3 simple steps to change.

welcome everybody to another episode of the positivity podcast where I try to share with you things that I hear back from people not and any way as an expert on my problems or your problems but just a way to share things that I hear back from people and things that have worked from me things that I've heard from my friends that I know would work um and I heard back positive feedback just giving you a space where we talk openly about feelings thoughts imagination dreams um and a place for you to feel comfortable that you are heard um that's really the purpose of these of these episodes so I also want to ask you if you can please um subscribe and share and leave a comment give me suggestions so that I can hear back I'd love your feedback um let's Dive Right In um today on my Instagram I asked a question from people um which is um I had it was a four-part question it was a question with four answers which was how's your life right now and the options were either that it's going very well or that you know and you're enjoying every moment or that it's okay another option was it really has to change or that it's a it's very bad um and 75% um answered that they really feel like things have to change in their life so when thousands of people answer a question I can see that most of them answered that something has to change it begs the question why don't we change why do human beings not change what's so difficult to to change so I want to touch on three points today that will help you understand why change is difficult and then the things that you can do to actually implement the change until you will see the beautiful results that you want to see okay so the first thing is um and you know the Mish tells us a smart person is somebody that that knows his place and that means I call that awareness I call that awareness with the space that you are in where are you okay so and and and by that I mean not the things that people tell us that are supposed to be right or wrong in terms of relationships money health status all these things I'm talking about how do you really actually feel about where you are in life okay so what is your age and how do you feel about the age that you're at what is really your current situation are you in a relationship that you're you really dislike are you looking for a relationship and you feel that there is something blocking you are you not healthy but you know exactly what it is that you're doing do you know nothing okay that's also place to be to know that you know nothing is is a very very uh appropriate Strong place to be because now you know that you need proper help that you can reach out to a friend so the first part to change is knowing exactly where you are in your life right now and of course it's it's it's difficult why should we go make a we have a whole month of L to do that but why should we on a random day allow ourselves to to give to to to take a hard look at our lives no it's very uncomfortable but most of you answer that you're looking for change so let's let's take a look at where we are right now okay and and let's start allowing the change which is to understand that you deserve the change that you desire whatever it is and as difficult as it seems you don't have to know how it's going to happen exactly but you have to know that you allow yourself to create that change you deserve the change that you want okay so this brings me to part to step number two which is describe the change in detail so I want to try an exercise with you which is if you can please look around the room that you're sitting in right now or driving wherever you're listening to this and look for something with a color black on it then look for something with a color white how about something with a color blue can you find something now how about something with a color tulo yes I said it right tulo t u e well you might say that there is no color like this or I've never heard of this color for many people when they look for change the change cannot happen if they don't know what the change is you have to know what kind of change it is that you want when you look for something that's when you can find it when you know what you're looking for that's when it's even easier to find so remember you have to know what you are looking for if you are looking for something that doesn't exist you're never going to find it so by you describing your change you now allow yourself the ability to find exactly that change that you need and change isn't scary we don't change we just grow we learn we become better many people fear to change so much and I understand change is unfamiliar if we've been doing a bad habit for the past 20 years 15 years 10 years whatever it is or even 40 years change is very difficult when you describe describe the change though and you get clear on what you want it doesn't look so scary anymore and now you are an alignment with a change that you want because you know what you want most people do not know what it is that they want and therefore they will never open a business or get the career that they want or even the job that they want therefore they will never get into relationships they will never even date or reach out to a friend because they are not clear on what it is that that they want so they don't feel deserving of it and it feels so unfamiliar so I'm asking you today to become familiar with the change that you really want as if nobody is judging you not your inner voice and other people around you create a list for yourself whether it's in a notepad or whether it's on your phone or even in your mind what's the change that you want okay um and step number three is start living that change perhaps the most difficult the most difficult step of all of this start living that change live as if it already happened so you want to make a lot of money what are the things that you would do if you were to earn a lot of money of course you can't move into the biggest house right now but visit the lobby of tell take a walk Pretend This is the lobby of your house go and buy one good meal one nice dish in the fanciest restaurant for a couple of dollars just go in there get a drink see and feel what it would feel like give thanks to it give thanks to your change by creating that you are reprogramming your body and yourself the you're cleansing your energy you're allowing space for this thing to happen it's not so unfamiliar anymore and while you do these things you get even more clear on the change that you really want and why you wanted the change in the first place okay so let's go over these three steps again because people can get carried away you want change I know that for sure if you're listening to this and you clicked on this podcast you're listening to this is because you want change if you're this far in you want change there's some area in your life that you want to change whether it's it's Health relationships whether it's a change with your with the way how you are with your kids with your money your finances um whether it's the kind of love you want whether it's the kind of personality that you are and you want to do a change whether it's starting to go to the gym or eat healthier or take care of yourself better something made you click on this podcast that you want real change and I've I'm giving you the most simple three-step process to create this change which is as we discussed you should notice your place where you are you you need to have you need to have a starting point where am I starting off what where am I really is this really good because your mind will tell you that you know this not having a relationship right now is good or this bad relationship that you're in is good or this bad diet that you're on is okay or this a job that you're that you hate is good just your mind will keep on telling you this just to keep you in the in in in in your space so that it doesn't have to go through the uncomfortable feelings of change but notice deeply where you are and and and and now allow yourself the kind of change that you are that you want Second Step again describe your change describe what it is that you want in clear detail in clear detail if you can take a pen of paper and sit down and write that would be awesome even if you can open your notes on your phone and just start writing just start talking about it what would a day in in in in in your life if you can change right now and if everything that you write down on that note will actually happen what are you writing in I'm sure you're going to write in I wake up with a smile I feel energized happy and healthy I go and I and I and I work with something that I really really love and enjoy I'm constantly around the people I love and and and my friends I'm in a loving vibration and in a perfect he relationship and and with the right friendships so describe that change describe that change again allow yourself the change and describe that change in detail get clear on what it is that you want and I know it could be that nobody ever tell told you that you you deserve these things or you've been going on in your life for so many years right now and you never even thought that this kind of change that these things are possible for you on your life and to that I say I'm sorry I'm sorry that you were deprived of these kind of things and these aspirations sorry that you didn't get to live your full dreams your full potential the gifts that you have I know how much it it can hurt to have in within you so much potential locked up so so much love so much energy so many talents but nothing is being done with these things it really hurts so today describe that change that you want go into that little mind of yours as if you were as if you are a little kid that is open to dreaming that knows that he or she deserves everything and describe the change that you want step number three start living it all right start living that change as difficult as it is as stuck as you might feel you might be in in in bed right now listening to this with taking your your last energy and just trying to get a little bit of ofic or strength but start living that dream start creating it in your mind start living that get out of bed and do something that you really enjoy make a phone call to that friend you want to have a better relationship if you want to have a better relationship maybe call them call somebody call a Matchmaker call a friend if they know somebody that you can have a relationship with you want a business maybe call an uncle that has an opportunity for you maybe call somebody a friend that can help you with a job opportunity there's so many things that you can start doing right now and which is taking action and and start living that way not from a place of lack from a place of you described your change and you know that it's going to happen because you have faith in Hashem that you have faith in God that he is here to help you that he is here to guide you he has no other reason for having you on this planet he wants your success so the things will happen but you have to take a little bit of action to show that you're serious about the change that that you want it will get you so far it will get you so far when take a little bit of action and there's such a positive ripple effect to that but just getting out and calling a friend you might get invited to a dinner you might hear about a job opportunity one little step one little action one little opportunity can give you 90% of your list of the change that you are looking for or sometimes even 100% of the list one positive move that you make will have a ripple effect to create more and more posit positive moves because right now when you took this action you already did step one and two which is step one to know where you are and allow yourself to change and step two is you describe the change in detail so step three when you when it comes to living it it's so much easier right now I hope this episode is helpful feel free to write in the comments perhaps how you conquer change or what are the things that you try to change I will try to jump in on one of my social platforms and answer these questions and try to help you specifically with the kind of change that you are looking for thank you so much for listening again please share and subscribe um leave a like or a comment or review it really means a lot to me thank you have a wonderful day