6 Components of Redemption, Shabbat Shalom vs Good Shabbos, Marital Harmony, Israel War and More

shom good morning to be back want to dedicate this year for the him and his family our soldiers fighting they should come back home healthy alive no damage physical or emotional those who are kidnapped should come back to their families those who are wounded should be healed speedily we should know no more only all the I'm not going according to the order today in maybe maybe there's a reason maybe there isn't we'll see later says I hear CL yelling and therefore I will remember my Covenant with cl there a called and he has a beautiful explanation on what the says and the says when one has he has afflictions it's it polishes it cleans the entire body how it works and says it's from Shen a tooth and an eye of an aid tooth and an eye is only one organ of one's body and if the master takes out the tooth or an eye of his slave the slave goes free says if a tooth and an eye only one organ and one goes free his entire body goes free how much more that they affect the entire body one goes free in other words it cleans the entire person cleans him from his sins says no no it's nothing to do with it says the word BR by you should always have salt when you're putting a Corban on the m and it also says the word regarding after all the in the it says the word so just like the bre which is said in the M which m is when you put some salt in the stew it makes the meat delicious so too if bre applies to both these words to salt and to so to clean and fix the entire body great who cares what the source is cleans cleans a person and he fixes him up who cares what the source is what's the difference to you if it's a from a tooth in an eye or it's it says brace by it says by B what's the difference it works you know work they come to clean us from our sins it awakens us to do CH we know so who cares what the source is what happens if the master in fact took out the tooth or an eye of his slave but he didn't do it himself he sent there's a slave Go free nope what's that I'm sorry regarding and yet says in when you do it by yourself you get more so it's true it's important to know works when you send somebody to do the mitvah for you it works you're say why couldn't he do it by himself so instead of giving him a million dollars for the Mitzvah I'll give him only I don't know don't know work with the accounting department upstairs maybe 750 maybe 800 I don't know how it works but the is you get you get more reward when you do it by yourself but that's the greater the effort the greater the reward that you display rewards you accordingly great but learns if the master took out the tooth of the eye of the slave through somebody else the slave does not go free which means if we are going to use what taught us if if from a tooth and an eye one goes free his entire body how much more so if one gets an entire body but that only works if one gets and he looks up I understand it's all from you but if someone steps on your foot and you look at him why you do that can't you be more careful in other words you blame him and not look upstairs and say it's me I understand you have to say send me this to fix me if you blame the other person it's as if is sending you he's the master you're the slave he's sending you the through someone else it's not going to do anything for you therefore the had to Resort tol's salt comparison to and therefore if one puts salt in a stew does it make a difference if you put it by yourself or you use a sh to do it what's the difference salt Works which means even if you're going to get you and you're going to say to the person why' you do this to me doesn't make a difference it's still according to it's still going to work and it's still going to clean you from all your sins and therefore it's so the says that we started with I heard yelling what are they yelling that the Egyptians are enslaving them uhoh if we go with we have a problem blaming the Egyptians instead of saying we understand understand we have to be slaves here in Egypt because we did something wrong no they're saying the Egyptians are doing this to us other nothing to do with that's not going to work and therefore says I remember my covenant What covenant What told us by by and then it works even if we'll continue to blame and accuse the Egyptians has nothing to do with we can't go with we had to go with and therefore says I'll remember my Covenant even if will not going to realize it's all coming from so someone do not and know that the person who send to do he doesn't get the punishment for what the asks when you send a person do me a favor can you go and steal from this guy told you not to steal so the master told you to steal you have to listen to him the master is the you're going to listen to the or to the student one has to listen to when a person says a father says to his son I want you to violate chabus so he's not responsible because he's doing told him don't listen to your father and don't violate chabas he has to listen to the to to his student to the father both the re both the father and him have to listen to so whoever sent you to do the a also has to listen toes why am I suddenly listening to him I have an accounting withes and therefore the the sender is free of charge not exactly so obviously but the actual sin himself he didn't do he's not responsible for it because we expect a person who is you know above the age of Mah to know what he's allowed to and what he's not allowed to do he's supposed to say to the sender sorry can't do that want to say something how many cups do you drink why what are the of I took you out I saved you from being slave there I took you I redeemed you remarkable there no four how many are there five there's six there six and they are we all agree you guys said that's for but what about I brought you to the land and what about and I will give you give you the land that's six each one stands alone from the difficulty of being slaves in to be subjected to them you can be subjected but they're nice to you I took you out you're not even slaves at all that's to see the Revenge that you saw by the Egyptians that's they selected day in that we should be in and we will never be slaves there again like we were in in the time of the second B says for the first four instituted the four cups of wine that we drink every P because the first four were fulfilled the second or the last two were not fulfilled yet to come to and to always be here without any of the Yoke of any of the Nations that wasn't fulfilled yet and he therefore says maybe that's why in the word yov is spelled Mal with a Vash over there says that many times you see elah spelled he's missing a what's up where's and had a little agreement between them and yov as if stole the V of eliahu and he says listen when you come to announce the Redemption I'll give you back that V why V alludes to six is six that alludes to the six of that will ultimately be completely fulfilled but then he doesn't stop the say and I think it could be in our days we will drink six cups of wine on P corresponding to the six of what [Music] exra and if it doesn't work out what happens six cups who was the sister of he took her as a wife learned from here one should check out brother the brother of the future kala to find out if it's appropriate Kal where is this alluded to in theim says woman of B who will find check out the brothers of the future and you'll see if it's suitable for you or not the riddle of the day the P says Harden's heart can it be that an inate inanimate object has a heart two possible answers in the to can it be that a an animate object has a heart two possible answers not everybody together the what stone the water so the stone must have a container of water who says it has a heart the say a slave he hardened his heart po we know have a heart has a heart he's a human but can it be that something which is not a human in animate object has a heart the answer is yes good but can you give me sources that's just you know saying yes it just doesn't work yes or no if to back up some sources you that is to sand who says they have a heart maybe they have emotions maybe they have legs and arms I don't know but who says they have a heart and him heart usually pumps blood andus came to the bet mdash he splashed the ah and that's a I need one of them we say every single day okay I hope together where where in the of the yam the deeps froze in the heart of the sea apparently the sea has a heart good first answer second answer apparently the sh have two possible answers finally confesses he woke up and he realized he did something wrong and he said to them made a mistake hasem is the righteous one look howas confesses finally he confesses look what he says only a only once I only made mistake once only a and when it says says that's not what he said the med says that say listen I only made once once I made a mistake as well my Nations to do with me finally when a Russia confesses look how he confesses that's not one how one should confess question say good sayab Shalom why is that why can't theim say Shabbat why can't theim say have a peaceful chabas shabas of peace I don't know why good shabas as opposed to shabbat shalom who has it right or who has it wrong or maybe they're both right or maybe they're both wrong but what is there a difference shab or shab Shalom we have to argue about something right because we never argue we finally found something to argue about but it's not an argument we wish each other you know we bless each other with something good nobody I never heard something no Shalom I do know a Gaba in a certain je he always finishes his Announcement by saying and chabbat shalom he wants to be and cover all sh right okay so we found something to argue about cuz you know otherwise we don't find anything why is there a difference could be that the source comes from what's the connection asked let him remove this terrible thing from me Mo says it's here sorry not here and not now when I leave town that's when I'll be able to do it why not now is asking you to do now why not now explain explain in this says Those Who feared brought all their cattle into their homes their cattle was aoid ised to bow down to their animals M so it's as if if you're going to D in the City full of animals which are AV as if you're ding in the middle of a church you're ding in a house of say I can't do that I have to leave the towns is one of and says wanted to go to the field out of town to be able to see all the damage so he'll be able to D with more kavana because when you see the impact of the plague you'll be able to De with much more kavana great but we see from that you can't DAV in a place which you're not allowed to DAV for example a place which what's the connection connection to and in in Shabbat Shalom asazi predominantly lived in Christian countries do Christians have a problem with pigs no they eat him all the time there's no problem there always pigs around but says the mouth of a a is like extent feces you can't DAV in a place like that so when you see you can't DAV it's viewed as soim wouldn't be able to say shabbat shalom because in shab we learned Shalom is one of the names of can say's name so we're forced to say but since lived in countries with Muslims B on hold of there were no around they're able to say shalom's name they stick with shabb Shalom were forced to go with good some explain I don't know if it's true makes sense name no the says shabas is a name of is called shabas shabas is a gift gives us but Shalom is one of the names of shalom that's the language of like exle they don't on some toilet papers they won't write the word shabat because or like because you're bringing Hebrew letters into NOAB they W who's they I don't know tissues they W the word Shabbat I've seen tissues that do sayab because they're not connected I've seen them is it is it only a problem saying the fure only names when there a pig present like examp in this area a lot of people have dogs or cats pets in their a dog or cat is not a problem the language of the is viewed as not other animals even if animals even ifat yeah it's not a problem is a problem anymore yeah but once you got used it for hundreds of years to say good chabis so you stay with it it's not a if you'll say shabbat shalom it's not a problem at all but I'm think this is probably where it stems from who says is this your opinion or I won't say it I think it's cute I don't know if I don't know if it's true but it's cute but before you can't say you can't say shalom same thing not because it's hashem's name not because it's aem's name we have a different problem you can't greet your friend before you start the says you say you say good morning you give him a kiss say hello you wave you quickly say some and then you're good to go and you can say whatever you want under the wa this type of greeting this type of greeting you can you cover all bases like that Gabby like that Gabby you can say you can say good morning yeah are instructed take yourselves handfuls of furnace so how is that going to help these are four hands M has to has to and somehow you have to take some furnace Su and throw it out and it's going to cover the entire land how it's not enough says re Samson it's not enough but it's not up to you you have to do what you can you have to do the necessary when you do that is going to finish for you he brings for example daughter of what's your name that's not her name we find the only time she has mentioned her real name is orazi those good chabis are going to be B for some reason I don't know why we decided to butcher her name I'm going to call her B I don't know why her the real name is B that's what the the navi says however what she did last week is she reached for moa's basket which wasn't because he's all the way over there and somehow her arm was extended 60 so why you even extending your arm when you see it's not it's so far away what's because you have to do what you have to do and when you do that going to give you so never dispair never say it's too much it's too much wants you just to do when you do is going to finish the job [Music] for do something interested is going to help you complete the job now we're going back to Mak frogs in the Mak of the Egyptians showed how foolish they really were because say one frog came out and the Egyptian took a stick and hit it and as a result two popped out so the Egyptian got so angry and hit it again and now instead of two you have four and every time they did it it multiplied and then it covered the entire land don't you get it after you did it once or twice or three times and you see it doesn't work why do you continue what are you doing what's wrong with you you see from here when a person gets upset he loses control and he does irrational things which are counterproductive which damage himself and therefore I want to tell you a m about a husband who did something similar lost control and listen to what he did there was a husband who told his wife I don't trust your mother's cooking I don't think it's koser in that house her mother's cooking is 100% kosher but this guy's Mish he says I don't think she keeps going she does all kinds of crazy things in the kitchen I don't trust her you are never allowed to bring any food from your mother's house never he warned her one Friday what's that one Friday in the winter she was busy shabas is really early and she just didn't have time to prepare the ch shab is very close the husband already went to sh and she realized we don't have children for the shabas so she ran over to her mother's house and she took a pot of children and she comes back home she puts on on the hot plate on the platter good the husband comes back from sh and he sees the pl he says wait a second this part is not ours I know this part it's for your mother this is your mother's spot I told you never to bring food from her house I don't think it's kosher he got so upset what did he do he went to the fridge he took a glass of milk and he pour it into the J ensuring no one is going to eat it the wife was so upset she left him she ran back to her mother's house and she said I'm leaving him I can't live with a person who committed three a I can't with a person like that what's the three that he committed he cooked what else cook meat and dairy together and what else about L lash is an ongoing thing he always tells her that about his mother her mother this is something new one act he did three things three for the price of one three Dees I'm sorry I can't continue to live with the person who transgresses three a forum we have to end our back backwards and we have to whatever we can say is there any way that we can help this family and restore schom is it in fact true that he committed three Aus from the T let's start with cooking and chabis what did he do when he poured the milk inside he wrecked the chant nobody's allowed to eat it now it became so he wrecked it what's the rule in chabis it's not cooking it's not cooking chus it's Wrecking doesn't recommend it don't try this at home you're not allowed to do this it's only he didn't cook on he wrecked the stew if he wrecked the stew don't tell me heis we the milk FedEd According to some opinion depends how you view pasturization let's say we go with a more strict View and pation is not hot enough to be counted as cooking you're cooking me no I'm not I'm not I'm sorry you're cooking on shabas no I'm not I'm Wrecking andab if he would add another piece of meat so then we be cooking but here he would be exempt from the to he has a similar question and he writes that what he created now is if it's it's great what about cooking love together meat and milk together that don't tell me that they didn't cook is there a way no a nice hey glass of milk more than 160th he's as far as cooking and chabas wait but when you take meat and milk it together and the says don't cook them together how can you tell me you didn't cook them you just cooked them it was chicken chicken it wasn't the real deal thanking I don't know what they put there meat you're be trous be careful people may listen we're not going to repeat afraid you want to tell me what you pour milk into a chant which is boiling and cooking together that's not considered yes so what how are we going to help this uh this couple is there a way to help them no shom finished divorce that's how you want to end it maybe he needs to go to doctor he needs to go to doctor for sure but what it going to help right now she says I can't live with a person who did three is there a way to reduce what he did and say well it's not really cooking meat and milk together is there a way to do that what's that temporary insanity temporary insanity doesn't means that he needs to go to that doctor that he's sending him to but said the Act was such that he cooked meat and milk together unless you're going to somehow tell me he didn't is that such a thing as tempering jur religion oh yes of course a person is not normal no but temporar no but temporarily uses the language sometimes he's not here sometimes he is when he's not here he some elderly people have this some points in their life and they're they lose it and then they come back they lose it they come back and when they lose it exempt from all and when they come back they're all the mitz of course I wonder if the I mean he didn't have an intention to cook he wanted just to spoil the thing and the thing Wasing that's regarding shab we already removed the of shabas and we said it was M you're right he didn't want to great but I'm asking a new question the is of cooking meat and milk together which has nothing to do with it supplies on a Tuesday as well when you take meat and milk together and you put them in a pot and they're cooking you're cooking who needs it's not shab he didn't put it on the fire he didn't turn on the the cooker but let say right now it's being cooked together I don't need the because I'm not looking at a shabas per I'm looking at the fact that meat and milk are being cooked in the same pot together of course big time otherwise I don't suggest you eat this CH meat and milk meat and milk appli to non Kosher meat no but this is kosher everything is kosher it wasn't but let say it's koser but is is is is the pot actually cooking it's being sure sure would you want to eat CH which was in a for 24 hours I would suggest strongly stay away I don't know how your what your stomach is going to react to it stay away it was cooked already he's eating it up but right now when you're pouring milk into the meat and they're continuously being cooking together you are cooking meat and milk together how can you tell me you're not it was almond mil I'm sorry and you don't have a Shila you're running away from the sh and I want want to bring you back to the Shila on top of that something against his this is like you know this is did he cook meat and milk together or notal is crazy could be but did he cook meat and milk together or not yes no he become a somehow and you take a whole glass of milk and you pour it there is no K the first drop comes in and is nullifying the first second drop is comes in no the entire thing goes in it's more than 160th there is no nullifying in the majority this this for example if someone is Walking with the milk by mistake he trips and the milk falls in the Chate is he is he there or not he's cooking meat and milk together and this was not sh he took a glass of milk from the fridge and ensure that no one will eat this why can't this be called cooking meat and milk together one who gets angry he doesn't lose by the way I believe it says one who gets angry can forget this to so it's not good to get angry even just for that don't want to forget by so he he forgot his Torah basically can you say that so he forgot but wasn't he cooking meat and milk together EXC I'm asking if the a was done you're giving him a Le way way out to say listen he was sh he forgot but didn't he cook meat and milk together me the meat was cooked yeah the process of cooking is taking liquid right so the meat was already cooked he added liquid afterwards so the meat is not actually being cooked it's a mixure here but the meat is not cook in milk so you're advocating cheeseburgers you're advocating for cheeseburgers when are you putting in your you say in the the time of there was a shil on the chocolate in Berlin and some were afraid that there meat and milk in the chocolate and the only way to figure it out back then at least was to melt the chocolate and then you'll be able to find out what the ingredients are take it to the lab and find out but when you melt the chocolate what are you doing if there is milk and meat together you're cooking you can't do that said no go can't do that you can't do that comes the the and said I think you can do it who gave him permission the says you can't cook meat and milk together and he says you can why the says the reason the said don't cook meat and milk together is because the to doesn't want you to come and ultimately eat it so here when I'm cooking it in order to refrain from eating if I'm going to find out there are ingredients here that I'm not allowed to eat I'm going to say stay away I'm cooking it not to come to eat it exactly the opposite so when the T says don't eat don't cook in order to eat and I'm cooking to do the reverse in order to make sure that I don't eat if it's something that I don't all to so you'll be able to cook itous where is he getting it from if you forgot to do before you remember I never did can you do now you should why you not afraid you're going to come to eat theit you're going to play around withit you're going to findit and the entire year you don't separate from it it's not an is so why aren't you afraid that you're going to come to eat says if I'm going now to do in order to find the and to burn it why do I have to worry that I'm going to come to eat it in other words if the whole purpose of the checking is to eliminate the isn't it similar if the whole purpose of the cooking is in order to find out if it's kosher or not Kosher and if it's not Kosher I'm going to stay to the people stay away the lab came back with a result this is not kosher you'll be able to cook the meat and milk together if there is any in them chocolate in order to find out that you're not allowed to eat it a little louder a little louder what's the proof that bringing that cooking for eating where ising decided that that is the reason is using the M it's a tremendous but there's a greater Kish thees here is that you know what we did we're ding we're saying oh wait a second I understand the reason for the Mitzvah so it doesn't apply who says you can do this so conceptual throughout between and says says something that's it can tell me the reason and if the reason you don't like the reason so you change the Mitzvah says no and sometimes Das says I understand the reason for this mitz and if the reason doesn't apply the mitvah doesn't apply for example says don't muzzle your animal the shore is working in the field don't muzzle it why why it wants to eat it's working it's plowing whatever it does and it wants to eat it causes tremendous s to the be to be able to see the food and not to eat it don't do it says what happens if the show has diarrhea and it's dangerous for it it's not healthy for it to continue eating are you allowed to muzzle it yeah excuse me why are you allowed to the says don't period finished and you're saying yeah look the to says don't do it because it's terrible for the animal here it will be worse for the animal not to muzzle it and therefore you're allowed to who gave you permission what you're doing in essence is who gave you permission to do this brings the ran in the ran and and there's another proof the says if you if a widow comes to you and borrows money can you take from her her garment this the guarantee the alone can you take it from her back at back from Al says no good says well it depends it depends who the is if she's poor don't do it if she's Rich you can what's the what's the difference if she is poor so you're going to have to come back every night and give her her pajamas you're going to have to come back in the morning if you took her daily clothing her suit and give it back to her and the neighbors are going to see a guy coming every single night and every single morning and say what's up with this Widow her neighbors are going to start talking very not nice words about her don't do it says if she is Rich she doesn't need that extra garment there's no problem what is doing here says no when the says you can't do this you can't do this period says back in even according to theah who says no you can't do D time of when it comes to the show to muzzle the animal he will agree because here it's so clear that the reason is for the health of the animal and to not to cause it s but here it's healthier for the animal it's less s for it to not eat and therefore it's clear it's as if the T wrote reason so sometimes we're able to say even though we don't give reasons to MIT here we do the ran says it's as if the reason is actually in the Torah and therefore it's no problem to say you can put the muzzle you can muzzle the animal's mouth writes the same thing in Sim he's talking about the reason for Matos and he says it's so it's as if the WR it so sometimes we're willing to do it so since based on the the meaning of the words don't cook is in order for you not to come to eat it and here what I'm trying to do is to avoid eating it it's the same thing back to our guy to our husband what did he do he put the milk in why in order to make sure nobody eats it so isn't it the same that the wants to allow to cook the meat and milk the chocolate to make sure that if there is ingredients of meat and milk stay away and it's allowed so basically based on that here too when he's cooking the meat and milk together he is not doing an is he is making sure because he thinks that it's not kosher you're not allowed to eat this so he's saying to people stay away here I'm going to find a way to show you so based on this will reduce it from what he did in Thea level and will say to the woman this is not a Thea anymore a tremendous tremendous what about b b you're taking a nice good part of you're wrecking it for everybody is it bash it's not bash he thinks it's an is he thinks not to eat it so he's fixing it he's ensuring people stay away from what he thinks is not K Raba did some blood leading in yester years common practice is a was was a very healthy practice today when you donate blood highly recommended it's the same idea it creates new blood it rejuvenates your circulation very very healthy practice not every day every so often I think they allow it once in three months today so Raba did some blood leing and then he was very very cold so they burnt a bench to hit him up comes to him and says aren't you worried about Anda says no the bales of my body is more important to me than this bench so anything that you do for any good purpose is not considered B he did it for a good purpose in his crooked way of of thinking and therefore he did not transgress is that is that a contradiction with no the mul is in order to save people from sinning so in his way in his crooked way of thinking he's saving the world he is saving them so it's not balas baltas when you take something and you destroy it for no good purpose here there is a purpose but we we we took care of bish M he was M as well but for a purpose if you kill the animal if you take something which works and you throw it down but for a reason for a purpose when he was M the bench he burnt it no more bench but he did it for a purpose to heat up to heat himself up to feel a little more comfortable because it was more important to him his body than a bench so he's M but he's doing it for a purpose so there is no Bal it's the same thing they go along this m and this we used to be M before not to be M to reduce it from a to something else here the same idea we're saying is not balash balash when you're doing things for no purpose when you're destroying things he destroy something here but for a good purpose in his crooked mind so to sum it up in order to do to create schomas we have to display tremendous acrobatics in Al and to be unbelievable unbelievably flexible in order to restore peace in the house I think we just did that we showed unbelievable acrobatics we bent the and twisted it all kinds of ways just to make sure the wife is going to come back she was appeased she was willing to go back because we Prov to her this is not necessarily three a but the root for what he did comes from anger and the root for anger is and this husband has to do chuva big time and learn a lot of and and it's all the good that talk about and about anger how important it is to remember when one gets angry not to respond not to retaliate the says people who hear their sh their shame and they don't respond somebody embarrasses them and they don't answer back they are called so they are lovers of who loves them how important it is there's an unbelievable IM on this the IM says wait a second wait a second look what it says here those who hear their embarrassment and they don't answer they are great people great people the person who actually heard his shame what about the big he has a lot of re doesn't respond he was embarrassed he doesn't answer back those who love him is they should go and fight they should go out the battle to fight the honor of the re cute don't have to apply it what should one do if his wife doesn't listen to him he feels he doesn't listen to him his wife feels the wife feels my husband doesn't listen to me is there a who told you a person who has sh his words will be heard so instead of pointing the finger and blaming her or him he doesn't listen to me my kids don't listen to me my friends don't listen to me look in Inward and say maybe I have to work on my because that's the language of the anyone who has his words will be heard so the more you work on yourself on your more your words will be heard is opposed to that says a person who is arrogant even his household members will not listen to him so they go hand in hand together if you feel no is listening to me so you got to work on your own Meers don't try to fix others fix yourself stay away from from arrogance work more in and suddenly you'll see people will start listening to you can we bring the question on that from the aous story with I don't remember that his wife used to always do the opposite of what he said question about also say something in every rule has an exception and say from the exception it proves the rule so here is the exception that proves the rule have a question why is it that one is not allowed to marry his sister would be great if you marry your sister you're never going to argue what are we going for p Let's see we went to your parents again we have to go to them next shab you always argue come from the same background same upbringing same values same flavors that your mother cooked for you it reduces so much potential for arguments why did the say you can't marry your sister and say it's because wants you to break your Midas if you're going to marry your sister you're not going to have to work so much on your Midas because there's not a lot of potential for arguments you know her you like her she likes you you have the same taste there's less things to argue about there's less of a chance to work on your mid and that's what it's all about that's what marriage is all about to work on your own mid to break them to polish them to improve them to better them and that's why I I think if one has a problem with people don't listen to me his wife doesn't listen her husband doesn't listen work on yourself that's what it's all about polish yourself the arrogance and then stly people will start listening I was once hosted by an older couple was in New York for shabas very old couple it's only this old couple and myself and shabas lunch they started arguing they arguing and I felt very uncomfortable at one point the wife looks at her husband and she says to him Al you have the right to be wrong and that stopped the argument immediately I think it's so clever it's true you have the right to be wrong why is it that when you're arguing with a Kusa you're arguing with your friend it's fine you argue but when you're arguing with your spouse it creates such a fight why doesn't she have the right to be wrong just like your K has the right to be wrong and then you hug him and everything's fine so we all have the right to be wrong and that creates L woman's always right except when she's not schom B is so such an explosive thing especially especially Friday 5 minutes before shabas right everybody knows so why don't we DAV for it which is really 19 we D for everything you want wisdom everything why don't we or do we ever D shom between us and our enemies does it say here why don't we D or do we do we ever D doesn't it bother you every couple needs it what's that where do we say some skip it why don't you ask for it you ask for there you don't Li in other places when you mention you ask for wisdom you ask for no I don't need it there a couple that doesn't need many times I'm I go to you know big a couples come in with shom he says to the how long you married 20 years he says I've been working on my schom for 50 years already is there a couple that doesn't Needum the answer is we D for it every single day in the that's how we end the three times a day my soul should be like dust to all that is the greatest did you ever see that you're walking on on dirt and the dirt looks in you say excuse me excuse me why are you stepping on me never if in fact you apply this and you say includes your wife as well that's the greatest and that is you know there was a an that got married he doesn't speak to his wife she gives him breakfast he says thank you and he leaves he comes back for lunch she gives him lunch very tasty and he leaves in the evening says good night she was very upset she thought something is wrong with her she goes to her father he says listen my new he doesn't speak to me what did I do wrong the father goes over to this guy and says says what's wrong with my daughter how come you don't speak to her say what do you mean a mishna what does it say there don't speak to to a woman and we have a rule we have a rule when there's an no argument in the mishna follows that mishna when there's an argument in the mishna we know different rules how to pas who is the one who's arguing we have rules but when there's a mishna with no argument no different opinion we passing like that mishna so if the mishna says I'm just using this mishna and that's my uh that's the way I live I do what states the father didn't know what to do with this he went to and they go together and the says so why don't you speak to your wife and he says say and M says I shouldn't speak to her too much so the says to but you forgot another rule says you're [Applause] right when there's a we don't passing like that mishna here your is start speaking to your wife let's finish with a about there's a soldier that comes back from battle two months in a was he did it but he comes back and he said I shot many terrorists and killed them I saw that they're coming to kill me I app replied you have to kill him first but there was one incident where I'm not sure that I was supposed to shoot and kill there was a guy who raised his arms and I'm not sure he was a terrorist now I'm thinking about it I feel terrible can't sleep at night I think I took somebody's life who's innocent I think he raised his arm could be that he had a a white flag there it's difficult to know it's time of War we were very nervous we were scared many people did aim guns at us but I think I I think today that I'm analyzing what happened there I think that it could be that I took someone's life that I shouldn't have do I need atonement for this m abai what do you say no that's it no okay what's that what do we do when we go to war you eliminate everyone we try to kill the enemies you try to kill innocent people they eliminate children they eliminate wives everything do I try to eliminate children and wife and kids I try very hard not to today what do it say in scripture they would when they would go to war they you mean about amalik this amik who told youting Jews he came with a his ID and says I'm Mr amalik amalik is unique there's a command you should eliminate the entire amalik but when it's somebody not amalik and you don't have a navi telling you to do this you try to kill those who try to kill you the soldiers the enemies the terrorists why want to touch wives and kids who are potentially innocent when we go to war we don't try to kill them we only try to kill those who are trying to kill us if you're in a fighter Jack and you blowing a missile from I don't know 100,000 ft gra the ground you tell everyone to disperse and you don't know you're going to whether but you tell them ahead of time if they didn't listen it's their problem here I think I saw this guy raising his hands and yet I shot I was nervous you you need atonement he needs CH he needs cha what of cha cha do you want to give him 50 push-ups in the morning twice a day what do you want to give him does he was in self defense I heard a story many years Jew in London apparently and he served in the first world war and he got left behind in the trench when the rest of his unit moved on or whatever and he saw a German soldier advancing towards him so he took his b it and he stopped the German Soldier and killed him as the German Soldier was dying the German Soldier said Kar so that Jew felt ter for himself and for the rest of his life called historic he put so much salt lot of salt on the food he had so we' get no pleasure from what we had did the rabbi told him to do this I mean it's a nice story who said that he did it based on the rabbi's instruction I don't believe he did we need sources I don't believe he did it on the Rab's instruction he did so how can we use it as uh you know proof of what we need I'm just saying it was beautiful story I need a depends itself depends but who says he's right for feeling bad maybe you should feel bad I don't know I need a that's exactly my question no problem he says who's going to be the courageous I don't know it's to this or not mistake and the wrong right so someone that should not have been killed but we don't see that they did any for this this is making a mistake you want to do CH Maybe maybe it does who knows don't bring me from bring from people before he dies he warns his son sh I want you to build bash and he explains you know why I didn't build BD and says hasem spoke to me and he said you spilled a lot of blood you fought great Wars therefore you cannot build my house you spill a lot of blood you can't build my house says theak you think David just went and killed everyone around theak explains when the P says you spilled aot out of blood because in a war some of the blood that he spilled was D innocent people and even though he didn't intend to and they were from the country of the enemies he was trying to fight them but the way of a war is that innocent people die and you're allowed to do this but the house of a is so sensitive to Kusa that you can't have any drop of blood in your hands if you're going to build my house since the language of the is so beautiful since he spilled some blood prevented him from building the listen to language of because the is intended forom for peace and to atone for one's sins the crown of in this house blood can't come in here so David in his Wars killed innocent people and sometimes it's unavoidable and it's allowed and you can't be mtic at the time of War but for a house of it's different the Mah writes similarly in Shimon and Ley killed the entire city of why because one is allowed to fight the nation that comes to fight you and when you do sometimes you'll kill innocent people just like says kill the midianites even though there will be people there who are Innocent but you go to war you're allowed to and therefore when you have the enemy standing in front of you it's very hard to calculate who is the good person here and who is the RAS we have to prevent it if we can the language of the is if you come to war the language of the is go to fight can't try to starve the people you can't try to cause them to be extremely thirsty if they're going to die don't cause them to die go to fight fight against the enemies that's but in the middle of the war you see from these sources sometimes sometimes there will be people who are innocent who will die so he does not need any chuva he doesn't need any moment but it could be that when B we have to BU they will tell them you sorry you can't come but anyways it's not a problem because the thir is going to come down from you're not going to have to build it the third B will come down already is going to bring it down says we say it you put the house on fire and you will bring it down with a wall of fire surrounding it we have no problem with this guy he should have he should be able to fall asleep at night after we tell him that he doesn't need he doesn't need cha he did the right thing one obviously should try to avoid it if possible but very hard to be mtic in that in war the