The Perfect Time To Unite - JEWISH INTIMACY (15)

The Iggeret HaKodesh by the Holy Ramban begins a new chapter to clarify and uncover the great mystery about the perfect time for the husband and wife to unite and elevate worlds. “Iggeret HaKodesh” The Holy Letter of the Ramban: https://amzn.to/429g1tc As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. #intimacy #Jewish #RabbiYaronReuven #torah 0:00:00 Introduction 0:04:12 Intimacy between a husband and wife, when done correctly, can elevate one's spiritual connection with G-d to the highest level [Ramban] (recap) 0:06:34 Ketubah Contract: Husband's Obligations (Food, Clothing, Marital Relations) 0:07:53 Holy souls of all future converts come from Avraham and Sarah 0:08:34 Holy converts: circumcision, Mikveh—New Soul—physical changes 0:11:49 The Time of Union: The Perfect Time of Intimacy [Ramban] 0:13:35 Vidui of Yom Kippur (immorality crimes) 0:15:29 Honoring Parents [Sota 49b] 0:16:28 Requirements of an Eshet Chayil 0:17:17 Honoring Parents [Yalkut Yosef (Jews and Gentiles)] 0:18:18 Honoring Parents: Greatest way—Torah (Rebuke) 0:19:12 A person should not think immoral thoughts by day and come thereby to tumah by night [Avodah Zarah 20b] 0:20:31 Why wasting seed is called the worst sin in Judaism 0:22:07 Vidui HaGadol on wasted seed—mazikim 0:22:39 Why wasting seed is called the worst sin in Judaism—mazikim 0:23:05 Women also forbidden to masturbate—also must protect their eyes [Igros Moshe: Even Haezer 1:69] 0:24:53 Vidui HaGadol of Yom Kippur: Sexual sins 0:25:54 Sexual immorality in the religious community 0:27:31 Schools not teaching Foundations of Judaism 0:28:21 Importance of Kavanah in prayer (Vidui HaGadol; Foundation) 0:29:27 Mitzvah of Onah [Ramban on Ex. 21 v.10 (Food, Clothing, Marital Relations)] 0:30:30 Times of union varies by the situation of each man and his profession [Kesubos 61b-62] 0:31:10 Women's entitlement in the mitzvah of Onah [Ex. 21:9] 0:31:53 Mitzvah of Onah [Ramban on Ex. 21 v.10 (Food, Clothing, Marital Relations)] 0:32:25 Levels (Basics: Not Niddah) 0:34:56 Kesubos 61b: Reasons of divorce (Permissible, Obligation, Ideal) 0:37:07 Without wife's permission: Torah Scholars (30 days), laborers (one week) 0:38:11 Conjugal Rights stated in Torah defined as follows [Kesubos 61b] 0:38:39 Tayalin must be intimate with their wives every day (Not Niddah) 0:38:52 A Jewish woman needs to go to Mikveh one more time if she no longer menstruates and never went before (or since last ever period) 0:39:13 Family Purity is the foundation to Judaism (grounds for immediate divorce) 0:41:18 Tayalin defined 0:42:19 Laborers (twice a week) 0:43:08 Donkey driver: truck driver (once a week) 0:46:31 Camel drivers: people that travel a lot (once in 30 days) 0:48:40 Sailors (once in 6 months) 0:49:34 Story: Or Hachaim's job—untouched by lions 0:55:02 Torah prohibits depriving intimacy to wife [Ex. 21 v.10] 0:55:40 Cannot change profession that limits wife's conjugal rights unless she agrees or get is given 1:01:37 Conjugal rights based on personal strength and occupation [Rambam, Hilchot Ishut ch.14] 1:02:28 Marital intimacy is not for the husband's sake, but rather for his wife's—Onah ("conjugal rights/respond") 1:03:05 Marital intimacy a dimension of oneg Shabbat ("Sabbath delight") [Rambam, Hilchot Shabbat 30 14] 1:03:27 Torah Scholars (once a week)—Friday night [Rambam, Hilchot Shabbat 30 14 cf. Kesubos 62b] 1:05:32 Wife's right to prevent: business trips, change of career—Profession determines intimacy time with spouse 1:06:35 Permissibility of multiple wives 1:08:59 Vows [Rambam, Hilchot Ishut ch.14] 1:12:55 Communication is key to a marriage 1:14:06 Prohibition of public displays of affection (i.e. Kiss on cheek, holding hands) 1:16:39 Story of prohibition of public displays of affection [Bava Batra 58a] 1:22:16 Beauty of Torah figures [Bava Batra 58a] 1:23:51 Story of a Zonah and determining father's real only son [Bava Batra 58a] 1:28:59 Safek Mamzer: son who hits parents [Rav Zilberstein] 1:30:00 R. Bana'ah's wife devised a stratagem to effect her husband's release [Bava Batra 58a] 1:33:25 Wicked at creation—why so much evil today 1:35:28 How a person elevates themselves—Friday Night (season) [Ramban to Tehillim 1:3] 1:37:57 Sanctify to be intimate on Shabbat (Torah Scholars) [Zohar Hakadosh] 1:39:35 Mikvah Night and before travel obligation 1:40:39 Why marital intimacy on Shabbat (and Yom Tov)? 1:44:11 Awe of Mother and Father and Observe Shabbat 1:49:17 Torah Scholars who make themselves sarisim except Friday nights [Zohar Hakadosh to Isaiah 56:4] 1:51:50 Hint of Heavenly Yichud [Chidah, Chomat Anach] 1:53:44 Speak with modesty [Maharam Shif; Rav Chisda] 1:56:28 Conclusion 1:59:59 Story of Rav Ezra Attiya's Prayer and an Open Miracle 2:06:30 Tikkun Shovavim; BeEzrat HaShem Inc. End of the Year 2022 (5782-5783) #judaism #jewish #jewishintimacy #intimacy #marriage #Torah #KIRUV #jewishmarriage #rabbiyaronreuven