4 Days with Shais | Night #3

good evening welcome everybody to night number three uh four days with Chase doing our annual fundraiser campaign today was a great day today was a very very exciting day um some really beautiful and significant donations that came in and also the sheer number I think the number was like over a hundred donations that have come in today and with the donations it's both the significant of the size of some of the donations as well as the shared number of them and I want to start tonight by reading out some of the ones that came in today and um share our gratitude with these individuals um some really Heavy Hitters and I'll start with uh Joseph and Rosie Kahan donated 24. yeah Hamish I'm reading it the way it was yeah I'm Ron Burgundy here you gotta watch out um in case whether the last few nights or if I do uh mispronounce the name I apologize in advance by the way I'll tell you about Yasin razi Khan who they they are parenting course alumni and um I I think I think I'm I can share this okay so um their 14 year old daughter was commenting about different rabbis and different uh people who give guidance and whatever and she told her mother she says the only one I hold of a shy style she says what the you know the Hungarian havura you know shy stop which uh which has a good sound to it um so uh so though she says to why is that so he has a good parenting course she says well what do you like about his parenting course and she says I like how my parents act when they take his parenting course so just so you know for me the best endorsement for a parenting course is not what the parents say about it it's what the kids say about what the kids are the ones to ask you know don't ask the parents ask the kids yeah I would venture to Guess that that's not the first time a kid was lobbing their parents to take your course have you ever come across that before I don't know if I ever heard of a kid asking their parents to take my parents of course but after the fact I have gotten that feedback a few times that and this is like extremely touching to me parents have told me their children thanked them for taking it well it was just you don't get better than that anyways I think they did an effective donation of twenty four thousand dollars which is huge it was a huge boost and they by the way that's that's a recurring thousand dollar monthly donation which I don't think a lot of people realize you can do monthly yeah I did that three years ago you did a monthly donation yeah and it's also wait up and then you change your credit card number after a couple months did not and you know that I don't know I don't know that I didn't follow up and you get points yeah Dan's deal shout out yeah and if you if you give enough the points pay for themselves I think um uh but then again if you look at my statements sometimes it doesn't work but uh okay what some other Heavy Hitters some other Heavy Hitters Avi fish off two thousand dollars Abby fish off is from uh I recognize that name for a few reasons but I've seen his name on every campaign so far yeah he has come through for me in previous campaigns as well and that is very meaningful because he was a republican he's a known guy yeah okay two years ago we had him on as a guest did we yeah I'm quite sure um it was after I think his father passed away shortly before that yeah Abby official thank you that's Avi fischoff of Twisted parenting that's right um Russell Herman ten thousand eight hundred dollars that's big it is beautiful um can I tell you something Russell yep I don't know if this is morbid but that's your kind of humor I am I've been trying to play it down today okay and so to be gay to the morbid humor for today this is a true story uh Russell gave last year to the campaign so I I couldn't find his number and I googled his name and I found an obituary and I was horrified how did he die no thank God he didn't die someone else with the same name oh no I'm okay I'm sorry so I email them I'm so glad you're alive yeah and so just he's a lot of the chances all right thank you that'll be awkward if someone stole his car just to give by the way what are some of your favorite uh celebrity uh non I mean there's some famous celebrities who are famous for having died before dying meaning uh some of them more than once were their death was announced before I think you're referring to the famous quote of reports or maybe it's rumors of my death have been greatly exaggerated which is varyingly attributed to either Mark Twain or George Bernard Shaw and you could pretty much be self-consumed the comment to make yeah can we talk let's talk about the Heavy Hitters speaking of self-consumed let's talk about behaviors of people um who are selfless let's not be self-consumed let's talk about Heavy Hitters the guy in Godfather one who pleaded at the end just for all time's sake now his name is taught really tall guy it was like twice he was pronounced dead became a rick oh come on if you okay given it a donation with his name not and we'll read it out not like Victor Borg but it's got a borg type name you know right avagoda go ahead come on okay Mitch and Karen cufflick ten thousand dollars very good friends of ours personal friends of ours and one of our early perhaps even earliest supporters of soulwords yeah um maishi and Haya Suri tabak ten thousand dollars good name yeah I think they were a matcher in the past he did I think matching for the bonus round last year yeah yes uh right in a crunch thank you yeah um common walchuk yeah yeah 200 good friend of mine Tamar and five-ish pesner pesner two thousand dollars my neighbors the pastors are my neighbors in Five Towns yeah and and uh you've done some work with her uh in the past I know Mrs papner is a busy uh community service type person she's always up to something and we've done multiple projects together whether it's base certificate I think actually she got me doing another bass riska thing coming up in like a week or two I have to check my schedule uh we've done stuff in the Catskills in the summer a bunch of times uh did uh tanyad yadathon yeah I think that's what it's called and it was but uh we're getting close to the 10 yard numbers yeah what by the way tenathon tennathon thank you and David weinbaum was the producer were you I was about to say that producer of tenathon and we got the big guns we got the producer of tenathon to produce four days with Chase he's probably not comfortable with this but why not why not no you're behind the camera it's behind the camera oh you're better off take it okay by the way remember the story I told you remember were you reading some of the big donor the big donors the other night and you read Richard Sutton and I was like oh yeah he was walking out of you saw Gordon oloshone's house with me and we saw some shloka standing on the corner it was not the middle of the street standing in the middle of the street Crown in Schenectady oh not Crown he's losing them oh I'm saying if it was do you struggle okay it doesn't matter I'm all right Gordon sounds like a crown yeah yeah you're right you're right it's on Crown you're right okay so um and I said oh the shloka was standing out front she was like oh I'm from Puerto Vallarta and we took your parenting course blah blah you know who that shloka was no she she's a wine bomb originally she's married to Hecht okay well we're going to get him on soon he'll tell us because I know there's a lot of wine dumps a lot of interesting stories what if you do a Canadian donation can you get a Canadian tax receipt we have done this in the past we have friends in Canada and Canadian friends of Soul words Canadian friends of souls that's not a real thing but but you know what you can email my daughter tybel um t-e-i table David tribal David yeah she used to be table Taub now she's table David um and uh t-e-i-b-e-l table t-e-i-b-e-l at soulwords.org and say table hook us up with a Canadian tax receipt and uh we have a way of doing that we call the guy yeah call the guy we got a guy happy hitters Heavy Hitters as uh um I think we may have mentioned this name uh yesterday but it it calls to um shout out again your mail and rifleah Jacobson four thousand seven hundred all the friends yes well Hashem from here in Crown Heights big pillar of the community and then of course there's all the other donors and I hope we'll have some time at some point to uh read them and and share them and um encourage others uh throughout this evening the campaign I think we're well towards if oh we gotta write 181 000. okay that's kind of like a Jewish number 10 times Kai that's a beautiful number yeah but we need to get to the next yeah you know 770. the next six digit what okay by the way I have this piece today so uh what is this the very professional sound piece oh you did the earpiece so I'm go well I I'm I will you didn't you're not putting it in your ear but at least you're gonna keep it on the desk in front of you and then maybe by tomorrow night you'll put it in your ear I was ready to but like then I it sound it's like um sound resistant so then it throws my equilibrium off you know you have like middle we have a serious issue with a hearing thing you yeah no I thank God mine's not a hearing thing it's actually much worse than a hearing thing it's I hear a constant ringing my ears which is not even there it's neurological I actually went to an audio an audiologist and she said you know how they've discovered that it's neurological a guy had it and he removed his entire ear and they still had it wow what are we talking about here though I yeah we got a program and I want to get to we do have a program and what we're here to raise money and we're trying to raise money [Music] we need the dough you know times were hard and I had to get a second job I got a night job working at a bakery is that right yeah I need the dough oh come on come on I hope he has sound effects for that speaking of which you know I came exactly two minutes ago because I thought like if I I if I see myself that like I might be on time for something somehow I have an emergency bathroom thing and while I was there my wife thinks I waste time watching TV but I was very productive I wrote down some ideas for tonight okay I have a lightning round of questions for Shades besides for the Q a the actual planned q a which is going to be our first segment tonight coming up yeah um so intermittently I'll just pull out now it's called lightning ground but you could take as long as you need to answer them because that's not fair like I shouldn't feel pressured by the name lightning and I'm not gonna go in any particular order I'll do but here maybe we've answered the question but blue collar job you most Envy blue collared job I most and I think most people for me it's trucker because I could smoke a lighthouse operator is that blue collar uh probably not you probably really need to like like I mean that's not to say I shouldn't Blue Collar jobs don't think that you can just step up and do it it takes know-how but why I've always been intrigued with the life of a lighthouse operator you but you actually are your alarm Tenors well it's not technically yet that doesn't yeah I'm not gonna you are a Lamplighter yeah because it is a Lamplighter you know that song No to make the world brighter okay go ahead lightning round lightning round no pressure okay um you are from Chicago yeah but you lived in Crown Heights for a number of years yes I did as a buffer yes and then also as a younger man when you got yes 41 Crown Street that's where tybo was born I mean not she wasn't born in the apartment we were not like that healthy but I think she was born at uh Long Island University Hospital in downtown Brooklyn but she when she when we brought her home brought her home to 481 Crown Street go ahead what's your Crown Heights question so 41 was that like uh off of Kingston Avenue it's right around the corner from Apple Drugs Apple Drugs what was that like living in Crown Heights waiting on line on Apple Drugs I guess you can you were able to just wait at home but that like little bench cubicle there you can find out a lot about people's medication not just that um just it's it's a good insight into Crown Heights culture but okay I was about to say something okay so give me one thing you miss about living in Crown Heights can I say something I I think it's so perfect that I'm in Five Towns because whatever I need in Crown Heights is only a short drive away but I'm I'm not a New Yorker so like Nassau County for me is like just about as New York as I can get hey you know you came out to Nasa County you're my neighbor you you you you exactly three years you know about right turn on red my car because I moved in the sanitation who comes behind your house to get your garbage and you call them for special pickup if you want to throw out like your whole kitchen you just tell them come get it yeah um and Nary a car alarm to be heard at three in the morning just the planes the planes yeah I got used to the planes yeah okay what what you didn't tell us what's one thing in particular it doesn't have to be like a practical thing it could be anything something that you do Miss suppose okay fine yeah being able to double mind of at three in the morning yeah you do that anyway you hang out in 770 till 2 A.M I do that anyway that's true one thing you don't miss about living in Crown Heights okay nervous he's like next okay I have some letters that I want to read yes um and this is a letter that I was handed just a few minutes ago and it goes like this deer robbing tab I'm the middle of watching your video the simple mindset shift this simple mindset shift will bring you peace I'm that that's the name of the video by the way this simple mind shift this simple mindset shift will bring you peace oh I know it you did a three-part series on the moon and anxiety and this was part three yeah this was part three YouTube is funny the titles on YouTube they can't be good titles because you have to tell the person actually what they will get from the video so it's like a very clumsy title but it actually tells you what you will get but you can't tell them too much because right gotta make it you know Intrigue so they click yeah anyways you gotta you could actually technically limit I think it may do it for you the next like the giveaway word so they have to click on it to see the full title you can purposely plan it like that yeah so your video the simple my this simple mindset shift will bring you peace I'm that woman who stopped you on gen was very specific and I know you told me that anything I'm reading you have explicit uh permission from the person to read it I'm that woman who stopped you on January 4th in front of the fish store in Crown Heights you know what fish store she's talking about raskins raskins I was I was going to say Shabbos fish because raskins would be the obvious choice usually but it was because you know why I parked I think I like parked in front of sweet Expressions actually and you're a Camille Jacobson you know one of our that's right yeah one of our donors um so and then I was walking was I going to 770 or was I I just remember being parked in front of sweet Expressions she said in front of the fish store I think it was in front of sweet Expressions at any rate yes I do remember this go ahead I don't remember that was January 4th but I don't remember my kids English birthdays either so what's January 4 is the famous days that's swearing in there where were you on the day of January no so oh I I was in Costco it was a Wednesday because it was the night before my wedding no it was the week before and the night before your wedding it's exactly when the week started that I needed a shimer you had a shimer and he just come into town so anyway and um I was buying stuff for my house for my okay January 4th at 2020 21 the big one all right um speaking of which are you in the middle of reading a letter yeah you keep distracting me no okay go ahead go ahead I saw you on January 4th yeah I asked you for two three minutes of your time and you gave me 15. well I'm glad that was the next because I can easily go the other way and you gave me 15. or you couldn't stop me firstly I want to say I've been thinking that may have been a bit audacious of me and I apologize if it was secondly I want to say that those 15 minutes have been so invaluable in more ways than I can describe I've taken to the program like I have been needing it for so long and hearing you speak she's talking about a program of recovery I remember the question there's no name on there right please no okay yeah Ron Burgundy again I will read it if it's the I've taken to the program like I've been needing it for so long and hearing you speak about being in the present moment for all and hearing you speak about being in the present moment for that is all that exists I compose this email the next day I stopped at that very same place and said I was the one who said short videos count more seemingly yeah she gave me some feedback also I remember she was asking me a question and then she was like by the way you should do more short videos okay I'm just filling in the uh okay I was the one who said short videos count more seemingly I turned to this long video because that's what I needed to hear oh that's right because you started the beginning about this simple mindset shift will bring you peace that's how long it was like an hour and a half video okay in gratitude with the name PS if there's anything I can do to repay you for those precious moments please let me know and I did I said could we read this on the live stream yeah it's beautiful yeah you know what's interesting yeah um I also prepared a little filler called segment called Truth or Cola it's because truth or dares guys so I truth or Cola and you want to know what the first truth I was going to ask you so basically I I have I'm going to ask you something cooler is a Hasidic somersault yeah which has said them dare each other primarily dare each other to do a sort of a right of initiation and sort of hazing ritual yeah but they don't seem too hesitant to take it up so it's a pretty easy one it's not much of an easy ritual when you want to do it but to figure out okay so this was the first one I was and I'll do it okay truth or cola have you ever faked a phone as before I saw this letter have you ever faked a phone call on Kingston Avenue to avoid a stop and chat I wish I had enough social skills to do that I'm much more blunt than that I will tell people very very bluntly like I can't talk right now I I don't ignore people if people come over to me I'll always respond to them if I ever ignored you publicly I'm saying anyone who's watching and they say that I ignore them publicly please understand I was not ignoring you I was oblivious I uh sometimes I tend to be tunnel vision and I don't see things don't attribute malice to what could just be ineptness ineptitude yeah yeah okay um we have a program to get to and it was a good reminder to everyone watching to take this opportunity to click on the link that may be in the YouTube subscription or wherever you are watching if you're watching it right under the YouTube players should be a link right there charity with a d.com slash r s t as in Rebecca style or you could just Google Soul words and by the way it's very nice Soul words could I it's we own that it's all words yeah yeah SEO yeah okay uh take it away Rabbi Taub what are we doing now we are doing ask me anything oh okay yes all right excellent thank you all right that's so much fun Haim really so delightful all right so this is the ask me anything segment and we have questions that came in real people's real questions uh but I was told to announce that if you want to send in questions right now in real time um how should they say it they should either WhatsApp it to the soul words WhatsApp okay so I'll have to tell you the phone um uh what's the soulwords phone number anybody know it I wish I was more organized five one six four nine five three zero two one we'll say that again but that's not a text that's the WhatsApp uh that is oh and please don't send me personal information to that phone that's an office phone that's how we do our WhatsApp broadcast so again that's five one six four nine five three zero two one and uh you text right now oh I see it's on the screen you text right now and we will uh try to answer your questions or you can email Rabbi at soulwords.org and that is my personal email so you could write private things there but right now just questions uh to deal with live Rabbi at soulwords.org okay so I'm going to start with the ones that came in already yes why not okay all right grab it up I wonder if you could address uh the statement you made in one of your lessons see I always appreciate this way of a question opening where it's a follow-up to something that we've studied together um I'll give you a little uh inside Glimpse about my life I get a lot of requests to do especially when they want me to speak to kids and to teens they'll they'll request to do the stump the rabbi format I don't like to stump the rabbi format because it becomes a like a gimmick it's a game just who can ask the the most outrageous questions like come on let's sit down let's start having a conversation and let's if questions organically arise from whatever it is we're discussing beautiful but to just come up with a question out of the blue those types of questions I find are never really that um not they don't they're not personal they they're lacking a certain depth but when somebody says like like they just did that this is quite the question based on a statement that I made in one of my classes what that means is they thought about something they tried to internalize it something didn't really make sense fully for them and then they were like hey I want to follow up on that I love those types of questions okay and by the way for a guy like me who doesn't have a brick and mortar established uh institution although I do Baruch hang my hat at cabata the five towns and that is where if you do want to find me in any type of regular place in the actual physical world that's the location that is my my base and my Center Baruch Hashem but uh because most of what I do is on the internet my relationship with people is basically uh this is what it is I put I upload a class somebody listens to the class sometime later they have a question about the class they email me about the class to me that's that's that's an interaction that's a relationship so okay uh the statement you made in one of your classes about when something bothers you in total or something you've learned from Torah how to approach that that's very interesting because that's basically everything I've just been saying that the person learned something that I taught and it didn't really make sense to them so they're following up about it that's actually not only what they're doing here but it's what they're asking about the actual subject they're asking about which is um a statement and I do know what class sometimes people say to me oh you made a statement in such and such a class and I don't remember the statement in this case I remember exactly what it was it was actually a class on parishes and it was about when Yankee ravino begged Yosef to swear to him that he yasuf would bury Yankovic uh that uh Jacob told Joseph bury me in Israel uh and he says and I know that you may have hard feelings against me because your mother Rachel I I buried her on the side of the road I didn't bury her in uh in in havron in the in the cave of machpela so uh yes the whole class about why was Joseph it was based on like most of my uh Parsha classes if not all of my partial classes are based on the circus but at any rate the point was that uh yankovino was was was answering a question that yes have had not that yes have questioned his father like how could you is like he doubts uh God himself so that's not what it meant it didn't mean he had doubts about it it meant that he was an Earnest student he was like that father I know that there was a reason to this and I gotta hear the answer explain it to me because I want to know I want to be in on it on the inside and that's what I explained over there that when you have uh when you encounter something and tell you that you don't understand the greatest compliment to the Toyota is to say this is bothering me I don't understand this because if you just take everything in stride we're like okay yeah I don't get that but no problem I I believe you I believe you that kind of patronizing attitude actually means that you're not engaged with the Toyota that you're learning but when you stop you say hold on a sec this makes no sense to me that actually shows that you are engaged okay um it take me a while to get through this question I haven't even gotten through the question um David said to me before David's the producer and he's like uh we printed out six questions and then more questions will come in live but I don't think you're going to get through more than three questions David knows me okay let's see if I even get through two um I haven't gotten through one yet how to approach that and if it's possible to address this from the perspective of teaching high school students as well that would be a bonus oh I love this question I find that they I guess this is probably a high school teacher and I mentioned last night how I love to help those who are helping others I like to teach those who teach others that's something I find very meaningful so it sounds like this is probably a high school teacher I find that they may that they have many more questions than my generation only 10 years ago had so this person was in high school 10 years ago so this is a probably a 28 year old person who's teaching High School more so they're questioning more basic tenets of Judaism that I thought was simply part of basic ammonia and title fascinating fascinating okay I love that question um I'll try to do it uh briefly so that we can cover more questions first of all don't be afraid of questions don't be afraid of them um the worst that could happen is you don't know the answer it's okay it's okay not to have an answer um children especially teens have to know that their their Torah study is a personal process of developing a relationship with Hashem and and if that is the case then they have to be allowed the the freedom to make it personal which means even if I believe conceptually that something is Titus Ms it's absolutely true I know it's true because Toyota says so but if on a personal level let's say even I find it offensive I know that Toyota says such and such but my sensibilities are offended by it now I know Toyota's right and I'm wrong I know I'm wrong but I'm being honest about the fact that I don't know this this I I can't accept this it bothers me children and for that men are adults have to be told you have not only the the freedom but actually you have an obligation if you take Toyota seriously you have the obligation to express that so you're saying that 10 years ago you and your peers didn't have these types of questions great and if you didn't have those questions I wouldn't go and give you those questions there's no Mitzvah and purposely getting people to be bothered by things that don't bother them we're not out there to get people riled up to have new questions but when a question organically arises and I think to me that's that's the main thing when a question organically arises as a real process of somebody trying to get to know Hashem through Torah then that has to be respected and it has to be cherished it has to be when someone's asking a question that's legitimately arising from their mind clashing with the infinite wisdom of Toyota that should be treasured as like as an opportunity for molding our thinking to hashem's Torah and and forgetting to know Hashem more deeply so anyways short answer is um don't just tell them that's a wonderful question actually convince yourself and believe that these these questions are a wonderful opportunity be excited by the fact that they're asking questions and don't feel any pressure that you have to have a smart answer you do not have to have a smart answer I can promise you something I want another trick a lot of people think I'm smart and I don't even actually say smart things what I do it's very funny if you just validate people's questions and show a little bit of empathy they imagine that you said something smart it's it's it's it's it's uncanny but try it out especially if you teach high schoolers you don't have to have a smart answer to every question but if you can validate them and and affirm that their their process is legitimate and and and necessary all this they won't remember what you said but they'll say oh yeah yeah he was a good teacher yeah yeah he taught us a lot you might maybe you didn't even teach him anything but you validated so that's yeah okay next question David says move on a lot of questions coming in live okay where are they coming to the WhatsApp or to the to the email to my WhatsApp okay so I'm gonna try to take a look while Rabbi Tau gets to the next question I wanted to read some beautiful donations that have just come in in the last half hour yeah and I specifically want to mention uh Ellie tabach oh enough there's any relation yeah that Ali Malek is meishi's brother they're both dear friends of mine yeah um I'm sorry that was uh Ellie tabach um I'm losing it and just now I saw Anonymous in honor of Ellie Nash and he yeah Ellie Nash uh who's he was on the show the other night yeah and he's a mattress and he's a matcher and he also shared something when he was on live that he's encouraging anyone who appreciates his work um since he just sort of he does that for free and for fun um and uh he's doing a fascinating program this week with Jesse Jacobson I believe and um he encourages people as a token of appreciation for his work to donate to your campaign and that speaks highly about his uh appreciation for you and his you guys have done some great stuff together uh yeah so Ellie tabach three thousand dollars um and I wanted to read this Avi singer and uh 360 and he writes thank you Rabbi Taub for making the Tanya so inspirational and relatable Avi is like a guy not only who learns with me online but he I'm sorry I read the wrong yeah you read the wrong dedication it's popping up because the donations are coming in so fast that the screen you can't even it's like it's beautiful but obviously he's a neighbor of I mean he I think he lives in Far Rockaway but not I'm sorry I read the navi singer a thousand seven hundred and twenty eight dollars wow interesting number and I would love to a small token of appreciation for Robbie Taub and all he's done for me he's a great guy okay and the other comment I read uh about the Tanya Tanya Andrea Scott 360. oh beautiful and then here's another one uh this was our guest the first night um pop Insanity gourmet popcorn who we had like Aaron Rob Aaron uh a thousand dollars that's a nice reminder about that he's offering a 10 off coupon if anyone wants soulwords coupon code uh soulwords coupon code for 10 off any of their stuff online uh stock up for Purim and then uh here we have Esther h twenty dollars thank you Robbie Tau for your continued parenting support it's beautiful um and yes there's some others I will get to a bit later um but we're going back going back to questions okay because I have a bunch of questions that came in one more I have a trivia for the audience if they donate I saw a beautiful a donation came in from One SV homnick all right and I'm gonna assume I know that who that is growing up in Borough Park and um here's a trivia for the audience yeah can you name all right um the movie was a short I guess which was very ahead of its time both production and and message wise it was made in like I don't know early mid 90s the name of that movie um or video VHS which SV homnick appeared on oh I know as well as I think it may have been one of them very first it was my first public slim Chase tab who also makes a cameo yes there's a video that we're both in that is true I'll tell you what once we get someone who can and I I gotta double we just did some Crown Heights Nostalgia earlier I want anyone I'll read it out loud go can guess the name of the movie and then where that movie was on a consistent Loop where it was looped what restaurant that no longer oh okay and also another trivia question who produced that video the name of the producer because he's a neighbor of mine also in the five towns all right so yeah well I'll read it when we get there back to questions live q a okay by the way up SV came over to me at bentsy's the other like a few weeks ago and he was like buying pickles and he said to me he reminded me when I was like 24 years old and I forgot about this but and when he first said it I didn't believe him but then after I left I thought about it and then I remembered it was true he said he was out of fabregan and he was harassing me because some of my friends told him you're not going to believe this that which is my camera by the way David four okay um people don't realize we're three two one motion Studios this is like real this is this is Hollywood there's like 10 cameras here so it's hard to keep track so he came over to me and he's like your buddies told me this was like 25 years ago uh it was your bucket is sitting on fabrina and and they said that you don't want to learn Sid this you only want to learn gamoda and I had forgotten that I went through such a phase that is true and I said I don't relate to see this and I can't learn to see this I'm just going to learn I'm just going to learn gemata and he told me and at first when he told me I didn't remember then then afterwards I was like yeah that's true he said that he told me that your in your your future is that you're going to teach us to this he says and he said in fact I even told you you're going to have paranasa from it which hopefully five hundred thousand dollars worth of he really he said this and he's like and he said uh so you so that's why you need to learn to see this and then he reminded me that I said to him if that's true that my whole life and career and even my partner will come from teaching us to this so then I shouldn't learn negle at all I'll only learn to say this and then he said to me um no no but it's important you should continue to learn negloo because the people who you're going to have an influence on are going to respect that you bring sources from Toyota that from not the areas of Sidis and it's going to be very important so so specific is that ridiculously specific wow yeah okay at any rate back to yeah David says we have just a few moments we have questions here that came in all right uh yeah if Jews can't gamble why do we BL why can we play Dreidel okay so that's a wonderful question um I want to tell you about first of all I have a class on Soul words and on YouTube and can you tell us why that question is kafka-esque people love using that term kafka-esque oh did you see my class on dreidel yeah so I actually uh gave a class on on dreidel and my opening uh statement I guess was that there's a Kafka short story which in German is called dirkraisal which means the top the spinning top and it's a story about a philosopher who seeks to understand the mysteries of the universe by observing the spinning of a spinning top and then that was my segue to say that there's a lot of cities on the dreidel and by understanding the driver you can understand the nature of the Mysteries of the universe at any rate with the gambling part the gambling part actually is not a bug it's a feature remember the whole purpose of dreidel was to study Toyota undercover that when the Greeks would come we could pretend we were playing a game okay so why don't we pretend we were playing uh three on three basketball you know why not uh because three and three basketball is skill a lot of things are skill uh dreidel specifically is chance and that reinforced the the undercover uh disguise which was hey we're just playing a game of chance as if we don't even believe in our practice we don't believe that there's a maker who's coordinating and orchestrating everything so it's all part of the part of the ruse okay um please don't share my name okay what I actually don't see the name because you should know by the way on the WhatsApp uh the soulwords WhatsApp there is like contact 5252. contact 2100 they're just numbers we'd actually I don't see names in the soul words uh broadcast uh WhatsApp phone uh please don't share my name okay I don't have your name what does the Tanya terms is mean in Practical terms I loved it that's a great question because I like to try to translate things into I think that's a tagline of Swords uh spiritual wisdom and down to earth language so I guess that's what they're asking me to do so escafka are Aramaic terms are from the zihar and uh first I'll translate them literally uh escafia means subjugation is hapka means transformation um in down-to-earth terms I would say control yourself and change yourself control yourself means that there's an aspect of self that you're not allowing to be granted expression because it's not aligned with hashem's will and you acknowledge this fact that there are parts of you that are not aligned with hashem's Will and it's just a fact by the way today's Tanya speaks about that we're finishing chapter 27 of Tanya the daily Tanya it speaks about just realizing that for most of us we do have an aspect of self which is not aligned with hashem's Will and uh we don't have to be ashamed of it um that's part of serving Hashem is is to control that impulse but that can't be all there is to it because then essentially we're saying the only tool we have for you is white knuckling we call it you know White Knuckle holding on tight to your knuckles get white there has to be more to it white knuckling is good to begin with but then we have to have another mode of service and that is change yourself and change yourself means an educational process slowly adapting yourself to be aligned with hashem's will not just behaviorally but emotionally and and it's it's a process uh generally in Chabad the way we do it is through meditation of thinking about the greatness of Hashem and the more we think about Hashem the more we care about Hashem the more we care about Hashem the more we genuinely care about what he wants and then not only are we doing it as an act of self-sacrifice but we can actually on some level to some degree um do what Hashem wants in a way where we're also enjoying it and that would be and it's not binary All or Nothing black and white it's not like either you did a sample or you didn't there are degrees of it and there are different areas of life you might achieve ASAP in one area and not in others like there might be Mitzvahs for you that you used to really struggle with and now they're natural for you so you did this Opera with that Mitzvah and you didn't do ASAP with other misses and that's what it is okay another question um how to stay feeling connected when you don't necessarily get straight answers like others do what is the right way to interpret the letter I'm gonna guess that this person is asking when they say interpret the letter they're probably talking about egress I'm so glad someone's asking this because the next hour is a whole segment just on egress but I'll talk about this right now you know when I did I have a 30 second answer when I did the egress class 30 letters in 30 days so many people came to me before it came out and they were like oh are you going to teach us how to get answers from the egress I said yes but not what you think um they they were asking me how do you randomly select the letter and then interpret whatever's answer to you I said you know what I'm not going to randomly select anything open up page one and just start reading the the the deba's letters and learn how to think the way that EV is teaching us to think so actually if you want to know how to interpret letters in that type of way I don't know I actually don't know how to do that but what I love doing is um training myself how to think like the deva's letters train us to think which means basically uh and maybe for some this is considered blasphemy that when you start reading the deba's letter after the first paragraph you should anticipate which direction the dev is going to go sometimes you won't call it but if there's a certain Delight you get like I know I see that I was gang I see the devil's approach that's that's how the dev is gonna that that's where the dev is going because that's what the egos are for they're training us how how to think um show you one more really quickly yeah okay recommendation for wife of someone so this is either the wife is writing this or her friend uh going through tremendous mental health difficulties or maybe the husband's writing his wife is going through okay I'll have to try to parse this haven't been this is totally spontaneous I haven't looked at this before this just came in um haven't been able to find someone to talk to in the from community but I guess in short how to connect with God when all feels out of control I'm in therapy and working on things I can control but it's really hard okay um I'm I think this question is coming from a woman who's married to a man who's going through mental health difficulties and she is in therapy to try to stay in her Lane and try to stay focused on what she can do with the acknowledgment that there's a big part of her life meaning her husband's mental health which she cannot directly control and it has a big effect on her and presumably on her children she doesn't mention children or how many or ages but that's what I'm picking up from the letter okay and and and the biggest thing I'm picking up is the the the loneliness the isolation the feeling that she has no one to talk to she's asking also she doesn't ask how to find someone to talk to but she mentions um she hasn't found somebody to talk to uh first of all for whatever it's worth just know that for whatever reason Hashem chose uh I am a clearing house for a lot of stuff that's going on in Claud ISRO people tell me stuff so you should know I hope you're listening right now I hope you're still there you're not the only one maybe this is maybe this makes you feel even worse but it's just the fact you're not the only one who's going through this right now I hope that itself even if you haven't found someone yet and I stressed the word yet who you can confide in and talk to you should know that you're not alone there are so many people going through the struggle with you and all I can tell you is that the therapy is good it's great I'm glad that you're tending to your mental health it sounds like you're also attempting to tend to your spiritual health and um foreign you know in school they teach you the lesson and then they give you the test in life they give you the test and then you're taught the lesson and of course hazal I say just saying there's no one is wise as someone who has been through the School of Hard Knocks the real life experience um I don't mean this I I'm not saying this is a justification for the hardships you're going through I'm not trying to justify it I'm not being hashem's defense attorney uh Hashem can defend himself um I but I'm telling you that your challenges do make you wiser they make you more compassionate and uh and in some small way maybe you'll find some comfort in beginning to channel some of that hard-earned wisdom and compassion you have the wisdom and compassion you you have it because of everything that you're going through uh if you start channeling it by using it to help others I think you'll find some com some comfort in that I also want to tell you that you know how you're looking for someone who you can confide in I don't know if you're going to find that person but I know I promise you that to somebody else you are that person there's someone who's looking perhaps with even more desperation than you are for someone to talk to and and they don't know it yet but they're looking for you so put yourself out there and I'm glad that your question reached me so I had an opportunity to speak about this okay I think we're done with the this segment yeah thank you Robbie tab I did want to call out a few donations and they are coming and it's so beautiful to see them I love when my screen starts flickering um this just came in Anonymous 36 dollars to rob a talbin family thank you for answering my dreidel question oh thank you that was the dreidel guy and he says uh come to Arizona come to Arizona I would love to come to Arizona you know I've a lot of good friends in Arizona some of my best friends honey merazov 108 thank you Rabbi Chase for all you do for Claude Israel Mendy and Fermi Whiteman 360 thank you for all the resources you provide to our schluchas uh wow look at this beautiful donation from Miriam and mati Sandman three thousand dollars wow yeah that's serious and um 100 Miriam Goldberg I think she just donated every year so far that I've been involved and I thank you um Anonymous 108 dollars and I want to read a few testimonials which I have in front of me this uh since I don't live in a from area I always need online learning but especially during covid when I was home more than ever before and needing more inspiration than ever Robbie talb was right there Baruch Hashem yes these classes have been my strength since I lost my husband oh Robbie taub's words are always heartfelt introspective wise and kind so real down to earth uplifting practical life-changing and inspiring and I think people see them on the screen as I'm reading them and this is another one he's a very lucid speaker who handles his subjects effortlessly and makes the material he presents interesting and entertaining and informative his reasoning is logical and persuasive so and uh we have a Live guest in studio and if the camera will get to Our Guest and surprise is he on camera yeah I'm sure he's here remember my mom's here yeah I'm very very honored today this is the third wine bomb we've had I I want to just this is the elephant in the room so I want to say yeah it is the third one and we talk about your sister from Puerto Vallarta so but I wanna I want to clarify this is not out of 14. 4 out of 14. this is not nepotism is not here because he's David's brother he he's here because he's one of my um biggest fans okay I'll you know what I'm learning to accept that kind of Praise thank you he's one of my biggest fans but I want to flip it on you I'm one of your biggest fans and I want to tell you something among uh even though you got me to dress up I was about to ask you a King costume in front of the entire Eastern Parkway on halamide if you think Rabbi tab has been vulnerable if I push his limits that does not come close to what this means this guy roped me into and nevertheless I want to tell you what a fan I am and at least someone can we get that picture on the screen the picture yeah and I and I want to tell you how much my kids love the hidon and how much they've grown from it and their passion not just for limited but can I say something Swedish a little bit but rambam isn't just Lima Torah it's the Revis takana something that was dear to the Devon is dear to the rabbit and uh my son of ram Abba who was here last night the night before and I think he's even coming later tonight I think he was the first year where they went through the was what was what what year would have that been where they the first year went through all the great so it was like a few years ago he's 18 now or 17 he's 70's and sheer aleph zal so when he was 13 he was the does that make sense four years ago at any rate so he learned the whole hidon curriculum and thank you you're very welcome and uh that's really special to hear all of that but I'm really here tonight for you um I've personally grown so much from you um I learned a lot of this and loved this and spent so much time davening but it never became to me as real as it has through your theorem and it's not just me so many members of my family have learned through your Sherman and so many other shiorim and we all feel indebted to the big Rabbi of the world and the man that's making a big difference so thank you for having me and thank you for all you do it's it's a pleasure it's an honor and I want to mention I don't know if this was the thought process behind this but we just did a segment call ask me anything the last time we were together I want to talk about the last two times we were together the last time we were together was here in Crown Heights it was at basico high school last night Mrs Blau extracurricular uh director from base Rifka was here and she mentioned this but I'm mentioning again I had many many offers to go to different communities for YouTube I chose to stay here and to go to base Rifka and Robbie weinbaum and I did an ask the rabbi about a real Astro but not some jokey you know stumped the rabbit it was real it was authentic we we took apart those questions and the girls were super engaged and and and it was really really really it was I I have no words for I mean it was and I want to thank the Hall of Base Rifka because they were there and they afterwards they said you know we appreciate how deep it was they appreciated the depth so did I you really took us on an incredible journey and there was a lot of times in the journey you were taking on like we didn't feel like you would get us there but at the end everyone was like wow that was unbelievable but the but the second two times ago where were we together in London in London which is your hometown by the way I have something here when I was in London last time you look what I got here this is very cool this is a Tanya you've ever seen this before okay I picked this up in uh golders green but this is a Tanya which was printed at British Army headquarters wow yeah never seen that before yeah you've never seen it take a look at any rate so we did a we did a ask the rabbi you'd test kiss live together in London for the uh for the local girls and it was a weird thing they put they put us together I I like you I mean don't get me wrong but they put us we never did like a duet together and it was so good I realized we make a good team so after we got back from London we're like we got to do this again and so your test kiss live in London in Crown Heights and coming to a community near you we're gonna but I gotta think it's like this guy he really you think that I'm comfortable because I like public speaking and everything like I sometimes I have a hard time with audience especially young audiences and you made me feel so safe and you were so good with them and you just you created such a an open uh space for me to to do what I do and I loved it was so you really were tremendous and what you mentioned before about the way you took apart those questions I think that really is I was use the format of Sidis in other words we need the same way that the Reba asks a question um on the mind when it comes to a mimer or he just throws one question and another one and a third one and a fourth and a fifth and a sixth and you feel like oh my gosh there's like no answer to this but then he comes across and gives you the background and once you get that background all of a sudden all of those questions are suddenly gone and that's what you did you really really like you it wasn't about answering that question it was about taking us to a new space and in that new space not only there's no questions but what felt so painful before actually feel Felt So Good you know this morning I was teaching in seminary and uh I teach in basic Seminary which I'm very honored to uh to do and I actually started off class I said ladies I'm in the middle of a 500 000 campaign I don't know why I'm here my nephew Bahamas was telling me call in sick cancel and then all of a sudden I realized hold on why am I raising money so I can teach Torah and now I have a room full of Future Leaders of World jewelry you know the these lab Avatar girls who are all going to go out and have families and many of them lead communities and I said I have to be here so what were we learning together in basically Seminary this morning we're learning the first mimer from Hampshire I don't mess around with them you know no kid stuff we're learning that I better shops and why am I talking about this because I said to them the rubber shop is going to ask a question he's going to ask why do we forego the awesome power of chauffeur when Rosh Hashanah falls on Shabbos and that question itself may not be the most burning question in your life it may not be a question that would keep you awake at night on its own but the beginning of a journey and if you go through the Journey you're going to discover something that I promise you will be deeply personal to you so it's about the journey they say that those questions are the passports for the mimer yeah that's right that's right that's the expression I think maybe it was a hill poditure who questioned what do you need the passport but that's that's how you do it you can't take it you say what do I need a piece of paper for I just want to go on the trip but the piece of paper is the ticket to the trip and it's a it's a process and I wish people understood that that we don't have to be afraid of questions we don't have to get rid of questions and certainly we don't have to shame people for having questions a question is a springboard for movement lean into it and and and and enjoy the ride because if it's Torah it's always going to end up with something deeply meaningful just it always will that's what it is 100 percent you you listen I'm not they say that I I I'm good at bringing stuff down but you bring things even further down because you bring it down for children so how about this could could you have that picture I sent you you have the picture oh my God okay so while they're putting in the picture but remember do you have a message for the children and oh my goodness yeah okay so that's me Eastern Parkway in a King costume this guy in the rain in the rain do you remember what I told you when I asked you to do that I don't remember even what you said to get me to do it but I remember apparently whatever it was I'm sure it was in a louder voice I remember so what are you tell me I don't remember what I told you I said you always speak about that you can't just talk the talk you have to that's how you got the walk and if this is all real then how would you be able to say no that's in fact you even quoted chapter and verse you threw back a particular talk at me you said remember that talk you gave to the head staff of the camps last summer when you spoke about mashiach is when all the spiritual ideas are going to become tangible and empirically evident we're going to see with our flesh remember that and I was like yeah okay that's what we got to do we got to make hak hill come alive and be real I was like yeah we got to make it real the kids have to see it yeah so someone's gonna have to dress up as the king okay all right and he got me anyways what's a message for the kids and kids of all ages wow a message for the children so I think that one of the most meaningful messages that is that the rabbit speaks of Kinder and by the rallies the rebel is telling us that before mashiach comes even the young children are going to learn the deepest secrets of the Torah and one would question if if they're the deepest secrets of the terror so then only the greatest Taurus Scholars should be able to to know them and uh definitely not children and definitely not children of all ages and the answer for that is is yes before mashiach comes there'll be people like Rabbi who will be able to bring down those messages to a point into a place where even a child and even children of all ages can actually connect relate to it and feel and understand that this is the best way of life it's not that we're learning Exodus just to be able to learn another subject to know more to understand more this is the best way of life and as you live it and feel it you're really moving into goola in a very real way and thank you again Roberta for all that you've given me personally my family and the greater family of Claudius raw thank you so much thank you thank you it's very meaningful okay thank you around by weinbaum and we have a few uh more testimonials that I'd like to read and um also a reminder that this is a uh campaign that we're running and well another beautiful donation just coming in now Hani s from Brooklyn uh my quote-unquote secular sponsor is a mega fan of your Terran Tanya harnessama is a flame meaning she's saying that her sponsor I'm assuming she means in a program of recovery is Jewish but quote unquote secular meaning not religious but she's a big fan of my uh Tanya class which is not a surprise to me that somebody who has the spirituality of a program of recovery would find themselves very comfortable in Tanya and that is very cool speaking of which you answered a question just at the end there before about someone um and you said something about how their own struggle that they may be in the midst of now chances are will they'll see soon how that can benefit others specifically yeah something to that effect it reminded me of something it says in this book that we will see how our experience can be useful to others and it's interesting because so often especially when it comes to matters pertaining to the our vulnerabilities our weaknesses that it like there's a lot of old ideas about or old core beliefs of somehow them being uh self uh self-serving or self-indulgent to sort of like uh even have the right to address them and I was there you try to be a better person yeah yeah and I think to every one of these resistant ideas there's like a truth that's hiding underneath and perhaps it's that if if one's working under the impression or the assumption that it is an End Road in and of itself that it's just my own healing and then I'm just aha right at the end of the day if it's just about my recovery then how important is it but if it's my service to others then it's a duty oh by the way I I don't know if it's going to be so upset because they're going to make us another 30 seconds late but the four cups has got the pesach is coming up I brought these I forgot I keep forgetting why I have a how many of them are here one two three four five I think there's six of them here uh this is the recovery based uh hagada it's a real hagada has actual text of Hagar you can use it at your pay 680 but it has explanations of the the that are written uh informed by the spirit of the 12-step program uh four cups hagada and could we get in on that so people can see that um I'll allow you to make up uh What uh donation amounts and then you're gonna get upset at me that I don't yeah no I won't be upset whatever you say but I have six of them only six I have six in the yeah any effective donation of 300 or more so that means 150 bucks being doubled to 300 yeah the next six or 300 or more are gonna get the hagada yeah and just to make it easier for them say the time so we can look it up afterwards now it's 9 11 but I know it's not I don't say that I'm gonna say that most recent it's a minute this makes it easy because the most recent donation that just came in right now and this is a biggie and this is whoa um and every year they donate so far that we've had the live stream we just got two thousand dollars nice from a little group called three two one motion ah those guys do that every year and it's all the best but you know what I gotta thank them for making it easy that I'm not gonna have to mail one of these exactly just leave it here good timing folks yeah thank you Rabbi tab um and and that's not going to come off the the bill I mean that's uh to actually thank you for all three two one motion for all your production needs there best video production outfit there is and we have some testimonials that I want to read if you could put them on the screen number 10 Robbie taubs teachings are so honest straightforward and real he shows up sincere with real advice thank you and this is the next one from Brooklyn thank you Soul words Soul words is brilliant Rabbi Shea style has so much to share wisdom Outlook knowledge there are so many different topics to listen to and to learn from he has helped me to understand our core values and strengthen myamuna I've learned and listened while at home or going for a walk has brought me Comfort and encouragement and tough times there's another one from Portugal wow if you are really a virtual community it's uh it's quite amazing uh it brings me Comfort proximity to myself and peace to my heart hope to and a return to a loving home uh this one another International one this one from Manchester England soulwords is one of my first go-to resources for nourishing my soul with practical and mystical Torah teachings that I am able to apply to my life that's a perfect summary of of what soul words is practical mystical Torah teachings that I'm able to apply to my life we have a Live guest via Zoom Rabbi Taub do you recognize the person on the screen in front of you yeah oh I know who that is yes should we should I intro her I'm sure okay okay is Mrs uh Rahul flickstein from Delaware you're in Delaware right now can you hear me you hear me right now she can't hear me she's not speaking for sure she can't hear me while we get that worked out another donation with a that is yes oh that's feedback should we should I intro her okay well okay we're gonna work that I'm hearing myself from Delaware getting it in Delaware right now I'm in Delaware right now okay amazing yeah can you hear me yeah I bet you hear me twice right now you hear me twice I do I hear you or you hear me once why can I hear myself twice I'm hearing my echo oh we got that worked out another donation with a um just talk loud it's okay okay oh that's what it if you hear us you have to turn off YouTube you have your live broadcast on you have to turn it off yeah hear me twice right now you have to turn off your YouTube you got it it's like one of those tunnel things where you you see yourself in the screen turn off your YouTube and unmute yourself it's the old days of talk radio turn off your radio right that is like the old days photography turn off your radio that's right all right amazing good call all right you with us you hear me now you hear me you hear me she doesn't hear me because maybe it's muted okay okay I hear you now you hear me okay excellent okay you just hear one voice okay now I hear one yeah excellent all right all right so um you uh you're you're joining us from uh from Delaware where you are angels and you've recently started a very uh interesting new project that you took on something that a lot of people wouldn't take on which is and uh yeah I'm sure you have a lot to tell us so but uh go ahead I'll give you the floor okay well first of all it's really an honor to be here and um thank you for for having me join you for this incredible opportunity to really support Soul words here I remember 12 years ago I think it was the first time that I actually heard you speaking at a jli retreat and you were talking about our relationship with Hashem created the world and I was so enamored by how you brought it down and how you gave such beautiful analogies made it so practical as people have been saying all night and I wanted more of it so I went online to look and I couldn't find anything I found maybe one or two videos on hobad.org I was so disappointed I kept waiting like when is Rabbi she's towel gonna have things that I can watch when I'm not at the girl I Retreat and so when so worth launched a few years ago it was like the best gift can can I tell you can I just tell you about your experience so you're saying you heard me 12 years ago okay yeah okay because I've been going around speaking for at least 15 years but it's crazy I would make videos and I would put them on other platforms and I was like okay it's out there it's online and it literally was not until five years ago it was five years ago that I finally I created one place as my virtual home online to start putting my content all in one place and and I and I started with a little little bit of it wasn't even a crowdfunding uh type of fundraiser I got a gift from a couple of donors and I had just enough to make a website and then I reached more people and then I raised a little bit more money and then we made a bigger website and that's what it's really that's what's this that's the history of it so it's interesting your personal experience is really the story of soulwords in a way so I I actually didn't know that but I'm glad to hear that now you can find my classes easily I I'm glad too and I love how it's been growing so much over over time and one of the projects I think that had the biggest impact on me yet was your 30 letters and 30 days uh project you know getting ready for psaf and it's very hard to do proper Nissan for me in the past and on my own and being a part of this like really I felt like I was part of this worldwide revolution of everyone learning these letters and strengthening so much our appreciation understanding of the Reva and his perspective on things and the deepening our is cautious in such a way that was was beyond words and um I think especially as I was progressing and starting this myself while being on there were so many things that were so relevant you know the there was in one of the letters was about being a Pioneer and starting a new High School Facebook with Mrs tectel her letter and many other ones there that were like exact I felt like you know both of those letters you just mentioned were letters were letters to women and I'm not a woman but one of the things I appreciate about the egress is you get a window to how many different types of people that Eva was communicating with so men women young people old people religious people not yet religious people and and when you learn or a mimer it's sometimes it's hard to see well what would this look like in this person's life or in that person's life when you see how they never wrote to a person you're like that's what it looks like that's how that that's how say this comes alive in the life of a mother or an educator or an entrepreneur or a a child or at all walks of life so it and and I don't think we tried like specifically you know sometimes like token representation like oh make sure to have some women's stuff in there I don't think we went out of our way to do that I think that's just what a cross-section of look of of eagles kadish is I mean that's that's what you find you find Kyle you're so represented so yeah and I love that you taught us how to do that like how to learn a letter and learn the rabbit style and learn the rabbis well obviously and it's like well maybe that wasn't obvious but that should be what's obvious to us now you know right um and and you really you don't you were able to teach that and you see that you teach it also through your example that one of the things that amazes me so much about the way that you approach your how you're teaching things is that it speaks to all different people and no matter if it's on the most beginner level I could share it with people in my community who barely have any Jewish background in education and to the most advanced level of people who have been in Yeshiva since for their whole lives at just brings it in such a real way like you were saying earlier about being able to live and and and have it become a part of you and then when it's a part of you can share it with other people so I after your gimleto Museum I also went in for that I went in for figured out of Nissan um I was so inspired we had a whole we had a whole Community Shabbos that Shabbos and I gave over like the whole the whole the whole Rankin to the community but then they felt a connection and a few people went to the aisle themselves after that and started writing letters in themselves so it it's a chain effect you know you're you're creating something that's so beyond you know a website like this is something that has such far-reaching impact because you're inspiring others who then have the opportunity to go Inspire others whether it's in a school setting a community setting a schlicha setting or just our own family and being able to talk at the Shabbos table or the dinner table about things that are so relevant and real to us so um I want to thank you for for creating that forum for us to be able to hear your Insight and wisdom and how you emulate the rep in that way of being able to speak to all different types and all different ages and stages of life and uh giving us that opportunity to then pass that forward and share it for it so it's uh it's a it's a privilege to be here and I hope everyone gives generously to the effort that you uh that you're doing here and that it really deserves everything you're trying to build um and and bring in tonight and more uh it you should be very successful in this thank you thank you so much and it's it's very meaningful I mentioned this a couple of times during this uh this is four days tonight is night number three uh so there are certain themes that have been recurring and one of them is where I shared that I have a special um satisfaction in providing resources for influential people for educators uh for those who are working with others and so some of the things you just told me now about how you were able to share some of the things that I was sharing and that you were able to take that make it your own and share it with your community that really that's the most meaningful feedback that I can get I appreciate it absolutely there's two two things I especially love your stories and analogies that you use that make that concept be so real in our lives like it just brings it so practically down the theory and the concepts becomes real when it's with that story or with that can I tell you about the stories because actually I don't know Dove is going to get nervous I'm gonna get into a tangent you know David says Okay um storytelling is a very dangerous um occupation because as a speaker the greatest fear um is that you'll lose your audience's attention and stories immediately grab people's attention there's something about the narrative format um if you're losing a Crowd by ex by speaking expositorially meaning explaining a concept all you have to do is just go and once there was a man and he was lost in a forest and all of a sudden you have everybody because oh and then what happened to him what happened to him right well you didn't even know the guy existed until two seconds ago now you now you're on the edge of your seat you want to know what happened so it's very it's always very tempting to tell stories because it's a way to get your audience but that's manipulative and one of my things is I don't think people necessarily know what goes on in my mind when I'm talking and teaching and speaking but one of my constant voices in my mind is to avoid to the utmost extreme any type of rhetoric that is manipulative that's easy that's cheap there are certain things that the human brain is just wired that way that you're gonna you're gonna get a reaction okay and I could I could give you a list of them right now this is not the time of the place for storytelling is such a cheap shot because it's a way to immediately engage the human brain um and and but let me tell you when you tell a story here's to my thinking how it has to be this is this is from the Frida kudabi he says that when the altareba arrived in mezadich that's where he studied with his with his rabbit the Magid one of the first things they taught him was that a story about the rabbit is the written Torah and a teaching from the rabbi like an idea that the debit taught is tirish about Pat is the is the oral Torah sort of like Taylor Swift the the written Torah is full of stories of like the Patriarchs the matriarchs and The Exodus and these things so stories about the Deb is is the written Torah and then the oral tour is like you know Concepts ideas so that's those are the two different types of of teachings so so we know follow this that those kinds of traditional the written Torah and the oral Torah correspond to respectively that's why it's very condensed it's like a story but you're not sure the deeper meaning because that's how is it's condensed elaboration explanation elucidation that's what it is you know explains things um so follow this he says which is a Kabbalah safer it says Mali right Bina eyes is the verb use urbina that's the adverb eyes okay which means this is what correspond to a story and a teaching so therefore here's the punchline every story is the embodiment of a teaching and every teaching every idea has a story which perfectly embodies it and the job is to find that story so we don't do storytelling just because you know sit around the campfire tell Ghost Stories the story is the tool to embody to bring down whatever the concept of citizens that we're trying to teach Rabbi tab can you give us a story that embodies the message we were just talking about I don't think my mic's on that embodies the message we were just talking about about healing by way of giving something back that you tell us soon I think you know which one oh you have a story that you that you know your healing has come full circle Ah that's a long story oh my goodness I don't know we'll see at 10 o'clock if David lets me tell that story yeah it's a classic that's a story about yes yes yes kaim I know the story you referring to okay all right David is saying we have to move on to the next uh segment okay Mrs lichtstein thank you so so so much it's very meaningful for you to be here and uh I didn't know about your personal uh journey in discovering the the videos and everything the soul words yeah and um I guess this is just one story of many stories yeah and one last thing if that doesn't yeah please I really also appreciate how much you care to help others and that you really go out of your way Beyond when you're so busy and over taxed you know we had I've come to you to ask you questions for advice in building the high school and so many times that I know other people have reached out to on a personal level and that you really care and whatever but you're it's because you care about the sharing with so yeah and for for really helping and changing all of our Lives thank you thank you I'm I'm thanks for having me thank you all right appreciate it you know so she just said thank you for like getting back to her I'm always scared when anybody says to me you know I texted you I'm always afraid they're gonna say and you didn't get back to me I'm always so relieved when they say you responded to me because you you cringe a little bit because you're not sure what's coming because I I I I get hundreds of texts a day and I I don't really get back to 99 of them and I yeah okay I'm not gonna ask you anything yeah what do you do when you is there a point at which it's like oh man I missed the window there I could have just replied but now it just feeds on itself it's like yeah we could go now I'm six months and it's just like an endless loop yes all I had to do is just say sorry time there's a story of my life you could have responded with a one-liner the day of and now it's a week later and now you better come up with something really brilliant and now the only way out of that is like an incidental thing that is like oh you happen to see that thing and so he can just like then later mentioned by the way I meant to call you back but money we're we are going to hit 50 oh we're gonna be halfway there very soon momentarily before we end tonight with hashem's help but we're right now getting or just a few inches away from two hundred thousand dollars and it's it's just really wonderful to see today was just it was a big day I want to tell you something last night like late last night after I finished rambam I should have done rambam before and I didn't finish till at any rate um I think we were at 200 donors or maybe 201 donors and now we're at 383 donors and I I want to share something I think I've said this before but I want to say it again uh to me it's not just the sum total of the dollars um Hashem should help we should hit that 500 000 Mark and and even Beyond but there's another number that means a lot to me and that's the number of donors because uh each one of those people who took the time to process their credit card it means this is another person who belongs to this virtual community and uh it I do not undervalue or at least I pray that I do not undervalue that what that means when somebody considers themselves somebody who I may not ever see or may rarely see in real life but they can they consider themselves part of what's going on here and it is extremely meaningful to me so that that number of donors means a lot so even if you can do two dollars do two dollars okay you can do 30 cents and I'll lose the whole thing the credit card processing fees it's okay it it it's you know somebody you mentioned one of our donors earlier The Heavy Hitters at the beginning of of the the evening one of the people you mentioned was Mitch cufflick so he was one of the early supporters of soulwords he told me something that has really advice that has stood me in good stead and that is um I don't think he made this up but it doesn't matter he's the one I heard it from so for me it's it's Mitch's vort he told me you can fake caring that you can't fake showing up so in in this virtual world how do you show up you process a credit card and uh that's called showing up yeah we have a next piece of programming to get to but I did want to get to the money thing I'm going to read just a few donations that just came in Anonymous 360 dollars in honor of stennis Sarah Bas Usher yaakov and Shayna bus shashana malka Vivi Darren 144 thank you for making Tanya and the Reba's letter so accessible that's a lot of things that you've been sharing tonight access uh being a resource um okay uh so like I said we want to try to get to 200 000 very shortly how about 200 000 by the end of the next segment that Robbie Taub is going to do and then um fifty percent which would be two hundred and fifty thousand before we get to 10 p.m I and by the way if you're you've been uh uh tuning in tonight or the other nights um you will probably get a phone call at some point assuming you subscribe or you have donated in the past at some point you you I think it's a past donors our call center there's I think four people at our call center and so we're limited so right now we're just calling people who have given past donations yeah so heads up you may get a call yeah obviously it's the people who they have the contact list of and donate and um uh again the amount is is uh is important but not as important as as being a part of this and by the way I have a hard time asking and certainly with this sort of stuff um but there's a nice subtle way of doing it if you're someone like me who has a hard time asking others you can just uh have it shared automatically on your Facebook page that you donated right just the click of a button and then it's like you know you're letting people know this is something that's important to you and you're inviting them to do the same without you know the heaviness of doing that in a direct way right no pressure yeah um and no pressure we have so many things to do within the next half hour but um how about this we're gonna go and go until we reach uh that 50 Mark we have to um but for now we are getting closer and closer by the way could you tell me about this these yamas I've been wearing this uh the last few nights yeah we had these last year couldn't have someone touch me one of these David don't be scared we're getting dog's hands is going to be in the program okay before we finish tomorrow night we're gonna get Dublin on camera the these are soul words yamakas now a lot of people might think this is 7-Eleven it is not because if you can you get in tight on that like really tight so you could see if you get in really really tight extreme close-up you're really extreme extreme still you can read the Hebrew it doesn't say 11. it says even it's seven like Carl schven okay and anyway what's called even that's that's uh coming fresh from your try coming fresh from YouTube The Seventh Generation we are in the Seventh Generation from the altareb so um I made that actually I have a hobby can David told me to get it back yeah you could tell me to get vulnerable but if I even mention your name you're sweating okay so he told me to get vote so I'm going to tell you something one of my hobbies is hi you're looking at your phone I'm being no because I I wanted to um one of my hobbies is a little bit of graphic design but not like professional like just fun it's like therapeutic for me so I you see these I made these two this does not look at this this not say Dunkin Donuts can you get untied in this because now my monitor is blank I can't see it yeah it's good can you see it says Soul words you can see it says swords okay so I did that too I did the graphic design by the way you were paranoid for the last 14 months about an intellectual property law somebody told me that way now but I'm about to make 500 000 I think I'm ready to go to Google fees that will go but I want to tell you so I'll destroy these if I need to if they see if they write me a seasoned desist I'll get rid of it so help me God but I will but it's parody it's cover it's parody it's parody it's just a prank it's just a prank bro listen this but I want to tell you something I there's um this certain aesthetic like sort of 90s Rave culture uh subversion of capitalism through uh re-appropriating corporate logos the semiotics of corporate logos that by the way sounds like a master's thesis for like NYU like uh the 90s Rave culture and subversion of capitalism through appropriating corporate logos and the semiotics of uh of uh corporate logos at any rate but so what I did is I took the Duncan don't submit it saw words it took the 7-Eleven made a coach even and that's what I enjoy doing on my spare time when I'm tired uh put up the debit letter okay fine I've got it so now you know a little bit about my life in the meantime we're getting closer to 200 000 Anonymous just gave two thousand dollars huh we're getting ready and um okay oh I wanted to mention this also uh I don't think we met can we get more Diet Coke if you uh don't uh are not tech savvy enough to make a charity account or you don't want to put your information there and I totally get that there's a bunch of other ways to donate if you leak uh take a look at the description um in the YouTube uh info and the description of the YouTube you can see and on the charity uh campaign page um you'll see a bunch of other ways to donate PayPal cash app all the Sal venmo Swiss bank account take it all so uh feel free to do that as well and if you want to be anonymous it'll be anonymous if not it will also be added on the back end to the website so that it'll get matched that's the point because you could donate all year but only until tomorrow night is it getting matched can we is it okay we like put on the pressure a little bit so people just remember there's it is a matching campaign so every dollar is worth two dollars until tomorrow night so that means that little urgency we should name the the the our matchers are and so that means these people already put up the money they put up the money so it's there they will match whatever comes in all right so that's coming in but they're not gonna match what doesn't come right so yeah do the thing the matchers no no the matches are already committed I'm saying the people you want me to say you want me to say that Sarah matchers we have uh we we have uh uh Elliot friend and Nash we have uh David and Edith Schottenstein we have getsy and Lisa felig and we have to say this right um Lakewood friends of Soul words yeah I'm not seeing it on the website I know who it is I know who Lakewood friends of soulwords is and uh I know who Anonymous is okay okay the Rebel's letter okay fine great my monitor does not work by the way it's okay all right excellent so can we go to the top there all right so actually before before no I can't read it but I have the same thing on my laptop okay can can I do a little intro before we go to the actual letter about this segment okay great um so just to back up the first hour our program was called ask me anything and and I did that because I am aware I'm not oblivious to the fact that people do think of me as a guy who answers questions and I know why that is I did write a column an advice column for eight years after all so I do understand why people would associate that with being The Answer Man even though I resent being seen that way um and uh I just want to advise you if you ever see me and you come over to me and you tell me I read you every week in the Army you're gonna upset me because I haven't written there every week for over two years so it means you didn't really read me every week but at any rate um I wrote a column for eight years an advice column I want to tell you something Rabbi Jessica Frankfurt it was a publisher of Ami he told me to do it he barely knew me for some reason he felt I would be good at it he said writing advice column and I said I don't even know what an advice column is like I've heard of the format I like I've heard of Ann Landers Dear Abby but I didn't really know I never really read those columns I didn't know what it was he's like you should do it I don't know why he was confident I I whatever he said you should do it and so I was like okay you know what I'll do I'll just imitate our set of the compiled correspondences of the lab so I said I'll just copy the debit style in egress and that's what I overtly did overt plagiarism chat GPT basically that was what I was doing a language model I was taking the Reba's style in egress and doing a very poor imitation of it what did you just put hand it over here let's see what you put into chat GPT right now I'm pulling up okay where does rabbi Shay's tab get his material your material [Laughter] Rabbi Chase Taub is a well-known speaker writer and teacher of Jewish spirituality and his material comes from a variety of sources as a student of Hasidic philosophy and Jewish mysticism rabbit draws on the teachings of Jewish sages and spiritual leaders throughout history including the balsham of the founder of hasidism and Rabbi nachman of bresler of a prominent acidic master that is actually not true chapter because I want to tell you something for the first time ever in a public talk I quoted a teaching of rabi nachman uh this year I it was in the dreidel talk that we spoke about there was a great piece on uh galgola from abhinachman and uh that was the first time I ever quoted him in a sheer so chat as you know what he's talking about and again he was super confident so I did a column for eight years listen to me I did a column for eight years chat GPT is great with confidence he's like the half drunk guy at the cocktail party who's gonna just chat with everybody exactly his depth is like this but he's like this wide and now I'm projecting but at any rate yes he's a dilettante a dabbler and he knows how to talk smooth and he doesn't know what he's talking he's a fraud chat GPT yeah or like you said last night there's something about you that I hate about myself at any rate um so I copied the idea the style of egress and I did a an advice column for eight years okay these advice columns the best of them were compiled into two two books Zalman Goldstein did this from uh two lights um this is volume one and volume two or should I do I don't know volume one and volume two the brown one the blue one okay and by the way I have a bunch of volume twos at home so I'm I'm willing to give away I have like 10 volume twos so do we wanna I think where the all the uh hagaras are spoken for at this point how about this is spoken for yeah okay so again 300 though I let's keep it the same because I don't want to remember so the hagadas you gave to people with 300 and above whatever I said I think I said 200 but whatever I see you said 300. a fact of 300 meaning 150 being matched he said whatever I see you said 300 he said 300. okay so we'll do the same thing if you give 300 I mean if you have 10 I have 10 of them yeah okay so let's do 10. yeah so the next 10 people do 300 and above will get army letters Volume Two by the way I think Volume 2 is better than volume one just in my humble opinion okay okay the first one to go to this Naomi Halpert there you go okay I just want to read something from the the uh introduction I'm not going to read the whole introduction over over here I'm just going to read part of it as for my lack of experience writing in the genre I decided to emulate as best as I could the style of the thousands of published letters of my rabbit printed in the collection known as egress kadish these letters have been a personal treasure to me in my own life so I was excited when I realized I might have an opportunity to share with others some of what these letters have taught me indeed all of the elements that have made this column so popular Hashem are borrowed directly from egress these come to mind as some of the more obvious ones always validate the person to whom you are speaking even and especially when you don't agree with what they are saying people don't care about what you know until they know that you care be positive don't let a person's problem Define them people are good and want to do the right thing always encourage momentum is powerful find what people are doing right label it praise it and ask them to do even more there are no set rules when it comes to people every human being is different the same question from two people can require two very different answers don't answer the question answer the questioner and most importantly look for the answer in the question people have answers already listen and they will share with you the clarity that they seek Okay so at any rate that's what egress means to me and we're gonna do a letter we're gonna study a letter from the rabbit right now which is actually not from the Eagles because Eagles are all uh Hebrew Yiddish letters this is an English letter uh I have a special love for the Reba's English last night or maybe two nights ago I quoted from the web is English introduction to the bilingual Tanya and I said that my animal Soul speaks English the one that ever writes in English it speaks to my animal soul and it touches me in a deep way so we're going to do a little letter here okay now we can pull it up if you wish and this is by the grace of God's 5730 Brooklyn New York dear Assaf now it's interesting it sounds like a an Israeli name but the web is writing in English I'm gonna guess and I have no real strong basis for this but to me you got to put on your Sherlock Holmes hat which by the way do you know the technical term for a Sherlock Holmes hat no dear stalker Google it just check make sure that I'm right and I'm not saying yeah at any rate um I'm guessing that this is like a little Hebrew school kid like a tamatora kid some American kid and he probably used his Hebrew name that he uses in Hebrew school to write to the rabbit I don't know if it's true but that's I don't know just occurred to me you're gonna tell from Context it's a child you won't know that that I was writing to a child until the second paragraph because there ever sees in the shops and an hashama of a child or of the oldest uh Sage is equally eternal so you wouldn't even know that I've been speaking to a child that ever speaks to a child like that speaks to an adult with such respect the fact that the leader of world jewelry is taking time from his day to write a full-page letter to a child at any rate you like I said you wouldn't even know it's a child until the second paragraph whether mentions it if the devil wouldn't mention it you won't even know okay [Music] I was pleased to receive your letter I'm sorry the fact that thank you uh I didn't even get to the letter but the fact the fact that the Deb is taking time to write to a child in such an Earnest serious way taking a child's life so seriously taking the child's question so seriously just shows you the infinity of a true Jewish leader I was pleased to receive your letter but I was very much surprised at the questions you asked why would that ever say that I apprised how so being surprised is when expectations are thwarted I don't know if this child ever wrote to the debit before I don't know if there'd ever ever met this child in the way that we consider meeting somebody although anishama clawless doesn't actually have to meet any Jew because he's already connected with every Jew at any rate for the rabbit to say I was surprised it implies that there were certain expectations like I said assume the best of it's such an interesting Paradox only that ever can get away with on one hand the harshness of like I'm surprised at you but at the same time the other compliment that that is like you you would say like I would think better of you like come on a guy like you someone as great as you and to me that's already just what's implied with that I was surprised is already like this it's tough but it's so it's so um it it grants the letter writer such dignity I would have thought better of a guy like you okay um I was very much surprised by the question you asked you wrote I want to know if Hashem really exists I will answer it this way in other words there are many many answers but this is the way the Deb is going to answer suppose you walked in the streets and saw a skyscraper would you ask is there someone who made it and if this is so with a building of a number of floors what will you say about the whole world with the sun moon and stars oceans and mountains and woods and all of the creatures on land and in the seas and so on okay now that's a common argument common philosophical argument that is made to logically demonstrate the imperative of a creator that the fact there is a creation means there must be a Creator okay fine that's a standard answer you see that Abbott chose that answer there are other answers that ever chose that answer okay your other question was if you dive in the rest of the year will you get a trumpet so Asaf wanted a trumpet and he wanted to know if he davins is he going to get his trumpet since you are a thoughtful boy again I don't know if this boy ever met the rabbit I don't know if you ever wrote to the web other than this one letter but he he's writing to the rabbit he's asking questions about theology that itself demonstrates he's a thoughtful boy so the debit calls it out and he labels it and he calls him a thoughtful boy since you are a thoughtful boy I will again answer it with an illustration I love that because you're thoughtful I'll answer with an illustration in other words I'll give you the picture and you're smart enough you'll you'll you'll decode it suppose you are invited to the White House and the president of the United States which by the way if this does say 57.30 uh which I can't really read it perfectly that would probably be uh Richard Nixon who was the president when uh I was born as well um if you were invited to the White House and the president of the United States received you with pleasure and asked you what kind of a present would you like would you ask him for a candy perhaps you know the story of King Solomon who was only 12 years old see he was a kid too when he became king of all the Jewish people after his father King David God appeared to him in a dream and asked him what shall I give you and all he asked for was a wise and understanding heart right praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out and God gave him that as well as everything Eddie person could wish for watch this and one in in one moment that Abbott is telling Assaf what are you asking for candies what are you asking for trumpets what are you asking for toys you're a big boy ask for wisdom and if this that is so good that ABBA says at the same time by the way Assaf ask for the wisdom you're gonna get your trumpet too the rebel wants us to have everything ask for clarity you're going to have health you have knocks from your children you can have paranosa you can have everything you need you don't have to give up one to have the other it's not a choice between spiritual and material but just prioritize ask for the spiritual and when you're spiritually on track of course then all the material stuff will come with it too because when you're doing your Slickers then you need the resources to do your slippers okay I trust you are leading hashem's you are learning I'm sorry I trust you are learning hashem's Torah with devotion and diligence and conduct yourself the way Hashem as his fitting for a Jewish boy a son of Abraham YouTube and yankov the fathers of our people with blessing that of his holy signature anyways that's just one little letter to a little boy and uh I'm sorry I didn't I didn't think I would be so emotional about it but [Music] if each of us you know last night we spoke about parenting if each of us could attempt to take people in our lives as seriously as that Abbott took this little boy in his question about a trumpet think of what the world would look like I mean Michelle could be here anyway okay sorry I I don't know why it was so strong men also cry okay by the way all your ridiculous inappropriate humor probably now would be a good time just to get me out of this funk over here okay [Music] uh you know I'm I have a few more testimonials to read but I don't think I've done this in the past but if I could share my own I didn't write it but um I mean the idea of uh hosting something on behalf of a rabbi or hosting something on behalf of a organization that teaches Torah uh women come to me um as the first thing that I uh would uh take up if I um and whatever I'm not gonna lots of things I could say I I could talk about my uh misgivings and my no love lost with a lot of things that are systemic to the General from community and culture but I'm not going to do that I could and but attempted to you have the mic thousands of people watching I paid for this soapbox but what I what I will say uh when you were reading that intro to the Army letters and you you was like quite a list there of things that you gleam glean from the Reba's letters um the I wouldn't even say cynic in me the logical part of my brain based on my personal experience growing up within the general uh from and Yeshiva system would say that that sounds like a lot of Wishful Thinking at best and maybe a lot of something else at worst and I don't think that would not be I don't think that would be a disingenuous assumption but I would like to believe and I truthfully do believe that those are accurate as is that evident from the letter you read and evident from a lot of other letters that I've read and people I know personally um two of the things that struck me from that letter uh I have a my uncle it's got some beautiful stories about this that he had with the Rev and one of them I think he was eight years old um where the Reba said I'm gonna I'm gonna speak to your father after and I'll make sure he gets you with that drum set oh yeah if you if you do like a certain really stuff from the class yeah oh wow amongst many other things and I'll share one other thing that um I think it was the same if it is he told me that he was very angry because like I don't have many friends I'm not comfortable with people but I had this one friend and Yeshiva Bedford and Dean that I was close with and he died right here and he pointed out the window because the kid was uh I think was in the fifth grade or Elementary um he was hit by a car and died on the corner of Houston Parkway in Kingston it's like it happened right here and and there ever got like very serious and asked for the name and said I'm gonna I'm gonna go to the aisle tomorrow and so like I I have a lot of those beautiful things to borrow from but it doesn't to be honest measure up with my personal experience and specifically um to the contrary a lot of what I grew up with was messaging to the opposite effect um forget not validating but and specifically doing that under the banner of this is sort of what the rabbit would say and the subtle difference between I see you here so I'm surprised to hear this from you because this is where I truly see you versus how dare you or what is wrong with you it's such a fine line and it is such a fine line and and to use that under the banner of yeah this is so um so I I'm not uh supporting or putting myself out on behalf of um just the another Rabbi or another uh he's saying you don't do this hog in the wheel of the you don't have a lot of doctrinating organized religion uh causes not so much yeah can I can I just make a comment um I mean obviously I don't know if it's obvious but yeah and I know each other in real life and uh but in a certain way it was interesting like Mrs friction was talking about her journey of finding my content online and and I was like you know interesting it was interesting to me that was like sort of like a microcosm I think of a lot of people's uh relationship with me what you're describing without labeling you and like minimizing it by giving it a like a uh a category but like let's say the disillusioned the person who has a bone to pick with with Yiddish kite that to me is the greatest validation when I get a comment from somebody a lot of times it'll be on social media I'll get a direct message from somebody and they'll say I don't like any rabbis but you're okay to me that is the most coveted compliment I I don't need to be thank God is is blessed with so many great teachers and rabbis and have they have great messages go go to them go to them I don't need to be the rabbi for the masses I want the disenfranchised guy who says I can't learn from anyone else but you're okay for some reason I can listen to you that's who I want that's who I care about that's at any rate I mean yeah I won't turn away other people as well but yeah uh so we are still just a few short dollars away from hitting two hundred thousand I would love to get to 15 tonight please step up if you are uh watching and uh we're gonna go a bit longer tonight how about we don't we're not cutting this until we get to 200 000 at the very least all right and we have another hostage yeah okay three two one you're not leaving anytime soon until we get there hopefully it is very soon so get on the phone call your friends um yeah uh maybe people want us to continue and then they're gonna stop giving no I think you have a better first of all we're coming back tomorrow night we are coming back tomorrow night and tomorrow I want to tell everybody tomorrow night we have Ellie Marcus can we announce no you gave it away we're going to say a special guest oh we have a special musical guest I'm not going to say who he is but he's one of the greatest talents in Jewish music today and I want to mention a real friend just like you were talking about like you're here because you have an actual personal connection to me I want to tell you something I don't need fancy Dancy singers I want like real guys this particular I'm not going to mention who he is is a real guy he's a real friend he he's been there for me in ways that are public in ways that are private that people won't know don't necessarily need to know and he also has a beautiful voice and he's going to be here tomorrow night we're not going to say who it is okay but right now we have another special guest third night in a row kazaka backed by popular demands by the way in the mission is twice or Thrice but first okay and uh by the way no one answered my trivia question if you're a Crown Heights native first of all a two-part question one was the name just give away where the video was playing you could at least I'm now defunct Delhi that was on Albany yes if you wanted like a oversized messiness hot dog bun three times the size of the hot dog and at that point you probably get two with a fries and coke for like six bucks or something yeah and uh and they had the dummy waiter the dumb waiter uh pull it up from downstairs they had a big fat TV this is before flat screens it wasn't that I mean like a 12 inch uh this was like 2 000 maybe maybe 2001 I think it was two thousand I know it was two thousand for a fact I'm not going to share why but something associated with some traumatic memory which may have something to do with what I just shared earlier about some of what happened okay we'll talk about that after we and live stream yeah so I want to hear so okay I had it pulled up you know what it has a lot to do your cameo in that in that movie well I call it a cameo everyone had 30 seconds because everyone was for 30 seconds everyone was right would be very interesting for people to see me we could get it so that when I could see it clear I was young and uh there was less of me but no you you aged very well thank you no seriously most men do yes you know if you're gonna transition you want to do it in the right because men you're better off you hit 60 you go oh I have it right here you want are you able you wanna know this is a teaser for tomorrow because tomorrow yeah what are the two segments ooh tomorrow night oh you know can we can you intro our guests okay no no I did not okay intro to guess and then we'll do the teaser later and he's gonna say the two topics for tomorrow okay good good good say who he is oh I see who is okay avraham Abba taob hatomim is not a surprise and you're not wearing a red hat speak close to the closer to the mic closer to the mic closer to the mic close yeah maybe just yeah just hold it up yeah very good all right no you gotta really no really really sit up straight really okay now you're seeing someone like the authoritarian uh okay patriarchal stuff come out yeah yeah sit up straight look in camera three hold the mic two inches from your face two inches and say some of that cute stuff that the whole world was uh talking about last night yeah surprise anymore you're a child star yeah well okay um it's not a surprise anymore because I heard you mention that I'll be here so it's definitely not a surprise yeah you got that yeah have my resources on the inside so he told me that you said that I'm gonna be um why don't you tell us the two topics for tomorrow night okay topics for tomorrow night final night oh and by the way the final night the fourth night is also the final night of the matching campaign so we're only able to match your donation until tomorrow night that means we have 24 hours we have less than 24 hours let's pull out all the stops less than 24 hours to still match your dollar okay two topics tomorrow night okay day four we have the future of the Jewish internet which is an honest look at where technology has taken us and where we need to go okay and we have exidis will bring mashiach big changes are coming to your life and the whole world and how to be ready for them those are two big things two big things internet and mashiach and it's very interesting because I know what kayam is thinking the video that he's referencing that see how many was in and I was also in it's all about how technology will bring mashiach should we just believe it's not going to be the best but you could get a tight shot of this screen no you close your other tabs claim yeah okay I got nothing to hide a little Lenny Bruce and okay every sound in fact the mystical teachings tell us that everything in creation contains not just godly power but Godly purpose from grains of sand we derive silicon and from Silicon we fashion microprocessors that empower the information age powerful technology with a purpose the purpose to communicate and process knowledge not just any knowledge the knowledge of God Communications for instance today whether it's television radio or the internet you can reach people in a spot in a Split Second over thousands of miles and you can literally Inspire someone sitting quietly in their own privacy of their basement you can reach to a heart as a czar clearly predicted this is all a preparation and the beginning of a world that will be completely consumed with the ultimate knowledge versus Divine knowledge Godly knowledge foreign [Music] technology now offers an apt metaphor for God's All-Seeing all-knowing presence in the world in in particular obvious and ethics of our fathers there's an eye that sees in the ear that hears and everything is transcribed in a book and now we see and instantaneously things are seen heard and recorded anywhere in the world by anybody the knowledge can disseminate there's no physical barrier there's no place where the knowledge can't reach now we know when we send a radio wave it doesn't just go where people have radios it's going where people don't have radios in fact a radio wave goes out into space forever and ever and ever and if you want to go catch it you have a nice big enough radio you'll pick that up too and get the St Louis Cardinals game from 50 years ago if you want to go far enough in space you have a big enough radio and use them as means to deepen their connection to God do you think there's a gun that was a blast from the past okay just revealed that it was at Esther's Deli yeah I didn't say it was actually today okay I just want a comment it's interesting of romaba is here put them like close to your mouth dear okay um do you know um that when I was in that video you are closer to the age that I was in that video yeah then I am to that that I currently am to the age that I was in that video you know it hit me when when that played what I sound exactly like Israel really I'm not kidding that's interesting that's a Hitman yeah yeah so I was your older brother yeah so he's even closer to your age in that video yeah wow so we didn't rehearse anything cute to say together but um and the other night we did and we right we did we didn't no we didn't okay okay um but it closes out here was how time how's the money doing is it coming in are people almost there at 196. okay great um did you have anything you want to share with us tonight we're thinking on the walk over here no I was doing Tanya on the walk over here really yeah you were saying Tanya Bell which FedEx why meme hey um because short maybe that was the suggestion that I got so that's what I went with what is meme about and pay is about before you answer I want to say something a little nachos um there's a mimer called Isabel matters tillum the bar mitzvah meimer and everyone memorizes it a lot of people memorize it and Yiddish to memorize it in Hebrew the Vermont you remember is it in Yiddish right Progressive laws yeah okay remember the progressor and gloves sure magnifying glass magnifying glass um and then the Shabbos of your bar mitzvah we went to the Isle we spent Shabbos at the aisle and you already did your mimer meaning the official you know meaning you repeated it um in the official words word for word at your official Bar Mitzvah party but then at the Isle do you remember this you were little it was like five years ago I remember being there and I asked you now say the entire thing in simple plain English and go through it line by line in simple plain English you remember that no but did I do it you did it you 100 you 100 did it um could you do the same thing with hey um yeah and because it's not enough to know about pair you know Yankee Raskin was here last night hey Jaime you were getting cynical here's my version of cynical um don't don't get too excited I'm not gonna be that controversial but there was I I saw an announcement or a story it said about Yeshiva that did a mitza where the students learned such and such number collectively uh of of of chapters of Tanya and uh I sent it to Yankee Raskin and I said to him I just sent him the title I said what did I know before clicking on this and reading the article and he wrote me back within 30 seconds that learning meant memorizing balpe and I said yes that is correct caduceus Oasis is incredibly important and it's mattire the avir and we should memorize words of Torah it has many many benefits but that's the that's only the beginning and learning a Pedic Tanya doesn't just mean being able to say it palpe you know uh by heart it means being able to say it in your own words at any rate Patrick okay pagmam hey speaks about that through understanding where your nishama comes from and the fact that it came down into this world and is in your body that everything that you're going through it's going through and the better you can treat it um the better the nicer that is just simple um just being nice to the fact that there's an there's a part of Hashem in you giving you life so to treat that right so be nice to the godliness that's inside of you just treat it right just yeah just calls it that's called that's very very good excellent and he says that that is a path it's interesting I don't know if a lot of people understand what he says there at the end of the Pedic but this is the Indian of Yankovic yank if the three of us and what is the idea of Yankovic that Jacob redeems Abraham there's no biblical story where Jacob redeemed Abraham it's that the Jacob is the embodiment of compassion redeems means accesses when it's inaccessible Abraham which is love meaning if you can't access your love of God so you can take a roundabout side door you can access the love of God through compassion so actually mem hey uh is a is another path there's a lot of different types of Ava of love that Tanya talks about in in those actually is another path how to achieve love but it's achieving love through compassion as it starts off and there and there comes the usefulness of the ball pet the fact that you know that it says corrected me excellent meaning there's another straight path to love meaning to say we have we've been given other paths to love and this is another one this is excellent this is great yeah you enjoy Tanya I do I do enjoy Tanya this is chapter 45 your favorite chapter right now it's my favorite chapter that's great now Vermont I had some trivia stuff that I wanted to ask your father but maybe it will be more helpful if I ask you instead of him okay um okay do you happen to know his craziest Uber experience Uber experience his favorite his his craziest experience in an Uber taxi cab in an Uber uh in a taxi cab I do popped into my head that that would be oh yeah he was probably one of those people slamming the white Top Taxi door uh you remember whitetop yeah sure of course okay okay craziest craziest story in an Uber or car service in a taxi or how about craziest story with Union car service I don't know they didn't pay for our product Place yeah so taxi it was after I'm assuming it was after a long speech speaking engagement oh my goodness do you know this story I do know the story and Kyle hold on a sec do you know do you know the story no no I know which store you're gonna tell you it was after a long speaking because it was like three four cities and I hadn't slept because every morning I had six a.m flights and if I have to fly at 6am that means I don't sleep the night before okay go ahead okay so you got into the taxi yes and it was a taxi before the taxes before Ubers and you oh my goodness and you fell asleep yes it was exhausted yeah so I somehow throughout that ride the windows were open and at the end you know why because the taxi drivers they don't like using the AC because they're cheap so they just cracked the window I assume everyone loves the smell of their cherry bomb and Bo okay so the windows were open and I can't believe you know this story of course I know the story okay so when you woke up yes you noticed that you pulled up to the house and I'm and I wake up yeah and you woke up and you notice your yamaka is missing right and you asked the taxi driver after looking around for it do you know do you know where Miami is where the the thing you know the thing I had on the head and he says sure it fly out the window that's right oh my goodness I cannot believe that you know that story that is too cool okay we could do this all night I think uh we need to wrap it up for tonight you can keep giving the donation button works all night long and we'll see you here tomorrow night at uh 10 p.m tape oh I'm sorry we'll see it here tomorrow at 8pm until 10 p.m where we'll finish it off with hashem's help and reach our goal and maybe even go to bonus rounds thanks a lot good night foreign