14 Kislev #1- History, Why was the Rebbe engaged for 5 years? The Shadchan's Role

today was you dalid kisliff whiskey the fourth and Dave Kiss Live which is the anniversary of the Le Bobby and his Robinsons uyan their wedding anniversary how many years ago what's your Booker's name what's the boy's name got real do you know how many years ago the rabbit got married 1928. now figure it out how many years 94. 94 years ago on this day in Warsaw Poland in varsha did ever married I want to tell you a little bit the history a little bit the history and not just the history as it's written in books but I'm going to say if I may say so I was there so you can ask a question I don't look that old how can I say I was there so I'll answer like my great uncle would tell me when he would say the same thing about Cinema I was there my great uncle was at a mental foot of us and he would say I so see them at the time outside and then he would ask but I didn't hear and see that samach sadik or the actual Sid them but at times when he didn't see a circle hasid and he still would say I saw he said I saw Sid them who soaked them of the samba standing so in 2017 I believe no in 2019 the barrel Lazar made a wedding my cover at moisture Valencia from Portland Maine good friend of mine childhood friend invited me to go and it was a once in a lifetime trip you go when you go to Rabbi lazar's weddings uh besides the airline ticket he treats you sponsors everything puts you up a hotel feeds you for seven days it's and and takes you on trips to a Babbage it's it's a it's a one-man show that's uh really beautiful butter Hashem so I you know before I went to Russia to Moscow for the wedding I went to Poland I went to Poland because my mother Shalom and my grand grandmother and that side of the family are polisher from Poland from Versailles also from varsha so it was a very very personal trip that part of the trip and it was very very deep very deep in general baklal in general when you when you ex when you want to experience something and internalize it you need to change your your way of thinking in other words you could live in Brooklyn or in Florida here there and when you go to a place which is like they decimated 80 90 percent of varsha was bombarded to the ground everything is new there's so little left over from from before the war and I found some things but very few very little nevertheless I had to like reprogram my head when I went in there in two ways and one way not to be become depressed because it's as soon as you start thinking uh my grandfather well I'm named after was murdered shot by the Nazis and millions of others you can just you know if if you're if you're if you're a human being and we are human beings and you have any feelings you'll melt you'll collapse you'll all you run away like when I was once in Spain I went to to to to to see some of the old Jewish places and there were churches all over large churches monasteries I just couldn't take it I just ran out of there as fast as I guess especially went to see and I I just you know growing up a certain way it just rubbed me the wrong way and I and knowing that Jewish blood was spilled all over Spanish Inquisition time right there in Spain you're standing on the night remember I don't outside and I said Hashem I'm davening blood I'm standing on the earth here so it's it's a it's a very emotional experience so how do you deal with it how do you deal when you're confronted with with pain with because our ancestors our parents grandparents friends of family that's who we are you know we try sometimes to to hide that to avoid it and even to rebel against it I'm not going to go into this whole thing that happened in 2001 in Crown Heights with the Call of the Schaefers the cots I have a lot to say about that I was involved you know a certain way and so you know talking against your parents sitting with your feet cross trap this morning in in a mansion in New Jersey and bad-mouthing appearances at that time people thought Laboratories must be in Russia thought that this is the way it's going to solve the crisis of Mental Health talk against your father talk it out let 50 people hear what you have against your father I'm not saying I'll tell you what was going on yeah [Laughter] listen listen we got to keep that if I bring it here or else we can get into it you're an older person you know definitely no I mean I'm telling I'm telling you that especially in our generation people have this have issues with their fathers in particular men men men boys and they they they created this self-improvement type of uh program where they're going to allow people to talk it out and get kind of therapy and ice arbit in a workout the issues I don't want to go into it yeah I I'm saying let's let's stick to the topic yeah no no no it's all right you know it's fine so if I bring it you can interrupt that that's all right but I'm just saying so pain pain needs to you need to you need to learn how to deal with pain and it's an ongoing thing how do you deal with pain and we all have pain if we don't have pain we're not human we have to have pain so when I went to to Warsaw and to Spain but there's a lot of pain I've been pain you know Spain was just the Yiddish people Arab people Spanish Inquisition right but Warsaw was personal my family my mother my grandfather my biological grandfather of my mother's father was murdered by the Nazis and I'm named after him how am I going to go in there and I remember my grandparents the survivors you know uh always sang to me I would never step foot the playlist she eaten would always say that I don't know how it's by the Russians but but the the boiler she even would say you'd give me a million dollars I remember hearing this in my house growing up against my million dollar guys that's the accent of the Polish Yiddish if you give me a million dollars I'm not going back into Poland have a Mercedes a German product oh yeah outrageous you you you're it's a slap in the face to God I mean this is what I grew up with okay this is I'm a second generation Survivor you know you can choke you know about all these terms but the fact is that when you grow up in a house the culture of the house the parents impacts you whether you like it or not it makes a big impact on you so when I went to Poland when I went to Poland to Warsaw I had to like shut down because I knew if I didn't shut down especially yeah but we're I have an emotional side strong emotional side that it I just would I wouldn't be able to last so I shut off and I was able to actually have a very good experience the second thing I did there was I visited the places where there ever got married and had a suda and that's how it's relevant to tonight I actually was at the courtyard in which the devil got married I forget now the name of the street then I I studied before I took out Maps I spoke to different people here and there and to try to make sure that this location they say is the location how do you know it's the location and this we have said one thing and and the historians said another thing and we did that type of uh preparation and then we went and went and then from there from the courtyard there was also a difference was it on this Lane this house whatever and then we went to the place where the devil had the soda the meal the meal of the wedding the your dollar Kiss Live wasn't at the place of the Hupa the Hupa was in the Yeshiva the Yeshiva the time yes why did they ever go there where was he living where was the free declarable living at the time 1929. sacrifice in worse I moved out towards in 1935 I'm sorry right so where was the freedom cannabis living where was he living Philipp was living in rigas they right he had to leave Russia he left Russia because of Stalin and yamashimum and all the issues his life was spared so why is he making a wedding in Warsaw did you ever ask you think about that why is he making a wedding in Warsaw for his daughter if he's living in number two when did his older son-in-law that rashadness you bought the book on the Rashad where did he get married you know stuff because in 1915 and Rashad got married in 1921 so he was living in a stove passed away in 1923 Kevin came in ever and he and and he made the wedding there and the devil's wedding was weird hello that it was wedding isn't Warsaw so the answer to that question at least one of the answers is that the Frida kreba you know at the time that a shock that married the poverty was tremendous his health was very bad I think I've almost died from typhus in 1921 that same year 2021 so and then came the incarceration of 27 so he was Spirit his life was spared so he had a chance to kind of breathe and come out of all the sonus relatively speaking and he wanted to make a wedding that's the shame well it's a fetus that's beautiful we're not born and rabbis and Sadiq Brothers will come where at the time was the seat of the Jewish the Yiddish community and yiddentum where was the where was the beauty of jewishness in Europe at the time it wasn't in Russia it was in Poland and in Poland it was worse or fashion varsha was a metropolitan varsha was a happening city varsha was in Europe the like uh you know the Cosmopolitan City and the rabbit felt that by making it a war so it will attract people I don't know how we compare it here if you made it downtown Miami compared to a Visa here you know what I'm saying some place that's more popular and larger and then more going down and flashier you know what I'm saying that ever wanted it to be a beautiful Hasina where not just a few rabbis will come and a few people but everyone will come and he was right so he traveled from Riga to varsha to Poland to Warsaw and he made the wedding there that became now when did they never become a hustle anyone know what year did that become accustomed how many in 1923 and he got married in 1928 five years however you bought the book wrappers advice you'll see that advises hosting and colors to make their their marriage as soon as possible that ever didn't believe in long engagements just look into the egress Kinder so you'll see that okay for whatever reason you know whatever I'm here the Babbage should have such a Sonic such a person to flee the kid habit I believe his father A Five-Year Engagement well there was of course the situation on the ground and the situation ground was that stone was shutting down everything so it was impossible to have a normal wedding very difficult so until 1927 there was nothing to talk about and then his life was speared so tackle it the following year till till things worked itself out that's when he got married in 1928. it was not like some scoffers want to say oh look at this he had a five-year he was really partying for five years could you imagine he's schleping this out now that's the way it looks on the outside but it's not the facts on the ground the facts are ground is you got to Stone your maximum you have everything going on that you couldn't you couldn't move you had to stay put you know you or those that were under in the underground it was just not a situation which lent itself to to normalcy and to to having a proper a proper wedding so that's why that's why I took five that's why it took uh five years who was the rebels was you know this family outhouse he knew both did I believe it did I believe it did I believe his father and the freedom heard from son of his I guess so yeah or cousin outtakes who lived in Melbourne Australia but I married there I got to meet him was a special Jew and he told me that that their family had a cashier and a connection both to the river and to Debra's father so he was a good broker and he came they say you know I still haven't found proof and I don't think we'll ever find proof but said that they'd like the son of the blaviction to be the cousin for their daughter the middle daughter and uh and um go there and see what you can accomplish now to understand this you need to know who the blavik and his wife were who definitely camp and his wife were even though they were both cousins they were schneersons right in the snares of family one of my books that I wrote just recently snass and family there's all kinds of schnarisons just like there's all kinds of course there's all kinds we could be brothers and sisters of family but to the all kinds there were snaresons in general s had two traits what do you think the new traits are brilliant very bright what else no what opposite no no no what do you say no stubborn who said that correct that's it what's your name skirt yes stubborn it's exactly right okay all Russians but the smashes really and that ever himself that I've been himself alluded to this in 1975 at a fabrangin in between the secrets I want to remind you I'm sure you saw the clip it's a very important clip Professor Rosenblum of Columbia mathematics genius comes over to the devil during the interval the break at the fabranging and he says I received the writings of your brother the rabbit sent writings that about you leave he had a brother schneerson who was a genius too and he was uh mathematics and physics and he wrote certain things he didn't know he didn't it came from America's that evidence he knew it came from the rapper but that's all he knew he didn't know it's the rabbit's Brothers take a look at the video it's so interesting and that ever asks him what do you think about those writings is this any Innovation there and is it worth publishing I'm not I'm not I'm paraphrasing it's not exact wordy but and he says I think this is worth publishing you know the he didn't have references and books because he didn't have but there's some things there you know and and you see he's like and then the devil says it's my brothers you see see it on the videos like oh wow I would you know she would never say it's not one published he didn't say it's not worth publishing but you don't have to put the bad guy you know what I'm saying maybe it's not that great then maybe we have to fill in a little bit you know that's one very interesting thing then ever says to him this is so so important that episode my brother again I don't remember the exact wording the exact word is relevant but I don't remember it now but the devil says pretty much my brother was like a self-thinker an independent thinker and he wrote what he came his conclusions and only afterwards did he go and check and look if you know is there a book that says it already and someone before when he said said his own innovation and and the and and what you what I picked up one of the things is that that this this kind of holy stubbornness is is part of it's a family trait and and let's just for a moment think about all the different things that ever did throughout his lifetime it took a lot of stubbornness you can't imagine you could imagine because you know that there was opposition in many things and that ever didn't give up and he said write it go right there go further so it took a a holy stubbornness to make Lubavitch the way Liberty is today but nevertheless in the family you have all kinds so foreign to go to yakrina's love and to go to meet the the blavik and his wife and all that you know he wants to check out a situation he knows the blavik that's fine but he needs to know about the kids he needs to know about the wife he wants to know what kind of family he is right after that yes after that it was only after that and the reason they say that she went to the Frida Club after that is because she said okay I you know we're we're for the idea but uh we want some not in those days he gave nod and dowry today you don't give down but not not by us by the way the other communities in the Hungarian the Polish communities and the literature communities you give Dowry you give big money you know that well if I would just get away with it I know a few of the barbecers who demand the Valerie and they got it because wanted the father-in-law wanted this particular 770 but her and he knew that the guy had lots of money so he said you got to pay for it and if not I'm not coming to the Hoopa yeah and he and he got it what'd you say you're sure who's your friend oh my gosh you said it I didn't I don't know who you are I don't remember anyway s oh someone spelter okay anyway I can't imagine he paid a lot what does she have he has a lot of money he was murdered yeah as much as I could okay anyway big kisser I don't know what you're getting into but let's go on let's just move on so the point is that was sent there to find out what what's going on so that you know after that came and she defeated was another man I didn't have any money it was poverty so they see them say again I don't have a verification but it could be that you said you know kind of he my son-in-law this my son this son of mine out of the three he's a very special one and and you know he should become you know down the road like the next step I don't know if she said you know with the exact version but that that's what I see them say cat's eye could be but regardless regardless during that time if you look into the book early days early years and they say mama found some you look into the safer for example did you know that the rebel went to a sort of a university in 1927 Atlanta grad we never knew that and they found they found documents and in 27 before he went to University of Berlin he got a certain I think the degree mate Inland grad that was a kiddish I mean that's something that we didn't know so and and another thing just for a moment and then we'll sing a Negan and continue what is this you know if you're if you're a schneerson and you're from and you're from you know you're what's going this college where does college come you know you have to ask it's a question that everyone asked and by the way the freedom of old had a difficulty with this I don't I don't want to say names but I know the names everyone knows those that know you know but what's the point is it's a question and the freedom can have himself answer the question and that's why those that used to say that the free Capital was against them going to college I disagree with them who am I goodness I'm just telling you why why because he writes in the secret that he's proud that one of his son-in-laws is an ethical a grants a great grandson who excels in the sciences and proves the title from science as well foreign to a university he's talking about learning studying take a book of study science about left from Atlanta University no no learn their Sciences where did they learn that that's not what that but that's that's not what it says I I there's mixture there's mixture of the of male or female I don't want to go into it now oh that's nothing I didn't ever write I didn't ever write an eager status you want to see eight letters again it's not shy to someone like the River or the rambam or the ramban it's not shy what's not shy it's not shy a child that a university has men and women together what do you mean it's not shy these issues are not shy of today okay they're not okay okay gives out dollars to women yeah he said he can come okay a final it's not the same thing okay I don't want to go with you let's go that's on his perspective on what happens doing okay let's not let's not argue this point now but what should we argue about no no you're right you're right you're right it's about a Target but these things there are things I agree with you anyway let's think I'm digging [Music] la la la la la la la la la la