13 Principles of Faith: Be Happy, Always! - Rebbetzin Raquel Kirszenbaum

[Music] you know there is a meter another rather you always have to be happy you ever hear people singing me try Adele I let him right there's a famous rap I called the Vilna gone one time they asked him what's the most difficult meet volume the Torah so most people say respecting your parents okay some people say : your hair being Tanoa eating kosher I don't know you know what the Vilna Gaon said you know what's the hardest me trying the Torah being happy the eight days of to coat no Sukkot is coming in a month and a half you have a mitzvah to be happy he said it is the hardest Mitzvah in the Torah by the way just as an extra you don't only have a mitzvah to be happy on Sukkot you have a meter to be happy always you know if you listen to episode what does episode says I'll write this for you it says Mitzvah get hola leave here missing ha Tommy right it is a very big Mitzvah to be happy always this is the key word what does always means what is always guys always by already every turn about what this means always means even when someone is sick you know when someone does this include even when someone dies Wow always you have to be happy always and then when your boyfriend dumps you in the middle of you know your marriage cannot be I mean I don't know any of the names but hopefully this will not happen there's a reduction this will not happen don't worry it happens you give me his number I will hunt him down and kill him he will regret the day he did this he understand I'm like very good at tackling people okay I feel like all of you too must be scared of me right now cuz in half of my classes I let people know how I am good fighting okay I was just listening to one of my classes yesterday was so funny oh my god I was like yeah this is where I wake up in the morning and such a happy mood because it says you should wake up like a lion do a service of God and everything I'm like I brought my husband I'm saying this out loud now - okay moving on I'm very funny where I can I say okay so the blinders right you have to be happy always I really stopped and I said God sorry this is impossible by the way when you don't really understand this you have to be happy at the same time as bad minami judo it shouldn't happen to us but like at the same time you're sitting Shiva for someone you love you understand coz always includes every single second of your life now by the way how can I be happy and sit Cheeta at the same time when when I'm sitting Shiva Batman I'm sure hung up and I'm supposed to be sad that I love someone right you're obligated to cry you're obligated tomorrow aren't you able to get into all of these things so I go you want me to mourn and be happy at the same time this is why it is so hard to be religious you understand like how do you keep up with all of the contradictions it doesn't make sense so then first of all I'm not gonna teach you a whole class I'm happiness because I don't have time but first of all let me give you a real definition for happiness people think being happy is like a hacky Kiki no happiness simcha in Hebrew we means a state of contentment it means a state of acceptance you know it is when your it is a state of mind in which I reach contentment and acceptance right by the way let me just show this to you which I would need a lot of time in order to teach this well but let me just show this to you how do you write think I'm Hebrew like this the root of the word Xinhai is making to erase huge you know when you're gonna be happy you erase yourself you accept Gordon no ego that's that's what I'm gonna be happy no ego whatsoever god this is when you want right by the way can I mourn for someone and at the same time accept that this is God's will yes you know by the way very few people do this but in doable I could be going through the hardest thing in life and still accept that this is from work so I really started thinking about what is this mentor saying because this is you have to be happy always so I've stopped for a moment and I realize in order to be happy always my happiness can never come from anything that is not always you know which is the mistake we all do we all allow our happiness to be developed by whatever it is outside to be generated I'm gonna do this and it's gonna be happy but you know what happens all of that changes all of that is non-constant all of that is temporal you understand that Torres says that if you love someone because of something when that something goes the love goes it's a famous quote from bill Cabot but now that happens with ourselves we love ourselves our happiness depends on something so what's gonna happen when that something is gone I'm not gonna be happy I'm not gonna love myself by the way this is things I could control and things I cannot control some people like themselves when they have money you can't control this you could work over your life and then one day someone comes and steals from you some people only gonna love themselves when they look good okay one day you're gonna get pregnant and you know what's gonna happen you're gonna gain weight and that's life not everyone looks like cute and like tiny and narrow and has a cute belly some people gain 50 kilos I've actually met people that gave 50 kilos I mean they were probably eating everything because people just thing cause if you're pregnant you could just eat you don't know that you do this now boy some people they're jumping they could do it but some people really get it together some people really do eat everything I'm thinking one kilo like the placenta that's it then you're like why slight fair but okay but what is your point whenever is coming from outside from something that is not always in order to be happy and then I realized the key word is always in order for you to be happy always you your happiness has to come from something that always by definition according to principle number one what is the only always thing God that's the only absolute that's the only thing that always is never changes what is one it is always the same when your happiness comes from Daraa you'll always be happy you know what it means to allow your happiness to come from God it is erasing your ego and understanding that God knows God does and you don't need to really get it you know you think you need to get it you don't need to really get it you know when you're doing your job are you worrying to see if your manager or your CEO is doing his job no someone else is worrying about that you know like you're just wanting to see if you're doing your job cause you're CEO it's gonna kick you out of you you're not doing your job which I don't even know what a CEO is anyways but I think he's the big guy okay this is what I planted right but God is that what is higher than the CEO he'll the production company the production is the one that wins the Oscar for best movie so I'm guessing that's the most important okay but like you don't have to worry about why god is ooh my god you do your job he does his job the understand the more you get this here like fine you know there was once a guy that was like in a cruise ship whatever you want to call it and I finish with this story soon but like so he was on the bottom floor let's say he was you know Jack Dawson in Titanic okay so there was rose she went to a bathroom and the bathroom wasn't working so why did she lose she took her bathroom stopped and she threw it I'll tie her window was number two okay so he pounced on top of Jackson now imagine this right could this happen this could happen okay so Jack suddenly feel something vital you know and like a bird poops on you it is so special okay it's good good man good man okay so the whole thing thoughts on top of him right and the guy is smelling so bad but he's suddenly so happy he goes to his wife which he didn't had in the movie so let's just forget about Jack right and he tells her I am so happy so she says you smell like poop why are you so happy so he says that's exactly why I'm happy poop fell on me and you know what I felt listen to his said I felt nothing not nothing meaning I wasn't disgusted by pop of course he was disgusted but you know what you would be angry who threw at me like what are you think no you didn't fail honey didn't find anything cuz if God wants poop to follow me it's gonna happen do you understand this you could still be like oh it smells like whatever but at the end of the day this is the will of God you get angry you get painful you suffer because there's so much of you in the middle but if you would get rid of all of that right again I don't do this all of that time but I'm saying this is that what we should do you would get rid of all that you would just be in a constant state of happiness because happiness is accept acceptance and contentment there's core this is what he wants that's it you understand but again it's not just there's God and this is what he wants it is there's God this is what he wanted I told you a whole entire class about what he wants is just light and therefore poop falling on my hair must be really good you know how do you know that maybe you're not gonna just meet so money it's gonna be oh my god you smell like poop hello you why don't I give autographs okay that's stupid but I'm just saying you know like how do you know my weight has this ever happened to you so many times you have like something that was so wrong and out of that came something that was so nice yes the more I erased myself the more I accept this the more that I see Gort existence here and what does got it again what does got existence me it doesn't just mean oh I know there's a goal no no no no he's one principle number principle number one he's completely in control principle number two he's one it is not only he's completely in control everything is godly everything comes from me everything is the same when you understand finally everything is the same now your life is just gonna be a happy life you understand great any questions ill now put the principle number three on Sunday no question okay have a great day you