19: The Big Lie of Tznius

Hi, this is Dovid Orlofsky and welcome to the Rabbi Orlofsky Show Thank you very much thank you really Yeah, and whether you're watching on TorahAnytime.com, or on YouTube, or you're listening on iTunes, wherever you listen to the podcasts. It is such a pleasure to have you here for episode 19! 19. We are moving along and there are people who I know follow this, I've gotten so many different emails. People say I use this when I, when I, clean up after Shabbos, 'cuz you know, it's usually released already on Saturday night, you know, And I use this when I clean up from Shabbos, some people wait till Friday so that it's their, you know, adds to their oneg Shabbos and it's amazing how this affects so many different people. You know, I did it this sort of a throwaway thing where I put in like, you know, my mother's recipes and I get this great email from this girl. She says look, I go to college, I work, you know and I'm Sephardic. And every dish that I make takes 20 hours, you know what I mean (laughing). Like 100 steps, I didn't even know there was a concept of 'it's easy stupid', you know (laughing). I started making your dishes and it changed my life (laughing). So it's amazing you give out these easy recipes that we know that they're really changing people's lives. So this was my, this was one of my mom's favorites. It was Chinese rice. She used to make it as a dinner in it of itself. We make it as a side dish, but it's a dinner by itself. Make two cups of rice and then brown in the frying pan a pound of ground beef chopped meat and I don't remember it being this uh, this greasy in America, but in Israel I pour off the extra grease. Wait for the rice to cool. This is, this is a trick. Yeah? And then I would, I would say scramble up about eight eggs, and I'd mix them together into the rice. I chopp up I'd say like, five scallions, chop it up, mix it in, add soy sauce, Unbelievable first of all, it's a meal in itself. And it's unbelievable delicious. And it's so easy to make. So that's what I'm here for is a public service. My mother taught me how to cook, I told you, there was six boys, we had no gender appropriate jobs in my house, you know. My wife on the other hand was raised to be a scholar. Yeah, see, my mother-in-law didn't let her in the kitchen. So when she got married she had to learn how to cook, you know, and I already knew how to cook so it was like a little bit of a uncomfortable situation, but I would sometimes look through cookbooks for some recipes. I looked at one and I said to my wife, "you would never make this" and she got offended: "How do you know I would never make this?" So I said, "okay, I'll read it to you: Crack the almonds. Blanch the almonds. Peel the almonds. Sliver the almonds. Brown the almonds." She said, "okay, just stop there." (laughing) If there's five steps already just in the preparation of the almonds then I'm not making it, and frankly neither would I! That's not how my mother raised me. 'It's easy stupid', that's gotta be the principle. And if it takes too much work and too much time, you know? Somebody once showed me they had this cookbook for seminary girls who come to Israel, you know, not all the seminaries give you three meals a day, sometimes you have to do your cooking, you know. So a lot of these girls never cooked. So gives them like, easy recipes, you know So I just remember one: easy potato kugel. Go to the makolet, buy a potato kugel (laughing). Can't get much easier than that! Baruch Hashem, look at the, look at the wonderful things that we're providing for everybody. This week is sponsored by anonymous. And... As a zechus for the donors, and they wrote a little note, keep inspiring us, it is such a pleasure. I've mentioned this before, I cannot tell you. What a zechus it is for me that people are listening to me. So this week is sponsored anonymously as a zechus for the donors, they wrote a little note, keep inspiring us. And I know I've mentioned this before, I can't begin to tell you what a zechus it is for me to have so many people listening to this podcast. It's conservatively 5000 people. I can, I can figure out that much from the various numbers but people tell me they put it on their WhatsApp group and it goes over here, and people watch it there, I don't know how many people are really watching this, but I have to tell you that Eretz Yisrael is filled with retired rabbis who would give anything for the chance to be able to have people listening to them. You see, people who were in America and they were, had a big position of chinuch and rabanus and they come to Eretz Yisroel. They give a shiur between mincha and maariv to three old men, one is dead. One, one's asleep. The third one is deaf, you know, and their whole day just reflects around this, this shiur, you know, and oh, yeah, I was saying in my shiur today, and was telling people, you know, and the fact that I have the zechus that I just sit here and talk and there are people who are willing to spend time from the day and listen to me is something that is so tremendous, and the fact that they were people who are willing to sponsor it to be able to make this possible for people, and like I say we keep working to upgrade the, the Rabbi Orlofsky Show experience and you know. One of the greatest things that involved, that exists in Klal Yisrael, now that we're already into Adar Aleph. Yeah, one of the greatest things that inspires Klal Yisrael, I think, is a well done Purim shpeil. because... I had somebody once, I give a shiur with every other motzaei Shabbos here in Har Nof And somebody said to me once, he was a professional storyteller, interestingly enough. He was a, a lawyer, and he gave up his practice to become a storyteller (laughing). Traveled around telling stories. Eventually, he found his way to Israel, he was in yeshiva, and he used to come to my motzaei Shabbos shiurim and he said something to me. He's English. He said, "I feel like you hold up a funhouse mirror to life. You see yourself, but you distorted just enough. that you have to laugh." Yeah, and, and, that, that's true. That is what I try to do. Yeah, I try to put it that way. So that's what a Purim play is. A Purim play lets you see yourself and, and society through a slightly distorted lens, and if it's done well, it's such an effective tool. And Klal Yisrael's arsenal to be able to get people to see and hear things that they otherwise couldn't. (Rav) Shalom Shwadron used to say, you know, he used to tell a lot of jokes when he would speak, you know and he'd say 'cuz you want a little kid to take their medicine, you make him laugh, and then you shtup it in when they laughing, you know. He said that's what I try to do. If I want to get the musar in, you know, you have to get it in with a little laugh, you know, yeah. You shtup it in to the, to the laughter. so, I mean, there was a very chachuva rebbitzen who used to give over some very strong ideas and one of the women who went to her shiur told us some of the things I had said in a shiur recently. And she says, "how does he get away with saying things like that? If I did they would kill me." And she says, "well, he's funny (laughing). And so if you're funny, you get away with a lot more because people will think well, maybe he's just kidding." Anyway, I saw them doing, one guy did me in the Purim play. Rabbi Katz. Rabbi Moshe Katz. Yeah. Today he's a master mechanech, but in my day he was a boy in the yeshiva. In any event, he, he was doing me in the Purim play, and he did this thing where he was going through this whole thing, this whole funny routine, and he stops and he goes like this: (looks up). And the whole place laughs. I had no idea what they were talking about. Yeah, and he did a few times, and each time he got a big laugh! So I asked somebody, and he said, "one second, you do that all the time", and I said, "no, I don't"! So next time I was in shir, I was in the middle talking about something et cetera and then I stopped and I went like this: (looks up) and the guy says, "there!" And I said, "oh my gosh, you're right." And I realized it's because there is a method to my madness. That when I, when I say things, and I'm doing stuff I try to decide, I don't want this to become leitzanus. I don't want this to become a hose. I'm not doing this just to tell jokes. Yeah, I feel so bad for comedians. It's got to be the worst job in the world. As you walk up there on the stage, and you start telling jokes, and if people don't laugh you're finished. What do you do? You're up there for 10 minutes, you got a set for 10 minutes, 15 minutes and nobody's laughing, what do you do? I don't have that problem, I can always fall back on Torah (laughing). Worst comes to worst, if the jokes don't go I can always, you know, I can always do some Torah, you know. One of my talmidim was helping me prepare a shiur once, and he found some measures and says, "that's it, you know, you're basically done." He goes, "now just add some jokes and stories and you should be fine." (laughing) But this, there's a method to it that I try to have. Somebody... This, this... this girl in Neve Yerushalayim she came home, and she said to me the next week, she says I came home from your shiur and I said over to my husband. I said, "very nice." She says, "you don't understand, I've never been able to tell over a shiur. I can't remember shiurim. But I remember jokes and stories. And if you can remember jokes and stories, you can recreate your shiur because the jokes and stories tie everything together. I thought that was fascinating. So... Being, being that, taking that into account right? I, I try to filter what I'm saying. Nonetheless, they have been people have said to me over the years, "you know, I feel like you stop and you think, 'is this appropriate?' and regardless of what you come up with you say it anyway (laughing). Now, there is a certain amount of truth to that. I will, I will admit. Yeah, there, there are times that there's a little voice in my head saying noooo, no, don't do this! (laughing) And I'm like, "no, we're gonna do it anyway!" (laughing) And I have gotten into trouble over the years. It's true. It's true, there, there are a bunch of people out there who are unhappy with me, and don't like me, and people who have stopped talking to me, and that's just in my immediate family! When you go out into the extended clan is even more! (laughing) But the fact the matter is, it's because I feel like I'm the little boy who noticed that the emperor has no clothes. I'm not afraid to say, "but this is a problem." And many times when I have spoken, many times, I have women, it's always women, who say to me, "I don't know why you're allowed to speak poorly about Klal Yisrael". And I said, "I'm in good company!" Yishayahu Hanavi, Yermiyahu Hanavi, Yechezkel Hanavi, they all had a lot of things to say about Klal Yisrael that were unpleasant. Yeah, the baalei mussar, (Rav) Avigdor Miller, (laughing) Is that a long list of people who I've pointed out! And in fact, I do a men's shmiras halashon here in Har Nof. There's a women's shmiras halashon that I've spoken at on occasion. One time I was, I was banned because I was, I was too funny but... It's a more serious offense instead of one's somber. (laughing) I brought my friend (Rav) Y.Y. Rubenstein to speak and I introduced him. Between my introduction and his dog we were both banned! (laughing) Can you imagine? He's still a little bitter about it... and, maybe will play the clip for you (laughing) that he recorded for my birthday about it But, um...the... you know, The, the, I do it the men's shmiras halashon. I've gotten unbelievable names of people to come and speak. I mean, really really very very choshuva, choshuva people. And the one person I was trying to get was Rav Bulman, who was the mashgiach in Ohr Somayach, and the founder of the Jewish Observer, I mean, just a tremendous choshuva individual. And he kept making excuses, and I was smart enough to know when he was pushing me off, yeah, and I said, "Rebbe, why won't you come?" And he said, "because I'm afraid that the emphasis on shmiras halashon is being used to silence legitimate social criticism." I think that's an unbelievable concept. There are things that have to be said. People are afraid. People are afraid to point out any problems. And I've had people yell at me and say, "Ohhhh, you, you're just negative. You see all the bad. Everything's wonderful, everything's great, everything's terrific, Klal Yisrael is wonderful." (Rav) Yaakov Horowitz, who was the founder of Project Yes, he wrote an article once and I thought it really summed it up, beautifully. He says, "when people ask me how Klal Yisrael is doing I say it's like a chasuna. If you're in the middle circle dancing with the chasun, it's unbelievable. You reach the next circle, it's still pretty good. People dancing, people into it, they're smiling. You reach the third circle, with the old men, which is where I am, then you shuffle. You just shuffle along. (singing) ay ay ay ay ay ay ay ay ay ay ay ay... Sometimes you don't even move. You just undulate back and forth. Yeah, that's the, that's the, then the next circle, people are just standing around. And then there's the people sitting at the tables, then there are the people outside smoking, talking on their cellphones. And they're concentric circles which means that as each circle gets larger, there's more people involved. So if you're in the central, central circle everything looks great. I'm in the next circle and I'm always looking over my shoulder at everybody else. I was a mashgiach in a yeshiva during a particularly dark period of my life and, you know, the whole hanhala used to sit in the mizrach. And everyone would sit there, and it would be very chashuv, and I sat in the back. And they'd say, "oh, you're the mashgiach, you should sit up front." I said, "I'm the mashgiach, I should sit in the back. I want to see what's going on with the guys who are hanging around in the back, I don't care all the chashuvim who are sitting in the mizrach. That doesn't, that doesn't impress me. I don't need to be there. I need to be over here with the guys and see what's going on." So that's why perhaps I see life from a slightly different perspective than everybody else does, you know? There's a famous vort that I say over with Yisro. Where Yisro says to Moshe Rabeinu, "you know, the, this is a terrible thing, people have to wait, to come and speak to you, et cetera, et cetera. But what is Rashi saying? It says, we learned from Moshe Rabeinu, shekol hadan din emes sha'a achas, keilu lomed Torah kol hayom. So he didn't spend the whole day judging the people, it was sha'a achas. Sha'a achas could mean less than an hour, even a short period of time. But Yisro saw, people aren't happy campers. Some people were thrilled to wait on line. These people were not thrilled to wait on line. So Yisro saw, he didn't see what should be, he saw what it was. And based upon that, he said, "these people aren't willing to sit and wait even for the zechus to be able to speak to you, Moshe." It's a sad commentary, but it's something that you see. Yeah, so, um... So that being the case, I want to speak We lain Parshas Tetzave this week. What's Parshas Tetzave about, the first half of it? First half of it is the bigdei kehuna. And Hakadosh Baruch Hu tells Moshe that we're going to make bgadim for Aharon, l'chavod u'litfares. For honor and glory. Clothes are very important concept in the Torah and in Klal Yisrael. After they eat from the Eitz Ha'daas Tov Va'ra, after evil has entered inside of them, the first thing they do is make clothes. The Torah begins with chesed and ends with chesed, say the chazal. How does it begin with chesed? When he kicks him out of Gan Eden, he makes them clothes. Beged is from lashon of boged, to rebel. Traitorous. Because if we didn't go against Hakadosh Baruch Hu we wouldn't need clothes. Lovesh is from the lashon malbush, lashon of busha. Embarrassment. By putting on clothes, we're able to get back to what we were. The bgadim of the Kohen Gadol were the, according to Rabeinu Behaye, he brings a midrash, were the bgadim that Hakadosh Baruch Hu made for Adam HaRishon when he kicked them out. So these bgadim that were passed down That Eisav would wear and that Yaakov put on in order to be able to go serve his father, Were the bgadim of the Kohen Gadol. Because when you put on these clothes you recaptured what it meant to have a tsuras ha'adam. To be a human being. Have a human experience. It's an amazing thing. Alright, the famous Gemara with Rabbi Akiva and Tinneius Rufus. It says: Whose creation is better, God's or man's? And he says, "man's". And he says, "what"? He said, "would you rather eat wheat or bread? So we fix it up and make it better." Kamuvan, that's only after the chet of Adam HaRishon. Before that the bread grew on the trees. Yeah, there was a dark wood tree, that was pumpernickel. If the tree had a hole in it they were bagels. Little donut bush off to the side, you know what I mean? Everything grew there already. He didn't have to be metaken it. But now after the chet things are messed up. We didn't need clothes before the chet of Adam HaRishon, but now the clothes are the only thing that lets us get it back. I don't know if anybody will appreciate the reference when I was a kid, I used to read comic books mostly because of the scientific and historical information that I found contained in them which I found absolutely fascinating. But that's, what can I do? I was into superheroes. I was into superheroes. Baruch Hashem I was never one of those Richie Rich kids, you know, or Archie, those people really, really need to be they need a lot of help. But, but superheroes that was something that, that added to our lives, you know. And black is day and brightest night/ no evil will escape my sight/let those who worship evil's might/beware my power Green Lantern's light. I once had a rebbe who said to me, "Orlofsky, if only you could learn to use your mind for good instead of evil, imagine what you might be able to accomplish." (laughing) And so I've taken that to heart, and I always try to think if there's something there, maybe there's something we can learn from it. So there was a comic book I used to read called The Fantastic Four. It was Reed Richards, who was Mr. Fantastic, and he could stretch very far. How is his power? There was his wife, Sue, she could turn invisible and create a force field, There was Sue's brother Johnny Storm, who was the Human Torch, he could turn into fire, and he could fly because fire is light et cetera, you know, and shoot fireballs and things, and then there was Ben Grimm, who turned into this big rock guy called The Thing. Who interestingly enough was one of the few Jewish characters in the Marvel Universe. Stan Lee, who himself was Jewish, He made this observation once, he says, "of course Ben Grimm is Jewish did you ever figure that out? He came from Delancy Street on the Lower East Side, you know what, yeah, he had, he thought, to him it was pashut, yeah. Anyway, so these are the Fantastic Four. So something happened and they lost their powers. They lost their powers. So Reed Richards, who is this brilliant scientist made things they could wear that would mimic their powers. It wasn't as good as their powers but it could mimic their powers. And when they put it on, they were keilu the Fantastic Four. Lehavdil eleph havdalos, when the Kohanim put on their bgadim and again, go to the Malbim Remazei Habigdei Kehuna And he explains how the 4 bgadim, the, the average Kohen had 4 bgadim, and the Kohen Gadol had 8 bgadim And how they represent the four lower levels of the soul, and the four higher levels of the soul, and how they correspond and there's all kinds of powerful ideas from it. But, but by putting on the begadim we can regain that level. That's that very strange Gemara. Where it says that after they cut the skin off Yishmael Kohen Gadol's face. They saved it as a mask and once every 70 years they would take somebody who was handicapped and have him put on the mask and dress him up in the clothes of the Kohen Gadol and march them through the streets of Rome. Because they understood that all they could do was mimic us, like Eisav mimicked Yaakov, and pretend to be the Kohen Gadol But they can never actually be it. They could take our face, they could take our clothes, but they will never take our freedom!!! Heh, heh, sorry. But they, they, they never can become us. They can never become us and and the bgadim are the means for us to be able to do it. There's an emotional issue. because in Judaism everything's an emotional issue, and now Baruch Hashem the rest of the world is caught up, and everything is emotional issue. Yeah. A Native American walks up to a group of kids who are waiting for their bus and starts banging his, his TomTom in their face, and the kid just sits there without doing anything, and he's an aggressor. He's an aggressor. They, He gets death threats. We have to kill this kid. Yeah, because he stood there while someone came up to him to abuse him and he didn't say anything, or do anything. Anyway, so now everybody, everything's a sensitive issue. A very sensitive issue. Now, I know this when, when people go out dating. You know, does he wear a hat or not? Does he wear a hat or not? Yeah, well I had this once, someone said to me, "what's the boy's hashkafa?" I said, "what do you mean?" "Does he wear a hat or not?" I said, that's not a hashkafa, that's a head covering." You know? "Yeah, but it represents a hashkafa." Yeah, sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. You know? Rabbi Riskin, the Rav of Efrat, wears a Homburg. I don't think he's, you know, representative of Chareidi philosophy just because he's wearing a Homburg. Yeah, a hat is a head covering. Can it represent something? Sure it can. And there are people who get very emotional You know, well, what they're wearing, what they're not wearing, does he wear a hat, does he not wear a hat, do they put on a hat? Yeah. You hear girls who say, "I wouldn't wear that skirt, they could throw me out! I wouldn't wear that skirt." I said, "think for a moment of the ramifications on your life." (laughing) You get thrown out of school, no other school is gonna take you, you know? You're gonna be a big mess, you're gonna want to get married one day, You're gonna want to get on your life, and all of this over a skirt? I'm just asking, is it worth it? And, you know, my daughters would always say to me "Abba, you don't get it", and I don't. I don't. They'd say about a particular skirt, "I can't wear that. It's not ME." I said, "It's, no, it's not you. Of course, it's not you. You are an organic based life-form, and that's an article of clothing." But unfortunately women don't understand where they begin and their clothes end, you know, they end and their clothes begin. They, they see it as, as, you know, something, there's a symbiotic relationship between them and they take it over, you know. It's an organic suit, it becomes part of them. And, the clothes have to be THEM! It has to be them. Now, to be fair, it takes guys a while till they find a particular suit. But once they do, they will wear that suit until it disintegrates on their body. Till there's nothing but suit molecules holding it together by pure will. Yeah, and they don't want to go buy another one. (laughing) Yes, this one was my suit. It was perfect fit. But, you know, but this idea of like, you know, that the clothes have to define me. So, so I told you. I gave you the warning at the beginning. Yeah, if you would like to tune out now, that's fine, yeah, but, but if you're here with me, you're here for my wild ride. Okay? I would like to share with you what I call The Big Lie of Tznius. And I know, nobody ever hears about tznius. It's one of those topics we almost never talk about. Yeah... Now here's The Big Lie of Tznius (laughing) And everybody uses this line: You can be attractive, Just not attractING. Now what do those two words have in common? The word ATTRACT. Whether you are attractIVE or attractING, it means the same thing; you are wearing this outfit to attract attention. So whether a man will turn his head and follow you down the street. Or whether he'll say, "Oh! There's an attractive woman", it works out the same way. It is designed to make you attractive. Now this is said, I'll tell you why everyone says this lie. Everyone says this lie because, I want to tell you a terrible story. (laughing) It's not any less true for its terribleness, but it's a terrible story. I had a daughter who went to Ofakim. Ofakim is, you know, for people who are looking for an extremely intense religious experience. and the Rebbitzen told the following story: says my daughter would get, used to get on the bus, and it was packed already by the time she got on, and she never had a seat. and one that she comes home, and she says, "Ima today I got a seat!" Asks, "ma haya, what happened?" Says, "a yeshiva bochur stood up and gave me a seat." "And I said to her, 'how did he see you?'" Let's take a moment to reflect on this 'cuz this is such a disturbing story. (laughing) Because what it means is that tznua means that I don't want people to notice me. And we want people to notice us. That's why people dress very often the way they do. I had a student once who used to dress Very fancy and often inappropriate. (lauging) Then she said to me, "I think it's a kidush Hashem, when people see an attractive frum girl and say, 'look at that attractive frum girl.'" Mamish a kidush l'shem shamayim. Mamish like Chana. Gave her seven children over to die. (laughing) Well, it was like that story of the girl who pinned her skirt to her thighs when they dragged her through the streets. (laughing) That's good. It's mamish the same exact thing! Listen, I used to teach in a particular seminary, and I don't teach there anymore, and one of the reasons were that they were upset that, you know, I would mention the subject of tznius, and I would mention that, you know, you don't want to dress in a way that boys will look at you. And I was told, "you're not allowed to say that." That is called the Sod of Tznius. I hope you realize that I'm breaking this here, in this video, right now. Yeah, so there should be a warning label on this one: don't tell the producer. Yeah, warning: do not watch this if you don't want to find out the Sod of Tznius. So you're not allowed to mention that. The only reason we dress tzanua is for levels of kedusha and for, you know... So I said to this particular woman who taught in a seminary, I said, "I hear what you're saying. So, how come I see the girls in your seminary two years after seminary and they all dress terribly?" So whatever you're doing to teach tznius is not working. And she said to me, "you're right. But that's the way we do it." Yeah, I told the story once I think, there was a Rosh Yeshiva. He's a Rosh Yeshiva today. He was a bocher in Ner Yisroel in Baltimore, and he put a sign on his door: whoever gives the best answer to this question will win a case of beer. The question was: Why? I said, "so who in the case of beer?" So the best answer was, "because that's how we did it in Europe." Yeah, that's it. That's what we do. Everyone does what everyone does because that's what everybody does. Yeah, that's what we do. I don't want to teach tznius in a way that'll be effective because that's not our mahalach, so I will talk around it, and so people don't understand it, and people will think it's okay to dress in a way that men will look at you and say, "well there goes an attractive woman." I don't want to dwell on this. I just felt like this is something that needs to be said, 'cuz I know nobody else will say it! That's the reason you watch this podcast. You watch this podcast 'cuz you're always wondering each week, it's like watching somebody on a, on a high wire without a net. What's he gonna do this week? (laughing) How long does he go on like this before the Kol Korehs go up? (laughing) But they can't put up a Kol Koreh on me because I'm on the internet and no one's supposed to be watching it anyway. Anyway, (laughing) there was once an issur against iPhones, (laughing) There was this video of the guy reading the Kol Koreh off of his iPhone (laughing) to the tzibur. He didn't have a copy so he read it off his iPhone. Yeah, but this is it. It's something to consider. I'm not here to preach I always, when I used to teach, I always used to say, "this is a value free zone." I'm not trying to sell anything. I just want people to think. Just to think. Yeah, what's the goal? Do, do, am I a small child who has to stand up and say, "Mommy, look at me, look at me. Look at me. Mommy, look, I'm going to jump into the pool. Mommy, you're not watching! Mommy, look at me!!! Do I need people to look at me?! I don't. Just pay me. I don't care if you look at me. (laughing) Just kidding! Just kidding. But, but this is something for us to consider. We read about the Kohen Gadol and the Kohanim and their special bgadim and we understand the power that the bgadim have to help you regain your humanity. Let's look at this parsha, let's think about how I can dress in a way that will allow me to regain my dignity, a word that means nothing anymore today. I remember when I said this once at a women's shmiras halashon and I was talking about tznius, you know, I mentioned dignity, and my girls, nobody never heard of the word dignity. We don't even know what that means anymore. Yeah, to get back our sense of dignity. Not that we're going to allow ourselves to be debased. And that's it for this week. Thank you so much to our sponsors. I hope this inspires somebody and if you want to find out more about this show go to rabbiorlofsky.com/podcast, and if you want to find out About this particular episode, rabbiorlofsky.com/podcast/19, if you want to find about upcoming events, rabbiorlofsky.com/events, and if you would like to contact me It's rabbiorlofsky.com/contact, and if you would like to sponsor an event, you know, you're gonna have to wait a little bit because they're sponsored for the next few weeks. But you go to rabbiorkofsky.com/podcast and click on a sponsor an episode. That's it for this week. This is Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky. 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