The Need for Verbal Expression | Know Your Children (13)

What if your child knows you love them… but rarely hears it? In this week’s Know Your Children, Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David draw a sharp line between ahavah nisteret (love that exists but stays hidden) and ahavah gluyah (love that’s felt because it’s expressed). Most of parenting is “industrial”—laundry, food, homework, logistics—and yes, it often comes from love. But when love isn’t spoken, kids can grow up emotionally unsure, even inside a home that’s doing “everything right.” Using a mashal from marriage (“I provide everything. Shouldn’t that be enough?”), we explore why provision isn’t the same as connection, why waiting until a child is in crisis is too late, and how small, consistent habits—especially verbal expression and short, regular conversations—can change the emotional climate of a home.' This isn’t about guilt. It’s about learning to say what’s already true so your child can actually receive it. ---------- For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t CHAPTERS 00:00 Opening and Sponsor Acknowledgements 01:07 Shiur Overview: Imperfect Love 05:28 Identifying Two Problems in Parental Love 06:54 Guilt as a Trigger 08:09 Patience and Compassion for Ourselves 10:09 Emotional Layer Small in Daily Life 13:12 Measuring Basic Needs 21:26 Hidden vs. Revealed Love Question 23:56 Hidden love in daily parenting gestures 25:17 Rental car story and parental love realization 29:08 Love often known to parents but not felt by kids 30:27 Wife's expectations beyond financial provision 31:33 Constant verbal communication vital in relationships 34:56 Examining parent-child emotional connection 42:34 Preemptive emotional conversations with children 46:53 Love must be revealed, not hidden, with kids 49:21 Metallica Covers and Unexpected Lullabies