hour two hours pass ask good come how much in the Koopa now R nothing changed no no check check check check how much is in the Koopa he checks do7 okay goes back to start cry another two hours goes back to the how much do we have now check check nothing do 70 oh okay we're still the same not nothing it's still s didn't go down okay so the prayers are not being answered yet but at least it's not getting back okay keep praying praying after a few hours of this literally 8 hours of praying all of a sudden check hold on a second let me check oh somebody's here to see the r yeah hi Rabbi listen uh I wanted to give my uh my my my hey I just sold a building and here you go 20,000 oh okay yeah give it to the gabai how much do we need for salaries tomorrow 20,000 okay here you go here check every single month was like this every month was like this one time a rich American a rich American Jew came to his Yesa he says I want to dovah I want to prepay the K's salaries six months in advance give you the rabbi what you need 20,000 a month I want to give 120,000 now in six months now you call give you more and he writes a check gives it to the r the brisbi takes the check folds it puts it back in the businessman's pocket he says thank you but I'm not willing to sell my for any price to have six months in advance already paid is going to ruin my be why I'm already going to have I'm not going to pray to hasem it's not worth any price who doesn't want to get set up we try to have retirement plans and a retirement of the retirement plan and a second home and a cabin in the second home and a fourth car and and a food just in case there's like Dooms Day and everything is for future that you may never even see the brisk is like no no no I want to live with a real time when I need it I want to ask for it I don't want to have the future paid for it why I want to pray to when I need something how does somebody do such a thing he says I need to do it why I need to keep trying my own keep testing my own keep going by you giving me my expenses prepaid ahead of time by that much it'll hurt my CU I feel like I already have it the K continues and says the degree of the action of amuna faith on the course of life is one of the character traits of human beings the traits of humility and mercy and such like are not subject to the rules of the material world for material forms are connected to boundaries and measurements when material objects loses its boundaries it loses its form a broken clay pot is not a clay pot at all but rather just a Shard human traits are not like that but rather have different levels on a scale every honest person has some humility and some mercy in his personality but people defer in the levels of these qualities they possess so through the trait of has different levels from low to the high so here he now goes and he tries to elaborate or actually try Trace back a little bit of what we talked about last week when it came TOA because the prerequisite to have is to havea amuna being defined is having faith that hasem runs the world understanding in a Clarity that Hashem runs the world and as we learned last week to have that Clarity that Hashem runs the world we need to refine our character traits it is not something that if you just repeat to yourself I believe in hem therefore you believe in hasem it's not that I just say listen I trust you know I I love hem and therefore it all work like a lot of people think no no I love hhm do you keep Shabbat no but I love hem how do you love hem while you violate Shabbat what do you mean I can't love hem while violating Shabbat no the love is expressed through actions you can't say you love your wife if you keep cheating on her you can't say you love your business if you're looking forward to retirement love is expressed through action so in order to say that you love AEM you have to have an actions that are fitting which means you have to listen to him yeah but you listen to him differently than I do no no there is no different there's either listening to him or not listening to him is either following the Torah or not following T there is no your way of following and my way of following there's no such thing it's either you do what he says in the Torah or you don't do what he says in the Torah and that's the misconception some people have where they think that everybody is entitled to their own belief it's like no no you're strict you're too strict I need somebody that's more lenient there is no such thing more lenient is sinning that's what more lenient means now surely there are certain things that you can be more stringent on and more lenient on but never violating them there is no leniency that would allow you to drive on Shabbat or use one of those electronic scooters there is no leniency like that there is no leniency that will allow you to eat pork or a a cheeseburger there is no leniency like that there is a leniency when it comes to the level of meat if you want to go by the high level of Kash versus let's say the raban in Israel they have more of that than they do in in the states and other countries there is a leniency as far as when it comes to specific between different Traditions asazi Safari there is leniency even in regard or stringencies actually I should say when it comes to let's say observing Shabbat some people keep Shabbat based on R which is longer than versus Rashi which is shorter but there that's within the framework of allowed and obligated not the not allowed there is no leniency that all to keep half of Shabbat there's no such thing there's no no you're strict and my Rabbi is more lenient there's no such thing it's either you keep or you don't keep there is no Al that will ever allow a woman to walk around immodestly there is no such thing no such thing there is no that will allow a woman that's married to walk around without covering her hair there is no such thing there are certain foundational principles in Judaism if your Rabbi allows something that's contrary to those laws he is steering you the wrong way and the reality is is that many times people call me and they ask and know they send me messages more like it and tell me listen Rabbi am I allowed to go to the sh I said yeah you're allowed to go to Sho it's a good thing to go to Sho no no no I have to go to this specific Sho I said what's wrong with this specific Sho he says well the SHO it's not a very big Sho it's not a very big community and uh the rabbi you know he only usually gets during the week 10 people to come pray I said okay 10 people's man it's good he goes well that's the problem one of those 10 is a uh somebody that's M Shabbat I said okay M's no good then he goes well I'm not finished another one of those 10 is his 10-year-old son I said what what do you mean he's 10-year-old son he can't be part of a minion he has to be he has to be of age to accept me oh okay so and another guy we're not even sure if he's Jewish okay so you're going to a seven people prayer individually it's like yeah but the rabbi and his friend the rabbi they take out the Torah and they tell us that the say am so I can't go there I said you didn't understand the first thing it's not a me there is no leniency that will allow that drives to on Shabbat be part of a there is no leniency like that now there are leniencies that will allow you to say Amen to the's blessing if he doesn't know what Shabbat is if he's uh you know he's new and so on but if the guy is driving to sh 10 years no there is no leniency to say Amen to His blessings even he's considered one of the haters of God he could say I love God as much as he wants and the rabbi can say Amen to His blessings all he wants but they're both wrong and that's the thing that people need to know is that sometimes you have to do the homework yourself in order to clarify your life because getting clarification on these questions that you have on these issues that you have on these doubts you have will actually bring you not only Clarity but also bring you happiness because you'll know that at least I'm going in the right path and you also know that if good things follow you know why and if bad things follow you know why now to have thisa is one of your character traits he says but but this trait ofuna is something spiritual similar to the trait of humility and mercy These Are Spiritual things having humility is a spiritual attribute not a materialistic or physical attribute having a mercy is a spiritual trait of a spiritual tribute that you'd have not a physical one what's his proof he says if it was material if your humility was something that would come to you naturally is better said you were born with it you were born with humility you were born with Mercy you were born with everybody just you're part of your DNA some people think that you're born a certain way and therefore you're that way says not so not so some people have more likely to be this than that but not all of the traits all of the traits in essence Are Spiritual attributes that in essence you're supposed to acquire they're not something that are physical that are within your DNA to be that way why because if it was something physical if your faith your your mercy your your uh your humility were all physical attributes then they would not be able to be changed they would not be able to be at degrees and levels why because something that's physical something that's tangible generally speaking can't change and what is he compare it to he says if you take a pot of clay pot of clay okay everybody has a visual of a clay pot right now if you break that pot those pieces what are they a pot of clay are they uh pieces of a pot of clay no they're neither they're just clay the part of clay is only when it's complete calling it pieces of a pot of clay is irrelevant why cuz you can't put it back together there for what's left of it it's just Pieces Just Shard just just debris nothing it's garbage he says that if your spiritual attributes of humility mercy and the likes were something that you could either be born with or not born with meaning it's part of your physicality they would not be able to change either you are have it or you don't have it either you are have uh you're you're born with humility or you're not born with humility either you have mercy or you don't have mercy and he says this is not the reality why because human traits are not like that but rather they have different levels and they are on a scale every honest person has some humility and some mercy in his personality meaning even the guy that doesn't really care about anybody but himself still there's a line he won't cross there's still a line that you won he doesn't care about any anybody but himself but if he's still like a genuinely like a overall like an honest person a decent human being he won't just kill some cat for no reason he won't do certain things if if somebody comes to them listen either you give me a cup of water I'm going to die if he's a decent person even though he's a selfish person an arrogant and obnoxious person he's still going to give that person a cou of water why because there's a line he may not give him a house even if he has 500 houses he may not give him uh you know money even though he has millions but he won't let the guy die in front of him there's a line he won't cross people defer in the levels of these qualities that they possess so too the trait ofuna has different levels from the low to the high those of littlea are still included among the faithful for they're not included among the atheists and the Heretics but their faith is weak and is not capable of controlling them except when it comes to some of the better known transgressions that are avoided by the entire Society he says the people that have weak Faith weak amuna as long as they're not part of the atheist that don't believe in God at all or the Heretics to just simply make up their own religion in their mind they may not have a lot of faith in hasem they may not have a lot of but they have something and that something is not enough it's not strong enough to run their life they still think they need to work overtime in order to make a living they still think they need to hustle and bustle in order to buy that house they still think they need to go out to a club to go find a wife and it's not because the shid system is not going to work for them they still feel like they need to contribute a little more than they really should why cuz their Runa is fake it's it's almost like not existent but it does exist it's it's little it's little but none but it still exists though it's still there as long as they're not Heretics they're not atheists he says what is this amuna that they have this little baby amuna that they have this little baby amuna it can't run their life because when it comes to money they don't have any amuna they feel like they need to work when it comes to finding a wife or a husband they feel like they need to do the extra money to to to find one when it comes to uh things that are difficult in life they figure that they have to do what they got to do to go find things and make things happen so that amuna is not really controlling their life but that little baby amuna will keep them away from the more well-known sins among everybody meaning they won't kill anyone because they know God watching and Hashem is going to punish them eventually nothing good will happen as a result of killing someone or stealing or doing any of these things that everybody knows is wrong that little bit of baby it'll keep them out of that it may not get them to do a lot of other things but at least it keeps them at Bay some people have greater a faith greater auna and it's effect is more noticeable the deferring level and grades exist also among theim though they all live by their faith they too defer individually some more elevated than others and some even more highly elevated than that now the amount ofuna that a person has is not something that's supposed to stay the same their whole life rather what he's trying to tell us here is that the amuna of a person first starts with their understanding that God runs the world then them understanding that they they need to improve this faith that God runs the world by improving their character traits and that's build this amuna to arrive at the ultimate level which is having a high level of which is confidence inem that both the good and bad are both good which means that your imuna my imuna our imuna is supposed to be something Dynamic if you will it's supposed to actually grow over time or at the very least not be the same under all circumstances some things you have a high level of amuna some things perhaps a little baby amuna when it comes to money high level ofuna Rabbi I'm giving everything for Torah when it comes toid no he's still going out to nightclubs because he doesn't think that is going to come to his house he doesn't think not so good but nonetheless at least he has something that he can rely on that's good the point is it's supposed to you're supposed to grow all of it over time how do you grow it you have to test it you have to put it up to the test and that's what necess if you don't put it up to the test hasem puts it up to the test now don't think for a second that so long as you're not in the stage of that weak person with NOA that you know refuses to burn a so therefore at least I'm not like you know I'm not bad like that no no the guy that won't burn the doesn't necessarily mean that he's in good shape doesn't mean he in good shape he won't burn because he has a little bit of a but it's not doesn't mean he's in good shape he's struggling he's struggl ling a lot why because first of all is amuna is very vulnerable and second of all it's not enough to carry him through life's troubles in the right path because isuna is not actually dictating where he's going and how he's going now the this week's says that s men who died and that in verse in chapter 23 verse number two says that AB came to ulize sah and bewail her meaning cry over her but the word that he to cry over her as I told you guys a few days ago last week is spelled in such a way that the word is normal spelled normal but the size of one of the letters the is small and it's not a printing error like when I first saw this I thought it was an error and but then I saw the commentary that no no it's not in error it's actually even written like this not just in it's also written like this in the intentionally like this why to teach us a lesson that when cried over his dear wife sah he only cried a little bit a little bit now surely you could say what I said last week which the T said that AB knew that Sarah caused this damage to herself by our own actions by in essence calling judgment to him and her because she believed that when he prayed since didn't have any kids for almost a hundred years and then she gave him haal and as soon as he married a girl they you know they had a kid is he got her pregnant right away some say that she had initially a miscarriage and then had is but the point is that he had a kid right away and S said look you had a kid right away meaning that the problem is not with you the problem is with me which means that when you pray to have kids while we you know we're together you only pray for yourself you didn't pray for us to have kids so see the problem was left with me I'm not going to have a kid and you have a kid now your problem is solved but I'm still stuck here because you didn't pray for me so let God be the judge between you and me that because of you I didn't have a kid she blamed him for not having a kid and punished her for this and took many years out of our life she died before him 50 years before him but the point is that AB understood that Sarah menu lost many years of our life because of the mistake she made and therefore the says he didn't mourn her too much because you don't mourn people that commit suicide now if he didn't write this we wouldn't be allowed to say such things was but the point being is that to arrive at such a conclusion obviously has to have the ultimate ultimate ultimate level of of that even at the time of the highest vulnerability he just almost sacrificed his son he comes back from he sees that his wife is dead I mean it just can't get any worse but yet he still understands that it's a that's running the world to have such a high level of amuna he wasn't born this way he was born into a house of idol worshippers his father was the Walmart of of Idols you had to go be put up to the test where uh n threw him into the fire the highest level of test that any human being ever had had so it wasn't that he was just born naturally with the highest level of AA it had to grow each test got worse than the other each test got more difficult than the other so by the time he got to Sarah's test he was already at the highest level you ever was and he understood that even the death of Sarah is from a it's the best possible option there's no need to cry too much over it same thing happened with David aik his descendant when DAV had a son that died a baby that died that he had with B cha before the baby died the baby was very sick and David was crying hysterical to hem praying to him but then they announced the baby died as soon as the baby died stopped crying immediately and asked for some food to eat ask for some food to eat that were there were puzzled like what's going on here just a few moments ago you were crying hysterical over the kid cuz you were sick now he died you're not even crying you atat what is this thing that you did teaches us an extraordinary lesson he says while the boy was still alive I cried to maybe will have mercy maybe will have mercy and let the kid live but now that the boy already died what's there to cry over I'm not looking to die and the boy is not coming back to life whatever happened that's the will of hasem now surely this is not even something that you could even fathom ever doing or hopefully never having to do but the point is that these a that we have the the the the DAV this is we are supposed to think when am I when am I when am I going to get to such a level meaning we need to Aspire to get to get to such a level but you can't aspire to get to such a level without even being able to handle your morning test waking up on time you can't aspire to get to such a level without even uh you know being able to give M on a regular basis and not thinking no maybe I won't have money to eat you can't Aspire without actually going to the test now he says that even theim have different levels there a story that was uh publicized in the last 24 hours in is that I heard from Rim really puts things in perspective there was a in that was a genius in Tor in in very well respected 10 years ago he noticed that he has a bump on the side and he ignored it for a little while but then he noticed that it's growing rapidly so his body started hurting and he went to the doctor doctor said you have to go to the emergency room right away they took him to the emergency room immediately the doctors were extremely nervous they gave him a CT scan and then the doctor came with the news I'm sorry to tell you that you have a tumor the size of a ball in your body and no more than three months to live but since you're gonna die anyway if you want we can at least try to use some experimental therapy on you it's probably not going to work but at least we could learn something out of it the said no got up and left got up and left he went to who uh the outmost expert in uh medical treatment where he knows more about the human body than probably any doctor in the world where you come to him and you tell him you have a certain uh medical condition he tells you which doctor is the best doctor in the world to deal with your unique condition he's been doing it for many many years as a service to the public for free and has helped countless people people he's developed relationships with all of the best experts in the world but of course you can't just say this guy is good cuz he makes a lot of money you have to understand of yourself anyway he went to him and ra says listen they're saying that you have a short amount of time at least try the medicine he didn't want to he went to another expert he said listen you're right it's it's it's it's terrible it's probably not going to work but let's try it didn't like it so he went to rki R kvki said to him listen you have to do your at least try the treatment he said yeah but but they saying it's not going to work and I have maybe's it's going to help meki says listen if you're at such a high level ofuna that you believe that AEM is going to help you then perhaps the way you deal with it is different but you should still do something long story short the answers he got from everybody were insufficient cuz most of them told him to do something about it and to just not do anything about it didn't seem necessarily the right fit so you ended up going to Rabbi David one of the descendants of the babaali he comes to him he says tears shows him his entire medical file says the doctor says I have three months to live what do I do says to him he's right you should do the treatment or there's another option huh what's the other option it's the first time you he another option I mean the other option of not doing anything is not really another option so it's either do the treatment or another option surely what's the other option he says accept embarrassment that's going to come to you bring embarrassment to yourself what what do you mean embarrassment people embarrassing you fun of you accept it people know me I give lectures this that okay it's either you go get burned by this treatment or you let the suffering that's going to come from being embarrassed change the decree from Heaven because that's burning this cancer for you he was confused all the way the right from there to back to as confused as can be suffering suffering what could I do to bring suffering comes by itself what do I have to do he's saying specific unique suffering like getting embarrassed in the morning he wakes up tells his wife that's it I'm not going to the col anymore sure I'm going to study on my own but from now on I'm going to go to the local supermarket I'm going to work in their vegetable Department giving people vegetables says what the doctor said you have three months to live this is what you want to do with the last three months of your life says this is what I'm going to do people thought he was crazy he goes to the supermarket yeah can you give me a job what Rabbi what a job can I can I get vegetables to people whatever the minimum wage is I work for that I'll give the vegetables you know Tomatoes potatoes the blue pepper the green pepper this pepper that pepper all the the whatever all the peppers I want to do that uniform everything Rabbi respectable hat this everything all of a sudden he looks like he works at the local supermarket with a long beard and everything and he's given he what do you need huh what do you need oh the blue Peppers the orange ones are on sale Orange ones on sale they're really tasty right okay I'll put three I'll put put in your bag put in your bag the red one's actually not so bad it's good for soup people are looking what everybody knows who he is what happened to him is he crazy start talking to him what are you doing here you need Peppers you need potatoes you need vegetable what do you need what's the matter with you this what you do can R by you and start making fun of him what you're doing here what's the matter with you go back to the call what are you giving up the Tora what are you becoming you're becoming secular you're leaving God oh tearing him apart tearing him apart he didn't tell anybody and he dealt with this day after day day after day day after day the article that was just published or the the uh the conversation that my was just a part of he says I am now alive for 10 years not 3 months 10 years Doctor can say whatever he wants to say says listen there's a decree in sh it's the best you want to sweeten it you want something a little different you have to do something different you have to do something different now a person has to that that wants to get to be get to has to understand these basic principles that is the one that is decreeing everything and anything that is happening in the world because if you see so far the journey that the K has taken us is that after we learned so many things about and all of the good things about it he sums up that section by telling us you're never going to get to amuna without fixing your character traits and you're never going to get to without having now we learn that it is the character traits that connect the two therefore when a person has Horrible character traits such as arrogance rather than having humility they themselves are self-destructing their own meaning it is impossible for an arrogant person to ever have even a remote an ounce of in their body because that tra itself is destroying it on the other hand a person that is acquiring the trait of humility by default that humility will lead him to be how so by humbling yourself to the point of understanding that you are nothing hasem is everything and you'll eventually arrive at the page 15b that says the snake doesn't bite for its own sake he doesn't get any pleasure out of it rather he bites because this is a mission from God the bad that is happening or at least what we perceive as bad that's happening is not an Essence in itself bad but rather this is a decree from God which leads us to how this is all connected to some of the things we talked about in the beginning of how people misunderstand the treatment of some of the people that have perhaps made a mistake in some of their speeches some even more so than others we have a Mitzvah we have 613 mitzvot and written a little over 700 years ago mitvah says you shall not take revenge and you shall not bear a grudge against the members of your people Leviticus 1918 this Mitzvah is the prohibition to take revenge we the Jewish people are forbidden from taking Revenge now this specific verse talks about two one is the revenge and one is bearing a grudge now the the says in he says the following we're commanded not to take revenge that is to say we're prohibited from exacting Revenge from another Jew the description of this matter is as follows in a situation where one Jew has wronged or caused pain to his fellow Jew with regards to any matter where the usual practice of most people in the world in such a situation is that they will not cease to pursue the person that wronged them until they have repaid him his wrong or they' have made him suffer as he made them suffer it's from this type of conduct that hasem blessed is he has restrained us with his statement you shall not take revenge meaning somebody just hurts you he just hurt you you were looking to get married you were on a shid right the girl likes you the boy likes you suddenly after a few dates they stop answering the phone what happened I don't know what happened I don't know what happened not sure word gives around ended for unknown reasons then you find out she or he stopped talking to you because this other person told them N I don't think it's for you not for you why you know you're better than that you're better than that you are about to start a family you are about to start your life but this men just ruined it for you why you had a few few words to say this stuff happens all the time it's so bad I had one time student of mine a month before his wedding less than a month says to me RAB I need to talk to you I said what happened say I don't know if I want to get married said why not I don't know my best friend told me maybe I shouldn't get married said who what wa your best friend Satan who's what do you mean your best friend me goes I don't know he said to me I don't know may you sure you like her I said yeah of course I like her I don't know maybe you don't like her and you don't know it what I don't know maybe today you like this and tomorrow you're going to like something else you never know you know so I don't know since he told me all this stuff I it make sense to you he goes no it doesn't make sense to you say so what's the problem say I'm confused now I said he he's not married is he he said no I said that's why he's a rash and he's jealous and you should do whatever you can to disconnect from this person he's an evil person the guy mamash was almost on the verge of breaking his wedding why some idiot got in the way now guess what in both cases says you're not allowed to take revenge you're not allowed to hold the grudge both cases that's hard to swallow why revenge is sweet you got a revenge for him oh what to Revenge you got him hey hey Steve hey how are you listen I got a sh for you I got a sh for you yeah you have for me yeah yeah I have a for you yeah yeah here's the number okay okay third date you call the girl so what do you think of him oh I think he's great listen I don't think he's for you what but you're the one that set me up yeah I made a mistake made a mistake sorry it's not for you I I have somebody else for you though really thanks oh thanks okay what should I tell don't tell him nothing I'll tell him I'll tell don't worry hey Steve yeah sorry to tell you man she can't stand you sorry buddy yeah yeah said you I don't know something about I don't know what she said she said something I she said something about smelling or something I don't know where did you take what did you guys do I don't know something was wrong she said she doesn't want to talk to you she so offended by something that you said she can't even talk to you just let it go man just let it go oh man I can't believe it I thought I was going to get I thought I was going to get married and you are like celebrating in your heart what a Revenge s sin delicious funny Sin from what does it mean means that's what means going to burn for that sin but it's sweet but he did it to me exactly he did it to you now do back every Wednesday we say who is the god of Vengeance God of Vengeance has arrived he's the only one allowed to deal with it not you but how can you swallow this pill it's hard because sometimes you have that the the revenge is in your hand she did something so bad to you I got to get her back she did this to me she made fun of me in front of everybody and she did this to me and she called me this and she did that and you got it and says you're not allowed and you'll get punished if you do how can you but you haven't how can you swallow that I mean you got to become overnight brings one of the mid one of the called the and he says the following now how far does the force of the prohibition of taking Revenge extend it applies even to a case where one does not actively harm his fellow in Revenge as follows meaning not only you're not allowed to take revenge but even if the Revenge doesn't really hurt the other person it's still forbidden that's how extraordinary this is meaning it's not just revenge like I just described to you guys and made half of you smile the other one half cry stop like that even if the Revenge doesn't hurt the person it's not allowed even if the grudge is in your mind it's not allowed how so one person says to another lend me your tool your sickle but he didn't lend it to him for no reason just didn't feel like giving it them not because he was concerned you're not going to give it back or something like that no he just doesn't feel like I don't want to feel like it no why why not I don't feel I don't feel like doing it yeah but I need to build something okay build it I use your hand I don't want to give with you that's it that's the reason he gave you one person asked for for a tool he didn't want to live to him on the following day the second person who was refused who had refused to perform the favor the previous day goes back to the same to the first person and says lend me your Hatchet the guy that said no I don't want to lend you something he came back to the guy that he didn't want to lend him said can you blend me something the first one replied I'm not going to lend it to you just like you didn't lend me the tool I'm not going to lend to you this response is a sin from the you shall not take revenge yeah but he's not even it's not even like a tool that's going to save his life it's not like uh he needs this water to so he Al he's going to die no he just needs a hammer I don't feel like giving him my hammer cuz he didn't give me a hammer Sin from the Torah not from the rabbis from the Tor that sin is from the tor based on this illustration this illustration serves as a model from which we can deduce that the prohibition encompasses any form of retaliation for a wrong now what's the purpose of this Mitzvah the gives us a taste why do we even have this mitzvah okay we can understand it's better for society there's going to be less say fighting because you're not allowed to do this but still how can we swallow this pill especially when you're the one that was wronged among the underlying purposes of this says is that a person must know intellectually and must internalize in his Consciousness the idea that everything that be Falls him be it good or bad is an orchestrated event brought upon Him by and from the hand of man from the hand of one man to his brother no matter shall occur except by the will of hem therefore when another person causes him pain and suffering a person must realize that his own sins were the cause and Hashem Blessed Be he decreed this injury or suffering upon Him accordingly he must not focus his thoughts upon exacting Vengeance from the one who has harmed him since that person is not truly the cause of his distress for rather it's his own sin that's the true cause of the distress therefore one should direct his thoughts and feelings in this matter as David did when shim heaped curses and stones at him in the book of Samuel 2ter 16:1 and he says a verse leave him and be it leave him be and let him curse for hasem blessed the see has told him to that theid blamed the mattera on his own sin rather than on his antagonist shim so now here we just got an atomic bomb because in essence everything that the K told us is the reason for this mitvah meaning something bad has happened to you somebody did that something bad to you you are not allowed to take revenge against him why T says forbidden but you're also not allowed to have a grudge against them because T says it's forbidden now that's hard for you to swallow because wait a minute I'm angry at her because she did something bad to me I'm angry at him because he did something bad to me how could I not be angry by understanding that the something bad that happened to you was not them the something bad that happened to you was a result of your actions you did something bad therefore Hashem sent you something bad as a response so rather than being angry at her rather than having a grudge and holding and want to have revenge against him you are trajcevski where should it be at yourself the only person you should be angry at that bad things happened is yourself why because it happened because of your actions not them they were simply used as a vessel as the says that doesn't mean says that you bring the bed of Heaven brings the uh the Merit to those that are meritorious and the obligation to those that have an obligation meaning that the guy that was used or the girl that was used to insult you by a k it doesn't mean that they're good they're still bad but it's not for you to be angry at them it's not for you to have revenge against them they wanted to do something bad and therefore hasem gave them the ability to do something bad but you are still forbidden from taking revenge against them why because he only allowed them to do the bad that they wanted to do because you did something bad make sense they wanted to do something bad Hashem allows them to do something bad it's free will but they're only allowed to do something bad to someone that deserves the bad if you happen to be the person that deserves that bad he's going allow them to do something bad to you but not because they are bad and you are bad but rather because you're bad deserved them to to to uh to to hurt you so instead of spending all of your energy trying to take revenge against them you have to use that energy and understand that it's your fault because no human being possesses the power to bestow goodness upon another or harm among another unless is decreed by a and a person has to realize that whatever experiences they have even if brought through another human being all of it is from God and all of it is part of his plan he was only used as the right hand that slapped you in front of 20 people because he wanted to slap people but not only because of that because you deserve the slap because you did something to deserve the slap so rather than try to find a way to embarrass him back you have to have some introspection self- introspection and say why did a decide and decree for me to get embarrassed publicly now this is in essence the foundation of because bet is believing that both the good and the bad are not good or it's all Hashem it's all good it's all from hasem and that's what made DAV the fourth carrier of the although had a very very difficult life his own son tried to kill him his other son raped his daughter uh he had a son die he had all types of problems the first king sha was a sadik tried to kill him for many years he had a very difficult life his own father thought that he was a child out of adultery and all types of things very difficult life but yet did not decide to make DAV the carrier of the until this event that's mentioned here by where after AB Shalom son chases David out of the Kingdom David is running away so he doesn't have to kill his own son meaning this is a moment of suffering for David his own son is trying to kill him there's nothing more embarrassing than that that could ever exist in the world his own son is trying to kill him D flees so he doesn't have to kill his own son so at the worst moment in the world shim which was the head of the saned it's not some some gangster the top Rabbi in the world sees the takes some rocks and throws it at him DAV is not by himself he's got soldiers warriors with him the biggest Rabbi old man starts taking rocks throws it at him and if that's not enough he curses him a curse called what's he calls him every bad name under the sun no is an adulterer a m is a a child of a uh adultery Wicked uh all type murderer everything all the worst things in the world and not oneon-one front of everybody now David's General next to him is a warrior he says to him why should we let this dog say such things about my master let me just go and flick his head off one little with the sword and a head becomes a memorabilia he becomes a distant memory at the moment of weakness the the greatest weakness in a person's life could possibly be he's completely in full full confidence in hasem he says don't touch him he is only a tool that hasem is using to curse me because of some sin that I made he's only a tool he's only a tool hashem's using the problem is me I did something because if it wasn't decreed by a that this would happen no person in the world could hurt me the fact that he's embarrassing me in public means I deserve the embarrassment and if I deserve the embarrassment then I have to do CH because Who Wants To Be A person that a decides that he deserves embarrassment the Fulfillment of this Mitzvah serves to put a stop to the feuding and wipes away any enemy from people's hearts ultimately there is peace among people hasem will make peace for them you see is that one of the beautiful purposes of this is that not only do it help a person's bet but also it's good for society because if we now start operating our life as if no matter what happens in your life you're no longer allowed to carry a grudge you no longer allowed to take revenge against people half your anxiety with people your relationship with people if not 90% of it is gone not because you don't feel the pain but you know you're not allowed to express it that way when that pain happened to you when somebody hurts you you can't express it as I'm going to get her back I'm going to get him back no if it happens and when it happens it's a sign from a my dear daughter my dear son it's time to do chuva why I just sent you a personal first class message of public embarrassment Agony and pain because I'm telling you you did something wrong and I want you to do Chua and a person that understands this knows that he's to do it what's going to cause him to do it the the confidence that this is indeed it it's not like just in my mind no no it is if somebody publicly embarrasses me but it's not if it's money it's not if it's this no no it's everything anything that's bad that happens in a person's life it's always from hasem anything that's good for me person's life it's always from everything is from hasem when a person has that confidence in hm that in they understand that everything is from hasem now on the other hand the completes the point with something beautiful he says the mitvah applies in every location and in all times to both men and women meaning it doesn't matter if you're in Israel or in the Exile it doesn't matter if you lived at the time of the 700 years ago or you live today in 2020 5781 this mitvah applies in every location and in all times to both men and women doesn't matter if you're doesn't matter if you have a long beard doesn't matter if you're religious not religious doesn't make a difference this mitvah not take revenge not allowed to have Grudge applies to everybody at all times further one who transgress es this mitvah by fixing in his heart to hate his fellow for having wronged him and then harboring this hatred until he actually succeeds in repaying him in kind for his evil has violated this prohibition his manol is indeed great for by doing so he is the cause of extensive pitfalls look at this beautiful commentary he gave us he says to us you have I gave you the mitvah of what to do what not to do I then gave you why you should listen to what to do what not to do because there's a reason for it it benefits Society it's also a high level of right and top of it I told you it's applicable at all times and all places kind of closing in all the corners closing in all the corners of excuses of why you're going to continue having revenge and Vengeance and anger at people and oh Raba you really made me angry cuz you said this and I don't like it and I got a cousin like that like closing in all the corners but then always has to be always has to be a nice D you know D is like a little cherry on top to finish it all sweet one what does he says he says to us this action a person you continue this you become the cause of extensive pitfalls meaning what meaning what the fact that something bad happened to you in the first place and the guy embarrassed you in public and the girl embarrassed you in public and you lost money and you lost a job and you lost a shid and all the disasters happened in the person's place we just learn that's because of you they that cause you this embarrassment this loss and so on we're simply used as a tool from a but in essence you're not all to take revenge against them because they're just a tool for hasem don't worry hashem's going to deal with them but if you do take revenge or better yet you don't take revenge but you still hate them in your heart you still I can't wait till I have a juicy one to get him back you still carry that the says you now become the reason for even further pitfalls why cuz now you're now making a new sin you already made a sin originally to deserve the public embarrassment and the car and the monetary laws and the stomach aches and the bathroom visits and the breakup in the relationship and the job you already caused enough damage to yourself with your original sin and now instead of doing listening to the listening to what do you do no no no it's his fault he did it she did it ah now you're making a new s then now you're bringing even more suffering on yourself because you're not doing chuva in essence you're just making the situation worse than it needed to be this explains people's trajectory of problems when they go in life usually problems they don't happen like oh once in a blue sometimes you see certain people and really most of us it's like something starts and then it's just like a road of problem s it's like something happened somewhere in the star somewhere and it was decided this guy is going to hell but on earth like everything was going great wonderful and all of a sudden everything goes to what happened one thing after another one thing after another one thing after another this is the explanation this is the explanation this is the secret to life this is the secret to life the first issue that happened in our life that was because of a sin that was because of something that we did the messenger that Hashem used was only supposed to be a messenger you made him into God he was just a messenger but you made him into God by spending all of that energy taking revenge and having a grudge and I hate you and I'm going to get you back H you made Adit to God what happened as a result got another problem why that's another sin now you got another problem but from a different messenger first one was an employee second one is a supervisor now you hate him too guess what another sin what's another sin another problem all of a sudden the wife can't stand you what does it have to do with you all of a sudden what you're in you're on their side no I don't know sometimes you're wrong honey what I'm wrong now your Grudge I hate her oh guess what another sin all of a sudden the kids don't want to talk to you why everybody hates me I don't know I don't you're acting strange I don't know what's going on with you I'm acting you guys are acting strange he thinks he's the enemy against the state he takes he's has a grudge against his kids now guess what another problem more problems all of a sudden the IRS shows up all of a sudden The Regulators all of a sudden the guy at the store doesn't want to give him f $5 credit nothing is working why you're not getting the point they are all little little little little little little little little pieces all tiny little pieces of A's grandmas plan you turned them into God that's your problem if instead you were following the Tor and you were actually listening that all of the these people are just Messengers and that all of the things that are happening to you are the best possible action as a result of your circumstance as a result of Your Action because you had then instead of it being a whole journey of G it would have simply been one mess up and then you would have done Chua we're back on the road we're back on the road this I believe is one of the most most valuable lessons that a human being could ever have because it's critical it's critical for a person to have but until now we always thought have for good things to happen if you have good things will happen here we're learning it's actually because of a lack of that bad things happen which is a magnitude of difference difference here page 75 says that the man came down to am but in three different places one was in the camp one was right outside of the camp and one was far from the camp says why what's the three places we always thought that the the uh man came right next door only to theim only to theik it went to the people that right outside of the camp they were a little less and the one that was really far now it's important to know by T says it doesn't mean drives to sh on Shabbat why because he drives to sh on Shabbat they kill him that kind of R didn't have a long life maximum Life Plan one day why on Sunday they'd kill him you violate Shabbat on purpose there's no chuva they kill you on the spot after they warn you and so on death penalty only time there's CH is if it's accidental so when the says got their man outside of the camp they have to go find it food to eat it's not talking about it's also not talking about Idol worshiper because he too would be dead penalty who's this rash that had to go chase the Mana outside someone who didn't have why I don't know if we're going to get food tomorrow I don't you sure mhe M I don't know maybe we should go back to Egypt I don't know this SM it's not even that good I don't know yesterday was this today it's that I the complainers they didn't like the pie that they got instead of doing CH what they do they complain to M that's what the says some people they got a cake beautiful cake other people got even better they got bread it's even better was already ready to eat the cake you still had to make it and some people got little tiny seeds little tiny seeds why you you had questions you had everything go ahead do everything yourself you don't have any you want to do everything yourself here you go do everything yourself cook yourself too good yourself too meaning he had to go walk three miles to go get his M and what did he get even get the bread he got some seeds he has to make something out of it why because you don't have any confidence in and after yesterday that you did it you should have done CH and today you wouldn't have to do it but guess what you still didn't do CH because you're blaming mosu cuz you're blaming your wife wife cuz you're blaming your kids cuz you're blaming everybody except yourself to do chuva this is one of the most critical things that a person needs to know in their life when there are people that do you harm don't waste your time having any Grudge and taking any Revenge because they're simply all Messengers don't all Messengers from Hashem when there are people that get hurt and it happens to be somebody that you had a problem with never celebrate lest theem turned his wrath on you from them most importantly never judge everybody harsher than you judge yourself they make mistakes so do you how would you like to be judged if you judge everybody harshly Hashem is going to judge you harshly so that means that when somebody says something wrong about the tah and we speak against it we're not speaking against them personally so Hashem kills them personally or anything like that but rather we're trying to cry to we're trying to warn the public and also get to that person hopefully because they're still alive and there's still a chance for them to do Chua and contain the damage at the least that's the goal that's the purpose never Shalom is it because it's a personal attack or it's because of some personal Vendetta or it's a revenge or it's some type of jealousy or any of that nonsense that's doesn't PL to this I I lived that life already that was Wall Street we're trying to change now that's the whole point of working here you see if you're going to take the Torah and manipulate in such a way that you're just going to make the bad character traits that you have fit in the Torah it's better off you don't learn anything at all it's better off you don't learn to because at the very least the truth will stay the truth and lies will stay the lies but if you're going to go learn to and if you're going to go learn with me you have to make sure to always remember the first person to rebuke is yourself the first person to change is yourself the first frustration that should be expressed is at yourself the warnings that we give are not messages of hatred and animosity at individuals but rather at desecrations of the tah rather at messages that potentially put people's lives at risk and the such with hopes that again the damage is contained and the right people do chuva cuz that's the whole point sometimes the right person is myself sometimes it's the person that's listening sometimes it's somebody that we don't even know exist yet but the point being is that that's what the Torah is for it's constant introspection and if a person has a little bit of he knows that even if embarrassment came to me embarrassment came to me on some YouTube video or some stupid comment on the Internet or some email or whatever it was guess what that was just AEM talking to you through this person that's it why you taking it so personally why you crying over it why you making all big deal out of it you could either take that message and do cha as a result or you could ignore it and be the cause of your own own suffering whichever one you feel like same price actually the second one's a little more expensive this will give us a little bit of a better Clarity of not only how much we should aspire to have but really how much we need how much we need it in order to at least contain the damage that we put ourselves in and on Tuesday we'll continue our next series about the era of msia and then we'll continue having the questions and answers on Wednesday so Tuesday we're back here for the era of mashia and Wednesday we're here uh for the uh um for the questions and answers by the way everything I just said is by the chapter 7 Al number 13 uh you could check there everything that says is actual as well and so on we're very excited to offer you the new bezem app 3.0 it's a newer faster app full of Torah lots of Kusa by the shim that we do myself Rim raim uh where you'll have also newer features where you're able to use the app uh while you're using other applications on your phone you'll be able to share the the lectures directly from the app you'll be able to donate online and support our cuve and our Torah work that we're doing and the most exciting feature is that you'll be able to actually 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