10 Really Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make Video 1 by Rabby Shafier

[Music] sometimes soon after a marriage many couples find themselves in an interesting place either he or she sometimes both wake up one morning and say the words oh my goodness I made the biggest mistake in my life I married the wrong one and it's true that they made a mistake but likely not that they married the wrong one you see the mistake that they made is they mistook infatuation for love infatuation is a state of excitement a sense of wow a certain sense of exuberance and Euphoria and many people misunderstand what that is Hashem created a state so that a should look at a kala kala should look at a and they should be enamored one with the other to begin the process of marriage but it's kind of like the sulfur on a kitchen match it's supposed to ignite the flame quickly but then eventually the wood is supposed to catch on when a couple is in that state of infatuation there are very real changes in their brain chemistry science tell us now that the dopamine levels of Serotonin the adrenaline levels are changed in fact the neurotransmitters are changed equivalent to cocaine use the couple are high and in that state they don't see each other's flaws the future is bright sunny and cheery and they walk down that aisle and that state of infatuation is Magic but it's magic that was created to last a very short time it was created to last to begin the process it was created to allow them to begin but then they have to start the difficult process of building a real Bond of love building a real attachment one to the other and that's the first really dumb mistake that many very smart couples make they mistake infatuation for true love when it disappears when the magic ends they wake up and say oh my goodness I married the wrong one they didn't marry the wrong one they forgot that the magic is supposed to end you have just seen an excerpt from the marriage seminar the entire seminar is available free of charge at the.com [Music]